Your Courageous Life podcast
Kate Swoboda says that it's time--time for us to release the fear that holds us back, and step into being our most courageous selves. The Your Courageous Life podcast is some parts inspiration, other parts "What are you waiting for?", and always real about the doable actions to change your habits and change your life.
Finding the opportunity amid difficult circumstances isn’t something pithy self-help statement. It’s not “toxic” positivity. It’s not naive optimism. Reframing difficult circumstances and finding the opportunity available is a resilience strategy that helps people to alleviate sadness, worry, fear. That’s what we’re talking about in today’s podcast.
Ask the confident woman you know, “What has been the cost?” She’ll tell you stories. For every confident woman I’ve met, there are stories of needing to face the undermining behaviors of others. In today’s podcast episode, I’m asking all of us to consider how we undermine our own confidence...and how we contribute, inadvertently, to undermining the confidence of others. Confidence isn’t false bravado. It has deep roots.
Do you really want things to change? Really? Sometimes, we confuse “wanting things to change” with “wanting to be supported in the difficulties I am facing.” The two are similar in some ways, but different. Today's podcast episode shares how.
To process your experience is to say to the thing that has arisen, “I’ll examine you, and dance with you, and see what’s here.” Processing your experience through letting out sadness, anger, anxiety before they can become pent-up, is a way of being with all of it. It gets you un-stuck from fear, and aligns you with your courage. In today's podcast episode, you'll learn how to start to process your experience rather than feel like life is constantly coming at you.
After a bit of a Your Courageous Life break, I'm back--and I'm sharing the top 3 tools I've been relying on to emotionally navigate a pandemic...while also moving to a new state, while still being a parent, while running a business, while...well, you know. It's #AllTheThings. Listen in for a little "where we are" check-in and the tools that you can lean on each day.
You and your voice are being called upon--because right now, we need you to practice the courage to speak up. The courage you practice in your individual life is just an entry point, the initial drop of water that creates a ripple effect of change. In today's podcast episode, I'm talking about how to develop the courage to speak up around injustice, facing your fears of criticism or saying the wrong thing, so that we can create a better world. https://www.yourcourageouslife.com/begin
Perhaps the concept of reframing fear is something you’ve heard of--but you haven’t had any practice reframing fear around real-life situations. In this podcast episode, I’m sharing the behind-the-scenes of how I’m navigating the very real fears that have come up for me as I’m packing up our home and navigating the uncertainty of a move...when we don’t know (yet) where we’re moving *to.* Get ready to explore what it’s like to go beyond the beginner stages of reframing fear, where you feel like it’s all awkward and weird, and get into the place where you can do it automatically. Get additional listener resources at https://www.yourcourageouslife.com/begin .
This episode on how to change careers isn’t going to offer resume tips or LinkedIn strategies--but it will walk you through the emotional landscape that goes along with changing careers. You’ll learn how to survive the transition, navigate the feelings, manage the expectations that are part of changing careers. More importantly, career change can be a catalyst for profound courage. Get additional listener resources at https://www.yourcourageouslife.com/begin .
I had to do this episode for my mom crew out there who wonder about raising courageous kids . While I’d certainly never claim to be a perfect parent (ha!), this episode will offer some different philosophies on how we can help our kids to be more emotionally resilient. ** And if you’ve been feeling bad about your parenting, lately? You definitely want to listen in, because this is a guilt-free zone! ** Get additional listener resources at https://www.yourcourageouslife.com/begin .
While the title of this episode is about improving your marriage, what I’m sharing today really applies to any relationship where there’s been conflict or where you’re wanting greater connection. In relationships, we bring our past conditioning and expectations, and today I’m talking about how to step into more powerful relating (in the truest sense of the word) in your partnerships. Get additional listener resources at https://www.yourcourageouslife.com/begin .
We’ve all been there--we try something, decide it’s “not for us” and then move on. But what if staying with the process and truly going all-in would give us more than we ever realized? In this podcast episode, I’m talking about what gets lost along the way and how sometimes the medicine we most need is the medicine we most resist--and only staying with the process will show us what we need to learn. Get additional listener resources at https://www.yourcourageouslife.com/begin .
In this podcast episode on getting things done, I’m outlining some of the things that I’m doing since the COVID-19 pandemic has hit, to manage...life. I’m a wife, mother, CEO of a company, Director of a training program, author of books, and yes, just like you I’ve got laundry to do, meals to make, and I need to remember to get my car insurance paid. So how do I do it all? Spending big bucks to hire out has not been my answer. And, of course, your to-do list and productivity do not define you. In this podcast episode, I’m sharing how I’m getting things done. Get additional listener resources at https://www.yourcourageouslife.com/begin .
Yes, I know--it’s part of the self-help canon to say “Take charge of your life!” But of course--because this is the Your Courageous Life podcast--we’re meaning something more nuanced. You can’t control pandemics, death, taxes, suffering, so I’m not going to talk to you about just switching your mindset, and that’s it. At the same time? Yes, take charge of your life wherever and whenever you possibly can--because what are the other appealing options? Throwing up your hands in defeat? (I hope that you're interested in something more!). Get additional subscriber resources at https://www.yourcourageouslife.com/begin .
We don’t do personal growth work for times when life is just peachy--yes, we love the daily benefits, but really, we’re doing personal growth work for times like these. This is what we train for. We’re training to boost our emotional resilience so that when life hands us challenges, we can face them. Will we be afraid? Yes. Will we choose courage? Absolutely. Here's how. Get bonus listener resources at https://www.yourcourageouslife.com/begin .
Okay, things are changing--the world as we know it has definitely changed for the foreseeable future--so you need to know how to pivot. You’ll be making multiple pivots in the coming months, changing as circumstances change, adjusting, noticing how you feel and honoring that, making tough choices. So amid those tough choices, knowing how to pivot as needed (rather than getting stuck) is crucial. Get bonus subscriber resources by going to: https://www.yourcourageouslife.com/begin .
As we go out into the world and encounter other people, it’s helpful to remember to watch what you make it mean (meaning: be aware that you are the one applying the interpretation). As we navigate challenges and difficulties, we can’t be in control of what’s happening “out there,” but we have absolute autonomy over our intentions, where we place our attention, and whether we react vs respond. This is a profound moment to “choose who you want to be.” So, who do you want to be? And how can this moment, right now, be your training ground? Get bonus subscriber resources by going to https://www.yourcourageouslife.com/begin .
It’s time for some stress relief (because I know that we’re all feeling it, right now). As a departure from my usual podcast content, in today’s podcast I’m offering a guided meditation for stress relief (and if you want more where this came from, check out the Simple Habit app, where I’m a meditation teacher and offer an entire library of different meditations). Find some space where you can slow down for about 20 minutes, and just sink into knowing that somehow, we’re going to make it through this. Get additional meditations by finding "Kate Swoboda" on the Simple Habit app, and get a library of resources for supporting you during this time, by going to https://www.yourcourageouslife.com/begin .
Feeling fear or anxiety about the news headlines? Feeling frustrated by others who get anxious or fearful in response to the news headlines? This podcast episode is here to help as we talk about navigating an uncertain world and the tools and processes you can use to manage the feelings that come up. Get bonus resources for subscribers, at https://www.yourcourageouslife.com/begin
Learning to love yourself isn’t about trying to reach perfection, nor is it about abandoning all attempts to improve your life. You can absolutely want to change or improve your life in some way, without that being an indication that you don’t fundamentally love yourself. And, you also don’t need to wait until those changes are made, before you can learn to love yourself. Today’s podcast episode breaks down the often tricky nuances that go along with learning to love ourselves, and especially moving out of a right/wrong binary around self-love so that we can step into something greater. Get bonus resources by heading to https://www.yourcourageouslife.com/begin
Burnout is tough. It’s far easier to preventively avoid burnout than it is to start beating burnout once you’re stuck in it. Today’s episode, however, is going to address both ends of this spectrum. If you’re trying to be proactive about avoiding burnout, or if you’re currently focused on beating burnout because it’s everywhere, I’m reviewing intentional practices that you can put into your life (starting today!). I’ll be going over the symptoms of burnout, the three things that create the “burnout trifecta,” and offer some direct feedback about what you need to stop doing, now, to get out of the burnout zone. Get bonus resources by heading to https://www.yourcourageouslife.com/begin
What really throws us off, in our lives? Is it “not knowing” what we need to do? Sometimes, sure, but what throws us off more often is parsing through feelings. We get overwhelmed, stressed, afraid, and we aren’t sure how to keep moving forward when those feelings are a lot (or, worse, when someone around us responds by telling us to “Just calm down” or “Just think positive” in response to what we feel). Knowing how to regulate emotions is a skill that you can use when emotional states are no longer helpful. Denial as a strategy for regulating emotions? Doesn’t work. Here’s what helps! Get bonus podcast resources at https://www.yourcourageouslife.com/begin .
In today’s episode, I’m talking about what to do when you feel lost and confused (the kind of lost and confused where you’re feeling stuck, unsure of where to go next, and are hoping to arrive at some clarity that gets you moving, again). When you feel lost and confused, it’s time to slow down and understand a bit about what’s lead you here. Let’s start breaking this down, piece by piece, to see how you can start seeing your way through and getting out of the confusion, and into clarity. Get bonus podcast resources at https://www.yourcourageouslife.com/begin .
Everyone needs to know how to set goals without getting stressed--at least, not so stressed that you end up sabotaging the goal or quitting, entirely. You can learn how to set goals without getting stressed by shifting your mindset around failure and placing your intentions on following through consistently, rather than pushing yourself to hit a certain outcome. In today’s podcast episode, I’m breaking down the different approaches that I take for setting goals without getting stressed. Get bonus resources at https://www.yourcourageouslife.com/begin
At any given moment, you have an opportunity to start playing bigger in your life. This doesn’t have to be an exhausting struggle. You can approach playing bigger from a place of rooted, grounded, intentionality. What do you want to create? Where would you like to be, between now and a year from now? This episode breaks down ways that you can immediately start playing bigger in your life. Get additional podcast resources by heading to https://www.yourcourageouslife.com/begin
When the holidays are on the horizon, people start to feel stressed--but you can have a stress-free holiday by examining the belief systems that weigh you down and make you feel crazy. Whether it’s in-laws who drive you crazy, old family dynamics that come up just when you thought they were done, the travel delays, or the expenses, today’s podcast episode gets into the belief systems that you can let go of right now, to experience stress-free holidays that leave you feeling more connected to yourself, to others, and to the experience. Get additional bonus resources at https://www.yourcourageouslife.com/begin .
As I recorded this episode, the Sonoma County fires of 2019 were happening--and I live in Sonoma County, approximately 20 miles from the initial origin of the fires. I wanted to share an episode on handling difficult situations and use challenging circumstances such as these fires and how they have impacted myself and my community, to highlight ways of handling difficult situations. Get more courageous resources, by joining our community and getting access to the library: https://www.yourcourageouslife.com/begin .
It’s common self-help advice that “you are the aggregate of the five people you spend time with” or to simply “let go” of people who are “toxic”--but is this way of being profoundly dehumanizing? In this podcast episode, I respond to a listener request to talk about choosing who you surround yourself with and how those people have an impact on your well-being. If you’ve felt conflicted about how to figure out who the people are who are your truest friends, and if you’ve been uncertain about how to effect change in your relationships, this episode is for you. Get subscriber bonuses by joining the community at https://www.yourcourageouslife.com/begin .
Whether you have trouble trusting your intuition, or feel like you’ve got intuition on lock but could always use a few more insights, today’s podcast episode on learning to trust your intuition will break down some of the essential components. How do you know the difference between excitement and fear? How do you tell the difference between a “red flag” and needing to stretch into something outside your comfort zone? That’s what we’re talking about, today. Get bonus courageous resources at https://www.yourcourageouslife.com/begin .
Do you have trouble recognizing self-sabotage? That’s something of a trick question, because we typically only recognize self-sabotage in hindsight. In today’s Your Courageous Life podcast episode, I’m talking about how you can start recognizing self-sabotage *before* you’re actually doing it. We’re getting real about shiny object syndrome, taking two steps forward and one step back, and how to finish what you start. Get bonus listener resources at https://www.yourcourageouslife.com/begin
Today’s Your Courageous Life podcast episode offers some help with perfectionism. Often, people say they know they are perfectionists, but they have less of an idea of what to actually *do* about perfectionism. How do we stop getting stuck in the cycle of perfectionism? Today’s episode breaks down how perfectionism shows up and what we can do to notice it and change our habits. Get bonus listener resources at https://www.yourcourageouslife.com/begin
It’s time to stop people-pleasing. Some people know that people-pleasing is an issue that needs to stop, and others may think it’s not an issue--but in fact, there may be some hidden areas where, under the right circumstances, you unconsciously go into people-pleasing mode. Fact: you can never please everyone. We know this logically, yet when we try to stop people-pleasing it all feels murky and more complicated. Today’s Your Courageous Life podcast episode is going to break down people-pleasing and give you small, doable ways to not get caught in the people-pleasing habit. Get more bonus resources at https://www.yourcourageouslife.com/begin
This is the longest episode of the Your Courageous Life podcast, ever--but that’s because I’m getting into the story of how I radically changed my eating and exercise habits and have found a new level of health and energy that I had no idea was even possible. If you (like me) grew up without an athletic background and have never particularly liked going to a gym, and if you (like me) have ever struggled with creating consistent eating habits, this episode will resonate on many levels. While long, definitely listen all the way to the end so that you can get the benefits of all the different threads coming together--the takeaways for how you can apply these ideas to your own life are everywhere. Courageous wellness and empowering your body is not about the “thin ideal” or a “clean” diet. It’s about something much richer. Get even more courageous resources at https://www.yourcourageouslife.com/begin .
It’s time to take action now - no more waiting. You deserve more. You deserve better than the b.s. lies of “It’s not the right time” or “But I’m not the kind of person who…” People who go after what they want and take action now are not people who have it all figured out, all the resources, all the time, all the connections, all the abilities. Those things are helpful, but they are not a prerequisite for you to feel the pride of going after what you most desire. (Oh, and? The existentialist in me wants to point out that we’re all going to...die. So, like, we actually don’t have time to waste hemming and hawing about “Gee, I dunno, I don’t know if I’m ready…”). If there’s anything in your life that you’ve been hesitating around taking action on or any dream you’ve been waiting to realize, see this podcast coming across your radar as the flashing neon sign from the Universe that it’s time to take action now - no more waiting. Get additional Your Courageous Life resources by going to https://www.yourcourageouslife.com/begin
People often think that they are committed to excellence...when they are actually practicing perfectionistic behaviors that are wearing them down. In today’s podcast episode, I break down the key differences between a commitment to excellence, and perfectionism. Get bonus resources at https://www.yourcourageouslife.com/begin .
Getting things done is part of life--and it often causes an immense amount of overwhelm for people. In today's podcast episode, I'm talking about the attitudes and habits that you can adopt around getting things done that will up your effectiveness and how much you can get done, while decreasing stress. I’ll also share my system for setting annual, quarterly, and weekly goals that enable me to make progress in short bursts over time. Get bonus resources by heading to https://www.yourcourageouslife.com/begin
Need some help dealing with disappointment? That’s the subject of today’s podcast episode. When you’ve really wanted the big dream, and you’re dealing with disappointment because things didn’t go as you’d hoped, it’s important to avoid going into a space of avoiding your disappointment. Today’s podcast episode lays out the essential pieces of processing feelings of disappointment. Get more courageous resources by going to https://www.yourcourageouslife.com/begin .
I was reading Tim Ferriss’s book, Tribe of Mentors, in which he asks a set list of questions to different people who have attained success in their fields. This got me curious--how might you and I use the Tim Ferriss interview questions in our own lives? What might those questions tell us about who we are, how we tick, and our way of being? I’m going through each question on today’s podcast episode, and you’re welcome to join in! Learn more at https://www.yourcourageouslife.com/begin or connect with me on Instagram: https://instagram.com/katecourageous .
Our lives matter far more than we can possibly realize, far more than we can possibly give them credit for. We can never know when, just by being ourselves, we will be someone else’s gift. We do ourselves a gross disservice when we assume that because of our occupations, or unless we take some kind of massive action, we cannot have an impact. Risk the vulnerability of letting other people know that they matter. More: https://www.yourcourageouslife.com/begin .
Tough truth? We don’t do what we say we should, if we don’t believe that any of it will actually work. Really, what do you believe? Because if you truly don’t believe that meditation (or anything else) could benefit your life, then there’s no point in even telling yourself that you should try it just because everyone else says that it’s great. Right here, right now, you are able to do what you are able to do, as well as you can do it. All that matters is if you at least try. More: https://www.yourcourageouslife.com/begin .
Waiting until it’s the right place, right time, yadda yadda yadda is just a delay tactic. There is no right time, right place, right way, or right circumstance for starting the things that are most important to our souls. Now is the perfect time. This is the perfect moment. You are the perfect person. You’ll learn everything else you need, along the way. When you don’t know where to start, right here and right now with you, is enough. Get bonuses at https://www.yourcourageouslife.com/begin .
Especially if you’ve been efforting awhile, you’ll wonder: how long is it going to take, to feel better? The answer? It takes as long as it takes. There’s no timeline, no cartography of the soul for how to feel better, faster. When fear sings that (old) tune, it’s actually time to double-down on doing the work--not give up. Get bonus resources at https://www.yourcourageouslife.com/begin .
If you want to live a better life, if you want to step into these habits of highly successful people, you’ve got to stop wiggling out on your own integrity. Your goals can be positive obsessions that drive you towards development, or they can be hungry ghosts—an endless desire to feed yourself with status or something outside of yourself. Success is about how you feel in your own human skin, and it will require the courage for you to totally trust yourself, to make who you truly are on the inside into how you actually live, on the outside. In this podcast episode, learn the habits of highly successful people that *really* matter. Get bonus resources at https://www.yourcourageouslife.com
Skipping a daily practice is like saying, “I have the option to do something to improve my happiness and well-being, but hey, I won’t take it.” When you feed yourself emotionally, the healthier and stronger you are. We live in a world where people suffer emotionally in greater numbers than ever before, and it is no crime to create ways to build your emotional resilience. That’s what a daily practice does for your life—it builds that emotional resilience. In today’s podcast episode, learn how to build a powerful daily practice. Get more resources, including a Courageous Living Planner, when you become a subscriber: https://www.yourcourageouslife.com/begin .
Without a doubt, it’s not helpful to try to bypass negative feelings--but it’s also not helpful to write off possibilities when changing a negative mindset. Changing a negative mindset isn’t possible if you aren’t willing to own the fact that you feel stuck. At first, changing a negative mindset feels like a ton of work. With time, seeing what more is possible can become a habit. Get more resources for help changing a negative mindset in the YCL library: https://www.yourcourageouslife.com/begin .
Embrace the inner critic? What? Yes--and here’s why: If you practice abusive behaviors, you become the abuser--and this is true whether you abuse others, or yourself. There’s something so much bigger awaiting you when you decide not to hate your critic or wish it would go away. To embrace the critic doesn’t mean letting it get away with poor behavior--there are other options--and that’s exactly what today’s podcast episode on how to embrace the inner critic taps into. Get listener bonuses through the YCL library at https://www.yourcourageouslife.com/begin .
Taking personal responsibility for your life includes recognizing what *isn’t* yours. It’s good to own your part; it’s also necessary to be clear what you have no control over. You aren’t going to self-help your way into fixing other people’s stuff, for them. Today’s episode will help you get clear on the boundaries. Get more bonus resources at https://www.yourcourageouslife.com/begin .
When others are uncomfortable with themselves, they’ll hide themselves--and ask us to do the same. But we don’t have to play into that pattern. In this episode, I’m talking about embracing who you are, despite the possibility of others criticizing. Get extra bonus resources by going to https://www.yourcourageouslife.com/begin . Let's connect on Instagram: @katecourageous
It’s long bothered me that in the self-help space, people declare that we simply can choose how we let something define ourselves, and leave it at that. Today, I’m talking about how to not let things define you--without the side of spiritual bypass. Get bonus podcast resources at https://www.yourcourageouslife.com/begin . Connect with me on Instagram: @katecourageous
Often, we know what we “should” do, but something holds us back--the need to have a process with what we experience. You’re allowed to have a process. You’re allowed to take a breath, hesitate, fully feel what you need to feel before you do what you “should.” Today’s podcast digs in to that. Get bonus resources by going to https://www.yourcourageouslife.com/begin Let's connect on Instagram: @katecourageous
Do you have a hunger for more? Do you make yourself wrong for that--telling yourself not to “get ahead of yourself” or to “be realistic”? Let’s look at the paradox of how we can love our lives as they already are, yet also hunger for more, and expand our desires without the guilt trip. Get extra courageous bonuses at https://www.yourcourageouslife.com/begin Instagram: @katecourageous