Diana Kander: Professional AF

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Professional AF: Failing Your Way To SuccessAfter a failure, why do some people panic and others prosper? Diana will shed light on the art and science of being wrong at work in hopes of significantly improving our ability to identify failure much sooner and recover from it once it happens. Diana will interview thought leaders on the topic as well as professionals who were at the frontlines of epic public failures to find out exactly what happened and what they learned from the fallout. This season will be packed with lessons you can use no matter where you are in your career.

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It's been 35 years since the launch of New Coke and we're still talking about it. What has been labeled one of the greatest product failures in corporate history, has actually been grossly mislabeled. It's actually the greatest story of a corporate pivot that I've ever heard. Within 12 days of launch, the company shifted gears and within 77 days they were able to introduce coke classic and create a significant boost to sales. The sales boost was so high that some people at the time even speculated that the new coke failure was done on purpose to draw attention to coke classic. This is an incredible story that rewards not taking long established tales at face value and getting curious about what really happened. 6 things to know about today's guest Sergio Zyman:He was named one of the Top Three marketing pitchmen of the 20th century by Time magazine.He created New Coke, as well as diet coke, cherry coke, and coke classic.He was influential in the positioning and development of the strategy that resulted in the election of former Mexican President Vicente Fox.He left coke in 1988 as a result of new leadership, and was persuaded to come back in 1993 to hold the first Chief Marketing Officer position ever created in any company. Sergio re-conceptualized the company's marketing strategy and boosted worldwide annual sales from nine to 15 billion cases--the most explosive growth in the company's history. He is the author of 4 books including the international bestseller, The End of Marketing As We Know It.Sergio and I discuss:How the story of New Coke is actually an incredible success story and the tale of the best corporate pivot of all time Why innovation is a lazy move for most companies How companies develop blindspots, And we debate whether marketing is a penalty you pay for having a product that doesn't solve a problem. Thanks for listening and be sure to find me online to tell me what you thought of the episode!@DianaKander on Instagram and Twitter Professional AF Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/943925015810362/Diana online: www.DianaKander.com

Dec 2020

49 min 59 sec

In this episode, we talk with Guy Winch about his amazing book, Emotional First Aid: Healing Rejection, Guilt, Failure, and Other Everyday Hurts. Guy has a surprisingly helpful message for professionals looking to become more resilient, build self-esteem, and let go of a setback.Guy Winch, Ph.D., is a licensed psychologist, author, and keynote speaker whose books have been translated into twenty-six languages. His TED Talks have been viewed over 25 million times and one of them is rated among the top 5 most inspiring talks on TED.com. He's also the co-host of the Dear Therapists podcast with Lori Gottlieb. The podcast is executive produced by Katie Couric for iHeartRadio. Guy received his doctorate in clinical psychology from New York University and completed a postdoctoral fellowship at NYU Medical Center. He has been working with individuals, couples, and families in his private practice in Manhattan for over twenty years.Guy and I discuss:Why professional setbacks feel like a broken heartWhy most of our natural instincts after a failure lead us down the wrong pathHow to properly grieve after a failure and find the valuable lessons it has to offerThanks for listening and be sure to find me online to tell me what you thought of the episode!@DianaKander on Instagram and Twitter Professional AF Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/943925015810362/Diana online: www.DianaKander.comGuy Winch online: www.guywinch.com/Guy's podcast: Dear Therapists

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Dec 2020

33 min 47 sec

In the early 1980s Atari owned 80% of the video game market and accounted for 70% of the profits of its parent company Warner Communications. By 1983, they had racked up over half a billion dollars ($536 million) in losses, and by the end of 1984 Warner had sold the company. To answer the question of what happened, I spoke to John Hagel who served as senior vice president of strategy at Atari and was there right at this pivotal moment when they peaked and quickly went out of business.In addition to his time at Atari, John has spent over 40 years in Silicon Valley and has experience as a management consultant, entrepreneur, speaker and author.He has worked at Deloitte, McKinsey & Co. and Boston Consulting Group. And is also the founder of two Silicon Valley startups.He is the author of 7 books, including The Power of Pull, Net Gain, Net Worth, Out of the Box and The Only Sustainable Edge. He has won two awards from Harvard Business Review for best articles in that publication and has been recognized as an industry thought leader by a variety of publications and professional service firms.John and I discuss:What happened that led to the quick demise of AtariJohn's theory on why success breeds failureWhat he has learned about creating change in an org in his 40 years of practice How to create a learning culture in your organizationThanks for listening and be sure to find me online to tell me what you thought of the episode!@DianaKander on Instagram and Twitter Professional AF Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/943925015810362/Diana online: www.DianaKander.comJohn Hagel online: www.JohnHagel.com

Dec 2020

34 min 49 sec

The Fire Phone is widely regarded as one of Amazon’s biggest failures. The phone sold what industry experts estimated to be 35,000 units in its first 25 days and they reportedly wrote off $170 million loss due to the phone’s failure in its first year.This episode is an interview with Ian Freed, the product owner of the fire phone, who took it from inception to product launch. At Amazon, Ian was a Vice President and served as Technology Adviser to Amazon founder and CEO Jeff Bezos from 2004-2005. He led the Amazon Kindle business including business strategy, product development, business development, and marketing from 2006 until 2010. Additionally, Ian led the Amazon Echo/Alexa business from inception in 2011 through first product release in 2015. From 2016-2017, Ian led consumer services including Amazon Restaurants - a one-hour food delivery service from local restaurants in 25 cities.In 2018 Ian took his Amazon learnings and launched Bamboo learning - focused on developing breakthrough at home learning experiences for children and familiesIan and I are going to discuss:What happened to the Amazon Fire phone – where it went wrong and why they didn't create a version 2How Jeff Bezos makes failure ok and his favorite story to tell to reinforce this pointHow Amazon decides which products are good but not good enoughThe advice Jeff Bezos gave to Ian after the Fire phone failureThanks for listening and be sure to find me online to tell me what you thought of the episode!@DianaKander on Instagram and Twitter Professional AF Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/943925015810362/Diana online: www.DianaKander.comIan Freed on Twitter: https://twitter.com/ifreed Bamboo Learning: https://bamboolearning.com/

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Nov 2020

50 min 1 sec

In 2007 Nokia had 50% of the world’s cell phone market. The cover of Forbes magazine in November of 2007 read – Nokia – 1 Billion Customers – Can Anyone Catch the Cell Phone King? And in less than six years Nokia’s cell phone division tanked so quickly that they stopped selling cell phones and sold the division to Microsoft. Six years! It was one of the fastest collapses in corporate history.Thanks to the research of two business professors, Timo Vuori and Quy Huy, we know that it was fear at Nokia that precipitated its fall from grace.Today we have one of the professors to discuss the interviews with 76 of Nokia’s top managers, including two CEOs, vice presidents, middle managers, engineers, and external experts. These conversations, lasting an average of 90 minutes, are, in my opinion, the best after action review ever created. And they highlight something really profound. While the senior executives were externally focused and worried about competition from Apple, Google and Research In Motion (RIM), their subordinates didn't share their concerns. Instead, middle managers were internally focused, worrying about what their managers wanted from them. And this dynamic that we're going to discuss today is prevalent in every other organization Professor Timo has studied. Timo and I are going to discuss:The most comprehensive case study every done on a companyThe danger of doing after action reviews internally rather than asking an outsider to helpHow organizations inadvertently create fear within their workforceAnd how those fears prevent an organization from taking corrective action when it's in danger. Thanks for listening and be sure to find me online to tell me what you thought of the episode!@DianaKander on Instagram and Twitter Professional AF Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/943925015810362/Diana online: www.DianaKander.comLink to the Nokia AAR: https://knowledge.insead.edu/sites/www.insead.edu/files/images/asq_2015_print_vuori_huy_distributed_attention_and_shared_emotions_in_innovation_process.pdfTimo on LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/timo-vuori-37226a5/

Nov 2020

46 min 34 sec

Annie Duke is an author, corporate speaker, and consultant in the decision-making space. Today we discuss Annie’s latest book, How to Decide: Simple Tools for Making Better Choices. As a former professional poker player, Annie won more than $4 million in tournament poker before retiring from the game in 2012. Prior to becoming a professional player, Annie was awarded a National Science Foundation Fellowship to study Cognitive Psychology at the University of Pennsylvania. Annie is also the co-founder of The Alliance for Decision Education, a non-profit whose mission is to improve lives by empowering students through decision skills education. Annie and I are going to discuss:- How to be the most humble- How to make better decisions- Decision hygiene – how to make sure your opinion doesn’t infect others when asking for feedback- Why looking back at past decisions is so hard and what you can do to make your reflection much more useful- How to know if you are really learning from both failures and successes- And you get Annie Duke's contact info in the episode!Thanks for listening and be sure to find me online to tell me what you thought of the episode!@DianaKander on Instagram and Twitter Professional AF Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/943925015810362/Diana online: www.DianaKander.comAnnie Duke online: https://www.annieduke.com/@AnnieDuke on Twitter

Nov 2020

52 min 38 sec

Sheila Heen is the Founder of Triad Consulting Group and a Lecturer at Harvard Law School.Besides teaching at Harvard, Sheila has worked with the biggest companies in the world, helping their executive teams work through conflict, repair working relationships, and make sound decisions together.She has also spent the last twenty years with the Harvard Negotiation Project, developing negotiation theory and practice. Sheila specializes in particularly difficult negotiations – where emotions run high and relationships become strained. She's written two very successful books: Difficult Conversationsand the one we're talking about today, Thanks for the Feedback.I really wanted to talk to Sheila because there have been so many books written on how to give feedback to others, but if we're going to learn from our mistakes and get even better at what we're already doing, we must learn how to not only ask for but listen to feedback. Sheila's book is a rare and incredible resource in this regard, and I just had to share it with you.Specifically, Sheila and I discuss:- How to make feedback work in your organization- The problem with coaching and why it doesn't work quite like we hope- The three different kinds of feedback you can give someone- Why the feedback sandwich doesn't work, and how to give critical feedback much better.- How to process the feedback you receive in a way you can actually use. Thanks for listening and be sure to find me online to tell me what you thought of the episode!@DianaKander on Instagram and Twitter Professional AF Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/943925015810362/Diana online: www.DianaKander.com

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Sep 2020

44 min 30 sec

This week we're reviewing the 2020 Iowa Democratic Caucus reporting malfunction. In case you missed it, here are some headlines about that night: - Iowa caucus app ran into issues when reporting results (https://www.cnn.com/2020/02/04/politics/iowa-caucus-voting-app/index.html)- 'It was a total mess': Caucusing is long over, but Iowa still doesn't have a winner (https://www.desmoinesregister.com/story/news/elections/presidential/caucus/2020/02/04/iowa-caucus-delayed-results-mean-no-winner-yet-iowa-caucuses/4653022002/)- Who won the Iowa caucuses? We still don't have the results ... (https://www.vox.com/2020/2/3/21121883/iowa-caucus-results-delay-app-2020) This interview is the first extended conversation with the head of the Democratic Party in Iowa at the time, Troy Price. Troy explains exactly what happened that night and in the days afterward. He reflects on his lessons learned and has powerful takeaways: - Operating inside of a crisis- Communications strategy during a PR "situation"- What Troy learned about redundancies in executing a big project- The assets that came out the caucusesThanks for listening and be sure to find me online to tell me what you thought of the episode!@DianaKander on Instagram and Twitter Professional AF Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/943925015810362/Diana online: www.DianaKander.com

Sep 2020

24 min 41 sec

Andrea Waltz is a professional speaker, trainer, and author. She calls herself a "Failure Philosopher" and "Reject-ologist" and she's an expert on achieving breakthrough performance through increasing failure rates.Andrea is the co-author of Go For No! A brilliant, tiny book outlining a new way to think about failure and rejection. The book has sold nearly 1 million copies and has 1,500 five star reviews on Amazon. This conversation is action packed with tips! Thanks for listening and be sure to find me online to tell me what you thought of the episode!@DianaKander on Instagram and Twitter Professional AF Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/943925015810362/Diana online: www.DianaKander.comGo for No!: https://www.goforno.com/Andrea online: https://twitter.com/GoforNo?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5Eauthor and https://www.instagram.com/goforno/?hl=en

Sep 2020

36 min 11 sec

Whatever you think you know about the story of Kodak not capitalizing on their own invention of the digital camera, the actual story is so much better. This After Action Review is with Steve Sasson, the original inventor of the digital camera and 35 year employee of Eastman Kodak. Steve will break down the two pivotal moments in Kodak's past when they had the technology and opportunity to get into the digital camera business and chose not to. And you'll learn for the first time that their big mistake came in 1989 rather than 1975, as most people assume. Specifically, we'll cover:What he did wrong when he presented the digital camera idea to management,What he did right,Advice from Steve to innovators pitching today, and The story of a completely different product Steve worked on that almost met the exact same fate. A little more about Steve: He spent his entire career at Eastman Kodak. On November 17, 2009, U.S. President Barack Obama awarded Steve the National Medal of Technology and Innovation at a White House ceremony. This is the highest honor awarded by the US government to scientists, engineers, and inventors. He was inducted into the National Inventors Hall of Fame in 2011.Thanks for listening and be sure to find me online to tell me what you thought of the episode!@DianaKander on Instagram and Twitter Professional AF Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/943925015810362/Diana online: www.DianaKander.com

Sep 2020

40 min 10 sec

Kristen Ulmer is a fear/anxiety expert. Her education on this subject comes from practical, real- world experience, starting with being a mogul specialist on the US Ski Team. Kristen then became more recognized as being the best female big mountain extreme skier in the world, a status she kept for 12 years. Known for big cliff jumps and you-fall-you die descents, she became sponsored by the likes of Red Bull, Ralph Lauren, and Nikon, and was inducted into the Hall of Fame September of 2019. Her mastery of other danger sports including paragliding, ice and rock climbing, kiteboarding, adventure mountain biking, and flying trapeze also gained her the outdoor industry vote as most extreme “fearless” woman athlete in North America, Today we're discussing Kristen's book, the Art of Fear which beautifully explains that Fear is not the problem in our lives, it’s our avoidance/resistance of Fear that is the problem. If you become unwilling to feel or even acknowledge it, and put Fear in the basement –a habit that is almost universally supported by society– that emotion then starts to sabotage your life in either obvious or covert ways. Kristen is going to argue that today almost every problem we now have is tied in some way to our avoidance/resistance of Fear. Specifically, we're going to cover:The many unhealthy ways we avoid fear in our livesWhy you shouldn't try to overcome fear – but actually create an even stronger relationship with itHow we pass on our unhealthy relationship with fear to our childrenWhy your relationship with fear is the most important relationship in your lifeFor more, please find me online:@DianaKander on Instagram and Twitter Professional AF Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/943925015810362/Diana online: www.DianaKander.com

Aug 2020

43 min 45 sec

Hello and welcome to the Season Finale of Professional AF.Today, my husband Jason and I are discussing The Subtle Art of Not Giving a F^*K. First published in 2016, the book has sold over 6 million copies and topped every best seller list. The book's premise is that we spend way too much time worrying about things that don't really matter and learning how to let that go is the secret to happiness and personal growth. There are so many great pieces of advice woven throughout the book that Jason and I both wanted to share our favorites while discussing the journey that we've both been on over the last 18 months.Specifically, Jason and I are going to cover:How to stop being a slave to what other people think of youWhy trying to be happy all the time will make you very unhappyWhy things are not your fault but they might be your responsibilityHow to stop giving an F about the things that don't really matterImportant Links for the Show:The ultimate fitness tracker that optimizes your life: https://www.whoop.com/ and use code DIANA at checkout for 15% off!A bank that prides itself on how it treats both it's employees and it's customers: http://nbkc.com/diana - get a box of awesome Professional AF stuff for signing up, including a book that we discuss on the show!Get a better nights sleep with the Purple mattress. To get the Purple pillow I covet for FREE with the purchase of your mattress, just text the code "DIANA" to 84-888. And you can combine this offer with what they have on the site!The Subtle Art book we discussed: https://www.amazon.com/Subtle-Art-Not-Giving-Counterintuitive/dp/0062457713How to Suffer Like a Pro by Pete Holmes: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=glY-K5jbLF8Professional AF Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/943925015810362/Diana online: www.DianaKander.com

Feb 2020

47 min 23 sec

Today I'm discussing the book Rising Strong by Brené Brown with my therapist Candy Smith.Candy was my guest earlier this season when we talked about shame and vulnerability. Candy has been a licensed therapist for several decades. She specializes in working with adults, and children with trauma, that's how I met her. And every time we talk, I learn so much about the world, about people, and about myself.In Rising Strong, Brené shares a simple truth. If we apply her previous lessons and are brave enough, often enough, we will fall. Rising Strong is a book about what it takes to get back up and how owning our stories of struggle gives us the power to write a daring new ending.Candy and I are going to discuss:Why you should encourage yourself to make 3 mistakes a dayHow to properly mourn a failureWhy our expectations (even if we aren't aware of them) are a pathway to disasterHow to build your shame resilience Important Links for the Show:The ultimate fitness tracker that optimizes your life: https://www.whoop.com/ and use code DIANA at checkout for 15% off!A bank that prides itself on how it treats both it's employees and it's customers: http://nbkc.com/diana - get a box of awesome Professional AF stuff for signing up, including a book that we discuss on the show!Get a better nights sleep with the Purple mattress. To get the Purple pillow I covet for FREE with the purchase of your mattress, just text the code "DIANA" to 84-888. And you can combine this offer with what they have on the site!Get 1/2 of your daily fruits and vegetables in a convenient shot!: https://superfoodshot.co and use code DIANA at checkout for 30% off!The Rising Strong book we discussed: https://www.amazon.com/Rising-Strong-Ability-Transforms-Parent-ebook/dp/B00P5557G2Candy Smith online: https://www.candysmithcounseling.com/Professional AF Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/943925015810362/Diana online: www.DianaKander.com

Feb 2020

46 min 48 sec

For the past 25 years, Liane Davey has researched and advised teams on how to achieve high performance. Known as the “teamwork doctor,” she’s worked with hundreds of teams, including 26 Global Fortune 500 companies (and counting).Today we're discussing Liane's book, the Good Fight, about creating productive conflict with your team. Conflict has become a “dirty word.” The truth is that our teams and organizations require conflict to get things done. But, as humans, we avoid conflict and build up conflict debt by deferring and dodging the difficult decisions and our organizations are paying the price – becoming less productive, less innovative and less competitive. Individuals are paying too – suffering from overwhelming workloads, endless drama, and sleepless nights.Liane and I are going to discuss:How to have healthy productive disagreements with your teamHow to best rebuild a relationship with someone you're having tension with on the teamThe surprising signs of teams with high trustSome incredible exercises like the tarp exercise and the U exercise to help you have healthy productive conflictsImportant Links for the Show:The ultimate fitness tracker that optimizes your life: https://www.whoop.com/ and use code DIANA at checkout for 15% off!A bank that prides itself on how it treats both it's employees and it's customers: http://nbkc.com/diana - get a box of awesome Professional AF stuff for signing up, including a book that we discuss on the show!Get a better nights sleep with the Purple mattress. To get the Purple pillow I covet for FREE with the purchase of your mattress, just text the code "DIANA" to 84-888. And you can combine this offer with what they have on the site!Get 1/2 of your daily fruits and vegetables in a convenient shot!: https://superfoodshot.co and use code DIANA at checkout for 30% off!The Good Fight book we discussed: https://www.lianedavey.com/goodfight/Liane Davey online: https://www.lianedavey.com/Professional AF Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/943925015810362/Diana online: www.DianaKander.com

Jan 2020

52 min 40 sec

Michael Ventura is the CEO and founder of Sub Rosa, a strategy and design firm that has worked with some of the world’s largest and most important organizations like Johnson & Johnson, Adobe, The TED Conference, Delta Airlines, and The Daily Show.Michael's first book and the subject of our discussion today is Applied Empathy.Empathy is a squishy word. Sometimes it’s confused with sympathy or misinterpreted as “being nice.” That isn’t empathy. Empathy is about understanding. Empathy lets us see the world from other points of view and helps us form insights that can lead us to new and better ways of thinking, being, and doing.Michael and I are going to discuss:Why organization low in empathy are also slow at making decisions and face frequent miscommunicationsThe many different ways to be empathic and understand others' perspectivesThe changes we can make in an organization to make empathy a habitAnd how to get people to give you honest feedback Important Links for the Show:The ultimate fitness tracker that optimizes your life: https://www.whoop.com/ and use code DIANA at checkout for 15% off!A bank that prides itself on how it treats both it's employees and it's customers: http://nbkc.com/diana - get a box of awesome Professional AF stuff for signing up, including a book that we discuss on the show!Get a better nights sleep with the Purple mattress. To get the Purple pillow I covet for FREE with the purchase of your mattress, just text the code "DIANA" to 84-888. And you can combine this offer with what they have on the site!Get 1/2 of your daily fruits and vegetables in a convenient shot!: https://superfoodshot.co and use code DIANA at checkout for 30% off!Applied Empathy book we discussed: https://amzn.to/3a37nzPMichael Ventura online: https://appliedempathy.com/Professional AF Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/943925015810362/Diana online: www.DianaKander.com

Jan 2020

33 min 14 sec

My guest this week is Kelly McGonigal. Kelly is a health psychologist and lecturer at Stanford University who specializes in understanding the mind-body connection. She is the best-selling author of The Upside of Stress – the book we discuss in part one of this show. Kelly's TED talk on the topic, "How to Make Stress Your Friend," is one of the most viewed TED talks of all time, with over 20 million views. And I can't stress enough how much her perspective, and research, have altered my relationship with stress. In part two of the show, we discuss Kelly's brand-new book, The Joy of Movement, which explores why physical exercise is a powerful antidote to the epidemics of depression, anxiety, and loneliness. Kelly tackles some of the biggest myths about exercise and shares some very interesting research to explain exactly what movement and exercise does to us and how to harness its effects! Important Links for the Show:The ultimate fitness tracker optimizes your life: https://www.whoop.com/ and use code DIANA at checkout for 15% off!A bank that prides itself on how it treats both it's employees and it's customers: http://nbkc.com/diana - get a box of awesome Professional AF stuff for signing up, including a book that we discuss on the show!Get a better nights sleep with the Purple mattress. To get the Purple pillow I covet for FREE with the purchase of your mattress, just text the code "DIANA" to 84-888. And you can combine this offer with what they have on the site!Get 1/2 of your daily fruits and vegetables in a convenient shot!: https://superfoodshot.co and use code DIANA at checkout for 30% off!The Upside of Stress book we discussed: https://amzn.to/2sNVSvmThe Joy of Movement book we discussed: https://amzn.to/35sIIBsKelly McGonigal online: http://kellymcgonigal.com/Professional AF Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/943925015810362/Diana online: www.DianaKander.com

Jan 2020

32 min 56 sec

My guest this week is Kelly McGonigal. Kelly is a health psychologist and lecturer at Stanford University who specializes in understanding the mind-body connection. She is the best-selling author of The Upside of Stress – the book we discuss in part one of this show. Kelly's TED talk on the topic, "How to Make Stress Your Friend," is one of the most viewed TED talks of all time, with over 20 million views. And I can't stress enough how much her perspective, and research, have altered my relationship with stress. In part two of the show, we discuss Kelly's brand-new book, The Joy of Movement, which explores why physical exercise is a powerful antidote to the epidemics of depression, anxiety, and loneliness. Kelly tackles some of the biggest myths about exercise and shares some very interesting research to explain exactly what movement and exercise does to us and how to harness its effects! Important Links for the Show:The ultimate fitness tracker optimizes your life: https://www.whoop.com/ and use code DIANA at checkout for 15% off!A bank that prides itself on how it treats both it's employees and it's customers: http://nbkc.com/diana - get a box of awesome Professional AF stuff for signing up, including a book that we discuss on the show!Get a better nights sleep with the Purple mattress. To get the Purple pillow I covet for FREE with the purchase of your mattress, just text the code "DIANA" to 84-888. And you can combine this offer with what they have on the site!Get 1/2 of your daily fruits and vegetables in a convenient shot!: https://superfoodshot.co and use code DIANA at checkout for 30% off!The Upside of Stress book we discussed: https://amzn.to/2sNVSvmThe Joy of Movement book we discussed: https://amzn.to/35sIIBsKelly McGonigal online: http://kellymcgonigal.com/Professional AF Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/943925015810362/Diana online: www.DianaKander.com

Jan 2020

38 min 11 sec

BJ Fogg is a Social Science Research Associate at Stanford, author, and the founder and director of the Stanford Behavior Design Lab.In February, 2018, Wired Magazine claimed Fogg's "Stanford lab created the formula to make technology addictive." The article said that Fogg’s lab "was a toll booth for entrepreneurs and product designers on their way to Facebook and Google. Students included Nir Eyal, the bestselling author of the book, Hooked, Ed Baker, who would later become the Head of Growth at both Facebook and Uber, and Kevin Systrom and Mike Krieger, the founders of Instagram.BJ and I discuss his brand new book Tiny Habits, The Small Changes that Change Everything.The book is based on 20 years of research and BJ's experience personally coaching over 40,000 people. The content in the book is practical, immediately applicable and most importantly brand new. Tiny Habits is unlike any habits book you have ever read. BJ and I are going to discuss:Why you shouldn't rely on willpower to create new habitsWhy emotion rather than repetition is the secret to creating habitsWhy tiny habits are the key to transforming your life,And how BJ's methodology was the secret to Instagram's success on habit formationImportant Links for the Show:The ultimate fitness tracker optimizes your life: https://www.whoop.com/ and use code DIANA at checkout for 15% off!A bank that prides itself on how it treats both it's employees and it's customers: http://nbkc.com/diana - get a box of awesome Professional AF stuff for signing up, including a book that we discuss on the show!Get a better nights sleep with the Purple mattress. To get the Purple pillow I covet for FREE with the purchase of your mattress, just text the code "DIANA" to 84-888. And you can combine this offer with what they have on the site!Get 1/2 of your daily fruits and vegetables in a convenient shot!: https://superfoodshot.co and use code DIANA at checkout for 30% off!The Tiny Habits book we discussed today: https://www.amazon.com/Tiny-Habits-Changes-Change-Everything/dp/0358003326BJ Fogg online: https://www.bjfogg.com/Professional AF Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/943925015810362/Diana online: www.DianaKander.com

Dec 2019

50 min 21 sec

Today, I'm discussing Brene Brown's book Dare to Lead with my therapist Candy Smith.You remember Candy from earlier this season when we talked about shame. (incredible episode, if you haven't heard it, you've got to make that your next listen) Candy has been a licensed therapist for several decades. She specializes in working with adults, and children with trauma. That's how I met her. And every time I talk to her, I wish I had a pen and paper handy to write down her insights.In Dare to Lead, Brene teaches us that leadership is not about titles or the corner office. It’s about the willingness to step up, put yourself out there, and lean into courage. The world is desperate for braver leaders. It’s time for all of us to step up. Brene has written the ultimate playbook for developing brave leaders and courageous cultures.And today, Candy and I are going to dive deep into the work and discuss:The connection between courage and vulnerability in the workplaceHow our time management sabotages our courage and creativityHow "failure is not an option" and "culture of excellence" only increases risk inside of an organization, andCandy defines pronking and tells us why it's the best way for a leader to introduce courage and vulnerability to their team. Important Links for the Show:The ultimate fitness tracker that doesn't shame you, butactually helps you make positive changes in your life: https://www.whoop.com/ and use code DIANA at checkout for 15% off!A bank that prides itself on how it treats both it's employees and it's customers: http://nbkc.com/diana - get a box of awesome Professional AF stuff for signing up, including a book that we discuss on the show!The Brene Brown book we discussed today: https://www.amazon.com/Dare-Lead-Brave-Conversations-Hearts-ebook/dp/B07CWGFPS7Candy online: https://www.candysmithcounseling.com/Professional AF Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/943925015810362/Diana online: www.DianaKander.com

Dec 2019

36 min

Research shows that self-awareness—knowing who we are and how others see us—is the foundation for high performance, smart choices, and lasting relationships. There’s just one problem: most people don’t see themselves quite as clearly as they could. While 95% of us identify as self-aware, only 10% to 15% actually are. Dr. Tasha Eurich, a New York Times best-selling author and organizational psychologist has spent the last five years studying self awareness. Her clients include organizations like T-Mobile, KPMG, Walmart, IBM, Royal Bank of Canada, Vail Resorts, and the Miami Heat. Thinkers50 has named her one of the top 30 emerging management thinkers in the world and a top 50 World Leader in Coaching, and she ranked #13 on the GlobalGurus list of organizational culture experts. Tasha and I are going to talk about:Why self awareness isn't just about uncovering all the ways you are failing, it's also about understanding our unknown strengthsHow to balance the perception of others with how we see our selves and our values, andThe two questions Tasha teaches all her clients to get honest feedbackImportant Links for the Show:The ultimate fitness tracker optimizes your life: https://www.whoop.com/ and use code DIANA at checkout for 15% off!Insight Book: https://www.amazon.com/Insight-Surprising-Others-Ourselves-Answers/dp/0525573941/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=Tasha Online: http://www.tashaeurich.com/Professional AF Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/943925015810362/Diana online: www.DianaKander.com

Dec 2019

37 min 54 sec

Celeste Headlee is an award-winning journalist, professional speaker and author of We Need To Talk: How To Have Conversations That Matter. In her 20-year career in public radio, she anchored programs including Tell Me More, Talk of the Nation, All Things Considered, and Weekend Edition. Celeste’s TEDx Talk sharing 10 ways to have a better conversation has over 19 million views.As an NPR host and journalist, Celeste has interviewed hundreds of people from all walks of life. Through her work, she sheds a much-needed light on the lost and essential art of conversation.Celeste and I discuss:How people usually mess up a good conversationWhy the smarter you are, the worse you probably are at having conversationsThe biggest misconceptions people have about being good at conversation, andHow to ask much better questionsImportant Links for the Show:The ultimate fitness tracker optimizes your life: https://www.whoop.com/ and use code DIANA at checkout for 15% off!Amazing kids activity in a box: http://kiwico.com/diana Celeste online: https://www.celesteheadlee.com/We Need To Talk Book: https://www.amazon.com/We-Need-Talk-Conversations-Matter/dp/006266901X/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=celeste+headlee&qid=1575250916&s=books&sr=1-1Professional AF Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/943925015810362/Diana online: www.DianaKander.com

Dec 2019

41 min 15 sec

The reason you need to know and understand Psychological Safety is that study after study has demonstrated that it is the highest predictor of team performance. Google conducted a 2 year study in which they analyzed over 150 different factors to understand what created successful teams and they found psychological safety to be the number one predictor of success. A Gallup study found that psychological safety can lead to 27% reduction in turnover, a 40% reduction in safety incidents, and a 12% increase in productivity.And here's the kicker. We need psychological safety today more than ever. The Project Management Institute reported that project success is at its lowest in years. They found that fewer major projects were completed on time and within budget in 2016 than in 2012. As they interviewed teams about the reasons for this decrease they heard a common theme: projects fail because teams don’t know how to communicate, organize, and prioritize.Look, I'll save you all the research and just share that investing in psychological safety is one of the most important things you can do to increase the performance of your team and organization. And today I get to discuss it with the woman who coined the term and is responsible for groundbreaking research on the topic. Amy Edmondson is a Professor at Harvard Business School. She studies teaming, psychological safety, and leadership. She has been recognized by the Thinkers50 global ranking of management thinkers. And just this month, she was recognized as the Winner of the Thinkers50 2019 Breakthrough Idea Award for her book, The Fearless Organization, which we are discussing today. And before her academic career, she was Director of Research at Pecos River Learning Centers, where she worked on transformational change in large companies.I'm excited to share this awesome conversation on how to create a culture where it’s “safe” to express ideas, ask questions, and admit mistakes.Important Links for the Show:The ultimate fitness tracker optimizes your life: https://www.whoop.com/ and use code DIANA at checkout for 15% off!Get 1/2 of your daily fruits and vegetables in a convenient shot!: https://superfoodshot.co and use code DIANA at checkout for 30% off!The Fearless Organization: https://www.amazon.com/Fearless-Organization-Psychological-Workplace-Innovation/dp/1119477247Amy online: https://www.hbs.edu/faculty/Pages/profile.aspx?facId=6451Professional AF Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/943925015810362/Diana online: www.DianaKander.com

Nov 2019

38 min 49 sec

Today, my guest is Tim Larkin. A former military intelligence officer and creator of the Target Focus Training, Tim has a 25 year career in which he has trained people in 52 countries in how to deal with imminent violence. A New York Times Bestselling author, Tim has trained over 10,000 clients on how to use physics and physiology to injure any human(s) trying to attack you. Tim and I are going to talk about:Why most programs that teach self-defense make a huge mistake in what they teachWhy you need to understand the difference between antisocial and sociopathic behavior to know when violence is your only answerHow to get into the proper mindset to protect yourselfThe best way to injure someone quickly to allow yourself to get awayImportant Links for the Show:The ultimate fitness tracker to optimize your life: https://www.whoop.com/ and use code DIANA at checkout for 15% off!The bank that won't charge you fees for banking: http://nbkc.com/diana - get a box of awesome Professional AF stuff for signing up, including a book that we discuss on the show!Tim Larkin:https://timlarkin.com/The book we discussed today: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1609613589/ref=dbs_a_def_rwt_bibl_vppi_i1Professional AF Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/943925015810362/Diana Kander Online: www.DianaKander.com

Nov 2019

51 min 47 sec

My guest today is Kristen Holmes, Vice President of Performance at WHOOP. As you know, whoop is a sponsor of the show, but that's not why Kristen is here. I wanted to talk to an expert about sleep and actually understand much more about the analytics I've been getting from my whoop band, and I was so excited to talk to Kristin. I used to think that sleep was something you had to endure to be able to function, but I've learned that sleep is an amazing miracle process that makes you function at your best and regenerates and restores your body each and every night… If you let it.Kristen works with thousands of the best professional and NCAA athletes in the world. If your favorite athlete is having trouble sleeping, she’s the one they would call to help understand and interpret their data and figure out what to do about it. Kristen is also an amazing athlete and coach in her own right. She’s a former member of the U.S. National Field Hockey Team, as well as one of the most successful coaches in Ivy League history, having won 12 league titles in 13 seasons and the first national championship ever for Princeton University.Kristen and I are going to talk about: Why sleep is more important than nutrition, exercise, and anything else you could do to improve your lifeWhat are the different stages of sleep and how can you maximize the ones you needWhat is sleep hygiene and how to develop your routineThe 90 second habit you need to adopt to increase how quickly you get to sleep at nightHow to go back to sleep in the middle of the nightImportant Links for the Show:The ultimate fitness tracker optimizes your life: https://www.whoop.com/ and use code DIANA at checkout for 15% off!A bank that prides itself on how it treats both it's employees and it's customers: http://nbkc.com/diana - get a box of awesome Professional AF stuff for signing up, including a book that we discuss on the show!Get a better nights sleep with the Purple mattress. To get the Purple pillow I covet for FREE with the purchase of your mattress, just text the code "DIANA" to 84-888. And you can combine this offer with what they have on the site!The Sleep book we discussed today: https://www.amazon.com/Why-We-Sleep-Unlocking-Dreams/dp/1501144324/ref=sr_1_3?keywords=why+we+sleep&qid=1573439408&sr=8-3Kristin online: https://www.linkedin.com/in/kristen-holmes-b9b44647/Professional AF Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/943925015810362/Diana online: www.DianaKander.com

Nov 2019

44 min 18 sec

I've stayed away from productivity books and talks like they were the flu. I just didn't think I needed efficiency in my life. I didn't want to hear their email hacks or their prioritization matrix. And then I came across the work of Laura Vanderkam and understood just how wrong I had been all this time. Productivity isn't about being a more efficient cog at work. Productivity is about managing your life in such a way to significantly increase how much fun you're having and how much growth you're achieving. Laura is the author of several time management and productivity books, including Juliet’s School of Possibilities, Off the Clock,I Know How She Does It, What the Most Successful People Do Before Breakfast, and 168 Hours. Her work has appeared in the New York Times, the Wall StreetJournal, Fast Company, and Fortune. She lives outside Philadelphia with her husband and four kids.Laura and I are going to discuss:The biggest question you can ask yourself to increase the time you have available each dayHow we ruin the free time we do haveHow to help yourself do the things you really want out of lifeThe tool Laura recommends to help you find all the free time you actually needHow to change your morning routine to be a lot more fun and productiveImportant Links for the Show:The ultimate fitness tracker to help you make positive changes in your life: https://www.whoop.com/ and use code DIANA at checkout for 15% off!A bank that prides itself on how it treats both it's employees and it's customers: http://nbkc.com/diana - get a box of awesome Professional AF stuff for signing up, including a book that we discuss on the show!The ultimate STEAM project each month: http://kiwico.com/DIANA - my code gets your first month freeLaura's book that we discussed today: https://www.amazon.com/What-Successful-People-Before-Breakfast/dp/1591846692/ref=sr_1_4?keywords=laura+vanderkam&qid=1572821941&sr=8-4Laura's website: https://lauravanderkam.com/The time tracker worksheet: https://lauravanderkam.com/wp-content/uploads/2016/09/168-hours-v2.pdfProfessional AF Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/943925015810362/Diana online: www.DianaKander.com

Nov 2019

46 min 29 sec

Did you know that every interaction you have with someone releases chemicals in their brain? And if you can release the right chemicals, you can increase, trust, cooperation, performance in significant ways? Paul’s two decades of research have taken him from the Pentagon to Fortune 50 boardrooms to the rain forest of New Guinea. His latest book, Trust Factor: The Science of Creating High Performance Companies, uses neuroscience to measure and manage organizational cultures to inspire teamwork and accelerate business outcomes. His 2012 book, The Moral Molecule: The Source of Love and Prosperity, recounted his unlikely discovery of the neurochemical oxytocin, which we'll cover a lot in this episode, as the key driver of trust, love, and morality that distinguish our humanity. Here are his specs: Paul is the founding Director of the Center for Neuroeconomics Studies and Professor of Economics, Psychology and Management at Claremont Graduate University. He has degrees in mathematics and economics from San Diego State University, a Ph.D. in economics from University of Pennsylvania, and post-doctoral training in neuroimaging from Harvard. Paul’s research on oxytocin and relationships has earned him the nickname "Dr. Love." He’s all about adding more love to the world.Paul and I are going to discuss:Small things anyone can do to create more trustWhat you can do if you are not the leader of your team to increase trustHow long it takes to create a culture of trustWhy over half of all change management initiatives failThe business case for increasing trust in your companyWhy the way most companies do annual performance reviews damage culture and trustImportant Links for the Show:The fitness tracker that helps you make positive changes in your life: https://www.whoop.com/ and use code DIANA at checkout for 15% off!The bank that creates a lot of trust with its customers: http://nbkc.com/diana - get a box of awesome Professional AF stuff for signing up!Get 1/2 of your daily fruits and vegetables in a convenient shot!: https://superfoodshot.co and use code DIANA at checkout for 30% off.Paul J. Zak: https://www.pauljzak.com/Professional AF Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/943925015810362/Diana online: www.DianaKander.com

Oct 2019

55 min 50 sec

This weeks wisdom comes from the most unlikely places. Just about 150 years ago. If you're anything like me you've heard of or sampled the works of Henry David Thoreau, Ralph Waldo Emerson, Susan B. Anthony, Mark Twain, and you thought, I should really make time to read more of those books. And that time has never really come around. Well, my friend John Jantsch has done us all a solid and put together a new book with a daily excerpt from each of these authors and many more. John is a very successful though leader. His Duct Tape Marketing blog was chosen as a Forbes favorite and his Duct Tape Marketing podcast was called a "must listen" by Fast Company magazine. Seth Godin called John the "Peter Drucker of small business tactics." This book is something very new for this marketing guru. It is titled the Self Reliant Entrepreneur, but the concepts we're going to discuss are immensely helpful for anyone trying to create something in this world and for anyone trying to make a difference in their organization. John and I cover:What it means to be self reliant and why it's so important to accomplishing our goalsHow to change your relationship with fearWhy play is so important to creating your best workWhy being cautious about how you are perceived will get in your way of creating real change, and How to revise your definition of success and happiness

Oct 2019

43 min 19 sec

Today's episode is about the number one thing that prevents us from being the person we want to be; the number one way we hurt ourselves and the people we love. I'm talking about Shame. As Brene Brown states: "Shame corrodes the very part of us that believes we are capable of change." I tried to get Brene Brown on the show and wasn't able to this season, but I wasn't going to let that stop me from having what I believe is the most important conversation we need to have. So I invited my therapist, Candy Smith, to discuss Brene Brown's book, The Gifts of Imperfection. This episode is like sitting in on my personal therapy session discussing shame. Including a moment of vulnerability, where I suggest a parenting technique I've been trying with my son, and Candy kindly tells me how I might unintentionally be causing shame. Candy has been a licensed therapist for several decades. She specializes in working with adults, and children with trauma. That's how I met her. And in every session, I've left with lessons and sayings that I could come back to again and again. And I'm confident that's just how you are going to feel after you meet Candy. Candy and I are going to talk about: How shame sabotages our relationships,How to treat someone confessing something they feel shame about, and How to stop shaming others, which, it turns out, we all do pretty frequently. Important Links for the Show:The ultimate fitness tracker that doesn't shame you, butactually helps you make positive changes in your life: https://www.whoop.com/ and use code DIANA at checkout for 15% off!A bank that prides itself on how it treats both it's employees and it's customers: http://nbkc.com/diana - get a box of awesome Professional AF stuff for signing up, including a book that we discuss on the show!Get a better nights sleep with the Purple mattress. To get the Purple pillow I covet for FREE with the purchase of your mattress, just text the code "DIANA" to 84-888. And you can combine this offer with what they have on the site!The Brene Brown book we discussed today: https://www.amazon.com/Gifts-Imperfection-Think-Supposed-Embrace/dp/159285849X/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=gifts+of+imperfection&qid=1570996976&s=books&sr=1-1Candy online: https://www.candysmithcounseling.com/Professional AF Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/943925015810362/Diana online: www.DianaKander.com

Oct 2019

58 min 30 sec

Jennifer Petriglieri is a Professor of Organizational Behavior at INSEAD, and the author of Couples That Work. A book that’s coming out this week on making a dual career relationship successful. Prior to joining INSEAD, she was a Post-Doctoral Fellow of Organizational Behavior at the Harvard Business School. Having lived and worked on three continents, she is now settled in France with her husband and their two children.Jennifer has spent the last six years studying over a hundred couples in a variety of roles and types of relationships from all over the world.Drawing on this research, she highlights the three distinct yet predictable transitions that all couples go through and offers practical guidance in the form of questions, exercises and activities that couples can use to overcome the most pressing challenges they face.From couples in their mid-20s to those in their mid-60s, from heterosexual couples to same-sex couples, her book has something of value to strengthen all of our relationships. I believe it's going to be the book I gift the most over the years, and I'm starting this week. Make sure to listen after the show to find out how to get a copy from me! If you love todays episode, please share it online with your friends, and don't forget to tag me so I can thank you! And if you haven't done so already, it would mean so much to me if you would subscribe and review the show! Important Links for the Show:The ultimate fitness tracker that actually helps you make changes in your life: https://www.whoop.com/ and use code DIANA at checkout for 15% off!Get 1/2 of your daily fruits and vegetables in a convenient shot!: https://superfoodshot.co and use code DIANA at checkout for 30% off.If you created a couples contract with your bank, it would look like this: http://nbkc.com/diana - get a box of awesome Professional AF stuff for signing up.Jennifer's new book: https://www.amazon.com/Couples-That-Work-Dual-Career-Thrive/dp/163369724XJennifer online: https://www.jpetriglieri.com/Professional AF Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/943925015810362/Diana online: www.DianaKander.com

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Oct 2019

46 min 15 sec

Kim Scott is the author of the NYT bestseller Radical Candor: Be a Kickass Boss without Losing your Humanity. Kim led AdSense, YouTube, and Doubleclick Online Sales and Operations at Google and then joined Apple to develop and teach a leadership program. Kim has been a CEO coach at Dropbox, Qualtrics, Twitter, and several other tech companies.Kim received her MBA from Harvard Business School and her BA from Princeton. She is the author of three novels; she and her husband Andy Scott are parents of twins.Today's episode is not just a rehashing of Radical Candor. Kim is going to share:Why she had to write an update to her book because some people were misapplying it.How being nice on your team produces mediocre work product.How to help your team members do the best work of their lives.What she thinks of a new psychological safety tool I've been teaching to teams.The special challenges women face when receiving feedback and giving feedback.What men need to know about giving feedback to their female direct reports.Please Tweet, Instagram, and Facebook your biggest takeaways from this amazing conversation with Kim!Important Links for the Show:See for yourself what a radically caring bank looks like: http://nbkc.com/diana - get a box of awesome Professional AF stuff for signing up. The ultimate STEM project each month: http://kiwico.com/diana - my code gets your first month freeGet 1/2 of your daily fruits and vegetables in a convenient shot!: https://superfoodshot.co and use code DIANA at checkout for 30% off!Kim's new book: https://www.amazon.com/Radical-Candor-Revised-Kick-Ass-Humanity/dp/1250235375/ref=sr_1_4?keywords=kim+scott&qid=1569806709&s=gateway&sr=8-4Kim on Twitter: https://twitter.com/kimballscott?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5EauthorProfessional AF Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/943925015810362/Diana online: www.DianaKander.com

Sep 2019

39 min 28 sec

Denise Shull is a decision coach and performance architect for hedge fund managers, traders and professional athletes. She is the Author of Market Mind Games - book on the radical psychology of making decisions and risk. And she is the inspiration for the character "Wendy Rhodes" in the Showtime show, BillionsDenise's thesis is that there's a common mis-belief that you should "set your emotions aside when making a decision" and she will explain why this is an ineffective way to make good decisions. Based off of scientific research, we now know that it's impossible to make decisions without feelings. In Denise's book, I read about a study where people had brain injuries to that part of the brain that controlled emotions, and those people were incapable of making any decisions. Not what to wear, not what to eat. It was crazy. So how do we stop ignoring our emotions and instead learn to understand what they are telling us.Denise will also share:The most significant question you need to ask yourself before making any important decisionHow to figure out if you are making a decision for sound reasons or because of the two big fears that most influence our decisions, andThe proper way to mourn a failure so that you can get over it and keep it from holding you back. Important Links for the Show:The bank that feels right: http://nbkc.com/dianaDenise on Twitter: https://twitter.com/DeniseKShull?ref_src=twsrc%5Egoogle%7Ctwcamp%5Eserp%7Ctwgr%5EauthorDenise's company: https://therethinkgroup.netProfessional AF Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/943925015810362/Diana online: www.DianaKander.com

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Sep 2019

35 min 57 sec

Everywhere she goes, people ask Esther Wojcicki for parenting advice. That's because each one of her three daughters has a crazy awesome job: Susan is the CEO of YouTube, Janet is a professor at UC San Francisco, and Anne is the co founder and CEO of 23andMe.Ester has also been a journalism teacher for more than 35 years at Palo Alto High School. The students that swear by her method include actor and director, James Franco and Jeremy Lin, a Harvard graduate and point guard in the NBA.So what is it? What's her methodology? Esther has just released a book called How to Raise Successful People in which she outlines a five step process for raising successful people. I read the book and interviewed ester about 3 months ago, and since implementing the methodology it has radically transformed my relationship with my son. What's more, this isn't just a way to raise happy/successful kids. It's a method you can take to work to have happy and successful employees. You can use these 5 steps in any relationship you want to improve.Here are the five steps. They spell the word TRICK. T-R-I-C-KTrust, Respect, Independence, Collaboration, and KindnessI can't wait to for you to hear this really insightful conversation, and be sure to listen after the show to find out what happened when I interviewed my son on how Jason and I have been doing in each of these categories. Important Links for the Show:Amazing kids activity in a box: http://kiwico.com/dianaThe bank you've been waiting for: http://nbkc.com/dianaEsther's projects:http://www.moonshotsedu.comhttps://raisesuccessfulpeople.comProfessional AF Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/943925015810362/Diana online: www.DianaKander.com

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Sep 2019

39 min 47 sec

Most people know Annie as a professional poker player. She’s won numerous poker championships and millions of dollars in prizes.  I got to know her in 2004 when I really got into poker.  My first book was actually a business novel that took place at the world series of poker and used poker hands to teach important innovation lessons.  So when I saw Annie, one of the few women who were even competing in the tournament, keep winning, keep being the only woman at one final table after another, and keep doing it with class and style, I became a huge fan. What I didn’t know about Annie until doing research for this interview is that she graduated from Columbia University and then graduate school at the University of Pennsylvania.  That she won a fellowship from the National Science Foundation and got a doctorate in cognitive psychology.  Annie is an entrepreneur, a committed advocate for important causes, a mother, a wife, and the author of several books including my favorite and the subject of our discussion today: Thinking in Bets, Making Smarter Decisions When You Don’t Have All the Facts. Today Annie is going to tell us:Why you should focus on process rather than outcome to decide whether you made a good decisionWhy there’s a competition going on all the time between your short term wants and your long term wants and how to prevent your short term impulses from sabotaging your long term growth.Our mistaken belief on how we form our assumptions and beliefs about the world – hint, you aren’t as objective as you thinkAn incredible way to get people to question their assumptions and beliefs in a way they aren’t naturally inclined to doThe value of thinking of your work projects as betsHow to identify the habits that your team rewards and understand whether you are actually helping your causeIn the Kander Family we have a saying. Last one, best one.  It means whatever you’re doing, make the last rep, the last try, your best effort. And this episode is certainly that for this season. I hope you enjoy this amazing conversation on Professional AF! 

May 2019

1 hr 8 min

This week I sat down with Sally Helgesen.  Sally is one of the premier experts on women’s leadership. She has been a best-selling author, speaker and leadership coach for thirty years. Her mission has always been to help women recognize, articulate and act on their greatest strengths. Her latest book is called How Women Rise and it explains how the behaviors that served you so well at the beginning of your career, that got you promoted, are many times the same behaviors that keep you from big leadership positions.  Basically, what got you here won’t get you there.  Today, Sally is going to share:- How to overcome your reluctance to claim your achievements- Why you are overvaluing your expertise to your own detriment- Why you shouldn’t just expect others to notice and reward your work, and what you should do instead- How to not fall into the perfection trap- Why you can’t make behavior change by yourself – the secret ingredient you need to really make new behaviors stickWhether you are traveling by plane, train or car, walking your dog or doing the dishes, get a pen handy because you’re going to hear some powerful advice on this episode of Professional AF!

May 2019

53 min 24 sec

This week I sat down with Amy Morin, a psychotherapist turned “accidental” author. You’re going to hear Amy share her very moving, personal story, but I just wanted to brag on her for a second.  Amy gave one of the most popular TEDx talks of all time—The Secret of Becoming Mentally Strong. It’s been viewed more than 8 million times. She’s a regular columnist for Forbes, Inc., and Psychology Today and a parenting expert for Verywell. Her articles reach more than 2 million readers every month. And she’s the author of 3 Bestselling books, the latest of which is called 13 Things Mentally Strong Women Don’t Do.  And the interview is amazing because we spend about 2/3 of the conversation talking about specific habits mentally strong women should stop, and the last third on the science of creating lasting habit change. Today Amy is going to share:-       How to keep self-doubt from sabotaging our goals-       How the way we raise young girls has a big impact on their mental strength-       How to deal with critical feedback-       Why women aren’t getting the right kind of feedback at work, and how to ask the right way-       The biggest mistake we make trying to change a habitBuckle your seatbelts. And get ready for some powerful insights on this episode of Professional AF!

May 2019

56 min 8 sec

This week I spoke with Brad Staats, a professor at the UNC Business School and author of Never Stop Learning: Stay Relevant, Reinvent Yourself, and Thrive. Brad also works with companies around the world to develop their learning and analytics strategies. He has won numerous teaching and research awards, including an award as one of the 40 most outstanding business-school professors under 40 in the world, and the Prize for best article in Harvard Business Review on leadership, and I learned about Brad’s book from the Adam Grant’s Next Big Idea Club, a pretty prestigious collection of business books. Brad has been a venture capitalist, an investment banker at Goldman Sachs, and a strategic planner at Dell. And today Brad’s going to share: -       Why we’re so bad at learning from our mistakes and three strategies that will help us get much better-       Why our bias towards action is actually hurting our performance-       Several counterintuitive tactics that will significantly increase your work performance-       How to run a meeting that encourages people to share their thoughts instead of shutting them down-       How to know if you and the people you work with are good at learning

Apr 2019

1 hr

This episode is the most practical Professional AF that we’ve done. I had a chance to interview Fran Hauser, a long-time media executive, startup investor and best-selling author of The Myth of the Nice Girl. Fran is best known for her role building PEOPLE.com – one of the biggest media brands online – She made the leap to early stage investing in 2014. And 18 of the 20 companies she has invested in are founded by women, highlighting her broader commitment to increasing the representation of female founders and investors. Fran’s first book, THE MYTH OF THE NICE GIRL: deconstructs the negative perception of "niceness" that many women struggle with in the business world and  resonates with smart women who are looking to take their career to the next level. The Myth of the Nice Girl was named Audible's Best Business Book of 2018 and one of Amazon's Best Business and Leadership Books of 2018. In this episode, Fran is going to show you specific tools you can use to:·       Deliver difficult feedback·       Create more time and space on your calendar·       Stop being in reactive mode all day and get a lot more done·       Know when you need to recalibrate your calendar to focus on what matters.Plus·       Practical tips on turning down invitations or finding the sweet spot between yes and no·       How to find the right mentor and nurture that relationship I hope you have a pen and paper ready or open up an email to yourself because you’re about to get some powerful ideas from this episode of Professional AF!   

Apr 2019

56 min 7 sec

Over the last 6 months my husband Jason and I have been on an intense journey of mental health and a lot of that growth has come as a result of both of us working with therapists on a regular basis. And of course when you are going through something, you can really see the value in it for lots of others. But in talking about therapy with friends, I’ve found that many found it an intimidating and overwhelming process.  Even I have all kinds of questions about how therapy works, but it just doesn't feel right in the middle of a session. So this week I sat down with Lori Gottleib. She’s a psychotherapist and writes a weekly Dear Therapist Column for the Atlantic.  Lori has written a number of New York Times Bestselling books which have been translated to 20 languages. Her latest book just came out on April 2, and it’s called Maybe You Should Talk to Someone. Lori is going to explain:-       How therapists approach every session and what they are trying to accomplish-       How therapists think about change and how that can help you take meaningful steps in your life-       What they are scribbling back there in their notes as you’re talking-       What you can learn about being a better listener and partner from how therapists approach their clients

Apr 2019

44 min 40 sec

Self compassion is the simple art of being kind to yourself in moments of despair the way that you would for a good friend.  But most of us are much kinder to our good friends than we are to ourselves. Today, I’m speaking with Dr. Kristin Neff. The top researcher for self compassion in the world.  Kristin will help us understand:How self compassion can help you reduce anxiety, stress, negative head trash, and significantly increase your achievement.  Why we are kinder to our good friends than we are to ourselves.  Why self criticism is not a good way to motivate our selves and push ourselves to be better. Why self esteem is a fair weather fan and always turns on us when we need it most.  And she will help answer the big myths of self compassion:That self compassion is a form of self pity.That self compassion means weakness.  That self compassion will make you complacent.  That self compassion is selfishSelf compassion has had a profound impact on the way my husband Jason and I live our lives and I hope you will give it a try after listening to this very special episode of Professional AF    

Apr 2019

55 min 30 sec

One day soon, you may find yourself on the other end of woman to woman aggression, and the biological and social research this conversation highlights will help you understand exactly why it’s happening and more importantly – how to keep it from occurring in the first place. As you’ll hear quickly in the episode, I had a really difficult situation with a mentor in my very first professional job who I felt went behind my back. I was so confused when it happened and felt totally powerless in the situation.  So I found this book, In The Company of Women, written by Dr. Susan Murphy.  What a treat to get to find out from Susan: Why problems can arise among women when one of them is promotedHow to build relationships with female superiors, colleagues and those who report directly to youLeadership skills unique to womenThe language (verbal and nonverbal) that we use that can inflame female interactions

Apr 2019

49 min 5 sec

n this episode we're talking about charisma and influence.  No matter what your job title, chances are, you’ve got to sell your ideas to others. And when you’re done with your presentation, no one is ever going to say to you that you weren’t charismatic enough; you didn’t command the room; or you weren’t compelling.  So how would you ever know if this is a topic that’s holding you back?  That’s what I wanted to learn. In this episode, I talk to John Neffinger, the author of Compelling People: The Hidden Qualities That Make Us Influential. John is going to share: What is executive presence and how do you make sure that you have it?How people make character judgments about you – that they really only consider 2 things whether they like and respect you.Why women are at a disadvantage in the way these two attributes are judged, and what they must do to be respected but not disliked.What you consciously and subconsciously communicate to others, andWhat strategies you can use to become more charismatic and influential

Mar 2019

59 min 11 sec

My guest is Jackie Huba, the author of Fiercely You: Be Fabulous and Confident by Thinking Like a Drag Queen. Jackie is going to tell us: •           Why drag queens can teach women so much about confidence•           The power of creating an alternate persona for business meetings•           The nonverbal behaviors you might not be aware of that are demonstrating your power or lack there of•           The psychological effects your clothes have on your performance•           And what the heck is dragersizing and why is it so powerful

Mar 2019

59 min 44 sec

Coming March 18th,  Diana Kander interviews authors and thought leaders who have something to teach women about how to be more awesome at work. Diana acts like a guinea pig for each episode, trying the advice and instruction before each taping to report back on how well it worked for her.

Mar 2019

1 min 46 sec