Relationship Doctor

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Dr. Rachel Vanderbilt is a relationship scientist whose research examines how we communicate in our romantic relationships. On the Relationship Doctor podcast, she'll share evidence-backed research on how to live, love, and communicate with your partner.

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While you might have guessed that being affectionate can improve your relationship's health, did you know it can improve your physical and mental health, too? In this episode, Dr. Rachel Vanderbilt, the Relationship Doctor, explains the health benefits of affectionate communication. Read the companion article on Quick and Dirty Tips. Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows. Subscribe to the Relationship Doctor podcast.  Join the conversation on Facebook and Twitter. Links: https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/ https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/subscribe https://www.facebook.com/quickdirtytips https://twitter.com/quickdirtytips  

Nov 21

7 min 49 sec

The holidays can be a time of great joy and good food, but can also be a source of tension in our relationships. In this episode, Dr. Rachel Vanderbilt, the Relationship Doctor, provides advice on how to navigate difficult conversations about where to spend the holidays this season. Read the companion article on Quick and Dirty Tips. Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows. Subscribe to the Relationship Doctor podcast.  Join the conversation on Facebook and Twitter. Links: https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/ https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/subscribe https://www.facebook.com/quickdirtytips https://twitter.com/quickdirtytips  

Nov 14

9 min 8 sec

Which of the seven kinds of love are you experiencing in your relationship today? In this episode, Dr. Rachel Vanderbilt, the Relationship Doctor, explains the Triangular Theory of Love and the three core components of love that are the pillars of romantic relationships. Read the companion article on Quick and Dirty Tips. Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows. Subscribe to the Relationship Doctor podcast.  Join the conversation on Facebook and Twitter. Links: https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/ https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/subscribe https://www.facebook.com/quickdirtytips https://twitter.com/quickdirtytips  

Nov 7

8 min 13 sec

How can you build and sustain a meaningful and happy relationship while long-distance? In this episode, Dr. Rachel Vanderbilt, the Relationship Doctor, explains how you can maintain your long-distance relationships. Read the companion article on Quick and Dirty Tips. Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows. Subscribe to the Relationship Doctor podcast.  Join the conversation on Facebook and Twitter. Links: https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/ https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/subscribe https://www.facebook.com/quickdirtytips https://twitter.com/quickdirtytips

Oct 31

9 min 19 sec

Love languages have been a pop culture sensation for nearly 30 years—but are they based in any actual science? In this episode, Dr. Rachel Vanderbilt, the Relationship Doctor, explains why love languages are not scientific, but why they may be useful anyway. Read the companion article on Quick and Dirty Tips. Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows. Subscribe to the Relationship Doctor podcast.  Join the conversation on Facebook and Twitter. Links: https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/ https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/subscribe https://www.facebook.com/quickdirtytips https://twitter.com/quickdirtytips

Oct 24

9 min

Does online dating feel more like a game and less like a process of finding your right person? Dr. Rachel Vanderbilt, the Relationship Doctor, explains why having too many choices in your dating apps may actually lead you to be less satisfied in your resulting relationships. Read the companion article on Quick and Dirty Tips. Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows. Subscribe to the Relationship Doctor podcast.  Join the conversation on Facebook and Twitter. Links: https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/ https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/subscribe https://www.facebook.com/quickdirtytips https://twitter.com/quickdirtytips

Oct 17

7 min 32 sec

Why is it that some relationship research doesn't resonate with you and your experiences? In this episode, Dr. Rachel Vanderbilt, the Relationship Doctor, explains why some relationship data is just plain WEIRD. Read the companion article on Quick and Dirty Tips. Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows. Subscribe to the Relationship Doctor podcast.  Join the conversation on Facebook and Twitter. Links: https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/ https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/subscribe https://www.facebook.com/quickdirtytips https://twitter.com/quickdirtytips

Oct 10

8 min 12 sec

Perfect relationships don't exist. So why do we pretend they do when we look at other couples on social media? In this episode, Dr. Rachel Vanderbilt, the Relationship Doctor, explains how social comparisons can negatively affect your relationship. Read the companion article on Quick and Dirty Tips. Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows. Join the conversation on Facebook and Twitter. Links: https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/ https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/subscribe https://www.facebook.com/quickdirtytips https://twitter.com/quickdirtytips

Oct 3

7 min 35 sec

Have you ever felt like your help went unnoticed or was unappreciated by your partner? Dr. Rachel Vanderbilt, the Relationship Doctor, explains invisible support efforts and the different ways we provide support to our partners. Read the companion article on Quick and Dirty Tips. Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows. Join the conversation on Facebook and Twitter. Links: https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/ https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/subscribe https://www.facebook.com/quickdirtytips https://twitter.com/quickdirtytips  

Sep 26

8 min 54 sec

Ever wanted to give a relationship a second chance? In this episode, Dr. Rachel Vanderbilt, the Relationship Doctor, explains the risks of on-again/off-again relationships. Read the companion article on Quick and Dirty Tips. Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows. Join the conversation on Facebook and Twitter. Links: https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/ https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/subscribe https://www.facebook.com/quickdirtytips https://twitter.com/quickdirtytips

Sep 19

9 min 12 sec

Stuck in a situationship and aren't sure how to make it into a relationship? In this episode, Dr. Rachel Vanderbilt explains why defining your relationship is important for your mental health and how to have that risky conversation. Read the transcript. Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows. Subscribe to the Relationship Doctor podcast.  Join the conversation on Facebook and Twitter. Links: https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/ https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/subscribe https://www.facebook.com/quickdirtytips https://twitter.com/quickdirtytips

Sep 12

8 min 1 sec

While it may not happen consciously, everyone does a cost-benefit analysis of their relationship in difficult moments. What considerations lead people to stay or leave their relationships?

Sep 5

7 min 36 sec

Ever used a secret test, like waiting for a partner to text you first, to assess the state of your relationship? Dr. Rachel Vanderbilt, the Relationship Doctor, explains why secret tests can actually be harmful to your relationship. Read the transcript. Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows. Subscribe to the Relationship Doctor podcast.  Join the conversation on Facebook and Twitter. Links: https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/ https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/subscribe https://www.facebook.com/quickdirtytips https://twitter.com/quickdirtytips

Aug 29

9 min 31 sec

Have you been ghosted by a romantic partner? Dr. Rachel Vanderbilt, the Relationship Doctor, explains why people resort to ghosting when things aren't working out, and how to cope with being ghosted if it happens to you. Read the transcript. Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows. Subscribe to the Relationship Doctor podcast.  Join the conversation on Facebook and Twitter. Links: https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/ https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts https://www.quickanddirtytips.com/subscribe https://www.facebook.com/quickdirtytips https://twitter.com/quickdirtytips

Aug 22

7 min 40 sec

In light of the recent divorce announcements of several high profile couples in their 50s and 60s, Relationship Doctor Rachel Vanderbilt explores some of the reasons for the rise in "gray divorce."

Aug 15

7 min 42 sec

Small talk on dating apps can feel awkward and corny--but it's also a way to assess compatibility before you waste your time.

Aug 8

7 min 17 sec

Data from the 1980s and 1990s showed that moving in with a romantic partner before marriage was associated with an increased risk of divorce. But that conclusion doesn't tell the whole story.

Aug 1

7 min 39 sec

The Relationship Doctor podcast will return to your favorite podcast app for weekly episodes beginning August 2. Now hosted by Dr. Rachel Vanderbilt, Relationship Doctor will bring friendly advice based on cutting-edge relationship science right to your ears. Make sure to follow Relationship Doctor wherever you get your podcasts.

Jul 19

1 min 43 sec

The goal of any intimate conversation is simple: to know your partner more fully, and to be more fully known by them. Everything else is secondary. TRANSCRIPT: https://quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/intimate-conversation | Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts JOIN THE CONVERSATION: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/StephenSnyderMD/ | Twitter: https://twitter.com/SexualityToday

Dec 2019

9 min 49 sec

If you're among the one in five adults with anxious attachment style, you're probably extra sensitive to signs of emotional danger in a relationship. Here's what you can do. TRANSCRIPT & LINKS: Read the transcript: https://quickanddirtytips.com/relationships/marriage/anxious-attachment-style | Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts JOIN THE CONVERSATION: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/StephenSnyderMD/ | Twitter: https://twitter.com/SexualityToday

Dec 2019

10 min 26 sec

One of you wants to talk about your relationship. The other one would cheerfully rather submit to a tax audit. Here are some practical suggestions. TRANSCRIPT & LINKS: Read the transcript: https://quickanddirtytips.com/relationships/marriage/we-need-talk | Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts JOIN THE CONVERSATION: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/StephenSnyderMD/ | Twitter: https://twitter.com/SexualityToday

Dec 2019

9 min 57 sec

Children's TV host Fred Rogers had an unusual capacity for love that few of us can attain. But his example can inspire the rest of us to love more deeply. TRANSCRIPT & LINKS: Read the transcript: https://quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/medical-conditions/childrens-health/mister-rogers | Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts JOIN THE CONVERSATION: Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/StephenSnyderMD/ | Twitter: https://twitter.com/SexualityToday

Dec 2019

10 min 54 sec

Texting in a relationship can be fun, sexy, and even useful. But there are also some huge pitfalls to avoid. Is your relationship text smart? TRANSCRIPT & LINKS Read the transcript: https://quickanddirtytips.com/relationships/dating/text-relationship Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: https://quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts JOIN THE CONVERSATION Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/StephenSnyderMD/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/SexualityToday

Dec 2019

11 min

Some people have trouble regulating their use of video games. Here's what to do if you think your partner might be one of them. TRANSCRIPT & LINKS Read the transcript: https://quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/addicted-video-games Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts JOIN THE CONVERSATION Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/StephenSnyderMD/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/SexualityToday

Nov 2019

10 min 28 sec

Intimate communication is inherently risky, but that's where the greatest rewards are. Here's a quick guide to doing it right. TRANSCRIPT & LINKS Read the transcript: https://quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/intimate-communication Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts JOIN THE CONVERSATION Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/StephenSnyderMD/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/SexualityToday

Nov 2019

11 min 6 sec

Science has learned a lot recently about our instinct to stay secure by keeping people close. Here's how you can put this knowledge to work. TRANSCRIPT & LINKS Read the transcript: https://quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/attachment-style Check out all tdtps://twitter.com/SexualityToday

Nov 2019

12 min 11 sec

Is your relationship growing strong, or is it time to ... leave? (Yeah, pun intended.) TRANSCRIPT & LINKS Read the transcript: https://quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/self-care/healthy-relationship-signs Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts JOIN THE CONVERSATION Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/StephenSnyderMD/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/SexualityToday

Nov 2019

10 min 48 sec

You don't need gifts or fancy vacations to make your partner happy—it's a whole lot simpler than that. Read the transcript at https://quickanddirtytips.com/relationships/dating/keep-partner-happy Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW RELATIONSHIP DOCTOR Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/StephenSnyderMD/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/SexualityToday

Oct 2019

8 min 43 sec

It's easier than you think to find yourself in a one-sided relationship. Here are three things to look for in a good, equal partner, and they all begin with the letter R. Read the transcript at https://quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/one-sided-relationship Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW RELATIONSHIP DOCTOR Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/StephenSnyderMD/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/SexualityToday

Oct 2019

9 min 21 sec

The best way to win an argument is to make sure your partner feels like they’re winning, too. Here's how. Read the transcript at https://quickanddirtytips.com/relationships/romance/win-argument Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW RELATIONSHIP DOCTOR Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/StephenSnyderMD/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/SexualityToday

Oct 2019

7 min 56 sec

Sex can take a backseat in a relationship for surprising reasons. Here are three ways to keep physical intimacy alive and prevent a sexless relationship. Read the transcript at https://quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/prevent-sexless-relationship Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW RELATIONSHIP DOCTOR Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/StephenSnyderMD/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/SexualityToday

Oct 2019

9 min 15 sec

When you have no idea what the other person is really thinking, it's easy to assume the worst. Here's how to keep your brain from sabotaging your dating life. Read the transcript at https://quickanddirtytips.com/ Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW RELATIONSHIP DOCTOR Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/StephenSnyderMD/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/SexualityToday

Sep 2019

9 min 22 sec

For thirty years, I've watched couples struggle with tough decisions, where compromise just isn't possible. Here's what works, and what doesn't. Read the transcript at https://quickanddirtytips.com/relationships/decision-making-relationships Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW RELATIONSHIP DOCTOR Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/StephenSnyderMD/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/SexualityToday

Sep 2019

8 min 40 sec

Are soulmates real? Believing you've found your one true match may not be the best thing for your relationship. Here's another way to look at "the one." Read the transcript at https://quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/are-soulmates-real Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW RELATIONSHIP DOCTOR Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/StephenSnyderMD/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/SexualityToday

Sep 2019

8 min 16 sec

What do you do when you love someone but their politics drive you crazy? Is it possible to stay connected across a political divide? Read the transcript at https://quickanddirtytips.com/relationships/politics-relationship Check out all the Quick and Dirty Tips shows: www.quickanddirtytips.com/podcasts FOLLOW RELATIONSHIP DOCTOR Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/StephenSnyderMD/ Twitter: https://twitter.com/SexualityToday

Sep 2019

8 min 58 sec

Open relationships can be complicated. Before you go looking for that first extramarital hookup, see if you can answer these seven questions. Read the transcript at https://quickanddirtytips.com/relationships/romance/before-you-try-open-relationship

Sep 2019

11 min 37 sec

If you want to thrive as a long-distance couple, first figure out what stage your relationship is in. Then plan accordingly. Read the transcript at https://quickanddirtytips.com/relationships/kinds-of-long-distance-relationships

Aug 2019

11 min

Want to save your relationship from digital distraction? Make sure you understand the psychology of how online media really works. Read the transcript at https://quickanddirtytips.com/health-fitness/mental-health/save-relationship-technology

Aug 2019

13 min 42 sec

People don’t walk around with name tags saying, “Hi, I’m a pathological narcissist.” So make sure your partner isn't one of them. Here's how. Read the transcript at https://quickanddirtytips.com/  

Aug 2019

12 min 18 sec

It's really not that hard to identify someone's "love language." Just notice what they most complain about! Read the transcript: https://quickanddirtytips.com/relationships/romance/whats-your-love-language

Aug 2019

9 min 54 sec

Introducing a new podcast from Quick and Dirty Tips. Whether you’re just starting out in your relationship or have been married for 50 years, your relationship is ever-evolving. The Relationship Doctor has you covered when it comes to questions at each step of the way.

Jul 2019

2 min 7 sec