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The Overwhelmed Brain

By Paul Colaianni: Decrease Anxiety, Depression, Stress, Narcissism, Manipulation and Emotional Abuse, Relationship, Infidelity, Marriage, Alcoholic

The Overwhelmed Brain is here to help increase your emotional intelligence, strengthen your self-worth and self-esteem, and empower you so that you can make decisions that are right for you. If you struggle with anxiety, depression, fears, stress, obsession, panic, or any relationship, marriage, emotional abuse, or family issues, this show empowers you to honor yourself and get into alignment with what's most important to you. If affirmations feel like lies and positive thinking feels like denial, tune into the show that gives you practical, down to earth advice to help you create the life you want. No more emotional abuse.

  1. 1.
    How to avoid making the same mistakes over and over again11/22/2020
    1:14:03
  2. 2.
    Choosing between the empowered response and the dysfunctional one11/15/2020
    46:52
  3. 3.
    The past, present, and future of unpleasant memories11/08/2020
    1:11:28
  4. 4.
    Disarming people that disempower you11/01/2020
    1:13:31
  5. 5.
    When loved ones reject your reality and replace it with their own10/25/2020
    1:11:28
  6. 6.
    Feeling crazy because you don't have the answers10/18/2020
    1:10:00
  7. 7.
    Sometimes facing yourself is the only way change can happen10/11/2020
    51:15
  8. 8.
    Friends and family that try to be helpful but really aren't10/04/2020
    1:13:37
  1. 9.
    The pain you sometimes need to go through to increase your quality of life09/27/2020
    1:02:34
  2. 10.
    Taking the blame for their behavior09/20/2020
    1:05:31
  3. 11.
    When you don't know who you are09/13/2020
    1:01:54
  4. 12.
    What to do when the judgments come out of you09/09/2020
    53:42
  5. 13.
    Can there be peace and balance in an unbalanced relationship?09/06/2020
    59:29
  6. 14.
    Practicing non-confrontational ways to honor yourself08/30/2020
    1:16:08
  7. 15.
    What to do when you're going nowhere08/23/2020
    1:09:10
  8. 16.
    The regrets and leftover emotions after someone dies08/16/2020
    1:01:37
  9. 17.
    Do people think you're stubborn for honoring your boundaries?08/09/2020
    1:05:50
  10. 18.
    Working through those old emotional triggers so that you can stop the PTSD and start living life again08/02/2020
    1:12:53
  11. 19.
    The intimacy that happens behind their back07/31/2020
    44:25
  12. 20.
    When loved ones resist the decisions you need to make for yourself07/26/2020
    1:04:10
  13. 21.
    Depression or the blahs shouldn't be a way of life07/23/2020
    41:44
  14. 22.
    Walking around as an adult with dysfunctions from childhood07/19/2020
    1:10:23
  15. 23.
    Email grab bag: Getting ghosted while dating and when you have trouble forgiving someone who wronged you07/16/2020
    46:51
  16. 24.
    Should commitments always be a forever thing?07/12/2020
    1:05:20
  17. 25.
    More on taking a stand to make changes in your life - A peaceful approach or take a risk instead?07/08/2020
    43:30
  18. 26.
    Email grab bag: Purging awkwardness, the perfect partner, lonely and depressed07/05/2020
    1:00:54
  19. 27.
    How to deal with the worries of today and the emotional triggers of every day06/28/2020
    1:04:27
  20. 28.
    I can't get you out of my head but I need to so I can start living again06/24/2020
    59:07
  21. 29.
    Dealing with mean family06/21/2020
    1:09:23
  22. 30.
    Sometimes you have to take a stand to make a change in your life, even if you're scared as hell.06/14/2020
    1:01:38
  23. 31.
    Your life's purpose does not have to be about you06/10/2020
    55:32
  24. 32.
    Can love enable those you care about to do bad behavior_06/07/2020
    1:12:38
  25. 33.
    When people don't like you05/31/2020
    57:18
  26. 34.
    When you have to make a big decision about the relationship05/27/2020
    32:58
  27. 35.
    Waiting for someone else to change so that your life will be better05/24/2020
    1:03:54
  28. 36.
    The emotional aftermath of getting free of the narcissistic relationship05/21/2020
    58:04
  29. 37.
    Why you're not getting a second chance05/17/2020
    55:51
  30. 38.
    The toxic residue that lingers inside you from people that make you feel bad about yourself05/10/2020
    55:31
  31. 39.
    Learning that your adult child suffered child sexual abuse05/07/2020
    55:37
  32. 40.
    When your top values aren't being met, the rest of it falls apart05/03/2020
    1:16:00
  33. 41.
    Know and stand by your standards for the healthiest relationships possible04/26/2020
    1:04:05
  34. 42.
    When you desperately want an explanation or closure but you can't get it04/19/2020
    58:30
  35. 43.
    How to feel better about yourself04/12/2020
    1:03:03
  36. 44.
    New relationships should not create worry about what it is or isn't04/08/2020
    27:50
  37. 45.
    Getting comfortable letting go of what no longer serves you04/05/2020
    1:00:54
  38. 46.
    Making sure toxic people and toxic environments don't take over your life03/29/2020
    1:08:45
  39. 47.
    When social anxiety, fear, and loneliness keep you from doing what you want to do03/22/2020
    1:09:31
  40. 48.
    When life seems like an endless series of dead ends03/15/2020
    45:11
  41. 49.
    The one question to ask yourself when you can't figure out what to do03/08/2020
    1:01:17
  42. 50.
    Overcoming a general distrust of people and the benefit of taking risks03/01/2020
    1:01:37
  43. 51.
    Am I overreacting or are they just a jerk? And the woman who is the last to know about the family secret02/23/2020
    1:00:13
  44. 52.
    When the fear of abandonment keeps you from happiness02/16/2020
    1:06:05
  45. 53.
    Those selfish people that don't care if you're hurt by their behavior02/09/2020
    1:01:43
  46. 54.
    Bringing the best version of yourself into a world full of fearful people02/02/2020
    54:24
  47. 55.
    Making impossible decisions01/26/2020
    1:12:38
  48. 56.
    How to help yourself and others by accessing your inner wisdom01/19/2020
    1:05:25
  49. 57.
    Staying positive while other people get what you want and you don't01/12/2020
    56:00
  50. 58.
    When it feels like you never get enough from life01/05/2020
    1:06:07
  51. 59.
    Keeping old emotional pain out of the new year12/30/2019
    59:10
  52. 60.
    Keep your power by giving yourself one of the greatest gifts possible12/22/2019
    58:20
  53. 61.
    Using loved ones as a verbal punching bag12/15/2019
    1:05:11
  54. 62.
    How to avoid destroying yourself with guilt12/08/2019
    58:08
  55. 63.
    Being alone12/01/2019
    1:04:47
  56. 64.
    What to do when your self-improvement creates fears and conflict in others11/24/2019
    53:08
  57. 65.
    What comes out of you when people push you over the edge11/17/2019
    1:06:22
  58. 66.
    Establishing boundaries with toxic family11/10/2019
    1:00:24
  59. 67.
    "There must be something wrong with me": How you brainwash yourself by reinforcing negative false beliefs11/03/2019
    1:20:07
  60. 68.
    Facing the challenge, getting through it, and coming out of it new and improved10/27/2019
    1:01:32
  61. 69.
    When others make you feel small10/20/2019
    56:26
  62. 70.
    Are you inadvertently responsible for your own unhappiness10/13/2019
    43:16
  63. 71.
    Processing thoughts and emotions through self-guided questions10/06/2019
    49:48
  64. 72.
    Keeping your power in conversations with controlling, dominating and overpowering people09/29/2019
    1:00:46
  65. 73.
    Dealing with the impossible boss and other relationship advice when it comes to job, career and life09/22/2019
    1:02:30
  66. 74.
    Jealousy in the relationship09/15/2019
    1:03:20
  67. 75.
    When there's insecurity or fear around sex, the entire relationship suffers. And a listener disagrees with my advice09/08/2019
    49:08
  68. 76.
    Making difficult and sometimes painful decisions that almost always improve your life09/01/2019
    1:05:40
  69. 77.
    Enforce your boundaries, keep the balance, stop the compromising, end your suffering and more: Email grab bag episode08/25/2019
    1:08:01
  70. 78.
    What you might have to do if the people and situations in your life never improve08/18/2019
    45:12
  71. 79.
    The big, scary steps that lead to positive change08/11/2019
    1:05:36
  72. 80.
    Self-help variety episode: Anxiety, guilt, and people who are worried about their personal life interfering their professional life08/04/2019
    1:13:06
  73. 81.
    Changing your habitual negative emotions about the past or future07/28/2019
    51:55
  74. 82.
    Holding yourself in high regard when others don't07/21/2019
    1:06:26
  75. 83.
    When people don't step up in your defense07/14/2019
    46:05
  76. 84.
    Those intrusive, invading and disturbing thoughts that you try to resist and repress07/07/2019
    56:16
  77. 85.
    The tough-love principles of living a life without giving away your power06/30/2019
    56:31
  78. 86.
    When you just can't move forward because of inner conflict06/23/2019
    53:32
  79. 87.
    The decisions that cause you to lose your power and keep you in a rut06/16/2019
    42:19
  80. 88.
    You got through the bullying when you were younger but how do you deal with the residual as an adult?06/09/2019
    53:29
  81. 89.
    When you don't even realize you're giving a free pass to bad behavior: The simple formation and difficult termination of codependent relationships06/02/2019
    54:11
  82. 90.
    Dealing with those passive aggressive, negative, so hard to be around people that you just hope get it one day05/26/2019
    42:05
  83. 91.
    BONUS re-release: When Panic Attacks - The Anxiety Episode05/23/2019
    1:05:53
  84. 92.
    Utilizing your dysfunctions to work for you instead of against you05/19/2019
    50:40
  85. 93.
    Criticisms and hurtful comments from others don't apply when you are in alignment with your inner compass05/12/2019
    57:29
  86. 94.
    When you can't enjoy life because you're always waiting for the other shoe to drop05/05/2019
    1:17:19
  87. 95.
    Purging negative emotions as soon as they happen04/28/2019
    51:44
  88. 96.
    Wanting your partner to just stop doing that thing. Are Jealousy or other feelings creeping in?04/21/2019
    1:03:08
  89. 97.
    Dissolving love and connection by repressing thoughts and emotions with those you love04/14/2019
    1:06:11
  90. 98.
    Is your compassion killing you? What you think is compassion could be self-destruction04/07/2019
    1:02:10
  91. 99.
    When you're told to just accept your partner's emotional affair04/01/2019
    54:45
  92. 100.
    The regrets and upsets from the past that you just can't seem to get over03/24/2019
    56:59
  93. 101.
    Always Defending Yourself - Introduction to the Love and Abuse podcast03/21/2019
    25:12
  94. 102.
    The sacred components of personal boundaries and why you should define and enforce them whenever possible03/17/2019
    1:01:48
  95. 103.
    How to create the life you want03/10/2019
    48:02
  96. 104.
    When tiny compromises lead to resentments03/03/2019
    57:42
  97. 105.
    When you can't fully commit just in case there's something better02/24/2019
    54:16
  98. 106.
    When fear is the primary obstacle in your life02/17/2019
    46:03
  99. 107.
    How family drama can teach you a lot about personal boundaries02/10/2019
    1:12:11
  100. 108.
    Part 2 - Making decisions that are right for you and tackling obsession and overthinking once and for all02/06/2019
    19:18
  101. 109.
    Making decisions that are right for you and tackling obsession and overthinking once and for all02/03/2019
    1:08:43
  102. 110.
    Enduring the spotlight of humiliation, embarrassment and criticism01/27/2019
    1:11:47
  103. 111.
    When a guilty conscious interferes with your decisions and keeps you unhappy01/20/2019
    1:03:22
  104. 112.
    Should you leave or stay in a toxic environment - Is it ever wrong to leave the toxic person, place or thing01/13/2019
    58:52
  105. 113.
    When people take advantage of you01/06/2019
    48:17
  106. 114.
    More self-help variety - The origin of upset, standing up to loved ones, apologies and forgiveness, shame and anger around death and more12/30/2018
    1:00:29
  107. 115.
    Self-help variety - Pushy people, jealousy, body image, self-worth, self-esteem, intrusive thoughts and more!12/23/2018
    1:07:46
  108. 116.
    When you're downright miserable at work12/21/2018
    47:46
  109. 117.
    Second chances - How do you know if it's safe to take someone back into your life?12/16/2018
    1:10:14
  110. 118.
    What to look for when starting a new relationship12/09/2018
    1:05:56
  111. 119.
    Giving up your power to toxic people12/02/2018
    1:14:53
  112. 120.
    Living life on your terms11/25/2018
    1:13:57
  113. 121.
    The 'take care of you' episode: Showing up as the best version of yourself11/18/2018
    1:24:54
  114. 122.
    Avoiding vulnerability and stuffing down emotions11/11/2018
    1:08:51
  115. 123.
    Why don't people understand me? Taking responsibility for the meaning of your communication11/04/2018
    1:10:47
  116. 124.
    The Silent Treatment10/28/2018
    55:25
  117. 125.
    Are you enabling the bad behavior of other people?10/21/2018
    1:00:30
  118. 126.
    Decrease Social Anxiety10/17/2018
    21:01
  119. 127.
    I'm right you're wrong: The sides we take that create division and distress10/14/2018
    1:10:09
  120. 128.
    Finding your true path so you don't end up living a false life10/07/2018
    1:00:51
  121. 129.
    Stop believing what hurtful people say to you: Transforming negative self-talk to empowerment09/30/2018
    1:22:21
  122. 130.
    How to avoid miserable relationships by knowing how to make better choices09/23/2018
    1:05:21
  123. 131.
    The phobia of commitments and making decisions09/16/2018
    1:14:51
  124. 132.
    Investigating gut feelings in relationships09/09/2018
    1:01:03
  125. 133.
    Loosening the Emotional Grip Problems Have on You09/02/2018
    1:07:45
  126. 134.
    The fear that you'll never experience something ever again08/26/2018
    1:11:41
  127. 135.
    Signs that you are a difficult person for others08/19/2018
    1:17:18
  128. 136.
    The mess of mixed messages08/12/2018
    1:07:42
  129. 137.
    When a dysfunctional upbringing leaves you with nothing but broken tools08/05/2018
    1:19:05
  130. 138.
    People pleasing your way to unhappiness07/29/2018
    1:13:42
  131. 139.
    Withdrawing love and affection07/22/2018
    1:16:46
  132. 140.
    When you just can't figure out why you're unhappy07/15/2018
    1:11:46
  133. 141.
    Is Your Negative Self-Perception Making You Believe in Lies?07/08/2018
    1:20:52
  134. 142.
    Increasing intimacy in your relationships and a comment on obsessive thinking07/01/2018
    1:23:18
  135. 143.
    Should you leave your partner if the future seems bleak?06/24/2018
    1:18:45
  136. 144.
    Pulling out of the emotional rut06/17/2018
    1:14:23
  137. 145.
    When you can't let go of guilt06/10/2018
    50:26
  138. 146.
    The vulnerabiliity of full self-expression06/03/2018
    1:07:30
  139. 147.
    I don't let anyone get close to me05/27/2018
    1:12:39
  140. 148.
    When your parent doesn't make you feel worthy05/20/2018
    1:02:27
  141. 149.
    Are you capable of emotional abuse?05/13/2018
    1:08:13
  142. 150.
    Learning the process of figuring out problems05/06/2018
    1:17:30
  143. 151.
    Releasing the fears and pain by walking the path of enlightenment04/29/2018
    1:14:24
  144. 152.
    Empowering yourself to fearlessness04/22/2018
    1:04:45
  145. 153.
    When you feel unlovable and unworthy04/15/2018
    53:39
  146. 154.
    When your partner changes their mind about your life plans04/08/2018
    1:02:34
  147. 155.
    The life decision you regret - Never find true love again - Do you value yourself04/01/2018
    1:12:48
  148. 156.
    Life changing lessons and working through introversion03/28/2018
    54:35
  149. 157.
    Exploring infidelity - Can the relationship survive the affair03/25/2018
    1:13:01
  150. 158.
    The life-altering mistake - Controlling others can lead to betrayal - Things narcissists do03/18/2018
    1:02:20
  151. 159.
    Emotionally unavailable - Express and heal - Cancelling Criticism03/11/2018
    46:50
  152. 160.
    When you lose your mentor - The biggest problem in the relationship - Control and Responsibility03/04/2018
    1:06:12
  153. 161.
    Find the Right Teacher - Everything is failing, nothing is working out02/25/2018
    1:15:10
  154. 162.
    Controlling upset toward others - Feeding dysfunctional people - Full commitment then re-evaluation02/18/2018
    1:11:45
  155. 163.
    Changing someone's life - Tackling your insecurities02/11/2018
    1:01:11
  156. 164.
    Breaking up for newbies - Enabling your own terrible relationship - Dating the emotional abuser02/04/2018
    1:16:30
  157. 165.
    Valuing Your Partner's Values for Relationship Longevity01/31/2018
    34:48
  158. 166.
    Handling a Rejection - Combining logic and emotion - Leaving doesn't mean not loving01/28/2018
    1:01:58
  159. 167.
    Stupid questions that heal - Dealing with the Sociopath - Endless codependence01/21/2018
    57:33
  160. 168.
    Will letting go of my narcissistic mom destroy my self-worth?01/17/2018
    54:50
  161. 169.
    Getting along with everyone - Stuck in the marriage - Get offline to stretch your mind01/14/2018
    1:08:58
  162. 170.
    Work sucks. Help.01/13/2018
    38:43
  163. 171.
    An Addict's Mind - Is Suffering Optional - Avoid Healing by Judging Others01/07/2018
    54:08
  164. 172.
    Resolving Before New Years - Are You The Problem - Free Will or Destiny - Get Ready for Next Year12/31/2017
    1:02:27
  165. 173.
    They love you but don't like to say it - Getting over the guilt of how you treated your ex - You can manipulate but should you12/24/2017
    1:11:34
  166. 174.
    The Adapting Chameleon Personality - When they hurt you to get rid of you - Accepting or denying toxic family members12/17/2017
    1:08:04
  167. 175.
    When your partner sides with their family against you12/13/2017
    1:04:40
  168. 176.
    The cheater who went from kind to cold when caught - Ex won't return even after I improve - Your intuition needs closure12/10/2017
    1:10:01
  169. 177.
    Holding on to a lie to keep the relationship going12/06/2017
    1:33:20
  170. 178.
    Attracting higher quality partners - Feeling sorry for those that abuse you - Try, try again or do or do not12/03/2017
    1:02:55
  171. 179.
    Escaping the Real World - Kids and the Narcissistic Parent - The Isolation of the Child Sexual Abuse Survivor11/26/2017
    1:00:06
  172. 180.
    Losing love and the general lies we tell ourselves11/19/2017
    57:34
  173. 181.
    Freeze instead of fight or flight - Learning what didn't work with the ex - Healing the hole in your heart11/12/2017
    1:07:28
  174. 182.
    The abuse victim's perspective - Step-parents and step-children - When honoring yourself leads to loneliness11/05/2017
    1:16:24
  175. 183.
    Keeping Your Relationship from Slipping into Dysfunction10/29/2017
    1:08:31
  176. 184.
    Stonewalling - Expectations of friends - Emotional abuse follows you - Get away to get closer to people10/22/2017
    1:03:25

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