Husband Material

Drew Boa

So you want to outgrow porn. But how? How do you change your brain, heal your heart, and save your relationship? Welcome to Husband Material with Drew Boa, where we answer all these questions and more! Each episode will help you achieve lasting freedom from porn more quickly and permanently—without fighting an exhausting battle. Porn is a pacifier. This podcast will help you outgrow it and become a sexually healthy man of God.

How To Outgrow Porn (Intro to HMA)
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Have you ever felt overwhelmed by stress? In this episode, Marcus Spaur explains the difference between healthy and unhealthy stress, why self-care is not selfish, and how to prepare for stress during the holidays!Marcus Spaur is the founder of Between The Covers Coaching. He is also the Director of Care & Support at Husband Material, and a Certified Husband Material Coach. Email Marcus at marcus.spaur@gmail.com.You can sign up for a free coaching session with Marcus Spaur here.34 Tips For Self-Care: ‣ Drink a cup of hot herbal tea ‣ Sit in the sun and notice the warmth on your skin ‣ Pet a cat ‣ Go for a walk ‣ Take five deep, slow breaths ‣ Tense all the muscles in your body, hold for 5 seconds, then release them ‣ Call a safe friend and share how you are feeling ‣ Give yourself a hug ‣ Do gentle yoga ‣ Pray ‣ Meditate on a comforting verse or scripture or an encouraging word ‣ Listen to soothing music ‣ Take a long, warm bubble bath ‣ Let a mint dissolve in your mouth and focus on its sensation and flavor ‣ Get up and move to another room or a different environment ‣ Journal what you are feeling ‣ Draw or paint ‣ Take your shoes off, go outside, and let your toes feel the earth beneath you ‣ Take a nap ‣ Put on comfortable clothes  ‣ Snuggle into a soft blanket ‣ Light a scented candle ‣ Turn off all your devices for 30 minutes, sit quietly and breathe ‣ Shift your posture ‣ Hug a loved one and don’t let go until you relax into their embrace ‣ Do something that made you happy as a child ‣ Laugh out loud ‣ Splash in a puddle ‣ Get a massage ‣ Connect with a supportive group: Bible study, small group, 12 step community ‣ Sing out loud ‣ Stretch ‣ Play on a playground ‣ Write down 10 things for which you have gratitude—Excerpted from Altogether You Guided Journaling Worksheets (page 17) by Jenna Riemersma. Get more tips, videos, and free resources at jennariemersma.com.Join our private community at https://www.husbandmaterial.co/

29 de nov.

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Forgiveness is crucial to healing, but so often misunderstood. Get clarity about what forgiveness is (not) with these five truths: 1. Forgiveness is not permission. 2. Forgiveness is not a feeling. It's a choice.3. Forgiveness is not a moment. It's a process.4. Forgiveness is not easy or free. It's costly.5. Forgiveness is not a burden. It's a gift."Be kind to one another, tenderhearted, forgiving one another, as God in Christ forgave you." Ephesians 4:32Living in forgiveness is living in freedom!Join our private community at www.husbandmaterial.co

22 de nov.

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Have you ever felt like an orphan? Do you long to belong, but have difficulty trusting others? In this episode, Eddie Capparucci unpacks "the orphan spirit"—what it is, why we struggle with it, and the power of our true identity: Beloved Sons Of The Most High King. Dr. Eddie Capparucci is a Christian therapist who specializes in the treatment of sex and porn addiction. He's the creator of the Inner Child Recovery Process (ICRP) and the author of two books (these are paid links):Removing Your Shame Label: Learning To Break From Shame And Feel God's LoveGoing Deeper: How The Inner Child Impacts Your Sexual AddictionAlso check out Eddie and Drew's Going Deeper Workbook!***NEW COURSE ANNOUNCEMENT***Healing The Inner Child: Video Course For Christian Men6 Hours Of Video Training12 Page Companion PDFThe Inner Child Assessment"I discovered things from my childhood that I had no idea that happened or affected me. I learned about tools to become a better man every day." —Sak“I understand more about myself. The information was incredible and delivered with compassion—an amazing balance of clinical and spiritual advice.” —Larry“The work that Eddie, Drew, and other leaders at the retreat were able to do is a refreshing approach to freedom from porn that allows us to love ourselves." —JayBuy the new video course on Healing The Inner Child at: husbandmaterial.com/healing-the-inner-childJoin our private community at https://www.husbandmaterial.co/

15 de nov.

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The image of God in you is good. In this episode, author and therapist Jenna Riemersma beautifully explains how the image of God can bring healing and freedom to every part of us... including any parts attached to pornography and other unwanted behaviors.Jenna Riemersma is the founder and clinical director of The Atlanta Center for Relational Healing. She is also teaching faculty for the International Institute of Trauma and Addiction Professionals (IITAP).Jenna also provides dozens of free resources at MoveToward.com.Text JENNA to 33777 to receive...A free "Move Toward" WorksheetA guided meditation for sex addictionA guided meditation for betrayal traumaBuy Jenna's book here: (this is a paid link):Altogether You: Experiencing Personal And Spiritual Transformation Through Internal Family Systems TherapyJoin our private community at https://www.husbandmaterial.co/

8 de nov.

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If you feel unworthy or unlovable, please listen to this. It's a sermon—the same one I preached at the recent Husband Material Retreat in Santa Barbara. How Jesus Reverses The Curse: A Case Study From The Life Of Peter Sermon on John 21 by Drew Boa Sunday, October 10th, 2021 The Rupture: Peter's unfinished business with JesusThe Repair: Jesus confronts Peter with compassionThe Redemption: Peter courageously follows JesusJoin our private community at https://www.husbandmaterial.co/

1 de nov.

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Play is not optional for outgrowing porn. It's essential! In this episode, Dr. Michael Crocker explains why play supports sexual recovery, and what it looks like to rediscover healthy play as an adult man.Dr. Michael Crocker is the founder and director of The Sexuality, Attachment, and Trauma Project as well as a private practitioner. Michael provides direct clinical services that address trauma, cross addiction, out-of-control sexual behavior, as well as sexual inhibition, intimacy anxiety, gender disorders, and sexual identity confusion. You can email him at michael@sexualityproject.org.Highly recommended: take Michael's free assessment,  The Play & Positive Affect Inventory.Books mentioned in this episode (these are paid links):Real Boys: Rescuing Our Sons From The Myths Of Boyhood, by William PollackPlay: How It Shapes The Brain, Opens The Imagination, And Invigorates The Soul, by Stuart Brown and Christopher VaughanJoin our private community at https://www.husbandmaterial.co/

25 de out.

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Do you want to feel loved? Then you must remove your filter. Matthew Ray Lyda is here to help us do that... through the power of unfiltered poetry!Matthew Ray Lyda is a Pastoral Sex Addiction Professional who has published a book of poetry (this is a paid link): Recover The Wild: Unfiltered Poems And Prayers. Matthew is also trained as a mental health & life purpose coach. You can email him at matthewlyda@gmail.com.Take the free 7-Day Filterless Poetry Challenge!(and receive personal feedback from Matthew Ray Lyda)You're invited to the Husband Material Poetry Recital on October 26 at 5 PM Pacific Time! Access the link to join inside the Husband Material Community at husbandmaterial.co.

18 de out.

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Why do we compare ourselves to others? What is the cure for comparison? In this episode, my dear friend and mentor Michael Tso and I talk about our struggles with comparison... and the powerful antidote of belovedness!Dr. Michael Tso is a Family Medicine Doctor at Alliance Clinical Associates in Wheaton, Illinois. Michael specializes in mental health care with a whole person approach that integrates biological, psychological, relational and spiritual aspects of personhood.Books mentioned in this episode (these are paid links):The Inner Voice Of Love, by Henri NouwenRedeemed Sexuality, by Drew BoaJoin our private community at https://www.husbandmaterial.co/

11 de out.

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How does porn (mis)educate us? What exactly does it teach? In this episode, I'll share the 5 As of porn, the 2 core messages, and how to experience sexual re-education.Resources mentioned in this episode (these are paid links):The Psychology Of Porn, by Andrew BaumanPornland: How Porn Has Hijacked Our Sexuality, by Gail DinesJoin our private community at www.husbandmaterial.co

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4 de out.

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"Sexual discipleship is teaching people HOW to think about sexuality, not WHAT to think about sexuality." In this episode, Dr. Juli Slattery helps us rethink sexuality according to the story of God, rather than the toxic sexual narratives of porn and purity culture. Juli Slattery is a clinical psychologist, author, speaker and the president/co-founder of Authentic Intimacy. She is also the author of ten books and host of the weekly podcast "Java with Juli." Juli and her husband Mike are the parents of 3 sons; they live in Akron, Ohio.Get Juli's book (this is a paid link):Rethinking Sexuality: God's Design And Why It MattersAlso check out Juli's free resources at AuthenticIntimacy.com and SexualDiscipleship.comJoin our private community at https://www.husbandmaterial.co/

27 de set.

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How does enmeshment with a parent lead to sexual brokenness? And how can we heal from it? In this episode, Dr. Ken Adams will inspire you to break free from inappropriate loyalty so you can regain your passion and purpose in life.Dr. Ken Adams is a world-renowned therapist and expert on enmeshment, covert incest, shame, abuse, and sex addiction. Learn more about Dr. Adams and the Mother-Enmeshed Men Workshop at overcomingenmeshment.com.Free Resources:Take the Men's Enmeshment Impact SurveyTake the Enmeshment Resilience QuestionnaireBooks by Dr. Ken Adams (these are paid links):Silently Seduced: When Parents Make Their Children PartnersWhen He's Married To Mom: How to Help Mother-Enmeshed Men Open Their Hearts to True Love and CommitmentJoin our private community at www.husbandmaterial.co/

20 de set.

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Do your sexual fantasies ever feel confusing or disturbing? Have you ever wondered why they are so powerful, or how they work? In this episode, you will learn my exact formula for interpreting sexual fantasies.If you don't understand your fantasies, you will have a love/hate relationship with them. However, sexual fantasies lose much of their power when you learn how to interpret them. You can become less ashamed, and more accepting of yourself. You can also become less fixated, and more flexible. This will help you strip porn of its seductive power!Download the free worksheet: How To Interpret Sexual FantasiesJoin our private community at https://www.husbandmaterial.co/

13 de set.

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Attachment is at the core of who we are, why we struggle, and how we heal. Dr. Jake Porter explains attachment in a way that is powerful, practical, and personal. Listening to this episode is insightful and delightful!Dr. Jake Porter is the founder of Couple-Centered Recovery, a model for treating attachment wounds of couples experiencing the trauma of betrayal. Jake is a Christian psychotherapist who has taught and presented research on the topics of theology, counseling, trauma, and addiction around the world.Connect with Jake at drjakeporter.com or daringventures.com.Join our private community at https://www.husbandmaterial.co/

6 de set.

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Get wisdom on how to practically build brotherhood with 2-3 other men. At Husband Material, we call groups of 3 men "triads." In this episode, you'll learn why we recommend triads over accountability partners, how to form your own triad, and what real men in 3 different triads are currently doing to help each other heal.3 Ways To Form A Triad:Join the Husband Material Community (free)Join Husband Material Academy (low cost, low commitment)Join a Husband Material Small Group (high cost, high commitment)Join our private community at https://husbandmaterial.co/

23 de ago.

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Why is it so hard to make friends with other men? How can we go deep and get close without getting inappropriate? What about physical touch? Many of us never learned these things. If you long for deep, satisfying brotherhood in Christ, this episode is for you.Join our private community at https://husbandmaterial.co/

16 de ago.

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Why is it so difficult to stop using porn? What brain chemicals are involved, and how do they work together? Listen to recovery coach Greg Oliver answer these questions with sharp insights from neuroscience and Scripture.Dopamine & Norepinephrine = anticipation and arousalOxytocin & Vasopressin = bonding and mate selectionSerotonin & Prolactin = soothing relaxation and sleepIf you would like a summary of all the research we shared today, email Greg Oliver at greg@awakenrecovery.com.Greg is a certified Sexual Recovery Pastoral Counselor and the Director/Co-founder (with his wife Stacey) of Awaken, a ministry that helps individuals, couples, and ministry leaders find hope and resources for sexual brokenness. Awaken offers in-person & virtual recovery meetings, 1-on-1 and couples coaching, and recovery intensives & workshops. Learn more at awakenrecovery.com.Other resources mentioned in this episode:Slave Master: How Pornography Changes Your Brain (by Donald Hilton)Supernormal Stimuli (summarizing research by Nikolaas Tinbergen)Everything You Know About Addiction Is Wrong (by Johann Hari)Join our private community at https://husbandmaterial.co/

9 de ago.

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One of my all-time favorite storytellers is Nate Larkin. In this episode, Nate tells his whole story. You'll hear how he failed as a Pharisee, how he came out of hiding, what he is struggling with right now, and how to do the 4-point check-in he uses with his friends on a daily basis.Nate Larkin is the founder of the Samson Society, a fellowship of Christian men who are serious about authenticity, community, humility, and recovery. Buy Nate's book here (this is a paid link): Samson and the Pirate Monks: Calling Men To Authentic BrotherhoodJoin our private community at https://www.husbandmaterial.app

2 de ago.

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What is God's design for the testicles? How do testicles uniquely reflect the image of God? You might be surprised! This episode is a follow-up to a previous episode: Theology of the Penis (with Jeremy Williamson).Join our private community at https://www.husbandmaterial.app

26 de jul.

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Have you ever met someone who over-spiritualizes everything? In this episode, Dr. Craig Cashwell will introduce the concept of spiritual bypass: how spiritual ideas or practices can become a crutch to cope with pain or trauma (just like pornography). Along the way, Craig will explain different examples of spiritual bypass, such as toxic positivity, compulsive goodness, and forced forgiveness. We will also talk about how emotional/spiritual health is totally different and so much better!Dr. Craig Cashwell is Professor of Counselor Education and Clinical Mental Health Counseling at William & Mary, and a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist Supervisor. You can email him at cscashwell@wm.edu.Books featuring Dr. Craig Cashwell (these are paid links):Shadows Of The Cross: A Christian Companion to Facing The ShadowIntegrating Spirituality and Religion Into Counseling.Join our private community at https://www.husbandmaterial.app

19 de jul.

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This is the story of a couple who nearly divorced 4 years into marriage due to chronic sexual betrayal. They got a lot of bad advice and made a lot of mistakes, but with God as their foundation, Clinton and Charity Muñoz are now closer than ever before. They went from infidelity to intimacy—from crisis to closeness—and now they help others do the same at Restored 2 More.Learn more about Restored 2 More here:Restored2More.comRestored2More PodcastRestored2More InstagramJoin our private community at husbandmaterial.app

12 de jul.

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The voice in your head that constantly criticizes you, saying you're weak, ugly, stupid, or not good enough is the voice of a bully. Bullying can come from anywhere: parents, peers, or even pornography. In this episode, Dr. Doug Carpenter explains why bullying creates the "inner critic" inside each of us, how bullying can be sexualized, what to do if you are currently being bullied, and how to heal from the effects of past bullying.Dr. Doug Carpenter is the founder of Insight Counseling Services in Michigan. This week, Doug is giving away a few copies of his book (this is a paid link): Childhood Trauma and the Non-Alpha Male inside the Husband Material Community here.Resources mentioned in this episode:Inside Out (Disney/Pixar Film)Internal Family SystemsSelf-Compassion.orgJoin our private community at husbandmaterial.app

5 de jul.

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What is the autonomic nervous system and why should I care? Because freedom from porn depends on it. Being able to notice, name, and navigate your nervous system allows you to regulate, replacing the pacifier of porn.You can find a visual summary of this episode here.Resources mentioned (these are paid links):The Body Keeps The Score, by Dr. Bessel van der KolkPolyvagal Theory in Therapy, by Deb DanaPolyvagal Exercises for Safety & Connection, by Deb DanaThe Pocket Guide to the Polyvagal Theory, by Dr. Stephen PorgesJoin our private community at husbandmaterial.app

28 de jun.

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What is a mother wound? How do you know if you have one? And how can mother wounds be healed? In this episode, Dan Hitz tells the story of his mother wounds, how they impacted his sexuality, and what the Lord has done to alleviate his anger, remove his self-hatred, and allow him to feel safe with women. Dan Hitz is the Executive Director of Reconciliation Ministries (a member of Restored Hope Network). Dan is a Licensed Professional Counselor in Michigan, a Certified Clinical Trauma Professional [CCTP], and has been trained in EMDR.You can email Dan at dhitz@recmin.org.Related resources by Dan Hitz:Overcoming the Mother Wound (article)When My Mother and Father Forsake Me (article)Join our private community at husbandmaterial.app

21 de jun.

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What is God's purpose for the penis? How does it reflect the image of God? And how can I reclaim the goodness of my penis? Join me and Jeremy Williamson for a candid conversation about God, men, and embodied brotherhood.Jeremy Williamson is a Pastoral Counselor at Restoration Counseling in Northern Colorado. Email Jeremy at jeremy@restorationcounselingnoco.com.Join our private community at husbandmaterial.app

14 de jun.

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Why are certain times of the day, week, or year more difficult? Because emotions fluctuate. In this episode, I'll help you prepare for emotionally difficult times and seasons so you can give yourself plenty of grace and space to process your emotions rather than turning to the pacifier of porn.Join our private community at https://www.husbandmaterial.app

7 de jun.

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How does psychology relate to spirituality? How does therapy relate to theology? Dr. Ken McGill is a Christ-centered clinician who has been answering these questions for decades. In this episode, Dr. Ken offers a perspective on sex addiction that is both clinical and compatible with Christianity.Dr. Ken McGill is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist with a Doctorate in Clinical Psychology. He is the author of Cultivating Love Book Series (this is a paid link): https://amzn.to/3hUNmlv Learn more about Dr. Ken at drkenmcgill.com.Join our private community at husbandmaterial.app

31 de mai.

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Measuring freedom from porn usually produces self-contempt or self-righteousness. How can we avoid these two pitfalls? Is there a better way? Yes, there is! In this episode, I'll share the 4 levels of freedom from porn, how to evaluate your sexual and emotional maturity and my #1 most meaningful measurement.Register my upcoming free live class, "How To Outgrow Porn," at outgrowporn.com!Join our private community at husbandmaterial.app

24 de mai.

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Why do we return to porn even though it harms us? What if we return to porn precisely because it harms us? The answer is often re-enactment. "Re-enactment (noun): the acting out of a past event." Therapist and licensed mental health counselor Wendell Moss tells the story how porn re-enacted sexual abuse from when he was a boy, and what happened when he was confronted by the fierce kindness of God.Wendell Moss teaches at The Seattle School of Theology & Psychology and The Allender Center. Although he is privileged and delighted to work with both men and women, Wendell loves to create contexts of healing for men, especially African American men. Contact Wendell here.Books and resources mentioned in this episode (these are paid links):To Be Told, by Dan AllenderHealing The Wounded Heart, by Dan AllenderThe Cure, by John Lynch, Bruce McNichol and Bill ThrallRedeemed Sexuality, by Drew BoaPure Desire, by Ted RobertsJoin our private community at husbandmaterial.app

17 de mai.

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Have you ever been hurt by a sibling or close friend? Sometimes porn is used as a pacifier for painful peer relationships... or in some cases, the lack of any relationships at all. Marcus Spaur knows what it's like to be scarred by a sibling, and also what it's like to heal more deeply than he ever imagined. He has over 6 years of freedom from porn... and a passion for helping other men become the best possible versions of themselves this side of heaven!Marcus Spaur is the founder of Between The Covers Coaching. He is the newest Certified Husband Material Coach, joining Drew Boa and Stephen Thomas in working with individuals and leading small groups this summer. Contact Marcus for a free coaching session at marcus.spaur@gmail.com or (509) 870-7081.Apply to join an upcoming Husband Material Small Group with Marcus, Drew, or Stephen at husbandmaterial.com/groupJoin our private community app at husbandmaterial.app

10 de mai.

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Let's change the way we talk about sexual attractions and desires. No matter who or what you're sexually attracted to, this episode is for you. What can we do with unwanted sexual attraction? 1. Talk about it 2. Understand it 3. Appreciate it 4. Manage it Join our private community at husbandmaterial.app! 

3 de mai.

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Porn-induced erectile dysfunction is more common—and curable—than you might think. Hear Shawn Bonneteau's story of PIED/ED, why he continued to struggle after years of freedom from porn, and how he finally overcame it. Shawn also shares practical steps to freedom from PIED/ED, including The Thought Model.Download Shawn's free 5-page PDF explaining The Thought Model here.Shawn Bonneteau is a professional mentor and the co-founder of Secret Habit, where he and his wife Helena equip & empower people to heal from the harmful effects of pornography. Contact Shawn at https://secrethabit.ca/contact/Join Shawn and Helena for a more intimate conversation about erectile dysfunction from a couple's perspective on May 4th inside our private community at husbandmaterial.app

26 de abr.

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Porn is a pacifier for conflict...with God, with others, and even with ourselves. Learn to embrace conflict in a redemptive way with author and therapist Jay Stringer. I recommend Jay's book more than any other (this is a paid link): Unwanted: How Sexual Brokenness Reveals Our Way To HealingMore Resources by Jay Stringer and Drew Boa:The Sexual Fantasy Framework (Free Mini-Course)The Unwanted Digital WorkbookJay will be joining us for an exclusive Q&A event and special announcement this week on Wednesday, April 21st, at 2:00 PM Pacific Time. This Zoom Meeting will be hosted inside our community app at husbandmaterial.app. Get the app and we'll see you there!

19 de abr.

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Listen to this short clip on repeat to memorize Ephesians 6:10-17.Join our private community at husbandmaterial.app!

12 de abr.

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We are not in a war against sexuality (which is good); we are in a war against evil. Come learn 7 strategies for spiritual warfare based on the Temptation of Jesus in Matthew 4:1-11... and hear my special spiritual warfare song! Download a free one-page summary of this episode here:husbandmaterial.com/43NOTE: In the middle of this presentation I started weeping.  Don't be alarmed! It's okay. God was ministering to me. I believe my tears are not a sign of weakness, but strength.

12 de abr.

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In a marriage devastated by porn, when and how should sex come back into the picture? In part two of this two-part series, Adam King and Karissa King explain how to slowly but surely restore sexual intimacy to be better than it ever was before.Adam and Karissa (@dearyoungmarriedcouple) have been working as a coach-therapist team since 2011 and are dedicated to helping couples become intimately connected, get adventurous, and find purpose. They serve couples all over the world through online marriage counseling and coaching.Buy Adam and Karissa's Card Decks For Couples (these are paid links):FOUNDATIONS - Questions And Tips To Become More ConnectedREALIZATIONS - See How Well You Know Your Significant OtherSEXPECTATIONS - Talk Openly About Sex Without Having SexMore DYMC Resources...PodcastYouTubeInstagramWebsite: dearyoungmarriedcouple.comPhone: (916) 678-1797E-mail: hello@dearyoungmarriedcouple.com

5 de abr.

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In a marriage devastated by porn, how do you rebuild trust? In part one of this two part series, Adam King and Karissa King share the 5 steps every couple must take to rebuild trust (for both spouses).Download the free PDF guide here: 5 Steps When Trust Has Been BrokenAdam and Karissa (@dearyoungmarriedcouple) have been working as a coach-therapist team since 2011 and are dedicated to helping couples become intimately connected, get adventurous, and find purpose. They serve couples all over the world through online marriage counseling and coaching.Buy Adam and Karissa's Card Decks For Couples (these are paid links):FOUNDATIONS - Questions And Tips To Become More ConnectedREALIZATIONS - See How Well You Know Your Significant OtherSEXPECTATIONS - Talk Openly About Sex Without Having SexMore DYMC Resources...PodcastYouTubeInstagramWebsite: dearyoungmarriedcouple.comPhone: (916) 678-1797E-mail: hello@dearyoungmarriedcouple.com

29 de mar.

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We believe practicing verbal affirmation is absolutely essential to outgrowing porn. In this episode, Drew and Stephen will tell you why, and share practical strategies for how (not) to do it.Qualities Of Effective Affirmation: specific and precise (not generic or vague)evidence-based (clearly not made up)focused on the person (not the performance)We practice affirming each other every week inside Husband Material small groups! Apply to join an upcoming group here: husbandmaterial.com/group

22 de mar.

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How does porn relate to your father? If you have been under-fathered, what does it look like to be re-fathered? And how can we become fathers who reverse the curse of sexual sin and shame? Let this conversation with Chris Bruno open your eyes!Chris Bruno is the Founder and CEO of Restoration Project, a ministry restoring the hearts of men. He is also the leader of Restoration Counseling and a married father who enjoys mountains, rivers, and hammocks.Chris has authored two books (these are paid links):Man Maker Project: Boys are Born, Men are MadeBrotherhood Primer: A Journey Into Genuine Masculine Friendships Get 2 months of free access to "No Regrets," Chris Bruno's online community for fathers, here: restorationproject.net/husband-material

15 de mar.

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Let's change our brains. How can we take back control of our thoughts and transform our core beliefs? My fellow Canadian friend Sathiya Sam is here to show us how.Sathiya Sam is the founder of Deep Clean, an online recovery program that helps Christian men overcome porn. Connect with Sathiya  @sathiyamesam and check out his program at getadeepclean.com

8 de mar.

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What are triggers? How do triggers work? And most importantly, how can we take back control when we get triggered? This episode will answer each of these questions clearly and concisely...and at the end, I'll explain my own B.O.A. Technique for effective regulation.Download the free one-page summary: Nine Tips About Triggers

1 de mar.

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Hear Dr. Christopher Yuan's amazing story of coming to Christ, surrendering same-sex attraction, and embracing the gift of singleness.Dr. Christopher Yuan has taught at Moody Bible Institute for over ten years and his speaking ministry on faith and sexuality has reached five continents. In this episode, we dive into his newest book: Holy Sexuality and the Gospel.Dr. Yuan is the author of three books (these are paid links):1. Out of a Far Country: A Gay Son’s Journey to God, A Broken Mother’s Search for Hope2. Giving a Voice to the Voiceless: Reducing The Marginalization Of Same-Sex Attracted Students3. Holy Sexuality and the Gospel: Sex, Desire, and Relationships Shaped by God’s Grand StoryLearn more about Christopher at christopheryuan.com

23 de fev.

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Outgrowing porn can be especially difficult for pastors and ministry leaders. Hear how Pastor Bernie Anderson got found out, but found a way out...and how God found a way in!Bernie will be a leader at the upcoming Husband Material Virtual Retreat. Sign up now to join his small group! Buy Bernie's book here (this is a paid link): Breaking The Silence: A Pastor Goes Public About His Battle With PornographyEmail Bernie at banderson33@me.com

15 de fev.

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What should I do with my sexual desires—my attractions, urges, impulses, cravings, fantasies, aches, longings, and yearnings? I've been on a quest to answer this question for 15 years and finally found an answer worth sharing...Download the worksheet for this episode with 35 desires and 4 directions for each one:https://www.husbandmaterial.com/35-desires-and-4-directionsP.S. Don't forget to sign up for the upcoming Husband Material Virtual Retreat! 

8 de fev.

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We all have blind spots. But what are they? If we knew, they wouldn't be blind spots! Listen to a lively conversation between 4 leaders as we talk about the blind spots we commonly see in ourselves and the men we coach.Eddie, Drew, Scott, and Stephen will all be leaders at the upcoming Husband Material Virtual Retreat on "Healing The Inner Child" on the weekend of February 26-28!Get the details and register now at husbandmaterial.com/retreatOther free resources mentioned on this episode:Eddie Capparucci's Blind SpotsScott Cone's Self-Compassion BreakDrew Boa's Identity Statements

1 de fev.

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Let's redefine purity: it's a relationship, not an accomplishment...it's about presence, not performance...and according to Jasper Hall, it comes from Jesus.Jasper Hall is the President of pureHOPE, a ministry equipping men and women to pursue purity through relationship with Jesus. Jasper brings a sense of calm and assurance to people who feel anxiety about navigating a sexualized, digital age. Learn more at purehope.net

25 de jan.

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Do you ever feel trapped? Let me give you 5 empowering choices when it feels like porn is the only option...and along the way, I'll tell a story I've never shared in public before.This episode comes with a free PDF worksheet.

18 de jan.

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Many of us grew up without a clue about what it means to be a sexually healthy man. That's why I'm so grateful for Andrew Bauman and his new book, "The Sexually Healthy Man." Join us for a rugged conversation about true masculine sexuality.Andrew J. Bauman and his wife Christy run the Christian Counseling Center for Sexual Health and Trauma, where they "provide high-quality experiential, narrative-based psychotherapy from a Christian worldview." Andrew is the author of several books, including The Psychology of Porn, A Brave Lament, and Stumbling Toward Wholeness.Get Andrew's new book: The Sexually Healthy ManTake Andrew's online quiz: Are You A Sexually Healthy Man?Connect with Andrew and read his blog at http://www.andrewjbauman.comJoin our free private community for men: http://husbandmaterialmen.com/

11 de jan.

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The global anti-porn movement is gaining momentum. In this episode, you'll hear about it directly from Clay Olsen, co-founder of Fight The New Drug. Fight The New Drug (FTND) is a youth movement dedicated to raising awareness of the harmful effects of pornography and other forms of sexual exploitation. Learn more at fightthenewdrug.org.Here are 2 amazing resources by Fight The New Drug everyone needs to know about: Brain Heart World - brainheartworld.orgThis is a 3-part documentary series about the effects of porn. It's funny, fascinating, and free.Fortify - husbandmaterial.com/fortifyThis is a mobile app that helps you enjoy life without porn. It's free with the option of upgrading for premium features. Support Husband Material by using the link above to create your account.

4 de jan.

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Learn the two styles of relating you need to outgrow in order to enjoy the freedom of life as an adult.Interested in outgrowing porn? Learn more at outgrowporn.com.Join our free private community for men: http://husbandmaterialmen.com/

dez. de 2020

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Within each of us, there are three bears in three chairs. Listen to Marnie Ferree explain why, and you'll understand yourself in a whole new way.Marnie C. Ferree is a licensed marriage and family therapist in Nashville, Tennessee, where she directs Bethesda Workshops, which provides Christian-based treatment for sex addicts, their partners, couples, and teens affected by sexual addiction. Learn more at https://www.bethesdaworkshops.org/Marnie is also the author of No Stones: Women Redeemed from Sexual Addiction: https://www.amazon.com/No-Stones-Redeemed-Sexual-Addiction/dp/083083740XNo Stones is one of my all-time favorite books!

dez. de 2020

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