Unlimited

Valerie Friedlander

The Unlimited Podcast is for badass women who are on a journey to move beyond their learned limitations to live present, fun, and impactful lives. It's about reaching for the stars while keeping your feet on the ground. Your Host, Valerie Friedlander is a certified life/business alignment coach with over 20 years of science and spiritually based personal development study. You can find out more at www.valeriefriedlander.com and follow her on Instagram @unlimitedcoachval

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Seven ways to reduce holiday stress and really stress in your life in general is the theme for this bonus episode! Despite the joyful intention of the season, many life stressors expand this time of year. Stressors such as time, money, and family dynamics. Throw in a dose of inclement weather and you can suddenly find you’ve flipped from the warm and cozy person you want to be, to a cold and prickly “just get through it” kind of you.In this episode of Unlimited, I share seven ways to reduce holiday stress for yourself.Some of what I talk about in this episode includes:How our stress triggers intersectNavigating expectations and perfectionismClarifying and supporting your values this time of yearIntentional engagement of time and moneyBuilding emotional resiliency and releasing stressCreating a self-support plan for gatherings Stay tuned for when Unlimited comes back with Season 2 in January!If you found this episode helpful, please share it! You can tag me on social: @unlimitedcoachval  Want to share your thoughts or have questions? Send me a message! I love to hear from you. You can email me at valerie@valeriefriedlander.com or DM me on InstagramLINKS REFERENCED IN THIS EPISODE:Episode 4: Setting Holiday BoundariesEpisode 3: Understanding Your Stress LanguageBook a coaching sessionList of things to say to support healthy relationshipsCONNECT WITH VALERIE:Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!

Nov 24

40 min 59 sec

Seven steps to mindful time management sounds simple and, in some ways, it is, but it isn’t what you think. It’s not about tips for the best productivity hacks, habits to manage your time wisely, or tools to schedule yourself for optimal effectiveness. It actually starts with acknowledging that we have an unhealthy view of what we should be doing with our time in the first place. Along with that we have unreasonable expectations of how much we should be able to do with our time. Once we become aware of those dynamics in how we think about time, then we can start engaging time from a more mindful and sustainable place.In this episode of Unlimited, I explore what it means to mindfully manage your time and what’s stopping you from doing it.Some of what I talk about in this episode includes:Understanding what it means to manage your timeBeing at choice with your timeEmbracing flexibility to maximize your timeThe impact of mindset and societal stories on time management Ways to engage mindful time managementThank you for listening and joining me for Season 1 of Unlimited! Please be sure to subscribe so you’re notified when I come back with Season 2.If you enjoyed this episode, please share it! Take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me: @unlimitedcoachvalWant to share your thoughts or have questions? Send me a message! I love to hear from you. You can email me at valerie@valeriefriedlander.com or DM me on InstagramLINKS REFERENCED IN THIS EPISODE:My Grandmother’s Hands (book)What’s Killing My Motivation?The Social Dilemma (movie)Creating Your Ideal Day YOUR WaySchedule a call with ValerieCONNECT WITH VALERIE: Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!

Oct 20

43 min 4 sec

What’s killing my motivation and how do I fix it are two questions many clients come to me with. They usually have something they want and can’t seem to get themselves to DO what they need to do to get it. There are lots of reasons they think are the problem – they don’t know the right thing to do, they have a mindset issue, they need to be more organized, more disciplined, manage their time better, etc. While there may be some truth to these beliefs, they are surface issues, which is why people struggle to solve them on their own. In this episode of Unlimited, I explore the deeper issues that may be killing your motivation and share some solutions to re-energize taking action. Some of what I talk about in this episode includes: Beliefs about motivation that sabotage you Understanding motivation What’s wrong with Maslow’s Hierarchy of needs Patterns of confidence and self-doubt in compassionate people Check ins to increase motivation Thank you for listening and be sure to tune in next week for more tips on motivation and time management! If you enjoyed this episode, please share it! Take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me: @unlimitedcoachvalWant to share your thoughts or have questions? Send me a message! I love to hear from you.You can email me at valerie@valeriefriedlander.com or DM me on InstagramAND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast! LINKS REFERENCED IN THIS EPISODE: Psychology Today - MotivationThe Blackfoot Origins of Maslow's Hierarchy of NeedsMore Self-Control Is Not Always The AnswerSubmit a question anonymously CONNECT WITH VALERIE: Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!

Oct 13

45 min 22 sec

The myths around productivity are hurting both your productivity AND your mental health. Mythologies always have a purpose for being created, usually to explain something or to illustrate a cultural ideal. These myths of productivity were generated to turn abusive labor practices into an internalized cultural ideal that we then perpetuate upon ourselves. This narrative leads us to abuse ourselves to live up do this mythology’s “good person” and the belief that if we are good enough we will eventually achieve some future dream life. In this episode of Unlimited, I call out the lies that have become our myths around productivity and invite you into a new narrative of holistic wellness and sustainable living.Some of what I talk about in this episode includes:The definition of productivity and its impactStories you tell yourself that keep you stuckMotivation and the story of lazyRe-thinking time managementCreating a process that supports youThank you for listening and be sure to tune in next week for more tips on motivation and time management!If you enjoyed this episode, please share it! Take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me: @unlimitedcoachval Want to share your thoughts or have questions? Send me a message! I love to hear from you. You can email me at valerie@valeriefriedlander.com or DM me on InstagramAND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast!LINKS REFERENCED IN THIS EPISODE:Making decisions I can trustMore self-control is not always the answerDealing with Burnout beyond the 9-5Apply for a recorded coaching sessionSubmit a question anonymouslyCONNECT WITH VALERIE: Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!

Oct 6

39 min 54 sec

Empowering evolution in your work is first and foremost about recognizing that you CAN evolve. You are not confined to what you currently know or the way you currently are or even what you’ve done in the past. With that belief, each choice becomes an opportunity to evolve into MORE the person you want to be both in experience and impact. This mindset is key to creating content that is accessible and meets people where they’re at because it allows for curiosity over judgement. It enables you to learn new things, let go of what isn’t working, and make new choices that create new outcomes.In this episode of Unlimited, the podcast, I invited Myrna Daramy to join me in a conversation around empowering yourself to evolve your work in a way that supports you AND the difference you want to make in the world.Some of the things we talk about in this episode are:Being informed not confined by binary boxesThe difference between evolving and scalingWhat it means to be accessible as a digital creatorShowing up authenticallyDefining what being an expert looks like for YOUThank you for listening!If you enjoyed this episode, please share it! Take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me: @unlimitedcoachvalWant to share your thoughts or have questions? Send me a message! I love to hear from you.You can email me at valerie@valeriefriedlander.com or DM me on InstagramAND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast!LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE:Essential Web Accessibility ChecklistCONNECT WITH MYRNA DARAMY: Website Instagram LinkedInCONNECT WITH VALERIE: Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!

Sep 29

42 min 29 sec

Many women feel called to get involved in their local government. Women and other minorities are drastically under-represented on all levels of government. Most of us agree the consequences of this are highly problematic. We want to contribute to make our communities a better place, but we typically opt for volunteer opportunities over running for office. Volunteering IS certainly important but what holds us back from running and helping reduce this representation gap ourselves? There’s a commitment involved but we give that in other places… So why not commit and contribute as an elected official? Some of what holds us back is logistical, but some of it is an overwhelm that stems from what we THINK it looks like to run for and hold office.  In this episode of Unlimited, the podcast, I invited Kristal Larson, Clerk of Avon Township to join me in a conversation around some of the beliefs and mindset barriers that hold women back from actually running for office when they feel called to get involved in their local government . Some of what we talk about includeMisconceptions about running for office/being in officeThe importance of knowing what’s important to youBuilding confidence being visibleBeing a business owner, advocate, AND elected officialWhere to start if you want to get involvedStaying centered when doing all the thingsIf you're feeling called to run for office, know that it's not as overwhelming as you think and the support is out there!Go to meetings, reach out to aligned officials, show your passion. Remember, we want YOU!Thank you for listening!If you enjoyed this episode, please share it! Take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me: @unlimitedcoachvalWant to share your thoughts or have questions? Send me a message! I love to hear from you. You can email me at valerie@valeriefriedlander.com or DM me on InstagramAND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast!  LINKS FROM THIS EPISODERepresent Women – By the NumbersShe Should RunUnlimited Episode 46 - Leading with Growth MindsetCONNECT WITH KRISTAL LARSON:WebsiteFacebookCONNECT WITH VALERIE:Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!

Sep 22

44 min 38 sec

Leading with growth mindset takes a certain amount of willingness to be vulnerable. Why? Because it means you own your mistakes. This isn’t easy in a society dominated by fixed mindset, which feeds the idea that if you make a mistake then you ARE a mistake. Fixed mindset leads to constantly trying to prove good enough because of a believe that we are born a certain way and cannot change. Thus, everything is an indication of our inherent being. Growth mindset is a belief that you can cultivate qualities. It feeds the idea that mistakes are opportunities because you can always learn to do better. Many current leadership trainings emphasize growth mindset and the term has become a bit of a buzz word but what it look like in a leader?In this episode of Unlimited, the podcast, I invited Andre Vasquez, Alderperson of the 40th Ward in Chicago to join me in a conversation that emphasizes what it looks like to lead with growth mindset in life and government.Some of what we talk about in this episode includes:Owning your mistakes and making living amendsAuthentically and imperfectly showing upNormalizing self-doubtPlaying to your strengthsOwning your present momentBeing an activist outside and then inside the systemThank you for listening!If you enjoyed this episode, please share it! Take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me: @unlimitedcoachvalWant to share your thoughts or have questions? Send me a message! I love to hear from you. You can email me at valerie@valeriefriedlander.com or DM me on InstagramAND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast!LINKS FROM THIS EPISODEThe 50th Law by 50 Cent and Robert GreeneThe Esra Klein Show: Your Success Probably Didn’t Come from Merit Alone – interview with Tressie McMillian40th Ward Office Spotify PlaylistCONNECT WITH ANDRE VASQUEZ:40th Ward WebsiteInstagramFacebookCONNECT WITH VALERIE:Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!

Sep 15

41 min 22 sec

Unlearning internalized beauty standards and redefining beauty for myself continues to be a big work for me. As a young person, one of the ways several of the kids in my class (especially the girls) bullied me was with the label “fat.” I pointed out that the boys who were my size or larger were not also labeled this way, but it didn’t matter. It wasn’t about them. It wasn’t really about me either, but I took it on. We learn many norms, like body norms of size/shape/hair/etc., through shaming because they aren’t about us. They are about control and power. They are sprayed on us to manage what is socially undesirable and we absorb them like pesticides, poisoning our ability to nourish ourselves. Instead we learn to shame ourselves, to keep ourselves in compliance, and forget we even had a choice in the matter. In this episode of Unlimited, the podcast, I share a my most recent work to explore my own internalized beauty standards and empower myself through awareness and radical self-love.Some of what I talk about in this episode includes:Societal and generational learning and unlearningThe expansive experience of decolonizing my libraryWalking through shame toward radical self-loveChallenging society’s beauty idealsIntimate relationships and what is “sexy”Thank you for listening!If you enjoyed this episode, please share it! Take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me: @unlimitedcoachvalWant to share your thoughts or have questions? Send me a message! I love to hear from you.You can email me at valerie@valeriefriedlander.com or DM me on InstagramAND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast!BOOKS/ARTICLES REFERENECED IN THIS EPISODE:Caste: The Origins of Our Discontents by Isabel WilkersonThe Body Is Not An Apology: The Power of Radical Self LovePlucked: A History of Hair Removal by Dr. Rebecca HerzigAlok’s IG Book Report Post on PluckedMy Grandmother’s Hands: Racialized Trauma and the Pathway to Mending Our Hearts and BodiesStop Telling Women They Have Impostor SyndromeUNLIMITED EPISODES REFERENCED IN THIS EPISODE:Allowing Space to Imperfectly Love Your Body and YourselfBuilding Confidence Through Boudoir PhotographyNo, You’re Not CrazyCONNECT WITH VALERIE:Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!

Sep 8

42 min 32 sec

Finding the best bra for you can make a huge difference in how you feel about your body. Unfortunately, it’s a lot harder than it should be because most stores will size you based on what they carry. That means that the majority of women who wear bras are wearing the wrong size bra for their body! However, most of us don’t even realize it. We think that’s just the way the industry is or the way our body is. We believe it’s just one more thing we have to tolerate in life unless we want to spend lots of money on fancy custom bras. But that’s not true! You CAN have cute, supportive bras without breaking the bank no matter what size you are. In this episode of the Unlimited podcast I invited JoAnn Salazar and Sonja Beallis of Bare Moxie, an intimate boutique, to join me in a conversation around finding the best bra for you. Some of what we talk about in this episode includes:The importance of a proper bra fittingThe factors that make a bra work for youWhy so many women wear the wrong size braRed flags in bra fittingsHow to make a bra lastReleasing self-judgement based on social norms Thank you for listening!If you enjoyed this episode, please share it! Take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me: @unlimitedcoachvalWant to share your thoughts or have questions? Send me a message! I love to hear from you. You can email me at valerie@valeriefriedlander.com or DM me on Instagram AND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast! CONNECT WITH BARE MOXIE:WebsiteFacebookInstagramTwitterCONNECT WITH VALERIE:Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!

Sep 1

42 min 4 sec

Building Confidence through boudoir photography is about empowering how you view your body. Empowerment is about choice and tapping into your possibilities. Women are bombarded with unrealistic body ideals, which makes it hard not to internalize the idea that we are flawed. Then, our choice is limited to what products to buy to try to become more beautiful to the assumed gaze of others. Or to disconnect and deprioritize our physical self. Boudoir invites you see yourself and your body through a different lens, to expand what you recognize as possible for yourself. There’s a confidence that blooms out of that knowing. It’s why many women do boudoir shoots just for themselves, not only for an intimate partner.In this episode of the Unlimited podcast I invited Liz Hansen owner of Chicago Boudoir to join me in a conversation around the empowering experience of a boudoir photoshoot.Some of what we talk about in this episode includes:What is boudoir photographySexualization vs embodimentReclaiming your relationship with your bodyBuilding a sense of confidenceThe power of owning of your mistakesFemale empowerment ripple effect Thank you for listening!If you enjoyed this episode, please share it! Take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me: @unlimitedcoachvalWant to share your thoughts or have questions? Send me a message! I love to hear from you. You can email me at valerie@valeriefriedlander.com or DM me on InstagramAND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast!LINKS FROM THIS EPISODEUnpacking the Male Gaze: Birds of Prey vs. Suicide SquadCONNECT WITH LIZ HANSEN:WebsiteVIP [Facebook] Group for Empowered Women of ChicagoInstagramYouTubeCONNECT WITH VALERIE:Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!

Aug 25

38 min 42 sec

No, you’re not crazy. You’re living in a period of rapid change in a society full of unhealthy coping mechanisms. Almost all of my clients recently have brought up concerns around dramatically increased levels of anxiety and anger. They know navigating the pandemic is a factor but it unnerves them how often they don’t feel like themselves. Naturally, that exacerbates their stress and triggers self-doubt. My hope is that this episode can support clarity and relieve some of that stress. In the episode I offer both an understanding the social and psychological dynamics of this time and tools to support engaging it.In this episode of Unlimited, the podcast, I engage why you may be feeling crazy right now and what you can do to support yourself.Some of what I’ll cover in this episode include:What a period of anomie looks likeGaslighting and how it’s showing up in our livesShifting how you think about and engage stressIntentionally connecting to your values and setting boundariesVisioning through risk assessmentThere are important changes that need our intentional engagement. In order to do that we must step outside of the pull to reclaim norms that aren’t healthy and courageously lean into creating new norms. This is hard and made harder because the time between old societal norms dissolving and new societal norms forming is fertile ground for gaslighting, an already all too common technique in our society. I believe we can and must evolve. It's messy work but supporting you in it and through it is why I'm here.Thank you for listening!If you enjoyed this episode, please share it! Take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me: @unlimitedcoachvalWant to share your thoughts or have questions? Send me a message! I love to hear from you.You can email me at valerie@valeriefriedlander.com or DM me on InstagramAND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast!ARTICLES REFERENECED IN THIS EPISODE:The Sociological Definition of AnomieAnomie in the Sociological Perspective of Emile DurkheimStop Telling Women They Have Impostor SyndromeIs Someone Gaslighting You?Here’s How To spot If You’re Being GaslightedEmbracing Stress Is More Important Than Reducing StressUNLIMITED EPISODES REFERENCED IN THIS EPISODE:How to Start MeditatingUnderstanding Your Stress LanguageRelearning Self-LoveGirl, Learn to ApologizeRed Flags in Online businessToxic PositivityCONNECT WITH VALERIE:Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!

Aug 18

51 min 40 sec

Red flags in online coaching are important to notice, especially because they can often play on the very patterns you are looking for support to change. Coaching can be extremely helpful when you want to create something different in your life. Working with a coach can help you build a business that fits you, develop sustainable healthy habits, feel more confident in your personal and/or professional life, navigate a life transition, and engage with clarity so many other aspects of life. However, it is a booming and unregulated industry and the online space is full of people intentionally and unintentionally playing on and perpetuating problematic societal stories. In this episode of Unlimited, the podcast, I engage the red flags raised by some of the common “annoying things coaches say” so that you can catch them before getting sucked in by them.Some of what I’ll cover in this episode include:One size fits all strategiesMoney mindset manipulationMaking a misaligned strategy about mindsetForce weakening vs empoweringMindset band aids vs sustainable changeWhen you need a coachYou deserve support that is truly supportive and helps you feel empowered and resilient in your life. It is especially important during this time of great uncertainty as we are called to make change individually and societally. If you ever have any questions as you seek the right support for you, please feel free to reach out.Thank you for listening!If you enjoyed this episode, please share it! Take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me: @unlimitedcoachvalWant to share your thoughts or have questions? Send me a message! I love to hear from you.You can email me at valerie@valeriefriedlander.com or DM me on InstagramAND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast!LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE:#1 What Is Life Coaching#22 Creating Your Ideal Day YOUR Way#38 Making Decisions I Can Trust#39 Calling Out BS In Online Business with Sam Munoz and Karyn Paige#40 So, You Want To Start A Podcast with Alesia GalatiCONNECT WITH VALERIE:Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!

Aug 11

40 min 41 sec

So, you want to start a podcast… or maybe you’re thinking of turning a side-hustle into a business. Both are big commitments, which means there are several similarities between the two. (And if you want to do both, even better!) Marketing initiatives use stories of starting a successful business, successful podcast all the time. If you’re like me, you wonder about the behind the scenes of some of those “then I built a 6-figure biz” montages. You know they tend to skim over the tough stuff and make it sound like they can now help you fast track success with their 14-day formula. Though there can be best practices, part of the point of creating something new is that it’s new. That means you’ve still got to go through your own not-a-montage journey. Thus, you want a realistic picture of what such a big commitment is really like before stepping into it yourself.In this episode of the Unlimited podcast I invited Alesia Galati to join me in a conversation around the behind the scenes of starting a successful podcast and a successful business.Some of what we talk about in this episode includes:When the universe gives you a little pushCharging for services as you get startedHaving a support network… and using it!How to start a podcast that’s sustainableGive yourself time to know what you want and to plan accordinglyBest practices may be highly recommended, but they aren’t rulesThank you for listening!If you enjoyed this episode, please share it! Take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me: @unlimitedcoachvalWant to share your thoughts or have questions? Send me a message! I love to hear from you.You can email me at valerie@valeriefriedlander.com or DM me on InstagramAND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast!LINKS FROM THIS EPISODEListener to Leads Podcast - Episode 6 Creating a Visibility StrategyTwo Sisters and A Cult PodcastCONNECT WITH ALESIA GALATI:WEBSITEINSTAGRAMCONNECT WITH VALERIE:Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!

Aug 4

36 min 38 sec

Calling Out BS in Online Business is critical to creating space for innovation in the way we balance work and life. Women often step into building an online business in order to create more freedom in their life. However, they are then bombarded with all sorts of should and a lot of how tos that ended up becoming shoulds. Most of these success strategies don't actually work for everybody because they are not for everybody. They're for the person who created them, their business, and their business model and then sold to others as tried and true methods for everyone.In this episode of the Unlimited Podcast I invited Sam Munoz and Karyn Paige to join me in a conversation around moving beyond the one size fits all business strategies and creating an aligned business that fits YOU.Some of what we talk about in this episode include:Identify what you want and what your business model is BEFORE seeking strategiesBlending strategy and creativity to choose your own adventureThe importance of doing the inner work Deprogramming the corporate ladder mentalityAllowing space for discernment and growth Thank you for listening!If you enjoyed this episode, please share it! Take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me: @unlimitedcoachvalWant to share your thoughts or have questions? Send me a message! I love to hear from you. You can email me at valerie@valeriefriedlander.com or DM me on InstagramAND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast!LINKS FROM THIS EPISODEEpisode #38 Making Decisions I Can TrustCONNECT WITH SAM MUNOZ & KARYN PAIGE:MAKING WEBSITE MAGIC WEBSITESAMANTHA MUNOZ CONSULTING WEBSITESAM’S INSTAGRAMKARYN’S INSTAGRAMYOUTUBETECH WITH INTENTION COMMUNITYCONNECT WITH VALERIE:Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!

Jul 28

36 min 23 sec

Making decisions I can trust is at the root of the idea of having clarity and feeling confident. Clarity and confidence are the two things most of my clients come to me saying they want. They’ve started doubting themselves because they’re not doing the things they say they want to do or they’ve checked all those boxes but haven’t achieved what they expected. Paralysis by analysis sets in and they feel stuck, unable to make decisions they feel like they can trust. Most of us have been here at some point in our lives thanks to some of the harmful social stories embedded in our society. Even with a lifetime surrounded by discernment work, I’ve been there too. In this episode of Unlimited, the podcast, I’m diving into what’s blocking your sense of clarity, what to watch out for when you’re feeling unclear, and how to develop your ability to make confident decisions.Some of what I’ll cover in this episode include:Individual and social patterns that make it hard to find clarityOvercoming past mistakes and right-sizing decisionsThe trap of people who want to help you – including coachesDecisions that do the most harm to your self-trustWays to rebuild your self-trustSupport for being the expert of your own life Thank you for listening!If you enjoyed this episode, please share it! Take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me: @unlimitedcoachval Want to share your thoughts or have questions? Send me a message! I love to hear from you.You can email me at valerie@valeriefriedlander.com or DM me on InstagramAND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast!LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE#36 Allowing Space to Imperfectly Love Your Body and Yourself with Naomi Gottlieb-Miller#23 How to Plan for the Future AND Enjoy the Present#17 Learning to Trust Ourselves with Shelly Robinson#14 Planting Seeds to Take Confident ActionSchedule a FREE Exploration SessionCreate Your Flow CourseCONNECT WITH VALERIE:Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!

Jul 21

38 min 14 sec

How do I get out of my own way and into aligned action is a common frustration that leads people to sign up for coaching with me. My client in this session is an empathic introvert with strong intuition that she struggles to follow for herself. Her hope in signing up for a session was to uncover what keeps holding her back from living in alignment with her intuition. Unfortunately, most of us learn to question our intuition through multiple facets of our socialization. From there we’ve generated idealistic stories about what following your intuition should feel like that fuel additional confusion and perpetuate cycles of feeling stuck.In this episode of Unlimited, you’ll hear us unlock the stories that hold us back from our intuition’s guidance and staying empowered when things don’t go as planned.Some of what we engage in this episode include:Fear of successThe grief that comes with transitionsUnderstanding self-doubtHow to ask helpful questionsStaying empowered when things don’t go as plannedStress in stretching your comfort-zoneCreating a container to support actionThank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  @unlimitedcoachval   I love to hear your thoughts and I'm always happy to answer any questions.You can send me an email at valerie@valeriefriedlander.com or DM me on Instagram   AND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast!  LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE:Apply to be coached for free on the podcastSchedule a FREE exploration callCreate Your Flow Course CONNECT WITH VALERIE: Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!

Jul 14

38 min 18 sec

Allowing space to imperfectly love your body and yourself is so important but yet not something most of us do. Our society tends to be very focused on hard work and results, which feeds an attachment to outcome. We are sold over and over the idea that something else has to happen before we can have space, embrace our body, enjoy life. Unfortunately, if your brain is fed something enough without sufficient contradiction, it internalizes it as it's own idea. That's where we get: “Once I lose 10lbs I’ll feel better in my body.” or “Once the kids are back in school, I’ll have time for a yoga practice again.” These ideas are stories about an imaginary future you. That you is divorced from the messiness of being human, which seems a lot more comfortable even if it's just a fantasy. That said, goals certainly can be great and visioning can be fun but the messy you, the human you, the you who makes mistakes, deserves love and attention too. It’s that attention that makes all the difference in how and where you grow.In this episode of the Unlimited Podcast I invited Naomi Gottlieb-Miller to join me in a conversation around releasing perfectionism as you embody self-love.Some of what we talk about in this episode include:How to simplify self-careReleasing the pressure to do it allBreaking up with perfectionismSelf-forgiveness and the value in mistakesDeveloping a loving relationship with your bodyHow to create a successful and sustainable habitThank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, please share it! Take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me: @unlimitedcoachval  Want to share your thoughts or have questions? Send me a message! I love to hear from you. You can email me at valerie@valeriefriedlander.com or DM me on Instagram  AND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast! LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE“In My Mind” Song by Amanda Palmer on Spotify“Burnout: the secret to unlocking the stress cycle” by Emily Nagoski, PhD and Amelia Nagoski, DMABrene with Emily and Amelia Nagoski on Burnout and How to Complete the Stress CycleThe Unlimited Podcast Mix on Spotify CONNECT WITH NAOMI GOTTLIEB-MILLER:FACEBOOKINSTAGRAMYOUTUBEWEBSITEFREE YOGA QUICKIES SERIESCONNECT WITH VALERIE:Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!

Jul 7

48 min 7 sec

More self-control is not always the answer to creating calm and order in your life, despite what you may have heard from other personal development folks. Many of my clients come to me seeking calm and order because they’re feeling overwhelmed, unclear, disorganized or scattered. We’re trained to believe that what we need to overcome this sense of being out of control is to become more disciplined. That if you want to get off the emotional roller-coaster and be more consistent you must learn better self-control. The problem is this doesn’t work, at least not sustainably, and usually leads to increased frustration and self-doubt.In this episode of Unlimited, the podcast, I’m diving into how to create more calm and order without fighting yourself for control.Some of what I’ll cover in this episode include:Why words like control, discipline, and even consistent can be problematicKnowing what’s mine and what’s not mineCare vs controlA guide for clarifying and honoring prioritiesHow to be intentionalThank you for listening!  If you enjoyed this episode, please share it! Take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me: @unlimitedcoachval  Want to share your thoughts or have questions? Send me a message! I love to hear from you. You can email me at valerie@valeriefriedlander.com or DM me on Instagram  AND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast!  LINKS FROM THIS EPISODEUnderstanding Your Stress LanguageCreate Your Flow CoursesCONNECT WITH VALERIE: Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!

Jun 30

37 min 46 sec

Retraining Your Body takes Retraining your Brain and establishing a conscious relationship between the two. Brains love patterns and most of them reside in your subconscious because your brain is designed to make things easier for you. It learns the pattern and, as soon as possible, moves that learning into your subconscious, in order to respond faster and with less energy. Though that pattern was created for a reason and must have served you (or even generations before you) in some way, that doesn’t mean it is helpful now for what you want to do or who you want to be. This is true with both mindset patterns as well as patterns in the way you move your body. The good news is that those patterns aren’t fixed. You CAN change them, especially with a little help from someone trained to support those shifts. In this episode of the Unlimited Podcast I invited Kira Macoun to join me in a conversation around retraining your body to support you better.Some of what we talk about in this episode include:Functional and somatic fitness to reduce chronic painIdentifying the problem when it’s not where you feel the painRe-engaging the brain-body connectionThe importance of taking time to notice your patterns physically AND in lifeHow to create more freedom in your body and beyondEffectively releasing your stress postureThank you for listening!If you enjoyed this episode, please share it! Take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me: @unlimitedcoachvalWant to share your thoughts or have questions? Send me a message! I love to hear from you.You can email me at valerie@valeriefriedlander.com or DM me on InstagramAND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast!LINKS FROM THIS EPISODECONNECT WITH KIRA MACOUN:FACEBOOKINSTAGRAMCOMFY FITNESS WEBSITEKIMBRA WEBSITECONNECT WITH VALERIE:Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!

Jun 23

41 min 15 sec

"How do I motivate working on MY projects, especially as my work gets busy?" asks the woman in this episode. She is a CPA in a small town with her own tax and accounting practice that has exploded in the past 3 years. Recently divorced, she was not expecting her business to grow so quickly at this point in her career. She has lots of creative hobbies she wants to work on but when she’s done with work for the day she finds herself watching tv rather than engaging any of her other interests. Her hope in signing up for a session was to have more clarity on how to spend time on things for herself. In this episode of Unlimited, you’ll hear us unpack the notions of laziness and lack of motivation to explore the root of where energy is going and how to make room for YOU too.Some of what we engage in this episode include:Mental energy and allocating resourcesSetting boundaries with clients and yourself around work timeIdentifying a difficult client avatar and ideal client avatarWhen hobbies become drainingAttachment to outcomes even when you know betterCultivating a relationship with yourselfThis client isn’t unique in her struggle. We’re not taught and in many ways are actively discouraged from having a healthy relationship with ourselves. Women in particular are fed a message that we are supposed to put ourselves on the back burner to take care of others (from our family to our work) and just doing so should give us all we need. Except that’s not how it works. You only have so much energy to give and you certainly deserve some of that allocation! Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  @unlimitedcoachvalI love to hear your thoughts and I'm always happy to answer any questions.You can send me an email at valerie@valeriefriedlander.com or DM me on InstagramAND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast!  LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE:Apply to be coached for free on the podcastSign up for a private session with accountability follow upSchedule a FREE exploration call CONNECT WITH VALERIE: Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!

Jun 16

44 min 8 sec

Aligning Life as a Multi-passionate can seem complicated. How do you decide what to focus on, what to monetize, and what you actually WANT to do? It can get a little overwhelming. It’s hard not to fall into worrying about picking the “wrong” thing or letting go of the “right” thing. Even passions in our life can have seasons but it’s hard to let go when you’ve spent so much time, money, and energy in a particular area. It’s important to know when something no longer fits and how to allow a pivot to happen. Self-trust, releasing outcomes, and sometimes a little outside support can be key in moving into a new chapter that honors your values and gifts in a new way.In this episode of the Unlimited Podcast I invited Bev Feldman to join me in a conversation around aligning life as a multi-passionate entrepreneur.Some of what we talk about in this episode include:Identifying and aligning with your values in your workHow to grow from what isn’t workingReframing what it means to be an expertEmbracing your passions as part of you, not who you areEco-friendly birthday ideasThank you for listening!If you enjoyed this episode, please share it! Take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me: @unlimitedcoachvalWant to share your thoughts or have questions? Send me a message! I love to hear from you. You can email me at valerie@valeriefriedlander.com or DM me on InstagramAND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast!CONNECT WITH BEV:YOUR PERSONAL TECH FAIRY INSTAGRAMBEV GOES GREEN INSTAGRAMWORK WITH YOUR PERSONAL TECH FAIRYCHECK OUT THE BEV GOES GREEN BLOGGRAB BEV’S TECH TWEAK SECRETSJOIN THE ECO-BINGO CHALLENGECONNECT WITH VALERIE:Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!

Jun 9

36 min 31 sec

The experience of burnout exists beyond the 9 to 5, though we mostly hear it talked about in relation to being an employee for a company. In most studies, the number one factor identified as the cause of burnout is a boss. Many entrepreneurs leave the corporate burnout culture in order to have the freedom and fulfillment of being their own boss. However, the patterns of burnout aren’t unique to corporate, they are embedded in American culture and without deprogramming those patterns, we become that boss for ourselves. Hustle culture in entrepreneurship is just another form of burnout culture in corporate. Not to mention, wherever you go, there you are… so these patterns show up in other areas too… like parenting. I believe you deserve better. You deserve to love your job and to have an amazing boss.  In this episode of Unlimited, I’m exploring how to prevent burnout and be the best boss of your own life.Some of what I’ll cover in this episode include:When “lazy” isn’t the issueThe point of worryingWhat is burnout and causes of itSetting clear and reasonable expectations for yourselfThe drain of feeling out of controlHow to shift burnout dynamics Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  @unlimitedcoachval  I love to hear your thoughts and I'm always happy to answer any questions.You can shoot me an email at valerie@valeriefriedlander.com or DM me on Instagram  AND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast!  LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE:2018 Gallup Report on Employee Burnout2019 World Health Organization Report on BurnoutArticle Psychology Today Burnout Article Mayo Clinic Job BurnoutEpisode #3 Understanding Your Stress LanguageEpisode #5 The Value of RestEpisode #22 Creating Your Ideal DayEpisode #30 Learning and Living Outside the BoxCreate Your Flow Course CONNECT WITH VALERIE:Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!

Jun 2

37 min 44 sec

Learning and living outside the box makes the ability to think outside the box SO much more natural. Yet, while thinking outside the box is considered an asset in entrepreneurship and business, it’s isn’t very supported when it comes to education or how we do life. Our society gets so caught up in measuring sticks like standardized test scores and house sizes to determine whether someone is “doing well” in school and life. How often do you stop to think “How well is this really working for me?” Do you ever allow space to find another way that might work better? It’s not easy to do something different. It’s especially hard if you’re already overstressed. But it’s not as hard as you think and you don’t have to do it alone. Plus, perhaps it’s exactly what’s needed for you, your kid, and the world to be better.In this episode of the Unlimited Podcast I invited Tiana Kubik to join me in a conversation around living and parenting by your own rules.Some of what we cover in this episode include:Finding what works for you and your familyThe problem with toleration“Why?” and the power of curiosityChallenges stepping outside the boxUnderstanding unschooling & the value in deschooling Thank you for listening!If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  @unlimitedcoachvalI love to hear your thoughts and I'm always happy to answer any questions.You can shoot me an email at valerie@valeriefriedlander.com or DM me on Facebook or InstagramAND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast!LINKS FROM THIS EPISODEEpisode #17 Learning to Trust OurselvesReggio Emilia ApproachWaldorf ApproachDog Man SeriesCONNECT WITH TIANA KUBIK:Curious Kids Learn InstagramUs Along the Way InstagramTK Photography InstagramWork with Tiana!CONNECT WITH VALERIE:FacebookInstagramGet email updates!Work with Valerie!

May 26

41 min 52 sec

If you don’t learn how to apologize, you will likely end up repeating the harm that led to the need for an apology in the first place. We’ve seen this recently with a number of highly visible people. This isn’t surprising since, like so most aspects of relating to others in a healthy way, apologies aren’t something we’re taught how to do. However, I do find the blundering of the apology particularly ironic with those in the self-help space because the root of a meaningful apology is in personal growth. We all make mistakes. You don’t know what you don’t know, so mistakes are necessary for us to learn to do better. And that is the key… learning to do better. How willing are you to learn to do better? To BE a better human?In this episode of Unlimited, I’m exploring the mindset and action of a meaningful apology.Some of what I’ll cover in this episode include:When not to apologizeSaying “it’s okay”, when it’s not okaySelf-serving apologies vs healing apologiesHumility vs HumiliationCreating space for learning and personal growthSetting healthy boundariesThank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  @unlimitedcoachvalI love to hear your thoughts and I'm always happy to answer any questions.You can shoot me an email at valerie@valeriefriedlander.com or DM me on InstagramAND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE:Stop Being Nice and Start Being ResilientYouTube – Friday Night Live with Emily D. BakerUnderstanding Your Stress LanguageCreate Your Flow CourseCONNECT WITH VALERIE:Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!

May 19

35 min 47 sec

We need to stop being nice and start being resilient. Hurt feelings happen but we've been trained to avoid them, rather than how to process and deal with them in a productive way. This leads to codependent behaviors on an individual level and feeds problematic power dynamics on a societal level. This is emphasized in corporate culture etiquette and unconscious expectations on women to manage other people's (especially men's) emotional comfort. These expectations are often deeply internalized and keep us playing small as well as often lead us to perpetuate dysfunctional and harmful norms.  It is critical that we learn how to process our own emotions so we can show up with graceful resilience to support our ability to play fully in the world and create change in these problematic patterns.  In this episode of Unlimited, I’m sharing my own experience of being told to “Google tact,” how I contributed to this dynamic during my time in corporate, and my insights now as a coach supporting emotional intelligence.Some of what I’ll cover in this episode include:Corporate tone policing supporting success in a toxic structureDeconstructing identity stories that perpetuate problematic systemsThe importance of engaging emotionsAllowing space for self-growth through discomfortThe problem with the Golden RuleThank you for listening!  There is so much more to this topic and I'm feeling called to some deeper explorations within it. Possibly to share in a longer written format down the road...Do you have a story that relates to this topic? I'd love for you to share it with me!Please email it to me at valerie@valeriefriedlander.com or DM me on Instagram @unlimitedcoachval  Of course, if you enjoyed this episode, please share it! AND don’t forget to subscribe, rate, and review the podcast!  CONNECT WITH VALERIE:Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!

May 12

33 min 25 sec

The number one relationship in your life is the one you have with yourself. It influences how you experience and engage every other relationship be it with people, situations, or resources. Interestingly though, your relationship with yourself is also built by all your other relationships. Most of the dynamics of your self-relationship happen in the background of your mind, unconsciously influencing what you notice around you, how you feel about what you notice, and how you then show up to those things. One step to feeling more in control of your life is to bring those self-relationship dynamics to consciousness and make active choices in how you develop this super important relationship.In this episode of Unlimited, I’m diving into some tools to unlock awareness and taking charge of your relationship with yourself. Some of what I’ll cover in this episode include:Identifying obstacles like toxic individualism and comparisonitisThe stories you tell about who you areLearning about yourself through othersIdentifying actions to retrain your brainThe people you want on your support team  Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  @unlimitedcoachval  I love to hear your thoughts and I'm always happy to answer any questions. You can shoot me an email at valerie@valeriefriedlander.com or DM me on Instagram  AND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!  LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE:#23 How to Plan for the Future AND Enjoy the PresentSusan David The gift and power of emotional courage TEDTalkIn and Of Itself by Derek DelGaudio on HuluSchedule a call with me CONNECT WITH VALERIE: Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!

May 5

38 min 30 sec

Money stories. Many of the ones our society is swimming in are toxic. In order to change those stories and create healthier structures, we need to consciously engage them as individuals. I have many clients who are working to step out of lack mentality and create a greater sense of abundance in their life. They come from a variety of backgrounds and make anywhere from $0 staring out to 6 figures. The woman I’m coaching in this episode is a current client. She signed up for this session because, though we’ve already done a fair amount of work around money, she was still finding herself triggered in certain situations and wanted to dig in further.In this episode of Unlimited, you’ll hear us explore internalized societal money stories and unlearning them to create mental freedom and empowered choices.Some of what we engage in this episode include:Fear of disappointing familyThe difference between effort and sufferingDefining work and what’s valuableChoosing your relationship with moneyIf you want to join the Life Visioning Workshop mentioned in this episode you can sign up HEREWant to come but can’t make it? Email me at valerie@valeriefriedlander to let me know you’d like me to host it again!Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  @unlimitedcoachval  I love to hear your thoughts and I'm always happy to answer any questions. You can shoot me an email at valerie@valeriefriedlander.com or DM me on Instagram  AND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast! LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE:Life Visioning WorkshopApply to be coached on the podcastCONNECT WITH VALERIE:Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!

Apr 28

49 min 31 sec

Growing up we learn to follow the rules, hustle to create success, if we make enough money we'll be happy and valuable... Most of these stories are rooted in toxic systems that reinforce harmful ways of engaging money and people. This doesn’t make money bad. But it does mean that we need an additional level of mindfulness to engage running a business that is sustainable and ethical in practice as well as product.  It takes cutting out the noise from all the “right way” gurus and following a path that you create based on your gifts, interests, and values. AND doing your own work to deprogram the unavoidably internalized hustle culture.In this episode of the Unlimited Podcast I invited Erika Tebbens to join me in a conversation around being sustainable AND ethical as an entrepreneur.Some of what we cover in this episode include:Creating systems that are aligned with your gifts and interestsMindset around pricing to be sustainableTapping into your intuition to build your businessReleasing shiny object syndromeLearning how to trust yourself and live in integrityAnd so much more!Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  @unlimitedcoachvalI love to hear your thoughts and I'm always happy to answer any questions.You can shoot me an email at valerie@valeriefriedlander.com or DM me on InstagramAND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!CONNECT WITH ERIKA TEBBENS:InstagramSell It, Sister PodcastNo-Sleaze Sales GuideRad Clients On RepeatWork with Erika! CONNECT WITH VALERIE:Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!Life Vision Workshop

Apr 21

54 min 9 sec

Money is a topic we are obsessed with in this society. It’s incredibly sensitive, so we rarely talk about it directly. Yet we’re constantly surrounded by conversations related to it. Part of the reason is that there is a great deal of shame surrounding it – mostly in not having it, though for some there’s shame in having it that leads them to not have it. All this emotional weight and avoidance creates a very disempowering dynamic.  In order to reclaim this tool to build sustainable lives and businesses we must start by intentionally engaging our relationship with money.In this episode of the Unlimited Podcast I invited Ornella E Yovo to join me in a conversation around developing tangible financial empowerment.Some of what we talk about in this episode include:Why we avoid dealing with money and what avoidance can look likeBuilding your financial musclesThe problems with trying to “mindset” your way to wealthCreating sustainable habits around moneySetting boundaries to strategically engage goalsAnd more! Thank you for listening!If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  @unlimitedcoachvalI love to hear your thoughts and I'm always happy to answer any questions.You can shoot me an email at valerie@valeriefriedlander.com or DM me on InstagramAND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!CONNECT WITH ORNELLA E YOVO:Instagram with OrnellaInstagram with OsqrdWork with Ornella!CONNECT WITH VALERIE:Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!

Apr 14

41 min 51 sec

We're taught from a young age to look toward the future. That life really begins once something in the future happens, such as once you become the person you're going to be when you grow up. The problem is that this sets us up in a pattern of chasing, not having. Many clients come to me saying they have big dreams and want to make an impact in the world but they don't want to sacrifice the present moment. They believe both is possible but don't know HOW. It starts with relearning how to vision in a way that supports both the goal AND the journey.  In this episode of Unlimited, I’m diving into how to engage visioning in a way that supports both achieving your goals AND enjoying your life.  Some of what I’ll cover in this episode include:What exactly IS visioningWays we learn to vision that actually sabotage usOvercoming fear of failure/fear of successThe importance of having a purposeful visionWays to engage creating a vision effectively for yourself or with othersI'm particularly passionate about this topic because it's been a big learning for me personally. I spent years building the life I thought you were supposed to have to be happy. I spent more years working to be in the present moment, not getting caught up in the future or the past. I ended up becoming really good at tolerating life, instead of fully living it. Learning how to vision as I describe in this episode was pivotal for me in feeling like I was truly owning my life.Want support to create a vision that motivates you to action with both future goals and present enjoyment? Let's chat!Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  @unlimitedcoachvalI love to hear your thoughts and I'm always happy to answer any questions.You can shoot me an email at valerie@valeriefriedlander.com or DM me on InstagramAND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE:Episode 7 – Can I Make Plans YetEpisode 22 - Creating Your Ideal Day YOUR WayLife Visioning Workshop CONNECT WITH VALERIE:Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!

Apr 7

43 min 12 sec

There are tons of books all about creating an ideal day or how to start your day so that you set yourself up for success. The problem with all these strategies is that they often tell you to do things that may not fit YOU and instead leave you feeling more frustrated and less productive. The truth is that your level of productivity will look different on different days and how you support your day needs to meet you where you’re at. At the same time, outlining what you want and creating routines are definitely helpful for productivity and life enjoyment. So, what’s the happy medium?In this episode of Unlimited, I’m diving into how to create supportive foundations for making the most of your day.  Some of what I’ll cover in this episode include:How to bake flexibility into your plansDetermining routines that support youMeeting yourself where you’re at in creating new habitsUnderstanding the relationship between time and energyExercises to assess where you’re spending your energyI went into survival mode with my time when Covid locked us all down, mostly feeling like all I had space for was whatever felt most pressing in that moment. Living like that can become a habit without you even realizing it isn’t necessary anymore, that you actually have at least some of your bearings back. It takes pausing to notice, assess, and envision something different in order to start shifting that way of being. Hopefully this episode helps you begin that process.If you're interested in judgment-free support to holistically realign life and work to the person you want to be, let's talk. Just schedule a time on my calendar HERE Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  @unlimitedcoachval  I love to hear your thoughts and I'm always happy to answer any questions. You can shoot me an email at valerie@valeriefriedlander.com or DM me on Instagram  AND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!  LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE: Episode 7 – Can I Make Plans YetCONNECT WITH VALERIE:Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!

Mar 31

44 min 34 sec

Have you ever really wanted to do something yet kept not doing it?The woman in this session came to me because she wanted to write a book and she couldn’t figure out why she wasn’t. All her natural obstacles were gone, and she had the perfect conditions for finally doing it: stable income, older kids, stuck at home… yet she still didn’t write. In this episode of Unlimited, we dig into what creates “stuck” and develop practical steps to taking action with added inspiration from a surprise visitor…Some of what we engage in this episode include:Creating clarity to motivate actionHow we create obstacles to actionTapping into current habits to lean into new thingsReleasing control & attachment to outcomeDeveloping self-trust through actionUtilizing your stress response to get things doneThank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  @unlimitedcoachval  I love to hear your thoughts and I'm always happy to answer any questions. You can shoot me an email at valerie@valeriefriedlander.com or DM me on Instagram  AND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE: Sign up for a fitting callApply to be coached on the podcastCONNECT WITH VALERIE:Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!

Mar 24

47 min 34 sec

You can follow all the strategies but ultimately, success is multi-faceted and can only be defined by you. Yet authenticity is vulnerable and comes with greater risk, especially for people who are marginalized in our society. Stepping into greater alignment with your true self involves letting go of pieces of your life that you were previously defined by. It’s never comfortable, often messy, and there is no perfect – only progress. In this episode of the Unlimited Podcast I invited Ellie Dote to join me for a conversation exploring understanding and embracing your identity.Some of what we talk about in this episode include:Accepting yourself and owning your storyWhy we seek other people’s style and strategiesIdentifying YOUR successKnowing and honoring your valuesCelebrating yourself and others Thank you for listening!If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  @unlimitedcoachvalI love to hear your thoughts and I'm always happy to answer any questions. You can shoot me an email at valerie@valeriefriedlander.com or DM me on Instagram AND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! CONNECT WITH ELLIE DOTE:InstagramFacebook TwitterBlogDesign WebsiteSupport Ellie's work via Venmo: @Ellie-Dote CONNECT WITH VALERIE:Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!

Mar 17

52 min 56 sec

Toxic positivity is a hot topic right now because the growing awareness of its presence in the health and wellness industry. It’s used as a way to spoof life coaching in the media and I’ve even had someone at a networking event assume I’d agree that a positive attitude would cure illnesses such as Covid. (That’s a no BTW – less stress helps but it’s not a cure). Based on personal and professional experiences, I’ve come to believe that it is one of the biggest blocks to personal and societal progress.In this episode of Unlimited, I’m diving into when positivity is toxic and what you can do about it.Some of what I’ll cover in this episode include:What is toxic positivity and spiritual bypassingWhat causes toxic positivityWhat toxic positivity sounds likeThe importance of emotional intelligence and self-loveWhat is healthy positivityThank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  @unlimitedcoachval I love to hear your thoughts and I'm always happy to answer any questions.You can shoot me an email at valerie@valeriefriedlander.com or DM me on Instagram AND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE:Staged on HuluToxic Positivity | The Psychology Group (article)Spiritual Bypassing And How 'Wellness' Excuses Racism | ELLE Australia (article)Stop It (video)Toxic Positivity – Positively Living PodcastsEpisode 18 – What Do I Really Want?Episode 11 - Relearning Self-LoveEpisode 9 – Reflections and A Way Forward Episode 10 – Change and Getting Comfortable in the UncomfortableSchedule a call  CONNECT WITH VALERIE: Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!

Mar 10

49 min 4 sec

A single woman in her early 40’s who loves to sing, dance, craft, and cook was contemplating starting a business in performance until the Coronapocolypse began. She’s trying to use this time now for introspection and personal development while also balancing a fulfilling but low paying day job with paying student loans and renovating a house. She signed up for this session because she has a history of people pleasing and wanted support to learn how to identify her own wants and needs more quickly and develop new habits that allow self-love and success to thrive in her life.In this episode of Unlimited, you’ll hear us journey through unlocking what’s kept her from what she really wants and a motivation to take action to achieve it.Some of what we engage in this episode include:Motivation blocksSelf-fulfilling propheciesCelebrating to build confidenceResisting more than “good enough”Building self-worthThis episode is for you if you’ve ever struggled to know what you really wanted beyond what people said you should do or things you were just good at. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  @unlimitedcoachval  I love to hear your thoughts and I'm always happy to answer any questions. You can shoot me an email at valerie@valeriefriedlander.com or DM me on Instagram  AND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE:Sign up for a fitting callThe Flow Mastery Group infoApply to be coached on the podcast  CONNECT WITH VALERIE:Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!

Mar 3

45 min 43 sec

How much do you trust yourself to make decisions? Women especially are taught in both subtle and not so subtle ways not to trust ourselves. We are given messages over and over again that we don’t know enough, that we don’t do enough, that we aren’t enough. (Then, when we ARE true to ourselves, we’re told we’re “too much.”) This feeds a need to prove ourselves and to try to control other people’s behavior and emotions for us to be “okay.” The self-relationship is the cornerstone of all relationships and it is reflected powerfully by our children, if we’re willing to look and learn.In this episode of the Unlimited Podcast I invited Shelly Robinson to join me for a conversation exploring the need for control and learning to trust ourselves.Some of what we talk about in this episode include:Disrupting patterns of beingReleasing labels and behavior as a basis for worthCreating space to make decisions from loveThe importance of building our own resilienceBeing aware of what you’re focusing on Nurturing relationships with kids or anyone starts with knowing yourselfThank you for listening!If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  @unlimitedcoachvalI love to hear your thoughts and I'm always happy to answer any questions. You can shoot me an email at valerie@valeriefriedlander.com or DM me on InstagramAND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:Why Our Collective Obsession with Productivity Keeps Us from Rest – The Notable Woman PodcastKintsugi – The centuries old Japanese art of repairing broken pottery and transforming it into a new work of art with gold [video]How to Break the Nightly Cycle Of Mom Shame CONNECT WITH SHELLY ROBINSON:InstagramFacebook ResourcesWebsiteCONNECT WITH VALERIE:Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!

Feb 24

41 min 23 sec

This gifted intuitive is tired of just “getting by” in a job she doesn’t feel spiritually or emotionally fulfilled by. She recently became certified as a crystal practitioner and is working toward a tarot certification and wants to start a business but struggles to believe she really can. As a recovering alcoholic she’s done a lot of self-work in recovery as well as around a traumatic past. Her hope from this session was to uncover and explore what attitudes/beliefs were holding her back and get some clarity on how to move forward with confidence.In this episode of Unlimited, we uncovered the inner critic message guarding her comfort-zone, shifted the relationship, and identified a new belief plus action to help reinforce the shift.Some of what we engage in this episode include:How much knowledge is enoughReleasing control and trusting the processFears in being visibleNavigating judgment and self-doubtInner critic going above and beyond in ways that are no longer helpfulA belief that connects to some tangible action This episode is especially for you if your desire to play big is butting up against your need to feel safe.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  @unlimitedcoachvalI love to hear your thoughts and I'm always happy to answer any questions.You can shoot me an email at valerie@valeriefriedlander.com or DM me on InstagramAND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!  LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE:The Flow Mastery Group Schedule a fitting callProsperity ConsciousnessApply to be coached on the podcast CONNECT WITH VALERIE: Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!

Feb 17

45 min 33 sec

Married, mom of a 3 year old, wants to make a career shift but is feeling stuck as to how. She had a near death experience after her son’s birth that rearranged her priorities and inspired the non-profit she started. She has a PhD in virology and is working on her Masters in Public Health but has been struggling to land a position that fits the work she wants to do. Her hope from this session was to have a little bit more clarity and an idea for a path forward.In this episode of Unlimited, we discovered that she’d subconsciously disqualified her true passion, so we assessed the “dream” and realigned her energy to the work she really wants to do, creating clear next steps to make it a reality.Some of what we engage in this episode include:What stops you from seeing your next stepsShifting the work has to be hard mindsetStaying centered in what you have control overFinding a focus to energize youOvercoming money baggageValuing your time and your giftsThis episode is especially for you if you’ve ever felt stuck pursing a decent job so you can pursue your dream later.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  @unlimitedcoachvalI love to hear your thoughts and I'm always happy to answer any questions.You can shoot me an email at valerie@valeriefriedlander.com or DM me on InstagramAND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways! LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE:The Flow Mastery GroupSchedule a fitting callApply to be coached on the podcastCONNECT WITH VALERIE:Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!

Feb 10

43 min 53 sec

We are right between winter and spring equinox, which is a time for preparing seeds to plant for the year. The next few coaching sessions I’m sharing in the next few weeks all centered around finding not only clarity to take action but uncovering the hidden blocks to confidence that were ultimately preventing that clarity. Ultimately this is a deeply personal process (as you’ll see in the coaching episodes) but there are some concepts that can help you engage your own process. In this episode of Unlimited, I’m diving into how to plant the seeds to take confident action. Some of what I’ll cover in this episode include:Overcoming the blocks of fearTapping into your best selfHow to see yourself more clearlyPausing to processGut vs IntuitionNavigating Self DoubtThank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  @unlimitedcoachvalI love to hear your thoughts and I'm always happy to answer any questions.You can shoot me an email at valerie@valeriefriedlander.com or DM me on InstagramAND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE:Life is a Joke. 199 Life Lessons (with punch lines) by The Javna BrothersIn and Of Itself by Derek DelGaudio on Hulu CONNECT WITH VALERIE: Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!

Feb 3

31 min 39 sec

Multi-passionate entrepreneur and married mom of 2 wants to create a new branch of her business but is lost in the weeds of how. A self-identified “ideas person” she’s been stuck in analysis paralysis for months now.  She signed up for this session because she was longing for someone to just tell her the “right way” even though she knows there isn’t really a “right way.”In this episode of Unlimited, we dig in to understand the block and use that knowledge to help her create a plan that applies her strengths to overcome her obstacles.Some of what we engage in this episode include:Shiny object syndromeConnecting your head and your heartHow to create a sense of stability when starting something newFinding YOUR next right stepBuilding confidenceThis episode is especially for you if you’ve ever been stuck in analysis paralysis when trying to figure out the next best step to move you forward.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  @unlimitedcoachvalI love to hear your thoughts and I'm always happy to answer any questions. You can shoot me an email at valerie@valeriefriedlander.com or DM me on InstagramAND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE:Book a private 1-1 coaching sessionApply to be coached on the podcastCONNECT WITH VALERIE:Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!

Jan 27

37 min 41 sec

What is coaching? It’s a question I get asked a lot and I talk about it in episode #1 but it’s one thing to talk about and another thing to experience. So, I put out an invitation to participate in a recorded coaching session to share with you and received a number of applications. Today’s episode of Unlimited is the first of those sessions.In this episode of Unlimited, I share a coaching session I did with an artist, community activist, entrepreneur, and soon to be divorced mom of a teenager. She signed up for this session because she wanted clarity on her next career steps after running for a local political office as well as experiencing a variety of shifts in her life over the past several years.Some of what we engage in this episode include:Clarifying successFear of failure – especially wasting time and moneyMoney mindsetFinding focus as a multi-passionate personCreating confidence when doing something newPursuing goals without attachment to outcomeThis episode is especially for you if you’re a multi-passionate person who wants to choose your own schedule and make a living doing work that matters but you worry you’ll pick the wrong path and waste time and money on something that won’t work out.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  @unlimitedcoachval  I love to hear your thoughts and I'm always happy to answer any questions. You can shoot me an email at valerie@valeriefriedlander.com or DM me on Instagram  AND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast! LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE: #1 What is Life Coaching?Apply to be coached on the podcast CONNECT WITH VALERIE:Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!

Jan 20

42 min 7 sec

There is A LOT going on right now. It’s heavy and draining yet you don’t want to get sucked into the yuck. You want to be a light in the darkness. You want to show up for the people who you love and the things that really matter. Your relationship with yourself is the foundation for your relationship with everyone and everything else, however it tends to be the thing we poke holes in first.In this episode of Unlimited, I’m diving into actively cultivating self-love, especially in times when things feel out of control.Some of what I’ll cover in this episode include:The difference between self-love and self-careIdentifying your level of self-love and expression of love for yourselfFinding realistic, achievable ways of expressing love for yourselfHolistically engaging self-love and ways we sabotage our relationshipToo often I see people (especially womxn) beat themselves up with self-care shoulds, which does the opposite of the purpose of self-care. Just like in any relationship, the way you need to express love for yourself may be different at different times. Identifying where you’re at, meeting yourself there, and taking one supportive step forward will help you build self-confidence and gradually make it easier and more natural to express self-love. Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  @unlimitedcoachvalI love to hear your thoughts and I'm always happy to answer any questions.You can shoot me an email at valerie@valeriefriedlander.com or DM me on InstagramAND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE:The 5 Love LanguagesWhat’s Your Stress Language Quiz#3 Understanding Your Stress LanguageCONNECT WITH VALERIE:Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!

Jan 13

36 min 9 sec

Neuroscience shows that it is possible for us to develop new neuronal networks but that doesn’t mean change is easy. Actually, the only sure thing is that it isn’t – it’s uncomfortable, confusing, and takes work. Yet we’re in a time that is inviting us, actually more like shoving us, into change. That we show up and how we show up is up to us.In this episode of Unlimited, I’m diving into playing big and getting comfortable in the uncomfortable.Some of what I’ll cover in this episode include:Changing the rulesNavigating changeMaking aligned decisionsGetting comfortable being uncomfortableOne of the things people tend to do when things are uncomfortable is label them as bad and wonder what’s wrong and who’s to blame for it. This pulls you away from the power you have and the value the experience holds for you. Staying curious and discerning what you WANT will help you harness the value and move forward through the discomfort, but change is easier said than done so a little support goes a long way.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  @unlimitedcoachvalI love to hear your thoughts and I'm always happy to answer any questions.You can shoot me an email at valerie@valeriefriedlander.com or DM me on Instagram.AND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!  LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE:4 Tips To Embrace Being Perfectly Authentic (blog)#9 Reflections and A Way Forward#3 Understanding Your Stress LanguageBehave (book)Captain MarvelFlow Mastery Group CONNECT WITH VALERIE: Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!

Jan 6

37 min 55 sec

At the end of the year I take some time to reflect on the year gone by. This year is special, not just because it’s been so crazy but because it marks my 5 year anniversary of stepping into entrepreneurship. I’ve learned a lot about myself, about stress and resilience, and about the dynamics of change, all of which have served me very well through this 2020 experience.In this episode of Unlimited, I’m diving into how to create a flow in the process of growth.Some of what I’ll cover in this episode include:How I reflect on the year and insights from that reflectionMy key take-away so far from 5 years as an entrepreneurThe dynamics of influence & aligned leadershipA system for failing forward and even enjoying it.There have been a lot of tough lessons in the journey of the past 5 years, not to mention in 2020. It’s also been fascinating to observe as both a life coach and sociologist the interplay between the personal and social experience of change. In some ways it gives me hope because I see the people I work with engage creating a flow forward and believe that means its possible in a bigger context.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  @unlimitedcoachvalI love to hear your thoughts and I'm always happy to answer any questions.You can shoot me an email at valerie@valeriefriedlander.com or DM me on InstagramAND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE:Britannica on AnomieOn Being – This Species Moment#8: Loving Yourself Through Grief with Lisa ZawrotnySoulCaptain MarvelFlowing Forward RoadmapFlow Mastery GroupCONNECT WITH VALERIE: Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!

Dec 2020

36 min 14 sec

The holidays can be a very difficult time for anyone grieving the loss of a loved one, regardless of when that person passed. That grief is particularly present and extensive this year with COVID making 2020 the deadliest year in U.S. history. Many people are also experiencing grief from loss of jobs, plans, relationships, etc. and even simply in empathy with our communal grief.In this episode of the Unlimited Podcast I invited Lisa Zawrotny to join me for a conversation focused on loving ourselves and each other through grief.Some of what we talk about in this episode include:Learning about ourselves in the messThe difference between being organized and simplified and neat and tidyDifferent kinds of grief and ways we grieveWhat intentionality around grief looks likeHow to be supportive of someone’s grieving processIn many ways we only just scratch the surface of this conversation but conversations help create space for healing and you have to start somewhere. If you are experiencing any kind or layer of grief, you are not alone. You deserve love, space, and grace as you process that experience however it is showing up for you right now. I encourage you to check out the additional resource links below.Thank you for listening! If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  @unlimitedcoachvalI love to hear your thoughts and I'm always happy to answer any questions.You can shoot me an email at valerie@valeriefriedlander.com or DM me on InstagramAND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!LINKS MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE:On Grief and Grieving: Finding the Meaning of Grief Through the Five Stages of Loss [book]How We Grow Through Grief with Katie Rössler [podcast]Episode 3: Stress Languages [podcast]Toxic Positivity with Valerie Friedlander [podcast]Best Way to Get Motivated [video]Positively Living Membership Community [resource]CONNECT WITH LISA ZAWROTNY:FacebookInstagramResourcesWork with Lisa! CONNECT WITH VALERIE:Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!

Dec 2020

44 min 53 sec

It’s that time of year when lots of people start talking about goals and intentions for the next year but it's different this year. Of course, I definitely get the desire to move on from 2020 but we are STILL in the thick of the Covid crisis. Though I resisted being one of the many to talk about New Year goal setting, I thought it was important to explore how we honor the desire to move forward while still feeling paralyzed in many ways by the trauma we’re still experiencing as a society.In this episode of Unlimited, the podcast, I’m diving into how to cultivate a positive mindset without ignoring reality.Some of what I’ll cover in this episode include:Why we want to make plans and why we resist actually doing itThe difference between goals and intentions and how to set both effectivelyUtilizing productive reflection to support your next stepsStaying in control and empowered when life happensFive steps to support aligned forward movementWe can't magic (or mindset) Covid or any of the other realities of the world away. What we CAN do is choose how we show up to them and the impact WE have on THEM. We can choose who we want to be, what direction we want to go, and how we want to experience the journey. This episode is to support you in doing that no matter what time of year it is.Thank you for listening!If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  @unlimitedcoachval  I love to hear your thoughts and I'm always happy to answer any questions. You can shoot me an email at valerie@valeriefriedlander.com or DM me on Instagram  AND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!  LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE:Magnolia SoundtrackFlow Mastery GroupCONNECT WITH VALERIE:Facebook Instagram Get email updates! Work with Valerie!

Dec 2020

37 min 48 sec

You’ve probably heard all about the value of meditation but it’s another thing to actually DO it, especially when you’re a busy mom entrepreneur. Even if you used to have a practice, if you’ve fallen out of the habit, it can be hard to get started again. It’s easy to inadvertently set unreasonable goals that keep you from the benefits of that valuable space of rest.In this episode of Unlimited, the podcast, I’m diving into cultivating a practice that meets you where you’re at.Some of what I’ll cover in this episode include:Getting started (or restarted) with meditationOvercoming resistanceSetting expectations with yourself and othersTips to quite the mind (Grab a pdf with the list HERE)How you relate to meditation, just like any form of rest will look different for you at different times of your life and what works for you may be different than for other people. Lots more tools to deal with comparisonitis in upcoming episodes, so be sure to stay tuned!Grab the FREE pdf, Meditation Tools: Simple Solutions to Quiet the Mind, Anywhere, Anytime.Thank you for listening!If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  @unlimitedcoachvalI love to hear your thoughts and I'm always happy to answer any questions. You can shoot me an email at valerie@valeriefriedlander.com or DM me on InstagramAND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!CONNECT WITH VALERIE:FacebookInstagramGet email updates!Work with Valerie!

Dec 2020

23 min 13 sec

After a conversation with my Flow Mastery group, I realized we needed to talk a little more about rest, particularly about navigating the obstacles to making space for rest. As your life shifts, so does your relationship to rest. Also, though now is a natural time for rest, it’s still important to meet yourself where you’re at when it comes to making space for it.In this episode of Unlimited, the podcast, I’m diving into applying grace, gratitude, and intentionality when it comes to navigating the obstacles to rest. Some of what I’ll cover in this episode include:Obstacles to restImproving the quality of your restCreating supportive habitsMeeting yourself where you’re atWhat rest looks like for you and how you relate to it will change in different seasons of your life. We’ll talk about habits and intentionally navigating obstacles to the life you want a lot more, so be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive practical tips on supporting your best self.Thank you for listening!If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  @unlimitedcoachvalI love to hear your thoughts and I'm always happy to answer any questions. You can shoot me an email at valerie@valeriefriedlander.com or DM me on InstagramAND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE:Episode 5: The Value Of Rest Unlimited Trailer CONNECT WITH VALERIE:FacebookInstagramGet email updates!Work with Valerie!

Dec 2020

30 min 13 sec

Rest is one of the most important parts of productivity but by far the least acknowledged. Winter is a time when we are naturally called to rest and rejuvenate, yet we’ve instead made it one of the busiest times of the year. Allowing yourself the space to rest is critical to creative thinking, making aligned choices, and showing up as the person you want to be.In this episode of Unlimited, the podcast, I’m diving into the value of rest and embracing it during the holiday season.Some of what I’ll cover in this episode include:What rest looks likePondering why we don’t restWhat makes winter and the week before your period key times for restWays to support yourself when in a season of restThe only constant in life is change. That means there are times we need to let go of something and pick up something else. We’ll talk about rest and creating space to discern what it is time to put down and what you are called to pick up a lot more, so be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive practical tips on rest and the other seasons in life.Thank you for listening!If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode to post in your stories and tag me!  @unlimitedcoachvalI love to hear your thoughts and I'm always happy to answer any questions. You can shoot me an email at valerie@valeriefriedlander.com or DM me on InstagramAND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE:Mayo Clinic on Seasonal Affective Disorder (SAD) Healthline on PMS -DepressionHormonology - Female Hormone Cycles Jim Carrey – What It All Means video by Absolute MotivationTAKE IT FURTHER:Rest: Why You Get More Done When You Work LessCONNECT WITH VALERIE:FacebookInstagramGet email updates!Work with Valerie!

Dec 2020

30 min 50 sec

Healthy boundaries are super important as we head into the holidays, especially in the midst of the Covid 19 pandemic. The word boundaries is used a lot in the personal development space but not always explained clearly. Understanding is key to feeling empowered to set supportive boundaries.In this episode of Unlimited, the podcast, I’m diving into how to set healthy boundaries in general but especially around pandemic life and holidays. Some of what I’ll cover in this episode include:Understanding boundariesSetting boundariesCommunicating boundariesNavigating holiday and Covid boundaries  Healthy boundaries create space and freedom. They are empowering because there’s a responsibility and self-awareness that comes with the process of setting boundaries. We’ll definitely be talking about boundaries a lot more, so be sure to tune in to all the episodes to receive tons of practical tips on how to set healthy supportive boundaries in your life.Thank you for listening!If you enjoyed this episode, take a screenshot of the episode topost in your stories and tag me!  @unlimitedcoachval I love to hear your thoughts and I'm always happy to answer any questions.  You can shoot me an email at valerie@valeriefriedlander.com or DM me on InstagramAND don’t forget to subscribe, rate and review the podcast and tell me your key takeaways!LINKS FROM THIS EPISODE:Episode 2Episode 3CONNECT WITH VALERIE:FacebookInstagramGet email updates!Work with Valerie!

Nov 2020

31 min 32 sec