Were You Raised By Wolves?

By Nick Leighton

Editors’ Notes: “I want to give everybody the tools to solve their own etiquette problems,” says Nick Leighton, cohost and producer of Were You Raised by Wolves?, a weekly podcast in which he and cohost Leah Bonnema look into the many sticky social situations we all face. “With each of the questions that we get, from the bonkers to the ordinary, I always try to take a step back and ask, ‘What are the bigger principles here?’ I'm always looking for topics that help us make a larger point.” In each episode, Leighton, a two-time Emmy Award-winning journalist, and Bonnema, a comic/writer, share practical advice on how to navigate a wide range of situations, from the serious to the whimsical—whether they tackle interrupting excessive talkers, establishing healthy boundaries with coworkers, or the proper way to eat Cheetos.When they developed the show in 2019, Leighton and Bonnema had one goal in mind: to have empathy for other people. Their informal conversations tackle a mix of personal topics, viewer questions, and the occasional historical fact with warmth and positivity and humor. Leighton views this approach as an antidote to a lot of the negativity he sees in the online world, while Bonnema thinks the show’s premise is a natural fit for her situational style of comedy. “A lot of my comedy is about events where I’m like, ‘What just happened here?’ or where I embarrass myself,” she says. “And, ironically, all of these fall under the guise of etiquette, where you either feel aggrieved or you feel like you committed some sort of social crime. I just loved the topic.”Leighton and Bonnema credit the show’s ongoing success to their work ethic. They haven’t missed a single week since they launched the show, which recently hit a new milestone: 100 episodes. But what they value the most, above all else, is how they've built a community of listeners from all backgrounds. “We have conservative grandmothers in Tallahassee to nonbinary chefs in Seattle and everybody in between,” he says. “Because who among us has not experienced an etiquette crime? This is universal.”---Etiquette, manners, and beyond! Join Emmy® Award-winning journalist Nick Leighton and acclaimed comedian Leah Bonnema ("Late Show with Stephen Colbert"), the perfect odd couple, as they try to make the world a nicer, more polite place and offer up practical advice to help you smoothly glide through any situation. Please listen and follow! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

  1. 1.
    Wearing Hats, Behaving on Boats, Remembering Song Lyrics, and More
  2. 2.
    Telling Cooks They're Terrible, Leaving Cash on Tables, Handling Wet Laundry, and More
  3. 3.
    Wearing Name Tags, Shopping Yard Sales, Fat-Shaming Pets, and More
  4. 4.
    Drinking Abandoned Sodas, Skipping Destination Weddings, Squeezing into Revolving Doors, and More
  5. 5.
    Eating Croissants, Pretending Not to Notice, Missing Plumbers, and More
  6. 6.
    Breaking Up With Hairdressers, Crashing Bachelor Parties, Cracking Eggs, and More
  7. 7.
    Very Special 100th Episode Extravaganza
  8. 8.
    Telling People to Smile, Judging People’s Homes, Keeping Quiet in Gazebos, and More
  1. 9.
    Eating Bananas Properly, Sipping With Straws, Spraying Colognes on Buses, and More
  2. 10.
    Commandeering Televisions, RSVPing to Facebook Events, Returning Shopping Carts, and More
  3. 11.
    Giving Business Cards in Japan, Behaving in Locker Rooms, Ignoring Ventriloquists, and More
  4. 12.
    Interrupting Excessive Talkers, Proposing to Bridesmaids, Criticizing Soups, and More
  5. 13.
    Reusing Napkins, Attending Movie Premiers, Hanging up on People, and More
  6. 14.
    Building Fences, Following-up on Gifts, Running Out of Hot Water, and More
  7. 15.
    Attending Polo Matches, Inquiring About Missing Invitations, Receiving Outrageous Emails, and More
  8. 16.
    Commandeering Gym Saunas, Demanding Money From Grandchildren, Dressing Like Identical Twins, and More
  9. 17.
    Enjoying Peking Duck, Borrowing DVDs Without Returning Them, Flaunting Office Ice Cube Rules, and More
  10. 18.
    Eating Pop-Tarts, Boarding Airplanes, Returning Overdue Library Books, and More
  11. 19.
    Flying the Flag at Half-Staff, Being the Perfect House Sitter, Using Charity Return Address Stickers, and More
  12. 20.
    Inviting Yourself To Other People's Vacations, Handling Unwanted Art, Wearing White to Weddings, and More
  13. 21.
    Vacuuming in Germany, Turning Friends Into Third Wheels, Giving Gift Receipts, and More
  14. 22.
    Adding Ice Cubes to Wine, Wiping Down Gym Equipment, Shouting in Supermarkets, and More
  15. 23.
    Being Late for Surprise Parties, Sending Provocative Selfies, Lighting Candles, and More
  16. 24.
    Buying Engagement Rings, Eating Lunches on Zoom, Snapping at Waiters, and More
  17. 25.
    Asking About Botox, Reaching for the Right Glass, Stealing Packages, and More
  18. 26.
    Strip Mining Tarte Tatins, Paying What You Think Is Fair, Eating Quail With Your Hands, and More
  19. 27.
    Eating Kit Kat Bars, Wearing Perfumes, Forcing Cake Forks, and More
  20. 28.
    Burdening Friends with Cake, Ousting Toxic Club Members, Tidying Up Messy Schools, and More
  21. 29.
    Enjoying Pho, Harassing Celebrities, Profiting Off Friends, and More
  22. 30.
    Trespassing Nomads, Getting Loud in Hot Tubs, Receiving Unwanted Gifts, and More
  23. 31.
    Saving Water in Japan, Smoking on Gondolas, Using Treadmill Desks, and More
  24. 32.
    Screaming Out of Limousines, Loading Dishwashers Properly, Keeping Unwanted Photos, and More
  25. 33.
    Eating King Cakes, Hijacking Vacations, Finding Surprises in the Trash, and More
  26. 34.
    Eating Spaghetti, Avoiding Chatty Neighbors, Starving at Dinner Parties, and More
  27. 35.
    Showing Up Empty-Handed, Riding French Elevators, Having Nice Weekends, and More
  28. 36.
    Wearing Sequins, Flirting Politely, Thanking Good Samaritans, and More
  29. 37.
    Paying for Party Crashers, Sharing Pregnancy News, Drinking Cappuccinos in Italy, and More
  30. 38.
    Stealing People's Spotlights, Tipping While Bartering, Leaving Negative Reviews, and More
  31. 39.
    Eating Caviar, Imagining Etiquette of the Future, Hiding During Video Conferences, and More
  32. 40.
    Sharing Sonograms, Sending Company-wide Emails, Cleaning AirBNBs, and More
  33. 41.
    Flying on Private Planes, Forgetting To Take Gum Out, Blowing Leaves Blindly, and More
  34. 42.
    Napping Without Permission, Removing Price Tags, Positioning Toilet Lids, and More
  35. 43.
    Tipping at the Holidays, Ordering Too Much at Drive-Thrus, Begging for Gifts, and More
  36. 44.
    Hanging Wind Chimes, Questioning People's Choices, Being Overly Competitive, and More
  37. 45.
    Eating French Cheeses, Going Home for the Holidays, Blowing Up Other People's Credit Cards, and More
  38. 46.
    Flipping through Wall Calendars, Enduring Boring Relatives, Waiting to be Noticed, and More
  39. 47.
    Asking for Favors, Borrowing Spices, Using Service Plates, and More
  40. 48.
    Gifting Peacocks, Paying with Benjamins, Ignoring DMs, and More
  41. 49.
    Touching Fruit in Italy, Flossing in Public, Answering the Door in a Robe, and More
  42. 50.
    Asking Doctors to Wash Their Hands, Waiting for Bosses to Show Up, Yawning Too Much, and More

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