the Mudroom

Allana Robinson

Weekly nuggets of developmentally appropriate parenting wisdom to help you parent your toddlers and preschoolers more effectively, with less effort. The Mudroom is recorded live on Facebook every Tuesday at 9pm eastern, 6pm pacific.

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You can feel it in the air, can’t you?    *Cue Mariah Carey music*    Target is bursting with holiday decor, everyone is playing holiday music, you’ll probably be getting Turkey handprints, Reindeer handprints, snowflake handprints, all the handprint crafts you could possibly imagine from your child’s school pretty soon too.  But with all that magic and joy there’s something else my clients experience and I call it “The Grinch Syndrome.”    While the holidays certainly bring a ton of fun, it can also bring a ton of stress. From traveling to shopping, and the overall general busyness of the holidays- it can really make us feel less than cheerful.    You might find yourself feeling more like The Grinch every now and then.    Or maybe the commotion of the holidays brings out some challenging behaviours in your child/ren and they seem more like a Grinch instead of a sweet little Who from Whoville.    Don’t worry though. I understand and that’s what this week’s Mudroom discussion is all about.    In this episode we´ll discuss:  -  Making the best out of the holidays  -  Why it might not all be festive  - Why it´s okay to feel this way Grab the Scripts to Manage the Top 10 Crazy-Making Behaviours: prnt.link/scripts Watch the video recording here: Join the Parenting Posse: prnt.link/group the Mudroom is recorded live every Wednesday at 1:30pm ET/ 12:30pm CT/ 10:30am PT on Facebook: facebook.com/arfamilyservices --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mudroom/message

Dec 6

15 min 17 sec

Many Parents are trying to avoid this subject.   The big, bad, and often complex events of the past.   This is one of those conversation topics that can be...interesting to discuss with children.   Right up there with the “birds and the bees”.   Certain holidays/observations, something our child/ren saw on TV, a conversation they overheard, these can all spark curiosity and questions. So how much information is age-appropriate for a child but also, are we being honest and forthcoming enough about history?   In this episode we´ll discuss:  -  What conversations we should be having with our children  - How to teach kids certain parts of history  - Why it´s important to have these conversations --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mudroom/message

Dec 6

15 min 38 sec

Have you ever had that uncomfortable moment when you find yourself questioning a decision your child’s teacher made?   It might be over their disciplinary methods, homework or academic pressure, meal times… whatever the reason, sometimes we find ourselves on opposite sides of the playing field with the teacher and it’s an awkward position to be in.   My clients have come to me with various reasons for butting heads with their child’s teacher and now that we’ve gotten a little more settled into the school year and everyone has become more comfortable, there’s a possibility that these disagreements are going to come up for you too.    So let’s talk about it!    Disagreeing with a child care professional can feel like a battle of epic proportions so it’s understandable that a lot of parents shrug it off, but I want you to remember something:    You are the expert on your child.   And as such, you’re allowed to question and be a part of the discussion about what’s happening in the classroom with your child.   But this also doesn’t need to be the showdown of the century either.    On this episode we discuss:  - Why disagreements with teachers are common  - Why it´s important to address them  - What´s the right way to go about it Grab the Scripts to Manage the Top 10 Crazy-Making Behaviours: prnt.link/scripts Watch the video recording here: Join the Parenting Posse: prnt.link/group the Mudroom is recorded live every Wednesday at 1:30pm ET/ 12:30pm CT/ 10:30am PT on Facebook: facebook.com/arfamilyservices --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mudroom/message

Nov 15

21 min 52 sec

Earlier is not always better. Let’s get really honest with each other right now.   It feels great to hear compliments about how smart your child is.  You might feel some pride when their teacher tells you they’re progressing faster than their peers.   Sure, maybe little Susie’s mom always looks put together during daycare drop-off, but guess who’s kid was counting first?  That’s right.  Your baby. *high five*   We can’t always help it.  We want to see our child/ren succeed and it’s nice to hear that they’re not only succeeding but doing a little. Grab the Scripts to Manage the Top 10 Crazy-Making Behaviours: prnt.link/scripts Watch the video recording here: Join the Parenting Posse: prnt.link/group the Mudroom is recorded live every Wednesday at 1:30pm ET/ 12:30pm CT/ 10:30am PT on Facebook: facebook.com/arfamilyservices --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mudroom/message

Nov 8

13 min 19 sec

Trick-Or-Treat!   It’s looking like Halloween is going to be a little more treat than trick this year!    Whatever your plans are for Halloween is up to you and your family. I know it can look completely different depending on which part of the globe you’re reading this email from and your unique circumstances.    So what activities you should and shouldn’t be doing isn’t going to be the topic for Monday’s MudRoom.    Instead, I’m going to help you figure out what you might want to think about and plan for so you can have a fun and exciting Halloween, regardless of what candy-filled shenanigans you decide on.    Because even though Halloween might feel pretty straightforward, there are some things you  might want to keep in mind that can possibly impact your children’s experience...like prepping your quarantine toddler for having a bunch of ghosts and werewolves walking up to their door and screaming “trick-or-treat!”.  Could you imagine, being a 2-year-old who was mostly home for over a year and BAM, now there’s a vampire demanding a lollipop at your home?     On this episode we'll discuss:  - What you want to consider when planning  - Different things to enjoy  - What to keep in mind so kids don´t get overwhelmed --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mudroom/message

Oct 31

11 min 55 sec

When we have children, the hope is that we can raise them to be good humans who respect others, persevere, and work hard. So when your toddler tosses the stuffed animal you offered to buy them because they want to $300 dollar playset instead, parents usually stare at them horror struck and think: Holy crap, I’m raising an entitled brat! Cue the overcrictism of what that means about our parenting and our children. This is when we become hypersensitive to when they’re being particularly demanding. Or we start counting how many times they say please or thank you (or rather noticing how many times they didn’t say it). Suddenly those moments when they refused to share their toy or help their baby brother find his pacifier feel a little more malicious or selfish than we originally thought. It’s honestly a tailspin of worry added on top of all the other things parents tend to worry about. If this is you and you’re worry that you could be possibly raising a child who grows up selfish and you’ll be featured on the next episode of Super Nanny with a miniature tyrant screaming at you between commercial breaks... ...or even if right now your child is super polite and appreciative but you’re still concerned about it anyway- I’m telling you, you’ll leave the conversation feeling so much better, especially with holidays that can be particularly triggering when it comes to gratitude and “being spoiled”. Grab the Scripts to Manage the Top 10 Crazy-Making Behaviours: prnt.link/scripts Watch the video recording here: Join the Parenting Posse: prnt.link/group the Mudroom is recorded live every Wednesday at 1:30pm ET/ 12:30pm CT/ 10:30am PT on Facebook: facebook.com/arfamilyservices --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mudroom/message

Oct 18

14 min 29 sec

I’ve given plenty of advice and tips on how to handle attention-seeking behaviour. And I firmly stand by the advice I’ve given because I know it works. But here’s where the problem arises. When we try to apply methods meant to help with attention-seeking behaviour to some other type of behaviour you’re not going to see an improvement. It’s like using the wrong tool on a DIY project. You can keep trying, but it’s going to end up a Pinterest fail. And I get it. Not only is it frustrating to see all your best parenting skills (seemingly) not working, but it might also leave you feeling less than confident about ditching methods like time-out and such. Grab the Scripts to Manage the Top 10 Crazy-Making Behaviours: prnt.link/scripts Watch the video recording here: Join the Parenting Posse: prnt.link/group the Mudroom is recorded live every Wednesday at 1:30pm ET/ 12:30pm CT/ 10:30am PT on Facebook: facebook.com/arfamilyservices --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mudroom/message

Oct 18

13 min 18 sec

Behaviour Charts... They do not work! I’ve talked about it in the past but I’ve held off discussing it again until we got a little deeper into the school year because teachers usually wait until the class is settled before whipping them out of their supply closet. You’ve either seen them or know about them, maybe even had the “joy” of your teacher using one when you were in school. The most common behaviour chart is the Green light (“good behaviour”), Yellow light (warning), and Red light (“bad behaviour”), but they come in all kinds of formats, dressed up with stickers and cartoon characters to make them look less...problematic. Don’t be fooled either. They’re also disguised as sticker charts, token economies, points, “class dollars” etc. The method and more importantly the results of these methods are the same. On this video we'll discuss: -  What ``Behaviour Charts´´ actually are for - The effect they have on children - Should I be using them? Grab the Scripts to Manage the Top 10 Crazy-Making Behaviours: prnt.link/scripts Watch the video recording here: Join the Parenting Posse: prnt.link/group the Mudroom is recorded live every Wednesday at 1:30pm ET/ 12:30pm CT/ 10:30am PT on Facebook: facebook.com/arfamilyservices --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mudroom/message

Oct 13

16 min 53 sec

It’s a heart wrenching situation, believe me- I understand.    You drive up to school/daycare, your child gets out with their little lunch box and water bottle with a bright smile that lights up your world.    You walk up to the teacher at the gate and give them a sympathetic smile because you both know what’s about to occur...  And that’s when you see your child’s expression change and it clicks.    They’re going to leave me here!    Cue the tears, the painful pleads for you to stay, you promising you’ll come back as you pull little fingers off of you while they wail for you not to go.   It makes it all the more dramatic when the teacher has to come and literally pry your crying child off of you and they lurch forward like they’ve been doomed to imprisonment.    You bounce back and forth between trying to decide if you should leave your child shrieking and make a mad dash for the car, or if you should try and console them some more.    The teacher’s looking at you with a tight lipped smile while they wrestle with your squirming kid, at least 3 other parents have successfully shoved their kiddo’s in the door and are already in their car leaving.   Here you are wondering how many more days will it take before they can get used to drop-off and pick-up without such an emotional upheaval.   On this episode we´ll discuss:  - How to react to intense emotions  - How to help your kids adjust to changes  - The right way to handle your kids emotions Grab the Scripts to Manage the Top 10 Crazy-Making Behaviours: prnt.link/scripts Watch the video recording here: Join the Parenting Posse: prnt.link/group the Mudroom is recorded live every Wednesday at 1:30pm ET/ 12:30pm CT/ 10:30am PT on Facebook: facebook.com/arfamilyservices --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mudroom/message

Sep 28

13 min 8 sec

We’ve been in the trenches of COVID for a long time, friends, and I can’t stress it enough to parents.    No! Your child isn’t falling behind and there’s no need to go hire tutors to jam 2 years worth of academics into your child’s brain… But with that being said our children may need a little extra support with some socialization and other skills.    Not saying they’ve gone rabid or anything but lots of children haven’t gotten the chance to practice their skills and now that we’re attempting to return to some kind of normalcy, it’s starting to show.    Parents are telling me about their children struggling in the classroom or play groups with things like:  - Taking turns and sharing  - Waiting and being patient - And moving with a purpose (they’re moving at a snail's pace for everything)   So, what can be done?    On this episode we´ll discuss:  - What our kids might be needing right now  - How to support our kids properly  - How we can help them regain a sense of normalcy Grab the Scripts to Manage the Top 10 Crazy-Making Behaviours: prnt.link/scripts Watch the video recording here: Join the Parenting Posse: prnt.link/group the Mudroom is recorded live every Wednesday at 1:30pm ET/ 12:30pm CT/ 10:30am PT on Facebook: facebook.com/arfamilyservices --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mudroom/message

Sep 18

10 min 13 sec

Here’s something I’ve noticed over and over again about “respectful” or “gentle” parenting.   This idea that in an effort to redirect behaviour or calm our children we need to talk.  We give options, and validate emotions, then try sportscasting, explaining, and on and on and on....   And the whole time the child is only screaming louder, they’re melting onto the floor in the middle of story time, or they immediately go and do whatever it was you were trying to stop them from doing.   This can leave parents baffled, “why isn’t this whole gentle parenting thing working?”   This is going to seem like contradictory advice but here’s what I tell the parents who come to me with this problem…  Stop talking.  Yup.     We’re gonna zip it.  I can already guess your next question though: “If I need to stop talking, how am I supposed to get my child to listen without resorting to timeout and spanking?  I gotta do something besides let them run around like a gremlin.”  And that’s a valid question.   While communication is important, it’s not going to do you much good if they’re not able to actually listen to what you’re saying.   In this episode we´ll discuss:  - What to do when our kids are upset  - What is the best way of teaching them?  - What can i do to help them calm down? Grab the Scripts to Manage the Top 10 Crazy-Making Behaviours: prnt.link/scripts Watch the video recording here: Join the Parenting Posse: prnt.link/group the Mudroom is recorded live every Wednesday at 1:30pm ET/ 12:30pm CT/ 10:30am PT on Facebook: facebook.com/arfamilyservices --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mudroom/message

Sep 18

13 min 56 sec

It’s back to school time!! After over 18 months, most kids will be returning to in-person classes this fall. THIS IS NEW! We know that kids tend to see everything that's not familiar to them as potential danger, which means they're going to have to adjust to the new routine- and that takes a lot of energy. On this episode we'll discuss: - The concept of Restraint Collapse - How can we transition our kids out of school and into our home? - What can we do to help them? Grab the Scripts to Manage the Top 10 Crazy-Making Behaviours: prnt.link/scripts Watch the video recording here: Join the Parenting Posse: prnt.link/group the Mudroom is recorded live every Wednesday at 1:30pm ET/ 12:30pm CT/ 10:30am PT on Facebook: facebook.com/arfamilyservices --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mudroom/message

Sep 15

13 min 50 sec

When we make decisions for our kids we take a lot of factors into consideration: risk chief among them.   Over the last 30 years parents’ risk assessment has changed dramatically.    Why was it totally normal for children to play at the local playground unsupervised in the 80s, but now it’s considered neglect?   The No Child Left Alone study covers exactly this.    Why do we think something is risky for a child when it objectively isn´t? What has changed in how parents evaluate risk?   On this episode we'll discuss:  - What's the `No child left alone study´  - The concepts of Moral Coherence and Availability Heuristic.  - What are you basing your decisions on?  - How to make sure we are making the correct choices for our kids. Grab the Scripts to Manage the Top 10 Crazy-Making Behaviours: prnt.link/scripts Watch the video recording here: Join the Parenting Posse: prnt.link/group the Mudroom is recorded live every Wednesday at 1:30pm ET/ 12:30pm CT/ 10:30am PT on Facebook: facebook.com/arfamilyservices --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mudroom/message

Sep 4

13 min 32 sec

Can you recognize the difference between your kid being regulated vs them being happy? Do you know how to help them manage their emotions, what's healthy and what isn´t? It's very common in this time for parents to mistake their children being calm with them being happy, they also seem to think that it's their job to make their children constantly happy. That's not necessarily true. It's okay for kids to experience emotions other than happiness. They can be upset but not dysregulated, but what's important is to know how to be supportive of them and help them deal with their emotions. This can be tricky given that most of us weren't given the space to experience being regulated and not happy. On this class we'll discuss: -The difference between being regulated and happy - Wys to help you kid manage their emotions -What´s healthy and what isn´t Grab the Scripts to Manage the Top 10 Crazy-Making Behaviours: prnt.link/scripts Watch the video recording here: Join the Parenting Posse: prnt.link/group the Mudroom is recorded live every Wednesday at 1:30pm ET/ 12:30pm CT/ 10:30am PT on Facebook: facebook.com/arfamilyservices --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mudroom/message

Sep 4

14 min 30 sec

Have you heard of the zone of proximal development?  Do you know why your kid seems to need more support to perform certain tasks than others, and when it’s the right time to help them out? The zone of proximal development is that space between your child’s total independence and total support.  There’s a common misconception among parents where they think if a kid can’t do it by themselves- they can't do it at all!  When in fact there’s a gray area there that’s really important.  How much help are they needing and when?  It’s important to recognize when they can do something competently with help just as much as when they can do it competently on their own. Grab the Scripts to Manage the Top 10 Crazy-Making Behaviours: prnt.link/scripts Watch the video recording here: Join the Parenting Posse: prnt.link/group the Mudroom is recorded live every Wednesday at 1:30pm ET/ 12:30pm CT/ 10:30am PT on Facebook: facebook.com/arfamilyservices --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mudroom/message

Aug 29

18 min 51 sec

Do your kids seem to be stressed out even while on vacation? Are you looking for ways to make it a more relaxing time? When planning a vacation it seems inevitable that the one thing we want to get is rest, but traveling with young kids can be difficult- they’re loud, stressed out and constantly asking for things. This is why it's important that we stick to our routine as closely as possible, as kids tend to think of “new and different” as “unsafe and dangerous”. But you can still incorporate new plans into your schedule while keeping the basic structure of their day. Grab the Scripts to Manage the Top 10 Crazy-Making Behaviours: prnt.link/scripts Watch the video recording here: Join the Parenting Posse: prnt.link/group the Mudroom is recorded live every Wednesday at 1:30pm ET/ 12:30pm CT/ 10:30am PT on Facebook: facebook.com/arfamilyservices --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mudroom/message

Aug 18

11 min 6 sec

Does your kid seem to be getting tired of their recreational  activities?    Can you tell the difference between them being over it and just needing a break?   Wanting your child to excel is common for many parents.  There's a difference between a child being done with an activity and them quitting when it just got hard. It's important to be able to recognize it.    This way we can help them reduce the stress an activity gives them and move on to find something they really love, or help them through what's causing them to find an activity they enjoy difficult to maintain.     In this episode, we discuss:  - Steps you can take to help your child through this process  - Identify that you are making the right call when it comes to quitting the activity or pushing them through it Grab the Scripts to Manage the Top 10 Crazy-Making Behaviours: prnt.link/scripts Watch the video recording here: Join the Parenting Posse: prnt.link/group the Mudroom is recorded live every Wednesday at 1:30pm ET/ 12:30pm CT/ 10:30am PT on Facebook: facebook.com/arfamilyservices --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mudroom/message

Aug 12

11 min 58 sec

Does your kid make constant out-of-place noises? Have you noticed them doing them even after you've asked them to stop?   These noises are not arbitrary!    We could be talking about any kind of noises, loud or soft, chatter, clicking sounds, hand-clapping, you name it.    This is not them making nonsense sounds, as kids normally do. This is called "filtering".   These noises are actually helping them stay regulated if they´re experiencing some sort of dysregulation (such as sensory overload or sensory understimulation), it's quite impressive!    It can, however, get overwhelming for you if it happens constantly.  Which is why it's important to find a way to address it while still meeting everybody's needs.   So in this episode we'll cover:   - Why kids make so much noise.   - What filtering is.  - How we can help our children filter so that it's less disruptive. Grab the Scripts to Manage the Top 10 Crazy-Making Behaviours: prnt.link/scripts Watch the video recording here: Join the Parenting Posse: prnt.link/group the Mudroom is recorded live every Wednesday at 1:30pm ET/ 12:30pm CT/ 10:30am PT on Facebook: facebook.com/arfamilyservices --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mudroom/message

Aug 12

10 min 1 sec

Have you ever wondered why two kids can receive the exact same education and instructions yet one ends up doing better than the other?  Or why they can start out with the same materials and information and one winds up being considered more capable than the other?   In this video we're going to cover:   •What is the Pygmalion Effect?  •What are the implications of the Pygmalion Effect for your kids?  •How to use the Pygmalion effect to your advantage. Grab the Scripts to Manage the Top 10 Crazy-Making Behaviours: prnt.link/scripts Watch the video recording here: Join the Parenting Posse: prnt.link/group the Mudroom is recorded live every Wednesday at 1:30pm ET/ 12:30pm CT/ 10:30am PT on Facebook: facebook.com/arfamilyservices --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mudroom/message

Aug 3

17 min 20 sec

As you venture back out into the wide world have you noticed that your kids are kind of...clingy?    Even parents of kids who are general independent and fearless are reporting that they're seeing a high level of cling with their kiddos now that things are "going back to normal."    Are you trying to understand why your child is so clingy?   In this episode we'll discuss:   •Why are kids getting so clingy right now?!  •How to reduce the clinging without dismissing them.  •Two tweaks to your daily schedule that can make a world of difference. Grab the Scripts to Manage the Top 10 Crazy-Making Behaviours: prnt.link/scripts Watch the video recording here: Join the Parenting Posse: prnt.link/group the Mudroom is recorded live every Wednesday at 1:30pm ET/ 12:30pm CT/ 10:30am PT on Facebook: facebook.com/arfamilyservices --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mudroom/message

Jul 26

14 min 56 sec

We are revisiting MudRooms from the past 4 years that newer followers may not have had the chance to brush up on yet.    Usually, there's one parent who is chomping at the bit to make changes and another who is much more hesitant.    In my experience it's usually Mom (or the primary attachment figure) who is raring to go and Dad (or the secondary attachment figure) who isn't quite as enthusiastic.    Usually because the secondary isn't the one caring for the child day in and out.    In this episode, we discuss a way on how to bridge the gap with disciplining. Grab the Scripts to Manage the Top 10 Crazy-Making Behaviours: prnt.link/scripts Watch the video recording here: Join the Parenting Posse: prnt.link/group the Mudroom is recorded live every Wednesday at 1:30pm ET/ 12:30pm CT/ 10:30am PT on Facebook: facebook.com/arfamilyservices --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mudroom/message

Jul 6

17 min 2 sec

School is barely out ... but today we are talking about school starting up again.   The reality is you only have 2 months to get your kiddos skills built up if they're starting school in the fall!   In this replay of a 2019 episode we'll cover the skills your child actually needs in order to be ready for kindergarten in the fall so you can be prepared! Grab the Scripts to Manage the Top 10 Crazy-Making Behaviours: prnt.link/scripts Watch the video recording here: Join the Parenting Posse: prnt.link/group the Mudroom is recorded live every Wednesday at 1:30pm ET/ 12:30pm CT/ 10:30am PT on Facebook: facebook.com/arfamilyservices --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mudroom/message

Jul 5

15 min 56 sec

Throwing it back to old Mudroom episodes!    Are you struggling to understand why your child is harming themselves?   I also give advice on healthy ways too filter your young child.   In this video class we discussed:  - Why do little kids hurt themselves on purpose when they're upset!?  - What is filtering and why is it actually a good thing?  - How we can help young kids filter in healthier ways.   We'll be back in July with fresh MudRoom content! Grab the Scripts to Manage the Top 10 Crazy-Making Behaviours: prnt.link/scripts Watch the video recording here: Join the Parenting Posse: prnt.link/group the Mudroom is recorded live every Wednesday at 1:30pm ET/ 12:30pm CT/ 10:30am PT on Facebook: facebook.com/arfamilyservices --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mudroom/message

Jun 22

17 min 55 sec

Do you find yourself having to raise your voice to get your child to pay attention to ANYTHING you say?    In this episode w will to cover:   - What the "Gas Tank Theory" is and why it's causing your kids to ignore you.  - Why yelling is actually causing your children to listen less.  - What we need to be teaching our kids so that they can listen easily and quickly. Grab the Scripts to Manage the Top 10 Crazy-Making Behaviours: prnt.link/scripts Watch the video recording here: Join the Parenting Posse: prnt.link/group the Mudroom is recorded live every Wednesday at 1:30pm ET/ 12:30pm CT/ 10:30am PT on Facebook: facebook.com/arfamilyservices --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mudroom/message

Jun 14

16 min 59 sec

During the month of June we're replaying some old MudRoom episodes to revisit useful topics.   If your child is struggling with staying on task, playing independently, getting out the door in the morning or any other interaction with time-based activities aren't going your way....you NEED to check out the Time Timer! Grab the Scripts to Manage the Top 10 Crazy-Making Behaviours: prnt.link/scripts Watch the video recording here: Join the Parenting Posse: prnt.link/group the Mudroom is recorded live every Wednesday at 1:30pm ET/ 12:30pm CT/ 10:30am PT on Facebook: facebook.com/arfamilyservices --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mudroom/message

Jun 7

17 min 45 sec

The Mudroom has been asking a lot of questions about Sensory Stress.   Sensory Stress can be difficult to understand.   In this video we will be talking about:   1. What does sensory mean?  2. How does sensory stress happen?  3. What should we be doing about sensory stress? Grab the Scripts to Manage the Top 10 Crazy-Making Behaviours: prnt.link/scripts Watch the video recording here: Join the Parenting Posse: prnt.link/group the Mudroom is recorded live every Wednesday at 1:30pm ET/ 12:30pm CT/ 10:30am PT on Facebook: facebook.com/arfamilyservices --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mudroom/message

May 31

11 min 57 sec

The warmer weather is here!   This means an increase of opportunities for socialization.   Many parents are noticing something else: an increase in hitting, biting, kicking, pushing, etc.    Why we're suddenly seeing this spike in aggression?   In this episode we'll cover:   - The 2 kinds of aggression we generally see in kids 2-6 years old.  - How to use the Logical Consequence Process to reduce these instances of aggression.   - Why we're seeing this increase RIGHT NOW as we come out of quarantine. Grab the Scripts to Manage the Top 10 Crazy-Making Behaviours: prnt.link/scripts Watch the video recording here: Join the Parenting Posse: prnt.link/group the Mudroom is recorded live every Wednesday at 1:30pm ET/ 12:30pm CT/ 10:30am PT on Facebook: facebook.com/arfamilyservices --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mudroom/message

May 24

15 min 55 sec

Many parents are feeling burnt out with over playing with their kids.   If you are feeling this, you are not alone!   We feel guilty because they don't have access to their playmates the way they did pre-covid.    Here's a not-so-secret: you don't have to play with them!   In this episode we'll cover:  - The most beneficial thing about play.  - Why half-assing playing with your kids is actually doing more harm than good.  - How to play with your kids on your terms so that you both get the benefits of play! Grab the Scripts to Manage the Top 10 Crazy-Making Behaviours: prnt.link/scripts Watch the video recording here: Join the Parenting Posse: prnt.link/group the Mudroom is recorded live every Wednesday at 1:30pm ET/ 12:30pm CT/ 10:30am PT on Facebook: facebook.com/arfamilyservices --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mudroom/message

May 11

12 min 21 sec

Does the concept that your child is stressed make you get your back up a bit?  It does for most parents. But...what do I mean when I say that your child is stressed?  Let's talk about the concept of stress.   In this episode we'll cover:  - What is stress?  - How to differentiate stress from worry.  - How to reduce stress. Grab the Scripts to Manage the Top 10 Crazy-Making Behaviours: prnt.link/scripts Watch the video recording here: Join the Parenting Posse: prnt.link/group the Mudroom is recorded live every Wednesday at 1:30pm ET/ 12:30pm CT/ 10:30am PT on Facebook: facebook.com/arfamilyservices --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mudroom/message

May 11

17 min 58 sec

It's recreational activity registration season!   Every year parents struggle with a similar question:  Why is my kid just sitting on the sidelines refusing to participate?!    We spent lots of $$ and time on these activites. Why won't they join in!?   In this episode we're going to talk about:  1) Why observation is important for young kids.  2) How observation actually teaches children faster than participation.  3) How to get observation opportunities without hurting your wallet.   Grab the Scripts to Manage the Top 10 Crazy-Making Behaviours: prnt.link/scripts Watch the video recording here: Join the Parenting Posse: prnt.link/group the Mudroom is recorded live every Wednesday at 1:30pm ET/ 12:30pm CT/ 10:30am PT on Facebook: facebook.com/arfamilyservices --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mudroom/message

May 7

15 min 42 sec

You know how kids will sometimes hurt or upset someone and then laugh? Or act indifferent?    That scares the crap out of us as parents, doesn't it?    A lot of parents struggle with teaching empathy.   No matter how much we explain why we should be nice and gentle...our kids do not care at all.    In this episode we're going to cover:   1) What is empathy?  2) Two things we must understand about how early childhood development before we try to teach our child. Grab the Scripts to Manage the Top 10 Crazy-Making Behaviours: prnt.link/scripts Watch the video recording here: Join the Parenting Posse: prnt.link/group the Mudroom is recorded live every Wednesday at 1:30pm ET/ 12:30pm CT/ 10:30am PT on Facebook: facebook.com/arfamilyservices --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mudroom/message

May 7

15 min 46 sec

Early in our parenting journey most parents get accosted by the word stress.    Over the last 10 years, I have heard some form of the phrase "don't let them cry too much, stress causes developmental delays!" in the their first week of parenting, if not before.    When I'm up here on my soapbox telling you your child is stressed, it understandably causes alarm.    Here's the thing: stress isn't a bad thing.    Only a certain KIND of stress is a bad thing.   In this video we're going to be talking about:  - A quick refresher on what stress is.  - The 3 different kinds of stress.   - What makes stress toxic vs healthy and normal. Grab the Scripts to Manage the Top 10 Crazy-Making Behaviours: prnt.link/scripts Watch the video recording here: Join the Parenting Posse: prnt.link/group the Mudroom is recorded live every Wednesday at 1:30pm ET/ 12:30pm CT/ 10:30am PT on Facebook: facebook.com/arfamilyservices --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mudroom/message

Apr 28

12 min 27 sec

Why are we all so afraid of kids being bored?!    When COVID hit my inbox was flooded with emails from parents panicking becaue their kids were bored at home.    Boredom, it seems, has become an unforgiveable sin.    I've got news for you parents: we're robbing our kid of a HUGE opportunity by keeping them constantly entertained.   In this Episode we'll be covering:  1. Why we're so scared of boredom  2. The benefits of allowing your child to be bored.  3. The neurology of boredom and what boredom actually IS. Grab the Scripts to Manage the Top 10 Crazy-Making Behaviours: prnt.link/scripts Watch the video recording here: Join the Parenting Posse: prnt.link/group the Mudroom is recorded live every Wednesday at 1:30pm ET/ 12:30pm CT/ 10:30am PT on Facebook: facebook.com/arfamilyservices --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mudroom/message

Apr 21

13 min 36 sec

Tantrums vs Meltdowns   Wait, they're not the same thing?  Nope!    Let's talk about the differences and how to respond based on what you're dealing with. Grab the Scripts to Manage the Top 10 Crazy-Making Behaviours: prnt.link/scripts Watch the video recording here: Join the Parenting Posse: prnt.link/group the Mudroom is recorded live every Wednesday at 1:30pm ET/ 12:30pm CT/ 10:30am PT on Facebook: facebook.com/arfamilyservices --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mudroom/message

Apr 12

14 min 15 sec

The warm weather is hitting and rough play can be difficult to navigate through.    This video we discuss how to navigate through the rough play with your child. Grab the Scripts to Manage the Top 10 Crazy-Making Behaviours: prnt.link/scripts Watch the video recording here: Join the Parenting Posse: prnt.link/group the Mudroom is recorded live every Wednesday at 1:30pm ET/ 12:30pm CT/ 10:30am PT on Facebook: facebook.com/arfamilyservices --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mudroom/message

Mar 30

12 min 34 sec

What is the difference between punishment and discipline?    Who disciplines their kids?    Can you discipline without punishment?    In this episode, we define the differences between punishment and discipline and how it fits in with Uncommon Sense Parenting. Grab the Scripts to Manage the Top 10 Crazy-Making Behaviours: prnt.link/scripts Watch the video recording here: Join the Parenting Posse: prnt.link/group the Mudroom is recorded live every Wednesday at 1:30pm ET/ 12:30pm CT/ 10:30am PT on Facebook: facebook.com/arfamilyservices --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mudroom/message

Mar 25

3 min 51 sec

Most parents think that listening is a singular skill.    Your chlidren either knows how to do it or they don't.   This is not true!   In this episode we'll be discussing:  - Why listening is hard for children   - How to help them get better at it. Grab the Scripts to Manage the Top 10 Crazy-Making Behaviours: prnt.link/scripts Watch the video recording here: Join the Parenting Posse: prnt.link/group the Mudroom is recorded live every Wednesday at 1:30pm ET/ 12:30pm CT/ 10:30am PT on Facebook: facebook.com/arfamilyservices --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mudroom/message

Mar 24

11 min 31 sec

Your child needs all 3 of those pillars in place in order to behave well.    If one of those 3 things is missing it doesn't matter what you do...your kiddo's going to struggle.    There's often a lot of confusion about when each of those 3 pilars come into play- particularly calming vs critical thinking.   In this episode we're going to cover:  - What comes first? Calming or consequences?  - Are consequences effective even if they aren't immediate?  - What to do if your child isn't ready for a consequence. Grab the Scripts to Manage the Top 10 Crazy-Making Behaviours: prnt.link/scripts Watch the video recording here: Join the Parenting Posse: prnt.link/group the Mudroom is recorded live every Wednesday at 1:30pm ET/ 12:30pm CT/ 10:30am PT on Facebook: facebook.com/arfamilyservices --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mudroom/message

Mar 3

12 min 25 sec

How can you tell if the behavioural issue your kids are presenting will just go away on it's own or if you should address it?   In this video we'll be covering:  - What does it mean to "grow out" of something?  - The benefits and drawbacks to waiting for your child to grow out of it.  - How to decide which route to take. Grab the Scripts to Manage the Top 10 Crazy-Making Behaviours: prnt.link/scripts Watch the video recording here: Join the Parenting Posse: prnt.link/group the Mudroom is recorded live every Wednesday at 1:30pm ET/ 12:30pm CT/ 10:30am PT on Facebook: facebook.com/arfamilyservices --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mudroom/message

Feb 26

12 min 17 sec

Do not anger the anger the Goddess of Consistency.   A lot of parents are expecting her to do all the work alone.   In episode class we're going to talk about:  - Why consistency alone isn't going to solve your child's behaviour struggles.  - Why punishments stall us out and make it impossible for our kids to learn.  - How to tell it's time to try something new to manage your child's behaviour. Grab the Scripts to Manage the Top 10 Crazy-Making Behaviours: prnt.link/scripts Watch the video recording here: Join the Parenting Posse: prnt.link/group the Mudroom is recorded live every Wednesday at 1:30pm ET/ 12:30pm CT/ 10:30am PT on Facebook: facebook.com/arfamilyservices --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mudroom/message

Feb 21

13 min 33 sec

Nobody is laying in bed at night, unable to sleep, and thinks "I need a parenting coach."    Nobody!   Who are these families I work with?    I think it's one way for parents to figure out if working with me is for them or whether they should be looking into occupational therapy, a psychologist, or something else.   After all, we all want to find our posse!  And really- it's a simple answer.   Most of my clients fall into what I call "The Gap."  No, not the clothing brand!  I n this episode we'll be covering:  • What IS "The Gap"  • How did I find "The Gap"  • How to tell if YOUR family is stuck in "the Gap."  • How I help families get OUT of the "The Gap." Grab the Scripts to Manage the Top 10 Crazy-Making Behaviours: prnt.link/scripts Watch the video recording here: Join the Parenting Posse: prnt.link/group the Mudroom is recorded live every Wednesday at 1:30pm ET/ 12:30pm CT/ 10:30am PT on Facebook: facebook.com/arfamilyservices --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mudroom/message

Feb 15

11 min 12 sec

Are you struggling to show your parents that your parenting style is better for your children?   In this episode, we discuss how it's ok that your family is different than the family you grow up in. Grab the Scripts to Manage the Top 10 Crazy-Making Behaviours: prnt.link/scripts Watch the video recording here: Join the Parenting Posse: prnt.link/group the Mudroom is recorded live every Wednesday at 1:30pm ET/ 12:30pm CT/ 10:30am PT on Facebook: facebook.com/arfamilyservices --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mudroom/message

Feb 3

11 min 4 sec

The #1 question from parents?  "Is my kid normal?!"    Given my background in early intervention, I have a bit of a unique perspective on normal. It's a perspective that I'd like to share with you- because it's a perspective that is central to why and how I developed Uncommon Sense Parenting and ParentAbility.   In this episode we're going to cover:  - What the difference between "normal" and typical is.  - A big ol' Red Flag to watch for when you're looking for and receiving parenting advice.  - How to tailor advice to your unique family and child. Grab the Scripts to Manage the Top 10 Crazy-Making Behaviours: prnt.link/scripts  Watch the video recording here: Join the Parenting Posse: prnt.link/group  the Mudroom is recorded live every Wednesday at 1:30pm ET/ 12:30pm CT/ 10:30am PT on Facebook: facebook.com/arfamilyservices --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mudroom/message

Feb 1

15 min 44 sec

The virtual learning debate continues even with Uncommon Sense Parenting and parenting young children.  Parents have been reaching out panicking about virtual learning.   Who knew virtual daycare was even a thing?!   Scripts: prnt.link/scripts   On this Mudroom episode we will be covering:   - Whether kids under age 6 need virutal learning.  - How to tell if your child is falling behind in virtual learning.   - If they are, what to do about it. Grab the Scripts to Manage the Top 10 Crazy-Making Behaviours: prnt.link/scripts Watch the video recording here: Join the Parenting Posse: prnt.link/group the Mudroom is recorded live every Wednesday at 1:30pm ET/ 12:30pm CT/ 10:30am PT on Facebook: facebook.com/arfamilyservices --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mudroom/message

Jan 25

10 min 57 sec

Posse members say that their children's misbehavior makes them feel overwhelmed, frustrated, and gives them a sense of vague dread!  Can you relate?    There is a "secret" to teaching your children perfect behavior.  It's not what you think it is. Grab the Scripts to Manage the Top 10 Crazy-Making Behaviours: prnt.link/scripts Watch the video recording here: Join the Parenting Posse: prnt.link/group the Mudroom is recorded live every Wednesday at 1:30pm ET/ 12:30pm CT/ 10:30am PT on Facebook: facebook.com/arfamilyservices --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mudroom/message

Dec 2020

13 min 6 sec

Feel like you're doing EVERYTHING yourself when it comes to raising your kids and unsure of where to turn for help?  In this episode we're going to cover:  -Why every family needs a pandemic-proof team  -How building your team will help reduce your stress even if they aren't providing physical help. - How you can steal my battle-tested team and apply it to your family.   Grab the Scripts to Manage the Top 10 Crazy-Making Behaviours: prnt.link/scripts  Watch the video recording here: Join the Parenting Posse: prnt.link/group  the Mudroom is recorded live every Wednesday at 1:30pm ET/ 12:30pm CT/ 10:30am PT on Facebook: facebook.com/arfamilyservices --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mudroom/message

Nov 2020

16 min 29 sec

There has been an unusually large number of requests to help with car seats lately.    While we don't allow car seat questions in the Parenting Posse, I thought it prudent to go over the basics of choosing a car seat so that when you seek professional car seat support you aren't flying blind.   In this episode we'll cover:  - The #1 mistake parents make when choosing a car seat for their children.  - The surprising fact about car seats that most parents don't know.  - How to choose a car seat that fits your child, car, and budget.   We will NOT be taking car seat questions in the Posse, but we do have a list of recommended car seat resources in our recommended groups section: prnt.link/group Grab the Scripts to Manage the Top 10 Crazy-Making Behaviours: prnt.link/scripts  Watch the video recording here: Join the Parenting Posse: prnt.link/group  the Mudroom is recorded live every Wednesday at 1:30pm ET/ 12:30pm CT/ 10:30am PT on Facebook: facebook.com/arfamilyservices --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mudroom/message

Nov 2020

22 min 1 sec

You know how some kids laugh when they hit you?    They run up to you and jump on you, push their siblings and laugh about it?    They hit you and then think it's funny when you react?   In this episode we will be talking about:  - Why children are aggressive "for fun".   - Why children laugh after hurting someone, even someone they like!  - How to get them to STOP!! Grab the Scripts to Manage the Top 10 Crazy-Making Behaviours: prnt.link/scripts Watch the video recording here: Join the Parenting Posse: prnt.link/group the Mudroom is recorded live every Tuesday at 9pm ET/ 8pm CT/ 6pm PT on Facebook: facebook.com/arfamilyservices --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mudroom/message

Oct 2020

11 min 54 sec

If you aren't punishing our kids, how exactly do you deal with "mouthing off", "talking back", and "mean words?"    We want our kids to be respectful and kind, but how can we possibly teach them to be those things when they are hurling insults right left and centre?   In this episode I am going to discuss:  - How our parents dealt with 'back talk' and why that really doesn't work.  - What's going on neurologically when a child is using 'mean words'.  - How to discipline 'mean words' so that your child feels heard and expresses themselves more appropriately next time. Grab the Scripts to Manage the Top 10 Crazy-Making Behaviours: prnt.link/scripts Watch the video recording here: Join the Parenting Posse: prnt.link/group the Mudroom is recorded live every Tuesday at 9pm ET/ 8pm CT/ 6pm PT on Facebook: facebook.com/arfamilyservices --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mudroom/message

Oct 2020

13 min 59 sec

What is UP with two year olds?!    We've been hearing lots of complaints about "terrible twos".  I'll be honest, I take issue with that characterization.   Twos aren't terrible! They're STRESSED!    In this episode I will be discussing my tips to help you out with your two year old. I will be covering:   - The unique developmental stage that twos are in.  - Why we need to slow the heck down and give twos some space.  - The what you can do when they're two that will make the rest of their life MUCH easier! Grab the Scripts to Manage the Top 10 Crazy-Making Behaviours: prnt.link/scripts Watch the video recording here: Join the Parenting Posse: prnt.link/group the Mudroom is recorded live every Tuesday at 9pm ET/ 8pm CT/ 6pm PT on Facebook: facebook.com/arfamilyservices --- Send in a voice message: https://anchor.fm/mudroom/message

Oct 2020

21 min 8 sec