Hold my Drink

J.D. Richmond

Navigating culture with a chaser of civility. Join us as we explore the truths of a chaotic and beautiful world, together. All views, all drinks are welcome.

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In the Hold my Drink — navigating culture with a chaser of civility, and Counterweight podcast, Episode 58, we speak with Laura Becker on her journey through transition and de-transition. On this path she not only found radical self acceptance, but also came to realize that the chaos of both our post-modernist and online culture is exacerbating a mental health exigency among our youth. At this crossroads we have seen a rise in identity crisis that distances us from each other and from our own authenticity. All discussed with a chaser of civility, of course, and a Stella Artois, scotch, and spiked watermelon seltzer. To read a recap of the conversation, additional thoughts, and to see what each of us is reading, visit our post Transition & De-Transition on the Hold my Drink website. You can also watch the conversation on the Hold my Drink YouTube page.

Dec 2

1 hr 1 min

In the Hold my Drink — navigating culture with a chaser of civility, and Counterweight podcast, Episode 57, we speak with Greg Thomas, CEO of the Jazz Leadership Project and an Omni-American. Greg explains how using the principles of Jazz - individual excellence, antagonistic cooperation, and shared leadership - all lead to an ensemble mindset, a mindset that created a Jazz movement, which became a symbol of American freedom. He explains how we can apply those same principles to our lives today and free ourselves from the bigotry and division that has us playing out of tune. To read a recap of the conversation, additional thoughts, and to see what each of us is reading, visit our post An Omni-American Ensemble on the Hold my Drink website. You can also watch the conversation on the Hold my Drink YouTube page.

Nov 25

1 hr 6 min

In the Hold my Drink — navigating culture with a chaser of civility, and Counterweight podcast, Episode 56, we speak to Dr. Sheena Mason, the Founder of the Theory of Racelessness. By continuing to label people and stuff them into different racial categories or boxes, Sheena argues that we are perpetuating racism. While there may be different cultures and ethnicities, race doesn’t exist. Until we recognize that conflating ethnicity and culture with race is a false equivalence, we will forever be in a cycle of race(ism). She suggests that the way out of this is to imagine a new identity that accepts all our differences, our complexities, our history – that we see each other as Americans. All discussed with a chaser of civility, of course, and a peanut butter cup whiskey coffee. To read a recap of the conversation and additional thoughts, and to see what each of us is reading, visit our post Theory of Racelessness on the Hold my Drink website. You can also watch the conversation on the Hold my Drink YouTube page.

Nov 18

55 min 57 sec

In the Hold my Drink — navigating culture with a chaser of civility, and Counterweight podcast, Episode 55, we speak with Jessie Mannisto, the Editor of Third Factor Magazine. Jessie’s passion is exploring Dabrowski’s Theory of Positive Disintegration. TPD sees psychological tension or disintegration as necessary for growth, the development of courage, and ultimately, to realizing our fullest potential. Becoming positively maladjusted can be painful but the resulting authenticity and agency, so desperately needed in our world, are important not only for us individually but also as a community. All discussed with a chaser of civility, of course, and just another pinot noir. To read a recap of the conversation and additional thoughts, and to see what each of us is reading, visit our post Positive Disintegration on the Hold my Drink website. You can also watch the conversation on the Hold my Drink YouTube page.

Nov 11

50 min 39 sec

In the Hold my Drink — navigating culture with a chaser of civility, and Counterweight podcast, Episode 54, we speak with Dustin Clark & Jeremy Story, two fathers arrested for disrupting a school board meeting in Round Rock, Texas. Headlines made them out as anti-mask mandate marauders and the face of “domestic terrorism”, but the truth is stranger than this fiction. Their stories unmask the internal machinations of a school board that was unprepared for public and parent scrutiny after COVID forced school and school board transparency, which led to a revival of civic engagement and participation. All discussed with a chaser of civility, of course, and a round of water. To read a recap of the conversation and additional thoughts, and for podcast resources, visit our post Unmasking "Domestic Terrorism" on the Hold my Drink website. You can also watch the conversation on the Hold my Drink YouTube page.

Nov 4

57 min 6 sec

In the first episode of season two of Hold my Drink — navigating culture with a chaser of civility, and Counterweight podcast, Episode 53, we speak with Andrew Gutmann & Paul Rossi on the Long March of Marxism and its application through Critical Theory in our institutions, with its many permutations. Andrew & Paul have been on the battlefront of a social revolution that has trickled down from theory to practice, from university to elementary school, which threatens to erupt into an all-out culture war. All discussed with a chaser of civility, of course, and a hard kombucha. To read a recap of the conversation and additional thoughts, and for podcast resources, visit our post Marxism 4.0 on the Hold my Drink website. You can also watch the conversation on the Hold my Drink YouTube page.

Oct 28

1 hr 5 min

In the final episode of Season One of Hold my Drink — navigating culture with a chaser of civility, and Counterweight podcast, Episode 52, we speak with Zander Keig and Debbie Hayton. Zander (FTM) and Debbie (MTF) share with us their different experiences with transition, the socialization of different genders, their thoughts on the current debate on puberty blockers, questions on gender dysphoria, autogynephilia and their fierce commitment to living their authentic lives. All with a chaser of civility, of course, and a lot of coffee. To read a recap of the conversation and additional thoughts, and for podcast resources, visit our post Rebels & Counterculture in the Trans Community on the Hold my Drink website. You can also watch the conversation on the Hold my Drink YouTube page.

Oct 21

1 hr 7 min

In the Hold my Drink — navigating culture with a chaser of civility, and Counterweight podcast, Episode 51, we speak with Jason Miller, host of Native Liberty. Jason hails from the Hopi and Miwok tribes and has spent much of his professional career working within tribal communities. We discuss his issues with tribal injustices and his adherence to classical liberal values to realize a Native Liberty that benefits both tribal communities and civilization in general To read a recap of the conversation and additional thoughts, and for podcast resources, visit our post Native Liberty & the Nirvana Fallacy on the Hold my Drink website. You can also watch the conversation on the Hold my Drink YouTube page.

Oct 14

59 min 37 sec

In the Hold my Drink — navigating culture with a chaser of civility, and Counterweight podcast, Episode 50, we speak with Steven Welliever a former STEM teacher, now construction worker, who has dedicated his time to revealing the problems with critical theory in K-12 education. Steve shares with us tips and insights that help parents reveal hidden ideological agendas, become their own educational investigators, and combat critical theory and Marxist indoctrination in the classroom. All discussed with a chaser of civility, of course, and a homemade ginger beer and a Bloody Mary. To read a recap of the conversation and additional thoughts, and for podcast resources, visit our post Combatting Critical Theory in the Classroom on the Hold my Drink website. You can also watch the conversation on the Hold my Drink YouTube page.

Oct 7

59 min 6 sec

In the Hold my Drink — navigating culture with a chaser of civility, and Counterweight podcast, Episode 49, we speak with Naama Kates, host of the Incel Podcast. Naama gives insight into the counter-cultural movement of incels and black pill ideology, unveiling both uncomfortable truths and dispelling shadowy myths. We also explore the current social justice narrative of oppressor and oppressed and the mismatch this creates for incels. All discussed with a chaser of civility, of course, a mango smoothie and a shot of bourbon. To read a recap of the conversation and additional thoughts, and to see what we are each reading, visit our post Understanding Black Pill Ideology on the Hold my Drink website. You can also watch the conversation on the Hold my Drink YouTube page.

Sep 30

46 min 28 sec

In the Hold my Drink — navigating culture with a chaser of civility, and Counterweight podcast, Episode 48, we speak with Aaron Sibarium. Aaron first addressed our country’s growing polarization while covering issues such as “Halloweengate” at Yale. He now carries on what he started as a journalist for the Washington Free Beacon exposing the inner machinations of ideologues in our institutions. He shares with us his investigations on both private school and law school accreditation practices and proposals that jeopardize the free market of ideas, not to mention the rule of law, and the latest ideological policy agenda of the CDC. All discussed with a chaser of civility, of course, and a shot of Fireball whiskey and memories of cold sake. To read a recap of the conversation and additional thoughts, and to see what we are each reading, visit our post Polarization & Accreditation on the Hold my Drink website. You can also watch the conversation on the Hold my Drink YouTube page.

Sep 23

56 min 15 sec

In the Hold my Drink — navigating culture with a chaser of civility, and Counterweight podcast, Episode 47, we speak with Bonnie Snyder, Director of High School Programs for the Foundation of Individual Rights in Education (FIRE) and author of the newly released book, Undoctrinate. Bonnie shares with us stories of ideological indoctrination that has become mainstream in K-12 education, and her efforts at FIRE and through her research to provide alternative solutions, bringing back robust discourse and constructive disagreement into the classroom. All discussed with a chaser of civility, of course, and a Shotgun spiked sparkling water. To read a recap of the conversation and additional thoughts, and to see what we are each reading, visit our post Undoctrinating the Classroom on the Hold my Drink website. You can also watch the conversation on the Hold my Drink YouTube page.

Sep 16

54 min 1 sec

In the Hold my Drink — navigating culture with a chaser of civility, and Counterweight podcast, Episode 46, we speak with the Jon O’Brien, the first civil rights attorney to take on Critical Race Theory in the classroom. He outlines both the logistical and financial challenges of his groundbreaking lawsuit with Gabrielle Clark, as well as his first-hand impressions of those who are now leading the charge. Those who often come from lower to middle class backgrounds who aren’t concerned with the intellectual debate on the evolution of Critical Social Justice pedagogy, but who are instead fighting its impact in the classrooms in real time. All discussed with a chaser of civility, of course, and a grape Power-Ade, a vodka appletini and a boring ole Pinot Noir. To read a recap of the conversation and additional thoughts, and to see what we are each reading, visit our post CRT In The Trenches on the Hold my Drink website. You can also watch the conversation on the Hold my Drink YouTube page.

Sep 9

34 min 13 sec

In the Hold my Drink — navigating culture with a chaser of civility, and Counterweight podcast, Episode 45, we speak with the King of Star-manning and a Warrior of Compassion, Angel Eduardo. We discuss the problems with colorblindness and how to be color-blah. We share our different views on MLK’s dream, legacy, and the challenges to America in reference to the Dream Coalition letter and discussion. And Angel outlines the blueprint for being a warrior of compassion and his commitment to fighting bad ideas while not making monsters out of our opponents. All discussed with a chaser of civility, of course, and a spicy Ranch Water with jalapeno. To read a recap of the conversation and additional thoughts, and to see what we are each reading, visit our post On Being Color-blah on the Hold my Drink website. You can also watch the conversation on the Hold my Drink YouTube page.

Sep 2

1 hr 14 min

In the Hold my Drink — navigating culture with a chaser of civility, and Counterweight podcast, Episode 44, we speak with social workers Zander Keig & Matthew Watson. Zander and Matt are on a mission to promote viewpoint and political diversity in social work. Social workers advocate for social justice, but a strict definition of social justice and adherence to rigid ideologies often places politics over people. Social workers face a diverse constituency and therefore themselves, must also embrace diversity within their profession to create the greatest social impact. All discussed with a chaser of civility, of course, and a pina colada popsicle, guava nectar, a grapefruit Radler and a spiked root beer float. To read a recap of the conversation and additional thoughts, and to see what we are each reading, visit our post People Over Politics on the Hold my Drink website. You can also watch the conversation on the Hold my Drink YouTube page.

Aug 26

1 hr 3 min

In the Hold my Drink — navigating culture with a chaser of civility, and Counterweight podcast, Episode 43, we speak with Charles Love on his views on conservatism, our culture and his forthcoming book Race Crazy. Charles engages our different ideas around the criminal justice system, the impact of slavery, and the American obsession with race. Are we going race crazy? Join us as we navigate the growing insanity and its resulting divisions. All discussed with a chaser of civility, of course, a scotch on the rocks and a pinot noir. To read a recap of the conversation and additional thoughts, and to see what we are each reading, visit our post Race Crazy on the Hold my Drink website. You can also watch the conversation on the Hold my Drink YouTube page.

Aug 19

1 hr 14 min

In the Hold my Drink — navigating culture with a chaser of civility, and Counterweight podcast, Episode 42, we speak with Professor Lyell Asher on the dysfunction of education schools and their growing influence on higher education. Education schools are infused with ideology, which became apparent in many K-12 virtual classrooms in 2020. This ideology is also seeping into higher education as education school graduates take student-facing roles in various administrative positions. Join us as we discuss the inequities baked into the education school paradigm and solutions to uplift our most disadvantaged children. All discussed with a chaser of civility, of course, a sip of scotch and a michelada. To read a recap of the conversation and additional thoughts, and for podcast resources, visit our post Understanding Ed School Ideology & Dysfunction on the Hold my Drink website. You can also watch the conversation on the Hold my Drink YouTube page.

Aug 12

1 hr 7 min

In the Hold my Drink — navigating culture with a chaser of civility, and Counterweight podcast, Episode 41, we speak with Kenny Xu, author of An Inconvenient Minority. Kenny explains the disadvantages Asian Americans face as new anti-racist paradigms have denigrated meritocracy. The general strategy of accomplishment for many Asian American immigrants has rested almost exclusively on meritocratic principles, and now in some instances, they have become victims of their own success. All discussed with a chaser of civility, of course, and a coffee. To read a recap of the conversation and additional thoughts, and for podcast resources, visit our post An Inconvenient Minority on the Hold my Drink website. You can also watch the conversation on the Hold my Drink YouTube page.

Aug 5

41 min 5 sec

In the Hold my Drink — navigating culture with a chaser of civility, and Counterweight podcast, Episode 40, we speak with Zander Keig and Jason Littlefield who together are working on a new model of Belonging and Diversity training at Empower ED. We discuss the Repressive Tolerance of current Diversity, Equity and Inclusion and Belonging programs, and their alternative program that centers on Human Dignity. Join us as we dig deep into the meaning of Successor Ideology, including Equal Outcomes, Marxist Philosophy, and Identarian Politics to find solutions and heal our divisions in Shared Values, Appreciative Inquiry and Truth and Reconciliation. All discussed with a chaser of civility of course, and a lemon shandy and a vodka creamsicle. To read a recap of the conversation and additional thoughts, and to see what we are each reading, visit our post Belonging & Repressive Tolerance on the Hold my Drink website. You can also watch the conversation on the Hold my Drink YouTube page.

Jul 29

1 hr 15 min

In the Hold my Drink — navigating culture with a chaser of civility, and Counterweight podcast, Episode 39, we speak with David Ben Moshe. David is an American ex-con, heterodox thinker, personal trainer, and Orthodox Jewish convert, fighting for citizenship in Israel. You know he has a few stories to tell! David shares with us his journey through the prison system, his fight with racism, his conversion, and his life in Israel where he is now married with two children. Through it all, he never stopped reading, learning, or believing. He is an advocate for personal responsibility and community connection. He tells us how he navigates between the two through critical thinking, open-minded debate and tradition. All discussed with a chaser of civility, of course, a coffee and a green tea with honey (with promises to spike our drinks with whiskey for our next conversation). To read a recap of the conversation and additional thoughts, and to see what we are each reading, visit our post From Incarceration to Emancipation on the Hold my Drink website. You can also watch the conversation on the Hold my Drink YouTube page.

Jul 22

56 min 23 sec

In the Hold my Drink — navigating culture with a chaser of civility, and Counterweight podcast, Episode 38, we speak with Gabs Clark, a biracial and widowed mother of five children. After recently recovering from a disability that had her in a wheelchair for years, she stayed at home during the pandemic so her children could attend school online. What she discovered shocked her. In addition to the struggle to find a school that taught her daughter how to be a scientist instead of a social justice warrior, she found her pale-skinned son was being forced to identify as an oppressor or fail his civics class. After numerous attempts to negotiate with teachers, she filed a First Amendment lawsuit. Join us as we discuss her story, all with a chaser of civility, of course, and a peach tea, a shot of Southern Comfort, and a mojito. To read a recap of the conversation and additional thoughts, and to see what we are each reading, visit our post Education & Indoctrination on the Hold my Drink website. You can also watch the conversation on the Hold my Drink YouTube page.

Jul 15

49 min 58 sec

In the Hold my Drink — navigating culture with a chaser of civility, and Counterweight podcast, Episode 37, we speak with Erec Smith and Jason Littlefield. Both Erec and Jason are working to introduce empowerment and compassionate humanism back into education. The theory of empowerment, which takes a tiered approach to social and emotional learning starting with the individual, has recently been subsumed in anti-racist pedagogy that focuses on group identity at its foundation. This focus on the group segregates us making it harder to see ourselves in each other. It has also led to a mistrust of liberal values such as individualism, freedom of speech and deliberative democracy, promoting the destruction of current systems to usher in a new framework for social interaction and governance. All discussed with a chaser of civility, of course, and a virgin vodka with lime (aka water), bourbon, Gatorade & coffee. To read a recap of the conversation and additional thoughts, and to see what we are each reading, visit our post Empowerment & Indvidualism on the Hold my Drink website. You can also watch the conversation on the Hold my Drink YouTube page.

Jul 8

1 hr 3 min

In the Hold my Drink — navigating the news and politics with a chaser of civility — and Counterweight podcast, Episode 36, we speak with the President and CEO of the Foundation for Individual Rights in Education (FIRE) and best-selling author, Greg Lukianoff. As things evolve since the publishing of the book, The Coddling of the American Mind in 2018, Greg has been “catching up with coddling” in a series of blog posts, and we catch-up with him here. He tells us that 2020 was the worst year he’s seen in terms of ideological censorship, and one of the busiest years for FIRE. This freedom of speech warrior shares with us his concerns, but also his hopes and aspirations for navigating us through the rhetorical battleground. It took us a long time to get here and it is going to take time to get out, but with FIRE at the helm, there is a light ahead. All discussed with a chaser of civility, of course, and a pink lemonade Spendrift, a Diet Coke and a coffee. To read a recap of the conversation and additional thoughts, and to see what we are each reading, visit our post Catch-up with Coddling on the Hold my Drink website. You can also watch the conversation on the Hold my Drink YouTube page.

Jul 1

54 min 12 sec

In the Hold my Drink — navigating the news and politics with a chaser of civility — and Counterweight podcast, Episode 35, we speak with the Executive Director of the Californians for Equal Rights Foundation, Wenyuan Wu. Wenyuan’s grassroots group was instrumental in voting down Prop 16 in California, which aimed to repeal part of the state constitution to keep discrimination illegal. The Foundation is currently working to expose initiatives in public education that seek to center racial identity and racial essentialism in K-12 curricula. We speak with Wenyuan about education, educational activism in Asian communities, and what it means to be an American. All discussed with La Croix Pamplemousse sparkling water (which as Wenyuan says is a sign of her successful assimilation into American culture!), a MacDonald’s $0.99 Diet Coke and a spiked lemonade. To read a recap of the conversation and additional thoughts, and to see what we are each reading, visit our post American Values: Beyond the Hyphen on the Hold my Drink website. You can also watch the conversation on the Hold my Drink YouTube page.

Jun 24

52 min 43 sec

In the Hold my Drink — navigating the news and politics with a chaser of civility — and Counterweight podcast, Episode 34, we speak with Buck Angel on the difference between transsexual and transgender, generational differences in the trans community, new language and labels, and his own experience and transition. Buck, who is also affectionately called Tranpa, speaks to people on perseverance and overcoming hardship, self-acceptance, and moving beyond stereotypes to live authentic lives. A former model, who later experienced homelessness, addiction and prostitution before transitioning and becoming the first transsexual porn star and now a successful entrepreneur, Buck does not allow what’s in between his legs to define him. All discussed with a chaser of civility, of course (plus some bonus tips on Buck’s work-out routines), and some water and wine. To read a recap of the conversation and additional thoughts, and to learn more about Buck, visit our post Talking with Tranpa on the Hold my Drink website. You can also watch the conversation on the Hold my Drink YouTube page.

Jun 17

1 hr

In the Hold my Drink — navigating the news and politics with a chaser of civility — and Counterweight podcast, Episode 33, we speak with Wilfred Reilly, a Political Science Professor at Kentucky State University and author of the book Taboo. Reilly is a master of assessing and debunking current narratives on race and identity with quantitative and comparative analysis using factual data. In essence, he gives language and insight around many issues that have become taboo in our society, including policing and race in America. In this episode we discuss the taboo, the spread of critical social justice theories and Reilly’s optimism that we can move beyond this moment of cultural revolution with an emphasis on objective reality. All discussed with a chaser of civility of course, and some Kentucky bourbon libations. To read a recap of the conversation and additional thoughts, and to see what we are each reading, visit our post Talking Taboo on the Hold my Drink website. You can also watch the conversation on the Hold my Drink YouTube page.

Jun 10

1 hr 5 min

In the Hold my Drink – navigating the news and politics with a chaser of civility – and Counterweight podcast, Episode 32, we speak with Debbie Hayton, a controversial trans activist who embraces viewpoint diversity within the community. We speak about her transition, definitions of sexuality, gender and the importance of individual experiences. She shares with us her views on biology that have sparked offense within the trans community and the difficulties of navigating monolithic views of a trans identity in a complex world. All discussed with a chaser of civility, of course, and a diet Mountain Dew, a pinot noir and a beer. To read a recap of the conversation and additional thoughts, and to see what we are each reading, visit our post Heterodox Humanity in Trans-Activism on the Hold my Drink website. You can also watch the conversation on the Hold my Drink YouTube page.

Jun 3

54 min 30 sec

In the Hold my Drink — navigating the news and politics with a chaser of civility — and Counterweight podcast, Episode 31, Izabella Tabarovsky, a Russian-Jewish American immigrant, and Asra Nomani, an Indian-Muslim American immigrant join me to talk about the framing of the Israel-Palestine conflict. The new social justice movement has replaced the nuance and complexity of the situation with binary stereotypes of oppressor and oppressed. We discuss how the real-world application of such simplistic dogma has dangerous implications beyond the rise of antisemitism. All discussed with a chaser of civility, of course, and a shot of humanity. To read a recap of the conversation and additional thoughts, and to see what we are each reading, visit our post Antisemitism's New Narrative on the Hold my Drink website. You can also watch the conversation on the Hold my Drink YouTube page.

May 27

56 min 51 sec

In this week's Hold my Drink + Counterweight podcast, we speak with Angel Eduardo, who penned the idea of star-manning. Angel shares with us how he star-mans his conversations and interactions, especially in the divisive world of social media. His motto is to reject, refute and refuse bad faith actors and hostile conversations, but never reciprocate. All discussed with a chaser of civility of course, and a hot tea (in a Superman mug), a watermelon spritzer (now I sound like my mom), and a glass of white wine. To read a recap of the conversation and additional thoughts, and to see what we are each reading, visit our post A Lesson in Star-manning on the Hold my Drink website. You can also watch the conversation on the Hold my Drink YouTube page.

May 20

1 hr

In this week’s Hold my Drink + Counterweight podcast, we speak with Neil Shenvi, writer and author of a forthcoming book on Christian apologetics. Neil explains how the basic foundation of Critical Social Justice is not compatible with Christianity, especially some of the most important principles of unity and kinship under Christ. All discussed with a chaser of civility, of course, and a pinot noir, bourbon and a seltzer water. To read a recap of the conversation and additional thoughts, and to see what we are each reading, visit our post Christianity and Critical Social Justice on the Hold my Drink website. You can also watch the conversation on the Hold my Drink YouTube page.

May 13

51 min 40 sec

In this week’s Hold my Drink + Counterweight podcast, we speak with Izabella Tabarovsky. Izabella is a Russian-Jewish immigrant whose article, The American Soviet Mentality (among many others), was paramount in framing our ideas on the current American experience. The collective demonization and polarization that has captured our country has frightening parallels to Izabella’s experiences behind the “Iron Curtain” in the Soviet Union. Join us as we discuss black American consciousness, viewpoint diversity, and collective mentalities. All discussed with a chaser of civility, of course, and an herbal tea, bourbon, mimosa and watermelon vodka. To read a recap of the conversation and additional thoughts, and to see what we are each reading, visit our post The American Soviet Mentality on the Hold my Drink website. You can also watch the conversation on the Hold my Drink YouTube page.

May 6

1 hr 12 min

In this week’s Hold my Drink + Counterweight podcast, we speak with the author of Reinventing Racism, Jonathan Church. Jonathan uses Stoicism as his basis for pushing back against racism, and an evolving neo-racism found in tropes like White Fragility. Join us as we discuss how Stoicism may be an answer to resolving inequities and injustices in our societies and so much more. All discussed with a chaser of civility, of course, and water (because you know, that seemed like a solid Stoic choice!) To read a recap of the conversation and additional thoughts, and to see what we are each reading, visit our post Stoicism and Racial Justice on the Hold my Drink website. You can also watch the conversation on the Hold my Drink YouTube page.

Apr 29

48 min 22 sec

In this Bonus Episode, our guest is author, Shane Ahalt, Sr. Shane is a former Naval Aviator, Teacher, Father and Husband. He recently released his crime novel, Out of the Red and into the Black. We discuss the inspiration for his novel as well as the challenges and resiliency in black America. All discussed with a chaser of civility, of course, and a virgin Irish Coffee. You can also watch the conversation on the Hold my Drink YouTube page.

Apr 25

45 min 26 sec

In this week's Hold my Drink  + Counterweight Podcast , we speak with Dr Monica Osborne, an author, professor and mother. Monica, a former professor of critical theory, speaks of her own struggles with critical social justice in her son's California school. As a student and teacher of critical theory, she sees the distortions in its implementation, especially in early education. Everything has been simplified into a binary of good and evil, which fails to capture the nuance and complexity that defines the human experience. All discussed with a chaser of civility, of course, and a scotch. To read a recap of the conversation and additional thoughts, and to see what we are each reading, visit our post The Dangerous Journey Beyond the Binary on the Hold my Drink website. You can also watch the conversation on the Hold my Drink YouTube page.

Apr 22

49 min 2 sec

In this week's Hold my Drink  + Counterweight Podcast , we speak with Zander Keig, a Wellness & Belonging Consultant, Social Worker of the Year, Coast Guard Veteran and a first-generation Mexican-American Transexual Man. His appreciation of viewpoint diversity sometimes has him at odds within the trans community and he speaks with us about his challenges to find his “way” or his Tao, and how he shares this in his own practice. Like all communities, the transgender community is not monolithic, but comprised of unique individuals with different experiences. Zander shares with us his own journey, all with a chaser of civility, of course, and an Argentinian Malbec. To read a recap of the conversation and additional thoughts, and to see what we are each reading, visit our post The Tao of Transitioning on the Hold my Drink website. You can also watch the conversation on the Hold my Drink YouTube page.

Apr 15

54 min 15 sec

In this week's Hold my Drink + Counterweight podcast, our guest is writer Steve Peters (aka Steve QJ). We discuss how our obsession with Critical Theory and anti-racism has created a communication gap. If we cannot speak to each other across our differences, then we are lost. Honest and good-faith communication is key, and we are determined to keep the conversation going. All discussed with a chaser of civility, of course, and a tea. To read a recap of the conversation and additional thoughts, and to see what we are each reading, visit our post Conversations in Black & White on the Hold my Drink website. You can also watch the conversation on the Hold my Drink YouTube page.

Apr 8

54 min 19 sec

In this week's Hold my Drink + Counterweight podcast I speak with Jennifer Friend, a volunteer case worker for Counterweight, and therapist in private practice in the Washington DC area. Jennifer shares with us her own experience pushing back on a toxic county-wide diversity initiative with a former employer, and how she helps others navigate similar challenges as a therapist. All discussed with a chaser of civility, of course, and a vodka and tonic with a splash of lime. To read a recap of the conversation and additional thoughts, and to see what we are each reading, visit our post Toxic Diversity on the Hold my Drink website. You can also watch the conversation on the Hold my Drink YouTube page.

Apr 1

40 min 30 sec

In this Hold my Drink + Counterweight Podcast , David Bernstein and I speak with Irshad Manji, author of Don't Label Me and Founder of Moral Courage. She shares with us her revolutionary methods for creating community and "honest diversity". Moral Courage reaches beyond our differences to build on our commonalities. It welcomes disagreement and seeks engagement to produce actionable steps towards an enduring diversity. All discussed with a chaser of civility, of course, and a cucumber vodka concoction (milk + protein for Irshad).   To read a recap of the conversation and additional thoughts, and to see what we are each reading, visit our post The Tao of Diversity on the Hold my Drink website. You can also watch the conversation on the Hold my Drink YouTube page.

Mar 25

55 min 13 sec

In this week's podcast I team up with co-host David Bernstein to create a joint podcast with Counterweight; the first of many to come. David and I sit down with Amna Khalid, a Professor at Carleton College and the former John Stuart Mill Faculty Fellow at the Heterodox Academy to discuss how we can promote diversity without division. Amna suggests imagination, curiosity and education as the cornerstones for building a new diversity paradigm. All discussed with a chaser of civility, of course, and a rum punch. To read a recap of the conversation and additional thoughts, and to see what we are each reading, visit our post In Support of Imagination and Viewpoint Diversity on the Hold my Drink website. You can also watch the conversation on the Hold my Drink YouTube page.

Mar 18

44 min 53 sec

In this week's podcast, co-host Timothy Mayo and I discuss Affirmative Education and how we can create equal opportunities for our children, regardless of race or socio-economic background. Timm, an entrepreneur, elite soccer referee and musician, is a patriot and a proud American Descendent of Slavery (ADOS), whose family was victimized in the Greenwood district of Tulsa, OK, aka "Black Wall Street". He believes in diversity and diversity of thought and seeks to throw off the shackles of what he calls Liberal Racism to promote victors and not victims. All discussed with a chaser of civility, of course, and a chai tea. To read a recap of the conversation and additional thoughts, and to see what we are each reading, visit our post Affirmative Education on the Hold my Drink website. You can also watch the conversation on the Hold my Drink YouTube page.

Mar 11

1 hr 3 min

International journalist and Breaklines podcast host, Ioannis Gatsiounis, co-hosts this week's podcast to discuss the radical center. Join us as we discuss what it means to be "in the middle" and how to combat identity politics of both the right and the left to move away from "wokeness" and find our center. All discussed with a chaser of civility, of course, and a glass of pinot noir. To read a recap of the conversation and additional thoughts, and to see what we are each reading, visit our post Radical Centrism on the Hold my Drink website. You can also watch the conversation on the Hold my Drink YouTube page.

Mar 4

41 min 15 sec

An economist and a lawyer walk into a bar... and discuss affirmative action. Economist Jon Haveman believes that equity and efficiency are the results of affirmative action. The life experiences of lawyer, W.F. Twyman, Jr, suggest the path is not necessarily as linear. All of us agree that we need to ensure everyone has a more equitable starting point. All discussed with a chaser of civility, of course, and a shot of brandy. To read a recap of the conversation and additional thoughts, and to see what we are each reading, visit our post Affirmative Action 2021 on the Hold my Drink website. You can also watch the conversation on the Hold my Drink YouTube page.

Feb 25

51 min 54 sec

For our President's Day podcast, George Washington in Black & White,   co-host W.F. Twyman, Jr. and I speak with his distant cousin Kiernan Twyman, a senior in high school in Missouri. These two distant relatives weigh in on their common cousin, George Washington, and his legacy, across generational and racial boundaries in 2021. W.F. Twyman wonders  - can we see beyond slaveholding to appreciate Washington's role in the founding of the United States of America? All discussed with a chaser of civility, of course, and a cherry limeade (with a splash of lime vodka).   To read a recap of the conversation and additional thoughts, and to see what we are each reading, visit our post George Washington in Black & White on the Hold my Drink website. You can also watch the conversation on the Hold my Drink YouTube page.

Feb 18

25 min 18 sec

This week co-host W.F. Twyman, Jr. and I speak with Obaid Omer, host of the podcast Dangerous Speech. Can we have honest and authentic discussions in a time where some speech is considered off-limits? Wink, Obaid and I discuss what topics are off-limits, cultural allegiance and destruction, identity politics, and how and if we can move beyond the current cultural dogma that separates us. All discussed with a chaser of civility, of course, and a shot of peanut butter whiskey in my coffee. To read a recap of the conversation and additional thoughts, and to see what we are each reading, visit our post Dangerous Speech on the Hold my Drink website. You can also watch the conversation on the Hold my Drink YouTube page.

Feb 11

1 hr 3 min

Wayne Watters, author of The Psychology of Leadership, discusses the various forms of leadership and how leadership impacts our democracy, communities and personal relationships.  In the end, we are all better leaders when we lean into our differences and vulnerabilities with a dose of humility. All discussed with a chaser of civility, of course, and a beer. To read a recap of the conversation and additional thoughts, and to see what we are each reading, visit our post The Psychology of Leadership on the Hold my Drink website. You can also watch the conversation on the Hold my Drink YouTube page.

Feb 4

36 min 17 sec

Author and attorney W.F. Twyman, Jr. and the CEO and Founder of Democracy Counts, Daniel Wolf, join me to discuss their differing views on reparations. All discussed with a chaser of civility, of course, and a glass of champagne. To read a recap of the conversation and additional thoughts, and to see what we are each reading, visit our post Causation and Reparation on the Hold my Drink website. You can also watch the conversation on the Hold my Drink YouTube page.

Jan 28

49 min 48 sec

Constitutional Attorney, Tom Eastmond, co-hosts again to discuss the Perils of Political Violence in a Republic. Can political violence ever be justified? Grab your favorite beverage and join us as we assess the Capitol riots, the law of incitement and the preconditions for an insurrection. All discussed with a chaser of civility, of course, and a virgin screwdriver (aka, orange juice). To read a recap of the conversation and additional thoughts, and to see what we are each reading, visit our post The Perils of Political Violence on the Hold my Drink website. You can also watch the conversation on the Hold my Drink YouTube page.

Jan 21

49 min 48 sec

Peter Zeihan - author of the Accidental Superpower, the Absent Superpower and Disunited Nations - and I meet in the mountains of Colorado for a big picture view of the future of the American economy, international status, and political transitions. Spoiler alert - the world as we've known it will never be the same, and it didn't start with the Coronavirus... All discussed with a chaser of civility, of course, and a Bloody Mary (or as Peter calls it, a Malevolent Mary). To read a recap of the conversation and additional thoughts, and to see what we are reading, visit our post Disunited Nations on the Hold my Drink website. You can also watch the conversation on the Hold my Drink YouTube page.

Jan 14

35 min 23 sec

Tom Eastmond, a Constitutional Attorney currently litigating a major First Amendment case, gives us some insight into the Constitution. He explains the controversial doctrine of qualified immunity and how it can give a “free pass” to officials to violate the Constitution, proposes solutions to the social media and free speech dilemma, shares his thoughts on the Trump legacy, and offers a definition of authoritarianism. Whew... what a conversation. All discussed with a chaser of civility, of course, and a root beer. To read some of Tom's additional thoughts and see what we are each reading, see his post, A Constitutional Moment, on the Hold my Drink website. You can also watch the conversation on the Hold my Drink YouTube page.

Jan 7

34 min 6 sec

Allen Hilton, founder of House United Movement, tells us that polarization is a habit. Like all habits, it is something we can break with a little intention. It is his intention and mission to work within our polarized echo chambers in 2021 so that we can venture out of them with courage and compassion. All discussed with a chaser of civility, of course, and a ginger ale. To read a recap of the conversation and additional thoughts, and to see what we are reading, visit our post The Polarization Habit or our website. You can also watch the conversation on the Hold my Drink YouTube page.

Dec 2020

38 min 32 sec