We Should Talk About That

Jessica Buchanan and Jessica Kidwell

NYT bestselling author of Impossible Odds, Jessica Buchanan, along with fellow writer Jessica Kidwell, attempt to unpack the uncomfortable topics that nobody is talking about, but definitely should. With intention to hold real, authentic, conversation about EVERYTHING, the Two Jess(es) bring their humor and a healthy dose of self-deprecation to the table as they unpack issues relating to PTSD, grief, imposter syndrome, body image, middle age, the plight of the working mom and more.

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What does it even mean to be authentic? Most of us don't know, because, as executive coach, Erika Gerdes contends,  how can we know what is authentic, if we don't really even know ourselves? Erika challenges the Two Jess(es) to move into a deeper space of true authenticity by recognizing our true identity and embracing ourselves and the awareness of our triggers and reactions. Meet Erika!Erika Gerdes is a leadership advisor, speaker and coach. She is a former 12-year Google global business executive who now works with high achieving leaders and teams from companies like Google, Pinterest, Twitter, and Time to embrace the philosophy of Full Range Living so they can take bigger risks, have more fun and make a bigger impact. Learn more at erikagerdes.comSupport the show (http://www.paypal.com)

Dec 6

49 min 46 sec

Dr. Robyn Hanley-Dafoe joins The Two Jess(es) for an authentic and vulnerable conversation about survival, and how equipped we as human beings are, to do hard things. Robyne did one of the hardest things she will ever have to do, and kicked her way out of a sinking car in the middle of a frozen lake during a blizzard outside of Ontario, Canada when she was 16 years old. It was in those final moments that Dr. Robyne decided life was worth fighting for, and it changed the trajectory of her life, laying the groundwork for her research around resiliency and why people really can do hard things. Her Five Pillars of Every Day Resiliency help us frame the way we can show up in the world as authentic to ourselves and each other with intention to make the best decision we can in the moment, even if it is hard.Meet Dr. Robyne:Dr. Robyne Hanley-Dafoe is a multi-award-winning psychology and education instructor who specializes in resiliency, navigating stress and change, leadership, and personal wellness in the workplace. Described as transformational, engaging, and thought-provoking, Robyne’s keynotes provide practical strategies grounded in global research and case studies that help foster resiliency within others and ourselves. Robyne is available for consultation, training and professional development opportunities ranging from one-to-one to company-wide initiatives.https://robynehd.ca/Support the show (http://www.paypal.com)

Nov 29

47 min 4 sec

A deeply emotional memoir by a longtime ESPN writer about the suicide of his son Max and how their complicated relationship led him to see grief as love.  In February 2015, Ivan Maisel received a call that would alter his life forever: his son Max’s car was found abandoned in a parking lot next to Lake Ontario. Two months and countless harrowing hours later, Max’s body was found in the lake. There’d been no note or obvious indication that Max wanted to harm himself; he’d signed up for a year-long subscription to a dating service; he’d spent the day he disappeared doing photography work for school. And this uncertainty became part of his father’s grief.Taking its title from Max’s love of photography—and his tendency to only love the camera when he was behind it, looking away whenever his picture was taken—I KEEP TRYING TO CATCH HIS EYE tells the deeply human and empathetic story of a father’s relationship with his son, of its complications, and of Max and Ivan’s struggle—as is the case for so many parents and their children—to connect. And of how our tendency to overlook men’s mental health can have devastating consequences, and how ultimately letting those who grieve do so openly and freely can lead to greater healing.The Two Jess(es) have the unique opportunity to talk with Ivan about grief, and  how, at its most stripped down state, it is really born out of love. Meet Ivan:Ivan Maisel is Vice President/Editorial and Senior Writer at on3.com. He has covered college football for nearly four decades, from 2002-2021 as a senior writer for ESPN, where he wrote for ESPN.com, appearing on television, ESPN Radio and on podcasts. He also served as Editor-at-Large for ESPN College Football 150. Prior to joining ESPN.com, Maisel covered national college football for Sports Illustrated, Newsday, and The Dallas Morning News. He has been honored eight times for Best Story by the Football Writers Association of America, and twice by The Associated Press Sports Editors, which in 2019 named him one of the 10 best sports columnists. Maisel earned a bachelor's degree in American Studies from Stanford University.Support the show (http://www.paypal.com)

Nov 22

50 min 1 sec

What if...we turned immersive entertainment into our greatest tool for healing and growth? This is the question that drives Alex Kaplan every day, and what led him to form the non-profit Of Substance. By using story telling in the form of mini movies to deliver an immersive experience that heals through depicting addiction- the struggle and triumph- around it Alex shares with The Two Jess(es) his journey of addiction, and how he has used his passion for movie making and his commitment to vulnerability to propel him forward and turn his mess into his message. His belief is that we have ALL felt that we are not good enough, we all deal with the experiences of embarrassment, shame and unworthiness and the answer is connection and belonging.Meet Alex!Alex Kaplan, a Philadelphia native and LA transplant, was trained as an actor in the University of Miami’s conservatory and transitioned to a career behind the camera as a producer and director for the past decade.Today, Alex is the Co-founder & Executive Director of Of Substance, an innovative non-profit revolutionizing addiction and mental health treatment, education, and support, using premium entertaining short films as a tool for deeper healing, growth, and transformation.After surviving his own battles with addiction, Alex recognized the power of story as a tool in his recovery and found an exciting way to use his filmmaking experience to help others on their paths of overcoming struggles of shame & isolation.The biggest thing he learned on his journey is that his issue was far less about using substances than it was about WHY he used substances; It was about shame, isolation, a fear of not belonging, and a fear of not being good enough.Alex and his co-founder Brian Gallagher built Of Substance to help us all recognize that we’re not alone in these feelings and to positively transform people's relationships with themselves, others, and their beliefs in what's possible.Most importantly, Alex is now a proud husband, supportive member of his family, and a friend on whom others can lean, having risen from his struggles with addiction and refusing to give up. Of Substance.Of Substance is a nonprofit revolutionizing addiction, mental health, and suicide prevention, education, treatment, and support thought movies!We make premium entertaining short films, mini-movies you really like watching, that tackle all of our struggles in a way that helps us overcome the shame, blame, and stigma we all experience, reminding us that we're not crazy, we're not alone, and we're already doing great!We're turning movies into an approachable and captivating tool for transformation, that expedites and enhances the journey through healing and growth.Support the show (http://www.paypal.com)

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Nov 15

40 min 44 sec

November is National Diabetes Awareness Month and in order to raise more awareness around the rising diagnosis of type I diabetes in children. The Two Jess(es) sit down with Nurse Practioner and certified diabetes care and education specialist, Ellie Kagan, for an incredibly informative conversation on type 1 diabetes and how it affects children with a diagnosis. Ellie breaks down the road to diagnosis, what families will face, and how they should expect to navigate such a life altering situation, for the entire family. Ellie outlines the symptoms you might encounter, what to look for, and when to seek professional help. This episode is incredibly eye opening and a must for every parent. Meet Ellie:As a Nurse Practitioner and certified diabetes care and education specialist, Ellie Kagan has been helping children with type 1 and their families manage their diabetes for the past 13 years. She worked as part of the outpatient clinical practice at Mt. Washington Pediatric Hospital, an affiliate of Johns Hopkins Hospital and University of Maryland Hospital from 2008-2021. Ellie is a certified insulin pump trainer for Tandem, Insulet and Medtonic as well as a certified continuous glucose monitor trainer for Dexcom. Ellie saw the need for more personalized diabetes education and recently opened Diabetes Education Solutions, a private diabetes coaching and consulting business.  She provides families with the tools they need to help their child succeed and thrive with diabetes. She currently serves as an advisor and research moderator for Seagrove Partners, LLC, an independent consulting firm concentrating on diabetes research and technology. Ellie is a frequent guest speaker and educator for school nurses at public and private schools and is called on to speak about diabetes management at school conferences. To find out more about Ellie and her work go to: http://diabetesesolutions.comSupport the show (http://www.paypal.com)

Nov 8

57 min 40 sec

In follow up of their first conversation with representatives from the Nicole Addimando Community Defense Committee, The Two Jess(es) talk with Justine van der Leun, investigative journalist and host of the true crime podcast, Believe Her, produced by Lemonada Media.Through this six part series, Justine explores true crime as it comes to us, upside down — she presents a story about survival, punishment, and a push for change through rare access to police audio, official documents, and rare conversations with criminalized survivor, Nikki Adamando, from prison. Justine is on a mission to unravel this complex, layered case of criminalized survival, and ask: How can we stop cycles of trauma and violence? What does true justice look like? Jess and Jess, as close followers of Nikki's case, ask a few of their own difficult questions and the three women have a very open and honest discussion about the systemic work that still needs to be done so that victims of abuse may truly live free.Meet Justine:Justine van der Leun is an award-winning journalist and an Emerson fellow at the New America Foundation. She is currently writing Unreasonable Women: Survival, Punishment, and Mass Incarceration in America, which will blend narrative stories with original nationwide data to explore the links between trauma, systemic failures, and the criminalization of women’s acts of survival from physical and sexual abuse. The book will be published by Ecco, an imprint of HarperCollins. Follow her @justinevdl. About Lemonada Media:Lemonada is a podcast network founded in 2019 by Jessica Cordova Kramer and Stephanie Wittels Wachs. The company’s podcasts share an unfiltered version of the human experience in a time of increasing polarization, in an effort to make life suck less. Lemonada provides a robust advertising platform, one that is nonpartisan and deeply engaging, with uniquely amiable host-read ads. For sponsorship opportunities, contact: dawn@lemonadamedia.com. For press inquiries, contact: lemonada@metropublicrelations.com. Listen to Believe Her here. For more information on the Nikki Addimando case reference WeSTAT season 2, episode 38 (air date April 18)Support the show (http://www.paypal.com)

Nov 1

37 min 9 sec

When Karen Allen was 29 years old, she was a wife, a mother of a two year old, and had the whole wide world ahead of her. And then, it all fell apart- and in the space of a breath, her life was completely derailed, and a new one began, when an armed shooter walked into her husband's Crossfit studio, and shot him in the head, killing him instantly. A widow before she turned 30, it was when her 2 year old wandered into her bedroom and wanted to know if she was going to get out of bed- that she realized she had two choices. She could either give up, or get up. And then she realized, she always had more than one choice in life. And the best choice is always going to be to embrace the messy middle of being 100% human.A conversation on perfectionism and recovery- on authenticity and excellence- the fullness of the human experience- Karen breaks down how to have a more meaningful connection with their own humanity with the Two Jess(es).Meet Karen:Karen is proud to be a...✔ Super-mom and totally figuring it out as I go✔ Keynote speaker who still gets bubbly butterflies (learn my trick to turn those anxious nerves into uplifting excitement)✔ Healthy eater who also loves pizza and greasy burgers✔ Super organized person who can never find her Airpods✔ Amateur musician who sings off-key sometimes while cooking, cleaning and drivingwho helps people all over the world get out of a rut and wholeheartedly pursue their biggest goals; because she knows first hand that when you choose to be better, you make the people and the world around you better, too. Karen turned her epiphany into a clear, actionable mindset that provides a “get out of perfection free” card for all of the beautiful, imperfect humans out there . 100% Human™ is about developing the mindset and tools to stop feeling tossed around by life and start focusing on the joy and abundance that is actually under your control.https://www.karenallen.co/aboutSupport the show (http://www.paypal.com)

Oct 25

59 min 3 sec

In this supportive, life-saving resource, the New York Times bestselling author of The Gift of Failure helps parents and educators understand the roots of substance abuse and identify who is most at risk for addiction, and offers practical steps for prevention.Jessica Lahey was born into a family with a long history of alcoholism and drug abuse. Despite her desire to thwart her genetic legacy, she became an alcoholic and didn’t find her way out until her early forties. Jessica has worked as a teacher in substance abuse programs for teens, and was determined to inoculate her two adolescent sons against their most dangerous inheritance. All children, regardless of their genetics, are at some risk for substance abuse. According to the National Center on Addiction and Substance Abuse, teen drug addiction is the nation’s largest preventable and costly health problem. Despite the existence of proven preventive strategies, nine out of ten adults with substance use disorder report they began drinking and taking drugs before age eighteen. The Two Jess(es) welcome this incredible third Jess, once again, for another rattling WeSTAT conversation on the topic of alcohol, your kids, substance abuse disorder, and how our relationship to ALL of it, desperately needs to be examined- for the sake of our children's brain development.Meet Jessica!Jessica Lahey writes about education, parenting, and child welfare for The Washington Post, the New York Times, and The Atlantic and is the author of the New York Times bestselling book, The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go So Their Children Can Succeed. She is a member of the Amazon Studios Thought Leader Board and wrote the curriculum for Amazon Kids’ The Stinky and Dirty Show. She lives in Vermont with her husband and two sons.To learn more, go to: https://www.jessicalahey.com/Link to FB Video mentioned at end of show:https://www.facebook.com/watch/?extid=NS-UNK-UNK-UNK-IOS_GK0T-GK1C&v=382651633389095Support the show (http://www.paypal.com)

Oct 18

54 min 6 sec

Meet Zach Gottlieb, the "TEEN Instagrammer" who is getting guys and other teens to talk about their mental health, in particular those issues related to male feelings and toxic masculinity. In this episode, the Two Jess(es) are blown away by this teen's articulate way of expressing his experiences and observations around his own mental health, as he shares WHY he started his Instagram page (@talkwithzach) and how teens all over the world and looking to him for advice to source answers to their questions that most teens are not talking about openly, but should.To find out more about Zach, you can read about him here: https://katiecouric.com/health/teen-wants-to-get-guys-to-talk-about-their-feelings-end-toxic-masculinity/Support the show (http://www.paypal.com)

Oct 11

37 min 54 sec

Gila Pfeffer is more than just the mom who knew too much, she takes the bull by the horns in every part of life, including her health- and she was going to make damned sure she was going to laugh the whole time too! While in the throes of motherhood, Gila, who lost her mother and grandmother in their 40's from breast cancer, found out she did indeed carry the Brca gene, and decided she was going to face impending cancer head on, and do it in the funniest way possible. A huge advocate for early detection, Gila's humorous spin on the "Feel it on the First" campaign is one that should not be missed! In this episode, TTJ(es) talk about motherhood, cancer and laughing through it all with one of London's funniest moms!Meet Gila!Gila Pfeffer is a Jewish American writer and humorist currently living in the UK with her husband and four teenaged children. She writes relatable personal essays in the parenting and breast cancer space and recently co-authored a book called I Just Want to Hang Out With You which is part of a NYT best selling series.Gila is a 12-year breast cancer pre-vivor AND survivor (like Angelia Jolie but with less press coverage) and she uses her social media platforms to promote breast cancer prevention. She posts an attention-grabbing “Feel It On The First” post every first of the month on her Instagram which prompts women to take their breast health seriously. Several have written to her saying that these reminders have led to diagnosis of early stage breast cancer.  Her work can be found on Grown & Flown, Momtastic, AARP among others, as well as the humor publications Points In Case, The Haven, Greener Pasteurs and more.  Gila is currently at work on a collection of personal essays about how to sail through the worst life throws at you with the help of humor, perspective and maintaining strong ties to her faith. Connect with Gila on her social channels:IG: @gilapfefferTwitter: @gilapfeffer Tik Tok: @gilapfefferMedium: @gila.pfefferFacebook: The Mom Who Knew Too MuchSupport the show (http://www.paypal.com)

Oct 4

35 min 29 sec

Yep, that's right. The WeSTAT guest this week is JessK- and she is sharing her heart behind her newest project, Neuroversity Podcast- a solo podcast that aims to dive deeper into the areas of neurodivergence, giving a voice to those who might not normally get to speak up and speak out about neurodiversity and all that entails.This episode is informative, as well as inspirational, as The Two Jess(es) discuss the terrifying and exhilarating time leading up to the launch of this passion project, and the dream of what it could truly be. To learn more about Neuroversity Podcast visit her on instagram at @neuroversitypodSupport the show (http://www.paypal.com)

Sep 20

32 min 19 sec

This episode is a little different as the Two Jess(es) play a different role. JessK interviews JessB on her newest project, The Project You Collective, along with her two business partners, Rebekah Gregory, survivor of the Boston Marathon Bombings, and Loren Buchanan, creative director and founder of Buchanan Creative Group. A transformational coaching program for women who feel called to tell their stories- Jess, Rebekah and Loren offer a comprehensive service that works through the personal development, professional development and digital development process so that women are empowered to share their experiences in a clear concise way, that targets their audience, connects to their purpose and shows the world what they are all about. In this episode you will learn about:1. The three stages of the PYC program2. Why there is incredible power in what we perceive as the "Everyday Story"3. Why choosing the change in your life is often the most relatable story to tell4. Why fostering an environment of collaboration is rooted in the belief that there is space for everyone and how that can bolster your business5. Why having a cohesive digital footprint is the key to building your speaker's profileTo find out more about Project You Collective, visit: https://www.projectyoucollective.com/Support the show (http://www.paypal.com)

Sep 20

48 min 23 sec

This week, The Two Jess(es) sit down with Rachel Peru, a curvy, silver-haired model, and body confidence activist, hailing from the UK. Rachel started her modeling career at 46, and offers so many insights about body image, aging, and her feelings around honoring her body by wearing beautiful, sexy lingerie. Life is the special occasion- so why wait?A fun conversation with three women about stepping off the scale, detaching our underwear for the function of sex, and making ourselves understand, inside and out, that we are worthy of beautiful things.Meet Rachel!https://www.rachelperu.co.uk/Rachel Perus is a silver haired curve model, body confidence activist and influencer and the host of the Out of the Bubble podcast. She began her new career as a model at the age of 46. Rachel loves being able to represent older women in the fashion industry and has worked with some amazing people and brands including JDWilliams, F&F Clothing with Davina McCall and alongside her body confidence icon Ashley Graham for Swimsuits for All. Rachel created "Out of the Bubble" in order to spread some positivity around midlife and share inspiration to others that may be feeling a bit lost as they hit their forties. Rachel knows from her own experience that stepping out of her comfort zone and trying new things in life can lead to all sorts of opportunities and bring a new lease of life for this next chapter.Support the show (http://www.paypal.com)

Sep 12

49 min 30 sec

You may know her from her years as a part of the cast of Grey's Anatomy- but today Kate Anthony is here to answer (and ask!) some tough questions, in her newest role, a coach and mentor for cis-hetero women who are contemplating divorce and asking one of the most important, and difficult questions of their lives. Should I stay, or should I go?From just a general BLAH marriage, to those that are emotionally abusive and everything in between, Kate has guided hundreds of women through the complex journey of deciding whether they are ready to apply newly acquired tools to their marriage, or doing divorce right. The Two Jess(es) ask all kinds of questions, including, how to divorce without screwing up your kids. Kate has a well thought out and realistically applied answer for pretty much everything!To find out more about The Divorce Survival Guide, visit https://kateanthony.com/about/Support the show (http://www.paypal.com)

Sep 6

53 min 36 sec

Dr. Rachel is BACK. And she is sharing, once again and so generously, her expertise, the latest research, and personal experiences with the WeSTAT community. Jess and Jess first sat down to chat with Dr. Orscheln 18 months ago, and to date, it is still the most highly downloaded episode in WeSTAT history! No one would have guessed that we would be right back here, having a similar conversation. From vaccines, to mutations to just straight up data, Dr. Rachel breaks down all the Jesses' questions so that they, and everyone, can understand the latest on COVID-19, the variants, and when our younger populations are eligible for vaccination. Dr. Rachel definitely knows best!Meet Dr. Rachel!Dr. Orscheln is the director of ambulatory Pediatric Infectious Diseases and the International Adoption Center at St. Louis Children’s Hospital and Washington University. She is a graduate of the University of Missouri-Columbia School of Medicine.  She completed her residency in Pediatrics at St. Louis Children’s Hospital and a fellowship in Pediatric Infectious Diseases at Washington University.  She has been a member of the faculty since 2005 and is currently an Associate Professor of Pediatrics.  Her special clinical interest is in the care of immunocompromised children.  During the COVID-19 Pandemic, she has been actively engaged with schools on the safe return to in person learning.  When she is not at work, she enjoys spending time with her husband and 3 children Support the show (http://www.paypal.com)

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Aug 30

43 min 52 sec

Anyone out there ever have your kid trigger you when you least expect it? No? Just us? Didn't think so. The Two Jess(es) sit down for a very vulnerable conversation with the hosts of the extremely popular podcast, https://notyourmotherspodcast.co/ as well as their partner in creating Raising Children You Like (https://raisingchildrenyoulike.com/home) An online course to help parents of children 1-6 know what to say in hard moments and get to the root of your triggers.Hosts Sonnet Simmons Matthews and Veronica Morales Frieling and licensed family and marriage therapist, Bryana Kappadakunnel contend that parenting can be a source of deep healing as we allow ourselves to approach raising our children with humility, and the openness to allow the things that trigger us, become the moments that become our greatest teachers, leading us to profound relationship with our children.If you are looking for support in the early years of parenting, this is a must listen, and check out their resources and podcast at the links above.Support the show (http://www.paypal.com)

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Aug 23

46 min 23 sec

The Two Jess(es) start off Season 3 with a bang, and get really vulnerable about.....their faces. JessB gets really honest about what she sees going on under her eyes, and while way back in Season 1, she waxed poetic about aging and her right to eye bags, she has decided, she's done.In their quest for hearing all sides of the skincare story, and in an effort to appease their curiosity and get some answers to the burning question for almost every woman over 40: WHAT IS HAPPENING TO MY F%&*ING FACE! And what can I do about it?JessK brings in THE EXPERT to answer ALL the questions, and these answers are brought to us by non other than her sister, Jennifer Daniels. Jennifer is a medical esthetician, and owner of The Med Spa (https://themedsparaleigh.com/) which is one of the top med spas in the greater Raliegh area. Jennifer generously offers her advice, and professional wisdom, as she patiently answers all of Jess and Jess' questions about prevention and correction, neurotoxins, fillers, creams, just to name a few. JessK shares her thoughts and experience around her own use with injectables, and the thought process behind it. The constant conundrum of aging gracefully with authenticity, or with the assistance of modern science, the largest organ of our body and how we care for it is always cause for interesting, and sometimes heated, conversations!Meet Jennifer!“Beautiful skin is attainable for everyone and finding the right balance of products and treatments for clients is what I do best.  A skincare routine just has to work for you.  I am a product enthusiast, and I’m always researching how ingredients react with other components to achieve the optimal skincare regimen.”After her daughter started kindergarten, Jennifer decided she needed a change from her decade-plus career in sales and marketing. She wanted to follow her lifelong passion for skincare and layer on to her B.S. in Business Administration from Miami University. She went back to school, graduated top of her class in Esthetics at Miller Motte College and went on to acquire Laser Certification at the Laser Institute in Albany, NY.  Jennifer has been affiliated with Raleigh Plastic Surgery Center since 2008 and began The MedSpa in early 2013.Jennifer is wholeheartedly committed to the improvement of clients’ skin and addressing their skin’s appearance  and concerns. Her favorite part of her job is conversing with patients to get insight into their wants, needs and expectations about aging, sorting through the myriad of products on the market and their skincare goals.  “Integrated skincare performed with integrity” it’s a mantra Jennifer embodies and what has landed The Medspa as one of the top rated medical spas in the Triangle.Favorite beauty service: Eyelash tinting! The best way to make your eyes pop (of course after you use Latisse or Revitalash to grow long lush lashes!)Favorite skincare product: Hydrating B5 gel by Skinceuticals hands down! Comprised of Hyaluronic acid, EVERYONE can use it. Everyone needs it! Hydrates to create supple, flawless skin—I have used HA for a decade!Support the show (http://www.paypal.com)

Aug 16

54 min 46 sec

Uncertainty, risk, emotional exposure. This (according to the GREAT Brene Brown) is the definition of vulnerability.Sounds like a great way to kick off Season 3, right? In true WeSTAT fashion, the Two Jess(es) have decided to pick a theme to carry them through, along with their guests, this season of conversation and topic exploration. The heavy and the light sides of vulnerability will be the aim of this season's content production, and they invite you to join them as they ask the hard questions, sit in the light that it brings, together, as they continue on in their never ending quest to explore themselves.For more information or to support WeSTAT visit: https://www.westatpod.com/Check us out on paypal: https://www.paypal.com/donate/?cmd=_s-xclick&hosted_button_id=8SFVFR2PCFXW8&source=urlSupport the show (http://www.paypal.com)

Aug 9

18 min 58 sec

As we approach (what we HOPE!) is a more normal start to the school year, returning to the office IN PERSON, and juggling this *post/mid* COVID life, we are bringing ringmaster of the modern woman's world, Jenn Folsom BACK! Offering many pieces of practical advice on managing the circus of what we call life, Jenn shares her perspective as a working mom of three teenage boys. She gets really honest about the illusiveness of a work life balance, and shows us how we can decide what goes into the rings of our own circus.Thinking strategically about not being 'mommytracked' at work, getting back into the work force after taking time off, (are you one of the millions of women who have been forced out of the workplace in the last year?), and having the fortitude to ask for what you are worth, Jenn offers invaluable nuggets of wisdom for women as they juggle all.the.things.Referencing the current crisis, as many of us are all trying to work from home and home school our kids, she says the silver lining is that the whole world is now an audience to the struggle of the working parent. Jenn gets really honest about lowering the expectations for ourselves right now, but also using this time to think and plan strategically for when the world resumes some sort of normality.Show Notes:Jennifer Folsom is a dynamic, high-energy leader with a proven record of growing all sizes of professional services firms while growing a family.   She is the Vice President of Growth, for ICF Next, where she she serves as a relationship-driven growth leader across a diverse portfolio of digital, communications, and social marketing projects serving the Civilian and Defense sectors. A human capital expert, she leverages a people-centered approach to drive revenue in organizations from start-up to Big 4. An-oft quoted expert in corporate culture, Jennifer promotes the notion that the multiple in firm valuation starts with the people. Her colleagues cite one of her greatest strengths as the “ability to cut through the noise to solve an issue.” She's also the mom of 3 sons, 17-year-old twins and a 12-year old-firecracker. Wife. Daughter. Sister. Friend. Yogi. Old lady soccer team player. Amateur farm-to-table chef. Vegetable gardener. Paddleboarder. Bourbon lover. Runner. Reader. Writer. Jennifer loves her work but knows that living your ​whole b​ est life is the ultimate key to success. To Learn More: Website: jenniferfolsom.netEmail: jenniferfolsom@thefolsoms.netInstagram: @jennifercfolsomFacebook: The Ringmaster Project Twitter: @jenniferfolsom Medium: @jenn.folsom LinkedIn: @jenniferfolsom  Support the show (http://www.paypal.com)

Aug 2

48 min 27 sec

Do you over-drink? Do you feel ashamed about your drinking habit? Are you concerned that your habit is turning into a problem, especially when 5 o clock rolls around and you reach for that bottle of Pinot without even really thinking about it anymore?Jess and Jess have decided its time to have a conversation about their alcohol habits, and so they have invited Dr. Sherry Price on to talk about her Drink Less Lifestyle Program, a program designed for high functioning women who are tired of feeling out of control and not in charge when it comes to their drinking habits. Dr. Sherry's program, based on neuroscience, and rooted in her own personal experience with over-drinking has allowed her the opportunity to work with hundreds of women who have grown weary of the shame and negative effects that come with having too much.In this episode TTJ(es) get really uncomfortable, slightly emotional and characteristically introspective as they talk with Dr. Sherry about meeting themselves in an alcohol-free space, and relearning how to operate in social capacities as just themselves. Once again, they are called upon to show up and practice what Jess K calls, 'empowered choice' and it turns out, it doesn't seem to be all that hard after all.Meet Dr. Sherry!Sherry B. Price, PharmD, MBA, APh, BCPS is a certified life coach, podcaster, pharmacist, and creator of the Drink Less Lifestyle program. She's helped hundreds of women stop the overdrinking habit and create a new relationship with alcohol where they are confident and in control. Her website is www.sherryprice.com where she offers a variety of free resources including her podcast called Drink Less Lifestyle. Support the show (http://www.paypal.com)Support the show (http://www.paypal.com)

Jul 26

51 min

Failure. It's a scary word in general, but when it comes to our kids and letting them 'fail' we are a generation of parents that will go to great lengths to keep that from happening. Maybe it's the way Gen Xers were parented (or not parented) or our need to achieve or just our general fear of upsetting the proverbial apple cart- one thing is clear: our kids are not getting the best end of the stick when it comes to trying, failing, and getting back up again.In her book, 'The Gift of Failure: How the Best Parents Learn to Let Go so their Children can Succeed." author Jessica Lehay brings so many personal experiences from her classroom, and parenting fails through the pages of this book in order to help parents see how detrimental bailing their children out can really be. The Two Jess(es) bring all their parenting questions to this third Jess and are met with a wealth of experience, wisdom and professional advice.The book is a must read, and this episode is a must listen, for those parents who may be struggling to empower their children with the gift of independence, competence and confidence in the face of disappointment. https://www.jessicalahey.com/Book Link:https://www.jessicalahey.com/the-gift-of-failure-2List of Resources mentioned on the show:https://static1.squarespace.com/static/51d5b70de4b07e30233ade36/t/5e4193261be2517dbcdee8d3/1581355814271/Bibliography.pdfSupport the show (http://www.paypal.com)

Jul 19

1 hr 5 min

Summer Sabbatical for WeSTAT continues! This time, we revisit one of our favorite episodes about (ahem) one of our favorite places, VAGINA TOWN with Dr. Gopi Pillai- a pelvic health physical therapist who is incredibly knowledgeable about all things having to do with your vagina, and entertaining.as.hell. :-) Dr. Gopi takes this episode to a whole new level with an in-depth visit to 'Vagina Town.' She explains then ins and outs (pun intended!) of the often overlooked importance of pelvic health, details the signs and symptoms that could be a result of problems with the pelvis, and well, just has a lot of fun talking about it all. In her words: 'her job is to help people enjoy sex again!' And she LOVES it!TTJ(es) have a lot of fun with this incredibly informative conversation. Even if the word Vagina, (and dicks) makes you uncomfortable,  stick with it- and take a ride to Vagina Town with Dr. Gopi- there is help out there for us all!Meet Dr. Gopi!Gopi was born and raised in New York and graduated from Stony Brook University with a Doctorate in Physical Therapy in 2003 at which time her interest in Women's Health began. She eventually moved to Brooklyn, where she started the first Women's Health PT program at a major hospital. Gopi went on to open a private practice in Brooklyn, specializing in male and female pelvic health for 8 years until her family life brought her to Northern Virginia.She started Blueprint Physical Therapy in January of 2019 and has loved getting to know her new surroundings while providing in home visits around DC, Maryland and Virginia. She is dedicated to continuing education and is a teacher, teaching assistant and lecturer for providers of many disciplines and for the community. She's also a wife and mom of a 4 and 5 year old and just added a pandemic puppy to her family.http://blueprintphysicaltherapy.comSupport the show (http://www.paypal.com)Support the show (http://www.paypal.com)

Jul 12

58 min 51 sec

All through the month of July, The Two Jess(es) will be re-airing some of their favorite conversations from the very beginning of WeSTAT. This particular conversation on motherhood, the high highs, and the low lows- and everything in between, from season one, is definitely one to revisit. Considering this original conversation took place prior to the world changing due to COVID, TTJ(es) are happy to report that they have really leaned in to the practice of "Good Enough Mothering" out of necessity, and realize that nothing really happens before it's supposed to- including the lessons learned from our most precious and relentless little life interrupters. Support the show (http://www.paypal.com)

Jul 5

38 min 39 sec

Jen Griswold is a woman with a mission, and always has been. From the very beginning of her military career, Jen has been committed to sharing the hard won lessons she has learned with those around her- especially military spouses. With the arrival of children, Jen found herself in the role of "support services" while her husband was deployed, and as she looked around at other military spouses around her, she  realized there was a bottomless pool of untapped potential that needed to be set free. So, she started a business. And then another one. And then another one. Today, Jen is an author Mission Entrepreneur: Applying Lessons from Military Life to Create Success in Business Startups and  an entrepreneur, and retired military officer with a heart for servingher community through teaching entrepreneurship and providing marketing resources towomen who want to launch their own businesses.  Today, Jen leads the training, development, and production of a distributed team of over 9,000 entrepreneurs that produces over $20M in skincare sales annually.  Jen Griswold has been featured on the Today Show, in Arlington Magazine, NextGenMilspouse, and on a variety of podcasts about entrepreneurship and performance.Jen also founded a website and branding development company dedicated to helping women in business grow their impact through marketing. Her company Mission Entrepreneur is launching a social software product in 2021 that will make design and technology accessible to anyone with a social media account. This is such an inspirational conversation with Jen, Jess and Jess, for any woman who is flirting with the idea of entrepreneurship because of their heart for service, and desire to be successful in any capacity in which they put their hands to.To find out more about Jen Griswold visit: https://jengriswold.com/Support the show (http://www.paypal.com)

Jun 28

44 min 27 sec

After the birth of her daughter, Ilsa Manning left the fragrance industry to focus on her family. After a dinner with girlfriends, Ilsa came home one night with the realization that while her time with her daughter was finite, her potential to model what she was capable of as a mother, a woman, an entrepreneur was in fact not finite- but that the possibilities for what her life could become, was INFINITE. Ilsa candidly shares how she created her fragrance line in 2015- and the outpouring of inspiration and challenges she came up against as an entrepreneur, but the mindset of "just keep going" and how it has turned into this beautiful company that empowers women, donates funds to Girls on the Run. A little bit of education on how fragrance creation works, and industry insider tips, a whole lotta women supporting women power, and gobs of inspiration- this is a really uplifting episode that will make you look at your perfume differently, and yourself as infinite.Meet Ilsa!There are no limits at Ilsa Fragrances. Here, we are about encouraging inspiration and beauty through thoughtful, unique creations that empower you to do and be whatever you dream. And as dreams begin when we are children, Ilsa Fragrances donates 5% of net proceeds to Girls on the Run, a nonprofit for girls' empowerment. After the birth of my first daughter, life handed me the opportunity to combine my knowledge, skills and dreams to create Ilsa Fragrances, a company that encourages women to believe in themselves, no matter what obstacle they face. I lacked this all important self belief until my daughter’s arrival in my life. My desire to be the best person I could be for her gave me the confidence I needed to finally pursue my dreams. By taking action and creating Ilsa Fragrances, I hope to teach my daughter, and her little sister, that their capabilities are infinite and that if they can imagine it, they can do it. So to you, to my daughters, and to myself, I say:Never mind the sky – there is no limit!https://www.ilsafragrances.com/Support the show (http://www.paypal.com)

Jun 21

33 min 7 sec

From dinners and homework to holiday card photos and summer vacations, Nikki DeBartolo and Ben Heldfond have created a tight-knit, enviable family. They work and play well together, from the smallest daily tasks to the biggest life events—and it only took a divorce to get them there. Though their marriage has been over for over a decade, they still share a happy life with each other and their son Asher, along with their spouses and children.The Two Jess(es) sit down with Nikki and Ben and witness this phenomenon first hand. Two people who are self-aware enough to realize they "got the path of being in love and loving each other mixed up," in itself is incredible, but to hear them speak of their commitment and respect for their son, and how putting him first became the only thing that mattered, is not only inspiring, but an important example for parents everywhere- married or divorced.To find out more about Ben and Nikki's experience you can go to https://ourhappydivorce.com/ and read their book: https://www.amazon.com/Our-Happy-Divorce-Marriage-Together/dp/1631779974/ref=sr_1_1?keywords=Our+Happy+Divorce&qid=1568927277&sr=8-1Support the show (http://www.paypal.com)

Jun 14

48 min 7 sec

In celebration of the diversity and accomplishments that have taken place in the LGBQTIA community amidst so much historical adversity and discrimination, the Two Jess(es) have the extreme privilege of sitting down with one of the most thought-provoking journalists working today.  Hari Ziyad, author of  Black Boy Out of Time, candidly shares their experience of growing up Black and queer in America—and in a blended family as one of nineteen children. In BLACK BOY OUT OF TIME, Hari Ziyad recalls their childhood with a Hindu Hare Krsna mother and a Muslim father in Cleveland, Ohio, and navigating the equally complex path toward finding their true self in New York City. Exploring childhood, gender, race, and the trust that is built, broken, and repaired through generations, Ziyad investigates what it means to live beyond the limited narratives Black children are given and challenges the irreconcilable binaries that restrict them.This is a conversation that really digs into Hari's experience as a young, queer, Black, non-binary human who is brave enough to share their stories and how they show up in the world authentically in order to honor their past, present and future in a way that advocates, educates and celebrates.Meet Hari:Hari Ziyad is a screenwriter, the bestselling author of Black Boy Out of Time (Little A, 2021) and the Editor-in-Chief of RaceBaitr. They received their BFA from New York University, where they concentrated in Film and Television and Psychology. Their work is informed by their passion for storytelling, and wrestling with identity as a Cleveland, Ohio-born Black, non-binary child of Muslim and Hindu parents.​They are a 2021 Lambda Literary Fellow, and their writing has been featured in Gawker, Out, The Guardian, Huffington Post, Ebony, Mic, Paste Magazine, AFROPUNK, in the peer-reviewed academic journal Critical Ethnic Studies, and in the anthology co–edited by Michael Dumas, Ashley Woodson and Carl Grant entitled The Future is Black: Afropessimism, Fugitivity and Radical Hope in Education, among other publications. They are also a script consultant on the drama series David Makes Man (OWN), a columnist (and the former Managing Editor) of Black Youth Project, and an Assistant Editor of Vinyl Poetry & Prose.https://www.hariziyad.com/Support the show (http://www.paypal.com)

Jun 7

45 min 25 sec

100 Episodes.100 freaking episodes.The Two Jess(es) are here, for the ONE HUNDREDTH TIME, and bringing one of their most joyful WeSTATers and dear friend, Joey Klei on, to co-host right along with them. Amidst the conversations between TTJ(es) and Joey, past guests from We Should Talk About That, as well as listeners from the WeSTAT community, share their contributions of what bring them JOY.The conversation goes from hard back books to eating in restaurants, air fryers, and singing Mr. Rogers songs. It is clear that what brings us all joy, is the simple things like reheating pizza and the feeling of cool sheets on a hot evening!This episode is not only a celebration, but marks the accomplishment of TTJ(es) and sticking to the mission of creating a space for authentic conversation so that others might feel less isolated and alone.  For more reference on past guests that have contributed to this episode, check out the following WeSTAT episodes:- Rachel Lankester: https://www.buzzsprout.com/768062/7448023- Gia Hassan: https://www.buzzsprout.com/768062/7586719- Andrea Driessen: https://www.buzzsprout.com/768062/7732705 - Cherie Craft: https://www.buzzsprout.com/768062/8088329- Sherrie Price: https://www.buzzsprout.com/768062/7114633- Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus: https://www.buzzsprout.com/768062/8046730- Shauna Ahern: https://www.buzzsprout.com/768062/5316610- Dr. Rachel Orscheln: https://www.buzzsprout.com/768062/4448477- Annette Brechbill: https://www.buzzsprout.com/768062/8271296Support the show (http://www.paypal.com)

May 31

45 min 20 sec

Betty Hart lives a life of intention. And that intention is what led her down the exploratory road of investigating why we, as a culture, cancel the people we love and who have had a positive impact on our lives, because they espouse something we don't agree, or may hurt us on a spiritual level. Betty proposes that compassion for those we love, and who love us back, deconstructs the practice of cancel culture, and allows for space to suffer along side someone, on their good days and bad days- allowing us an opportunity to plant seeds of love, through curiosity, and a willingness to ask questions in order to get a clearer context of what is said, or the message that is displayed. Clearly, Betty has hit a nerve with her ideas, as her TED talk has been viewed over 1 million times. This is a challenging conversation that makes room for the real reason for communication- listening to understand, and allowing everyone the opportunity to choose their own path. Betty advocates for giving space, loving, and allowing ourselves the opportunity to work and be with those who believe differently, live differently, speak differently than us.Betty also offers an inside look into how the arts were devastated by the pandemic, and brings perspective to the life of an artist and the shut down for so many on a heart, soul and financial level. Meet Betty!Betty is a theatre artist whose mission is to help create space for necessary conversations.   Through acting, directing and facilitating, Betty strives to be a change agent and a force for positivity, creativity, and collaboration.   In 2020, Betty had the opportunity to direct the Henry nominated The Scottsboro Boys for Vintage Theatre.  She also directed Josh Kroenig’s Vroom Vroom for Local Lab, which audiences never saw due to the theatre wide shut down.  Betty performed in Stories on Stage “Don’t look away: Black stories matter”.  In the “before” Betty performed in Barnum at the Fine Arts Center, Caroline, or Change at the Aurora Fox, Richard III and You Can’t Take it with you at the Colorado Shakespeare Festival, the immersive outdoor show Rausch with the Catamounts, and had the great privilege of being in The Mountaintop at the Arvada Center in 2016.In 2021, Betty directed To the Moon by Beth Kander, a powerful domestic violence awareness play for Creede Repertory Theatre and has just completed directing a devised theatrical film for the University of Northern Colorado called 2020 Speaks, which will be streamed in late April.Instagram:  @actorbettyCheck out Betty's TED talk @ https://www.ted.com/talks/betty_hart_how_compassion_could_save_your_strained_relationships?language=enSupport the show (http://www.paypal.com)

May 24

50 min 2 sec

**Barnyard Language Alert!!!** Listen without little ears present :-)Jess and Jess laugh til they pee their pants with these two podcasters, Jaimie Kelton and Robin Hopkins, co-hosts of "If These Ovaries Could Talk." Lesbians who have had to take a non-traditional approach to building their families, they decided it was high time to start talking about and sharing stories that represent the LGBTQ community and the highs and lows of baby making, family building, instilling pride in their kids about their family constellation, and everything in between. A conversation about podcasting, the pandemic and what it is to speak your truth as a mom, a podcaster, just a human being, this conversation is entertaining as well as enlightening. For more hillariousness, check out "If These Ovaries Could Talk" wherever you get your  podcasts!Meet Jaimie and Robin! Jaimie Kelton is an actor, singer, dancer, voice over artist and podcaster based in New York City. She has over 17 years of experience performing on stages in NYC, as well as in Regional Theaters, on National tours, and for a few dreamlike years, singing and tanning on a cruise ship. She is a Helen Hayes Award Recipient. Her voice can be heard in various forms on Disney’s hit cartoon, The Octonauts, SYFY’sHAPPY!, and Amazon’s soon to be aired, Bug Diaries. She co-hosts the podcast If These Ovaries Could Talk, where she chats with non-traditional families about making babies when making babies doesn’t come naturally. She lives with her wife, two children and a tiny dog in Manhattan.For her day job, Robin is an Executive Producer of "Amy Schumer Presents: 3 Girls, 1  Keith" the original podcast on Spotify.  But, Robin is also an actor, writer and producer who began her career as a stand-up comic. She is a frequent contributor to Medium and Huff Po with essays featured in the Parents and Queer Voices sections. Robin is also an accomplished playwright. Her one-woman show, In Search of Tulla Berman debuted to sold-out crowds in San Francisco and enjoyed subsequent runs in Winnipeg, Canada, the Pelican Theatre in New York City, and ended with a month-long run at the Ars Nova Theatre. Her Film &TV credits include Boardwalk Empire, Louie and Hindsight and some really great “big hands acting” on Celebrity Ghost Stories and Monsters Inside Me. Most recently, Robin merged all of her creative worlds producing, writing and acting in the comedic digital short series Stupid Michelle & Dumb Robin.https://www.ovariestalk.com/Support the show (http://www.paypal.com)

May 17

44 min 37 sec

When Dani Sauter decided to take the plunge and leave a government contracting job for a marketing startup, she was challenged creatively and professionally, in ways she hadn't anticipated. She discovered getting up and putting on a red lip and something she felt good in, was the key to opening up the door to her creativity and the start of her unbelievably popular blog and instagram account Blonde In the District (@blonde_inthedistrict). In this episode, The Two Jess(es) continue on in their theme of JOY for the month of May, with a conversation with Dani about what life is like as a plus sized model and social media influencer. Dani shares the need for more size inclusivity in boutiques and local stores, and how to find your sense of self through style, as well as a general encouragements on wearing what you feel best in- no rules to follow!To find out more about the awesome work Dani is doing, check her out at https://www.blondeinthedistrict.com/ or on IG @blonde_inthedistrict.Support the show (http://www.paypal.com)

May 10

41 min 47 sec

It's been a YEAR. Or more, but who's counting? The Two Jess(es) began this podcasting adventure in January of 2020, bright eyed and ready to take the world by storm...And then it ALL CHANGED. Throughout a global pandemic, job loss, homeschooling and just the usual stuff of trying to survive, Jess and Jess have continued to research, read, reach out, connect, hold space for authentic conversation and have a little bit of fun tossed in! And THEY ARE PROUD. Proud of their accomplishments of consistency, commitment to this project, to the WeSTAT Community...and to each other, and they are here to celebrate!The month of May is going to be all JOY! While this episode is about what TTJ(es) find joy in, they would like to hear from you! If you would like to add your contribution to the Memorial Day episode, please send a message of voice note to info@westatpod.com or DM them on IG @westatpod. We are so glad you are here!Support the show (http://www.paypal.com)

May 3

20 min 4 sec

When Clair Gill realized there was a foundation set up to 'Save the Bats' but nothing out there to address the needs of menopausal women, she decided it was completely unacceptable, and maybe,  there was room for both! Unwilling to go down the menopause rabbit hole quietly, Claire is on a mission to lift the shame and taboo that come with growing older as a woman in this age obsessed society. As she looked for peer to peer support, she realized the only organizations really set up to address menopause were geared toward clinicians (mostly men, who were not experiencing menopause anyway!) so she has turned it on it's head.This is a fired up conversation about what women need and want as they move into the second half of their life. The need for resources and support that have been addressed by Claire and her team, and are now available because of the National Menopause Foundation is an invaluable contribution that must be acknowledged. More than anything, this is  just a feel good message about all the possibilities that are available to women as they grow fabulously older- thanks to women who are determined to make it the best time of their lives, and yours!Meet Claire!After a 20+ year career in public relations and marketing for national nonprofits andpublic relations firms with Fortune 500 clients, Claire Gill founded the NationalMenopause Foundation in September 2019. While serving as Chief Mission Officer for ahealth-based nonprofit, Ms. Gill realized there was no national nonprofit dedicatedsolely to women’s journey to and through menopause, so she set out to create one. TheNational Menopause Foundation’s mission is create a positive change in how peopleperceive, understand and experience menopause through education, peer-to-peersupport, activism, and research.Through its website, The Positive Pause podcast, The Hot Flash electronic newsletter,and its online community, called The Menopause Metamorphosis, the NationalMenopause Foundation seeks to bring about a world where women thrive at everystage of their lives and have access to the information and networks that ensuremenopause is a positive, inspiring and empowering time in every woman’s life.Ms. Gill also serves as the Chief Executive Officer of the National OsteoporosisFoundation, which has a strategic alliance with the National Menopause Foundation.Ms. Gill is a graduate of Syracuse University’s Newhouse School. She is a member of LesDames d’Escoffier International (LDEI), a philanthropic organization supporting womenin the food, beverage and hospitality industries. She and her family reside in Lorton, VA.For more information, visit: https://nationalmenopausefoundation.org/ and don't forget to subscribe to  The Positive Pause Podcast at: https://nationalmenopausefoundation.org/podcast-2/Support the show (http://www.paypal.com)

Apr 26

41 min 13 sec

In this episode, Jess and Jess sit down for a very honest and difficult conversation with Rebecca McWilliams and Wendy Freedman, both avid supporters and advocates as well as members of the Nicole Addimando Community Defense Committee. Together, they introduce Nikki Addimando, a mother of two, teacher, respected community member, and domestic violence survivor. In 2017, Nikki was forced to protect herself and her children's lives, by killing her abuser, Chris Grover. In February 2020, Nikki was sentenced to 19 years to life for the killing of her abuser, and the Community Defense Committee believes Nikki is a victim of the criminal justice system, and will not accept this result of Nikki protecting her own life, as well as that of her children's.It's not shocking that 67% of women sent to prison in 2005 for killing someone close to them were abused by the victim of their crime (NYS Department of Corrections and Community Supervision). Rebecca and Wendy share their expertise and advocacy work around not just Nikki's case, but also for every woman who is being held hostage by their abuser, and sees the only way out is to defend themselves in whatever manner possible. By raising awareness about Nikki and the horrific abuse she survived, the Committee aims to keep other victims of domestic violence from being criminalized by the courts, but more than that, they work tirelessly to continue advocating on behalf of Nikki, so that she may be justly returned home to live in safety with her two children. On April 22, 2021, Nicole Addimando will stand before a judge for her appeal hearing and the hope and prayer is that Nikki's sentence will be overturned. We Stand With Nikki and other criminalized survivors, that justice indeed will be served, and Nikki will no longer be criminalized for her right to survive, and that she will be rightfully returned to the arms of her two children, so that she may take her place as a pillar of strength and resilience in her community, once again. For more information about We Stand With Nikki and the Nicole Addimando Community Defense Committee, as well as a complete resource list for organizations and articles about Nikki and the issue around criminalizing survivors, go to: https://westandwithnikki.com/*** For more in depth information on Nikkis case and the overall issue of criminalized survival keep an eye out for Justine Vanderluen's upcoming podcast "Believe Her" presented by Lemonada in association with Speigel and Grau, set to be released Fall of 2021.Meet Wendy:Wendy Freedman is a clinical psychologist and the director of the Vassar College Counseling Service. Deep affection and love for her family, friends and community has led to a passion for social justice, and a commitment to partner with fellow allies to try to contribute to positive change. Wendy has been honored to be a member of the Nicole Addimando Community Defense Committee for over 3 years and is privileged to work with an incredible group of advocates to fight for Nikki and all criminalized survivors. Meet Rebecca:Rebecca McWilliams is the Executive Director of Girls on the Run Birmingham in Birmingham Alabama. She is a native of Baltimore, MD and received her BA in Public Communications from American University. She is passionate about empowering women and girls, and through her work advocating for Nikki Addimando, has become increasingly aware of our troubled criminal justice and prison systems and the deep inequities that exist within those systems. She is a proud member of the Nicole Addimando Community Defense Committee. Support the show (http://www.paypal.com)

Apr 18

1 hr 5 min

April is Sexual Violence Awareness Month, and so The Two Jess(es) think it's time for a conversation about Women's safety and how it is absolutely NOT a woman's issue, it's a human right's issue, and Meredith Moore of Greylake Training Solutions is here to educate us all on this crucial issue. And her education approach is for EVERYONE.  She works to arm women with situational awareness and intuition skills that will empower them to protect themselves in a way that enables them detect subtle cues that help them assess behaviors and situations, ultimately trusting their intuition.This is an episode every person should make time to listen to. And while the focus is on women's safety, this conversation is a deep dive into how we trust our intuition, how we get to really know it- and Jess B shares a very personal story about her experience of shutting off her intuition and how it changed her life.To Register for Meredith's Awareness Training click here and use the code WESTAT2021 for  25% off:  https://academy.globalguardian.com/courses/womens-safety-awareness Meet Meredith!Meredith Moore, Founder and CEO of Greylake Training Solutions, has been teaching women's security awareness training for eight years. Meredith led women's security programs in her previous positions in the corporate security departments at the World Bank, the International Monetary Fund, and through her consulting firm, which she founded in 2018. She was also a member of the United Nation's working group on women's security awareness training and has personally taught over 1000 women safety skillsthroughout her career, and she's just getting started. At the end of this month, Greylake is partnering with Global Guardian to launch an online women's security awareness training.Support the show (http://www.paypal.com)

Apr 12

46 min 46 sec

Another part of Jess B's life is that as a working professional speaker. She has spent the last several years traveling the country working the speaker's circuit, and through her work, she has had the opportunity to create so many new connections, and the following conversation is a result of those relationships.Annette Brechbill, founder of Brechbill Group Speaker Management andConsultancy, shares her unique working collaboration with fellow speaker management agent, Mirjana Novkovic about pushing each other out of their comfort zones and asking for what they are worth. Through the work they do together, and separately, they can attest to their experience of helping each other, and supporting one another and using it as their superpower to build their business into a flourishing, thriving company that helps speakers share their vital stories- because words matter, and stories will change the world. A bit about the business of the speaker's world, but mostly about what it means to be a woman in the working world, and what it could look like to combine forces, this episode is truly inspiring for women who are looking for a positive example of working with other women, supporting other women, going into business with other women. Practical advice from these two power house women on how to coordinate and ultimately succeed!Meet Annette!Annette Brechbill is a Keynote Speakers Agent, Virtual Event Content Creator, TEDx Executive Producer, and member of the International Association of Speakers Bureaus (IASB.) Like many military spouses, Annette has an eclectic background. Originally from Australia, she has lived in 6 countries and visited 60 more. Annette has worked wholesale travel agent in Australia, a flight attendant in Bahrain, and as a diplomat at US Embassy London.  Annette’s passion for the power of storytelling lead her to join Washington Speakers Bureau as a Speaker Relationship Manager. There she oversaw a portfolio of 40 Exclusive speakers who generated 25 million dollars in revenue annually. Her portfolio included names such as Madeline Albright, Arianna Huffington, and former British Prime Minister, David Cameron, and your very own Jessica Buchanan!  Annette’s company, Brechbill Group Speaker Management and Consultancy, leverages skills and knowledge she gained by closing deals for world leaders to share the wisdom of her speakers with organizations across the globe.   On the consultancy side of her work, she combines forces with the amazing Mirjana Novkovic to create video and written marketing assets that help speakers reach their customers and close more deals.    Annette is mumma to 3 young children and Navy wife. She is a lover of good wine, trashy tv, and 90’s music. Meet Mirjana!Mirjana Novkovic brings more than 20 years of experience within the global speaking industry. She is the Founder and Principal of Evoke Invoke Speaker Consultancy,  working with global speakers who Evoke Emotion and Invoke Action.Mirjana is a leading relationship manager focused on developing and championing her speaker clients by being deeply committed and emotionally invested in their message and purpose and by positioning them within the speaker bureau marketplace, Mirjana previously spent 16 years with the Harry Walker Agency (HWA) in New York, where she held primary responsibilities within their Client Relations division as a liaison between some of the world’s leading speakers and Fortune 100 clients and she served as Vice President of Marketing for over 12 years. During her time at HWA, Mirjana oversaw the marketing strategies for more than 150 iconic exclusive speakers, including many of the most globally sought-after and high-profile World Leaders, C-suite ESupport the show (http://www.paypal.com)

Apr 5

38 min 53 sec

Oh, it's just a little white lie. No harm, no foul....right? In this episode, The Two Jess(es) sit down for a fascinating (and inconclusive) conversation with author of Would I Lie To You?, Judi Ketteler. With authentic curiosity, and in the spirit of self-exploration, Judi makes a case, through her writing, and this conversation, for setting intention to check in with those little white lies. What motivates us to not tell the entire truth? Is it for the sake of the other person's feelings or safety? Or is it for ours? Is it because we don't want to expend the mental energy it might take to address the truths that we swat at like little fruit flies, demanding us to face...the truth about ourselves or others? Jess B confesses she lies. A lot. Especially on her Noom app. Jess K (as always) poses some really great questions about how we might move from dishonesty to total honesty with the person that matters the most: ourselves.Lots of great thought provoking takeaways on this episode!Meet Judi!Judi Ketteler has been writing stories since she was old enough to hold a pencil. She got her professional start working as a copywriter for a small agency, but has been a full-time freelance writer since 2002. An award-winning essayist, she has contributed to dozens of publications, including The New York Times, The Washington Post, Los Angeles Magazine, TIME, Scientific American, Good Housekeeping, Runner’s World, and others. She is also the author of two books about sewing. Judi has a B.A. in English from Northern Kentucky University, and an M.A. in English from Miami University of Ohio. She lives in Cincinnati with her husband and two children, where she enjoys running, yoga, and doing flips on the trampoline.Would I Lie To You? The Amazing Power of Being Honest in a World That Lies.https://www.amazon.com/Would-Lie-You-Amazing-Honest/dp/0806540087Support the show (http://www.paypal.com)

Mar 29

46 min 33 sec

This week's episode is a little different from the usual, but it is oh, so , fun! The Two Jess(es) sit down for an entertaining conversation about shopping and all the products you didn't know you needed (and most of them under $20!) with "Gee Thanks, Just Bought It!" podcast host, Caroline Moss. Caroline shares her inspiration for starting a podcast that serves to simplify the shopping experience by inviting guests on to share a product that they actually love and would recommend. No "Goop" priced products on this podcast- think shopping guides for all the things you didn't know you needed, under 20 bucks! In addition to simplifying the shopping experience for consumers who are going to shop anyway, Caroline has become quite the benefactor of $2 contributions to various mutual aid organizations throughout the United States. To date, "Geezers" have donated over $80,000 since July, to those who are most in need.If you are into hot tubs, CBD bath bombs and kids books- you will really enjoy this episode!Meet Caroline!Author (and shopping expert) Caroline Moss knows where to find all the life-changing under-the-radar products you didn’t think you needed — like hand warmers that double as phone chargers, foot hammocks, and full-face ice masks. If she doesn’t, she knows who to call.Each Friday she and a savvy guest give you the real deal on their favorite recent purchases and reveal where you can find them too. Every Thursday, Geezers chip in $2 toward a big pot that goes to a different non-profit or mutual aid fund. So far they’ve donated $50,000. Because shopping for yourself isn’t that much fun if you’re not helping others along the way.Caroline has written five books (HEY LADIES!, and the “Work It, Girl!” kids books), and is a freelance producer and writer. She lived in Brooklyn for ten years before moving to Los Angeles with her husband and cats Kevin and Steve. To find out more, visit: https://www.geethanksjustboughtit.com/gtjbi and you can find Caroline's show, "Gee Thanks, Just Bought It" wherever you listen to podcasts.Support the show (http://www.paypal.com)

Mar 22

40 min 46 sec

Do you know where your money is coming from? How much is coming in and how much is going out? Who is does your taxes? When is your mortgage due? Is your name on the title of your home? The Two Jess(es) sit down with Monica O'Neill,  International Investment Executive, who is passionate about making sure women and girls are literate and well versed in the area of finances.  Monica believes knowledge is power, especially when it comes to your money. In this episode, Jess and Jess get practical tips on how to ensure they stay well informed on their personal finances, how to prepare for the inevitable rainy day ahead, and more than anything, they connect over the empowerment of financial independence, whether you are bringing in $1 or $1 million.Meet Monica!Ms O’Neill is the CEO of ENSO Advisors LLC, a comprehensiveequity capital, marketing and investment product development consultancy she founded in2015. ENSO advises on the expansion of companies’ client base and investment products,improvement of marketing and compliance, augmentation of their international profile, andpreparation for programmatic or equity capital campaigns. Her clients are global andcollectively manage over $11 Billion in AUM.She is an international investment executive with over 30 years’ experience in fundraising,global marketing and market entry, public/private partnerships, risk management andcompliance. She has a proven track record of working at top executive levels within leadingglobal organizations and Fortune 500 companies, especially private equity real estate firms.She is comfortable navigating countries and challenges to consistently deliver bottom lineresults.Ms O’Neill was a founding partner of the award-winning and industry-leading private equity realestate investment firm Tristan Capital Partners, London, UK, which manages over €9 Billion(AUM) for US and EMEA clients. In 2010, she launched Tristan’s brand capitalizing on herstrong relationships with global institutional clients and the international media. She was amanaging member of the team that led the growth of the firm from six to 100 employees in justsix years and remains today an active senior advisor with Tristan consulting on a range ofbusiness development issues.Ms O’Neill was integral to the managed lift out of Tristan from real estate investment managerAEW Europe, where the firm’s founding partners originated from, and brought €1.5 billion inclient capital to the new company.At AEW she led all business development efforts and served on the Global Business PolicyGroup, European Management Committee, and Executive Business Officers Committee. Shewas also an active member of the compliance, risk management and leadership groups ofAEW. Ms O’Neill led a team of 270 AEW Europe staff in eight offices across Europe.In her earlier Washington, DC years. Ms O’Neill led the business development team forinternational multi-manager, Strategic Investment Group founded by Hilda Ochoaheadquartered in Arlington, VA.She was the Managing Partner of The Greater Washington Initiative, the public/privatepartnership formed to promote the Greater Washington region for inbound corporateinvestment.Support the show (http://www.paypal.com)

Mar 15

31 min 41 sec

Just a fun little wrap up to end an incredibly inspiring week of celebrating women! The Two Jess(es) give a rundown on the week's episodes, their thoughts (and feelings, of course!) around the interesting women who have been highlighted:Monday: Cherie Craft of Smart from the StartTuesday: Holly Seibold of BRAWS (Bringing Resources to Aid Women's Shelters)Wednesday: Jonquilyn Hill of WAMA and host of Through The CracksThursday: Darcy Hubbard of CASASupport the show (http://www.paypal.com)

Mar 12

16 min 21 sec

As of 2018, there were approximately 437,283 children in foster care, nationwide. That is a lot of children who may not have someone to advocate on their behalf in court. Our fourth, and final interview highlighting extraordinary women who are making the world a better place, this is grass roots work at it's most fundamental practice.Court Appointed Special Advocates originated in Seattle, Washington where, in 1977, a Superior Court Judge, David Soukup, developed a pilot program for volunteer advocates, named Court Appointed Special Advocates, or CASA volunteers, who would be trained to serve as the “eyes and ears” of the judge into the environments and circumstances of abused and neglected children and to serve as the voice for each child in Court.In this episode, The Two Jess(es) sit down for a REAL conversation with Fairfax County, Virginia CASA Executive Director, Darcy Hubbard about the life changing work a committed volunteer can make in a child's life who has been passed through the system. An informative episode about the possibilities of impacting at risk youth through the practice of advocacy and collaboration. For more information about CASA and volunteering please visit:https://www.fairfaxcasa.org/Support the show (http://www.paypal.com)

Mar 11

47 min 53 sec

In our third episode in this series that celebrates the incredible work women are doing for International Women's Week, The Two Jess(es) sit down for a conversation with investigative reporter and NPR's Executive Producer, Jonquilyn Hill about her new podcast Through the Cracks. WAMU's new series investigates the disappearance of 8-year-old Relisha Rudd, who disappeared from a DC homeless shelter in 2014. Through her work, Jonquilyn continues to bring dignity to the forefront as she asks the really difficult, and often uncomfortable, questions related to class that divide a city like Washington DC. She addresses the underlying issues that have formed the infrastructures that allow people, children like Ralisha, fall through the cracks. Yet another inspiring woman who is asking hard questions, waiting patiently for answers, and continues to make disenfranchised voices heard as she continues to tell stories that need to be told, must be witnessed, and demand to be understood, in order to make lasting change for those in our communities who are the deepest in need.  Meet Jonquilyn Hill! Jonquilyn Hill is host of the investigative podcast Through The Cracks from WAMU and PRX. She's also a senior producer for NPR's weekday news-talk show 1A, and was on the team that helped launch the show. Before joining WAMU, she worked on NPR’s 2016 Elections Desk.Jonquilyn grew up in Kansas, Missouri, and attended high school in New Mexico, where she volunteered at NPR member station KUNM. She graduated from Howard University where she majored in journalism and minored in political science.Prior to producing public radio, she worked at NBC’s Washington Bureau and for NY1. She's called D.C. home for over a decade.Listen to Through The Cracks here: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/through-the-cracks/id1545174922Support the show (http://www.paypal.com)

Mar 10

42 min 19 sec

For this second episode in the We Should Talk About Women Celebration, The Two Jess(es) sit down with Holly Seibold, founder and CEO of the non-profit organization BRAWS (Bringing Resources to Aid Women's Shelters). BRAWS provides pads, tampons, bras and underwear to shelters, schools, prisons, and food pantries to women who may need them. But more than feminine hygiene products, Holly and her team provides women with dignity around a subject that still makes people so uncomfortable. Yet it is one of the simplest problems to solve. Holly educates Jess and Jess on the issues around Period Poverty and Menstrual Equity- something that really needs to be spotlighted in the COVID times we are living in right now. Holly's commitment and passion for equal rights for women who menstruate is inspiring and motivating, and exactly the kind of spirit that IS what the international woman is all about.   Meet Holly Siebold!Holly Seibold is the Founder and Executive Director of BRAWS: Bringing Resources to Aid Women's Shelters. In partnership with generous individuals, foundations, and businesses in the community, Holly and her team of dedicated staff and volunteers have distributed over two million period products and undergarments to women and girls in crisis. In a little more than five years, Holly has built one of the most recognized local nonprofit organizations in the DC region. Holly began her career in the nonprofit sector before becoming an educator in the public school system. Transitioning from the classroom to a small business owner in 2010, Holly launched a successful educational firm, offering STEM consulting services and educational programs to clients. Holly is a fierce advocate for women's rights, testifying in Washington, DC and Richmond in favor of the repeal of the tampon tax and an increased access to menstrual supplies for all girls and women in shelters, schools, jails, and prisons. Holly’s advocacy led to the successful passage of DC Law 21-201 (The Feminine Hygiene and Diapers Sales Tax Exemption Amendment Act of 2016), the 2019 Virginia Senate Bill 1715 (The Dignity Act), and the 2020 Virginia House Bill 405 - mandating menstrual supplies in school bathrooms. Holly also is a co-founder of the Virginia Menstrual Equity Coalition (VMEC), a statewide coalition that mobilizes supporters to collectively take action on the injustice of menstrual inequity. As a result of these efforts and more, Virginia’s General Assembly passed the 2018 House Bill 83 unanimously, requiring correctional facilities to provide menstrual supplies on demand and at no charge to inmates. Holly describes the evolution of this bill in her published piece, “Free to Bleed: Virginia House Bill 83 and the Dignity of Menstruating Inmates,” in Volume 22 of the University of Richmond’s Public Interest Law Review. Exposing issues that much too often remain in the dark, Holly has educated the public on solutions to problems that result from inequity. She has participated in several prominent panels, including Netroots Nation 2018, “Menstrual Equity: Practical Action to Public Policy” and Congresswoman Grace Meng (D-NY), “The Case for Menstrual Equity: How Policies Surrounding Menstruation Affect Outcomes for Women.” She has also presented a TedX Talk on this very issue.  Holly has also been featured in multiple national and local media outlets, but most notably in the Washington Post article, "The Once-Whispered Topic of Women's Menstruation Now Has Political Cachet." Holly proudly servSupport the show (http://www.paypal.com)

Mar 9

41 min 5 sec

Happy International Women's Day from The Two Jess(es)! In celebration of all the incredible women in the WeSTAT community, our gift to you is the release of one episode every day this week. Jess and Jess have put together an inspiring line up of women who are making a difference in the world around them by practicing the values and virtues of THE INTERNATIONAL WOMAN (which include):JusticeDignityHopeEqualityCollaborationTenacityAppreciationRespectEmpathyForgivenessToday we celebrate community support through our conversation with Cherie Craft, CEO and Founder of Smart from the Start, a non-profit with programs running in inner city Boston and DC. Cherie shares their grassroots approach to setting up and living, breathing, working, in the communities that they are working to serve. The foundation of supporting the parents in order to increase a child's chances of life long success is simple yet profound in the way it works to change families perspectives of themselves, their capabilities and what it means to be a part of a community.This is a moving conversation that honors women in their strength, commitment and innovation. And is the perfect way to kick off this momentous week!https://smartfromthestart.org/Meet Cherie Craft:Cherie Craft is a native of inner city Boston, where she’s raised 5 children. She’s dedicated her life to educating children and empowering families living in challenging situations. Having studied Sociology and Counseling Psychology, she began her career in Pediatrics at Boston City Hospital and is now the Founder/CEO and Executive Director of Smart from the Start, a community engagement and family support organization that promotes the healthy development of young children and families. Additionally, for 22 years Ms. Craft has served as senior faculty with the National Institute for Family Centered Care, and after recently stepping down from the Community Board of Children’s Hospital Boston, Ms. Craft was appointed to the Maternal Mortality Review Committee and Maternal Child Health Council of DC. Ms. Craft engages in national and international speaking engagements and is a member of the NAACP, Urban League, and International Society for the Prevention of Child Abuse, among other organizations. Support the show (http://www.paypal.com)

Mar 8

54 min 23 sec

LADIES. Pop in some ear buds, and get comfy. Dr. Bat Sheva is about to blow your sex socks off,  and we're not being metaphorical here! Dr. Bat Sheva, Clinical Director of Maze Women's Sexual Health, breaks it down- why you might not want to be having sex right now- and her newly released book  Sex Points: Reclaim your Sex Life with a Multi-Point System has the answers to getting you back into bed! The Two Jess(es) have (as always) the most fun, talking about sex, vibrators, the M word, and the BIG OOO (and so much more!) Dr. Marcus is here to answer your questions, and what she can't answer in this hour, she most certainly will in her book as she outlines her multi point system for identifying the areas that need help.With comic relief and an incredible wealth of knowledge and experience, Dr. Bat Sheva blows the lid off stigma associated with not wanting to have sex, painful sex, sex for one, and normalizes the conversation. Her message, while lively and often times hilarious, is really one of hope. If you are a woman, or identify as one, and have lost your sex drive,  your libido is lacking, or you can't turn the To-Do list off in your mind....well, that is something we really think we should be talking about!Meet Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus!DR. BAT SHEVA MARCUS, LCSW, MPH, PHD, CLINICAL DIRECTOR of MAZE Women's Sexual Health CenterDr. Bat Sheva Marcus is a certified sex therapist and the author of Sex Points: Reclaim Your Sex Life with the Revolutionary Point System. Dr. Marcus is the Clinical Director of Maze Women’s Sexual Health, the largest independent sexual health center in the country. She wrote her dissertation on women and vibrator use while earning her Doctor of Philosophy in human sexuality from the Institute of Advanced Study of Human Sexuality. She also has a Master’s in public health from the same institution. She is a licensed social worker with a Master’s degree from Columbia University.Dr. Marcus has worked as the executive director of not-for-profit institutions and corporations, medical practices and laboratories. In addition to being featured in a NY Times article, she is a frequent guest on radio, podcasts and has lectured both nationally and overseas on a wide variety of women’s issues.Read Dr. Bat Sheva Marcus’ PhD Dissertation: Changes in a Woman’s Sexual Experience and Expectations Following the Introduction of Electric Vibrator AssistanceSupport the show (http://www.paypal.com)

Mar 1

54 min 28 sec

Anyone out there considering  a divorce (or who knows someone who is) needs to listen to this episode with Alexandria, VA local family law attorney, Donne Colton.  In this episode, Donne walks The Two Jess(es) through the intricacies of working through the, often times, devastating experience of divorce, and offers another alternative: an opportunity for collaboration. For those who are at the crossroads of whether to stay, or go, there are so many fears, questions and feelings to sift through. Donne explains how a team of professionals, those trained in mediation, financial literacy and mental health can enable a couple an alternative to litigation, potentially providing a softer landing for the rock bottom experience of divorce.Donne brings his heart and soul to his practice and handles his clients with the dignity and care they deserve. He believes in the transformational work he offers to his clients, and after listening to this episode, you might too.Meet Donne!Donne Colton has been in private practice from 1986-present. He was an instructor for the Virginia Judicial System at the Key Bridge Therapy and Mediation Center, 1996-1997. Formerly certified as a Family Mediator by the Supreme Court of Virginia, he is a member of the following collaborative professional organizations:Collaborative Professionals of Northern Virginia (CPNV) ;Virginia Collaborative Professionals(VaCP) ;International Academy of Collaborative Professionals (IACP).To find out more about Donne and his work: http://www.lawdmc.com/profiles.htmlSupport the show (http://www.paypal.com)

Feb 22

46 min 48 sec

It is estimated that over 40 million Americans, and one billion people worldwide suffer from migraine disease. What is migraine disease? And how serious is it? Here to explain from their own personal experiences, this migraine advocate Eileen Brewer and Dr. Joanna Kempner shine a huge spotlight on this terribly common and often debilitating disease.In this episode, The Two Jess(es) talk with these two incredibly resilient women who have dedicated their lives, work and research to advocate on behalf of themselves and the millions that suffer along with them. The ramifications of living with chronic illness are indeed serious, the frustrations that come with not being taken seriously, and the often debated topic of addiction to drugs as opposed to dependence to find some relief. Also, a lot of talk about psychedelics in this one! If you, or someone you know and love is suffering from migraine, or any other chronic illness, this episode is packed full of useful information and a feast for your thoughts. Meet Eileen Brewer!Eileen is an event coordinator and advocate for those living with headache diseases. She is the President of Clusterbusters, the Director of Special Events for the Coalition for Headache and Migraine Patients, a member of the National Headache Foundation’s Patient Leadership Council, and is a moderator for Move Against Migraine.As a wife and mother of two, Mrs. Brewer balances her life in the headache community with various personal commitments, including sitting as the President of a preschool, leading a Girl Scout troop, and managing several real estate investment properties. Eileen has devoted herself over the years to many volunteer opportunities including local and national political initiatives, and event planning and advocacy for local charities. Meet Dr. Joanna Kempner!I am an Associate Professor of Sociology at Rutgers University where I research, teach, and speak about the relationship between science, medicine, and justice, and the political suppression of science and resistance movements that fight politically motivated ignorance. In 2014, I wrote the award-winning book Not Tonight: Migraine and the Politics of Gender and Health (Chicago). My work strives to give voice to those who are too often silenced, which means that much of my research focuses on questions that most people rarely think about: Whose pain matters? Why are there so few effective treatments for pain? What are the challenges of living a life in pain? Over the years, I’ve found that ignorance drives too many  decisions about science and health. So I’ve also worked at understanding how and why some topics are never studied, and how certain “forbidden” subjects can reemerge as viable scientific investigations. To this end, I am currently writing a book about the underground research networks responsible for bringing psychedelics back to medicine. You can read more about my work here.For more information about various organizations mentioned in this episode:Cluster Busters: https://clusterbusters.org/Coalition for Headache and Migraine: https://headachemigraine.org/https://www.joannakempner.com/Support the show (http://www.paypal.com)

Feb 15

44 min 52 sec

Why do we wait to tell the people we love the most how much they mean to us, until they are gone? In her 2019 TEDx Seattle talk (that immediately went viral) Andrea Driessen, addresses this cultural norm, and challenges it with her own experience as a hospice volunteer. After sitting with people who are making the transition from this life to the next, Andrea started thinking about how much more meaningful it would be if we shared with people how much we love them, and what an impact they have made on our lives, before they were gone.In this conversation, TTJ(es) talk with Andrea about the gift of sharing our hearts with people who mean so much to us, before they it's too late. You will feel inspired to write your own Grace Notes after listening to this episode.Meet Andrea!Andrea (AN dree ah) Driessen (DREE sen)She’s dedicated her career to helping people and organizations become more effective and capable. And Andrea has owned a speakers’ bureau, No More Boring Meetings, for over 20 years.As a hospice volunteer, Andrea understands the profound power of open and caring communication between those who are dying and their loved ones. Through it all, she’s witnessed the life-changing effects that writing what she calls Gracenotes has on anyone. Gracenotes are definitely something that Andrea believes we should talk about.Her latest initiative is A Greater Legacy, via which Andrea custom - designs virtual celebrations of life for families who have lost a loved one.https://www.grace-notes.org/Support the show (http://www.paypal.com)

Feb 8

42 min 59 sec

***Tough Topic Alert***February 1-7, 2021 is Sexual Abuse and Sexual Violence Awareness Week. Child Protective Services substantiates a case of childhood sexual abuse Every NINE MINUTES (9)- and those are just the cases that are reported. We don't talk about it often, loudly, or nearly enough. To raise awareness on this critical issue, The Two Jess(es) sit down with Gia Hasan, creator of Urban Sanctuary Wellness  https://urbansanctuarywellness.com/ a community space set up to help support corporations, schools and individuals in trauma and disease recovery, to talk about this important topic that affects more people than we know. In this episode, Gia shares her story of childhood sexual abuse and trauma, and demonstrates the healing and beauty that come with using your voice. This is not an easy conversation for anyone to have, but restoration cannot come if we continue to avoid talking about it. Stigma builds strength when we refuse to practice saying the words: "I was abused, I am a survivor. I am not broken." Gia brings a survivor's wisdom to this conversation with Jess and Jess-and while the topic is dark, there is so much light that comes with embodying who we are inside our pain, and there is hope to get to the other side of it. Gia shows us what it means to practice resilience and how to model vulnerability in a gentle and refreshing way. If you or someone you know is a victim of sexual abuse or violence, contact the National Sexual Assault Hotline at 800.656.HOPE (4673) or visit https://www.rainn.org/about-national-sexual-assault-telephone-hotline. For more information on Sexual Abuse and Sexual Violence Awareness Week, visit: https://sexualabuseandsexualviolenceawarenessweek.orgMeet Gia:Gia (she/they) is an integrative mind-body wellness coach and mindfulness meditation teacher, working with corporations, schools, and individuals and groups in trauma and disease recovery.Gia’s meditation practice began in childhood with their ancestral influences of yoga, Ayurveda, and Sufism. As a survivor of childhood sexual abuse, meditation has been one of the greatest healing tools throughout their life. She has worked with non-profit organizations and corporations in stress management, building resilience, and cultivating empathy. Gia believes in the innate wisdom we have within us to heal and thrive, and utilizes their skills in nutrition, complementary and alternative medicine, and trauma-informed mindfulness to coach and educate.Born and raised in the UK, she currently lives in the DC suburbs running a business and raising two children. As an activist, she works for justice in the community and holds workshops in unconscious bias, diversity, equity, inclusion, and access. Before covid, she was working with other survivors and at-risk communities. Gia is an avid lover of the arts, and writes poetry and short stories. She co-hosts a podcast, Relatively Nobody,  which creates space for BIPOC and marginalized voices to foster community and healing.https://sexualabuseandsexualviolenceawarenessweek.orgSupport the show (http://www.paypal.com)

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Feb 1

57 min 49 sec

At the age of 41, Rachel Lankester decided to take menopause by the ovaries and do it HER way.  When trying for another child, Rachel found out she was actually mid-menopause and after spending time in deep soul searching, decided she was going to turn mid-life on its head and make it cool again! In this episode, TTJ(es) have so much fun talking with Rachel about what menopause CAN look like: it doesn't have to signal the end, but can be a kick-ass start to a whole new you! Rachel shares her own experience and excitement about the possibilities that come with moving away from nurturing everyone else when your estrogen nosedives, and the creativity that is possible when we allow ourselves to take on the role of a Leader instead of a Breeder.Helpful advice about lubricant, vibrators and self-pleasuring are just some of the recommendations Rachel brings with her wealth of knowledge on this episode of We Should Talk About That!Meet Rachel!Rachel Lankester is the founder of the Magnificent Midlife Movement, celebrating and empowering women 40+.  She's passionate about changing how society perceives women in midlife and beyond, and also how we view ourselves. She's on a mission to disrupt negative ageist and sexist stereotypes about older women, menopause and aging. After an early menopause at 41, followed by a period of soul-searching, she created what she wasn't able to find to help her cope. The Magnificent Midlife world includes mentoring, a online community, educational resources, an inspiring podcast and self-study programs to help midlife women refresh, re-energize and recalibrate. Links mentioned in episode:Pjur Lubricant:https://www.amazon.com/pjur-Original-Silicone-Personal-Lubricant/dp/B083YSPC9T/ref=sr_1_9?crid=1UCXYK5LJCR5K&dchild=1&keywords=pjur+water+based+lubricant+for+sex&qid=1611444577&sprefix=pjur%2Caps%2C157&sr=8-9The Happy Menopause by Jackie Lynchhttps://www.amazon.com/Happy-Menopause-Smart-Nutrition-Flourish/dp/B08G2N7BRL/ref=sr_1_1?crid=18C0WZDNSCAX4&dchild=1&keywords=the+happy+menopause&qid=1611444619&sprefix=the+happy+meno%2Caps%2C134&sr=8-1Support the show (http://www.paypal.com)

Jan 25

45 min 12 sec