Normalizing Non-Monogamy - Interviews in Polyamory and Swinging

Emma and Fin

Hi! We're Emma and Fin! We're a married couple in our thirties who have been exploring non-monogamy for over a decade. Every week we interview people from across the spectrums of gender, sexuality, and relationship styles to hear their amazing stories.

Many of our guests identify as swingers or polyamorous. However, quite a few have redefined non-monogamy in their own way by creating a unique dynamic that works for them. We hope that by giving a voice to the diverse community exploring non-monogamy that we can show people they are not alone and inspire them to embrace their true selves so that, together, we can open minds and live authentically without shame.

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"Your life doesn't stop at age 60!" Judie is emphatic about this as she moves through her sixties and Eldon, his seventies. This interview is beautiful and covers a lot things we don't often get the chance to talk about... Everything from infidelity to Eldon waking up one day and walking away from religion after being a minister for 20 years.   Judie is an unashamed badass who seizes life everyday. It's amazing. A few months back Eldon brought the idea of opening up their marriage to her and well, as you can imagine, she has fully embraced it. They both have... Enjoy!   Judie also hosts her own podcast called Plus Size Polyamory. Check it out and support the work she is doing there.   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

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Dec 1

1 hr 5 min

Daev is in his early forties and has been exploring non-monogamy in various ways since about 2014. He was on the show about a year ago with his partner Shannon on Episode 166. Since our last discussion, a lot has changed... For one, Daev and Shannon are no longer together. His personal journey into solo polyamory has been very impactful for him in the last few months. We have a great conversation with him about the role having an open relationship played in their relationship ending plus how he has handled grieving the loss of the that relationship and how he is moving forward.   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our upcoming Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

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Nov 24

1 hr 18 min

Jenna and Wendi have known each other about eight years and have been married for three. Jenna is polyamorous. Wendi is not. These two share so much love, laughter, and life together and it is beautiful. In this amazing conversation they talk about navigating the imbalances in their "mono-poly" relationship, confronting insecurities, and how much respect they have for one another and their individual relationships. We absolutely love this conversation and hope you do as well!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our November Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

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Nov 17

1 hr 18 min

Ali and Michael have been together since their high school days over 17 years ago. After their first year of college, Ali brought up the idea of opening their relationship and to her delight, Michael was up for it. Thirteen years, and many bumps and bruises later, they have dabbled in kink, swinging, and polyamory trying to find what works best for them. Right now, they've decided on the broadest description they could come up with: ethically non-monogamous. This conversation covers so much - from dealing with and basically overcoming shame, to how they created a beautiful throuple dynamic with a partner in Iceland. Definitely do not skip this one!   Ali is a travel and wildlife journalist. Her work can be found on Forbes, HuffPost, VICE, and Lonely Planet. She also writes about non-monogamy for Cosmopolitan. We were drawn to her work because she writes about non-monogamy from the first person perspective and for people in the non-monogamous community, not to create click bait exploiting it. Definitely check out her work here!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our November Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

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Nov 10

1 hr 25 min

Red and Jay are in their early thirties and have been together about nine years and married for five. They consider themselves social swingers and started exploring non-monogamy right at the beginning of the pandemic… Perfect timing, right?! In this conversation with us, they discuss how they have navigated opening their relationship at possibly the worst time ever, how they navigate swinging when one of them is pretty introverted and one of them is an extrovert, plus, they even came prepared with a blooper or two! This is a super fun conversation and we hope you enjoy it as much as we did! Enjoy!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our November Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

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Nov 3

1 hr 3 min

This is our second interview with Gabby this week… In case you missed it, Gabby is a married, 37 year old, bisexual, relationship anarchist who has been exploring non-monogamy for about 10 years. In our first conversation with her, she shared with us how being diagnosed with bipolar disorder, PTSD, ADHD, and borderline personality disorder in her late teens has impacted and informed her relationships and non-monogamy. In this episode, we lighten things up just a bit. Gabby shares a bunch of amazing stories from her decade of experience and each one weaves in incredibly valuable lessons on trust, consent, boundaries, and even a bit of sexiness! We had such an amazing time talking with Gabby again and hope you enjoy this conversation as well!    Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our November Virtual Meet and Greets! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

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Oct 27

1 hr 22 min

  Gabby is a married, 37 year old, bisexual, relationship anarchist who has been exploring non-monogamy for about 10 years. In this first conversation with her, she shares with us how being diagnosed with bipolar disorder, PTSD, ADHD, and borderline personality disorder in her late teens has impacted and informed her relationships and non-monogamy. She also talks a lot about how she navigates multiple relationships and gets support from her partners while also supporting them simultaneously. This is an amazingly powerful episode and we are so grateful to Gabby for her transparency and openness in talking with us. So much so, that we are bringing her back for a second interview in just two days!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our October 26 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

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Oct 25

1 hr 17 min

Jan is a 25 year old pansexual, neurodivergent, relationship anarchist from the Netherlands. He recognized at age six that he approached things a bit differently than his peers and relationships were no exception. We have a fantastic discussion on transitioning and healing damaged relationships as well as learning to set healthy boundaries.   Jan is also working with a group of people he met on Reddit to design a new flag to represent the polyamory community. Their goal is to crowdsource ideas and have the global community vote on the new flag. To learn more about how you can get involved and help support the project, please check them out at www.polyamproud.com.   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our October 26 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

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Oct 20

1 hr

Rosie started exploring and researching the idea of non-monogamy a while ago and even tried it out briefly while she had a platonic partner. She ultimately determined it wasn’t necessarily for her, however, she ended up bringing a lot of the mindset and skills she developed and learned through non-monogamy into her monogamous relationship with her fiancé. Rosie is also an award-winning comedian, the author of “Is Monogamy Dead?” and “The Breakup Monologues” as well as the host of the podcast by the same name. This conversation is an absolute delight… Enjoy!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our October 26 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

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Oct 13

1 hr 3 min

Wendy started exploring non-monogamy about six years ago as a way to save her marriage. Anthony and his wife got into it almost 20 years ago and have been in dynamics ranging from swinging to a polyamorous quad. A few years ago their forces collided. They share with us the story of how they came to be together and the challenges of coming out of difficult relationships while trying to form new ones. We also have a great conversation about negotiating a relationship from the very beginning.   Wendy and Anthony also volunteer at the Paradise Club in Pennsylvania to help lead the charge in education, community building, and making the experience for members as amazing as possible.   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our October 26 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

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Oct 6

1 hr 15 min

Crystal and Rich came out of their previous marriages knowing they wanted something different. They found one another and have been exploring a cuckold dynamic just about from the beginning of their relationship... At least having the conversations since the beginning. This is such a fantastic conversation that shows there is more to a relationship style than the name implies. Everyone does things a little bit differently and this is a beautiful example of exactly that.   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our October 26 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

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Sep 29

1 hr 6 min

Kacie and Marcus have been married for about eight years and exploring polyamory and non-monogamy for three of them. They started their non-monogamy journey when Kacie realized she had a crush on a coworker and decided to talk to Marcus about it. The conversation went way better than she expected and three years later they are continuing to evolve and grow together as they figure out what works best for them and how to navigate everything. This is an incredibly powerful conversation from start to finish. We hope you enjoy it.   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our September 22 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

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Sep 22

1 hr 21 min

Mason is an amazing queer transgender man who has been married for over a decade and exploring non-monogamy for the past five years. Everywhere Mason goes, he seems to drive change. He went to a private Christian university and went head-to-head with administration almost weekly regarding policies and treatment of the LGBTQ+ community. Now, as a sex educator who runs a business helping trans people find the best-suited sex toys for them, he continues to influence change by working with sex toy companies to make their toys more inclusive. Oh, and did we mention he got started by hosting sex toy parties at the private Christian school? We love this conversation and all of the work Mason is doing. Please check it out and tell everyone you know to help spread the love!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our September 22 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

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Sep 15

1 hr 2 min

  This conversation with Javay is absolutely incredible. It's full of amazing stories, information, and a ton of laughs. Full disclosure, the rest of this description is taken straight from her website at themillennialsexpert.com because she wrote it way better than we ever could!   From Javay: I am a Black, bisexual, sex educator. I use she/her pronouns. I was born in Washington, DC and grew up in PG County & Charles County, MD. I currently live in Bend, OR with my husband and our two dogs, Boris & Igor. I am a sex educator, content creator, writer, erotic model, and activist.   I went to James Madison University where I earned a BA in Media Arts & Design and a BS in Hospitality Management. After graduating undergrad I moved to Los Angeles, CA to work in the entertainment industry. While in LA, I started my YouTube channel with my first web series, The Honest Millennial. Throughout my time in LA I realized that sex was my passion. I began working at the sex shop, A Touch of Romance, and decided I wanted to continue down this career path. I launched my sex ed web series, In Bed With a Millennial, and decided to apply to grad school to become the best sex educator I could be.   I recently completed my Masters of Education in Sex Education at Widener University. I am starting my doctorate in human sexuality at California Institute of Integral Studies this fall to become an even greater sex educator and continue to educate people and bringing pleasure to everyone.   Javay is also the co-host of a new adult animated educational series, called Welcome to Kinkyville, about kink and how to do it safely. The kickstarter campaign started on August 10 and wraps up on September 9... Check it out, spread the word, and help us in supporting this amazing work!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our September 22 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

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Sep 8

1 hr 9 min

Emily is a screenwriter and script supervisor who does cosplay and designs geek clothing. She's also non-monogamous and kinky, which she discovered after her divorce. She's been exploring the kink scene and solo polyamory for a few years, and as most of us do, continuing to evolve and figure out what works best for her. This is a fantastic conversation with a seriously badass human! Enjoy!   Emily is also the creator and co-host of a new adult animated educational series, called Welcome to Kinkyville, about kink and how to do it safely. The kickstarter campaign started on August 10 and wraps up on September 9... Check it out, spread the word, and help us in supporting this amazing work!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our September 22 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

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Sep 1

1 hr 5 min

Jaret is partnered with Jamie who was a former guest on episode 184. This deep conversation with Jaret covers his experiences in healing from a traumatic brain injury, supporting his dad and partner, Jamie, through their transitions, and releasing expectations in relationships and life. This is a powerful episode in many ways, we hope you enjoy it.   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our September 22 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

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Aug 25

1 hr 12 min

In this fantastic roundtable conversation we bring Leanne, G, and Zach back on the show to talk more about their experiences creating safe and inclusive spaces to explore sexuality.  G and Zach were foundational members of the orgy club/team at Yale. Leanne was a member of Oxford’s Piers Gaveston Society and also has organized many of her own orgies.  We tap into their wisdom in how to build community and environments where people feel safe, welcome, and free to explore their sexuality. Some sexy stories are shared, along with exploring the deeper meaning behind fostering events like these, and we top it off with a few hilarious bloopers. Without a doubt, you do NOT want to skip this episode! Thank you again to Leanne, G, and Zach for sharing their voices and experiences with us.    Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our September 22 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

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Aug 23

1 hr 42 min

Mandy is such a delight to talk to and is so full of positive energy! She is a bisexual badass who has been exploring solo polyamory and relationship anarchy for about four years. We have an amazing discussion about her journey, about navigating the complications of mono-poly dynamics, and of course, Fin's favorite topic... Unicorn hunting! Mandy is also the creator of the fantastic YouTube channel, Mainely Mandy. Check it out and support her work after you finish this incredible discussion. Enjoy!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to learn about our upcoming in-person events! Click here to join our September 22 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

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Aug 18

1 hr 19 min

Sonia and Gabriel have been together for over 19 years and have been practicing polyamory for about 10 years. They have a refreshingly honest conversation with us about where they are, how they've grown along the way, and the learning experiences that have brought them here. We also talk about what being queer and kinky (or not) means to both of them. We love this interview and hope you do as well.   Gabriel is also the director, producer, and editor of a new adult animated educational series, called Welcome to Kinkyville, about kink and how to do it safely. The kickstarter campaign started on August 10... Check it out, spread the word, and help us in supporting this type of amazing work!   Check out the full show notes here. Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

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Aug 11

1 hr 44 min

Jacob is an amazing trans-masculine, non-binary human who is just about to turn 22. He (his preferred pronouns) has been exploring polyamory and non-monogamy for a few years and takes us inside the world of dating and relationships through his life experience and journey. It's a beautiful conversation and we hope you enjoy it!   Check out the full show notes here. Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

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Aug 4

1 hr 13 min

This interview with Izzy is absolutely amazing! They have been exploring polyamory for a little over three years but that is just the tip of the iceberg. This conversation is really about love, adventure, kindness, and living life. Izzy's approach to all of these is inspiring. We hope you enjoy this powerful interview.   Check out the full show notes here. Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

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Jul 28

1 hr 3 min

Sarah and Keith are in their early thirties and have essentially been together since they were 15, if we don't count that short break during college. They started exploring non-monogamy about six months ago after sort of stumbling across it while posting sexy photos of Sarah in various Reddit communities. They're looking to explore it all and see where the journey takes them. We love the energy and approach they bring to this adventure. Enjoy!   Check out the full show notes here. Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

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Jul 21

1 hr 3 min

Brea is 30 years old, queer, nonbinary, exploring non-monogamy for the last ten years, outdoorsy, a forager, professional cook, gardener, and overall badass! We have an honest and extremely powerful discussion about their struggles and what they’ve learned throughout their non-monogamy journey. Also, Brea is a partner to Ryan from Episode 181, so after you listen to this episode, go back and check out that one!   Check out the full show notes here. Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

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Jul 14

1 hr 22 min

Be unapologetically yourself! This is how Amy shows up in life and it is amazing and inspiring. She’s a former sex worker, an attorney, she owns multiple pole dance studios, and she is crushing it all. She’s also been exploring non-monogamy with her husband for about a year now and their story is beautiful. If you’re in the Bay Area, definitely check out Amy’s studios in Berkley, San Francisco, and Oakland! Enjoy!   Check out the full show notes here. Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

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Jul 7

1 hr 17 min

Norm is incredibly positive and vibrant with a zest for living life. He has been in a “don’t ask, don’t tell” dynamic with his wife since they got married. Before that, he explored non-monogamy in a variety of ways. He has some amazing stories to share along with some fantastic strategies for navigating dating as a solo guy. Enjoy! Check out the full show notes here. Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

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Jun 30

1 hr 9 min

Jacqueline is so many things... She's a mother, Latine, polyamorous, queer, pansexual, educator, organizational strategist, the co-host of the Curious Fox podcast and COO of the Curious Fox, and overall a super badass person! This discussion covers everything from raising kids in poly families to finding out your partner has been cheating on you a month before your wedding. This is a fantastic conversation and we are so excited to help support the work Jacqueline and the team at the Curious Fox are doing. Enjoy!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our June 23 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

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Jun 23

1 hr 25 min

Kelly has been exploring polyamory for over 30 years and as she says it “since before the word polyamory even existed.” Our conversation with her is beautiful and weaves together how she moves through the world inspiring others to be kind, take care of one another, and share love in the ways that make the most sense for themselves.   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our June 23 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

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Jun 16

1 hr 1 min

Jamie’s story is beyond powerful. They are incredibly vulnerable with us about the adversity they have overcome and continue to work through around transitioning, being autistic, surviving a stroke, poverty, and being in a relationship they don’t really have words to describe. While powerful and moving, Jamie also brings levity and humor to their story which is amazing. This isn’t one to skip… We hope you enjoy it.    Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our June 23 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

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Jun 9

1 hr 27 min

Phillip grew up in an extremely conservative household which influenced much of how he approached love, sexuality, relationships, and life. Since coming out in high school he has been pushing back and finding what works for him and the life he wants to live. Two years ago his boyfriend presented him with the idea/ultimatum of polyamory, something Phillip had no interest in. Rather than give up on the relationship he dove in and did a ton of research and work on himself to understand how it works and how he could approach it with his boyfriend. Today, Phillip is no longer with his boyfriend but he's continued to practice solo polyamory and is even about to launch a new podcast called Dear Poly! This is a super powerful discussion on so many levels and we hope you enjoy it.   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our June 23 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/    

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Jun 2

1 hr 17 min

Jessie is in her late twenties and has been exploring non-monogamy for about the past two years. Roy's been trying to turn 50 but Covid keeps getting in the way. He's been exploring polyamory for about ten years. Right near the start of Jessie's journey these two met and started on an adventure together. They share with us their individual journeys as well as what it has looked like for them exploring together while maintaining their independence and setting healthy boundaries.   Roy has also recently started working with non-monogamous people as a coach. His business is called Open Relating and can be found at https://openrelating.love.   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our June 23 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

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May 26

1 hr 16 min

Ryan's approach to life is to enjoy absolutely every second as much as possible and to have incredible experiences with all of the wonderful people around him. He lives in a house with five, or maybe it's six, (or sometimes seven, depending on the day), people and he welcomes the joy and organized chaos that comes with it. His story is full of twists and turns but more than anything it's full of love. We hope you enjoy it. Oh, and if you get lost, here is the map of his polycule. Enjoy!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our May 20 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

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May 19

1 hr 22 min

G joins us for what is quite possibly the most powerful discussion we've had on the show about self-discovery and knowing one's self. At only 25 years old, G has lived all over the world while building amazing communities and relationships that have helped them better understand who they are. Beyond that, their approach to life and relationships, both romantic and not, is beautiful. We both took so much away from this conversation and hope you do as well.   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our May 20 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

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May 12

1 hr 20 min

Kitty is on a simple mission: To love and to educate. She describes herself as a cheating serial monogamist for the first 10-15 years of her dating life, and then she discovered consensual non-monogamy. For nearly the past 20 years she has been exploring non-monogamy with her husband and it has completely changed her life.   Kitty is also the host of the Loving Without Boundaries podcast, author of The Jealousy Survival Guide, and a coach for people who are interested in and exploring non-monogamy. Check out all of her work at lovingwithoutboundaries.com.   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our May 20 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

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May 5

1 hr 3 min

Katt brings such incredible energy and positivity to this powerful discussion on personal growth and self-discovery. As she describes it, she grew up as a prude who was pretty much afraid of all things sex. However, in the last few years she has completely redefined her approach to relationships and sex. She is currently exploring solo polyamory and spending time with the people she wants to, when she wants to. You're not going to want to skip this one...   Katt and her best friend also host The V Spot Podcast which she describes as a vegan-ish survival podcast for best friends. If you love Katt's vibe, you'll love their podcast. Check it out!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our May 20 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

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Apr 28

1 hr 12 min

Claire is in her mid thirties and always felt like a misfit in her relationships. That is, until she started exploring ethical non-monogamy about seven years ago... In this fantastic conversation, she shares with us how she and her partner navigated opening their relationship, how they manage their time and energy, and how she's grown since starting her polyamorous journey.   Claire is also a coach who works with people in non-traditional relationships to help them create a road map for a path that works for them on a deep level. You can find her at Intuitive Loving for more information.   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our May 20th Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/

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Apr 21

59 min 42 sec

Ams and Kat are the hosts of the 2HotWives podcast and are on a mission to create a community where like-minded women can explore their sexual interests and embrace great sex as the ultimate in self-care. We have an amazing conversation with them about their journeys into the swinging lifestyle with their husbands, what they've learned along the way, and how they've each grown individually and together.   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our April 17 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

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Apr 14

1 hr 2 min

Axel and his wife opened their relationship a few years ago after she came to him and let him know that she had fallen in love with another guy. This was a wakeup call that they had put their marriage on cruise control and that something had to change. Over the last few years they have rethought their entire approach to the relationship and their lives overall. Now they’re happily married and have found a way to blend swinging, polyamory, and BDSM into an intentional and dynamic relationship that is thriving. We hope you enjoy this conversation as much as we did.     Axel has also written a book called Marriage and Beyond (Note: We said the incorrect name during the show, the book is not Rethinking Relationships), that will be published soon. He has taken all of the information he has learned throughout his journey, combined it with interviews from others who are exploring and studying non-monogamy, and consolidated it into an incredible resource for us all. Please check out his website to sign up for the pre-launch and support this incredible work   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our April 17 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

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Apr 7

1 hr 4 min

This is a beautiful conversation about self-discovery, personal growth, and creating the relationship that works best for you regardless of what others think. Bella and Jase are high school sweethearts who have been together for over 13 years and opened up their relationship about six years ago while they were in their early twenties. They also have a podcast called 4OURPLAY and have created a series of ice breaker games. If you'd like to save 10% on everything on their website, you can use the code NNM. Enjoy!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our April 17 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

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Mar 31

1 hr 10 min

Leanne is 22 years old and has been exploring non-monogamy in various capacities for the last five years. Her perspectives on love, life, and self worth are truly beautiful and we're so excited to be able to get her story and positive approach out into the world. One of the other things we love about this conversation is that Leanne is sort of at the forefront of a shift to creating more inclusive and diverse spaces for sex parties and events. She shares some of her incredible strategies with all of us! And, last but not least, she runs an amazing blog and Instagram account called Polyphilia, definitely go and check it out!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our April 17 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

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Mar 24

1 hr 3 min

Sylvie and Jeff have been together over 17 years and exploring variations of non-monogamy for about four of them. They really jumped in with both feet after going to a sex club together while doing research for a book Sylvie was writing. They have a super fun story and bring such positive energy to everything they do. Sylvie is writing a trilogy called More. The first book, Fun, is out now and available on Amazon!    Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our March 18 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

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Mar 17

1 hr 4 min

Pearl is in her early thirties and has been exploring polyamory for a little over two years. She describes her introduction to non-monogamy as being poly under duress. Her ex-fiancé brought up the idea of threesomes and a triad and she felt she didn't really have much of a choice other than to go along with it. Two years later, she is on her own solo poly journey and has grown and learned so much about herself along the way. This is a beautiful conversation and we hope you enjoy it.   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our March 18 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

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Mar 10

1 hr 7 min

This conversation with Alice and Sam is absolutely beautiful. For them, life is about having incredible experiences with amazing people from all over the world. They have spent the last four years together globetrotting and building a global network of open-minded people using their Instagram account. Their open-minded approach to living life to the fullest and exploring together is enviable and something to aspire to. We hope you enjoy this conversation as much as we enjoyed having it. Remember to go find them on Instagram and keep up with their adventures.   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our March 18 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

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Feb 24

1 hr 23 min

Cooper is a polyamorous queer author and podcaster who has been exploring non-monogamy for over a decade. He started the Life on the Swingset podcast with his close friend Dylan just nine months into his journey. It began with him and his wife both individually expressing to their therapist that they wanted to sleep with other people. Eventually they shared this scary revelation with each other and started an incredible adventure together. Over the last 10+ years his journey has evolved many times and as he puts it, opening his marriage was the single most impactful decision he's ever made in his entire life.   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our February 20 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

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Feb 17

1 hr 26 min

Welcome back to the Power of Witness Series!   This is the final episode of the series in which all of the participants reflect back on the experience and talk about their takeaways and what lays ahead for them. If you haven't listened to the introduction episode for the Power of Witness series yet, we highly recommend it before jumping into this episode.   Power of Witness is a collaboration project with Catherine from Expansive Connection. She is a licensed counselor and relationship coach who works with people that are exploring consensual non-monogamy.   Power of Witness is a group coaching course in which each week a different couple is on the "hot seat" and will work one - on - one with Catherine while the other couples in the group "witness" them and then provide feedback at the end of their session. Specifically, for this series we have brought back four couples who have previously shared their stories on the podcast to sit on the hot seat over the the next four weeks. This isn't our traditional format but it was incredibly powerful for us as we joined them for the journey and we know it will be impactful for you as well.   In psychology, the term “bearing witness” refers to sharing ourselves and our experiences with others or holding space while others share themselves and their experiences with us. There is much we can learn when we are brave enough to open our hearts to one another. Witnessing another person and being witnessed are both gifts to the other person and to ourselves. Being on either side of witnessing is a powerful opportunity for growth through acknowledgement, understanding, and skill acquisition.   If you are interested in joining a future cohort (that will not be on the podcast) you can save $20 by clicking here to sign up. There are multiple cohort dates available, check it out now!   To access the entire Power of Witness series before it is released publicly, please join us in our Patreon community for as little as $2/mo by clicking here.   Check out the full show notes here. https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  Catherine's Relationship Bootcamp Self-Study Course Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing  

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Feb 12

1 hr 4 min

Anna and Groot met at a munch about four years ago while she was married and Groot was starting to explore non-monogamy. Since then, they have become primary partners and are currently in a mono - poly dynamic. They share some amazing insight with us into how this dynamic evolved and how it is the healthiest relationship either of them have ever been in. Groot also is a hobbyist writer on Literotica and wanted us to share this link to his work. Enjoy!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our February 20 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

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Feb 10

1 hr 5 min

Welcome back to the Power of Witness Series!   This week we have Laura and Casey on the hot seat. They shared their story on our show on Episode 105. If you haven't listened to the introduction episode for the Power of Witness series yet, we highly recommend it before jumping into this episode.   Power of Witness is a collaboration project with Catherine from Expansive Connection. She is a licensed counselor and relationship coach who works with people that are exploring consensual non-monogamy.   Power of Witness is a group coaching course in which each week a different couple is on the "hot seat" and will work one - on - one with Catherine while the other couples in the group "witness" them and then provide feedback at the end of their session. Specifically, for this series we have brought back four couples who have previously shared their stories on the podcast to sit on the hot seat over the the next four weeks. This isn't our traditional format but it was incredibly powerful for us as we joined them for the journey and we know it will be impactful for you as well.   In psychology, the term “bearing witness” refers to sharing ourselves and our experiences with others or holding space while others share themselves and their experiences with us. There is much we can learn when we are brave enough to open our hearts to one another. Witnessing another person and being witnessed are both gifts to the other person and to ourselves. Being on either side of witnessing is a powerful opportunity for growth through acknowledgement, understanding, and skill acquisition.   If you are interested in joining a future cohort (that will not be on the podcast) you can save $20 by clicking here to sign up. There are multiple cohort dates available, check it out now!   To access the entire Power of Witness series before it is released publicly, please join us in our Patreon community for as little as $2/mo by clicking here.   Check out the full show notes here. https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  Catherine's Relationship Bootcamp Self-Study Course Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

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Feb 5

1 hr 40 min

Shannon and Daev started their relationship as part of a loose triad which quickly fell apart due to distance. The two of them stayed together and continued exploring swinging. They have recently began the transition to seeing if more of a polyamorous dynamic may be a better fit for them. Everything is still pretty new and they are very open and vulnerable about the challenges and difficulties they have faced together.    Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our February 20 Virtual Meet and Greet! Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

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Feb 3

1 hr 4 min

Welcome back to the Power of Witness Series!   This week we have Amanda and David on the hot seat. They shared their story on our show on Episode 53. If you haven't listened to the introduction episode for the Power of Witness series yet, we highly recommend it before jumping into this episode.   Power of Witness is a collaboration project with Catherine from Expansive Connection. She is a licensed counselor and relationship coach who works with people that are exploring consensual non-monogamy.   Power of Witness is a group coaching course in which each week a different couple is on the "hot seat" and will work one - on - one with Catherine while the other couples in the group "witness" them and then provide feedback at the end of their session. Specifically, for this series we have brought back four couples who have previously shared their stories on the podcast to sit on the hot seat over the the next four weeks. This isn't our traditional format but it was incredibly powerful for us as we joined them for the journey and we know it will be impactful for you as well.   In psychology, the term “bearing witness” refers to sharing ourselves and our experiences with others or holding space while others share themselves and their experiences with us. There is much we can learn when we are brave enough to open our hearts to one another. Witnessing another person and being witnessed are both gifts to the other person and to ourselves. Being on either side of witnessing is a powerful opportunity for growth through acknowledgement, understanding, and skill acquisition.   If you are interested in joining a future cohort (that will not be on the podcast) you can save $20 by clicking here to sign up. There are multiple cohort dates available, check it out now!   To access the entire Power of Witness series before it is released publicly, please join us in our Patreon community for as little as $2/mo by clicking here.   Check out the full show notes here. https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  Catherine's Relationship Bootcamp Self-Study Course Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing  

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Jan 29

1 hr 26 min

Courtney is the founder and executive director of the non-profit Something Positive for Positive People. This organization serves as an intervention resource at the intersection of the sexual and mental health stigma that connects people who are navigating the trauma of an STI diagnosis to mental health resources. Courtney has also been exploring non-monogamy for about a year and shares with us his journey in doing so while navigating pandemics, stigma, and life. He is an amazing human and this conversation is incredible. Enjoy!   Check out the full show notes here. Click here to join our February 20 Virtual Meet and Greet! Check out the Romantic Chorus Documentary here (see Ep 163): https://romanticchorus.com/  Click here to sign up for the free Q+A  on 1/31 with the film team, hosted by us!   Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  

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Jan 27

1 hr 17 min

Welcome back to the Power of Witness Series!   This week we have Jill and Jack on the hot seat. They shared their story on our show on Episode 97 and Focus Fridays 1.7. If you haven't listened to the introduction episode for the Power of Witness series yet, we highly recommend it before jumping into this episode.   Power of Witness is a collaboration project with Catherine from Expansive Connection. She is a licensed counselor and relationship coach who works with people that are exploring consensual non-monogamy.   Power of Witness is a group coaching course in which each week a different couple is on the "hot seat" and will work one - on - one with Catherine while the other couples in the group "witness" them and then provide feedback at the end of their session. Specifically, for this series we have brought back four couples who have previously shared their stories on the podcast to sit on the hot seat over the the next four weeks. This isn't our traditional format but it was incredibly powerful for us as we joined them for the journey and we know it will be impactful for you as well.   In psychology, the term “bearing witness” refers to sharing ourselves and our experiences with others or holding space while others share themselves and their experiences with us. There is much we can learn when we are brave enough to open our hearts to one another. Witnessing another person and being witnessed are both gifts to the other person and to ourselves. Being on either side of witnessing is a powerful opportunity for growth through acknowledgement, understanding, and skill acquisition.   If you are interested in joining a future cohort (that will not be on the podcast) you can save $20 by clicking here to sign up. There are multiple cohort dates available, check it out now!   To access the entire Power of Witness series before it is released publicly, please join us in our Patreon community for as little as $2/mo by clicking here.   Check out the full show notes here. https://www.normalizingnonmonogamy.com/  Catherine's Relationship Bootcamp Self-Study Course Join Our Patreon Community! $10 Off - Online STI Testing

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Jan 22

1 hr 27 min