From Betrayal To Breakthrough

Dr. Debi Silber

The betrayal of a family member, partner, friend, etc. can create physical, mental and emotional challenges. If left unhealed, it impacts us personally and professionally. The From Betrayal to Breakthrough podcast shares insights from the best therapists, coaches, healers, thought leaders and everyday people, to help you move forward and heal...

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Kathy Hammond is a 27-year veteran stepmom, writer, speaker, and award-winning author. In her second book, How to Kill Your Husband’s Ex, Attorneys, and Then Some: Ass Kickin’ Advice for Stepmoms, Kathy delivers a uniquely off-center perspective and advice for stepmoms to keep their sanity and money intact in challenging stepfamily arrangements. Kathy has an M.A. in Organizational Management and speaks and writes on motivation, goal setting, and goal attainment. She is the CEO of a recruitment solution firm in Southern California, where she lives with her husband, John. Kathy is stepmom to two, now grown, sons. On This Episode How to navigate the often tricky road of stepparenting How to take on the new role of stepparent What to do and what not to do when disciplining stepchildren Quotes “You know, it's a dysfunctional arrangement, to begin with.” [1:51] “I'm not trying to replace their mom, how do you balance that? How do you negotiate that? You don't pretend that you're their parent.” [4:00] “It takes people time to get used to the situation.” [8:19] “You need to empathize. One of the things that I also recommend too is for stepmoms to encourage their spouses, to sit down with the ax once a year, at least.” [10:22] “The adults who are supposed to be protecting these kids are behaving like kids.” [19:08] “It takes time to develop any relationship.” [21:54] “I think that anytime we get involved, we actually make things worse.” [26:50] Resources Kathy Hammond Website The PBT Institute Membership CommunityThe Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz

Sep 21

35 min

The most amazing questions come up in the PBT Membership Community when I hold our weekly live “coffee chats” and it’s always an interesting conversation. This came up recently and I have a feeling it will serve you too. So often, we have that nagging, inner voice; an inner critic that keeps commenting on what we’re doing, what we’re thinking, how we’re behaving, all of it. What do we do about that? Today, I invite you to do two things to help address this. On This Episode  Discover how to manage that persistent, inner critic in our mind  Understand why critical thoughts pop up  Learn two practical techniques to quiet that internal negative voice Quotes “The first thing is you want to become aware of what you’re saying to yourselves. Are you saying kind, loving thoughts? Are you saying nasty, critical thoughts?” [0:52] “Do you hear that negative, critical voice? Does it sound familiar? Do you know where that voice is coming from? We can’t change what we are unaware of. So once you know what you’re dealing with, then say ‘Does this serve me anymore?’ and if I’ve outgrown it. Just because it’s been a belief for so long, doesn’t mean we have to keep it.” [2:56] “So if a majority of our thoughts are based on these negative beliefs, think about how it’s showing up throughout your day, think about the choices you’re making, think about the conversations you’re having with other people, think about the decisions you’re making based on these beliefs.” [3:44] “Even if you catch ten times throughout the day of you being judgmental or critical with yourself, that’s ten opportunities to change them to something better and say something loving.” [5:58] “We’re always learning and growing. So why not be a little gentler, a little kinder with ourselves?” [7:19]   Resources The PBT Institute Website The PBT Institute Membership Community The Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz  

Sep 17

12 min

Holly Jean Jackson helps entrepreneurs and business leaders love their life and business again. With over 12 years of technology and business experience, she helps business leaders get their groove back physically, mentally, and emotionally. She does this through a combined approach of both coaching and consulting, providing practical and actionable results. She also helps in fear and frustration with technology. Holly also teaches her clients to remember self-care is essential, not optional. In This Episode Understand how a person can learn from her own betrayals and use that information to change health, relationships, and life. Know how to create awareness around your behavior Discover the possibilities of how something really good can happen from something really bad Quotes “There's a lot of pain from the past. I had some health challenges, but my biggest betrayal was I was married for about six years.” [3:01] “A lot of rages, a lot of feeling worthless, feeling clueless feeling like my life was over.” [3:31] “I think I needed time in a safe space alone to collect my thoughts and figure out what I needed to do next.” [6:20] “We're so filled with shame or embarrassment, or whatever it is, and we suffer and struggle in silence” [7:11] “I just went backpacking alone, because I knew that the biggest fear I needed to face was my own mental chatter, my own anxiety, and if I could face that I could face anything.” [11:35] “I kept a lot of space and distance to make sure I still kept my self-care standards.” [15:12] “He knew I was in Celebrate Recovery for codependency. He knew that I was working on making sure that I had healthy boundaries.” [16:26] “He made me feel like the best version of myself versus the worst version of myself.” [17:21] “I wanted to break that pattern and empower other people that were having that same experience to get their health back because you can't really do anything successfully if you don't have your health.” [26:00] “You're not alone.” [28:20] “Let's share inspiration instead of all of the crazy negativity in the world.” [29:36] Resources Holly Jean Jackson Website Inspiration Contagion The PBT Institute Membership CommunityThe Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz

Sep 14

35 min

Heather Aardemer is a board-certified, functional medicine certified health coach and the founder of Root of Well Being. She's an aspiring minimalist, a real food advocate and a big fan of living a lighter life. Powerful principles of minimalism, simplicity, positive psychology and functional nutrition are woven throughout her work. Today, it's her passion to help other women in their prime release the complication and clutter that's been weighing them down so that they can make space for the things that matter most. She does this work through her private client coaching and weight loss sisterhood, where she guides women towards weight loss breakthroughs by helping them release the clutter in their heads, their hearts, their kitchens, and helps them get to the root of living the lives they love.  On This Episode Discover how betrayal and a minimalist lifestyle correlate with each other Learn the strategies of how to unclutter your mind, body and life after betrayal Learn simple tips to become freer, lighter and happier than you’ve ever been before Quotes “If I want to be competitive, I need to release some of these pounds.” [6:35] “I really just think my body was saying, you know what, Heather with your body chemistry because it's always my chemistry that is unique to the next person to the next lesson. We just can't tolerate all this stuff.” [08:38] “And I felt for a long time like this is a betrayal. Why is my body doing this? I'm strong. I'm fierce, powerful. I'm a fast runner. Why is my body saying slow down?” [12:41] “I can't believe how lucky I am now that I get to work with women who are willing to adjust the clutter in their life.” [16:15] “We have so much on our plate, we are living these overloaded, addicted to busy lives.” [22:00] “Sometimes people think of it as frugality. But really, what it is, is just getting rid of the things that aren't serving us so that we can focus on the things that we want to, the things that mean the most.” [26:57] “Find that white space, find that quiet space and ask yourself what matters most to you.” [31:21] Resources Root of Well Being Website The PBT Institute Membership CommunityThe Post Betrayal Syndrome QuizTrust Again-Debi’s new book (and great bonus gifts!)  

Sep 10

35 min

Carolyn Herfurth does her part to flatten the curve. She stands shoulder-to-shoulder with six and seven figure business owners who want to pivot to their next level of growth. She's a pro when it comes to seeing the opportunities and crafting new revenue streams. She works with women and helps them grow in scale, and launch their businesses.   In This Episode   Understand how you may be betraying yourself in business Know what to do to communicate authentically and in congruence with who you are and what you’re offering Understand why sometimes business simply doesn't work   Quotes   “There's a lot of cultivation of self doubt, and shame and repression, and that shows up required, requiring you to surrender your own judgment to that of others.” [3:01]   “Women can be bro marketers.” [4:53]   “I talked about bro marketing is any type of behavior that feels manipulative.” [7:07]   “There's just this system of bro tactics and strategies that we've all been like, it's like seeing air. It's just like you don't see it. You don't know it's there. But you know, it's there.” [9:24]   “I'm typically not going to have a client who's doing something that feels super incongruent because I would never ask them to do it.” [15:22]   “When you're aligned when you're speaking the way you're supposed to be speaking, it just kind of works.” [21:23]   “ I think a lot of betrayal is people coming up with excuses not to invest in themselves.” [22:53]   “It never really worked because the full transformation didn't happen.” [28:03] “If you can look at a coach as a thought partner, someone who's going to ask insightful questions and help you get to see where your blocks are and where you're getting caught up and kind of like not going through the evolution but staying stuck in one little spot. I just think that's incredibly important.” [32:35]   Resources Carolyn Herfurth Website The PBT Institute Membership CommunityThe Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz  

Sep 7

38 min

Post-Betrayal Syndrome is the collection of physical, mental, and emotional symptoms common to betrayal. So many people (all ages and from so many different countries) have taken the assessment to see to what extent they're struggling. Almost everyone who takes the quiz struggles with some type of physical, mental, or emotional issue after their experience. What I see so often is our first line of defense is to take something to medicate, numb, distract ourselves, or to do anything just to try to mask the pain. But more often than not, this can manifest into something physical that can greatly affect our entire well-being. In This Episode Know why it's almost impossible to not have symptoms after a betrayal Learn the way out of the trauma from a betrayal experience Discover how the latest physical issues stem from the mental and emotional issues Quotes “When you think about it, isn't a betrayal difficult to digest, absorb, and process?” [5:14] There are five stages you will go through when you're healing from betrayal. You can't skip them. You can't avoid them. You can't change the order of them. It's just what will happen as you move through it.” [9:40] “What we need to do is heal it at the root.” [13:16] “Even though it happened to you, it's not about you.” [16:08] Resources The PBT Institute Membership CommunityTake the Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz

Sep 3

21 min

Scott Mason is the son of a Mid-western civil servant and a factory worker. History and triumphs against adversity led to his unlikely and unexpected success as an attorney, government official, entrepreneur, and community leader in one of the toughest cities on Earth. He is currently a motivational and keynotes speaker, small business consultant leadership mentor, with a publication of a book discussing resilience, the universal mind, and toxic masculinity, which is set for publication later this year. His journey has floated in the face of those who believed he could not and should not succeed. And it has given him zealot passion for ensuring that others never lose the internal fuel that will rocket them to ultimate levels of personal satisfaction and success. In This Episode   Learn what happens to us physically, mentally and emotionally when we shed the need for force Discover how a lot of things related to the thinking around toxic masculinity, and how people can use change. Understand toxic masculinity and how it represents the characteristics that are associated with traditional versions of manhood Quotes “By belittling, domination and abuse of others, power for its own sake, not powerful instincts to further a social cause or to better the world.” [3:03]   “Change is sustainable because people are engaged with it, like it.” [5:47]    “I personally believe we're at a profound inflection point around these issues, and our culture.” [8:38]   “They framed it in a way so that I never, as a child, my youngest ages, felt betrayed.” [13:00]   “At first, a challenge I've had earlier parts of my life is developing a sense of grievance, and holding on to that grievance.” [15:13]   “Acknowledging that I have fear as a man is for me, is very, very difficult” [17:36]   “Identity is the core of who we are.” [19:53]   “I would never have imagined that I would or could be an entrepreneur, I assumed, oh entrepreneurs, the people that work for themselves. They're just doing that because they can't work for other people, or everyone hates him.” [26:17]   “Don't be afraid of change. If you feel like you need to change, you need to dive in, do it. Tomorrow is gonna be okay.” [29:12] Resources Scott Mason Website The PBT Institute Membership CommunityThe Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz  

Aug 31

34 min

Post Betrayal Syndrome is the collection of physical, mental, and emotional symptoms common to betrayal. So many people (all ages and from so many different countries) have taken the assessment to see to what extent they're struggling. Almost everyone who takes the quiz struggles with some type of physical, mental, or emotional issue after their experience. Nutrition and fitness may not be a priority as so many other issues need to be tended to but when we feel we’ve lost a sense of control, eating healthier and moving to happen to be two areas that help us regain a sense of control. In This Episode   Discover how nutrition and fitness are important components of the healing process See how gaining control over our health and fitness gives us a sense of control we lost due to a betrayal Learn how betrayal impacts physical, mental and emotional symptoms and how fitness helps get it back Know how a person can release trauma through somatic/body-based practices  Quotes   “The issues are in the tissues. Trauma gets stuck in the body, and it can be trauma from decades ago.” [3:14]   “There are different types of breathwork which can definitely help and make you feel so good.” [4:21]   “It can give you a sense of control during a time where you feel like control has been taken away.” [6:08] Resources The PBT Institute Membership CommunityTake the Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz

Aug 27

7 min

Dani Max has become an influential figure for many young adults because of her personal transformation at an early age. Her workshops, memberships, speaking events, products, and coaching programs are all designed to help other young people with their happiness, confidence, self-esteem, and identity. Dani hopes to continue changing lives one person at a time about coming out happy.  Coming Out Happy is an 18+ online community where you can truly be yourself without judgment or fear. She offers weekly zoom events teaching passion, personal development, fun activities, and chats to give people the space to make friends feel confident and find the community they deserve.   In This Episode   Learn the challenges of denying yourself your own truth  Discover how to overcome the fear of losing the love and respect of the people important to you Understand how it is okay to be honest with yourself   Quotes   “I hated who I was growing up. I hated absolutely everything that made me who I was” [3:22]   “For so many years, I gained so much weight when I was in the closet when I didn't feel authentic at all.” [6:17]   “I came out because I actually met somebody who was open about their sexuality in high school. And I think that's really what changed. For me,” [8:18]   “I was testing the waters to see how our family would react.” [10:10]   “My labels have changed and that's totally okay for anyone watching like to change your labels over time.” [11:49]   “I just wanted love.” [12:48]   “It was my fault to wait. But I'm glad that I did it regardless of whatever time.” [13:40]   “I was fortunate enough to have that and to have an accepting family.” [13:55]   “Because I was switching all of my negative thoughts about myself to just more positive stuff, every single thing started to switch just because of that.” [15:41]   “A lot of people who identify as LGBTQ plus, don't have accepting families or they don't have accepting friends. They don't have anybody around them, to understand them and to give them the love and support that they deserve.” [19:43]   “Any age needs a group of people who love them, and we're trying to provide that family to them.” [25:55]   “I think the biggest thing that people worry about when they do come out is that they're going to lose people.” [29:06]   “If you're not safe to come out, maybe that's not the right time. But you deserve to be who you are when the time is right.” [29:51]   Resources Dani Max Website Dani Max Instagram The PBT Institute Membership CommunityThe Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz  

Aug 24

34 min

Post-Betrayal Syndrome is the collection of physical, mental, and emotional symptoms common to betrayal. Almost everyone who takes the quiz struggles with some type of physical, mental, or emotional issue after their experience. What I see so often is our first line of defense is to take something to medicate, numb, distract ourselves, or to do anything just to try to mask the pain. But it’s only when we: “face it, feel it, heal it” do we move through it. Unfortunately, so many people resign themselves to thinking that they’ll never heal, never be able to feel safe again, trust again, love again as they move forward feeling powerless and unhappy. Join me for this episode where you’ll see how you’re managing your experience and how you can make a few changes to feel so much better. In This Episode Know up to what extent someone's struggling in the course of the betrayal recovery process Learn why so many people stay painfully stuck after a betrayal  Discover the many parts of the self that need to get rebuilt Quotes “What happens is we start believing all that's been done to us, and then what we feed grows so then we're feeding into all of this, and it keeps us stuck.” [1:51]   “Face it. Feel it. Heal  it.” [4:44]   “But with a resignation of just accepting - this is as good as it gets; it's like you're handing the keys over.” [6:46]   “Where are you in this spectrum? Is it resignation? Is it a sense of powerlessness? You don't have to feel that way.” [7:38]   “Be very careful of the energy in that space because if it's keeping you stuck, it's not going to help you heal.” [8:43]   “I could take this trauma that broke me (and as you know, whenever broken, bent), I can use it to transform to create the most magnificent self, level of health, work, finances, body relationships that I could ever expect.” [11:30] Resources The PBT Institute Membership CommunityTake the Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz

Aug 20

21 min

Jami and Marla Keller have a 97% success rate in keeping couples together and more passionate than ever individuals and audiences worldwide with their unique “Just stop it and be cherished'' process. They are dedicated to keeping relationships together and building community leaders through retreats and coaching.   About Guest/Topic   Not only have Jami and Marla rebuilt their relationship, but they've also helped so many other people, and couples do the same, creating an even stronger and better relationship than before. They have been married for over 31 years and became relationship coaches licensed facilitators with life skills international since 1995. They are the co-authors of “How Men Make Women Crazy (and Vice Versa): Ending the Madness”, “Forever After”, “How to Get to Peace and Joy”, “Embracing the Cherish Factor'' and are featured coaches in the coaching documentary leap released in October of 2018.   In This Episode   Learn how to work on rebuilding your relationship after betrayal How to heal and what goes on after it Discover what the cost is in starting over and trusting again Know how forgiveness works   Quotes   “It's not simple. It's not easy. And it hurts like hell. But it is also very worth it.” [2:24]   “You get to the place where your story becomes more important than the relationship.” [12:10]   “Forgiveness is a choice first, and no, you can't rush it. But you can't put it off either. ” [24:29]   “If it doesn't work, you are not a failure. Because it wasn't about you.” [29:09]   “Don't think that you're doing the work when you're not.” [29:24] Resources The PBT Institute Membership CommunityTake the Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz Jami and Marla Facebook Page  

Aug 17

34 min

Post-Betrayal Syndrome is the collection of physical, mental, and emotional symptoms common to betrayal. Almost everyone who takes the quiz struggles with some type of physical, mental, or emotional issue after their experience. If you're in pain or if you've just experienced something extremely traumatic, get the help you need. It's gonna be very draining and depleting, but it will take you to a higher level of fulfillment in overcoming a lack of confidence, low self-esteem, and insecurity. In This Episode Learn all about the collective mind and how powerful it is when you give Discover how an opportunity can positively affect a person’s well-being Know why these beliefs are the root of everything a person does Quotes “Here are these people who are so hurt. They've been so blindsided by a betrayal, they're hurting so bad.” [2:19]   “When they had that opportunity to give, to serve, to help, all of a sudden - they felt better. They spoke up, they spoke out.” [2:27]   “They heal every time they teach.” [3:19]   “I've seen consistently how when we give when we're of service, we heal. It's so powerful.” [3:43]   “It's your belief system. It governs and controls everything. It controls your actions, your habits, your behaviors, your thoughts, all of it.” [4:01]   “I just know how your beliefs, when you exchange them for ones that serve you so much better, take you to a much much better place.” [6:31] Resources The PBT Institute Membership CommunityTake the Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz  

Aug 13

10 min

Michelle Nagel is a Certified Success Principles Canfield Methodology Trainer, a HeartMathTM Certified Trainer, and is a Post Betrayal Transformation Practitioner. She is an intuitive healer and energy therapist who has personally walked the path of healing after trauma, Michelle can help you go from who you are to who you want to be. About Guest/Topic Michelle Nagel is a TEDx speaker, an international bestselling author, the ROAR to Win podcast host, and President of Soul Shift, Inc. Known as America's #1 Resilience Expert, for over 20 years Michelle has guided people through Transformation after Trauma, Betrayal, and healing core wounds.    Personally endorsed by Jack Canfield, author of Chicken Soup for the Soul books, Michelle has guided people from all walks of life to make internal shifts that propel them to success, teach them to banish overwhelm, and find joy in their lives.    In This Episode Discover how the shame and judgment of betrayal can affect people and their battle with their everyday lives Learn what happens to people when betrayed, broken and much more Know what incredible contributions she's making to the entire PBT Community   Quotes “I was beating myself up because I was trying to find out why I was such a bad person.” [5:19]   “The journey that I took myself on is learning to love myself.” [10:32]   “It's so important to get this message out to people that you can heal from betrayal.” [16:15]   “I've had a lot of childhood trauma and realized that my brain has a different shape than other people's brains because of that childhood trauma.” [19:18]   “If you're not willing to look at the childhood betrayals, then you're cutting off the core basis of you, you're cutting off the foundation.” [22:50]   “What I want to make sure everybody knows is that your betrayal was not your fault.” [29:14]   Resources Mentioned Michelle Nagel Website Other Resources The PBT Institute Membership Community The Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz Debi’s Facebook group

Aug 10

33 min

It’s common to struggle with low self-esteem, confidence, and feelings of unworthiness-especially if we grew up hearing without the love and support we may have needed to create a strong sense of self. Add to that being blindsided by those we’ve trusted and it’s definitely going to have us questioning ourselves, our worth, even our sanity. How do we regain and reclaim a sense of worth, confidence, and empowerment? That’s what this episode is all about.   In This Episode   Learn about the 5-day free Breaking Through Your Limiting Beliefs challenge so you can kick those disempowering beliefs to the curb  Discover how this challenge can help you create a new set of beliefs which will help you overcome your negative feelings  Know why it’s important to heal ourselves and avoid being stuck in betrayal   Quotes “You can't change something you're not aware of.” [2:21]   “You will see the ultimate version of you, at your physical, mental, and emotional best, at your personal and professional best.” [4:18]   “We're like minds coming together, working towards a common goal.” [5:06]   “There's so much you want to do. But it's hidden under layers of fear, doubt, insecurity.” [7:39]   Resources Join the free 5-Day Breaking Through Your Limiting Beliefs Challenge The PBT Institute Membership CommunityTake the Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz  

Aug 6

9 min

Christine Howard is a sought-after speaker and innovative business leader. Her transformative products and coaching services books and talks are instrumental in awakening the radiance and power of women's true beauty and their ability to achieve their soul-centered calling, passionate in her commitment to inspiring the lives of women.   About Guest/Topic Christine's work first began during her own transformational heartbreak, rising from a startling diagnosis of breast cancer followed by a painful divorce. Today she is widely known as an authority on radiant achievement, teaching, and speaking to audiences worldwide. This episode is all about growth, letting go, transformation, and self-care.    In This Episode Learn about how experiences of betrayal can lead you to unexpected transformation Discover how to step out of chaos and live a radiantly fulfilling life   Quotes “The stress I was facing in my marriage was part of what created the health conditions, too.” [3:46]   “I’d love doing quick writes as far as the journal, and I would sit down and have no particular - just what I was feeling, just connecting in, getting still and quiet, and then whatever came up writing it down.” [11:26]   “I stopped those emotions that hurt the denial.” [16:55]   “I was the biggest betrayer of me.” [20:14]   “That transformation is a reawakening of my essence.” [27:37]   “You don't have to have it all figured out. You don't have to know all the steps. You have to be willing to step into a higher version of you and use everything in front of you that you're going through, as an opportunity for growth.” [29:33]   Resources Mentioned Christine Howard Website   Other Resources The PBT Institute Membership Community The Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz Debi’s Facebook group

Aug 3

33 min

Post betrayal syndrome is the collection of physical, mental, and emotional symptoms. Over 7,000 people at this point, have taken the assessment to see to what extent they're struggling. Lots of trauma but the good news is, it can lead to amazing transformation and that’s what this episode is about.    In This Episode Discover what transformation looks like Learn how we can feel a sense of peace and confidence when we heal Know why a person won't even realize what's happening by what they’re doing because they’re becoming Quotes “People come into this work with some sort of trauma or crisis, and they’re doing the hard work to slay those dragons.” [0:42]   “It's such a beautiful thing to see and it's something I feel so privileged to witness.” [1:56]   “They've healed so much. They can't help but want to share this.” [6:15]   “I love that concept of death and rebirth. And it's only when there's that death of the old can there be that birth of the new..” [8:27]   Resources The PBT Institute Membership Community Take the Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz

Jul 30

10 min

Palmer Kippola is an author, speaker, and functional medicine certified health coach who specializes in helping people reverse and prevent autoimmune conditions. She developed a framework called F.I.G.H.T.S.™ to help others beat autoimmune conditions, based on her 26-year battle to overcome multiple sclerosis.   About Guest/Topic Palmer Kippola has done coursework with the National Institute of Functional Medicine, HeartMath® Institute, and Functional Medicine Coaching Academy. She founded Transcend Autoimmune - a growing Facebook community of people proactively seeking to reverse or prevent autoimmune conditions. In addition, she has studied under leading experts in nutrition, holistic health, energy, and functional medicine. Her life’s work is to seek, simplify, and share science, stories, and strategies to help others achieve vibrant health through her 3 decades of experience, research, and client successes.   In This Episode Learn science stories and strategies to help people heal and thrive Discover alternative modalities that can heal people physically, mentally and emotionally from a sense of abandonment Know how the F.I.G.H.T.S.™ framework is beneficial to overcoming autoimmune conditions   Quotes “I'm so sorry. Please forgive me, I forgive you. Thank you, I love you.” [12:13]   “When we harbor these resentments and regrets, and this animosity and anger, and everything that we keep on our body, we know that those beliefs can drive our biology.” [14:09]   “What happens in childhood does not stay in childhood.” [19:33]   “There's nothing we need to learn how to elicit the stress reaction, but in order to heal, and the only place where you can heal is in the relaxation response.” [25:18]   “Sometimes we need a little help in working with somebody who can help us find the answers.” [31:35]   Resources Mentioned Palmer Kippola Website Palmer's Free Optimal Food Guide

Jul 27

35 min

Post-Betrayal Syndrome is A collection of physical, mental, and emotional symptoms common to betrayal. One common connection I see all the time is this; the link between anger and your health.   In This Episode Learn the physical, mental and emotional symptoms that are so common to betrayal Discover how anger can impact your health How can one rebuild the self - coming back from abandonment, rejection, confidence worthiness, trust Quotes “Experiencing betrayal absolutely can leave you with PTSD triggers.” [6:07]   “So what I see is so often, it's like we're playing this game of whack-a-mole, you know, where we just were trying to tamp down one symptom or one emotion and then another one comes up.” [11:38]   “Nothing is left untouched with a betrayal. And it needs to be acknowledged, it needs to be validated.” [14:35]   “People are acting from their current level of consciousness.” [16:53]   “I'm worth so much more than this. I deserve to feel better. I deserve to look better. I deserve to live better.” [17:22]   “Staying stuck truly is a choice.” [21:28]   “When you can heal from something as devastating as betrayal, there are no limits.” [22:14]   Resources The PBT Institute Membership Community Take the Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz

Jul 23

24 min

Dr. Keesha Ewers is an integrative medicine expert, Doctor of Sexology, Family Practice ARNP, Psychotherapist, herbalist, is board certified in functional medicine and Ayurvedic medicine, and is the founder and medical director of the Academy for Integrative Medicine Health Coach Certification Program.   About Guest/Topic After conducting the HURT Study in 2013, Dr. Keesha developed the HURT Model for understanding how past childhood trauma impacts adult health. This led to the creation of the You Unbroken online program for patients to heal their own trauma and the Mystic Medicine deep immersion healing retreats she leads at her home on San Juan Island, WA. As an integrative Medicine Medical Provider, she has specialized her clinical focus in digestive and hormonal health, and in reversing autoimmune disease.   In This Episode Learn about “The Freedom Framework” Know more about how your mind and body can get rid of toxins Why it’s important to watch your language How your mind responds to what you physically mentally and emotionally feed it   Quotes “We are symptom managers.” [3:49] “I think there must be different roads to the top of this mountain.” [8:56] “People are very intelligent people, but they can also be very judgmental, and they can be very acerbic and acidic.” [10:57] “I was thinking about this word autoimmune, and I realized I was attacking myself.” [13:20] “There are all kinds of different experiences you're going to have that you won't be able to understand and unless you have by your side 24/7 - a well-attuned, well-adapted, well-attached caregiver to be able to help you navigate those things, and make up meanings that fit your level of development and your brain function.” [19:46] “Everyone has their own unique puzzle, and you have to solve your own puzzle.” [26:10]   Resources Mentioned Dr. Keesha Ewers Website The PBT Institute Membership Community Take the Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz

Jul 20

39 min

What can you always count on? Change. It’s in getting familiar with the unfamiliar, we’re able to adapt and adjust when change comes our way. In This Episode Learn why change is consistent in any aspect of life Discover how change can bring about the highest and best in people How change can be the most natural although also one of the hardest parts of life Quotes “Life goes on and change goes on.” [2:24] “It just struck me between the so many beautiful changes happening and then so many unwelcome changes.” [4:46] “Every change at some level is in our highest and best good.” [6:15] Resources The PBT Institute Membership Community Take the Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz

Jul 16

8 min

Teri Cochrane is an internationally known integrative practitioner and thought leader in personalized health care and longevity. She was a risk manager by trade, and soon became a risk manager for her children’s health. She's developed her own methodology, “The Cochrane Method”, which integrates a multi-level nutritional approach including biochemistry, nutrition, genetic tendencies, or biology, and counseling to develop personalized plans for her clients.   About Guest/Topic Teri’s children are her greatest teachers. Their health conditions led her to seek solutions to their health crises. They both recovered from life-threatening illnesses when she discerned the root cause of their imbalances, changing the way they ate to support their unique genetic blueprint. Today, her son is a happy and healthy 23-year-old young man who no longer suffers from asthma, eczema, or failure to thrive. He is a Junior Olympic Karate gold medalist, a talented musician, and a singer, and went to a top university on a full academic scholarship. While her daughter is now thriving at a top university, excelling in music, dance, and international policy.   In This Episode Learn “The Cochrane Method” Know more about how Teri overcame her children’s health challenges How people become empowered and informed through education The benefits of 45-day reboot to eating to your genetic blueprint   Quotes “Our body is giving us a really deep and true signal - do something else, look at it differently.” [6:05] “Our food supply has betrayed us because of the way that we have treated the food.” [19:36] “I'm going to always have that as an opinion. And it's part of my kind of being my cup, my constellation of all sorts of information by which I will make an informed decision.” [25:19] “The first thing is to start reading your food labels. I say if you can't read it, don't eat it.” [25:52] “I really think that information is power and I also say that fear paralyzes the truth.” [27:03] “Let's get informed. Let's start doing our research. Let's not be swayed by fancy marketing or a fear-mongering and there is hope, there's hope.” [28:53]   Resources Mentioned Teri Cochrane Website

Jul 13

33 min

Post betrayal syndrome is the collection of physical, mental, and emotional symptoms. Over 7,000 people at this point, took the assessment to see up to what extent they're struggling from. So many need heartbreaking details, but one came in and I thought would really help because it’s something we see all the time: after all the betrayal we’ve been through, can people really keep their faith? In This Episode Learn where transformation comes in Discover the benefits of staying stuck and why does it happen  Learn about mind-body connection when dealing with betrayal Quotes “We see betrayals showing up in every single area of life.” [0:55]   “Over time, these unhealed betrayals keep us sick, sad, stuck.” [2:28]   “Here's the problem - once we figured out how we can survive the experience, that's as far as we go.” [3:31]   “There's a version of you so confident, so healthy, so energized, so bold, so empowered, so awesome, that's just waiting to be worth it.” [8:22]   Resources The PBT Institute Membership Community Take the Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Certification

Jul 9

9 min

You have probably heard of mindfulness as a buzzword before, but have you ever taken the time to explore exactly what the mind is? Darrin Ford is a licensed marriage and family therapist, nationally recognized speaker and internationally recognized author, who is here today to share his knowledge about the utilization of mindfulness when looking for ways to heal. You can practice mindfulness while walking, sitting, standing, or lying down. By practicing weaving your mindfulness into your everyday activities, you can change the way you think, act, and react and find more peace. Mindfulness can help you be less reactive to your triggers and help you on your path towards healing.  Darrin knows what it is like to be stuck in a trauma or addiction loop, and is here today to share his knowledge with you so that you can stop feeding into your reactions and start being more present. By adopting an observational relationship with your thoughts, behaviors, and habits, you can better understand your emotions and start to interject mindfulness to better suit your destiny. Time, consistency, and self-compassion are the keys to mindfulness, and with Darrin’s help, you can integrate mindfulness into your daily life seamlessly.  Are you ready to take the time to adapt mindfulness into your life? Share your history with mindfulness with us in the comments on the episode page.    In This Episode How to recognize when you are not being mindful and become more present Tips on ways to incorporate mindful habits into your daily life Explore the difference between mindfulness and meditation  The role of equanimity and neuroplasticity when it comes to mindfulness  How to practice non-judgment by practicing getting to know your emotions   Quotes “You start to integrate these small interjections of mindfulness into your life, in small little doses, not in these big formal old fashioned ways. That doesn’t work for our busy lives, it’s not functional.” (6:22) “It’s not that they wouldn’t feel the emotion connected to the trigger, its the way that we react to that emotion would be different, or would be more constructive versus destructive.” (14:59) “You are the observer of this moment. You are the thing that sees your thoughts, see your mind’s reaction. You’re the one who has the ability to see that and then once you see it you can make a choice. I’m not saying that’s an easy choice, I’m not saying that when you choose not to react in the addictive, compulsive way, that you won’t feel a lot of emotional distress. You absolutely will. However, that is what’s needed.” (22:30) “Emotions move us, they are an unconscious feeling that drives our thoughts. Our thoughts manifest into beliefs, our beliefs manifest into behaviors, our behaviors are practiced into habits, and our habits become our destiny.” (24:33)   Links Sano Center for Recovery Website The Mindfulness Academy for Addiction and Trauma Training Website   Find the full episode post here: https://thepbtinstitute.com/120 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://thepbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://thepbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Jul 6

37 min

Post betrayal syndrome is the collection of physical, mental, and emotional symptoms. Over 7,000 people at this point, took the assessment to see up to what extent they're struggling from. So many need heartbreaking details, but one came in and I thought would really help because it’s something we see all the time: after all the betrayal we’ve been through, can people really keep their faith? In This Episode Learn the significant lesson that betrayal will teach Where to find support when dealing with betrayal trauma  Learn the role of the body-mind connection when dealing with betrayal   Quotes “I've been through betrayal so many times I have no faith that I wouldn't find myself in another situation where betrayal is possible. And I just want relief.” [1:16]   “Repeat betrayals happen when you haven't learned the significant lesson that betrayal was there to teach.” [1:28]   “At a time where we need support the most, we're the least likely to seek it because we're embarrassed, we feel uncomfortable. There’s so much shame.” [9:03]   “They may walk in with that trauma, but they are leaving transformed.” [11:43]   “There's just a version of you so healthy, so strong, so awesome. And we need to clear that up to the best of you can just show up.” [12:19]   Resources The PBT Institute Membership Community Take the Post Betrayal Syndrome Quiz PBT Institute Certification

Jul 2

13 min

Sue Mocker is an author, professional speaker, and hope consultant. Sue works in the spheres of healthcare, ministry, education, and business to make transformational changes in the matters of the heart. After experiencing both marital betrayal and familial betrayal, Sue did the hard work to find hope after healing and is here today to share her knowledge with you. Through her humorous and homemade stories, Sue is helping prove that while hurt people may hurt people, healed people can heal people as well. Sue wants you to know that there is a different way to think, be loved, heal, and grow by setting boundaries and honoring the level of treatment that you are deserving of.  By getting out of denial, calling out the lies you tell yourself, and grieving the process of betrayal, you can take giant brave leaps to be healed in a deep way while healing yourself and those around you. You are worth it to take the time to seek out help and find strength in your healing. Are you ready to do what Sue did and discover what is really true? Let us know what healing options you are exploring in the comments on the episode page.    In This Episode How to rewire your brain to believe and trust in your worthiness  The importance of letting down your guard and learning how to just breathe Ways that you can enter into the grieving process intentionally and on purpose Gain insight into different healing techniques such as EMDR, hypnotherapy and more Tips for becoming more familiar about different healing modalities guided by hope   Quotes “I accepted poor treatment, I accepted things that people should never be accepted for treatment for their body. But what I do know, and what I have learned, is that childhood trauma, childhood sexual abuse, totally distorts the brain, totally changes what you think about yourself, totally reorganizes things in a way that creates a belief system about love, and it distorts it all.” (7:44) “I started believing and understanding that my childhood trauma actually is connected to healing from this betrayal.” (10:15) “There are all different kinds of reasons as to why we feel inadequate, insecure, unworthy, in different relationships. And its always helped me in my next step, whatever I was ready for.” (18:58) “You do have value. There is hope, and there are modalities of healing out there that you may or may not connect too, that you may or may not have heard of, know about. Just find an opportunity to be open for something to be shown to you that is your next step.” (26:50) “Healed people heal people, healing people heal people, you don’t have to be completely there, you don’t have to have completely arrived, but you are worth it.” (27:43)   Links Hope Allowed Website   Find the full episode post here: https://thepbtinstitute.com/119 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://thepbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://thepbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Jun 29

34 min

Often when we think of health issues as a symptom of an unhealed betrayal we think on the grand scale of things, including cancer and heart disease. But did you know that everything from IBS, to skin issues, headaches, and chronic fatigue, could be a symptom of something greater? If you have experienced any type of health issue, there is a very good chance that an unhealed betrayal could be at the root of your symptoms.  Inna Topiler is a certified clinical nutritionist practicing a functional medicine approach to health, founder of Complete Nutrition and Wellness, Host of the Health Mysteries Solved Podcast, and so much more. While Inna did not start out to work in functional medicine, it was after a slew of her own health issues and a disappointment with the traditional treatment she received, that her passion to help others get to the root of their underlying health issues and reclaim their health began to take hold. Today Inna is here to give us a look at the connection between your head and heart and explore the vital roles these connections play in your ability to live your life to the fullest. Chronic illness can be a result of your body betraying you, and it is only by directly addressing these unresolved betrayals that you can remove the physical manifestation of betrayal and start healing your betrayal through loyalty.  If you are struggling with physical symptoms that you just can’t make sense of, Inna wants to encourage you to look into your past betrayals, start understanding the connection between the mind and the body, and acknowledge your symptoms so that you can breathe healing towards it. Have you ever experienced a bodily betrayal? Share your story of perseverance and determination with us in the comments section of the episode page.   In This Episode What to do when following your Doctor’s orders doesn’t make you feel better  Learn what functional medicine is and how it connects with your nutrition The difference between functional testing and traditional medical testing  Tips for healing after the betrayal of your body and the medical system  Techniques to help you break up with your negative thought patterns and pains   Quotes “I sought out a lot of conventional therapy at first, as a lot of people would, and I was really disenchanted with a lot of the disjointed care that I was getting. I was really frustrated because after months of seeing so many doctors I still had no answers at all. And I was angry, upset, I felt really lost, but this is where I started to feel betrayed.” (3:10) “With his help, I embarked on this journey to balance my body. Now understanding what was happening, it was really really empowering for me.” (11:28) “If there is anything going on in the body that normally may not be a problem, it will be an issue because of that weak immune system that we created because of the stress, which is really due to this old betrayal piece that people don’t realize.” (17:42) “We shouldn’t be afraid to bring up the negative if we are doing it in a way that’s controlled. Almost that we are highlighting it for deletion, that’s how I like to see it.” (22:34) “Once we feel it, the goal is not to blame it or make it go away. But rather we want to really acknowledge it and almost thank it, in a way, for showing up.” (25:04)   Links Complete Nutrition and Wellness Website   Find the full episode post here: https://thepbtinstitute.com/118 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://thepbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://thepbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Jun 22

33 min

If you ask me, fear is the biggest reason we stay stuck in our lives. While fear is at the root of almost everything, it is only by understanding the differences between irrational and realistic fears and constructive and destructive fears that we can reach the power of transformational fear. Dr. Carla Marie Manly is a clinical psychologist, author, and advocate who is here today to help us understand the different types of fear, how to work with them, and how to minimize them so that we can take action in a way that serves us best. With a direct and honest approach with a dose of humor, Dr. Manly is here to help you navigate the soulful adventure into self-awareness. Instead of getting used to the voice of destructive fear that is prevalent in our society, Dr. Manly wants you to slow down and regain your power over your fear.  When going through a betrayal it is easy to stick to what you know and stay in your pain because it is familiar. Through the application of Dr. Manly’s strategies, you can start to strengthen the constructive over the destructive and stop giving your betrayal wiggle room. It is possible to overcome what is keeping you stuck, and with the help of Dr. Manly, you can gain insight into this challenging topic and find a way to focus on your optimal wellness.  The feelings you are having are universal and nothing to be ashamed of. By pushing through the shame you can start on your journey to healing and the joy that has been in you all along. Are you ready to allow yourself the power of knowing that through perseverance you can find the other side of fear? Share what gave you the most hope from Dr. Manly’s advice in the comments on the episode page.    In This Episode Discover the different types of fear and the ways that you can identify them How to listen to the many voices of fear when going through a betrayal  Why putting something in writing can start to squash your destructive fear The importance of becoming a part of a collective of women for support Tips for managing your fear and pushing through your shame   Quotes “Unfortunately in this day and age, many of us are being riddled with irrational fears, unrealistic fears, that keep us from change, that keep us stuck and immobilized in life.” (3:05) “This is the beautiful part about destructive fear. Destructive fear does not like the light. Destructive fear does not like clarity. Destructive fear does not like written agreements at all because destructive fear likes to be able to be manipulative and sneaky.” (12:56) “When we make goals for ourselves, when we put things in writing, it becomes much more understandable for the psyche. That is why so many of us will make wishlists in our heads or think in our heads and not want to put it in writing. Because the minute we put something in writing, we feel a sense of clarity and accountability.” (19:04) “There is something beautiful and connective about being held in a safe place where you can hear other women’s stories. Their lows, their successes, and know that if they can do it, I can do it too.” (21:48) “Everything is to do with a reminder to the self when you get weak, that these are real things that happen. Is that in line with the kind of life I want in my future?” (26:20)   Links Dr. Carla Marie Manly Website Joy From Fear by Dr. Carla Manly   Find the full episode post here: https://thepbtinstitute.com/117 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://thepbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://thepbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Jun 15

33 min

Most good comedy and humor come from the painful parts of life, but have you ever considered how finding the humor in a hard situation could help you heal? Paul Osincup is a humor strategist, TEDx speaker, and leading expert in the professional application of humor to reduce stress, build resilience, increase influence, and boost happiness. Paul believes in the power of humor in leadership and is here today to share how humor can enhance health and human performance. Paul is on a mission to increase global workplace happiness by helping others rewire themselves to find the funny. By implementing tools to help you laugh a bit more, you may be able to heal from your betrayal a bit easier as well. There is real power in humor, and if you need help getting started, Paul is here to introduce you to the world of humor and help you develop your sense of humor intentionally and strategically. Laughing is proven to reduce cortisol, boosts serotonin and oxytocin, and helps improve your connection with others.  By spicing up the mundane things in your life that you have to do, laughter is possible no matter what you are going through. Regardless of what type of humor you like, you can encourage the presence of humor in your life by implementing Paul’s simple and effective strategies. Are you ready to train your brain to look for humor in the mundane and painful? Share how laughter has helped you heal in the comments on the episode page.    In This Episode Humor habits that you can develop to improve your sense of humor  Learn about the different types of humor and how to add them to your daily routine How to use laughter to heal from your betrayal and improve your health  Strategies to help you take a humor break to achieve the desired outcome What to do if you are having an off day and how to purposely develop humor   Quotes “Humor is not a talent, humor is a habit.” (3:26) “Ultimately, like any other form of communication, I think humor can be used as a tool and as a weapon. And for me, I like humor that makes people feel good and makes me feel good.” (7:34) “We studied the application of humor and just doing that exercise seven days, writing down three things you found amusing or funny each day, they found actually decreases depressive symptoms and increases happiness for up to six months.” (17:02) “Humor is one of the things that actually starts firing in all areas of the brain, and so it does a lot for our overall feelings of happiness.” (19:09) “Just because something is hurtful, doesn’t mean it’s not okay to laugh about it. And there is a really close connection between laughing and crying.” (22:39) “Regardless of what you are going through… you don’t have to hope for humor to happen. You can harness it and be intentional about it.” (28:34)   Links Paul Osincup Website Leading With Laughter TEDx Talk Association for Applied and Therapeutic Humor Website   Find the full episode post here: https://thepbtinstitute.com/116 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://thepbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://thepbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Jun 8

33 min

Stories of burnout are becoming increasingly frequent, but the standard medical community often brushes away the symptoms. After experiencing her own personal burnout, Nikole Stanfield realized that she needed to help others improve themselves through the same personal development. Now an Intuition Coach who helps successful business owners and entrepreneurs stop feeling unfulfilled and work through their burnout, Nikole’s passion is helping others love what they do.  In this episode, we will discover the connection between burnout and self-betrayal, learn ways that you can start to decrease your overwhelm in less than 30 minutes a day, and discover how we can break free from expectations to find a more authentic version of yourself. One for all of the people pleasers, type a’s and hard workers out there, Nikole’s advice is not to be missed.  The thoughts you have had in the past may have served you then, but by shifting your thought patterns you can start to go after what you really want and not what you feel obligated to do. While it may feel excruciatingly painful to say no to somebody, by pushing through the uncomfortable, you can start to say yes to yourself instead.  Are you ready to transform from an anchor into a set of wings? Share your experiences with burnout with us in the comments section of the episode page.   In This Episode Learn about the connection between burnout and self-betrayal What you can do right now to start relieving some of your overwhelm How to change your brain from reactive to reflective through meditation Ways to identify if you are starting to enter into burnout territory The importance of taking time to do something that fills up your cup   Quotes “I’m an overachiever and have done so many things and have been super busy in my life, so this was a totally new place to be, and I had no idea what to do. I was terrified, and I didn’t know how to move forward.” (5:05) “That’s where I feel like the betrayal came in. That I just ran over myself. And I didn’t listen to anything I wanted or what was best for me.” (9:49) “When you are an entrepreneur you start taking on all these things that you need to hustle, this concept, you need to make sure that you are wearing all these different hats… and it gets overwhelming, its too much.” (17:07) “If it doesn’t work for you, it doesn’t work for them. I don’t have to fall on the sword.” (21:39) “The important part is that you recognize that you are having those thoughts. So then you can say okay, maybe I want to journal about it. Or you talk to someone you care about who will just listen to you. Or you work with a coach, or you meditate on it. Whatever that is, you can start to see how often this guilt is showing up in your life or this phrase that you keep telling yourself.” (25:06)   Links My Intuition Coach Website   Find the full episode post here: https://thepbtinstitute.com/115 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://thepbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://thepbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Jun 7

31 min

Are you exhausted with all you are doing to be beautiful? With all of that effort, you could be betraying yourself by denying discovering who you really are. Diane Kazer is a former pro-soccer player turned functional diagnostic nutrition practitioner, courage coach, and holistic beauty expert. Your go-to-girl to break through anything despite what you have been through or been told, Diane is here today to stop the patterns of toxic beauty and put an end to the toxic stories we tell ourselves once and for all. The price of being beautiful is one of the biggest measures of self-betrayal, and Diane is here to help you release the toxic chemicals, toxic stories, and beliefs that are keeping you confined to your suffering, sickness, and sadness. By cleansing your body, healing your hormones, and igniting your life, Diane’s tried and true method of healing can help you discover and appreciate who you are truly meant to be. Diane wants to show you the template of a healthier way of life so that you can cleanse your stories, heal your trauma, and ignite your purpose. If you are spending a lifetime trying to please others in the way that you look, feel, and live, you will never find the fulfillment you are so deserving of. Are you ready to get to the root of your beliefs so that you can start healing and believing that you are enough? Share what you loved most about Diane’s framework with us in the comments section of the episode page.    In This Episode What is toxic beauty and how it is engrained into our societies messages How to find a balance within the unrealistic beauty messages sent by society Gain the courage to face the darkness and integrate the wisdom of your story Why having a coach is the best way to navigate toxins and trauma and heal quickly   Quotes “This is what we are taught, that if you don’t have this perfect shaped face and nose and hair and body and butt and boobs, then you are going to “kicked out of this tribe”. And what is this tribe? This tribe is called Instagram, this tribe is called Facebook, this tribe is called the magazines and the media and pop culture. And so when we don’t follow the template we have this sense of shame and this shame is the self-betrayal that I want to talk about.” (4:01) “There are three ways that we can self betray. And that is physical, emotional, and spiritual.” (9:26)  “There is wisdom in the wound, and in that shadow, you can find your light. But only until you have faced your darkness will you know your light, so it takes so much courage.” (17:30)“You want to know what your future looks like? Look at your past. If you haven’t healed it, it’s going to keep happening.” (22:44) “This needs to happen now. Look at our world, we need all of you, every single one of you to rise. And it starts with using your own eyes to undisguised yourself of who you think you are supposed to be.” (25:15)   Links Diane Kazer Website Non-Toxic Beauty Revolution Summit Killer Breasts: Overcoming Breast Plant Illness by Diane Kazer Join the Free 5 Step Masterclass    Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/114 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

May 25

38 min

Jodi Cohen is one of the bravest people I know, and one of my personal heroes. After losing her son in a devastating accident only 18 months ago, Jodi had to deal with not only the betrayal of expectations when you become a parent, but also the ripple effect her family’s story sent through her community.  An award-winning journalist, best selling author, functional practitioner, and founder of Vibrant Blue Oils, Jodi has combined her life experiences, training in nutritional therapy, and aromatherapy to create unique proprietary blends of essential oils that have helped tens of thousands of people.  Jodi is all about gaining an understanding of post-traumatic growth and helping others focus on moments of clarity and relief. By getting out of the state of anger created by your mind and emotions, Jodi believes that you can get unstuck and heal in a real and authentic way. If you want to gain an understanding of the many layers of healing that take place, how to deal with outsiders and friends after a betrayal, or gain a sense of Jodi’s strength and resilience, this is the episode for you.  A topic that nobody ever wants to deal with, but that is so important to shed light on, Jodi is here to provide guidance, love, and most importantly, understanding. Do you know someone who would resonate with Jodi’s story? Tag them in the comments section of our episode page.    In This Episode Learn about ‘tissue issue’ people and how to handle their actions during trauma Why essential oils are one of the most immediate ways to calm your nerves and mind How to get out of the state of anger in your head and ground yourself back to your body Tips for creating your own essential oil recipe to help you move through trauma The importance of asking for help and relishing in the good moments in life   Quotes “Who goes out there and publicly broadcasts that you are a hot mess? Who that loves you is going to do that when you are in your deepest darkest hour? It is someone who really liked external validation, really liked the kudos that she got from being able to say she was supporting me.” (10:34) “There was nothing in between, it was almost like the volume was on mute, or the highest decibel ever. And so just trying to navigate that so that you had more options, more speeds than just super low or super high, by helping yourself kind of center and ground with the oil.” (17:15) “Its almost like you have to feel safe to really release. Because I think anger is the top layer of fear and sadness, and its almost like a tough nut to crack. Once you can get through that anger, then you can get to the core of the issue, and you can start to release it and move out of it.” (20:20) “There are always new learning and new skills and peeling off the onion.” (22:32) “I want to make sure everybody knows that they are not alone, that there is no shame. This is not something that they chose, and that there are periods that will be better, this is not forever.” (30:27)   Links Vibrant Blue Oils Website   Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/113 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

May 18

35 min

Dr. Anna Cabeca experienced a hormonal betrayal by her body when she was diagnosed with infertility and early menopause at the age of 38. Refusing to lay down and accept this, Dr. Cabeca started on a personal wellness journey to reduce her menopause side effects, which resulted in the delivery of a baby girl three years after her diagnosis. After experiencing her own health successes, Dr. Cabeca began counseling others and has since changed the lives of thousands of women across the globe. With her Keto-Green 16 program, Dr. Cabeca can help you lose weight, feel more energetic, and gain the clarity and sense of calm that you have been longing for.  When you feel like you have lost control, taking care of your body and your hormones are one of the top ways that you can start to regain your inner power. Today Dr. Cabeca is here to explain everything from hormones such as cortisol and oxytocin to the benefits of intermittent fasting and building up insulin sensitivity.  By enhancing your physiology and hormonal control you can improve your quality of life, mental state, and more. If you are ready for strategies to help you make lemonade out of your life’s lemons, this is the episode for you. Let us know what you found most interesting about Dr. Cabeca’s knowledge and inspiring story with us in the comments section of the episode page.   In This Episode How to know if your hormone imbalances are impacting your overall health Learn all about the benefits of intermittent fasting, glucose monitoring and more Why sugar is the toxic boyfriend that you need to break up with today What you can expect to feel when you adapt the Keto-Green 16 method The best ways to feel more in control of your life and gain more clarity  Nutrition and lifestyle recommendations to help you get started on your health journey   Quotes “When our body is having to make excess insulin, we become insulin resistant. And that increases our risk factors for diabetes, hypertension and Alzheimers and dementia.” (12:39) “I’ve worked with thousands of patients and honestly everyone can do it, we are designed to do it.” (16:31) “The piece that surpasses all understanding is nothing in my external environment had changed, but my internal milieu had changed. So the most important for me was this piece.” (19:14) “This approach of creating insulin sensitivity, managing cortisol, and putting oxytocin in the winners circle so to speak, gave me my life back.” (20:18) “It takes more than hormones to fix our hormones.” (25:21) “Physiology drives behavior. So we have to heal the physiology in order, often, to get control of our thoughts and our mental atmosphere, and it does make a difference.” (28:25)   Links Keto-Green 16 by. Dr. Anna Cabeca Dr. Anna Cabeca Website FBTB 034: Dr. Anna Cabeca   Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/112 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

May 11

32 min

Have you ever walked into a room and immediately felt the energy? Everything in our world is made up of energy, including our own personal energy vortexes within our bodies. Dr. Ellen Albertson is a psychologist, registered dietitian, national board-certified health and wellness coach, reiki master and mindful self-compassion teacher who knows a thing or two about energy. Dr. Ellen uses the power of our energy chakras to help women get unstuck and find confidence, energy, and clarity. Dubbed The Midlife Whisperer, Dr. Ellen is here today to explain how betrayal can impact you energetically, and share ways that you can regain your balance and feel more grounded and in control. By connecting with your deep energetic wisdom you can start to trust your intuition, heal your chakras and implement self-compassion into your daily life. Everything from the way you dress to the amount of self-love you provide yourself can have a huge impact on your ability to heal. If you want actionable ways that you can start to reverse the energetic damage caused by your betrayal, this is an episode you cannot miss.  All of the resources you need to survive are inside of yourself. Are you ready to harness the power of your chakras and start treating yourself like your own best friend? Share how you use the power of your energy and self-compassion to heal with us in the comments on the episode page.    In This Episode Learn about the seven main energy chakras and your personal energy vortexes How to utilize your chakras to connect and control your own energy and others Discover how betrayal can impact your energy chakras on multiple levels The importance of self-compassion and the role it plays when it comes to healing What you can do to heal your chakras after a betrayal and get back into balance   Quotes “Think about all the cells in your body came from sunlight. Everything you’ve eaten has either come from a plant or an animal that ate a plant, so you really are an energetic being.” (7:03) “In terms of betrayal, this can really be shut down, because this is where joy lives. So in terms of being betrayed, you kind of feel that whole connection with life force, feeling creative, feeling vibrant is really kaput.” (10:58) “You can feel these chakras in your body. You are not able to speak your truth, you’re not able to feel connected and communicate with people.” (16:53) “We can heal and actually create something better, and everything is happening for your highest good.” (19:10)   Links Join the Rock Your Midlife Summit Dr. Ellen Albertson Website   Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/111 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

May 4

34 min

Zoe Niklas grew up enduring domestic violence, physical violence, emotional abuse, substance abuse, and sexual abuse. After multiple betrayals and traumatizing incidents involving both her mother and many stepfathers, Zoe harnessed her inner power and was able to break free at age 13. It wasn’t until she was finally taken in by a new family that she was able to embrace the healing power of love and create the life she knew she deserved. Author of the book Driving In The Dark: A Childhood Memoir, Zoe is the true epitome of taking trauma and turning it into a life of purpose. Today Zoe is here to share her encouraging, insightful and uplifting perspective with you so that you can understand that even your darkest days can be healed through the strength of true love.  Throughout her journey, Zoe has used the power of the written word and theater to regain her memory, health, and happiness. From driving her mother’s car at 11 years old after she had experienced a seizure while running away to commit suicide, to finding hope and healing in the vision of life that she knew she was destined to live, Zoe’s incredible story is one of trial and triumph.  You can make it through the pain you are experiencing. By taking action and taking control of the course of your life, Zoe is here to provide you with inspiration to get you the help that you need and stop your suffering. How does Zoe’s story inspire you to take your biggest crisis and turn it into your greatest gift? Share how you related to Zoe with us in the comments on the episode page.    In This Episode: Learn how Zoe made sense of a childhood filled with broken expectations  Four steps to help you deal with your problems and overcome your trauma Ways to embrace your own worthiness and stop questioning your own worth Why you don’t have to accept the victim mentality of being ‘scarred for life’ How to cultivate a vision of the life that you want and are destined to live    Quotes “They never dissed me or said I was tarnished by my background. They loved me, and that love made me love myself.” (14:51) “I heard a voice as clear as I am sitting talking to you, and it was like a man speaking in a megaphone in my right ear. And that voice said “get help now”.” (17:33) “That’s why I say that I am the luckiest person in the world because I knew what I wanted and I followed the way to get there.” (21:47) “Never stop, never stop trying to save yourself, don’t stop, keep going.” (24:39) “I am sure there are kids out there that are just as hurt as I was, and I made it, and so I want them to know that it’s okay. You can hurt and you can do all of those things, but you can make it.” (27:39)   Links Zoe Niklas Website Driving In The Dark: A Childhood Memoir by Zoe Niklas Zoe Niklas YouTube Page   Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/110 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Apr 27

32 min

Marie-Ève Bonneau lived for almost a decade with a devastating chronic illness that brought her to the edge of all that she knew. It took a re-routing of the brain and befriending her body again for Marie-Ève to stop the thoughts that were making her physically ill, and start embracing something entirely new from within herself.  Now a certified facilitator of yoga and expressive movement arts, meditation and breathwork, writer, facilitator consultant, and initiation guide, Marie-Ève works to bring light to the darkness of those ready to transform difficulty into a path of awakening. If you have ever felt like the foundation of your life is crumbling, Marie-Ève’s experience with turning grief into gifts is something you need to hear.  By looking for the reason behind your betrayal, you can transform your mindset just like Marie-Ève and access your inner wisdom and the wisdom of the Universe. Everything from finding your calling through your crisis, taking time to be present with your feelings and how to start accessing your own heart space is on this episode as we explore how to shed, integrate and process into a new state of presence and beingness.  Have you ever felt like your body betrayed you? Share how you related to Marie-Ève’s story with us in the comments on the episode page.   In This Episode Gain an understanding of Lyme Disease and other chronic illnesses  The power of your thoughts and how to tune into something deeper than your mind How to rebuild trust in the health of your body and mind after betrayal  Tips for harnessing your challenging experience into transformation  Strategies that you can use to move the needle when it comes to your wellness   Quotes “In those early days it did feel like my body was betraying me, it felt like the divine or maybe even life itself was betraying me, and I really had this sinking feeling that all bets were off.” (4:11) “It took three years of very intensive treatment to finally make tangible progress, which felt like a miracle because I had tried to hard to dent the symptoms and nothing was working.” (7:38) “Slowly but surely I started to feel like the clouds were parting, and my energy was returning, and I could function again.” (8:24) “Instead of seeing it as a betrayal, that my body has betrayed me, I was able to shift that. And from a loving space, to actually attend to myself and attend to my body deeply.” (13:13) “I started to orient around what I would call my center or my deepest truth, my inner essence. And then to learn to listen deeply and live in a state of reflectivity and connection and to move into the world from that place.” (21:39) “Catastrophe or challenges that happen, whether it is an illness or something else, it is not a mistake. Ultimately it’s not a betrayal, but that is actually an opportunity.” (26:12)   Links Centered Within Website Follow Marie-Ève on Facebook | Instagram   Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/109 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Apr 20

29 min

Abigail Rebecca grew up in a devout Jehovah’s Witness family. When she began to question the strict religious rules and conditions she was expected to live her life by, Abigail was rejected by her family and told that she was a ‘bad association’ for the family.  Instead of going along with a life where she was never allowed to question things, Abigail struck out on her own and decided to create her own rules. This episode is filled with Abigail’s unique and emotional story and sheds a light on what happens when you are betrayed by both your family and your religion.  Now an international coach, speaker and host of The Whole Shebang Project, Abigail helps smart and independent women escape their soul-sucking corporate jobs so that they can live a fulfilled, happy and purposeful life without risking financial security and status. With her Big Change, Small Steps framework, Abigail is here to help you find your way to make a difference in the world while making millions doing it.  If you feel betrayed by your religion, family or upbringing because you were taught something that intuitively didn’t make sense to you, this is an episode that you can’t miss. By making decisions based out of love and not fear and trusting your gut and the fact that you are destined for something greater, Abigail is passionate about helping you listen to your inner voice. A non-judgemental conversation about free will, questioning the other side of the story you have been told, and trusting yourself, Abigail is the expert you need to hear from. Have you ever felt betrayed by the false truths you were raised to believe? Share your story with us in the comments on the episode page.   In This Episode Gain insight into life growing up in a devout Jehova’s Witness family How to stop the victim mentality and avoid placing blame on others The power of tenacity, determination, and believing in yourself in adversity  Why you should make decisions based on love and not based on fear How to ask questions of yourself and others to follow your gut intentions   Quotes “Looking back on it, I was completely, completely brainwashed and immersed in this religion that was basically dictating who I could hang around with, who could be my friends, what I should wear, the kind of life that I should lead, the kind of person I should marry. And really held by this fear that if I didn’t adhere to all the rules and the conditions… then eventually when the end of the world happens, that I would die.” (4:35) “It’s so traumatic because everybody that you love, everybody that you hold dear in the world, just goes away. And you are left in this world that you don’t really understand because you haven’t been brought up like other people.” (13:28) “I just started to realize that actually what I was taught when I was growing up, around associating with the right people and being careful about who influenced your mind, that was actually right. But they were doing it in a really controlling way, whereas I discovered that actually, it was my choice, it was my choice who I wanted to associate with.” (17:28) “They were doing this out of love because they truly thought it was the right thing. And I think the understanding around that, and not actually blaming them… that was the first thing, and then the second thing was really truly believing in myself that I was destined for more.” (20:00) “If you are ever in any situation like I was, where you are in any religion or any cult where there is only one side of the story and you are not allowed to question and find out the other side, always find out what the other side of the story is. Because how can you make informed decisions if you only have one side of the story?” (26:46)   Links Abigail Rebecca Website Join the Big Change Small Steps Facebook Group   Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/108 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Apr 13

33 min

Have you ever heard of the DISC assessment? Midori Verity is one of the most innovative and successful marriage and communication coaches out there, who helps couples elevate their relationships by improving communication. Midori uses the DISC assessment to identify personality traits and help her clients adapt and adjust so that they can have a more peaceful and harmonious relationship, and is here today to share her knowledge with you. If you are feeling unheard in your relationship or need help connecting, Midori’s insight into the four personality types can help you press the reset button and start to develop more support and synergy in your relationship. The DISC assessment can help you understand why your relationship is in trouble, assess what you need to do to move forward, and even help you when making decisions in the future.  By learning about what makes your personality type tick, you can better prepare yourself to find the job or relationship that suits you perfectly, and who doesn't want that? When it comes to relationships, it is all about the Platinum Rule, which helps you speak the language your partner speaks so that you know you are both being heard and understood.  Are you ready to learn about you and your partner's personality types and harness that information to start speaking each other's languages? Share where you fall on the DISC assessment with us in the comments on the episode page.    In This Episode Which personality combinations work well, and don't work well, in relationships Learn how high-stress situations can impact the way in which you communicate Why it is important to understand the different personality types of your partner Tips for each personality type to communicate in another personality language Discover which personality combinations are most likely to experience a betrayal    Quotes “We all have a different language, we all have a different behavioral style and personality type, and when we can match that, we are going to be listened to more, we are going to be received more, and our conversations are going to be much more successful.” (3:37) “When you go through challenges in life, whether it's in your relationship or outside of your relationship it doesn't matter, but when we go through challenges and we feel stressed, we react differently, that's why this is so important.” (11:02) “In general, our natural graphs stay about the same, they will not change that much. But, we can learn techniques to help us improve in certain areas so that we can acquiesce in relationships.” (27:15) “You have to kind of get to know what you are. I recommend for everybody to take a DISC assessment, even if you did before, take it again. And think about it from a relationship standpoint.” (28:29) “The way that we see the world, is not how others see the world. So if you are bashing heads with your partner, often just some tweaks in the way that you understand them and the way you respond to them will diffuse situations.” (30:16)   Links Secrets To A Kickass Marriage by Midori Verity Midori Verity Website   Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/107 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Apr 6

33 min

Holly Bertone was on the highest levels of financial management when she was diagnosed with breast cancer. After beginning the journey to recovery while becoming newly engaged, she was diagnosed with the autoimmune disease Hashimoto’s less than a year later. While she expected support from the company that she had worked so hard for, Holly was met with accusations and dismissal. The experience of betrayal and bullying in the workplace lead Holly to write her book, Thriving in the Workplace with Autoimmune Disease: Know Your Rights, Resolve Conflict and Reduce Stress. Since then Holly has become a sought after speaker, wellness expert, Amazon bestseller and President and CEO of Pink Fortitude.  Today Holly is here to share her story of overcoming medical adversity, lessons learned from betrayal in the workplace, and how you can thrive in gratitude despite your past experiences. If you have ever experienced workplace betrayal, this is episode is filled with practical information that you can’t miss.  Holly literally wrote the book on your rights and responsibilities in the workplace when dealing with an autoimmune disease or another workplace betrayal, and is passionate about sharing her resources with everyone so that you own your place in the workplace.  Have you experienced workplace betrayal? Share your story with us in the comments on the episode page.    In This Episode A look into the shifting of priorities after a lifechanging diagnosis or event Learn about paid leave during a health crisis, who to speak with for answers and more The importance of self-reflection and difficult conversations when dealing with betrayal Which offices you should be contacting if you are experiencing workplace discrimination How to make sense and peace out of your workplace betrayal and when its time to leave   Quotes “I just felt this peace that breast cancer was my gift and that this whole life transition was my new gift in life.” (5:45) “An autoimmune disease is, as they say, the gift that keeps on giving. Cancer kicked my butt temporarily, autoimmune disease was a much bigger, longer journey of kicking my butt.” (8:24) “You’re supposed to be in a management position, you are supposed to be supporting me, and I have legal documentation telling me that you are supposed to be doing this.” (14:09) “There are not a lot of resources out there. I tried to find what I could, and its like navigating a sea without a map, you are just in this ocean and you can’t even see land at this point.” (19:20) “I guess I kind of divorced myself from that connection and said ‘I need to stand on my own two feet during this process’. And I need to be my own advocate and I need to figure things out myself.” (23:06) “I would not wish my journey on anyone, but I am so grateful that I have been able to go through it.” (24:55)   Links Thriving in the Workplace with Autoimmune Disease by Holly Bertone Pink Fortitude Website Get Your Free E-Book Downloads Here   Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/106 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Mar 30

28 min

So often we forget to prioritize our own self-love and self-care after a betrayal, but these practices can hold the key to discovering who you are, how to come back to yourself and ways to stop putting other people ahead of you. Self-care is not selfish, it is self-preservation, and with the expert advice of our next guests, you can implement these self-love routines despite your busy schedule and start reaping the rewards.  Tammy Lawman and Brooke Emery are the co-creators of the Self-Love and Self-Care Symposium, a space dedicated to teaching you how to love yourself more fully, appreciate your unique gifts and take better care of yourself so that you can shine more brightly in the world. Tammy, a business strategist, and marketing expert, and Brooke, a connector and creative business strategist, work together to bring big vision to their clients and provide the fuel necessary to inspire, motivate and transform.  These two self-care experts are here today to give you simple strategies to start giving yourself a little bit more love. By allowing yourself the right to say no, connecting to your forgotten child and putting yourself on your own to-do list, you can start to shine your light brighter in the world. Are you ready to embrace Tammy and Brooke’s simple, easy and free steps so that you can figure out what you want out of your life and go after it? Share your self-love and self-care habits and wishes with us in the comments section on the episode page.    In This Episode Why saying no and setting boundaries can be a powerful act of self-love Ways to prioritize self-care and cultivate self-love within your busy schedule Short and brief rituals that can help you get your day back on track The importance of starting your day with an uplifting gratitude routine How to check in with your inner child and have more fun along the journey   Quotes “When you are saying no to something else, you are saying yes to yourself.” (6:45) “For me, to be able to share authentically and connect deeply with another person is the greatest act of self-love.” (11:25) “Just try it on like an experiment. Just because that works for me, it doesn’t mean it is going to work for that person. But just trying to, maybe drive down a different road, you know? Just experiment with how the morning routine goes, because I really feel that the morning is how things set up.” (22:38) “We’re sharing all kinds of tips and methodologies, all to help you get back to a place of fully loving yourself more and really learning how to take care of yourself, how to tap into your intuition and how to feel good in your body.” (25:24) “We believe that when you love yourself you can go out in the world and you can fully love with your whole heart and really share your unique abilities and talents with the world.” (28:55)   Links Self-Care and Self-Love Symposium    Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/105 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Mar 23

32 min

Maggie Kelly is a mindful life coach, meditation instructor, podcaster, public speaker and awakener. After her son was born with cystic fibrosis, Maggie felt betrayed by her expectations of health for her son. Through meditation and mindfulness practices Maggie was able to turn introspectively to address her fear and dismiss her limiting beliefs. Despite what you may think, ultimately you are not in charge. It is only by giving in to this universal power and accepting that you cannot control everything that you can find true peace. Today Maggie is here to provide you with actionable steps so that you can illuminate the roadblocks inside of yourself that are standing in the way of living an envisioned and awakened life. By returning to the very foundational essence of who you are and what you are capable of, you can tune into what is around you and become at peace with the fact that nothing is permanent, both good or bad. Are you ready to take responsibility for your part in your betrayal and become okay with what happens when life doesn’t fit your perfect picture? Share your thoughts on Maggie’s story with us in the comments on the episode page.   In This Episode How to make sense and meaning out of a betrayal of expectations and health The role of meditation when changing your way of being and creating a shift Getting comfortable with the idea that nothing is permanent or lasts forever Why it’s a good thing to question your thoughts and stop believing them as fact Investigating your role in your own betrayal by turning inward instead of outward   Quotes “I think that it’s important when we are talking about betrayal and having a breakthrough from that experience or coming out of the grief of having been betrayed, I think it is important for us to stop and be a little mindful as to how did we get there.” (2:49) “I was living out constant and consistent never-ending fear, that that is what drove the show. The fear always drove the show and that’s when I started to really get in touch with what that fear was about.” (8:03) “Most of us believe what we think, and very seldom do we check it out with anybody.” (13:16) “What meditation is about is for you to be able to notice that in that stillness your thoughts start to stray and take you away. And then in that noticing, bringing yourself back to that place of stillness.” (19:23) “What’s really important when you are thinking that you have been betrayed is for you to actually step back and survey the situation and ask yourself what was my part.” (21:57)   Links Sat Sang House Website   Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/104 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Mar 16

28 min

Eva Medilek’s life came crashing down when she found text messages on her husband’s phone suggesting he was in love with another woman. What came next was a painful and messy situation, but through hard work and personal development, they were able to make the decision to do whatever it took to kill their old relationship and create a new one together. Now a relationship style success coach, Eva helps other powerful women create a meaningful life by becoming more vulnerable and intimate. Eva is proof that your betrayal can open you up to revealing your greatest gift, and is here today to share her story and wisdom with you.  By staying in the present creation of what you can build, Eva is here to help you stop worrying about the past and start thriving in your future. Everything from the importance of personal development to tools that you can take back to your relationship is on the agenda today as Eva helps you close the intimacy gap.  Passionate about what is possible on the other side of betrayal, Eva wants to help you refocus your energy and persevere through your pain. An inspiring story of forgiveness, trust, and intimacy, this is an episode you don’t want to miss. Has personal development played a role in your ability to move through your betrayal? Share your story with us in the comments on the episode page.    In This Episode The importance of finding a therapist that works for both partners  Why you need to stand in the power of the relationship you want and deserve How to have trust in your partner as a highly driven individual  Why your greatest betrayal can reveal your greatest gift and purpose The role of your tribe and why you need to surround yourself with positivity   Quotes “Once I realized that he was literally falling in love with another woman, my heart was racing, I just really wanted to collapse because I realized that everything that we were working to achieve could be lost. My marriage could end, and I could end up spending all of this time building this dream and end up alone again.” (6:24) “Your investment is in the relationship, in the relationship that you are both creating together, it is actually not in the person.” (12:26) “To use that drive to focus on intimacy, vulnerability, and connection in their relationships, and really rechanneling that energy and learning how to shift it.” (19:35 “Diamonds are made from that pressure, and the fire, and that’s where you can create something beautiful.” (22:51) “I didn’t want this to be hidden and under the rug, life is real and how we show up in life and handle all of the challenges that life brings us, we get in trouble when we try to hide.” (30:10)   Links Eva Medilek Website   Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/103 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Mar 9

34 min

Dr. Michelle Eggenberger is an author, holistic stress and anxiety coach, doctor of oriental medicine, licensed acupuncturist, health coach and certified yoga teacher, just to name a few. After recovering from her own romantic betrayal and a string of health issues, Dr. Michelle realized that it was within her power to find a better way to live.  Through this journey of self-discovery, Dr. Michelle realized the importance of prioritizing self-love and self-worth and has since been on a mission to share her message with the world. Living proof that you can manifest the things you want in life if you work to keep the mind, body, and spirit healthy, Dr. Michelle is here to help you allow the Universe to guide you to where you need to be.  You have the choice to choose yourself and give yourself the happy life that you deserve. Making the decision to prioritize both your mental and physical health while becoming aware of how your thoughts affect you is key to becoming the architect of your own destiny.  Are you ready to allow Dr. Michelle to teach you how to harness the power of your body through yoga, awareness and the mind-heart connection so that you can find joy after your betrayal? Share your self-love and self-compassion tips with us in the comments section on the episode page.    In This Episode Explore the connection between the mind, spirit, and body when finding self-love Learn how your emotions are tied to your digestive system and overthinking your reality How acupuncture can help you circulate and move your emotions through your body Discover how your daily thoughts can manifest into physical emotions and reactions  The importance of practicing yoga and nurturing the mind-heart connection   Quotes “One of the reasons why when we have a romantic betrayal it is so powerful in our own self-worth and all that is because of the vulnerability factor.” (6:05) “Slowly I started finding the strength to understand my self-worth and my self-love and what I needed to do to step out of that relationship, that that relationship was no longer fit for me.” (10:23) “We are so perfectly done that our body, when we haven’t been taking care of our mind and our emotions, our body will tell us.” (17:31) “One of the things that happens when you start doing yoga as a real practice, you start going into the mind-heart connection. And that is where the real magic happens, for everything. That is where the real transformation and real healing happens.” (20:42) “It’s the thoughts that we create that will create the feelings that we experience, that will create the actions and the reality that we see.” (22:48)   Links The Energetics of Joy by Dr. Michelle Eggenberger The Energetics of Joy Website The Dharma Clinic Website   Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/102 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Mar 2

33 min

Michelle Dickinson is a passionate potter who has worked in the pharmaceutical industry for eighteen years and is the author of the memoir Breaking Into My Life, a rare glimpse into a young girl’s experience living with and loving her bipolar mother. Michelle has overcome years of neglect and confusion surrounding her mother’s mental condition and is here today to share how she came out on the other side a vehement advocate for mental health and ending the stigma.  Through her self-work and internal healing, Michelle has reached a place of forgiveness and determination to hold space in the mental health community and remove the stigma for those suffering and their caretakers. By transforming her experiences with her mother’s illness from harmful to empowering, Michelle is making massive strides when it comes to providing help to those who need it.  Michelle wants you to be courageous and take the first step towards healing, instead of pretending that what inhibits you doesn’t exist. Out of your greatest messes comes your message, and this episode is all about transformation and gaining the confidence to choose the life you want for yourself instead of the life you know.  You are not your past, and from this moment forward you have the power to create what you want for yourself and claim it as your own. Michelle is here to provide advice, hope and inspire your perseverance so that you too can triumph over what ails you.  How has Michelle inspired you to take your painful experience and turn it into something positive? Share your thoughts with us in the comments on the episode page.    In This Episode Gain a glimpse into life as a child caregiver for an undiagnosed bipolar parent  Tips for creating self-care boundaries and practices in the name of self-preservation Why you need to let go of the limiting beliefs you may not even know you tell yourself Signs that you need to look within yourself and do the hard work of self-discovery The importance of abolishing the stigma around mental health and providing help to everyone who needs it   Quotes “Our needs were always on the back burner. If I had a bad day at school or there was an upset with a girlfriend, that didn’t matter. What mattered was if she had what she needs. So I quickly learned how to hide my own needs and put whatever I needed on the shelf and really just focus on her.” (6:07) “She kind of gave me permission to create that boundary and that space and love myself and take care of myself, when no one had ever done that for me.” (12:00) “Self-care wasn’t something that I grew up learning. I was having to learn how to create boundaries and care for myself, this was an act of caring for myself by doing that.” (17:06) “You don’t realize how these experiences from your youth and your relationship with your mother alter what you believe you can and cannot do in your life.” (21:52) “I would want every child to know that they are perfect, whole and complete, just as they are, and that their potential is limitless. ” (23:57)   Links Breaking Into My Life Website Breaking Into My Life by Michelle Dickinson   Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/101 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Feb 24

33 min

I can hardly believe that we have reached the 100 episode milestone, and I know that you have learned a lot throughout the amazing array of guests I have been lucky enough to talk to. To celebrate I wanted to share with you the seven greatest lessons I have learned in the past 99 episodes, and provide you with a recap of some of the experts that may be worth revisiting depending on your topic of interest.  My goal is to provide you with an array of tools and amazing insights so that you can take off your rose-colored glasses and start moving the needle on your healing journey. Everything from divorce to forgiveness and essential oils has been covered in the past 100 episodes, and I am here today to highlight those that are going to help you live a confident and resilient life regardless of your betrayal history.  If you are ready to heal from your betrayal physically, mentally, emotionally and spiritually, I am here to help you onto the path of true happiness. No matter what your betrayal you can come out on the other side, and it is through these seven greatest lessons that you can empower yourself to do so.  Are you ready to rediscover the fire within yourself and find the lesson you need to learn in order to heal? Share some of your favorite episodes with us and let us know what topics you want to hear more of in the comments on the episode page.    In This Episode Recap the biggest takeaways and greatest lessons from the last 99 episodes Highlight the non-negotiable importance of support when dealing with betrayal trauma  Learn the role of the body-mind connection when dealing with betrayal Why you should choose empowerment instead of a victim mindset to achieve healing Tips for embracing resilience, transformation, and forgiveness when healing from betrayal   Quotes “Those were the episodes that I feel really shared the depth and importance of relationships and possibility, so if any of those resonated with you, go on in and listen to those again, you will get so much more out of it.” (17:49) “While it may be impossible to eliminate all of the stress from your life, it is possible to train your brain to handle stressful situations with more grace and ease by employing tools such as regarding your mind before a stressful event and replenishing yourself afterward, you can build up your capacity to cope with the challenges of life.” (28:28) “There are so many different tools that we can use to heal and that is why hopefully I want you to listen and relisten so that you can find the tools that work for you.” (31:57) “Going through a betrayal impacts every part of us including physically, mentally and emotionally, and spiritually. When we are not able to heal and release the trauma, it can build up inside our cellular memory and cause illness, disease and unnecessary stress. It is only by treating our symptoms in a holistic way that we can begin to understand the mind-body connection.” (42:49) “If you feel as though you wear a shield of protective armor that is hiding a fraud, its time to take off your battle uniform and live a life full of authenticity and happiness.” (1:09:22)   Links Breakthrough Essential Oil Healing Products PBT Institute Certification    Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/100 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Feb 17

82 min

Darrah Brustein is equal parts teacher, connector and founder of Life By Design, Not By Default. After multiple betrayals in the business world including losing her job, embezzlement from her partners, and the lack of faith from her mother, Darrah came out the other side as the embodiment of the power of persistence.  Now a prolific writer, co-host of a YouTube channel with Deepak Chopra and a profound speaker, Darrah is here to share how you can build a life of your own design. Darrah is passionate about sharing everything that got her to where she is today, from the benefits of business betrayals to embracing your failures and what she learned as a result. After being burned by the people she trusted and a system she believed in, Darrah harnessed her motivation to move forward and leaned into her intuition, and you can too. The true manifestation of effortlessness, Darrah wants to help you define a life that defines success for yourself, builds a career to help you fund it and attracts a network to support it. No matter the challenges you have faced, success is often right around the corner from failure, but if you stop at failure you will never reach it. Darrah is here to inspire you to create your zone of genius and keep moving forward while embracing the lessons the universe wants you to learn. Can you relate to Darrah’s story of business betrayal? Head on over to the episode page and let us know what has kept you going or held you back in the comments on the episode page.    In This Episode Questions you should ask yourself if it seems bad luck is following your every move Ways to become comfortable with uncertainty and lean into whatever life throws at you Tips for following your intuition and how to use your past to embrace your future How Darrah was able to cultivate a dream relationship with Deepak Chopra Quotes “I realized that the narrative that I had been taught, and almost spoon-fed my whole life, of you know, kind of the American dream. Go to school, get good grades, get a job, get the house, and so on, happily ever after, was not working for me in any way, shape or form.” (7:22) “Instead of doing the thing I did the first time and picking the thing that I already knew I was passionate about and trying to make that an enjoyable and fulfilling career, which didn’t work. Let me try and reverse engineer this and try and find things that I am excited about doing and help me feel motivated and energized on a day to day basis and then become excited about the product or service as a result.” (9:09) “It all came back down to the reputation and that we were building and building and doing it the right with integrity, and someone ripped that out from under us.” (16:57) “I am a deep believer in where the current is taking you and where momentum exists organically is the cue that you are on the right path. And when it is not, and you are white-knuckling it and when you are swimming upstream is when you are not.” (19:18) “Look for the evidence in your past to find even a tiny example of when things clicked and worked and how that felt, and let that even be a tiny example for you of how you can build more of that.” (26:05)   Links Darrah Brustein Website Follow Deepak and Darrah on YouTube Follow Darrah on Instagram   Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/99 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Feb 10

35 min

Have you ever felt dismissed or ignored in the doctor's office? This can be a form of medical betrayal and can leave many people feeling confused and without answers. Dr. Tom Moorcroft realized the deep connection between mental and emotional symptoms and hidden infections such as Lyme disease and mold and has set out to bring the news to patients and doctors alike to help provide those suffering from the trusting care they deserve.  It may surprise you that everything from your brain to your heart and your gut are connected. When you experience trauma, betrayal or are infected with a toxin that impacts your immune or digestive system, it can wreak havoc on your body and cause mood changes, sleep disruptions and a whole host of other mental, emotional and physical issues. In this episode Dr. Tom is explaining the science behind physical and behavioral changes due to an illness or infection, the difference between Pandas, Pans, and Polyvagal Theory, and what symptoms to be looking out for. Get ready to learn something on this episode as we dive into how your doctor's dismissal to the psychologist's office could be misplaced, understand how your gut is related to all systems of your body, and explore how to reconnect with your head and heart by healing the disease you may not even know you have.  Just because your doctor may not understand the complexity of your symptoms, it doesn't mean that they do not exist. Once you are able to understand how the gut, heart, and mind are all connected, you can work to heal yourself from the inside out and give yourself permission to do the things you love again. Has a steal infection or illness impacted you or the ones you love? Share what steps you are taking to find a solution in the comments on the episode page.    In This Episode Different therapeutic approaches to become grounded in who you are How to step away from including your disease as part of your identity  Understanding the connection between your gut, anxiety, and memories Helping to heal your emotions, brain, and heart by first healing your gut  Altering the biochemical changes in your brain after experiencing a betrayal    Quotes “A lot of people feel like they have been betrayed by the system. And it's not so much the system doing the wrong thing on purpose, it's often that their symptoms are so complex that they don't understand it.” (2:38) “I’m not saying don't do therapy, don't do the medicines, but also once you do those things that are medically appropriate, also continue to look for the underlying cause.” (8:39) “If we change what is going on in the gut, it changes our ability to create new memories, retrieve old memories, and also to deal with fear properly.” (17:27) “Just because someone else is using different words and reacting to an experience different than I am, it doesn't mean that I am right and they are wrong or vice versa.” (22:53) “As you open your heart and experience some more joy, your gut will open up.” (27:39)   Links Dr. Tom Moorcroft Origins of Health Website Empowered by Lyme Facebook Group   Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/98 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Feb 3

35 min

Food can often be something we turn too after a betrayal in our to make ourselves feel better, which can lead to emotional and compulsive overeating. Stephanie Dodier has dedicated her life to helping women begin the journey of reconciling their relationship with food after betrayal and stop overeating. Today we are tackling everything from body neutrality to self-acceptance, self-compassion, and binge eating. Overeating is not a symptom of being broken. You are working through your betrayal experience and using food as a way to work through the pain. It can be a vicious circle, but by understanding what drives your desire to eat and tips on how you can work to become more present when you eat, Stephanie is here to help guide you through this phase.  You can’t change what you are not aware of, and by taking your compulsive eating as a learning experience you can work with your body to reconnect to acceptance. Have you or do you currently struggle with emotional or binge eating? Let us know where you are on this journey in the comments on the episode page.   In This Episode Emotional eating and what drives it Why it's okay to not have wired in will power The first steps you should take after bingeing Working with your body image and body neutrality What you can do at this moment to begin your healing   Quotes “We have a betrayal experience, we feel pain, we then turn to food as a way of numbing that pain. Yet, we don't know that most of us are not conscious of that, and therefore we think we are broken, that were out of control, that we don't have will power because that's what the diet weight loss industry is telling us.” (2:04) “What I am here to tell you is that same power that betrayal has on your life, it has on your food.” (3:37) “It's an out of body experience. Because you are running away from the pain that caused you to binge. Like the pain that you didn't know what to do with, it’s too painful so you are leading your body into that binge mode.” (9:59) “Self-love is great, but what we really need is self-acceptance and self-compassion.” (14:38) “What I want women to leave with today is that there is a positive that you can learn from your relationship to food and your body.” (18:46)   Links Stephanie Dodier website Going Beyond the Food Podcast Claim your Food Freedom Training Program Get your Food Freedom Score Dr. Gabor Maté   Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/97 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Jan 27

23 min

Clare Dubé is a financial therapist and founder of Smart Chats, a financial service helping couples and business partners save their finances and their relationships. Clare is an expert in taking financial situations from chaos to clarity and connection due to her own family business betrayal, and she works zealously to help others from making the same mistakes.  Unequal payments and draws in her family business lead Clare to start doing some self-work which prepared her for the ultimate betrayal of being cut out of what she was owed by her brothers, including her children’s college funds. Today Clare is here to shed light on how to keep things fair, embrace your value and start creating some boundaries.  If you have experienced a family or business betrayal and want to start looking at your situation with a different lens so that you can start to ease your pain, Clare’s journey is one you have got to hear. How does Clare’s story of resilience and turning your hardest pain into your greatest gift inspire you to stand up for yourself? Share your thoughts with us in the comments on the episode page.    In This Episode How to look through other peoples lenses to forgive but not forget Tips for managing your feelings when a betrayal is never acknowledged  How to use your betrayal as a motivating factor pushing you forward to success The importance of clear boundaries and how they can improve any relationship Why you need to seek clarity for yourself and others while speaking up and asking questions   Quotes “It was when I started to really work very hard in this business and brought so much value to the business that I was starting to realize that shift was coming. It’s not about my self-worth, it’s the value I am putting forth in this company.” (5:16) “Its really a deep dive that you have to keep questioning because you can’t just accept the first answer, you have to keep on going.” (7:33) “I could choose to be a victim in it or I could choose to roll up my sleeves, start my own business and use my value in a way that I knew was best.” (11:42) “It has to become a boundary, it has to be a lesson learned and it has to be a reminder.” (15:08) “If you have been betrayed, whether it is in business or relationships, everybody plays a part so question where you are, what part you played, and be a part of it. Don’t take yourself out of the situation.” (19:21)   Links Clare Dubé Website   Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/96 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Jan 20

23 min

Tommy Breedlove is on a mission to empower humans to build a legendary life. A men’s mindset, relationship, and business coach, Tommy helps guide his audiences and clients to discover their zone of brilliance while living a balanced, meaningful life. An advocate for healing from self-betrayal through self-love, Tommy is bringing his amazingly profound mindset shifts to you to help you transform from a mess to success.  If you want to gain a male perspective on self-betrayal, explore what it was like to take part in an intense group therapy process, or are just looking for a few tips on self-compassion and self-respect, Tommy is the guy you need to hear from. We only get so many spins around the sun, and Tommy wants to empower you to make the choice to find your purpose and live the best life you can.  With an attitude of servitude, compassion and raw honesty, Tommy has turned his life around and is here to share his story and inspire you to do the same. Are you ready to do the hard work to have everything you want in life? Share this episode with a man in your life and let us know the response in the comments on the episode page.    In This Episode Tools to help keep you accountable when times get tough Why you need to give yourself the love and compassion you give everyone else  The importance of talking about our darkness and knowing we are not alone Tips for carrying yourself with power instead of force How to become a better leader through empowerment and guidance   Quotes “So many people loved me when I couldn’t love myself, and it leads to just disastrous consequences.” (7:32) “Out of fear and out of wanting to be accepted and out of feeling unloveable, if there was a list of 100 things not to do, I had probably checked off about 90 of them. And at 37 years old I almost lost it all.” (11:53) “I still do the hard work each and every day to be the best human I can be. But all of that process started with those 2 programs and then it’s just crazy what has happened in my life in self-respect, self-love, in my marriage, in my network, to my business, it’s just been this beautiful thing because it has been this slow shift from fear to abundance.” (15:35) “How many spins do we get around the sun? We don’t know, so why don’t we choose to live as happy and as healthy as we can while we are here.” (17:23) “I don’t want to change them, I just want to give them more tools to be legendary in their businesses, their careers, but just as importantly in their families and in their lives.” (24:22) “It’s not if life is going to happen, but when.” (26:43)   Links Contact Tommy at tommy@tommybreedlove.com Tommy Breedlove Website Legendary by Tommy Breedlove   Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/95 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Jan 13

32 min

Did you know that patterns that may arise in your family, such as theft, cheating, and bankruptcy, could actually be being passed down throughout the generations genetically? Ariann Thomas has been exploring the connection between familial patterns and decisions for thirty-five years and helps her clients rewrite history and leave their past ancestors' burdens behind to change their own lives for the better. Ariann believes that by healing the roots that may have started growing centuries ago, you can create a life filled with health, abundance, and happiness for yourself and future generations. Today she is sharing exactly how patterns and predispositions can be inherited through families, how to recognize and break a cycle of genetic transfer, and gives us a look into what her clients experience when on a Shamanic Journey to find generational healing and internal peace. When you are able to go back and clear your patterns of betrayal from past generations, you can make way for a future full of healing and hope for the next. If you are open to the idea of rewriting history to change your familial decisions, clear out negative energy, and fill your soul with the happiness of the present, Ariann is here to help you take the first step on that journey. Have you ever noticed a feeling of a past burden or a common family disposition? Let us know how you can relate to Ariann’s teachings in the comments section on the episode page.   In This Episode Understanding the difference between nature and nurture in genetic predispositions Why you may be genetically inclined to pick a certain type of partner or career How to address traumatic experiences that have continued in the family for generations Analyzing the role meditation and mindfulness can play in repairing your damaged DNA What to do if you notice a pattern in your family behaviors that you want to change   Quotes “Memories get passed down through our genes, into our children and our grandchildren. And they are triggered by actions that we see happening around us in our families.” (5:18) “You may have a family history of betrayal, you don’t have to play that out if you are trained differently and that betrayal gene is not turned on and expressed.” (9:40) “Until you heal the wounds that we have inherited until you heal the wounds that create that pattern, the pattern will continue to grow, the pattern will continue to manifest in your life, and the pattern will continue to show up in your children and grandchildren and future generations.” (13:07) “I always talk about healing from the roots, but this is like the real roots, back many many generations ago.” (31:40) - Debi   Links Free Healing Gifts From Ariann Ancestral Lineage Clearing Website Changing Our Genetic Heritage: Creating a New Reality for Ourselves and Future Generations Healing Family Patterns: Ancestral Lineage Clearing for Personal Growth The Female Factor: A Confidence Guide for Women   Find the full episode post here: https://pbtinstitute.com/94 Do you have Post Betrayal Syndrome? Take the quiz: https://pbtinstitute.com/quiz/ Products and Programs specifically designed to help you heal from betrayal: https://pbtinstitute.com/shop/ Connect: Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/InspireEmpowerTransform Free Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/WomenHackingBetrayal/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/DebiSilber LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/debisilber/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/debisilber/ Watch my TEDx: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=XX30i6nC7ro

Jan 6

34 min

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