The Pique Podcast

Cristina Roman

Join Procrastination Coach Cristina Roman of Pique Coaching for real, intimate conversations about the interconnectedness of life. Join us as we discuss big topics like intuition, personal mastery, and emotional wellness — and why they matter for you as you overcome procrastination, once and for all. Head to www.piquecoaching.co/minisession for your free procrastination elimination mini session.

The Pique Podcast season 2 launches 11/5 (+ free resource)
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Monday Hour One isn't just time blocking. It's a complete time management system, introduced to me by The Life Coach School, that I firmly believe is one of the best ways to manage your work week. If you're not fully bought in right away, no worries. It took me awhile to get on board, too! I highly recommend giving it a go and then reaching out to me for support on any obstacles that crop up. To read the written version of this episode and grab the resources mentioned, head to piquecoaching.co/mho.

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Jun 2020

16 min 21 sec

- How I got my start in life coaching, and why I’m focused in on productivity - A quick intro the procrastination framework that I’m working on. - Impromptu coaching on the idea that “If I don’t do it, someone else will.” - What days look like before and after implementing a deep work practice. - A quick client story that illustrates how to debunk your own myths. - A quick visualization exercise to help you create the result that you want in your life. - How The Fulfilling Five concept came to be (listen to it unfold, live.) Resources: - The guide for how to get into a deep work state in 15 minutes: http://piquecoaching.co/deepworkstate - Big Magic: piquecoaching.co/books - Gratitude and Glamour, AmyLee’s website https://gratitudeandglamour.com/ - The Half-Finished to Done course: http://piquecoaching.co/hfd - More self-awareness, focus, + creativity with morning pages: https://piquecoaching.co/more-self-awareness-focus-creativity-with-morning-pages/

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Jun 2020

46 min 57 sec

I am so thrilled to bring you this episode. Four of the nine students in the current round of Half-Finished to Done, LIVE — the live 8-week group coaching program where you go all in on one of your half-finished projects — joined me to talk about their experience in the program.   Here’s what we cover: - How Half-Finished to Done, LIVE isn’t your standard productivity program. - The value of having a like-minded cohort to do this work with. - Why solving a life-long challenge with procrastination during a pandemic might be exactly the right move. - Why taking any step — no matter how seemingly small -- toward solving your challenge is meaningful. - All of the other solutions, tricks, and strategies that Half-Finished to Done, LIVE participants have already tried.   To learn more + book a free 30-minute consult call, head to piquecoaching.co/hfdlive. We kick off on June 3, 2020. I’d love to work with you!    Resources: - The Half-Finished to Done, LIVE sales page: piquecoaching.co/hfdlive - Grab the guide for how to get into a deep work state: piquecoaching.co/deepworkstate - To grab the self-paced course: piquecoaching.co/hfd   P.S. Catching this episode after June 3, 2020? Head to piquecoaching.co/hfdlive to join the wait list for the next round.  

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Jun 2020

1 hr 7 min

Connect with me at: www.piquecoaching.co

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May 2020

15 min 35 sec

Connect with me at www.piquecoaching.co Download the complimentary guide for how to get into a deep work state in 15 minutes: http://piquecoaching.co/deepworkstate

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May 2020

27 min 1 sec

Get in touch at www.piquecoaching.co  

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May 2020

25 min 1 sec

piquecoaching.co/minisession  piquecoaching.co/deepworkstate

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May 2020

26 min 48 sec

- Tapping into your inner voice: http://piquecoaching.co/4 - Top 5 Priorities Worksheet: http://bit.ly/piquecoaching5priorities  

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Apr 2020

9 min 50 sec

- If you'd like the written version of this episode: https://piquecoaching.co/half-finished-my-story - For the comprehensive guide on how to change your limiting beliefs: http://piquecoaching.co/identity - For the 1:01 video about Do, Dump, Delegate, Delay: https://bit.ly/dodumpdelegatedelayfb - To listen to the episode about your Future Self: http://piquecoaching.co/19 - To book your free mini session: http://piquecoaching.co/minisession

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Apr 2020

12 min 10 sec

Get in touch: www.piquecoaching.co Do you procrastinate? In this episode we discuss what procrastination really is, and introduce you to concepts that will help you understand this behavior with more depth. Stopping procrastination is not a question of willpower, it is about understanding our brain.

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Apr 2020

11 min 42 sec

In this episode, we take a look at the highlights of Season 2 and I have an invitation for you. Book a free 30 minute mini-coaching session with me at: www.piquecoaching.co/minisession Availability is limited and slots are filling up.

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Feb 2020

9 min 28 sec

In this episode, I chat with Bendita Cynthia Malakia about her role as a Diversity & Inclusion Strategist and change agent. • Working with big organizations on diversity and inclusion initiatives • How to stay alert to your inherent biases • Understanding two models for allyship: the UPSTANDERS model and the ALLY acronym

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Jan 2020

59 min 17 sec

Perfectionism. Prioritization. Analysis paralysis. Distraction. These are all challenges that my community mentions on a regular basis that keep them from living their personal and professional lives like they would like to.    In this episode, I’m breaking down how you can tackle each of these challenges. Oh, and I go on a littttttle rant, too :)  Here’s what we cover:  • How to handle perfectionism • What to do if you’re a chronic starter -- but not a finisher   • What to do when people are overly dependent on you  • How to distinguish urgent vs important tasks in order to prioritize more effectively • How to create a daily workable system • How to handle analysis paralysis and get into action using the “DDDD principle”  • The value of tracking your time  Resources mentioned:  • Guide: How to get into a deep work state in 15 minutes  • The Pique Podcast episodes: How to change the way you think about productivity + time management, Career values, pivoting, + limitations with Liz Cohen (where we also talk about Tim Ferriss’ fear setting exercise), and The overlap between behavioral economics + coaching with Nate Andorsky • Books: Finish by Jon Acuff, Indistractible by Nir Eyal  • The time management matrix  • Ramit Sethi’s Instagram

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Jan 2020

18 min 54 sec

Rebecca Johnson is a strategic collaborator, writer, and motivational coach. She helps organizations align their brand story, leadership, and teamwork to create values-driven influence.  We first connected via Instagram about her Values Deck -- a set of cards that help individuals and groups clarify core values that drive work and life. Stay tuned to the end of the episode, where she pulls some cards from the Values Deck and we do a rapid-fire discussion about what each of them means to us.  Resources mentioned: • Rebecca’s website, Story Solutions • The Values Deck • Books: Dare to Lead by Brene Brown, The Power of the Other by Henry Cloud, The Second Mountain by David Brooks • Podcast: The Bible for Normal People • The Pique Podcast episodes: Shame, accountability, intuition + the church with Pastor Bill Rose and Intuitive work: what it is + how to do it • The Classical Enneagram test • The Motivational Core Assessment  • Evolving Faith Conference

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Jan 2020

1 hr 7 min

In this episode, I’m diving into two of my simple but highly effective tips for decision making. These two strategies take away the angst and stress of decision making and allow you to get curious, explore openly, and eventually, make a decision with more certainty. Tip #1: Ensure that you’re ready to make a decision by asking this one question. Tip #2: If you’re not ready yet, move into information gathering mode. This may sound overly simplistic, but don’t underestimate its value!   

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Jan 2020

7 min 3 sec

Back by popular demand on the podcast: James Lenhoff! You all loved James’ straightforward, no-nonsense approach to finances so much that I invited him to join me again.  I brought him your questions about money in relationships, how to take ownership of your finances once and for all, how to handle a raise, and what he spends money on with his family to improve their lives.   A quick rundown on what we cover in the episode: • Reframe the way you approach the holidays by asking this one question • How to find a compelling purpose for your money  • Why following expert money advice isn’t always the best idea • Wanting from a place of abundance vs scarcity • James’ take on what to do if your partner is in debt, if people should have a “Fuck Off Fund,” why things shouldn’t be 50/50 in a relationship, what to do when you get a raise, and the first step that you should take if you currently have no money management system in place  • Why “I didn’t sign up for this” -- and other seemingly innocent little thoughts can be so detrimental • What laughter has to do with coaching -- and how to know if you’re not coachable  • What to track instead of your income • The best time to get into the stock market • How productivity saves money and how to learn how to delay gratification   Resources • Money communities, unflappability, and generosity with James Lenhoff • Quicken (paid) and Mint.com (free) The 8-minute exercise that I mention on the episode: For each category below, spend 1 minute (no more -- set a timer) coming up with something that you want that feels totally impossible for you to have. It can be physical or non-physical; a thing, a belief, an experience, etc. Anything goes, but just one thing per category: 1. Self confidence
 2. Career
 3. Finances
 4. Productivity + time management
 5. Community + Relationships
 6. Health and wellness
 7. Creativity
 8. Physical environment (city, home, possessions, etc)
 Use this sentence to guide you: "It feels impossible, but in my [category above], I want __________." You can also use this one: "If I had a magic wand, I would wish for ____________."

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Dec 2019

1 hr 14 min

Trigger warning: This episode contains graphic description of sexual assault.  In 2015, I was sexually assaulted. In this episode, two of my close friends come on the podcast to digest the experience with me. We talk about the experience itself, the aftermath, the shift in my perspectives, and how to show up for those who have been sexually assaulted. It’s a story about more than just sexual assault -- it’s about hope, friendship, perspective, and knowing yourself.  If you or someone you know is looking for someone to talk to about being sexually assaulted, the RAINN National Sexual Assault Hotline is available 24/7 at 1-800-656-HOPE (4673).  Resources mentioned: • Books: Love Warrior by Glennon Doyle, Let Your Life Speak by Parker Palmer • Pique Podcast episode: Infertility, marriage, + pain with Sara Rose Whaley

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Dec 2019

1 hr 26 min

Are you the type of person who Googles “productivity tips” on a regular basis? Do you sign up for freebies via email, but never open them or take action? Are you afraid to invest in something in case it doesn’t work for you? This episode is for you.  Those who opt in to my email list have the option of answering an additional question: “What is the #1 challenge in your life right now?”  Those who come in through my deep work freebie have mentioned that they struggle with constantly shifting priorities, putting out work fire, dealing with overwhelming amounts of work, and finding balance, amongst other things.  In this episode, I’m sharing how to deal with these challenges.  Resources mentioned:  • How to get into a deep work state in 15 minutes  • The first step in every decision making process

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Dec 2019

16 min 12 sec

Trigger warning: We cover parental death, suicide, cancer, and grief in this episode.  I’ve been wanting to talk about death and dying on the podcast since the very beginning, so I was thrilled when Danielle Strouse, a licensed therapist, reached out to me to offer herself up as a guest. • Danielle’s integrative counseling work with her clients -- including existential therapy and Acceptance and Commitment Therapy • The benefit of facing your mortality and finiteness head on  • The ways in which we avoid the reality of death by overdrinking, using drugs, or overworking • How Danielle’s personal experience with grief has influenced her work as an existential therapist  • How to work with -- not against -- our death anxiety by asking “What scares me about death?”  • How Danielle has made unconventional life choices driven by her awareness of her finiteness   • Why it’s so important as practitioners to face our own darkness • A beautiful story about rippling -- which “refers to the fact that each of us creates—often without our conscious intent or knowledge—concentric circles of influence that may affect others for years, even for generations.”  I am so struck by Danielle’s vulnerability and immersive storytelling, and I know you will be, too.  Resources mentioned: • Book: Staring at the Sun by Irvin D. Yalom • The Pique Podcast: Acceptance, commitment, + mindfulness with Holly Moses + Holly Yates • Death over Dinner All content provided is protected under applicable copyright, patent, trademark, and other proprietary rights. All content is provided for informational and educational purposes only. No content is intended to be a substitute for professional medical or psychological diagnosis, advice or treatment. Information provided does not create an agreement for service between Danielle Strouse and the recipient. Consult your physician regarding the applicability of any opinions or recommendations with respect to your symptoms or medical condition. Children or adults who show signs of dangerous behavior toward themselves and/or others should be placed immediately under the care of a qualified professional.  

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Nov 2019

1 hr 3 min

In this episode, I’m bringing my amazing podcast manager, Keli Marks, out from behind the scenes to join me on the mics.  Working with Keli since season one of the podcast has been a gift, and I think you’ll understand why. Not only is he talented technically, he also brings his calming presence and deep spirituality into his freelancing work.  We dive into the following topics: • 00:00: Getting in touch with your soul through a variety of methods, like Transcendental Meditation, mindfulness, Bhakti yoga, and mantras.  • 14:42: Finding harmony in life, even in suffering, and positioning ourselves correctly in the world.  • 19:29: How to view the world through the lens of karma -- even if you don’t believe in it -- to empower yourself.  • 25:20: Buying a tiny house: composting toilets, conscious minimalism, mobility, and more. • 34:09: How to KonMari your physical life -- and your heart.  • 42:41: How to streamline your business (and life) with agile project management and gamification, and how to choose a tool and stick to it for maximum productivity. • 56:20: How to use morning pages for increased focus, higher-quality outputs, and idea generation. (One of Keli’s jobs came directly from an idea that sparked during his morning pages!)  • 58:10: Debating and defining manifestation as it relates to your identity and ego.  • 1:05:08: Keli’s closing thoughts and a quote to carry into your day: “And every day, the world will drag you by the hand, yelling, “This is important! And this is important! And this is important! You need to worry about this! And this! And this!” And each day, it’s up to you to yank your hand back, put it on your heart and say, “No. This is what’s important.” - Iain Thomas Resources mentioned:  • Enneagram personality test • How to change your limiting beliefs • International Pure Bhakti Yoga Society  • Vedabase.io • Books: The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself by Michael Alan Singer • Greywater recycling • The Pique Podcast episodes: More self-awareness, focus, + creativity with morning pages and The overlap between behavioral economics + coaching with Nate Andorsky • Pique Coaching emails: Free up your mental space with these two tricks (the “hold” tip mentioned in the episode) • Tools: Trello, Notion, ConvertKit, Habitica, The Pomodoro Technique • Bullet Journal for making plans and tracking habits • How to get into a deep work state in 15 minutes • Abraham Hicks • The Gift: Poems by Hafiz, the Great Sufi Master 

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Nov 2019

1 hr 7 min

Connect with me and download the Pique Coaching Workbook at www.piquecoaching.co Recently, I asked my email subscribers what they’d like me to write about. I received multiple requests for related topics: “How can I change my limiting beliefs once I’ve identified them?” “How do I form an identity and reinforce it through habit?” “How do I stop believing something I don’t want to believe?” So I put on my thinking hat (just kidding -- I never take it off) and got to work. Boy, did I get to work. Apparently, I had a lot to say on this topic. 2,600 words later, here's some of the feedback I got: "...I started your identity thing and am loving it -- it's so much more comprehensive than I expected." (To which I replied: "It's bigger and better than I thought it would be too, hahaha." Modesty for the win?) In all seriousness, this is the most comprehensive how-to guide I've ever written and I'm so excited for you to dive in. It's chockfull of practical strategies, coaching techniques that I use with my clients every day, exercises to work through, case studies, and a list of potential pitfalls to stay alert to. Head to piquecoaching.co/identity for the written version of this podcast.   

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Nov 2019

20 min 40 sec

In this episode, I chat with a former entrepreneurship classmate, Nate Andorsky of Creative Science about where behavioral econ and life coaching overlap.  We dive deep into a handful of behavioral econ concepts -- like present bias, paradox of choice, social market theory, loss aversion, and ambiguity aversion -- and how they can be understood and hacked by you to change your life.  Some key takeaways: 1. Remember that up to 95% of our thoughts and decisions are happening subconsciously. Behavioral economics and coaching both seek to bring more awareness to what’s happening below the surface of our minds.  2. Surround yourself with supportive communities that reflect where you want to be. Things that are alike in nature attract each other. 3. Start being the Watcher of your emotions and how they affect your actions. (They always do, whether you’re conscious of it or not.) 4. Apply the theory of Ikigai -- finding the overlap between what you’re good at, what the world needs, what the world will pay for, and what you love to do -- for more career fulfillment. 5. Counteract self-imposed limitations by always creating new goals. As cliche as it sounds, it really is about the journey rather than the shiny reward at the end of the tunnel.  How are some of these behavioral econ principles affecting your life currently? How might you use them to positively impact your life moving forward?  Resources mentioned: • Creative Science website (sign up for the email list at the bottom of the page) • Books: Effectual Entrepreneurship by Sara Sarasvathy, Atomic Habits by James Clear, The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks, Nudge by Richard Thaler and Cass Sunstein, Thinking, Fast and Slow by Daniel Kahneman, Sapiens: A Brief History of Humankind and 21 Questions for the 21st Century by Yuval Noah Harrai, Behave by Robert Sapolsky, and Indistractable by Nir Eyal • Freebie: How to get into a deep work state in 15 minutes • The Pique Podcast: More self-awareness, focus, + creativity with morning pages • The Pique Coaching Workbook: Nine prompts designed to help you harness the combined power of your logical brain and your intuition • Pique Coaching article: The value of breaking down successes, not just losses  • TEDTalk: The Surprising Science of Happiness • Photography series: Photographer Removes Phones From His Photos To Show How Terribly Addicted We’ve Become  

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Nov 2019

1 hr 17 min

Season two of the podcast launches 11/5!  In the meantime, grab The Pique Coaching Workbook: 9 prompts to get your creative wheels turning, so that you can move forward in your life. Here's what's inside the workbook: 1. Blurts: Use when you want to uncover your self-sabotaging beliefs 2. Empowering questions: Use when you want to build confidence + creatively problem solve 3. Intuitive prompts: Use when you want to know what the real you thinks 4. "I don't know" replacements: Use when you're in need of a solution but feel stuck  5. Wouldn’t it be nice if: Use when you want to dream big without attachment 6. Non-binary decision making: Use when you want to expand your creative decision making 7. Do, dump, delegate, delay: Use when you’re feeling overwhelmed by everything you have to do 8. Why x 3: Use when you want to understand your real motivations so that you can fulfill them now 9. Financial Life Planning™ questions: Use when you want to realign your finances with your values 10. Resource page   Download it now at piquecoaching.co/workbook.   

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Oct 2019

5 min 13 sec

Connect with me and download the Pique Coaching Workbook at www.piquecoaching.co And with that, season one of The Pique Podcast is a wrap! Thank you so much to everyone for listening and giving feedback along the way. It was an adventure (*cough* massive undertaking *cough*), to say the least. As we wrap up the first season, I'd love to get to know you. Shoot me an email (hello @ piquecoaching.co) and let me know: What are you looking to accomplish in the next six months and what's standing in your way?  It's a win/win -- you give me insight into what's going on in your life, and in return, I can create more targeted, relevant content for you in season two. Additionally, I'd love your help in preparing for season two. I'm looking to cover an insane number of fascinating topics -- if you know anyone (IRL or just know of online) who might be willing to join me on one of the topics below, would you include that in your email response to me? ⁣

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Oct 2019

11 min 34 sec

Connect with me and download the Pique Coaching Workbook at www.piquecoaching.co In this episode, I chat with Sarah Von Bargen, someone I’ve learned from online for years. Sarah helps people spend their time, money, and energy on purpose, and her work covers everything from personal finances to habit formation to food waste reduction.  I mention to Sarah at the very beginning of the episode that I brought her on the podcast for her easy-to-implement, actionable tips -- and she doesn’t disappoint. As it always does on the podcast, the conversation goes in many directions, but we cover three main topics: • Forming new habits that stick: Strategies like bookmark habits and “Indiana Jones”-ing your habits, myths about habit formation, and the common pitfalls when forming a new habit (like being too virtuous). • Adopting the no-grocery challenge: Simple, practical ways to cook great meals while reducing your food waste at home, and why it might be of interest to you. (Hint: it saves you money and time, and decreases your environmental impact.)  • Boosting your bank account: A systematic approach to increasing your income and decreasing your expenses “without feeling deprived, overwhelmed, or coupon-obsessed.”  Sarah and I also riff on one of our shared philosophies: discomfort on purpose. In Sarah’s words, “...In life your success correlates directly to how uncomfortable you’re willing to be. You’ll be amazed at how getting comfortable with discomfort affects every area of your life!” Amen.  Find Sarah over on Yes and Yes and Instagram. Quotables: • “When you fail, you will reinforce the narratives that most of us have -- ‘I can’t do this,’ ‘I’m not good at it,’ ‘Nothing ever sticks.’” • “The average American spends $1,500 [per year] on food they don’t eat and throws out up to 40% of the food that they buy.”  • “Stop shopping for the person you wish you were.”  • “A lot of my work starts with understanding what makes you happy.”  Resources mentioned: • Sarah’s posts: What seems obvious to you could help someone else via Tiny Buddha and How to figure out what makes you happy via Yes and Yes  • Sarah’s programs and ebooks: Make It Stick Habit School, The No Grocery Challenge Guidebook and Cookbook, and Bank Boost Books: Deep Work by Cal Newport, East of Eden by John Steinbeck, The Desire Map by Danielle LaPorte, and Your Money or Your Life: 9 Steps to Transforming Your Relationship with Money and Achieving Financial Independence by Vicki Robin

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Oct 2019

58 min 42 sec

Connect with me and download the Pique Coaching Workbook at www.piquecoaching.co I really struggled to record this episode for several reasons. First, because values feel like such a “squishy” (read: intangible and abstract) topic and second, because I wanted to do justice to a concept that every single guest in season one of the podcast mentioned in some way, shape, or form. So, I took the lazy way out: Asking my inner voice to do this episode for me :) Luckily, it delivered. When I asked what values are, I got a few responses that I loved: “Raison d'être,” “Reasons for getting out of bed,” “Where mind, body, and spirit meet,” and “Our life-force.”  And when I asked the importance of knowing our own values, I heard: “[Knowing] where to direct your attention in a chaotic world.” If you feel a nagging sense that you might be living a life out of line with your own values in at least one area of life, I encourage you to give this episode a listen.  Resources mentioned:  • Raison d'être (“the most important reason or purpose for someone or something’s existence”) • The Pique Coaching secret menu • All Pique Podcast episodes  • The Life Coach School Podcast: Ep #251: Two Types of Discomfort • Books: Let Your Life Speak by Parker Palmer • The Pique Coaching Workbook: Nine prompts designed to help you harness the combined power of your logical brain and your intuition

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Sep 2019

28 min 52 sec

Connect with me and download the Pique Coaching Workbook at www.piquecoaching.co In this episode, I chat with James Lenhoff -- an author, Certified Financial Planner®, and a  fellow life coach -- about how he’s seeking to change the conversation around money. We joked that James is an unflappable life coach ninja, but in all seriousness, he has so much wisdom to share on the importance of an improved money mindset.  We dive into: • Isolation and shame when it comes to money -- and how to combat it with money communities • The importance of cross-generational money mentors  • The benefit of having an abundance fund and the three things that get in the way of generosity • How to teach your kids about money in an authentic, real way  To hear more from James, check out The Rich Life Radio Show and visit the Wealthquest website. Quotables: • “It’s great to make mistakes; we just want to be making new ones.” • “The thing about money is that it is second maybe only to your sex life in terms of awkward things to talk about.”  • “When it comes to money, we all make the same mistakes. The question is, when are we going to make them and how much are they going to cost?”  • “My job isn’t to raise really big kids. My job is to raise grown-ass humans.”  • “I thought I was protecting them. I thought that I was keeping them from having to carry this weight...what I was actually doing was preventing intimacy.”  • “Generosity is the key to living a rich life.”  • “If you give it to them with strings attached...then you’re really not giving it to them, you’re manipulating them...That’s not generosity. That’s control.”  Resources mentioned: • The Life Coach School Podcast with Brooke Castillo  • The Rich Life Radio Show episodes: Build Your Money Community • Books: Living a Rich Life by James Lenhoff, Start with Why by Simon Sinek, and any Brene Brown book • Green Light: The debit card for kids   • DC volunteer opportunities with the Pique Coaching community  • Planet Money podcast episode: The Town Where Everyone Talks About Death Disclaimer: The ideas and opinions expressed by James Lenhoff and me, Cristina Roman, do not constitute financial advice. Listeners should seek the input of their own financial, tax, and legal professionals before acting on any recommendation from this or any other episode.   

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Sep 2019

1 hr 6 min

Connect with me and download the Pique Coaching Workbook at www.piquecoaching.co In this solo episode, I’m doing a deep dive (pun fully intended) into the concept of deep work and how it can radically shift the results -- both personally and professionally -- that you’re producing in your life. At its core, deep work is undistracted, focused blocks of time dedicated to increasing your intellectual, creative, and emotional capacity in order to create new value in the world.  It’s uncomfortable and sometimes painful, but amazingly effective. It forces you to cut out crutches, like constant phone use, but on the other side of it, you’re more focused, more engaged, more present, and more creative.  Resources mentioned: • Free 6-day email series on deep work • Books: Deep Work by Cal Newport and Flow: The Psychology of Optimal Experience by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi • The Pique Podcast: More self-awareness, focus, + creativity with morning pages

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Sep 2019

27 min 54 sec

Connect with me and download the Pique Coaching Workbook at www.piquecoaching.co In this episode, I chat with Holly Moses and Holly Yates, who both practice Acceptance and Commitment Therapy (ACT). We dive into the serenity prayer, solidifying and following your values, the function of negative emotions, mindfulness, and the difference between therapy and coaching.   We also chat about managing imposter syndrome, the value of saying your “brain story” out loud, and the Japanese art of fixing cracked bowls.  To get in touch with Holly Moses, visit her website. To get in touch with Holly Yates, visit her profile on Psychology Today.  Quotables: • “In your pain, you find your values and in your values, you find your pain.”  • “Context is everything.” • “There’s no emotion that I’m unwilling to experience.” • “Is this what I want my life to be?” Resources mentioned: • Books: The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle and Man’s Search for Meaning by Viktor Frankl All content provided is protected under applicable copyright, patent, trademark, and other proprietary rights. All content is provided for informational and educational purposes only. No content is intended to be a substitute for professional medical or psychological diagnosis, advice or treatment. Information provided does not create an agreement for service between Holly Blanc Moses and the recipient or Holly Yates and the recipient. Consult your physician regarding the applicability of any opinions or recommendations with respect to your symptoms or medical condition. Children or adults who show signs of dangerous behavior toward themselves and/or others should be placed immediately under the care of a qualified professional.   

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Sep 2019

1 hr 3 min

In this solo episode of The Pique Podcast, I mock myself and my overuse of the phrase “life changing.” Jokes aside, I dig into the six understandings that have changed the trajectory of my life. I pull from many universal teachings, that I’ve learned by way of Eckhart Tolle, Jess Lively, Brooke Castillo, Cal Newport, and the Quakers.  1. The Power of Now 2. Travel (especially further understanding what I can and cannot control)  3. Intuitive work 4. The self-coaching model  5. Deep work 6. The belief that we all have a light within us  I firmly believe that I was introduced to each of these things in the order that I needed them in my own life. They all layer on top of each other to form a pretty freaking empowering worldview. Happy listening.  Resources mentioned: • Songs: Darius Rucker: This and Walt Wilkins: Trains I Missed • Pique emails: The Cult of… • The Pique Podcast: Intuitive work: what it is and how to do it, More self-awareness, focus, + creativity with morning pages, and 85% more sober  • Book a (free) 30-minute intuition session with me • Schedule a (free) 15-minute call with me to go over the models of your life  • Books: The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle, Deep Work by Cal Newport, Self Coaching 101 by Brooke Castillo, Flow by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi, and The Power of Habit by Charles Duhigg • Podcasts: The Life Coach School Podcast with Brooke Castillo and The Lively Show with Jess Lively  • The Deep Work Intensive: 12-week coaching program

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Aug 2019

35 min 24 sec

In this episode, I talk to Sara Rose Whaley, also known as my sister, about infertility, body image, marriage, relationships, life transformations, intuition, and our 20-something antics.  Specifically, we talk about the platinum rule, the power of saying “I don’t know what to say,” seasons of relationships, and what not to say to pregnant women.  Quotables: • “I would like to think that it was God’s voice...It was just desperation and horniness.” • “When you’re single, everyone’s like ‘You need to be 100% happy being single.’ No you don’t. You don’t need to change your dreams and pretend that those are not your dreams. I think what people are really saying…” • “Be in the pain and do shit anyway.”  • “I didn’t know that I was to be trusted.” Other quotes mentioned: • “‘Resentment is like taking poison and waiting for the other person to die.’” - Unknown • “I've never seen any life transformation that didn't begin with the person in question finally getting tired of their own bullshit." - Elizabeth Gilbert  Resources mentioned:  • Books: Daring Greatly by Brene Brown, All We Ever Wanted and Baby Proof by Emily Giffin, and Thrive by Arianna Huffington • Pique Coaching Email: Are you operating from fear?

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Aug 2019

59 min 31 sec

Connect with me and download the Pique Coaching Workbook at  www.piquecoaching.co In this solo episode, I talk about the experience of creating and launching a podcast, and how it’s provided me with “another f*cking growth opportunity.”   Using The Pique Podcast as a case study, I dig into:  • My failed podcast launch in 2014 and how failing is the process of success, not the opposite of success • The concept of practicing discomfort on purpose and being willing to be with any emotions, even the negative ones  • My mission to continue to show up whole -- in integrity -- on the podcast and in life • Getting to a place where I’m proud of what I’ve created with this podcast, whether or not people give me words of affirmation  • The idea of strategic byproducts, the awesome “unanticipated side-effects” of doing something big and new in your life  • “Post-mortems” of each published podcast episode -- a quick summary of the episodes, the feedback I’ve received on each one, and updates to my thinking about the content within each episode  At the end of the episode, I give you four questions to help guide you on your own journey toward a big goal or creation in your own life.  Resources mentioned: • My instagram!  • All episodes of the Pique Podcast • The Pique Coaching Workbook: Nine prompts designed to help you harness the combined power of your logical brain and your intuition, including the “Wouldn’t it be nice if…” exercise • The #1 Reason To Set “Unrealistic” Goals (And It’s Not Achieving The Goal) via Thrive Global  • The Life Coach School Podcast #222: Discomfort on Purpose

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Aug 2019

32 min 41 sec

In this episode, I chat with Pat Bevan, a certified trainer with the Center for Nonviolent Communication, about nonviolent communication -- NVC for short. We talk about what defines nonviolent communication and its benefit: Increasing the likelihood of others willingly contributing to our well-being.  We discuss recognizing with compassion those who commit physical violence, the four ways that we disconnect from each other, how to use the “observation, feeling, need, request” framework in everyday communication, and the benefits of self-empathy, empathy, and radical honesty. Quotables:  • “I just would so much want people to approach all beings with compassion, rather than with judgment and blame.”  • “What you say is a reflection of what’s going on inside of you.”  • “My sense of being able to care for myself has gotten so much stronger as a result of NVC.”  • “We are responsible for our feelings…No one makes us feel a certain way. They might stimulate a thought in us, and that thought makes us feel a certain way.”  Resources mentioned: • The Pique Podcast: Shame, accountability, intuition + the church with Pastor Bill Rose • Center for Peace Studies and Violence Prevention at Virginia Tech • The Center for Nonviolent Communication  • NVC Academy  • Book: Living Nonviolent Communication by Marshall Rosenberg

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Aug 2019

1 hr 1 min

Connect with me and download the Pique Coaching Workbook at  www.piquecoaching.co In this episode, I answer several questions from listeners about how I’m reducing my waste, what books I recommend, how I shape my mornings, what quotes that resonate with me, and my advice for knowing how much time and energy to dedicate to new projects in your life (even if you’re not a business owner).  The five questions:  1. Given the state of the environment, what are you doing to be more environmentally conscious? 2. What are your top 5 non-fiction book recommendations?  3. What does your morning routine look like? 4. What’s a quote that you’re loving recently?  5. One of my biggest struggles is deciding how much time to dedicate to new projects when I know I need to invest to see the returns, but also it distracts from earning in the here and now. Resources mentioned: • Composting: DC Food Waste Drop-Off and Compost Cab   • How to perform a trash audit via Going Zero Waste • The reusable glass and cork coffee cup that I love: KeepCup (I have the 16 oz one) • Books: Let Your Life Speak by Parker Palmer, Big Magic by Elizabeth Gilbert, The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron, The Big Leap by Gay Hendricks, Deep Work by Cal Newport, Rising Strong and Daring Greatly by Brene Brown • Do you have an upper limit problem? on Marie Forleo’s MarieTV • The Pique Podcast: More self-awareness, focus, + creativity with morning pages • Jess Lively’s Flow with Intention Online • Top secret deep work project  Have a question you’d like me to answer on a future podcast episode? Shoot me an email! (And don’t be afraid to challenge me.)

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Jul 2019

22 min 54 sec

Connect with me and download the Pique Coaching Workbook at  www.piquecoaching.co In this episode, I chat with Erica and Jordan of The Worth Project about the three financial questions that changed their trajectory, our biggest money mistakes (which include Bitcoin, constant late fees, and “I deserve it” syndrome), and how to bring your money in line with your values, especially in a partnership.  We also touch on minimalism, food waste reduction, student loans, and their favorite financial books.  At the end of the episode, they give two practical, action-oriented calls to action for aligning your money with your values.   To get in touch with Erica and Jordan, visit The Worth Project and be sure to hop on their email list. (Erica’s emails are one of the few I read religiously.)  Quotables: • “We did these three questions about a year ago...and it completely changed how we approach our money and our life.”  • “These three questions really help you tap into your intuition and who you want to become in your life.”  • “I want to write a book. What? Apparently I’d like to write a book.”  • “What am I going to do today that at the end of it, I’ll say ‘That was worth it?’” Resources mentioned:  • The Pique Podcast: More self-awareness, focus, + creativity with morning pages • The Kinder Institute of Life Planning  • The Worth Project podcast: Asking the 3 questions with George Kinder and The Best (and Worst) Things We’ve Done With Our Money • Personal finance management tools: Personal Capital and Mint • Books: I Will Teach You to be Rich by Ramit Sethi, Your Money or Your Life: 9 Steps to Transforming Your Relationship with Money and Achieving Financial Independence by Vicki Robin, and The Simple Path to Wealth by JL Collins  • Kiva: Loans that change lives  • The Pique Coaching Workbook: Nine prompts designed to help you harness the combined power of your logical brain and your intuition

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Jul 2019

53 min 50 sec

Connect with me and download the Pique Coaching Workbook at www.piquecoaching.co. In this solo episode, I chat about my recent decision to re-evaluate my drinking habits -- and how I ended up approximately 85% more sober.  I break down how drinking had become a habitual, unconscious action in my life, the societal messages that made me rethink my drinking, how I’ve dealt with cutting back, and the challenges it’s brought up for me. I dive into how you can begin to explore more sobriety if it piques your interest, but a quick note that even if you’re not interested in cutting back on drinking, you might find the episode valuable. Fundamentally, it’s about bringing awareness to any net-negative action that you do unconsciously in your own life (like overeating, overspending, or binge-watching TV) and how to go about changing it.  Resources mentioned: Books: The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron, Love Warrior by Glennon Doyle, and Daring Greatly by Brene Brown  The Life Coach School Podcast: Ep #116: Stop Overdrinking Part 1 and Ep #117: Stop Overdrinking Part 2  OneYearNoBeer Facebook Page Why you’re likely going to hear more about being “sober curious” (Vox) Daybreaker: A morning dance party that will start your day with energy and intention  

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Jul 2019

23 min 55 sec

Connect with me and download the Pique Coaching Workbook at www.piquecoaching.co. In this episode, Pastor Bill Rose and I chat about the stigmas that people have about the church, shame and vulnerability in the church, loving people when you don’t condone their actions, and God vs intuition. We also dig into practical topics that we experience regularly, like the “messy middle” of holding others accountable and giving advice without attachment. Towards the end, Bill has an incredible call to action for anyone listening, whether or not you’re religious. To get in touch with Bill, call or text 919-417-6535, visit the Oasis Church website, or visit his blog. Quotables: “Eat the fish and throw out the bones.” “..the question is will you be the one who takes ownership?” “People aren’t problems to be solved. They’re opportunities to be loved.” “Don’t build a cult. Build a church.” “That’s just something we shouldn’t leave on the backburner.” Resources mentioned: Post: Are you looking for advice or a listening ear? Books: Let Your Life Speak by Parker Palmer, The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron, and Daring Greatly by Brene Brown The Life Coach School Podcast: Ep #132: Stop Buffering The Life Coach School’s Self-Coaching Model

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Jul 2019

1 hr 4 min

Connect with me and download the Pique Coaching Workbook at www.piquecoaching.co. In this episode, we’re talking about intuition, also known as inner wisdom, inner knowing, true wisdom, consulting your own powers, gut, and heart. These are all ways to talk about the inner voice that we all have within us.  You may be intimately familiar with the feeling of a gut instinct that hits you out of nowhere, but you may not know that you don’t need to wait for that gut instinct to kick in. You can actively dialogue with your intuition to get the answer that’s right for you in that moment. In this episode, I show you how.  Resources mentioned: How to Connect with Your Inner Voice from Jess Lively Books: Let Your Life Speak by Parker Palmer, The Power of Now by Eckhart Tolle, Eat, Pray, Love by Elizabeth Gilbert, Thrive by Arianna Huffington, The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron, Active Dreaming by Robert Moss, and The Alchemist by Paulo Coelho Pique Coaching Workbook: Nine prompts designed to help you harness the combined power of your logical brain and your intuition The Pique Podcast: More self-awareness, focus, + creativity with morning pages

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Jul 2019

18 min 42 sec

Connect with me and download the Pique Coaching Workbook at www.piquecoaching.co. My hypnotherapist Christy Bartelt and I chat about Rapid Transformational Therapy, our subconscious beliefs, and the mind. Specifically, we dive into how RTT works, myths and misconceptions about hypnotherapy, how to spot a good hypnotherapist, who shouldn’t do RTT, and how to set yourself up for success after an RTT session. We also dive into specific RTT techniques that you can use in everyday life if you’re not ready for or interested in hypnotherapy. We also segue into giving and receiving feedback -- how to redefine kindness in relation to feedback, the mirror technique, and refusing feedback. Christy gives four incredible pieces of wisdom on how the mind works at the very end of the episode, so be sure to listen until the end. Oh, and stay tuned for analogies about wild horses, luggage, clouds, and birthday cakes. To get in touch with Christy, visit her website, Instagram, and Facebook Page. Quotables: “Until you have the full understanding, you can’t really affect real momentous change.” “When [clients are] honest in the session, when they let themselves go all in...the best results come through.” “What’s standing in your way?” “I don’t know if I buy into this woo-woo mumbo jumbo…” “The pain of healing has to be less than the pain of staying.” “Everyone has inside of them the healing that’s necessary.” “I think you might be defining kindness wrong. Kindness isn’t just being nice to people…” Resources mentioned: Books: Letting Go: The Pathway of Surrender by David Hawkins, The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron, and Thrive by Arianna Huffington Marisa Peer, the creator of RTT The Life Coach School The Tim Ferriss Show:Neil Gaiman — The Interview I’ve Waited 20 Years To Do (#366) Dr. Richard Davidson and the Center for Healthy Minds at the University of Wisconsin-Madison Why You Procrastinate (It Has Nothing to Do With Self-Control) in the NYTimes The Aubrey Marcus Podcast  

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Jun 2019

1 hr 8 min

Connect with me and download the Pique Coaching Workbook at www.piquecoaching.co. If you’ve said “I’m just not creative” or “I have trouble focusing” within the past year, this episode is for you. In this solo episode, I discuss morning pages -- three unscripted pages of free writing every morning -- and the benefits that you might see if you choose to do morning pages. Those benefits include stretching yourself creatively, improving your decision-making skills, accessing your intuition and inner wisdom, learning to be more present, understanding your dreams and their subconscious meanings more fully, and perhaps most importantly, dramatically increasing your self-awareness. Bonus benefit: Dedicated time without your phone in hand! In the second half of the episode, I discuss the prompts that I use daily, including a five senses check-in, gratitude and appreciation lists, dream interpretation, and a values check-in. Resources mentioned: Books: The Artist’s Way by Julia Cameron and Active Dreaming by Robert Moss Workbook  

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Jun 2019

16 min 11 sec

Connect with me and download the Pique Coaching Workbook at www.piquecoaching.co. Liz Cohen, my former career coach, and I chat about crafting a career with intention. We discuss the importance of concretely defining your values, the benefit of pivoting, and what to do with our limitations. We chat about why Liz gave up public speaking, how to increase the chances of your dream coming true from 65% to 95% (seriously), and the beauty of formalizing “safety nets” in our lives. We have a two-part call to action for you within the episode, so be sure to listen closely for that. To get in touch with Liz, visit Next Step Careers (especially the resources page). Quotables: “What are you trying to optimize for?” “Give yourself a chance to reality test whether what you’re saying is an assumption or a truth.” “It’s a lot harder to say ‘I’m going to do some work to investigate what’s really possible here’ than just to say ‘It’s not possible.’” “You’ve gotta work on your relationship with rejection...before you start chasing after things.” What’s a good enough articulation of my dream today?” Resources mentioned: Define your values in 10 minutes The power of saying your dreams out loud Liz’s book summaries: Let Your Life Speak + Mindset: The New Psychology of Success Books: Let Your Life Speak by Parker Palmer, The Power of Now of Eckhart Tolle, and Mindset: The New Psychology of Success by Carol Dweck   4-minute book summary: StrengthsFinder Fear-setting: the most valuable exercise I do every month by Tim Ferriss

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Jun 2019

1 hr 6 min