Dot to Dot Behind the Person

Fiona Murden

Join award winning author and psychologist Fiona Murden in the Dot to Dot podcast - joining the dots on what makes you, you.

We learn best from other people and trying things for ourselves. This is made even better when we have some science based approaches to back things up. So that’s what this podcast is all about. Hearing from interesting people across all walks of life, 'role models and real models' sharing their lived experience. This is interspersed with episodes from experts discussing behaviour and the mind - including regular co-host, sports psychologist Lou Jones.

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Cody Royle is currently the head coach of AFL Team Canada, the men's national program for Australian Rules football. Cody is also an author, international keynote speaker, podcast host, football coach. He currently coaches 13 head coaches from seven team sports in five different countries. Cody is a standout voice on how pro sports teams create sustained success. His widely-acclaimed debut book, Where Others Won’t, is a go-to guide of easily-implementable leadership strategies that have been quality-tested by some of the world’s most iconic and successful teams. The sustained success of the book initiated a podcast of the same name, which has reached the top 100 in four countries and maintains a 5-star rating on iTunes.Most recently, Cody has turned his attention to coach wellbeing and performance with his second book, The Tough Stuff, becoming a bestseller in Australia, Canada, the UK, and the United States. A native of Melbourne, Australia, Cody resides in Toronto, Canada with his wife. For more from Cody go to:https://www.codyroyle.com For more from me follow these links: If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. https://bit.ly/MirrThinkMy book Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via these links and in all good book stores globally:https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEdhttps://amzn.to/2lFMwOrConnect with me at:Instagram:www.instagram.com/fiona_murdenTwitter:https://twitter.com/fionamurdenFacebook:https://facebook.com/fionamurden   

Nov 26

56 min 12 sec

Aidan is the host and founder of the Innovation Show, broadcast globally and on national radio stations in Ireland and Finland. He is author of the bestselling book "Undisruptable: A Mindset of Permanent Reinvention for Individuals, Organisations and Life" which includes a Foreword by Visa founder Dee Hock. “Aidan’s presentation is visual, story rich and full of interesting analogies to bring concepts to life.”Aidan is a Change Consultant, Board Director and Executive Coach. He works with organisational teams to improve how they engage and innovate. He is a champion for change and has reinvented in his own career after rugby. Aidan worked in transformation for digital, innovation and now culture and leadership.Aidan played rugby over 100 times for Europe’s most successful teams: Leinster and Toulouse and represented Ireland.He developed the digital eco-system for Communicorp Media Group, served as Head of Innovation for Ireland's National broadcaster and worked as an innovation consultant for Global company Katawave.Today he sits on the board of National Broadband Ireland, rolling out connectivity to the remotest parts of Ireland.He developed and delivers a module on Emerging Technology Trends in Trinity College Business School, ranked 1st in Ireland and in the top 100 globally.For more from Aidan go to:https://aidanmccullen.com For more from me follow these links: If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. https://bit.ly/MirrThinkMy book Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via these links and in all good book stores globally:https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEdhttps://amzn.to/2lFMwOrConnect with me at:Instagram:www.instagram.com/fiona_murdenTwitter:https://twitter.com/fionamurdenFacebook:https://facebook.com/fionamurden  

Nov 19

49 min 45 sec

For example, we discuss how psychology professor Sonja Lyubomirsky who wrote The How of Happiness, says that about 50% of our baseline happiness level is down to genetics, but income only accounts for 10%.  The remaining 40% is about all about the “intentional activities” we undertake, such as giving back to others. We talk about what constitutes and ‘intentional activity’ including prosocial behaviour. We even veer into a conversation about whether altruism is really about being truly good or making ourselves feel better. So, can money buy happiness or at least make us happy? Well, yes and no. We definitely need enough to cover our basic needs, but finding our purpose, giving back and connecting with others has a hugely powerful impact also.  There's more about finding your purpose (which doesn’t require a penny of money but finding it will help you live a much more fulfilled life) in my book ‘Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential’. This can be found via the link below and in all good bookstores:https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEdIf you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book ‘Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human.’ https://bit.ly/MirrThink Connect with us/ask us any questions on:Instagram:www.instagram.com/fiona_murdenTwitter:https://twitter.com/fionamurdenOr for LouInstagram:www.instagram.com/loupylou78Twitter:https://twitter.com/louisejones78

Oct 29

35 min 18 sec

We also discuss a whole range of other areas of health and fitness including:What barriers do people face to getting fit and how can they overcome them?What’s the impact of social media on our beliefs about exercise? While some people are inspired by what they see, many of the exercise influencers create a persona that people are unable to live up to. This can be extremely harmful and demotivating for many and from a psychological standpoint this means we don’t have a realistic context for what we’re trying to achieve for ourselves. Sarah and Lou discuss why it’s so important to understand where we’re are at personally, where our body is at and what our purpose is and keeping these front of mind as far as possible. The two types of motivation relating to exercise: intrinsic – which comes from within and extrinsic – comes from someone else motivating you. The trick of a trainer is to move the extrinsic to motivation to the inside so someone still has it once you’re not there. When you find someone who can do that for you you’re on to a winner. Sarah does this in more than one way but something that stands out is that her clients like her. She treats them as equals and with respect so they don’t have a need to impress or desperately clammer for approval rather are driven by a genuine desire to work with her and even to please her.  About Sarah: Sarah Gorman is a personal trainer, fitness educator, class instructor who guides people on their health and fitness journey. She qualified as a Pilates instructor and, after moving to the Los Angeles decided to give her focus to the fitness industry and began furthering her repertoire further still. She trained in Boxing and Barre under some influential fitness gurus in LA and from there began to teach her own classes. She’s worked with actors, celebrities prepping for roles and has worked on theatre and film choreography in London and across the USA.  She’s also trained American football players, golfers and everyday folk like me in fitness taking you beyond your comfort zone in a way that's not uncomfortable - hard to explain but true. Sarah says “My drive is to continuously create new and inspirational classes that are at the cutting edge of the fitness industry, with the focus, very much, on energy and fun. My ambition is to bring my love and passion of the fitness industry to the widest audience available to me. I want to inspire people to feel empowered, strong and find a love of movement. Laughter, enjoyment and positive energy are at the heart of what I do.” Through her amazing mix of experience and application she has created her BlendFit method, providing an eclectic approach to fitness training; blending disciplines to create energetic and fun classes to get people strong, fit and healthy. By combining disciplines she effectively trains your entire body, and mind, enabling you to feel you have given focus to your whole self. For more from Sarah go to: https://sarahgorman.fit@sarahgormanblendfitwww.instagram.com/sarahgormanblendfit There’s a questionnaire from the Centre for Disease Control (USA) exploring what your barriers to exercise may be and how to overcome them in my book ‘Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential’. This can be found via the link below and in all good bookstores:https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEdIf you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book  ‘Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human.’ https://bit.ly/MirrThink Connect with us/ask us any questions on:Instagram:www.instagram.com/fiona_murdenTwitter:https://twitter.com/fionamurdenOr for LouInstagram:www.instagram.com/loupylou78Twitter:https://twitter.com/louisejones78 

Oct 22

41 min 55 sec

The New York Times article referred to can be found here:https://www.nytimes.com/guides/year-of-living-better/how-to-be-more-empathetic A full copy of the transcript will be on my website shortly:https://fionamurden.comPart of this episode was taken from my book Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human which can be found here. https://bit.ly/MirrThinkhttps://bit.ly/MirrorUSACanhttps://bit.ly/2ylrc7HMy other book Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via these links and in all good book stores:https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEdhttps://amzn.to/2lFMwOr Connect with me here:Instagram:www.instagram.com/fiona_murdenTwitter:https://twitter.com/fionamurdenFacebook:https://facebook.com/fionamurden

Oct 15

13 min 3 sec

There is no end point or goal, it’s a process which Scott Eberle editor of the American Journal of Play describes as being somewhere in between a start and an end, an “in between [where] you find surprise, pleasure, understanding – as skill and empathy – and strength of mind, body and spirit.”  For more from us follow these links: If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book  Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. https://bit.ly/MirrThinkhttps://bit.ly/MirrorUSACanhttps://bit.ly/2ylrc7HMy book Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via these links and in all good book stores:https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEdhttps://amzn.to/2lFMwOr Connect with us/ask us any questions on:Instagram:www.instagram.com/fiona_murdenTwitter:https://twitter.com/fionamurdenFacebook:https://facebook.com/fionamurdenOr for LouInstagram:www.instagram.com/loupylou78Twitter:https://twitter.com/louisejones78 

Oct 8

36 min 11 sec

Sarah is a personal trainer, fitness educator, class instructor who guides people on their health and fitness journey. Her career started on stage in physical theatre and dance. When she had her first child she returned to university to study for a second degree, this time in teacher training from where she taught at The Brit School in London for a number of years. But that’s not all – she had previously qualified as a Pilates instructor and, after moving to the Los Angeles decided to give her focus to the fitness industry and began furthering her repertoire further still. She trained in Boxing and Barre under some influential fitness gurus in LA and from there began to teach her own classes. She’s worked with actors, celebrities prepping for roles and has worked on theatre and film choreography in London and across the USA.  She’s also trained American football players, golfers and everyday folk like me in fitness taking you beyond your comfort zone in a way that's not uncomfortable - hard to explain but true. Sarah says “My drive is to continuously create new and inspirational classes that are at the cutting edge of the fitness industry, with the focus, very much, on energy and fun. My ambition is to bring my love and passion of the fitness industry to the widest audience available to me. I want to inspire people to feel empowered, strong and find a love of movement. Laughter, enjoyment and positive energy are at the heart of what I do.” Through her amazing mix of experience and application she has created her BlendFit method, providing an eclectic approach to fitness training; blending disciplines to create energetic and fun classes to get people strong, fit and healthy. By combining disciplines she effectively trains your entire body, and mind, enabling you to feel you have given focus to your whole self. Listen in to hear more about Sarah’s fascinating story and go to  https://sarahgorman.fit Follow Sarah on Instagram at: @sarahgormanblendfit www.instagram.com/sarahgormanblendfit To connect with me go to: @fiona_murdenwww.instagram.com/fiona_murdenIf you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book  ‘Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human.’ https://bit.ly/MirrThinkOr my how about my book ‘Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential’ which can be found via the link below and in all good book stores:https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEd  

Oct 3

59 min 52 sec

We discuss the psychology of bias, why we have it and some of the impacts. We chat about the biases you may have, what impact they could have and how to really put yourself in the position of what it’s like to have those preferences toward or prejudices against you. We also discuss ways in which companies could approach conscious bias training in order to provide more lasting outcomes on behaviour. And what you can do to help turn down the volume on your own biases.For more from us follow these links: If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book  Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. https://bit.ly/MirrThinkhttps://bit.ly/MirrorUSACanhttps://bit.ly/2ylrc7HMy book Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via these links and in all good book stores:https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEdhttps://amzn.to/2lFMwOr Connect with us/ask us any questions on:Instagram:www.instagram.com/fiona_murdenTwitter:https://twitter.com/fionamurdenFacebook:https://facebook.com/fionamurdenOr for LouInstagram:www.instagram.com/loupylou78Twitter:https://twitter.com/louisejones78To take the implicit bias test follow this link: https://implicit.harvard.edu/implicit/ 

Sep 24

30 min 29 sec

We’re used to the rituals of athletes such as tennis player Nadal, who places his hair behind his ear, pulls his nose and adjusts his shorts while bouncing the ball before every point.  People have accused him of using this as a way to break the momentum of his opponents. But Nadal says that these routines are for his psychological benefits. And the research would suggest that this is true, for many of us, not just athletes. Rituals give us a sense of control when we’re facing uncertainty. Research by Harvard psychologists Francesca Gino and Michael I. Norton suggest that engaging in rituals mitigates grief caused by both life-changing losses (e.g. such as the death of a loved one) through to the more mundane ones (e.g. losing a lottery).For more from us follow these links: My book Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via these links and in all good book stores:https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEdhttps://amzn.to/2lFMwOrIf you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book  Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. https://bit.ly/MirrThinkhttps://bit.ly/MirrorUSACanhttps://bit.ly/2ylrc7H Connect with us/ask us any questions on:Instagram:www.instagram.com/fiona_murdenTwitter:https://twitter.com/fionamurdenFacebook:https://facebook.com/fionamurdenOr for LouInstagram:www.instagram.com/loupylou78Twitter:https://twitter.com/louisejones78 Read more about Why Rituals Workhttps://www.scientificamerican.com/article/why-rituals-work/  

Sep 13

41 min 2 sec

According to psychologist Dr Jeffrey Arnett (whose work I also refer to in Defining You) these three areas define it:1. Taking responsibility for yourself which "generally means accepting the consequences of your actions without expecting anyone else...to protect you from those consequences." 2. Making independent decisions - "It's finding out who you are and how you fit into the world, and there is a range of decisions that go into that." 3. Having financial independenceThere's a period between 18 and 29 that Arnett described as Emerging Adulthood which has since been backed by neuroscientific research showing our brain continues to develop until our late 20s. For some though being an adult never seems to come. Lou and I discuss this and much more too in this week's episode of Dot to Dot.  For more from us follow these links: My book Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via these links and in all good book stores:https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEdhttps://amzn.to/2lFMwOrIf you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book  Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. https://bit.ly/MirrThinkhttps://bit.ly/MirrorUSACanhttps://bit.ly/2ylrc7H Connect with us/ask us any questions on:Instagram:www.instagram.com/fiona_murdenTwitter:https://twitter.com/fionamurdenFacebook:https://facebook.com/fionamurdenOr for LouInstagram:www.instagram.com/loupylou78Twitter:https://twitter.com/louisejones78 Thank you to Giles Paley-Phillips for the production of this episode.  Insider article referred to in this episode: https://www.businessinsider.com/the-3-things-that-make-you-an-adult-2016-1?r=US&IR=T

Aug 17

43 min 18 sec

George caught my attention on twitter with his brilliant tweets (see below for his handle). Every day he posts so many questions – all so thought provoking that I often don’t even answer them - I'm just left pondering. George who lives in Philadelphia USA has a brain that won’t stop whirring which is where all of these fabulous, thought provoking posts come from. He explains how he started off just posting a few and began to love the positive and interesting comments and discussion that they provoked, bringing people together from all over the world. More about George - in his own words, ‘there are not enough books on sh*t disturbers. Hence, Dr. Styles endeavours to write on this topic, which sits next to his heart. "Somebody has to go against the grain... ...what would the world look like without a 2nd opinion?" he says. Despite his propensity for foolery and antics, he was able to get it together and obtain his PhD in Biochemistry in 2016.  He is also an avid composer of music, and is a fan of a wide variety of music genres.’   To follow George go to:https://twitter.com/geostylegeo For more from me follow these links: My book Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via these links and in all good book stores:https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEdhttps://amzn.to/2lFMwOrIf you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book  Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. https://bit.ly/MirrThinkhttps://bit.ly/MirrorUSACanhttps://bit.ly/2ylrc7H Connect with me on:Instagram:www.instagram.com/fiona_murdenTwitter:https://twitter.com/fionamurdenFacebook:https://facebook.com/fionamurden

Aug 6

1 hr 2 min

We discuss the parallels between Olympic preparation and organisational leadership – but how in many ways organisations often know what to do but don’t ‘walk the talk’ in the way the teams who surround athletes do.  Lou explains why it’s never a comfortable experience watching an athlete you’ve trained, why athletes have experienced and understood more things about themselves leading up to a Covid Olympics than any other and why we are set to see some incredible performances. Connect with us/ask us any questions on:Instagram:www.instagram.com/loupylou78Twitter:https://twitter.com/louisejones78Or for Fi: Instagram:www.instagram.com/fiona_murdenTwitter:https://twitter.com/fionamurdenFacebook:https://facebook.com/fionamurden  

Aug 1

36 min 9 sec

In the UK "we look back on the 2012 Olympic Games through gold-tinted glasses, 'Super Saturday' and an inspiring celebration of British athletics uniting the country. For a then 20-year-old Green, the suffocation of 80,000 fans and personal expectations became the starter pistol to understanding and dealing with the mental health struggles he had always known were there.” "If one thing got past my armour, I couldn't manage it because I'd say 'I'm not meant to feel this way because I'm meant to be a superstar, I'm meant to be this robot'. That's when I'd really struggle and when I'd break down.”"As soon as I accepted that I'm a human being and human beings feel things, as soon as I said 'OK, I can feel this way, I'm going to sit with it, embrace and accept it', it kind of took the power away from them. A big part for me that probably saved my life was accepting and embracing vulnerability,"We talk about the pressures put on athletes across all disciplines, how it can feel like you’re not seen or supported until you’re contender for a medal, and once you’re not you’re just as quickly forgotten. Jack now coaches athletes, including Tokyo-bound Italian sprinter Gloria Hooper. He explains how he uses a different approach with every person, working hard to understand not just their physical needs but how they interact with their psychological make-up. He also held the position of Head of Wellbeing at BBC Studios before joining Champion Health UK as head of Performance, taking and using his own learnings to help others. “My purpose is to help as many people be the best version of themselves because that is truly what high performance is all about. My philosophy is a very simple one: a happy athlete is a fast athlete. And I use this philosophy in all of my well-being work.” For more on Jack:https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jack_Green_(hurdler) For more from us follow these links: My book Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via these links and in all good book stores:https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEdhttps://amzn.to/2lFMwOrIf you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book  Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. https://bit.ly/MirrThinkhttps://bit.ly/MirrorUSACanhttps://bit.ly/2ylrc7H Connect with us/ask us any questions on:Instagram:www.instagram.com/fiona_murdenTwitter:https://twitter.com/fionamurdenFacebook:https://facebook.com/fionamurden Or for LouInstagram:www.instagram.com/loupylou78Twitter:https://twitter.com/louisejones78   

Jul 16

53 min 3 sec

On this episode among other things we explore the importance mentors and role-models and how one small comment at the right or wrong time can send a young person's life off in a completely different direction. We also discuss Christine's upbringing and how she chose not to go to Oxford or Cambridge despite being destined - not through her upbringing - but her academic capability to go there. She decided it wasn't what she wanted and followed her interests instead of being drawn into the expectations of those heralded institutions.  I didn't know until we did this podcast that she has 8 A levels including the sciences. And yet she is open to hearing how other people view the world, listening to their take and perspective and offering her guidance. Christine Cross is a Chair, Independent Non Exec Director, Business Advisor and Mentor.She holds  Non-Executive Directorships with Coca Cola European Partners plc; Hilton food group plc; Clipper Logistics Plc and Zooplus AG and acts as Advisor to the Board of a number of  plc, private equity and private companies .  She has  served as NED on the Board of Next plc; Woolworths Limited (Australia);  Sobeys (Ca) plc; Plantasgen (Nor); Sonae plc (Portugal); Brambles plc (Australia); Kathmandu plc (New Zealand); Fenwick Ltd (UK):   Fairmont Hotels Group; Premier Foods and Taylor Wimpey. She was Chief Retail Advisor to PWC for 5 years. She particularly enjoys working with small growth businesses too and Chairs Oddbox, a sustainable produce business growing fast in the Uk; acts as Advisor to My First Years;  plus devotes time to being a Fellow at the RAU Enterprise Unit.Prior to ‘going plural’  Chris had a 15 year Executive career at Tesco having carried out a number of roles at Director Level.Latterly, as Group Business Development Director, she was involved in a programme of acquisitions. Prior to this her primary focus at Tesco was the establishment of a global direct sourcing operation  and the leadership of  Tesco’s UK and International clothing business. She was also instrumental in developing and launching  the Tesco private label product range. Recruitment to Tesco was from a successful career in academia as Principal Lecturer and Course Director  at Bath and Edinburgh Universities. For more from Fiona follow these links: My book Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via these links and in all good book stores:https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEdhttps://amzn.to/2lFMwOrIf you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book  Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. https://bit.ly/MirrThinkhttps://bit.ly/MirrorUSACanhttps://bit.ly/2ylrc7H Connect with me on:Instagram:www.instagram.com/fiona_murdenTwitter:https://twitter.com/fionamurdenFacebook:https://facebook.com/fionamurden 

Jul 10

48 min 17 sec

We chat about how it’s interesting that now that we have research around psychological theory - whether it's through neuroscience or more applied research studies - we're seeing that many of these ancient approaches work. But remember that every technique will not work for everybody - so definitely give them a try, practice them with an open mind and see what works for you. There will be something that does but you have to try to be able to know for sure. Here’s a summary of the 8 rules:     1) It’s not events that cause us suffering, but our opinion about events.2) Our opinions are often unconscious, but we can bring them to consciousness by asking ourselves questions.3) We can’t control everything that happens to us, but we can control how we react.4) Choose your perspective wisely.5) Habits are powerful. 6) Fieldwork is vital.7) Virtue is sufficient for happiness. 8) We have ethical obligations to our community. https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/blog/creating-in-flow/201311/8-ancient-rules-life-we-should-still-follow For more from us follow these links:  My book Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via these links and in all good book stores:https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEdhttps://amzn.to/2lFMwOr If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book  Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. https://bit.ly/MirrThinkhttps://bit.ly/MirrorUSACanhttps://bit.ly/2ylrc7H Connect with us/ask us any questions on:Instagram:www.instagram.com/fiona_murdenTwitter:https://twitter.com/fionamurdenFacebook:https://facebook.com/fionamurdenOr for LouInstagram:www.instagram.com/loupylou78Twitter:https://twitter.com/louisejones78

Jul 2

51 min 59 sec

From Utah to LA, a band member to a Silicon Valley founder, a return to Utah and becoming an extraordinary guide to leaders on public speaking and beyond John has had and continues to have such an interesting journey. This week I make a few bad jokes about my height and being the pinnacle of John's career (if you know me, you also know this is the last thing I'd ever think but it I worry it may get lost in the English sarcasm). Unlike me John tells some genuinely funny stories and even shares his brilliant impression of Snoop Doggie Dog. John quotes back something he was told years ago -  "John if you get up on stage and you have your attention on yourself then you have your attention on a minor ball of petty concerns that have no real interest to anyone but you. However you get up onstage and you have your attention on your audience and the difference that you're going to make for them and the difference they are going to make with the people in their lives because of it well now you have your attention on something worth thinking about." We chat about a wonderful guy who John works with and I've got to know a little - a Senator who has flipped his belief system following a number of years helping out in a juvenile detention centre.  Howard is now deeply passionate about enabling kids from all backgrounds with the skills to reach reading age before they come into school, helping those who are disadvantaged to start on a more even playing field. For more on this amazing initiative go to:https://www.waterford.orgJohn relays the experience of not only training astronauts at NASA but also getting a 40 min phone call from space and his time spent helping Dolph Lundgren. I'm so chuffed to have met John and I'm pretty sure you'll enjoy him too. For John's book go to:https://www.amazon.com or https://www.amazon.co.ukAnd for more about him:https://executivespeakingsuccess.com For my book which we refer to a couple of times go to:https://bit.ly/MirrThinkhttps://bit.ly/MirrorUSACanhttps://bit.ly/2ylrc7HAnd for my other book: https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEdhttps://amzn.to/2lFMwOrConnect with me on:Instagram:www.instagram.com/fiona_murdenTwitter:https://twitter.com/fionamurdenFacebook:https://facebook.com/fionamurden   

Jun 25

48 min 45 sec

For more from us follow these links: My book Defining You - How to Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential can be found at via these links and in all good book stores:https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEdhttps://amzn.to/2lFMwOrIf you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book  Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human available at the links below and in all good book stores. https://bit.ly/MirrThinkhttps://bit.ly/MirrorUSACanhttps://bit.ly/2ylrc7H Follow us/ask us any questions on:Instagram: www.instagram.com/fiona_murdenTwitter: https://twitter.com/fionamurdenFacebook: https://facebook.com/fionamurdenOr for LouInstagram: www.instagram.com/loupylou78Twitter: https://twitter.com/louisejones78

Jun 18

44 min 38 sec

We talk about Helen's own squiggly career which you can hear more about in her TEDx which she recorded in In January 2021 with Sarah. Both Helen and Sarah are living proof of the title of their talk ‘Why squiggly careers are better for everyone’ and inspiring in their message. Prior to Amazing If she held leadership roles for Microsoft, Virgin and BP and was awarded the FT & 30% Club’s Women in Leadership MBA Scholarship. Before making her way back to university friend Sarah to start up their incredibly successful business. She is mum to Henry and Madeleine and lives with her husband in Buckinghamshire. Helen also works as a Trustee for Working Families, a UK charity with a mission to support families and carers with their work and life commitments.  You can find her on Instagram @amazingif.  As for me – the second edition to my book Defining You – Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential is now out: https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEdAnd if you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. https://bit.ly/MirrThinkhttps://bit.ly/MirrorUSACanhttps://bit.ly/2ylrc7HYou can find me on:My website: https://fionamurden.comInstagram: www.instagram.com/fiona_murdenTwitter: https://twitter.com/fionamurdenLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/fionamurden/   

Jun 11

48 min 54 sec

Lou uses the example of the physical versus the psychological in sport. When an athlete goes to a physiotherapist who doesn’t help them with a physical problem they move on to see another physiotherapist, but when they meet a psychologist that they doesn’t click with they’re likely to give up on psychology. This is common to how we all approach our physical versus our psychological health, struggling to understand how to navigate the complexities of our mind and behaviour. We scratch the surface on this complex topic and hopefully provide some useful tips for anyone not knowing where to start.  Therapists may be called:PsychotherapistCounsellorCounselling Psychologist Clinical Psychologist (for more on the types of therapist go to https://www.counselling-directory.org.uk and for more about the qualifications go to the bottom).  Within these practitioners may use different approaches e.g Acceptance and Commitment Therapy Cognitive Behavioural TherapyHumanistic – which includes Gestalt, Existential and client-centered therapyPsycho-dynamic or psycho-analytic Hypnotherapy(for more on the types of therapy go to https://nationalcounsellingsociety.org/counselling-directory/types-of-therapy)  A good site for searching for people in your area in the UK: (be sure to check their years of experience and their professional qualifications)https://www.psychologytoday.com/gb/counsellingAnd in other countries including the USA, Canada, Australia and Swedenhttps://www.psychologytoday.com/intl/counsellors Reputed Professional Bodies (in the UK): British Psychological Society (BPS)https://www.bps.org.uk/public/find-psychologistHealth & Care Professions Council (HCPC)https://www.hcpc-uk.orgBritish Association for Counselling and Psychotherapy (BACP)https://www.bacp.co.ukNational Counselling Society (NCS) https://nationalcounsellingsociety.orgAssociation for Child & Adolescent Mental Health (ACAMH)https://www.acamh.org Wording for qualifications taken from Psychology Today: CPsychol - British Psychological Society - Chartered Member which is the highest distinction awarded to members of the British Psychological Society. A chartered member has postgraduate training, teaching experience and has completed psychology research to the doctoral level.MSc - Master of Science degrees are typically in science or technology. Many mental health professionals coming from a social sciences background earn a master of science degree.MBPsS – graduate members of the British Psychological Society who have completed an accredited undergraduate degree with high marks and have been admitted as members to the society. N.B. This on its own does not mean someone will have completed any training in how to treat people. HPCP Clin Psych - Health & Care Professions Council Clinical Psychologist. The HCPC regulates practitioner psychologists in the UK. A clinical psychologist determines a treatment programme addressing behavioural needs of their clients based on close collaboration with other healthcare providers.DCounsPsych - Doctorate in Counselling Psychology - a professional degree preparing graduates for practice in counselling psychologyPsychD - Doctor of Psychology - a professional degree preparing graduates for practice in clinical psychology

Jun 4

31 min 21 sec

Ginny is a neuroscience expert and science communicator. She read Natural Sciences at Cambridge, but her main passion and expertise is in psychology and neuroscience, so she focuses on helping kids and adults understand our complex minds. Ginny says that “Science is fun and fascinating and ever changing, and I want to help everyone share in the joy of curiosity and exploration.”   ​Some of the things that Ginny said in this week’s chat that stood out for me:“I find it amazing how much we still don’t understand about this thing that controls everything we do”“Science can come across as something that’s finished – it’s this body of facts that we know about the world and I think telling kids and adults that there’s so much more to be discovered can be really inspiring.”“It’s actually behavioural change that can have a bigger impact on our lives at the moment than neuro science but it feels like neuroscience is the sexier option so anyone who is selling something tends always badge it as neuroscience.  And balance your hormones, take this supplement, we’re going to retrain your brain. Just take anything that makes big claims on neuroscience needs to have big evidence and a lot of the time if they’re trying to sell you something there’s not.” The second edition to my award winning book Defining You – Build Your Unique Personal Profile and Unlock Your True Potential is now out: https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEdIf you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. https://bit.ly/MirrThinkhttps://bit.ly/MirrorUSACanhttps://bit.ly/2ylrc7HFollow on:Instagram: www.instagram.com/fiona_murdenTwitter: https://twitter.com/fionamurden Facebook: https://facebook.com/fionamurdenAnd for Ginny: ginnysmithscience.comSocials: @GinnySmithScibraintasticscience.comSocials: @BraintasticSciAmazon Book link: Overloaded: How Every Aspect of Your Life is Influenced by Your Brain Chemicals: Amazon.co.uk: Smith, Ginny: Books Links to non-amazon shops here: www.ginnysmithscience.com/overloaded      

May 28

44 min 51 sec

We explore the psychological and physiological need for hugs, how hard it has been for many people not being able to hug loved ones during lockdown, the importance of touch from birth to old age and our fundamental need for touch as a means of connection. To pre-order the second edition of my book Defining You (out on 27th May in UK, Sept rest of world) go to:https://bit.ly/DefiningYou2ndEdFollow us/ask us any questions on:www.fionamurden.com Instagram: www.instagram.com/fiona_murdenTwitter: https://twitter.com/fionamurdenFacebook: https://facebook.com/fionamurdenOr for LouInstagram: www.instagram.com/loupylou78Twitter: https://twitter.com/louisejones78 

May 21

29 min 44 sec

Grace Lindsay is a computational neuroscientist currently based at University College London. She completed her PhD at the Centre for Theoretical Neuroscience at Columbia University, where her research focused on building mathematical models of how the brain controls its own sensory processing. Before that, she earned a bachelor’s degree in Neuroscience from the University of Pittsburgh and received a research fellowship to study at the Bernstein Center for Computational Neuroscience in Freiburg, Germany. She was awarded a Google PhD Fellowship in Computational Neuroscience in 2016. To find out more about Grace, her book and her work click on the following link:tinyurl.com/h9dn4bw7 To find out more about me, my books and my work go to:www.fionamurden.com  

May 14

38 min 31 sec

As Lou says "Some might say 'to do lists' was a boring subject but actually the more you delve into it the more interesting and fascinating it gets because they have so many benefits. Which include increased productivity, increased confidence, greater focus, being more effective because you're writing things down and warming up your brain to actually achieve them, motivation.'  We discuss the way we use 'to do lists', individual differences, what the research tells us and how to use 'to do lists' optimally. We explore whether lists are helpful when it comes to longer ranger creative processes like writing a book, how they can be used to assist difficult conversations, using them as a mechanism to create reflective space, a reminder to look after health, well-being and relationships or simply remembering the things you need to get done.Do you write a 'to do list'? We'd love to know.  For Fiona's books - Defining You go to:http://bit.ly/DefiningYouIf you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into Fiona's more recent book Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. https://bit.ly/MirrThink Follow us/ask us any questions on:Instagram: www.instagram.com/fiona_murdenTwitter: https://twitter.com/fionamurdenFacebook: https://facebook.com/fionamurden Or for LouInstagram: www.instagram.com/loupylou78Twitter: https://twitter.com/louisejones78  

May 7

34 min 22 sec

Vanessa went from a high octane career as a TV producer to becoming blind and paralyzed overnight. Her journey back to health resulted in her pulling on mental resources she’d learnt previously such as techniques from hypno-birthing. Demonstrating the power of psychology in action - since then she’s been on a mission to understand more about the impact of meditation on the mind. Vanessa has worked with Cambridge University on ground breaking projects even venturing into the world of psychedelics. To hear more about Vanessa’s incredible journey tune in to this week’s episode of the Dot to Dot podcast. Author, TEDx speaker & meditation advocate, Vanessa Potter used the trauma of losing her sight following a rare illness as an extraordinary visual rebirth. She became curious to understand the mechanics of her brain embarking upon a ‘meditation road trip’ exploring 10 ways to train her mind as neuroscientists recorded her brain activity. Her book, Finding My Right Mind: One Woman’s Experiment to put Meditation to the Test publishes on 29th April 2021.  More info:About my new digital courses go to: https://fionamurden.com/defining-you-digital-course/For my books go to:Mirror Thinking How Role Models Make Us Human go to:https://bit.ly/MirrThinkFor my book Defining You How to Profile Yourself to Unlock Your Full Potential UK: https://amzn.to/30wiMEyUSA: http://bit.ly/DefiningYouPaperbackUSAAustralia: http://bit.ly/DefiningYouAus 

Apr 30

59 min 13 sec

Russ Harris is a doctor, therapist, father, trainer of health professionals, and author of The Happiness Trap (plus eight other books).He started his career as a doctor back in 1989, and soon discovered that most of his patients were expressing a significant degree of dissatisfaction in life; most of what was wrong was psychologically based. He strongly related to their struggles, because he was experiencing something similar myself.Despite the fact that I had a successful career with a dream job, good income and high status, he was depressed, anxious, and overweight. He felt his life lacked a sense of meaning and purpose, and at times was even suicidal.He just couldn’t understand why he felt this way. He had achieved all the goals that society says tells us will make us feel happy. But it wasn’t working. And he wanted to know why. One thing was for sure, simplistic stories that it was all due to an unhappy childhood or too much negative thinking or a chemical imbalance in my brain were definitely not the answer.So he set off on a journey to find out a) what makes people unhappy, and b) far more importantly, what creates genuine and lasting happiness. He looked first to psychiatry - a natural stepping stone from medicine and then psychology but not wanting to study for another 5 years he continued to explore off his own back. And in his own words that journey took him down a lot of blind alleys and dead ends. But eventually, it led him to ACT – Acceptance and Commitment Therapy.The moment he discovered this therapy, he fell deeply in love with it. It had a huge and profound impact on his life. Almost instantly, he began to develop a deep sense of purpose and meaning.He found how to enrich and enhance his life, and transform the way he dealt with painful thoughts and feelings. He built a stronger connection with himself and others, which led him to feel that sense of warmth, closeness, belonging he’d been searching for all those years. Links to the books referred to:The Happiness Trap: Stop Struggling, Start Living by Russ HarrisThe Reality Slap 2nd Edition: How to survive and thrive when life hits hard by Russ Harris Defining You How to Profile Yourself and Unlock Your Full Potential by Fiona Murden https://amzn.to/2QbFlbhMan’s Search for Meaning Man's Search For Meaning: The classic tribute to hope from the Holocaust by Vicktor E FranklWherever You Go, There You Are: Mindfulness meditation for everyday life by Jon Kabat-ZinnMirror Thinking - How Role Models Make Us Human by Fiona Murden https://bit.ly/mirrorthink 

Apr 16

50 min 24 sec

Sports psychologist Lou Jones and I discuss how fighting with emotions just makes them worse. How it doesn't feel natural to just leave things because we're taught to 'fix things' in the outside world all of the time, but it's not the best way to deal with emotions. We will always have emotions, because it's part of being human and that's how we work so it's a life long journey to learn how we can manage those in our world in order to achieve the things we want to. We're not always going to get it right - it's about learning as we go and constantly noticing that we're on this journey. Lou says 'I really enjoy learning about myself, it helps me to have a more satisfying life.' I do too but it's taken a long time, even as a psychologist, to realise that's what I needed to do. How about you? To learn more about 'being you' sign up to the Defining You digital course which comes out in May with the release of the 2nd edition of the book. To add your name to the wait list please contact lorna.walls@aroka.co.uk Here are some things that people who went on the pilot said: "The Defining You course made me think about past experiences (childhood, university and early career) in a new, more profound way.  It has made me reconsider scenarios from my past and has helped me see them for what they were and how they shaped my future even into my life today.  For me, it has been genuinely revelatory and I really didn't want the course to end.  I am still a work in progress but feel better equipped to look at the past, present and future."“A brilliant and thought-provoking course and a great introduction to personal reflection and development. The group coaching sessions were welcoming, non-invasive and entirely inspirational. From a practical point of view, the learning format worked perfectly for me. The book is great for reference and the online material is broken down into really digestible and engaging videos and exercises. At no point did I feel under pressure to have completed the exercises or watch the material! It really was a case of “go at your own pace and have fun with it”. If you’re at a point in your life where you want to understand “how did I get here? And where do I go next?” I really recommend this programme.”"It pushed me out of comfort zone and I started to feel more confident in fully participating towards the end. It has been a cathartic process because I started not to worry about what everyone else was thinking, and more about myself – not something that has ever come naturally to me. For the first time in 59 years I think I have become far more self aware and accepting of myself but also very encouraged there is still time for development!"          

Mar 22

36 min 56 sec

This week Lou and I speak about how imagery and visualisation are used in sport and other areas of performance such as leadership in order to work toward success. How it's not just magic but based on science and how you can do it for yourself in your own life

Jan 20

35 min 7 sec

We discuss how this has applied to my work in profiling and analysing people, helping me to get clearer and more accurate judgements. And how it applies to Lou’s work in sport. Lou explains that although athletes want to do an analysis immediately after an event, leaving it a) prevents the emotional response to their performance detracting from what they may learn and b) gives the brain time to process, understand and explore it. As a result, mulling it over provides the space to provide a far more powerful experience for that athlete. We also talk about how it helps us all in everyday life. And how we need to give ourselves permission to mull things over.For updates, news and info sign up to my newsletter at:https://fionamurden.com/contact/Or for LouInstagram: www.instagram.com/loupylou78Twitter: https://twitter.com/louisejones78

Jan 6

29 min 49 sec

This week I talk to Radha about her journey including the importance of family, studying at Cambridge and Imperial, working as a hospital doctor, a GP, teaching medical students AND everything covered below. Radha shares a bit about her own level of self-awareness, learning what she likes and doesn't like and how to continually use that to navigate a healthy and fulfilling life.  Radha has appeared as the medical reporter for The Sex Education Show Ch4 and Make My Body Younger BBC Three. She has been the resident GP for the daytime show Live with Gabby on CH5 and for Newsround CBBC. She has also reported on ITV’s This Morning, BBC Breakfast, ITV Tonight, Channel 5 News and ITN News. Working across all platforms Dr Radha contributes to online projects including BBC Bitesize, BBC Teach, BBC Own It, BBC Advice Pages and BBC Learning. She has also been broadcast on BBC Radio1’s daytime show, BBC Radio 4 Woman’s Hour, BBC Radio 2, BBC Radio 5 Live, BBC Asian Network, LBC and Radio 1’s Newsbeat. Currently writing for Top of the Pops magazine, Radha has been a columnist for the i newspaper, Woman’s Own & MSN Lifestyle. She has written for Female First and Bliss magazine. She has also contributed to multiple books supporting young people & parents. She has a particular interest in young people’s health & supporting parents, and has worked on campaigns with BBC Children in Need, Public Health England, MIND, British Heart Foundation, JDRF, The Mix  and the NHS Youth Forum. She has spoken at many events, including the NHS Health & Care Innovation Expo, at Camp Bestival & for the BBC Children in Need Mental Health Panel Discussion.

Dec 2020

49 min 27 sec

Even if you think you’re already self-aware it’s still something that need revisiting and refreshing. It’s worth looking at your personal narrative to think through who you are, what your preferences are and what’s happening in your world. This week Lou and I talk about exploring your personal narrative, passions and strengths and making sure that they are part of who you are on a daily basis. We also how talk about how discussing these things out loud makes a world of difference in terms of how we understand them. We cover how your values, meaning and purpose all underpin and add to your self-awareness. And how we can lose sight of this when we become focussed on outcome orientated processes such as bonuses at work, projects we need to complete or people we’re trying to impress. How they stop us from doing what’s important to us as a person, what gives us the energy and passion to thrive in life. For updates, news and info sign up to my newsletter at:https://fionamurden.com/contact/Or for LouInstagram: www.instagram.com/loupylou78Twitter: https://twitter.com/louisejones78

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Dec 2020

34 min 27 sec

We talk about asking for feedback and how to do it in a way that is constructive and doesn’t make you or the person you’re asking feel awkward. That celebrating small successes through giving people feedback is really important to let them know how they’re doing and to keep them motivated. We discuss the timing of giving feedback - when should you give it for optimum impact? We also discuss other ways of collecting data about yourself and how you’re doing like video analysis, audio analysis or simply observing how people are responding to you and your mood. And finally we touch on fixed and growth mindset and how that matters both in terms of receiving feedback but also with regard to who is giving it to you and what you make of the information.  For updates, news and info sign up to my newsletter at:https://fionamurden.com/contact/Or for LouInstagram: www.instagram.com/loupylou78Twitter: https://twitter.com/louisejones78

Nov 2020

41 min 54 sec

Some of the topics we explore this week:How awareness is the basis for everything, followed by attention and motivation. Juna talks about neuroplasticity – that you can change your brain and knowing this immediately brings up your levels of attention of what you can change about yourself. That motivation has a neurochemical component to it which increases your ability to change the neuronal connections in your brain. And that knowing all of this gives people hope Juna says “when you know that something is possible you open your brain up to all these new ways of working and that’s really what learning is about – learning changes your brain.”Dr. Juna Bobby, is a mom of two amazing kids and a physician specializing in Mind-Body Medicine. Juna's passion is to guide youth, at critical times in their brain development, through the science-backed skills of being happy, staying well, and having that extra edge. She founded MindBodySpace LLC to coach high potential teens, students of all ages, parents, and educators.She is a faculty member at The Juilliard School PC in Manhattan, teaching The Science of Resilience Program. She is also a frequent guest lecturer at Manhattan School of Music. For four years, she created the Wellness program and Exam Performance Workshops at NYU School of Medicine and Columbia Law School. She holds workshops at many schools and organizations, in addition to coaching private students. Juna is a board-certified graduate of the NYU School of Medicine, where she also completed her residency and fellowship training. She has extensive training in mind-body practices including, completing a program at the Benson Henry Institute at Massachusetts General Hospital, Harvard Medical School, to become a Certified Practitioner for Stress Management and Resiliency. Connect with Juna:Juna Bobby M.D. - Mind-Body MedicineListen: Rx Chill Pill Podcast: Meditate Your Brain to ResilienceEmail:  podcast@mindbodyspace.com• with questions for Juna and Guests for Q&A Thursdays • guest or topic you want to suggestStressed? Need to Focus?Meditate with Juna over at Juna Bobby MD on Insight TimerCONNECT WITH JUNA: Facebook | Instagram | Twitter | LinkedIn  Or to connect with Fiona go to: www.fionamurden.com   

Nov 2020

37 min 43 sec

We discuss the fact that we are thrown so many words of advice on how to think, feel and approach things but in order to really optimise how they help us we need to understand the ‘why’. Lou says "If you’re doing something for some random reason, even if it’s helped you, you may not ever return to it again. But if you see it within the bigger picture it’s another matter entirely."That you don’t need to be a neuroscientist to understand the basic structure of the brain in a way that’s helpful (with a word of warning – do take your advice from people who actually know what they’re talking about). We explore Dr. Russ Harris’s approach and talk about how to go about knowing more about the functioning of the brain.  I love that Harris describes our brain as a ‘don’t get killed device.’ That one of the biggest misconceptions about the brain is that we can control our thoughts and what we’re feeling - but we can’t. Without even realising it we are brought up to believe that we can – and should be able to control our thoughts and feelings e.g. don’t cry, pull yourself together, don’t be scared. There are some things we can control but this requires a nuanced understanding. Distinguishing between which of the stories that your brain tells you on a continual loop are actually helpful and which to disregard. As Harris says our thoughts are  "like a radio that never stops broadcasting" – so it’s good to be able to distinguish between different types. Also learning that thoughts and feelings are a bit like songs you don’t like on the radio. It’s best to accept that the song you don’t like will pass and that the best thing to do in the meantime is concentrate on what you’re doing. Before you know it music you like will be back on again. That rather than putting effort into fighting our thoughts and emotions, learning how to observe them and let them go is far more constructive. That while we all share the same brain structure (meaning evidence based techniques will be most helpful), you are still uniquely you. In Lou’s words “there has never been a research study on you, your brain and how you function in each of the contexts in your world.” So finding out what really works for you requires a bit of a bit of trial and error, explored in a non-judgemental way. That we use the neocortex, the more advanced part of our brain, to try and ‘fix’ the limbic system and that just doesn’t work. Instead it gets us tied in knots. But that ultimately it's all OK. If you know what to do and how to do it there are a load of strategies that really help. The most simple being just naming emotions (that evidence shows move us from the limbic system to the neocortex allowing us to take a step back), journaling and over the longer term building the capabilities taught in fantastic apps such as headspace. For updates, news and info sign up to my newsletter at:https://fionamurden.com/contact/Or for LouInstagram: www.instagram.com/loupylou78Twitter: https://twitter.com/louisejones78Russ Harris’s books which are brilliant resources are as follows:The Happiness Trap – How to Stop Struggling and Start LivingThe Confidence Gap – From Fear to Freedom The Reality Slap – How to Survive and Thrive When Life Hits Hard

Nov 2020

39 min 37 sec

We discuss how self-awareness is a business imperative from a financial standpoint. Companies who have a higher number of self-aware people are more financially successful and have better returns. Leaders who are self-aware are more effective and promotable. Leaders who are not self-aware are 600 times more likely to derail. Also how to become more self-aware and the fact that while it does take time getting their doesn’t have to be a painful slog.  We also explore how Tasha got to where she is today as the principal of The Eurich Group, a boutique executive development firm that helps companies— from start-ups to the Fortune 100—succeed by improving the effectiveness of their leaders and teams. Dr. Eurich has worked directly with tens of thousands of leaders and spoken live to hundreds of thousands more, on every continent but Antarctica. Her clients include Google, Salesforce, the NBA, IBM, Walmart, and the White House Leadership Development Program. Dr. Eurich’s first book, Bankable Leadership, debuted at #8 on The New York Times bestseller list in 2013. Her latest book, Insight, explores the connection between self-awareness and success. Brené Brown selected Insight as one of her Leadership / Business books, and famed Wharton professor Adam Grant calls it one of the three books he recommends most often. Dr. Eurich contributes to Harvard Business Review, and her work has been featured in outlets like The Wall Street Journal, The New York Times, Fast Company, and Forbes. Her TEDx talks have been viewed more than seven million times. For more on Tasha please go tohttps://thefuturereadyleader.com/.And for me www.fionamurden.com where you can sign up to my newsletter for tips, tools and updates on the latest podcast episodes. 

Nov 2020

52 min 36 sec

Some of the things we talk about. Why it’s something that most of us think we have (95% of people according to the research by the fabulous Dr. Tasha Eurich who is next week’s guest) but few of us really do (10-15% of people). Why it’s critical to performance and so many other areas of life making you both healthier and more effective.  Why it isn’t just something you can put on your to do list and how Covid is getting in the way of the moments we do normally have to reflect. We talk about how self-aware leaders are, elite athletes and celebrities and what it means to each of them. Why it’s hard to really explore on your own and how a mentor can help.   For more tips and tools sign up to my newsletter atwww.fionamurden.com Find Lou at Instagram: www.instagram.com/loupylou78Twitter: https://twitter.com/louisejones78

Oct 2020

35 min 53 sec

Nudges to make better decisions but who for - whether we are manipulating people to do things that aren’t good for them or that are, there are moral implications behind nudges and behavioural norms. We also discuss interesting things like recycling being more of a problem because people recycle too much of the wrong thing and what to do about it, how social media has influenced movements like me too and making people feel like they’re living as if they were a brand. Erez has so many interesting things to share. If you’re interested in practical applications and staying up to date with the ACT’s activities follow on Facebook and Twitter.  Or can subscribe to their newsletter on the role of hidden incentives in shaping our sense of rights, aesthetics, altruism, and ethics. And if you’re interested in collaborating with ACT? Please email them describing yourself, your organization, and the problem you are trying to solve.  If you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my most recent book Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. https://bit.ly/MirrorUSACanhttps://bit.ly/MirrThink Follow on:Instagram: www.instagram.com/fiona_murdenTwitter: https://twitter.com/fionamurdenFacebook: https://facebook.com/fionamurden

Oct 2020

34 min 40 sec

Burnout has three key dimensions: exhaustion, cynicism and a decline in professional efficacy – which in English means having reduced productivity. Exhaustion – worn out, lost energy, depleted, debilitated and fatigued.Cynicism – negative attitude towards others, becoming irritable and withdrawn.Reduced productivity – low morale, decreased capability and an inability to cope. “Basically, workers who are experiencing burnout are overwhelmed, unable to cope, and unmotivated, and they display negative attitudes and poor performance.” What should you do about it? One paper written specifically for those at the brunt of burnout (i.e. healthcare workers) offers some useful quick tools, aka “micro-practices.” Taking a moment to name your emotions (especially challenging emotions). For example, when I notice that I am feeling upset, is it anger? Concern? Exhaustion? This aids self- awareness and self-management. This “name it to tame it” practice as Dr Dan Siegel calls it is backed by fMRI research. Simply the process of naming shifts brain activity from the amygdala (the emotional centre of the brain) to the more advanced thinking area of the brain. This means that it can help bring a sense of calm. For a list of words to use in this practice try the following link: https://www.healthline.com/health/list-of-emotionsAnother evidence-based technique is the simple act of writing down three things that you’re grateful for down several times a week. If you work in a group setting then showing gratitude in ways such as starting meetings by giving kudos for recent efforts, can also help stimulate positive emotions and positive relationships. Hand hygiene—now a constant routine — is an opportunity for self- awareness and self-management. A chance to focus on your breath, centre your mind and body, and visualize the kind of presence, empathy, and calmness one would like to bring to the next person you interact with. It’s also an opportunity to self-connect—Am I well hydrated? Hungry? Carrying an unreasonable emotional vestige from the last news update? Opportunities to engage in this type of mindfulness micro-practice are available in a myriad of other situations such as waiting at a red light, boiling the kettle or brushing your teeth. Making use of social support found within both the workplace and home (family, friends, neighbours) is also a very effective and incredibly important practice. For longer term solutions other approaches include eating more nutritious food, engaging in regular exercise building your self-awareness and understanding, time management, cognitive restructuring, relaxation strategies – such as meditation, biofeedback, naps and a longer night’s sleep and changes in work patterns - working less, taking more breaks, avoiding overtime work, and taking more time off or more holiday. For more tips and tools sign up to my newsletter at www.fionamurden.com Follow us/ask us any questions on:Instagram: www.instagram.com/fiona_murdenTwitter: https://twitter.com/fionamurdenFacebook: https://facebook.com/fionamurden Or for LouInstagram: www.instagram.com/loupylou78Twitter: https://twitter.com/louisejones78 References: Fessell, D., & Cherniss, C. (2020). Coronavirus disease 2019 (COVID-19) and beyond: micropractices for burnout prevention and emotional wellness.Journal of the American College of Radiology,17(6), 746-748.Maslach, C. (2017). Finding solutions to the problem of burnout. Consulting Psychology Journal: Practice and Research, 69(2), 143.

Oct 2020

44 min 58 sec

This episode is packed full of quotes that I love from Shelley such as “It’s not going to fix itself, we have to actively close one door and open another. If we keep talking about things and admiring the problems we will continuously widen the gaps.” We discuss the zig zag path that got Shelley to where she is today. The things that made her who she is, her parents who she describes as incredible role models. From a father, the adventurer who encouraged Shelley and her sisters to live in the moment and experience everyday with wonder and curiosity. To a mother who taught all of the girls to believe in themselves and to have confidence. Shelley describes her upbringing as being ‘remarkable’ and all about ‘values’. The result of which being she lives her life with a no regret policy to life – no should of, would of, could of. Believing in saying yes or no to things but never saying you don’t care about something. “Do everything you do with purpose and passion.”  Zalis is an admired speaker and member of the Washington Speakers Bureau. She is a skilled moderator who has interviewed influencers such as Katie Couric, Halle Berry, Sheryl Sandberg, Gabrielle Union, and Arianna Huffington on the subject of equality and leadership. Zalis authors a Forbes column that mentors women in the “messy middle” and helps them reach the next level in their careers. She is co-founder of #SeeHer, a movement led by the Association of National Advertisers (ANA) to increase the percentage of accurate portrayals of women and girls in advertising and media, and sits on the board of directors for MAKERS and ColorComm. For more about the Female Quotient and the amazing work they do go to:https://www.thefemalequotient.comIf you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my most recent book Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. https://bit.ly/MirrorUSACanhttps://bit.ly/MirrThinkOr my award winning first book Defining You – How to Profile Yourself and Unlock Your Full Potential https://amzn.to/2lFMwOrhttp://bit.ly/DefiningYou  Follow on:Instagram: www.instagram.com/fiona_murdenTwitter: https://twitter.com/fionamurdenFacebook: https://facebook.com/fionamurden  

Oct 2020

53 min 18 sec

“Curiosity is the essence of human existence. “Who are we? Where are we? Where do we come from? Where are we going?” I don’t know. I don’t have any answers to those ques- tions. I don’t know what’s over there and around that corner. But I want to find out.” Eugene Cernan – American astronaut If you’re curious about being curious it’s something I talk about in my first book Defining You: http://bit.ly/DefiningYouhttps://amzn.to/2lFMwOrIf you are curious about who you are, your brain and the influences in your life then please dip into my more recent book  Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. https://bit.ly/MirrThinkhttps://bit.ly/MirrorUSACanhttps://bit.ly/2ylrc7H Follow us/ask us any questions on:Instagram: www.instagram.com/fiona_murdenTwitter: https://twitter.com/fionamurdenFacebook: https://facebook.com/fionamurden Or for LouInstagram: www.instagram.com/loupylou78Twitter: https://twitter.com/louisejones78

Sep 2020

34 min 1 sec

Giles’s story is full of twists and turns from playing in a band who toured the country and played at Glastonbury to working in a toy shop. We discuss the life of a creative looking at how the magical children’s books that he’s won so many awards for came into being through to hosting two brilliant podcasts: the Blank podcast with the fab Jim Daly and A Little Bit of Positive with the wonderful Julia Bradbury. Giles lives in Seaford with his wife, Michelle, and their two sons, Elijah and Sonny. His books include of The Fearsome Beastie, winner of The People's Book Prize 2012, Heart of Hawick Children's Book Award 2013, Bizziebaby Gold Award and The US Forward National Literary Award. He has written several picture books and a collection of nonsense poetry. I urge you to read his latest book which is for adults, One Hundred and Fifty Two Days which is incredibly moving, readable and written as free verse. I met Giles on twitter and he has transformed my experience of it from something I hated to a platform I now actually enjoy. His interactions are kind and positive, drawing an audience of people who are grateful and show their best side.  You can find One Hundred and Fifty Two Days at:https://www.amazon.co.uk/Hundred-Fifty-Two-Days-Giles-Paley-Phillips/dp/1783527706The Blank podcast featuring people such as Dawn French, Kelly Holmes, Stephen Mangen & David Baddiel, is at https://play.acast.com/s/theblankpodcastAnd a Little Bit of Positive athttps://play.acast.com/s/a-little-bit-of-positiveYou can follow Giles at:Twitter https://twitter.com/eliistender10Instagram https://www.instagram.com/eliistender10/ For me and my books:Mirror Thinking - How Role Models Make Us Humanhttps://bit.ly/MirrThinkDefining You - How to Profile Yourself and Unlock Your Potential http://bit.ly/DefiningYou Instagram: www.instagram.com/fiona_murdenTwitter: https://twitter.com/fionamurdenFacebook: https://facebook.com/fionamurden 

Sep 2020

1 hr 29 min

We discuss why it’s not a ‘thing’ in the sporting profession, who suffers from it in the work environment, why and the best ways of dealing with it. The key take aways are that:-  it’s about understanding how our achievements fit into our personal narrative- we need to make sure that we’re talking about the worries and fears associated with imposter syndrome with someone who will understand such as a  mentor, family member or friend- it's important to find ways in which to validate our own self-worth- And then Lou adds her own wisdom about having ‘good sex’ too.For more about understanding your personal narrative please take a look at my first book Defining You. http://bit.ly/DefiningYouhttps://amzn.to/2lFMwOr If you want to know more about how we are influenced by mentors and how to find role-models and mentors who can help us then my latest book is  Mirror Thinking – How Role Models Make Us Human. https://bit.ly/MirrThinkhttps://bit.ly/MirrorUSACanhttps://bit.ly/2ylrc7H Follow us/ask us any questions on:Instagram: www.instagram.com/fiona_murdenTwitter: https://twitter.com/fionamurdenFacebook: https://facebook.com/fionamurden  Or for LouInstagram: www.instagram.com/loupylou78Twitter: https://twitter.com/louisejones78 

Sep 2020

38 min 19 sec

In this discussion we cover a lot of ground from what makes a good leader in a crisis through to finding your soulmate. The difficulty of leading a team when you don’t speak the same language as them (in Prague), how certain things inevitably get ‘lost in translation’ and how to deal with that when you’re running a business. We also explore ‘What do those lost nuances in behaviour mean when it comes to conducting business over zoom in lockdown?’ We consider the complexity of running a business as a joint venture in China (Tesco) and the huge cultural differences in the working environment between the USA and the UK despite the shared language. Jon challenges the construct that ‘boys know all the answers and have to be macho’ as a leader, applauding Jacinda Ardern’s approach to leadership. We discuss how difficult it is to lead in times of uncertainty and how much more difficult that is for someone who is wholly dependent on the data for making decisions (btw: Jon is not one of these). The learnings taken from watching the board at Tesco’s operating and the learnings taken from being a 20 something year old who, in Jon’s own words was ‘promoted into a role that was too big.’ Something that he reflects on and still takes learning from to this day.  You can find Fiona on the following: Instagram: www.instagram.com/fiona_murdenTwitter: https://twitter.com/fionamurdenFacebook: https://facebook.com/fionamurden Fiona’s latest book (out July 7th UK, 15th Sept rest of world) Mirror Thinking How Role Models Make Us Human:https://bit.ly/MirrThinkhttps://amzn.to/2yKpf4jhttps://bit.ly/2ylrc7H And her first book Defining YouUK: https://amzn.to/30wiMEyUSA: http://bit.ly/DefiningYouPaperbackUSAAustralia: http://bit.ly/DefiningYouAus   

Sep 2020

1 hr

What can we do as adults in managing our own emotions to support them in managing their emotions? How can we check in with children in a way that elicits a real understanding of what’s going on for them? Checking in on teachers and making sure they’re OK? And understanding ourselves so that we’re not passing our own stress and anxieties onto the people we love. Finally of course remembering that we’re not perfect, we’re all human and simply doing the best that we can. Hopefully though this will serve as a reminder of how. If you want to know more about how we are influenced by our parents and teachers and how we influence and shape others please take a look at my book. Mirror Thinkinghttps://bit.ly/MirrThinkhttps://amzn.to/2yKpf4jhttps://bit.ly/2ylrc7H Follow us / ask us any questions on:Instagram: www.instagram.com/fiona_murdenTwitter: https://twitter.com/fionamurdenFacebook: https://facebook.com/fionamurden Or for LouInstagram: www.instagram.com/loupylou78Twitter: https://twitter.com/louisejones78

Sep 2020

40 min 6 sec

We discuss the twists and turns that took Joy Foster to the place she is today. An award-winning serial social entrepreneur whose work helping women upskill with modern technology, has seen her recognised as a ‘Rising Star’ by WeAreTheCity (one of the largest women’s networks in the whole of the UK). Joy has also been and recognised by Computer Weekly and Business Insider as one of the most influential people shaping British technology in 2019 and 2020. In 2018, she was named as one of the 100 Faces of the Vibrant Economy by Grant Thornton and won the Institute of Directors Startup Director of the Year for London and the South.  Joy also hosts the Sparkle and Thrive podcast which was launched in 2019 as part of TechPixies. The podcast can be found on both apple podcasts and spotify. On 27 April 2020, the podcast hit #1 on the UK podcast charts. We mention Fiona’s book Mirror Thinking in the podcast which is available at the links below in the UK, USA and rest of the world 15th Sept:https://bit.ly/MirrThinkhttps://amzn.to/2yKpf4jhttps://bit.ly/2ylrc7H  You can find Joy at:Instagram https://www.instagram.com/techpixiejoy/Linkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/techpixiejoy/ Tech Pixies at:https://techpixies.com/Instagram @TechPixies And Fiona Murden at: Instagram: www.instagram.com/fiona_murdenTwitter: https://twitter.com/fionamurdenFacebook: https://facebook.com/fionamurden

Aug 2020

1 hr 15 min

There's a section on self-worth, self-esteem and confidence in my first book Defining You. http://bit.ly/DefiningYouhttps://amzn.to/2lFMwOr Ask us any questions on:Instagram: www.instagram.com/fiona_murdenTwitter: https://twitter.com/fionamurdenFacebook: https://facebook.com/fionamurden Or for LouInstagram: www.instagram.com/loupylou78Twitter: https://twitter.com/louisejones78

Aug 2020

39 min 22 sec

Currently stationed in San Diego California Wing Commander Jonathan McMullan joined the Royal Australian Air Force in 1991 as an Airborne Electronics Analyst. His journey has been marked by personal and professional challenges. For example, despite having marked on his original recruitment file ‘not Officer material’ he not only commissioned as a Navigator in 2001 but upon graduation from Officers’ Training School he received the annual Leadership Sword for the best Junior Officer. Spurred on by both a desire to prove he could but also significantly a desire to lead in a way he felt others were missing.  A significant part of how he has shaken up leadership has been to openly discuss his experience of PTSD, how that has shaped him and how important it is for people coming through the ranks both within the air force and within the population at large to understand that it’s OK to experience mental ill health, whoever you are.   In 2003 Jonathan served four tours flying in both Iraq and Afghanistan. He was then posted to the Air Combat Transition Office to support the introduction of the Australian Super Hornet. In 2011 he was selected to be the Detachment Commander for the Heron Remotely Piloted Aircraft rotation in Kandahar, leading a team in Afghanistan.  Jonathan was awarded a Commendation for Distinguished Service in the 2012 Queens Honours List for leadership at war and his meritorious Command of the RPA detachment in Afghanistan. He then returned to Kandahar for a further two commands of the Heron RPA team. At the conclusion of a nine month tour he was awarded the US Bronze Star for meritorious and heroic leadership at war and the seamless transition of capability.  To hear more from me or know about follow up conversations with Jonathan please follow me at:Instagram: www.instagram.com/fiona_murdenTwitter: https://twitter.com/fionamurdenFacebook: https://facebook.com/fionamurdenLinkedin: https://www.linkedin.com/in/fionamurden/   

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Aug 2020

1 hr 16 min

Ask us any questions on:Instagram: www.instagram.com/fiona_murdenTwitter: https://twitter.com/fionamurdenFacebook: https://facebook.com/fionamurden Or for LouInstagram: www.instagram.com/loupylou78Twitter: https://twitter.com/louisejones78 There’s a chapter on empathy in Fiona’s latest book (out July 7th UK, 15th Sept rest of world) Mirror Thinking How Role Models Make Us Human:https://bit.ly/MirrThinkhttps://amzn.to/2yKpf4jhttps://bit.ly/2ylrc7H #mirrorthinking #rolemodels #rolemodelschangelives #psychology #awareness #whoareyou #blacklivesmatter #personaldevelopment #rosaparks #insight #thinking #consciousness #mindful #mindfulliving #mindfulness #advise #help #tips #habits #behaviour #behavior  

Aug 2020

40 min 11 sec

Some of the topics we explore this week – needing to look to part to get the part and how important 'non controllables' are to whether you land a role in acting (e.g. height, hair colour, eye colour), juggling 8 shows a week in a West End production with motherhood, the stresses and strains of failure that build up resilience, the issue of youngsters not having exposure to that in today’s social media reality and how self-assurance not cockiness is the way to success. In November 2009 Kirsty won the TMA Award for Best Supporting Performance in a musical for playing Young Viv in Spend Spend Spend at the Watermill Theatre, directed by Craig Revel Horwood; the production went on to tour nationally in 2010. Other work includes The Secret Diary of Adrian Mole, The Three Musketeers, Arthur and George, HMS Pinafore, The Ghosts of Ruddigore and The Burglar’s Opera for Opera Della Luna (Covent Garden Festival, National Tour), The Wizard of Oz, Peter Pan, King Cotton, Jerry Springer the Opera, Ken Hill’s Phantom of the Opera, The Beggar’s Opera, Sweeney Todd, Nunsense and Barnum and the 25th Anniversary Production of Side By Side By Sondheim. She has also performed as a lead vocalist in concerts and cabarets throughout the UK and abroad, most recently soloist with the City of Birmingham Symphony Orchestra and at the Leeds Castle Classical Prom.Kirsty also works as a session vocalist. She has recorded vocals for Warner Chappell, Disney, Sony and for numerous feature films including Mary Poppins Returns.  For more from me and to hear about upcoming guests go toInstagram: www.instagram.com/fiona_murdenTwitter: https://twitter.com/fionamurdenFacebook: https://facebook.com/fionamurden And for my latest book (out July 7th UK) Mirror Thinking How Role Models Make Us Human go to:https://bit.ly/MirrThinkhttps://amzn.to/2yKpf4j

Jul 2020

56 min 49 sec

The questions we leave you with:What’s worked before and what are you still doing with that?What’s not working and what do you need to change and do differently?Within this new situation what are the new skills that would actually support that?It’s critical to remember to make time for yourself and to talk. It sounds obvious but both so often gets lost in the to do list. It’s also OK to be low and is fairly normal given the circumstances that we’re all living in currently. Ask us any questions on:Instagram: www.instagram.com/therealdot2dotTwitter: https://twitter.com/therealdot2dotFacebook: https://facebook.com/therealdot2dot Or to contact Fiona go to:Instagram: www.instagram.com/fiona_murdenTwitter: https://twitter.com/fionamurdenFacebook: https://facebook.com/fionamurden  There are lots of tools to help build resilience and self insight in Fiona’s book Defining You How to Profile Yourself to Unlock Your Full Potential UK: https://amzn.to/30wiMEyUSA: http://bit.ly/DefiningYouPaperbackUSAAustralia: http://bit.ly/DefiningYouAus For Fiona’s latest book (out July 7th UK) Mirror Thinking How Role Models Make Us Human go to:https://bit.ly/MirrThinkhttps://amzn.to/2yKpf4jhttps://bit.ly/2ylrc7H #mirrorthinking #rolemodels #rolemodelschangelives #psychology #awareness #whoareyou #blacklivesmatter #Mondaymotivation #personaldevelopment #rosaparks #insight #thinking #consciousness #mindful #mindfulliving #mindfulness #advise #help #tips #habits #behaviour #behavior 

Jul 2020

38 min 8 sec

Jim regularly gigs on the comedy circuit (or did before lockdown), he has written and performed for sketch shows and presented for Yahoo's The Football Show and JOE.co.uk's Friday Football Live as well as featuring on BBC 5live, BT Sport, London Live and TalkSPORT. He also has a strong social media following for his original, sports-related comedy content especially on YouTube where he posts hilarious sketches regularly (under Jim Daly Comedy). Jim plays down his abilities. I laughed a bit too loud at some points during the interview so had to cut my sound out. He is a great guy who has an astute understanding of what it means to be human. Something that I personally believe comedians have to be incredibly skilled at. I admire his honesty about all things Jim and I’m sure you will too. Laughter builds emotional resilience which is surely something we all need more than ever before currently. We can’t lose comedy. Please sign the open letter at savelivecomedy.co.uk to put pressure on the government to include live comedy in their arts funding package. Please also share the #SaveLiveComedy hashtag and dont stop making a noise until a package is sorted to help comedians and clubs to survive.Find Jim on:Instagram: www.instagram.com/jimdalycomedyTwitter: https://twitter.com/jimdalycomedyFacebook: https://facebook.com/jimdalycomedyWebsite: http://jimdalycomedy.com/ For my latest book (out July 7th UK) Mirror Thinking How Role Models Make Us Human go to:https://bit.ly/MirrThinkhttps://amzn.to/2yKpf4jhttps://bit.ly/2ylrc7H   

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Jul 2020

53 min 34 sec