The Evolving Man Podcast

Ben Goresky

The Evolving Man podcast features leaders and influencers in the personal growth arena who are actively engaged in "deep work", whether that be as a healer, or someone doing their own work. The guests on this podcast have a unique gift that they bring to the world, and they come to share these gifts with listeners.

Tune in to witness discussions about addiction, consciousness, masculinity,

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Nick Solaczek is a relationship coach and a men’s work leader who inspires men to find the things that are missing in their lives, and reintegrate them. He joined me to discuss men’s alchemy, integration, how men can find their personal power in the current times. In this episode we discuss: Why Nick is involved in Men’s work. What is men’s work? Samurai Brotherhood and upcoming events. Integrity and integration. Group accountability. Online groups vs in person groups. Why is men’s work so important? Lighting a fire, and healthy challenges.  Creating safe spaces for men. Past, present, and future focused work in men’s groups.  The importance of consistency.  Men’s work as a mirror.  Drawing on the power of myth.  The Mythopoetic men’s movement.  Aligned books and courses (linked below). Archetypes in men’s work.  Defining your own masculinity.  The “Masculine core”.  Childhood wounding.  Parallels of Alcoholics Anonymous and Men’s Work Brotherhoods.  The 14 Point Code of the Conscious Warrior.  Rejection and ownership of anger.  The Warrior archetype.  Shadow expressions.  Alchemy - what is it? Honesty and inner-truth.  True Personal Growth.  Inclusivity in the Samurai Brotherhood. Links: Nick’s Website  Nick’s Instagram  Nick’s Facebook Nick’s Previous Evolving Man Episode 1 Nick’s Previous Evolving Man Episode 2  Samurai Brotherhood's Upcoming Workshop Book - Iron John by Robert Bly Book - King, Warrior, Magician, Lover by Robert Moore and Douglas Gillette  Book - The Way of the Superior Man by David Deida Book - The Way of the Conscious Warrior by P.T. Mistlberger  The Integrated Man Course  Connor Beaton's Shadow Work Course  Jordan Peterson Self Authoring Course P.T. Mistlberger's Evolving Man Episode See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Nov 3

1 hr 23 min

Stefanos Sifandos is a relational alchemist who works with people to dissolve fear, find their power, and uncover their blocks to intimacy. He has also been working with men’s circles for years, with Sacred Sons and currently the MPowered Brotherhood in Austin, Texas. Stef joined me to talk about how people can heal their nervous systems using simple practices, ‘safe’ containers, and trauma-informed techniques. In this episode we discuss: Maximizing human potential.  Clearing the clutter of the past. Putting on metaphorical masks. Are we making decisions from places of hurt? Unconscious responses in conflict. Challenging internalized beliefs. Environmental conditioning. Physiological habits. Feeling safe in chaos. Exploring the unknown. Mirroring in relationships. Self-regulation of the nervous system. Pendulation vs. Flooding. Therapeutic experiences in men’s group work. What spaces can help heal our nervous systems? The personal responsibility of doing inner work.  Self-soothing outcomes of psychedelics. Avoiding silence. Stef’s and Ben’s initiation experiences. Connecting with nature.  Simple practices to connect to our true selves. Getting comfortable in discomfort. Challenging ourselves in day-to-day life. Developing resilience through movement.  Links Stef’s Website  Stef’s Instagram Stef’s Twitter Stef’s Facebook 1 on 1 Coaching with Stef Be The Queen Program Stef’s YouTube The MPowered Brotherhood See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Oct 20

48 min 55 sec

Dr. Scott Lyons is a Clinical Psychologist, Osteopath, and Mind-Body Medicine practitioner. His list of qualifications is extensive, and he joined me to discuss the power of somatic work to heal trauma and reconnect people to their bodies. If you are curious about somatic therapy, this episode is a must-listen. Most importantly we discuss Scott’s upcoming training for practitioners to learn about Integrative Somatic Trauma Therapy. We need more people doing this work! In this episode we dig in to:  Trauma work. The definition of somatic therapy. Embodiment: working with the body to heal trauma.  Learning disabilities, and medication. Dance as a form of medicine. Scott’s journey to somatic therapy.  The Wisdom of Trauma.  How somatic therapy works and how it differs from other therapeutic practices. The first universal languages: sensation and breath.  The importance of touch, movement, and sound.  Education systems that disconnect us from our bodies.  Top/down vs. bottom/up healing approaches. Childhood experiences impacting adulthood behavior.  Building up “somatic resources”. Diagnosed PTSD and the potential to heal. Common somatic practices. Conflict resolution.  Ancestral medicine. Trauma sensitive yoga.  Childhood depression is linked to screen time.  Human beings are nature. The ticket to wellness is embodiment.  How to find a somatic therapist. Balancing fire with water.   Links: Scott’s Integrative Somatic Trauma Therapy Training Program Scott’s Website Scott’s Instagram Scott’s Facebook The Wisdom of Trauma  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Sep 15

1 hr 1 min

Adam Jackson is the co-founder of The Sacred Sons, a mens’ community devoted to masculine alchemy. He joined me to talk about the unique way that his community is helping men connect to each other, and find conscious healing. In this episode we discuss: The history and mission of Sacred Sons. Masculine Alchemy. Diversity in men’s spaces. Embodiment - what is it? Healing from mental illness and addiction. Creating sacred, safe spaces. Confronting shadows, biases, and core beliefs to connect with others. Combating divisiveness created by the media. Resisting disconnection amidst COVID controversies. Outsourcing discernment to the media. Collective representation. What work is right in front of you? Self-sabotage. Learning to close relationships properly. The importance of gratitude and celebration. The Lover archetype and how the Sacred Sons conjure it. Brotherhood as medicine. MDMA and plant medicine. Using substances to open up vs. the “drugs” already inside of you. The lack of brotherhood spaces for teens. Mens’ personal responsibility to create connection and culture. Finding growth and space in fatherhood. The return of the Father archetype. Family is a spiritual practice. What is a Sacred Sons Embodied Masculine Experience (EMX).    Links  Sacred Sons Website Sacred Sons Podcast  Brothership App Sacred Sons Facebook Adam’s Instagram EMX Fall ‘21 Schedule Samurai Brotherhood Website See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Sep 1

1 hr 17 min

Dr. Zach Bush is a multi-disciplinary physician of internal medicine, endocrinology, hospice care and an internationally recognized educator on the microbiome as it relates to human health, soil health, food systems, and a regenerative future.  Zach joined me to discuss the current state of health in the world and how living in a toxic environment exacerbates the spread of disease amongst humans. In this episode we discuss: The paradox of views surrounding COVID vaccines. How the immune system works. Flu vaccines increase coronavirus symptoms. GMO mechanisms. The definition of ‘vaccine’. Differences between the COVID vaccines. How spike proteins harm the body. Cas9: our bodies own vaccine cards. Will vaccines get rid of coronavirus? The history of coronaviruses. The flu vs. coronavirus. Myths about PCR and our relationship to coronaviruses. Personal responsibility over our immune systems. Genetic modification of food. What we can learn from the DDT ban. Creating a call to action for our future.  Is SARS Covid 2 a naturally occurring virus? A biological look on how the virus impacts each of our bodies. Histotoxic hypoxia, cyanide poisoning, and hospitalizations. The India outbreak. The importance of breath. Benefits of Vitamin D.  Racial and socioeconomic impacts on the pandemic.  The bottleneck of information on public health. The downsides to social distancing.  Response to critiques of Zach’s from the Conspirituality podcast. Changes in mortality rates and chronic diseases in children. Romanticization of nature. War-like mentality between nature and mankind.  Soil, water, and air systems collapsing modern society.  Intuitive knowing vs. science.  Macro and micro struggles during the pandemic.  Links: Neurohacker Collective Podcast Episode  Rich Roll Podcast Episode Luke Storey Podcast Episode  Mark Groves Podcast Episode  Dr. Doudna’s TED Talk  Zach’s Website Zach’s Twitter   Zach’s Facebook Zach’s Instagram See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Jul 7

1 hr 41 min

Jessica Cadoch is a researcher whose masters’ thesis focussed on building a bridge between the well established 12 step recovery approach for addiction recovery, and the emerging movement of psychedelic assisted therapy for trauma. Since addiction is often rooted in trauma, her question is an important one: “How can addicted people in abstinence-based recovery benefit from the healing that psychedelic therapy can provide, without it qualifying as a ‘relapse’?”. Jessica joined me on the show to discuss this topic and talk about solutions. In this episode we dive into: Jessica’s experience volunteering at the Montreal Psychedelic Society.  Psychedelic assisted therapy.  The groundwork of Jessica’s thesis in Medical Anthropology.  Ben’s journey of learning about psychedelics.  Double standards in 12-Step programs.  Community initiatives progressing the psychedelic revolution.  Building a bridge between 12-Step programs and psychedelic assisted therapy. Spiritual awakenings vs. spiritual experiences.  Changing existing medical models.  Examining phrases and ideologies in 12-Step programs. Original definition of “recreational.” Stigma of psychedelic use in the recovering addicts community.  The importance of intent when using drugs.  Spreading the conversation of psychedelics outside of medical clinics.  The role of demographics in drug use and treatment.  Dr. Carl Hart’s idea of “no bad drugs.” Addiction as a result of systemic issues. How psychedelics could aid society’s current downfalls.  Missing statistical data in the psychedelic movement.  The Maya App: measurement based software for psychedelic therapists and coaches.  Psychedelics: assisted process vs. self-directed process.  How can individuals support the psychedelic movement?  Normalizing conversations about taboo subjects.  Links  Jessica's Instagram - @_jaz.ie Montreal Psychedelic Society Dosed Movie Evolving Man & Dosed Podcast Episode 1 Evolving Man & Dosed Podcast Episode 2 Danielle Negrin Instagram The San Francisco Psychedelic Society Kevin Franciotti Website Carl Hart’s Website Maya Health Psychsem.org See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Jun 16

1 hr 21 min

Ashanti Branch has been mentoring young men and women for 19 years in California. He is the founder of The Ever Forward Club, with a mission of changing the way students relate to learning. He is also the host of the Taking Off The MaskPodcast. Ashanti joined me on the show to talk about how to build emotionally intelligent, resilient, and powerful humans.  In this episode we dive into: Ashanti’s role in the film: The Mask You Live In. Creating a safe space for teenage boys. Talking about feelings vs. writing them down. The origin of “the mask” movement.  Myths about anger. Emotional literacy. Breaking the cycles perpetuated by older generations.  Making money vs. following your purpose. Ashanti’s journey from engineering to teaching.  What it looks like to run Ever Forward and host men’s groups.  Expectations of men in society: repressing feelings that have nowhere to go. The nature of emotions.  Conscious leadership.  Grief co-existing with anger. How to hold space for men experiencing anger.   Emotional expectations of women vs. men.  Examples of Ashanti’s work with boys in schools.  Ashanti’s life-changing path to creating men’s groups. Overcoming the lone wolf narrative: the importance of asking for help.  The magic of appreciation, recognition, and compliments in men sharing’s circles.  The “no homo” phase and what it was pointing to.  Younger generations: open minds and determination.  Gender and sexuality.  COVID vaccines and the divisiveness we are seeing.  Confirmation bias and the news.  Advocating for men to have support teams.  Taking Off the Mask podcast. Links Ashanti’s Instagram Ashanti’s Twitter Ashanti’s Facebook Ashanti’s Website Ever Forward Club Instagram Ever Forward Club Website Mask Challenge  Brad Leslie on The Evolving Man Podcast See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Jun 2

1 hr 3 min

Traver Boehm is the author of Today I Rise, and Man UNcivilized. He’s a men’s coach and the founder of the UNcivilized Men’s Movement. Traver wants to redefine the way men experience their masculinity, by blending the primal elements of manhood with massive doses of consciousness. In this episode, Traver joins me to discuss the challenges men are facing today: from mass depression and suicidality, to mass shootings, to fatherlessness and the lack of men’s initiation culture. Please share this episode with men who you think might need it. In this episode we talk about: What’s going on with men and humanity as a whole. Mass shootings in the US and Canada.  The lockdown’s impact on outwardly expressing violence.  Addressing grief in men.  Appropriate anger towards men vs. men needing compassion. Finding roots of behavior in adulthood linked to childhood.  Free will vs. life choices.  Privilege and the lack of understanding for those who struggle.  Social media: a double edged sword.  Shadows, wounding, and trauma.  Turning inward: looking at pain and grief.  Finding the root of a problem vs. attacking the branches.  Suicide vs. homicide & mental illness vs. addiction.  How do we deal with men feeling collectively lost?  Redefining the role of men in society.  Intentional men’s groups: support, accountability, and healing.  Pros and cons of finding like minded connections.  The magic of being seen.  The masculine’s desire to be challenged.  Confronting fears.  The lack of humanity in society.  The #MeToo movement and #NotAllMen. Men and women doing “the work.”  What’s behind Traver’s mantra, “Let others be safer as I walk among them”? Living by a code.  3 things men can do today to turn inward and start healing wounds.  The fulfillment of doing “the work.” The challenges of being a policeman today. Shout out to the protectors. Find and Follow Traver at the below links: Website  Instagram  YouTube Podcast  Book  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Apr 7

1 hr 15 min

Shawn Stevenson is the author of the USA Today National bestseller Eat Smarter and the international bestselling book Sleep Smarter. He’s also creator of The Model Health Show, featured as the number #1 health podcast in the U.S. As a graduate of the University of Missouri–St. Louis, Shawn studied business, biology, and nutritional science and became the cofounder of Advanced Integrative Health Alliance. He joins me on the show to discuss how to follow scientific studies to manage your health and your mindset, and how WE can use science help humanity through the current crisis. In this episode, we discuss: How real education is education is up to you. Unsuccessful (and some damaging) approaches in current medicine practice.  What most people who have lost their life to COVID have in common.  The extreme politicization of COVID.  The number one cause of chronic disease. Diet and how it influences the immune system.  A cardiologist’s perspective on why our healthcare systems fail us.  How long it takes to destroy our immune systems. Most important factors to staying healthy: movement and sleep.  Somatic effects of COVID.  Empowering people to understand their health better. Understanding and supporting scientific evidence.  COVID vs. birthing process. Hive mind - the good and the bad.  Shawn’s book, “Eat Smarter.” The current epidemic of suicide and attempted suicide.  Natural killer cells - what are they? How will the COVID lockdown impact our children?  Analyzing COVID data through an epidemiologist lens. Masks: are they helpful or harmful?  Cognitive biases and their impact on relaying COVID information.  Studies on COVID and masks found on Shawn’s website.  Top 3 pre-existing conditions tied to COVID deaths.  The next novel virus.  How we can change a system that was not designed to help us.  What can actually help strengthen our immune systems. Shawn’s Links: Website  Podcast  Instagram Facebook  Twitter YouTube See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Mar 17

1 hr 11 min

Mark Wolynn is a trauma specialist who understands how to resolve trauma that has been passed down through generations. He wrote a book called It Didn't Start with You: How Inherited Family Trauma Shapes Who We Are and How to End the Cycle. At a time where the world is waking up to our individual and collective wounding, Mark is a perfect guest for listeners who want to understand more about what trauma is, how it occurs, and how to heal it. Mark joined me for a fascinating discussion that took us into the depths of the healing arts. We talked about early life trauma, ancestral trauma, and particular insights on men’s relationships with their mothers and fathers which shape them in adulthood. For my male listeners, this will be truly fascinating. In this episode we discuss:  What is inherited family trauma? Mark’s focus on “what isn’t remembered in the mind”, but what is remembered in the body.  Trauma: expanding our understanding and its misconceptions.  Ben’s story of addiction and how it ties to his mom.  Attunement - now we know its importance. Why it’s useful to dig into our pasts.  Verbal and non-verbal trauma language. Trauma as the window to our ancestors.  The importance of doing trauma work with others.  Focusing on father/son relationships in men’s groups.  How to do this work without spiritual bypassing. Avoiding and re-creating pain.  “The Work”: leaning in and creating space. The unconscious connection to our parents that we all need to recognize.  4 ways we can merge with our parents that creates pain.  Common dynamics with men and their mothers, and their fathers.  Why men’s groups are so important.  The lost art of initiation processes. Positive experiences that can physically change the brain.  DNA expression and how we can shape it in the healing process. The power of visualization for healing.  Ben’s experience of re-connecting with his brother.  The importance of knowing your family history. Links Mark’s Website: https://markwolynn.com/ Mark’s Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/MarkWolynn  Mark’s Twitter: https://twitter.com/MarkWolynn See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Feb 9

1 hr 11 min

Tyler Chandler and Nick Meyers from the DOSED documentary are back to dig even deeper into the healing powers of psychedelics and discuss how the psychedelic revolution is making its way into government policies. They share multiple personal accounts of their experiences taking psychedelics, all which led to their own personal growth. We also covered the ongoing mental health and addiction crisis, the negative impact of modern medicine, religion, censorship on social media, and most importantly, DOSED 2 which is in production now. In this episode, we discuss:  DOSED is now live on streaming platforms. How the pandemic has impacted its reach. Isolation and COVID restrictions worsening the mental health and addiction crisis.  Why watching DOSED can be beneficial to the whole world. The major downfalls of the “war on drugs”.  The growth of psychedelic research.  The psychedelic revolution making its way to the government level. Big Pharma vs. plant medicine. How medication treats the symptom of problems.  Parallels between drug addicts and medication to treat mental illness.  Why psychedelics treat the root of problems.  How psychedelics lead to the dissolution of ego.  Tyler’s profound experience taking psychedelics for the first few times.  What inner-work looks like, while on psychedelics.  The necessity of connectivity and understanding.  Taking mushrooms for personal growth. Nick and Tyler’s experiences with DMT. The progress being made in Canada to access psilocybin mushrooms for therapeutic purposes. DOSED 2 Nick and Tyler’s next film project about psilocybin and terminal illness. Navigating shadow bans and censorship on social media.  How to watch DOSED. To watch DOSED and stay up to date on Tyler and Nick’s projects, check out the links below:  DOSED Website Instagram Facebook YouTube See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dec 2020

1 hr 18 min

Hamilton Souther is a master Ayahuasca Shaman who moved from the United States to Peru in his early 20s to find out if there was any truth behind mysticism and Shamanism. He ended up becoming one of the few non-native men to be initiated into traditional ways of Ayahuasca Shamanism. To learn more about how Hamilton got involved with Indigenous cultures and his path to Shamanism, check out our first episode together. Hamilton now operates a healing center called Blue Morpho, based in Iquitos, Peru. They hold traditional healing retreats, hosting guests from all over the world. However, due to the outbreak of COVID, they were forced to transform. Blue Morpho is now expanding its retreats around the world, through cyberspace. Now you can take part in healing ceremonies with Hamilton from the comfort and safety of your own home. In this episode we talk about Hamilton’s journey to becoming a Shaman, the myths and reality of Shamanism, the future of holding healing ceremonies online, and COVID-19’s impact on the medicine world. In this episode we dive into the following:  The life and death reality of learning Shamanism.  Shamanism is not all about love and “new age” light. An anthropological outlook on tribal societies.  A different way of looking at viruses. Hamilton’s first interactions with Shamans. A medicine man vs. any other kind of Shaman. Modern society issues vs. Shamanic tribal issues. The internal struggle that each Shaman has to face.  The keys to finding the right healing ceremony for yourself. Hamilton’s own intense healing experience.  Two main governing principles of Ayahuasca. The westernization of Ayahuasca ceremonies.  Becoming your own Shaman during a healing ceremony.  Untrained support vs. trained support.  What healing ceremonies should be based in: medicine, love, and healing.  The importance of knowing the history of the space of your ceremony. The mythological conflict that exists in Amazonian ideas about plants.  “Tree Dietas”. The sacred plant industry during COVID.  What happened to Iquitos, Peru’s during the pandemic.  Bringing ceremonies to digital space. Breathwork in ceremonies.  The importance of plants in the future of technological advancement.  Blue Morpho’s Triniti Retreats.  Links to find more content from Hamilton and Blue Morpho: Blue Morpho’s website Blue Morpho’s Facebook Blue Morpho’s Instagram Hamilton’s Facebook Hamilton’s Instagram See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Nov 2020

1 hr 34 min

Best-selling author Robert Glover joins me on the podcast for a candid conversation about Nice Guys, relationships, and men’s work. Robert didn’t start out his career as a therapist planning on getting into men’s work. After receiving his doctorate and working as a marriage and family therapist, Robert started noticing common patterns in the men he was seeing. Many of them were the same patterns he saw in his own life. So he dove into men’s work,  and wrote “No More Mr. Nice Guy - A Proven Plan For Getting What You Want In Love, Sex, and Life.  Robert has been on this journey for over 25 years – helping other men break free of the Nice Guy Syndrome, and always evolving his own personal tool kit. In this episode, we discuss nice guys, “men’s tribes”, mothers, subconscious programming, shifting mindsets in relationships, embodiment work, men’s safe spaces, purpose, and so much more. We dug into the following in detail:  How Robert got into men’s work.  The paradox of “nice guys.”  Do women like Nice Guys?  Differentiating from family members, especially mothers. Macho Jerks and Caring Wimps. Breaking free from the “nice guy syndrome.” What it means to be a differentiated man.  How mothers can impact their son’s lives and future relationships.  Subconscious programming in relationships.  Co-creating familiarity in relationship. Viewing relationships as an opportunity to work on patterns vs. a difficult burden. The ticket to a successful long-term relationship. The importance of having same sex friends. “Men’s Only” spaces” - The power of strong masculine relationships. Different opportunities to connect deeper with other men.  The growth of the worldwide men’s movement. Embodiment work. The push needed to get into men’s work. The connection between childhood wounds and relationship patterns. Robert’s top book picks for men’s work and self-healing.  What men need most in 2020 - honesty, purpose, passion.  “Playing games” in relationships. Robert’s books (No More Mr. Nice Guy! And Dating Essentials for Men).  Ben’s “human contract” in this world (AKA purpose). How to bring these ideals back to younger boys. The changing adolescent education system. Robert's Links  DrGlover.com Twitter Facebook YouTube See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Nov 2020

1 hr 31 min

Dr. Anthony Balduzzi is changing an entire generation of men. After losing his father as a child, he became committed to learning the best ways for men to live the longest and healthiest lives as possible. After completing medical school and spending years as a bodybuilder, he became a fitness coach and created the Fit Father Project - a health and wellness company aimed at helping men (especially “older men”) lose weight, build muscle, and get their energy back. In this episode we discuss the fundamentals of living a long, strong, healthy life. We talk about hormones, diet, exercise, sleep, supplements, breathwork, and lots more.  In this episode we dive in to the following: Anthony’s personal story, experiencing his father’s early death, which led to his background in personal training, bodybuilding, and medical school. The philosophy of the Fit Father Project - simple and sustainable health and wellness for busy men. The fitness world can teach someone what the medical world neglects. Ben’s 100 year old grandfather. Slowing down aging without becoming obsessed with it. How to better manage hormones as we get older. What the “ideal aging process” looks like. The misconception around aging - are we really simply just alive and moving straight toward death? How to limit the amount of damage we accrue that could affect our life cycle through: the food we ingest, the quality of air we breathe, the exercise we do, and managing our stress levels. What things kill most people and how can we prevent them from happening to ourselves? Fasting and how it contributes to a rejuvenation process throughout the body. 4 square meals a day - criticisms. Bodybuilding - not always necessarily conducive to living the longest life. Testosterone levels - are important, but not the only factor in living a long and healthy life. Methods of boosting testosterone. The importance of keeping cortisol and testosterone levels balanced An explanation of Daniel Buettner’s work - the fundamentals to living a long life. The “typical man’s man” and why this isn’t always a healthy lifestyle practice. How to do at home hormone testing with Let’s Get Checked. Testosterone Replacement Therapy (TRT) - once you start, it’s hard to stop. Other T boosters - high intensity exercise, vitamin D3, sunbathing, living as close to nature as possible and eating real, non-processed foods. The implications of Xenoestrogens and where it can be found in our daily routines. Important vitamins and minerals for maintaining healthy testosterone levels. The immense benefits of doing hot and cold therapy. Why prolonged fasting is so beneficial in terms of cleaning out our “tubes”. The work of John Rose and Dr. Zach Bush - learning about juicing and the gut. The plethora of benefits of breathing through the nose. Wim Hof style breathwork - how it works and why cyclic and rounds breathwork can aid in healing our bodies. How the breath is the access point to our nervous system and why it is very important to be conscious of our breathing. Is it possible for men to keep their testosterone levels high? How do we combat its natural decline with aging - and should we do so? When is the right time to start looking into TRT - if ever? Why testosterone levels and lifestyle factors need to be used together. The various implications of increasing testosterone. The importance of getting morning sunshine and supplementing with D3 if you live in an area with lack of sunlight. The Fit Father Project’s testosterone supplement. An explanation of adaptogens and how they can help deal with stress. Anthony’s opinion on drinking coffee. The importance of incorporating meaningful work, service, and social connection into one’s life. The distinction between meaningful work and work that can make you a lot of money. True happiness is found through self-transcendent practices. The importance of keeping your brain active in order to reduce cognitive decline - especially through a daily meditation practice. This was a huge episode with a ton of information covered. Bookmark it, listen to it again, share it with your friends.  Links Fit Father Project Website Fit Father Project on YouTube  Fit Father Project on Facebook Fit Father Project on Instagram Anthony’s Twitter Link to get your own male hormone tests with LGC and use the code 'Evolving Man' for 30% off your first order.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Sep 2020

1 hr 19 min

Eldra Jackson III spent a large part of his life as a convict in the US prison system. Inside prison, he encountered a circle of men who led him to overcome his darkness and find healing. He is now the Co-Executive Director of that organization, called Inside Circle. This work was covered in the documentary called The Work. Join me in learning about Eldra’s life story - how he went from serving 24 years of a life prison sentence in California to becoming a successful businessman whose mission is to help heal and mentor other men for whom all hope is lost. In this episode we discuss:  The prison industrial complex in the United States. Eldra’s life journey and what led him to serving a life sentence. Why Eldra made many decisions from a place of trauma. How childhood trauma can affect your nervous system and behavior later in life.  What is a “good convict”? The common mindset among incarcerated people. The difference between prison and rehab  What retirement looks like for a prisoner. How Eldra turned his life around and transformed his mindset. The importance of looking inward to heal. How Eldra got introduced to Inside Circle while in prison. Therapy circles in prison. Changing the way we view and treat hurt people. Why systems only exist because we allow them to. How to create change in the prison system. Why countries need to learn from each other once they’ve developed solutions to societal problems. What’s next for Inside Circle?  How trauma survivors can redirect their energy to good things in the world. Inside Circle’s mission. Eldra’s Links:  Eldra’s TedTalk - How I Unlearned Dangerous Lessons About Masculinity The Work Documentary: https://www.topic.com/the-work (note: you will have to pay for this documentary, but it is VERY worth it) Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/InsideCircleOrg/ Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/inside__circle Twitter: https://twitter.com/inside_circle How to get involved: Inside Circle’s Website - https://insidecircle.org/ See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Aug 2020

53 min 54 sec

Ben Sessa is a psychiatrist based out of the UK and a leading doctor in pushing the movement of psychedelics as medicine forward. Throughout his career, he has specialized in working with children and adolescents, but also has worked with adults who struggle with addiction. He has always been interested in bringing psychedelics into the medical community and has played a part in shifting the conversation about these drugs over the past decade. Ben joined me to discuss why our traditional way of dealing with “mental illness” is insufficient and what is coming in the future. He shares his own experiences of use and research regarding MDMA - which has historically been viewed as a party drug - to heal trauma and PTSD. This is the next generation of psychiatric care. In this interview we discuss:  Ben’s long history of working with psychedelics. How our current medical model is ineffective and doesn’t fit patients’ needs. Why traditional drugs are just a band-aid to issues. How societal factors play a major role in the healing process. Why no drug will work on its own, including psychedelics. Holistic approach vs. biological approach to medicine. Ben’s research on MDMA and PTSD. Why mild to moderate depression and anxiety are the most over prescribed illnesses. Where psychotherapy comes into play in the healing process. Why we attach ourselves to drugs that hide symptoms. How psychedelics can assist psychotherapy and counseling in a productive way. Why the therapy effectiveness rate for trauma survivors is very low How MDMA can help trauma survivors and is a trauma therapists dream. Why MDMA is incredibly safe even when used recreationally. Why we shouldn’t let politicians and the general public make decisions about the legality and safety of psychedelics. The biggest hurdles with psychedelic research. The pros and cons of the capitalization and medicalization of psychedelics. How Ben has been working to find a language to bring the psychedelic and medical community together. Why having a connection in the medical community is necessary to get a change in psychedelic policy. How trauma can still surface internally even after external factors have changed. The definition of addiction - it’s not about drugs. What is the best way to tackle addiction? How psychedelics get to the heart of the issue when it comes to trauma. Ben’s role in opening the world’s first psychedelic assisted psychotherapy clinic. Links  Ben’s Website: http://www.drsessa.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Aug 2020

50 min 25 sec

Anna Rova is a feminine embodiment coach. She is the host of the Girl Skill Podcast - soon to be called “Claimed” - where she shares insights and tools for women to embrace their wild feminine nature. She also runs a program for successful single women who are looking to attract their ideal "masculine man". She joins me to answer questions about embracing femininity and how to create sexual polarity. In this episode we discuss:  How women can connect to their wild feminine nature. The movement of polarity: understanding aspects of our masculine and feminine nature.  The opposition of the feminine and masculine being anything but a social construct.  How pregnancy can change your point of view about your feminine nature and allow for a shift of the femininity inside yourself. Why feminine and masculine polarity is what creates attraction and sustainability in any relationship, hetero or otherwise. How a woman’s power comes from her fulfillment and being in her body, rather than having to “be” and “do” everything in life. Why being independent doesn’t mean a woman can’t be interdependent or shouldn’t trust a man. The twisted idea of womanhood: femininity equals weakness. Medicalizing birth: the disconnection we have from birth and the reverence of femininity. How the feminist movement plays a role in why we don’t give femininity the power it deserves. The woman who has it all - wives, mothers, ambitious and successful, and also wants a masculine man. The type of woman a man wants once he starts to own his maturity and step into his own masculine core. What women need to do to learn how to step into their feminine power.  How Anna teaches women to shift from overthinking and creating stories in their heads, to existing in their bodies.  The importance of women getting to a place where they can attract a man who is ready, available, has done his work, and stands strong in his masculinity.  Why men need guidance from other men to stand in their masculinity.  What it means to be a claimed woman. 3 ways to embody masculine essence - PCP (presence, claim, and penetration). Why women should lean on the masculine within themselves and the men in their lives for support. The difference between a circadian and infradian rhythm and how they impact men and women in society. How women have become disconnected from their natural cycles and the importance of scheduling day-to-day life around these cycles. Anna can be found at:  Web: https://girlskill.com Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/annarovafan Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/annarova See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Jul 2020

1 hr 12 min

This episode covers what you need to know about psychedelics and their therapeutic benefit. I sat down with James Jesso - a man who is well-equipped to discuss psychedelics and their benefits. He shares advice about how to approach psychedelic experiences, for new and experienced practitioners. James has been investigating, researching, and exploring the realm of psychedelics professionally for the past 7 years. He is the author of three books, “Decomposing the Shadow,” “Soundscapes and Psychedelics,” and “The True Light of Darkness,” which cover topics about working with Psilocybin mushrooms for personal development, healing, and spirituality. He is also the host of the podcast, “Adventures Through The Mind.” What do you need to know about psychedelics? In this episode, we delve into discussing psychedelic basics and the details surrounding the psychedelic revolution happening around the world. Plant medicine is becoming increasingly popular and people are awakening to their benefits, but psychedelic experiences still require a measured approach. In this episode we cover:  “The Psychedelic Renaissance” - how psychedelics-as-medicine are entering the mainstream consciousness. The criminalization of cannabis - the United States’ role in this movement’s relation to racism and oppression. The shift in consciousness regarding cannabis and how that conversation relates to psychedelics. The various ways people are trying to intentionally engage in psychedelic experiences as a way to seek healing and personal growth - and the prevalence of underground healing circles. How prohibitionist rhetoric causes more harm than good. Where do beginners start? Questions to ask when invited to an ayahuasca ceremony.  The challenge confronting our deepest wounds - it’s normal to be scared.  Why it can be beneficial, especially as beginners, to experience psychedelics with people you trust. Every person has a different reason for wanting to do psychedelics - the way in which we go about the experience depends on who you are as a person. Intentions and expectations - their role in psychedelic experiences.  Tips for preparation and how to show up in a psychedelic experience.  The immense value and importance of integration and how to debrief what occurred after a psychedelic experience. The difference between telling a story vs. actively utilizing the opportunity a psychedelic experience gives you. Party atmospheres and shifting how to approach psychedelics. Fear based “bad trips” - how they hold people back from exploring, how and why they may happen, and their unfair representation in the media. Discomfort and pain during a psychedelic experience. Why you should go into it expecting it. Other resources James has created in regard to micro-dosing, psychedelics, and more. You can find James at:  Website: https://www.jameswjesso.com Patreon Site: https://www.patreon.com/jameswjesso Twitter:https://twitter.com/jameswjesso Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/jameswjesso This episode sponsored by Let's Get Checked - an online, easy to use, personalized health testing service. From hormones, to vitamin levels, to cholesterol - they make at-home-testing easy. I used LGC myself, and am now a customer for life. Go to my link at TRYLGC.com/evolvingman and use the Coupon code EVOLVINGMAN for 30% off your first purchase. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Jul 2020

1 hr 27 min

Tyler Chandler and Nicholas Meyers had a friend who was deep in the throws of opioid addiction. They wanted to help, so they went looking for solutions and grabbed their camera. Research led them to psilocybin mushrooms, and the result was a documentary film called “Dosed”. Dosed follows the journey of Adrianne as she uses psychedelics to heal her Opioid addiction. After touring the world and receiving immensely positive feedback and film nominations, Tyler, Nick and Adrianne joined me to discuss the significance of using psychedelics as medicine for the future of addiction recovery. In this episode we discuss: The use of psychedelics for treating depression, anxiety, and substance abuse. Finding a profound shift in consciousness after using psychedelics. Uncovering that assumptions about psychedelics are not all based in truth – there are many misunderstandings. Adrianne’s internal struggles with opioid addiction and trying to introduce other drugs as a healing method. How different treatments may work for people attempting to overcome various struggles including Iboga, Ayahuasca, and “magic mushrooms”. Adrianne’s challenging yet rewarding experience of cutting her physical cravings of opioid addiction through Iboga ceremonies. Non-traditional entryways to recovery from addiction. The importance of having a support system and community to rely on while recovering from addiction. The need to release oneself from strict expectations from oneself, family members, and support groups. The importance of spiritual connection while healing. Facing challenges reconciling multiple world views and accepting there is not one specific path to recovery – choosing your own path is the most important. The process of legalizing psychedelics for therapy use and the importance of decriminalizing drug use for the success of society. How to get connected to and find access to people who are passionate about the medical use of psychedelics. The future of treatment centers: what services they will provide and how they will function. Psychedelics aren’t just for people who are addictive or mentally ill – there’s benefits for everyone. How psychedelics can connect you to your deepest self and help you become the best version of yourself. The difference between psychedelics and other drugs – their anti-addictive properties and using them recreationally versus medicinally. Where the root of addiction lives - intention or lack thereof. Multiple resources for more information on psychedelics The Dosed team can be found at:  Instagram - @dosedmovie Web - DosedMovie.com Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/DosedMovie/ Youtube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UClfg-wBDeA_3sEbkmRgI0fg Twitter - https://twitter.com/dosedmovie   Please leave a review of the film here:  IMDB - https://www.imdb.com/title/tt9787524/ For the latest in psychedelic therapeutic therapy research, check out MAPS.org. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Jun 2020

1 hr 22 min

Connor Beaton is the founder of Mantalks, a men's personal growth brand that is dedicated to creating better men. Using the Mantalks Podcast and his online men's community, Connor influences thousands of men to do their inner work to be better fathers, husbands, and brothers to each other. Connor joins to discuss what he's seeing in the world and in his clients during the worldwide lockdown and dramatic change in society. Stay tuned to the end of this episode to witness some straight talk where Connor and I model a process called Active Constructive Appreciation. On this episode we discuss: The panic and collective fear Connor is seeing in the world. What happens in the nervous system when our sense of normalcy is eroded. The illusion of control over our future, and how much comfort we derive from that illusion. The dramatic emergence of conspiracy theories - where is this coming from? How reliant we are on the system that provides for us. The first time in many people's lives where they've faced the question "how am I going to protect and support my family?". Taking the right actions despite uncertainty. Living with virtue within a fear state. How isolation amplifies our mechanisms for coping and survival. The coping mechanisms are at an all time high: Movies, alcohol, drugs, porn, etc. Self-mentoring - Looking at your own amplification in this time. Looking outward to relieve our stress - we need to look inwards and find our own personal freedom. Being alone - facing one's self - the ultimate challenge. Your life isn't happening to you, it's happening for you. Seeing your own coping mechanisms and intervening to change them. The collective unconscious - we are all connected emotionally to each other. Boundaries - setting our own boundaries to stay grounded as society spins out. Coping Mechanisms VS Thriving Mechanisms. Death - acknowledging the micro-deaths and the death-rebirth cycles in our lives. A key to evolution - Letting go of what must die. Putting anger, fear, and protesting in its place. Taking action in your own life. Acknowledging grief and giving it a seat at our table collectively. Self-care: What Connor has been doing for self-care in isolation. Breath work, phone calls to supportive friends, limited media time, and lots of time in nature. Quality screen time - using screens for social connection vs. entertainment. Tip for connecting socially via screens: Active Constructive Appreciation. Connor and I model how to give one another constructive appreciation. This is one element of men's-work practice that we use in our men's groups. Connor can be found at: Instagram @mantalks Website ConnorBeaton.com The podcast - Mantalks See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

May 2020

1 hr 17 min

COVID-19 has flipped the world - and the lives of everyone on it - upside down. Many jobs have been lost, everyone's plans have been cancelled, and half the world has entered a self-quarantine lock-down state. People are in isolation either alone, with their families, or with a partner. Relationships that may have been struggling prior to the lockdown, are now under major stress, because we're all forced in. Being forced to isolate with each other is not always easy. And, some people are isolated alone. This is especially hard for the extroverts who thrive on being in physical connection with others. In this episode Sheleana and I discuss ways you can take care of yourself and make the best of this time. We also share some strategies for couples to keep their relationship healthy at this challenging time. If you're alone in isolation, or cooped up with your romantic partner, this episode is for you. On this episode we discuss: Coping with physical isolation. Choosing how to accept reality and make the best of it. The witch-hunt - a way that people lash out at each other to look for control over their fear. Addiction and substance use at this time. Creating a routine and structure for self-care. Digital detox. More important now than ever. Digital dates with friends or romantic partners. Consuming media VS interacting with real people online. If you're struggling: we share our tips. Reach out, find the resources you need. Somatic tools for de-stressing and calming the nervous system. Breathwork - A powerful tool for immunity and nervous system regulation. Fear and the link to the immune system. The challenges Sheleana and I are facing in isolation. What couples are facing right now in isolation. How to deal with loss of attraction and polarity when in close quarters consistently. How to meet each others' needs in isolation. Negativity in dialogue, and how to deal with it. Powerful simple exercises for connecting in quarantine. Mirroring in dialogue. Sharing appreciation with your partner - a very good tool. How to honour your partner's needs and resolve disagreements about Covid precautions. Creating safety - learning to listen with non-reactivity. Successful couples are able to solve big problems together. Using competition to strengthen relationship. You can follow Sheleana with Rising Woman at: Instagram - @risingwoman and @sheleanaaiyana Youtube.com/risingwoman See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Apr 2020

1 hr 28 min

Chris Bevacqua is a holistic nutritionist who works with addicts and other populations to transform their lives through diet and nutrition. He joins me for an informative discussion about the basics of addiction, dependencies, and recovery. We bust myths and shed light on how addicts find recovery. We also talk about how important nutrition and exercise are in the process of healing all mental illnesses, including addiction. Here is what we cover on this show: What is addiction? What is it not? The myths about common addictions? The difference between an addiction and a dependency, and how to discover that you have one. Positive addictions versus negative addictions. Where addiction lives in the brain. What part of the brain. What is the cause of addiction? Pain, trauma, disconnection. Addiction isn't only caused by genetics. The impact of early childhood environment on addiction outcomes. The environmental risk factors that contribute to addiction later in life. The steps to recovery: Remove the substance/behaviour, address the underlying pain, and build a life that supports recovery. Can we heal an addiction? First stage recovery and second stage recovery. Second stage, deeper healing. Deeper healing in second stage recovery - Conscious Relationship work, psychedelics, and plant medicines. Addiction does not live in the substance. Rat Park - The experiment that proved that drugs aren't the problem. Our society is the problem. Ideal recovery from addiction = building a rat park in your own life. Lost Connections, by Johann Hari, a useful book about depression and addiction. How to build a successful recovery plan, and how to get rid of things that are too triggering in the early days. How does nutrition play in to recovering from addiction? Healing the damage that drugs and alcohol do to the body. The double standard of coffee, cigarettes, sugar, and energy drinks in recovery circles. The benefits of quitting all substances at once. The best way to beat sugar cravings. The power of exercise in assisting addiction recovery. Recovery boosters - Running, H.I.T. workouts, and Yoga. Passion and Purpose - The special ingredient in successful recovery. Spirituality - connection to deeper self, or beyond self. The importance of open-mindedness in finding tools that work for you. Nutrition: Avoid sugar, white carbs, low quality oils. Move towards whole foods, healthy oils, wild meats, fermented foods. The power of switching from carbs to fat, for fuel. Treating depression with diet and exercise. Dr. Georgia Ede on carnivore diets and more. Chris operates a coaching business that helps clients deal with addiction and mental health issues with nutrition, exercise, and mindset. He helps you get your body and mind in the right place, so you can do the healing you need to do. Contact him for coaching here. Follow Chris on Instagram @good_n_healthy Chris is very active on Twitter @chris_bevacqua See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Feb 2020

1 hr 39 min

At this point, nearly everyone in North America knows someone who is addicted to (or has died from) Opioid use. The problem has reached epidemic proportions in the US and Canada. In this episode, I sit down with a man who has been treating Opiate addiction for years. Garyth operates an Ibogane Treatment Centre called Inner Realms that detoxifies Opiates from the system in a matter of days. He helps addicts free themselves from the stranglehold of withdrawal symptoms and physical dependency, and then points them towards long term recovery. Opiate addiction has one of the highest relapse rates and highest death rates of any drug use, so solutions that can fully detox addicts and give them a strong chance at recovery are very unique. In this episode, we cover: Garyth's story of alcohol and opiate addiction. The Peace Convoy in the 80s - unemployed hippie drug culture. How Garyth experienced a breakthrough on LSD that lead him to get clean from Alcohol. Garyth's story going to rehab. The two crucial steps to recovering from addiction - Getting off the drug of choice, and learning to deal with the stress of regular life without using. The importance of community in addiction recovery. Can not be overstated. How Garyth found Ibogane, and saw it's powerful effects. What is Iboga and Ibogane, and where does it come from? What are the traditional uses of Iboga. What Ibogane clinics look like. The dark reality of Methadone and Suboxone for Opioid addiction. The documentary that best shows opiate addiction - DOSED. Legal barriers to the use of Ibogane and Iboga. What the future of Opiate treatment looks like. The best aftercare treatment for Ibogane patients. How the best addiction treatment works. The proper use of psychedelics for later recovery. The importance of diet in addiction recovery, and how diet can sabotage recovery. You can find Garyth at his website - innerrealmscenter.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Feb 2020

1 hr 22 min

Nick Sol is a coach for Create The Love, a group facilitator, and a public speaker. He is a director and facilitator for The Samurai Brotherhood men's community in Vancouver, BC. Nick was on the show two years ago, and since then he has stepped deeply into his purpose of helping others through coaching, leadership, and mentorship. On this first episode of 2020, we talk about the process of choosing the right goals in your life and how to move past the resistance we all have to stepping in to most fulfilling pursuits. On this episode, we discuss: Running a marathon The process of setting goals, and knowing how to set the right goals. Finding your way towards your purpose in your 20's. The quarterly goal process Nick does with his men's groups. Getting distracted stuck in the details, and losing track of the big things that matter. Using substances like Cannabis to be creative. Resistance and procrastination. We resist the things that call to us the deepest. Superficial goals versus goals of depth. Personal growth work is really self-acceptance work. Why Nick joined a men's group. The power of the men's Warrior Weekend. The rising tide of men's work, the movement towards conscious warrior-hood. The choice to model the Samurai Warriors and their code in The Samurai Brotherhood.  Nick is on Instagram @nicksolconsulting The Samurai Brotherhood Open House is on January 15th. Streaming online @samuraibrotherhood.com To join an online Samurai Brotherhood squad, go to SamuraiBrotherhood.com/online-squad See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Jan 2020

1 hr 16 min

Jessica Austin is a birth professional on a mission to educate the world on the truth about birth. The information she carries is not just something that some people need to know; it’s information that everyone needs to know. I particularly want men to listen to this episode, because many men don’t know how crucial of a moment-of-truth it will be when they are facing proposed 'interventions' on their partner during a birth process. This is an important moment to have your woman's back in the most vulnerable moment of her life. What most people think the science says about birth, is not what the science about birth says. Most people think that hospital birth is the safest and most prudent way to give birth. What I learned on this episode - amongst many other realities - is that it’s not that simple. Tune in to this episode for a very educational discussion on the topic of the most sacred human process. On this episode we discuss: What is a doula? Why someone would need or want a doula for birth. Birth is not what you see in the movies Why the statistics for PTSD are virtually the same for birth as they are for war Hospital birth VS home birth: Which is safer?  Why morbidity statistics are higher in hospitals The problem with inducing birth with medication versus letting it happen on nature’s time Why everyone who has had a caesarean section thinks they HAD to have it done. Fear, and how it controls us in our decision making process with birth. The actual statistics for children dying in birth. Emergency caesarean section are not always emergencies Breach birth - does it need to be done via caesarean? Haemorrhage - one of the main causes. Why birth progress stalls when women arrive at the hospital. Why your comfort and intimate space helps your birth process progress naturally. How men can support women in the hospital. Myth busting - these myths are discussed at the end of the episode: My baby is too big, so I need a caesarean section. Dilation speed - Friedman’s Curve. We are lucky to have the medical system, because everyone was dying before hospital births came in to play. The hospital has more tools for birth than midwives (who do home births). Home birth isn’t safe. The umbilical chord can get wrapped around the neck - this is an emergency. The stakes are too high. We need to do a hospital birth. Jessica Austin has been supporting women in giving birth for over 10 years. She is a doula, a trainer of doulas, and a pre-natal instructor. Her website: BirthTakesaVillage.com Instagram @jessicaaustinchildbirth Facebook: facebook.com/austinjessica See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Dec 2019

1 hr 36 min

Jeddy Azuma has been deeply involved with men's work in California for over a decade. He is the founder of the Rising Man Movement - @risingmanmovement on Instagram- and his mission is to create a generation of initiated men. Jeddy is deeply passionate about helping men find themselves, find their way, and find each other - using nature, ritual, and connection circles. On this episode we discuss: Initiation in to manhood, for men. Call The Warrior - Jeddy's Haka workshop led by Leon Ruri. The definition of Haka. Why men are afraid to express themselves. "Toxic Masculinity" and the difference between men and masculinity. The core difference between The Boy and The Man. The Initiation Ceremonies Jeddy takes men through. The power of fasting in creating an altered state of consciousness. The initiation process: a circle of support to examine what's so in your life, a declaration of where you can serve your community, and a community to receive you on the other side. Spiritual tourism and the need to carry all medicines with a connection to their lineage. Initiation weekends for young men in California - YMUW and The Legacy Weekend. Fatherlessness and the missing piece for young men. Whose job it is to initiate young men. Safety For Women - One of Jeddy's Passions. The key to the world's problems: Freedom for men to express, and safety for women. A man's eternal task of helping the women in his life feel safe.  You can find Jeddy's podcast on The Rising Man Podcast. Instagram - @JeddyAzuma and @RisingManMovement See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Nov 2019

44 min 55 sec

Phil Teertha Mistlberger is a transpersonal therapist and an author of 5 books, including a new book for men: The Way Of The Conscious Warrior - A Handbook For 21st Century Men. He joins me on the show to discuss the issues men face today and the solutions he has proposed in his book. Phil teaches that in this time of rapid change, there has been a loss of the warrior ethos. In his book, he points to a much needed revival of some of the admirable qualities of the warrior archetype: grit, discipline, fire, embodiment, and "necessary battle". On this episode we discuss: Spiritual Bypassing: Phoney Holiness and the need to know your ego before you can transcend your ego. “To be an awakened man, you first need to be a man” - G.I. Gurdjieff. There’s no awakening without self-acceptance. Using your life experiences (particularly the challenging ones) to find the meta-messages for your life. All the happenings in your life are teachings in disguise. The 3 things needed to wake up - The Buddha (the teacher), The Dharma (the teaching), and The Sangha (the fellowship). Building a “Conscious Warrior” - Taking the useful traits of the Monk and the Warrior. Phil’s favourite warrior cultures. Why Phil uses examples of warriors throughout history, but does not idolize any of them. The power of living life for principles rather than blind devotion to people. Who is this book for? How men struggle in their lives as an unconscious attempt to punish their father or mother. The best way to change the world: do you own inner work, and be present and involved with the outside world. Live an impeccable life. What is happening with the growth of The Samurai Brotherhood - Phil’s men’s work community that he founded. To find the book, look on Amazon and please do leave a review, or look for it at your local book store. You can find P.T. Mistlberger's online writings at ptmistlberger.com See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Oct 2019

59 min 32 sec

Dhamindra Jeevan is a digital map builder who uses virtual reality to create psychedelic art - art that changes minds and alters perspectives. His dream is to gamify personal development and he has a vision of harmonizing digital life and human life. Jeevan wants to visually map the inner-world (psychologically, emotionally, and and spiritually) to integrate and generate light and awe for life. We dug in to his plan for doing that on this show, along with discussions about artificial intelligence, archetypes, and the expansion of technological progress. On this episode we discuss: The evolution of technology, and the creation of digital humans. The projection of technology being malicious or only for-profit. The quick rise of artificial intelligence. 5G and it's inevitable exponential bandwidth. The new 'types' of humans that will further complicate - and possibly further divide - the world: OG humans, cyborg people, full robot people, and disembodied digital people. How Jeevan learned to see the external world of matter mirroring the inner world of psychology. Hanuman 11's universal map of the unseen, built in virtual reality. The 4 masculine archetypes of - King, Warrior, Magician, Lover. Expressions of the masculine and feminine. How they can be seen. Why China is probably going to have the first general artificial intelligence. Quality data is the currency of the future. The artificial intelligence will be better at teaching humans new skills than humans are. The way to uncover more free will in your life: doing self-discovery work. The best insurance policy against getting cloned by a computer: uncovering your true full uniqueness by doing deep work. The origin of Family Constellations work - looking at how people are formed with patterns that are linked to their past. Rupert Sheldrake and the morphogenetic field. Burt Hellinger's phenomenological approach to working with 'the field'. How to find a Family Constellation's facilitator. Hanuman's fractal game that will help humans of the future discover their own minds Jeevan can be found at Jeevan11.com Hanuman11 is at hanuman11.com     See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Oct 2019

1 hr 30 min

Sheleana Aiyana joins me again on the show to discuss shadow vows, ceremony, and all things related to weddings. Sheleana and I were married this spring and we learned so much in the process, so this is our debriefing conversation to integrate those lessons, along with some Q & A at the end. In this episode, we dig in to what we think is missing in weddings these days and we share some of the key takeaways from our wedding, and we also share some of our sacred and shadow vows. If you want to have a laugh, listen through to the end of the episode for our goofy moments. On this episode, we discuss: Shadow Vows and the power of naming the unsavoury parts of relationship. Painting a picture or a vision statement for a relationship through vows. The fantasy of the "perfect wedding". Introducing imperfection in to the wedding process. Sacred Vows as a relationship contract - writing vows together. Projections that Sheleana and I run about each other - toughness. One of our strategies for resolving conflict in our relationship. The Gifting Ceremony at our wedding - instead of the Gift Table. The Magic Gifting CIRCLE - a randomized gifting web between everyone at our wedding. Including and excluding certain wedding traditions. The traditional Bachelor and Bachelorette parties and what we don't like about them. Using the bachelor and bachelorette gatherings as an intentional step in to a new phase of life, through challenge and support. The importance of having a village to support a marriage. The story of what happens when Sheleana and I disconnect from our community. Q & A: A question about how to "hold space" in a relationship when you're feeling emotionally reactive - I share my tips for how to do it. Anxious and Avoidant conflict styles - Managing the balance between them. Doing all your inner work before finding Mr./Mrs Right. and what this really means. Intuition - how to find intuition in knowing what relationship is right for you. Plant Medicines - Can be helpful, but you MUST do your work to integrate the work in to your life. Things you can do to prepare for plant medicine work: meditation, mindfulness, and challenging inner-work of other kinds. Somatic Experiencing Therapy Sheleana is the founder of RisingWoman.com and can be found on Instagram @sheleanaaiyana. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Sep 2019

1 hr 52 min

Retired boxer and current Wim Hof Method instructor Cian Dalton joins me on the show to discuss the power of cold exposure paired with breath work and mindset training. Cian grew up in Ireland, learning to fight, and after a boxing carreer eventually found his 'inner work' and the personal growth community. Through that he found Wim Hof breath work and became a certified instructor.  On this episode we dig in to the details of different breath work types, and how a person can use them for various types of healing, particularly the Wim Hof Method and The Breath Wave method. On this show we discuss: Cian's story and how he found breath work The emotional breakthroughs that can come from breath work, and how they occur. The Wim Hof Method - Cold Exposure, Breath Work, and Mindset Training. Using your breath to down-regulate the immune system in cold water. Breath work for auto-immune disorders, depression, and other physical ailments. How we are conditioning ourselves to be comfortable all the time and need to shake things up to stay healthy and adapted. Finishing with cold after a hot/cold dunk day. Cian's Breath Work trainings that he runs at The Stretch Space. The active breath of Wim Hof Method versus the gentle approach of Breath Wave. The magic of filling the body with breath energy, and relaxing in to it - release. The neurons in your brain that watch your breath pattern, then respond to that. Breath Work for kids. The importance of setting the right setting for any kind of breath work. Cian runs The Stretch Space in Vancouver, Canada, where he combines breath work with stretching and movement. Follow on Instagram - @thestretchspace Cian also does breath workshops and 1-1 breath sessions with his other business The Breath Connection. Follow on Instagram - @breathconnective Follow Cian - @ciandalton. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Aug 2019

1 hr 10 min

Everyone wants to find the right diet and exercise regime that works for them. But with all the choices available to us, finding the right fit can be a long journey full of shots in the dark and a lack of real data. David Krantz is changing that by offering personalized health coaching that looks at each client's gene expression, and then building a diet and exercise program that is a right fit for each person. David specializes in coaching around epigenetics. This allows him to coach people on nutrigenomics - the study of linking epigenetic expression to particular foods and behaviours. We all have a particular set of expressed gene codes, and this regulates what foods work well in our bodies, how well we respond to exercise, and a whole host of other things. Knowing how your genes are expressed allows you (with the right advisor) to make decisions on how to live, based on what works well for your unique body. On this episode, we discuss: What epigenetic coaching does. The old way of discovering what's healthy for you. The new way of tailoring diet and exercise to your genetic expression. Why a Ketogenic diet may not be a good fit for you. The most direct route to changing how your body loses weight. Marrying intuition and data together = power. How good data can empower you to move forward and take bold action. Concerns: Genetic testing, privacy, and big brother having your genetic information. Genetics and specific foods: fats, nuts, and more. The PPARG gene and mitochondria response to cold therapy. The function of mitochondria - the power-plant of the cells in your body. Mitochondrial response to infra red light. Cold exposure and how it affects sleep quality. Genes in my chart that affect Dopamine and my appetite for dopamine rushes. Why some people absolutely hate cold exposure. Addiction and which genes contribute to addictive tendencies. Supplements and substances that can contribute to balancing or resetting receptor systems in the brain. Ibogane and Ayahuasca for addiction treatment. How your genetic variants can predict your response to Cannabis. The the important balance of mind and body - therapy and diet/exercise. The importance of Purpose in leading a life of meaning.  One take-home message from this podcast with David is this: March to the beat of your own drum. Every body is different. Listen to your own body and learn what you need. David's website is full of great content, and he offers multiple tiers of coaching for short term and long term goals. David-Krantz.com Book a free 30 minute call with David here. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Jul 2019

1 hr 22 min

Brad Leslie was one of the founders of The Young Men's Adventure Weekend, an event that takes teens through a series of challenging adventures designed to draw out the qualities he will need as a man. The creation of the YMAW program was informed by numerous rites of passage from around the world, incorporating long-standing traditions in to a palatable journey for the young men of this era and culture. Brad breaks down a number of definitions and key points in the work of initiating young men: Initiation as a starting point. A lift-off point from which you cannot go back. A boy's journey from "Mom's world" to "man's world" and the journey in between. What initiation looks like in some indigenous cultures. Initiation - The transformation from needy & dependent to accountable & useful. What uninitiated men look like. What the initiated man looks like. A young man looking for camaraderie will join a team, a gang, or the military to initiate himself. The Boy Crisis - by Warren Farrell and John Gray The value of sports teams in building the character of young men. 3 steps in an initiation: Separation from community, Ordeal/Challenge, Return to community. The value of separating boys and girls to teach them about manhood and womanhood as they age. Michael Gurian's book - The Purpose of Boys. Why sex does not pass as an initiation in to manhood. How men drain their vital energy by getting in to co-dependent relationships. The simple way that men can connect with young men just by hanging out. The result of a culture that doesn't have elders. The odd story of how we lost our elders in the US and Canada. Elephants have elders too. Initiation for men who were never initiated - get in to self-development work and find a men's group. The ultimate cheat code to initiating yourself in to manhood - get in to service to your community. The Young Men's Adventure Weekend happens every July in the lower mainland area of Vancouver, BC, Canada. This event happens because men volunteer to make it happen, and young men aged 12-18 sign up. Young men, go here to sign up for a life-changing experience. Men, go here to be of service and transform how you see young men. There are other events that happen in other corners of North America. The Young Men's Ultimate Weekend operates in California. They are at YMUW.org. There are others, and if you need help, reach out to the YMAW guys on the YMAW contact page. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Jun 2019

1 hr 4 min

Robin Clements is a facilitator of an advanced transformational breath technique he calls The Breath Wave. This technique creates altered states of consciousness that can be as powerful and impactful as psychedelics like Ayahuasca and Psilocybin without many of the side effects. Robin has been studying and practicing with the human body for over two decades, and after receiving certifications in massage, energy work, and breath work, he developed a unified breath experience - one that has produced experiences for me that feel like a total re-birth. This isn't something you need to fly across the world and devote thousands of dollars to learn or experience. It is available in bite sized chunks, in the comfort of your home, if you learn to do it well. In this episode, we discuss how people can develop a daily transformational breath practice that can be done in as little as 10-20 minutes.  Note for Wim-Hof Method practitioners: This is a different technique and requires different methods, for your safety. Do not do an 'out hold' after doing this method. Instead, stay with your breath but keep it slow, without holding. On this episode, Robin discusses: Our modern nervous systems in the generalized anxious and disconnected state. The wave of interest in relaxation techniques that help people balance the nervous system. The loop between your nervous system and your breath. The basic method of Conscious Connected Breathing. The physical healing, cleansing, and detoxification that breath work can provide. Altered states of consciousness stimulated by breath work. Working with our unconscious (and with trauma) while doing breath work. The key to letting go and surrendering during the breathwave method. How control patterns show up in the breath. If you have issues with CONTROL, breath work can change your life. How the altered state can change your genes by bringing your body in to homeostasis. The benefits of lowering stress in your life (this cannot be overstated) How to do this practice in 5-10 minutes. Why you need to learn to listen to your body more as you get older. Why you'll want to find a trained teacher before doing a "full session" at 45-60 minutes. The tools you can use in a breath session to liberate stuck energy. How music is used as a powerful tool in a breath session. Boosting your daily energy with the use of a daily breath practice. How this work can prepare us for what is to come. Robin's website - Breathwave.net Robin's pre-recorded Soundcloud breath journeys - Soundcloud/robin-clements Deep Tissue organ massage, as mentioned on the show - James Bell at Our Healing Room. Still don't know what the breath wave is? Listen to the episode, and see Robin's words below: ‘The Breath Wave’ is an open and balanced self-practice of your own breath, flowing as a relaxed and continuous wave. This full respiratory breathing technique enhances the flow of oxygen and life force (prana) throughout the body and mind, slows down the patterns of the brain and the nervous system and cultivates a high vibrational frequency; facilitating vibrant health, mental and emotional clarity and a liberating connection with our higher self.“You are your own greatest healer and teacher” - Robin Clements See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

May 2019

1 hr 26 min

Hamilton Souther is a traditionally trained Ayahuasca and Tobacco Shaman who was born and raised in the United States. He received formal training in plant medicine work and now operates a retreat centre in Peru called Blue Morpho that offers healing retreats. In is episode we explore Hamilton's wild story and we explore the details of how plant medicines heal ailments like trauma, addiction, and other issues. We discuss some of the unlikely events and wild occurrences that lead Hamilton down his path to Shamandom. We also talk candidly about "master plants", "plant dieta", and even the Cannabis plant and its role as a master plant. Connect with Hamilton: Blue Morpho Retreat Centre - https://www.bluemorphotours.com The Modern Shamanism course - modernshamanism.org If you liked this episode, watch out for Hamilton's podcast coming out soon, called The Blue Morpho Podcast. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Apr 2019

1 hr 33 min

Sheleana Aiyana, founder of RisingWoman.com joins me for a conversation about codependency in relationships, as well as a Q & A about relationships where we answer questions from fans about our own realtionship. Codependency is a word that comes up in conversations about healthy/unhealthy relationships. It is a pattern that is prevalent in the relationships all around you, and perhaps in your own relationship. We explore this subject in detail, defining what codependency is and what it looks like in romantic relationships.  Some of the things we discuss in this episode: What codependency can look like in relationship.  How quiet resentment builds when you give the wrong things Covert agreements (6:00) Coming in to relationship not needing to perform in order to earn love Type 1 codependency - Codependency associated with addiction (10:50) The key to recovering from Type 1 codependency Type 2 codependency - The "special" relationship (16:00) When 2 people are codependent Codependency as an isolation mechanism of the ego (20:00) The "Nice Guy" and "Nice Gal" phenomenon (26:00) How fear or rejection prevents us from asking for what we want (30:00) Learning to accept your partner's "No" Developing a strong sense of self-love, so you can say no to partners who don't fit what you want (39:00) The moment when we broke up early in the relationship and how we dealt with it. (43:00) How to bring consciousness in to a hot discussion or a fight (47:30) Using relationship as a tool for your own self-discovery (49:00) Q & A about relationships. See below (56:00) Healthy relationship tips from this episode: Come in to relationship already deserving of love. This is a mindset. Ask for what you want - communicate your needs Set agreements consciously and verbally Allow emotions to flow in your relationship. Let it be messy. Learn to feel your own feelings, so you can hold space for your partner Use what happens in your relationship as an opportunity to learn about yourself and how your own mind works Disagreement does not equal rejection. Rejection doesn't have to crush you. Be willing to have your partner say "No" Learn to say No and then allow your partner to feel their feelings Develop self-love so you can turn down relationships that aren't a good fit for you. In hot discussions and fights - put 80% inward curiosity and 20% outward curiosity in the other person Remember that even in the most conscious relationships, there will be conflict. Your responsibility is to keep doing the work. If you want something in your relationship, bring the energy of that thing Take healthy space from each other, and use your community to give you energy instead of relying on each other for everything Women, nurture strong relationships with other women Men, build strong bonds with other men. Know what you want in relationships, and don't sell yourself out when choosing to move forward in a relationship. Boundaries are sexy Remember that you don't have to work out your relationship issues immediately. You can take space, and then come together and hold some space. Know when you can and can't hold space Sheleana runs a program with Heather Pennell on Rising Woman called Heal Your Relationships. This is a program for women looking to do their inner work so they can attract the relationships they want. Q & A Time - We answer the following: Should I wait for “the one” or spend time dating and trying out romantic relationships? Where are all the “good ones”? Why do I only attract people who only want sex? Personal Question: Were we both interested in relationship work and personal growth before we met? Can space between partners be healthy? How can time apart be good for relationships? What are the benefits of polyamory or non-manogamy versus monogamy? How do I bring myself to my partner when things aren’t going well? How do I hold space? See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Jan 2019

1 hr 36 min

Mike Muscari joins me for a discussion about purpose. We talk about how to cut a path in your life that is aligned with your heart’s desire and your mission in the world. In a world of infinite choice and many voices telling us what we should do, it is all too common to feel lost and directionless in our pursuit of purpose. The process of peeling away the “Shoulds” that have been placed on us by society is not easy. Mike has created a program to guide regular people through the process of uncovering and aligning with their purpose, so they can live an aligned life of fulfillment. On this episode we cover Mike’s personal story of finding success as a financial advisor, and the transformation that followed. The mid-life crisis that comes as a result of pursuing the illusion of success The power of writing down your goals and dreams Personal Development - learning about who you really are Creating purpose for your life will create a ripple of change The fear of change and our tendency to stay safe How to use a “faith-based approach” to address fear Purpose = Not what do you want to do, but WHO do you want to be in the world?  Using your purpose to guide your choices Choosing the meaning for everything that happens in your life Inside-out approach VS an outside in approach The Purpose Method - uncovering one’s deepest values How to ask the right questions to reveal the themes that point to your purpose Resources in creating your own Purpose Constitution The purpose of the purpose method - Uncovering your highest and deepest values so you can live without regrets Creating a statement that guides your life Mike's upcoming trip across North America to interview people about purpose Books and resources Think And Grow Rich - by Napoleon Hill 17 Principles Of Success - by Napoleon Hill Wayne Dyer’s work on Purpose Dan Millman’s Books - peacefulwarrior.com/books/ Mike's Links Website - Thepurposemethod.org Instagram - instagram.com/thepurposemethod/ Mike's (amazing) Lyposomal Vitamin Company - Nano Nutra See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Oct 2018

1 hr 11 min

Its time to talk about purpose and fulfillment on the Evolving Man podcast. Jordan Gray- a sex and relationship coach who has written 10 books - joins me for an in-depth talk about how to find your unique gift and fullfill your dreams. We all face these big questoins in our lives:  "What am I here to do?" "How can I do that thing I'm passionate about?" "When should I make the move? " When you're asking these questions, Jordan is the man with the fuel to dump on your fire. He helps his clients find their passion, find their 'why', and remove the barriers holding them back. He has written 500+ articles on relationships, sex, emotional intelligence, and masculinity, and he drops a whole dump truck of enthusiastic passion on this episode.  We all want to live a life where we're creating every day and serving a cause that fulfills us. So many of us get stuck in the start-up phase of a new venture, facing obstacles like analysis paralysis, self-doubt, unrealistic expectations, and loss of energy. These things get in the way of achieving our goals, and they often keep us stuck in a “safe” position. We're left wondering how to get over the initial minefield of roadblocks that get in the way of our progress, stuck in a life of mediocrity. If you want to dig deeper in to your purpose, find more passion in your life, and life a life of greatness, this one is for you. We'll outline the do's and don'ts of creating something that you’re passionate about. If you need a pep talk to get you started on that thing you've been delaying forever, listen to this episode on repeat.   On this episode we cover: Creating a life where your work is your passion. It is possible for YOU. The trap of looking for the ultimate 'trick or hack' to get successful ASAP The Do's and Don'ts of starting a business centred around your passion "Abundance mindset" VS "scarcity mindset" The Lone Wolf - trading humility and relationship for ego, fast success, and isolation. Collaboration - the key ingredient in exponentially increasing the success of your endeavours. The paradox of success - the goal you thought you wanted was actually just a milestone on your path The antidote to lacklustre goal achievement - choosing larger more "unachievable" goals  Start-up energy expenditure and how to deal with it The power of isolated lazer-focus  The dangers of spreading yourself too thin Finding right things to focus on - aligning with your values Making space in your life for new results Inner work - overcoming the belief that you do not deserve success The two major ways that we sabotage our own progress - overinflation (narcissism) and underinflation (self-deprecation). Collusion - a way that we hold each other down and keep each other blind because we're afraid to be honest. The value of authentic relationships in finding the Truth in your life The danger of piggy-backing and copying the success of others Competing with yourself - Rather than competing and comparing to others - how other competitors and comparison will take you off target.  Faith (the non-religious kind) - the antidote to the fear that holds you back.  Finding a passion that aligns with your values, and pursuing it in a sustainable way. This episode is packed full of useful quotes, inspirational tidbits, and loaded with wisdom for those who want to step further in to bringing their unique gifts to the world. Please share this with your friends and family who need it. We all need some motivation, inspiration, and a gentle push in the direction of our ultimate creation.  You can find Jordan Gray at - Jordan Gray Consulting See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Oct 2018

1 hr 35 min

Robert Kandell, host of the Tuff Love podcast joins me for a conversation about how to have authentic relationships in business, social, and with romantic partners.  Bringing "tough love" and having tough conversations is not easy, and often uncomfortable, but the payoffs for the quality of your relationships is huge.  Robert has a new book our called unHIDDEN: A Book for Men and Those Confused by Them, and you can find that (and pre-order) on his website. Quick reference for this show, we cover: The Junkyard dog - a real archetype that the world needs How to improve your self-esteem and find freedom How men remain hidden in the world Robert's 8 step process for UnHiding: Confront - face the uncomfortable reality you've been avoiding Investigate - explore that reality. Find answers. Find sanity. Commit - Make a decision to DO something Design a strategy - make it achievable, don't white-knuckle it Complete the milestone - complete the cycle Celebrate - Actually celebrate, physically. Debrief - find our where you can restructure Repeat - Do another cycle Why a man would consider quitting porn.  How to have a "tough love" conversation The secret to releasing the tension of that thing you've been withholding: Apology Robert's Bio: Robert Kandell has spent the last 20 years helping people re-energize their lives and build better relationships and sex through more honest and authentic connection and communication. After building a successful consulting firm in San Francisco, he then took his business acumen and co-founded One Taste (orgasmic meditation) with Nicole Daedone in 2004. Taking on the challenging task of bringing conscious sexuality to the mainstream market, Robert built the company from a paper napkin sketch to an 8-figure international corporation. He left OneTaste in 2014 to start his own consulting firm, Kandell Consulting, which helps small businesses become marketable and profitable. Robert is also an accomplished teacher, coach, and lecturer with over 400 workshops under his belt. He also brings his enthusiasm and passion to his weekly podcast, Tuff Love podcast on subjects around relationships, intimacy, sex, communication and gender dynamics. He also has written a book titled unHIDDEN: A Book for Men and Those Confused by Them which will be released November 15th this year. robertkandell.com - preorder the book   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Sep 2018

1 hr 6 min

One of my favorite mentors, Phil Teertha Mistlberger joins me on the show to illuminate and discuss "the dark side of the masculine".  In a time where Toxic Masculinity is a common concept - and the outright rejection of that term being equally as prevalent - we need to have a productive conversation that helps us find our way to the other side.  Phil guides us in the direction of seeing the polarities of life and how we can use them to become fully integrated human beings. For men who want to learn about how to engage shadow work, this episode is for you.  On this episode, we cover: Toxic Masculinity Wounding - the unmentored young man The story of Saturn - the tyranical male Why men fear success Unhealthy competition between men: How boys are often raised competing with each other for approval and attention The father vacuum - when a boy doesn't have enough contact with the father A man's resistance to power and success How unhealed relationships with power figures in your life holds you back Why men get stuck when they are full of tallent How to focus your attention to to counteract 21st Century Distracted Man Syndrome The extremes of competitiveness: extreme competitiveness, and denying it alltogether Shadow aspects VS the dark masculine forces Vanity and Pride as the two pillars of the ego Donald Trump - a poster boy for the dark father guru archetype; intollerance of criticism How your ego can co-opt your "personal growth" work, and use it against the world The key to discovering your shadow without being fooled by it --> Being witnessed by other men.  How to break through your ego in a support group by seeking to give rather than receive.  Why you need other people to do good shadow work 2 functions of a men's group: support, and leadership training Revealing the King inside you - learning what you have to give Why it is easier to receive feedback from a peer group than it is to receive feedback from your romantic partner.  Why some guys trigger you more than others  How to do shadow work on your own - be accountable for the people and the patterns that are in your life. The contrasts are there because you crave them. Befriending your shadow The dark side of the hero archetype Why engage in your inner work if your romantic partner isn't interested in it? Teertha's Books  The Inner Light A Rude Awakening - Perils, pitfalls, and hard truths of the spiritual path.  The Three Dangerous Magi The Way of the Conscious Warrior, out early 2019 Teertha's Website - www.ptmistlberger.com Samurai Brotherhood - samuraibrotherhood.com     See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Sep 2018

1 hr 22 min

Mark Groves is a relationship and communication coach. We've previously discussed How To Be A Man , and wanted to dive in to the concept of "Holding Space". This is often regarded as something that is done in romantic relationships, where one partner sits with another while they are having an emotional process. We outline the long definition of holding space, and the steps you can take to learn how to do it. On this episode we cover: Resistance to getting feedback from your partner. What is Holding Space: Presence, compassion, open-ness. Consent - the importance of acknowledging that both people are ready and willing. Boundaries - saying "no" when you're not able to hold space. Step 1 - check in with yourself, see if you're ready and able Men's ability to connect to their own emotions How to find out what you're not good at The best way to learn how to connect to your emotions The art of separating your feelings from your partner's Step 2 - Prepare your inner space and open your heart Heart opening meditation. Not that hard.  Self talk to help yourself be ready for space holding Bypassing and our tendency to look for shortcuts The quickest way through an emotion is to lean in to it. How to build trust: Rigorous honesty and personal boundaries.  Step 3 - Accept the role, or say “no” and set a boundary Step 4 - Hold it Step 5 - Validate, Reflect.  The results of successful space holding - closeness and ego dissolution How to find Mark: Instagram: @createthelove Website: markgroves.tv Connor Beaton’s article on Holding Space See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Aug 2018

1 hr 5 min

Dr. Joe Tafur has a unique story. While in medical school, in the midst of a low-point in his emotional life, he encountered the world of plant medicines through Peyote (and subsequently Ayahuasca) and found a whole other world-view of healing. After finishing medical school, he split his time between studying plant medicines in the jungle of Peru and practicing medicine in the United States. He is now a shaman, an author, and a doctor, sharing a unique view of healing that encompasses the physical along with the spiritual.  Joe's book, The Fellowship Of The River tells Joe's story along with other stories of shamans clearing up conditions like Chrones, Diabetes, Psoriasis, Addiction, and Trauma with plant medicines. He eloquently describes the methods shaman's use, and what parts of the body are being affected. Healing occurs at the level of DNA and epigenetics. In this episode we discuss: Joe's book at its connection to The Cosmic Serpent, a book about healing at the level of one's DNA, and how Shaman's take their consciousness down to that level using Ayahuasca The link between emotional healing and physical healing Genes and the programming in them that interfaces with the environment, the epi-genome How environmental imprints can cause illness that looks "genetic" and permanent. Proof of how the epigenome can store and carry memories from one generation to the next.  How trauma is stored in the body and needs to be released LOVE as the most powerful force for healing and health. The number 1 factor in healing through therapy Phenomenon: Mystical experiences healing physical addictions --> The spiritual solution The Psycho-Neuro-Endocrine-Immunologic network - the mind-body network that connects the mental, emotional, and spiritual. The role of spiritual healing in modern health care  Joe's project to track epigenetic shifts in the physiology of participants in the MAPS trials that are happening with PTSD and MDMA healing.  The Modern Spirit Project - modernspirit.org Joe's Website - drjoetafur.com Find Joe's book here on Amazon Joe will be speaking at the Psychedelic Psychotherapy Forum in Victoria in October 2018 See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Aug 2018

56 min 57 sec

"How do I help my sister/uncle/friend with his/her addiction? How can I support them without 'enabling' them?" I get this question all the time, and the answer isn't simple, so I did a solocast to give this subject the long answer it deserves. This podcast is for those of you who have a loved-one or a close friend who is struggling with an addiction.  On this episode I cover: How to assess how ready someone is to change their behavior Ways to support someone who isn't yet contemplating quitting How to support someone who is ready to quit and make a change The balance of maintaining relationship while having boundaries Addiction as a physical, emotional, and spiritual illness Treating addiction from a "holistic" perspective The power of environment and social group on an addict The power of "hitting bottom" and what it means and how it works Interventions and sharing honestly about how someone's behavior affects you Stacking factors in an intervention to create a breakthrough for an addict Ego and its relationship to addiction Group recovery and the power of recovering together The power of 12 step programs - Fellowship + Structured Spiritual Program Objections to the 12 step program and classic smoke-screens The core of recovery: Community that supports recovery + spiritual principles Healing trauma as a path to healing the addiction Ayahuasca, Psilocybin, Ibogane and other psychedelics for treating addiction and healing trauma.  "The Environmental Cure" and changing location to start over How to leverage your relationship with someone to help them in crucial moments Resources to explore:  Dr. Gabor Mate's work Dr. McCauley's presentation as addiction as a dis-ease   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Jul 2018

42 min 36 sec

Mark Groves, The Human Connection Specialist, joins me for another conversation about masculinity, relationships, and healing our wounds as a group.  Mark provides no BS relationship advice to men and women, drawing on his many years of experience and studies of relationships. He brings his blunt, funny, and outspoken style to our conversation.  On this episode, we discuss: Intro - Mark's Upcoming Podcast What "Be A Man" Means The old "masculinity". Time to redefine it. Childhood trauma, circumcision, and fighting for whats right "Men's Rights" - Why its not okay to speak about it The school system and why "all boys have ADD" The making of the "Nice Guy syndrome" How modern conflict-avoidant men end relationships The shaming of men, and how it wounds men further Shaming men for being sensitive How to build an emotionally cut-off man How not talking about sex makes our sex culture worse The "Me Too" movement and how it is a part of our healing Criticism and our critical culture Masculine and Feminine traits Toxic Masculinity and Toxic Femininity  Societal shadow issues Holding space at an individual level, and societal level Men - learning to express emotion Leaning in to The New Masculinity  The Masters Of The Universe Summit Mark's Instagram - @createthelove Mark's Website - markgroves.tv The MOTU Website - motusummit.com   See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Jun 2018

1 hr 21 min

Gerald Thomas is a researcher and policy maker at the British Colubia Ministry of Health. He is the director of alcohol, tobacco, cannabis and gambling policy for the region. Despite working on government policy, he is not an average government worker. He has sat in ceremony with Ayahuasca and was also the head of the first observational study on Ayahuasca in the country which had quantitative and qualitative elements.  Gerald has been on the forefront of some of the psychedelic medicine research over the past decade and has built his own relationship with the substances he studies. His heart centered approach coupled with his passion for science and discovery makes him a powerful agent for change in the way we view drugs and plant medicines.  On this episode we cover: Cannabis policy and standards in the province The Ayahuasca research that changed the landscape How trauma is stuck in the body Why treating PTSD is so difficult How psychedelics like Ayahuasca can heal trauma Trust - as the key to facilitating healing Being comfortable with discomfort - another key to healing trauma & addictions Plant consciousness and Plant Spirits Psychedelic Assisted Therapy Healing trauma through feeling what hasn't been felt Soul Loss - losing a piece of yourself during a traumatic event Soul Retrieval - getting those pieces back Presence - Learning to stay present so healing can occur Tapping in to Flow as a guide in life Natural ways to connect to your source - Kundalini yoga, meditation, and breath work. Triggers of trauma and how to work with them The Crisis of the Heart we are facing now, and the call to healing The Fixing Culture - the tendency to commodify medicines Professional Bio: Gerald Thomas is a Collaborating Scientist with the Centre for Addictions Research of BC, an Adjunct Professor in the Department of Psychology at University of British Columbia, and owner/operator of Okanagan Research Consultants. He received his Ph.D. in political science from Colorado State University in 1998 and has worked in the area of Canadian addiction policy since 2004. He served on the secretariat of the working group that created Canada’s first National Alcohol Strategy in 2007, worked on several national and provincial level projects related to substance use and addiction​, and has published numerous peer-reviewed papers with leading researchers in the field. He lives with his family near Qualicum Beach, British Columbia, where he enjoys a variety of outdoor pursuits including mountain biking, hiking, and windsurfing. See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

May 2018

1 hr 15 min

Geoff MacKenzie is a dedicated Ashtanga Yoga instructor at MysoreBc. On this episode, we discuss the importance of having a disciplined practice in your life, a practice that challenges your mind, and your body. We also talk about the top 3 things that have shaped Geoff's life.  Geoff is on a mission to raise money for a good cause - stopping human trafficking. He is riding his motorcyle accross Canada raising money for an organization that rescues women from traficking every day. A 20$ donation from a large number of people can make a huge difference. Help Geoff make $108,000! Fund Jeff's Journey Here Jeff's webpage - www.mysorebc.com Odanadi - The anti tracking activists in India at the heart of this movement.  www.yogastopstraffick.org See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Apr 2018

1 hr 21 min

Sheleana Aiyana is a writer and group facilitator in Vancouver, BC and she joins me to discuss the implications and importance of doing whats called "Deep Work" - looking inward to explore our consciousness in order to reclaim some of the territory usually dominated by the unconsciouss.  In this episode we discuss the growing movement of women's and men's groups that are involved with deep work, and how they are affecting huge changes in the lives of their members.  Shelena and I candidly share our own relationship patterns as a way of showing what we are learning about how relationships can derail, and how to be in "conscious relationship". Topics we cover in this episode: Trauma and blocked emotions How we unconsciously act out our trauma "Shadow aspects" and how they show up  Why relationships are our biggest trigger How relationships can offer a powerful catalyst for healing our wounds Discipline of children through the withdrawal of love Healing through expressing what hasn't been allowed Needy-ness and Avoidance - two signs that you've got healing to do Deep work as a gateway to healthier relationships The Nice Guy phenomenon and how it affects men Conscious Relationship and learning to be in compassion and understanding Perseverance - The importance of staying in the game and moving towards your partner Triggers - How to deal with triggering your partner's wounds Shutting down when you're challenged - something that many men face with their partners For men: moving towards your partner when fear wants you to pull away Anxious and Avoidant types in relationships Rising Woman Sisterhood: Transpersonal group-work, family systems work, and the fellowship of women.  The paradox of vulnerability Shadow work and accepting both sides of your existence How to unlock your gifts How men can support women's work.  How to hold space for gender politics by doing your own work Collaboration VS Opposition in gender politics The masculine/feminine gender norms debate and how it can be a distraction from looking inward The #MeToo movement and how we can use MeToo to further our own inner work Sheleana's latest obsession: Satir Family Therapy The best Men's group in Vancouver - The Samurai Brotherhood Sheleana is a coach for women and relationships. Find her here Rising Woman on Facebook See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Apr 2018

1 hr 28 min

Dr. Aaron VanGaver is a Naturopathic Doctor working with addicted people in downtown Vancouver, BC. He treats many of the people that we would classify as "classic addicts", but Aaron himself is also a living breathing example that addiction affects every population, even doctors.  Aaron has his own story of losing connection with himself, finding drugs as a solution, and then finding recovery and reconnection through a series of divine events. He now works exclusively with addicts in early recovery. He is a doctor working with the body, but also a counsellor, and a coach.  Aaron uses IV drips, vitamins, and amino acids to help the detoxification process. This can also can treat the post-acute-withdrawal symptoms, depression, and anhedonia that can accompany early recovery. The biggest gift Aaron carries is the counselling he offers around shame, trauma, self-esteem, and most importantly, working with people on identifying their life's purpose. This unconventional approach gives his clients something to live for.  "I truly believe everyone has got a gift to give the world." -Dr. VanGaver Aaron is on a mission to change how people talk about and understand addiction. He wants to reduce the stigma about addiction in our culture.  In this episode we cover: Aaron's story of addiction and recovery HALT protocol - Hungry Angry Lonely Tired IV Vitamin Therapy Advanced IV Protocols for Addiction Recovery "The Shadow" and how it controls us How long it takes a brain to heal from Crystal Meth addiction Using psychedelics to addiction The Magic Bullet for treating addiction The importance of human connection in recovery - Rat Park How to deal with a family member who is addicted Check out Dr. VanGaver's website  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Mar 2018

41 min 16 sec

Sam Platts is a certified Sex Addiction Therapist practicing in Alberta, Canada. He knows the world of addiction inside and out. In this episode he candidly shares his story of growing up in a troubled home, and finding addictive patterns early in his life. On his journey, he ended up in some very scary places.  Sam has emerged on the other side of his struggles and is now giving back to people in need. He has a deep knowledge of sex addiction and the therapeutic techniques for recovery. He shared with me some of the keys to recovery from sex addiction and other addictions.  Keys to recovery: 1. COME CLEAN - You have to bust yourself. Come out of the shadows, and in to the light. This is a necessary part of the process. You cannot recover in a vacuum.  2. ABSTINENCE - Learn what abstinence means for you and define it clearly.  3. COMMUNITY - Find one. Sharing in the story reduces the shame. When you connect with others, you gain the power to overcome your blocks. 12 step support groups are great for this.Get a counsellor, mentor, or sponsor.  4. MENTORSHIP Get a counsellor, mentor, or sponsor.  5. INTIMACY - Allow the above to change you as you regain the ability to be intimate in your life.  You can reach Sam at info@figure8counsellingservices.ca Resources for sex addicts: www.sexhelp.com Patrick Carnes' book:  Facing The Shadow See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Mar 2018

1 hr

In this episode, my friend Jordan Gray joins me for a conversation about addiction, recovery, and healing the wounds that bind us. Jordan's wealth of experience and knowledge comes clear in this engaging conversation about whataddiction really is, and how some people are able to treat it and recover.  Jordan is a sex and relationship coach who helps his clients zero in on whats holding them back, and at lightning speed. He is a no BS coach who gets straight to the root of an issue without delay. He can do in 1 hour what some therapists take 100 hours to do, which is why he is in such high demand. Check out his coaching page at jordangrayconsulting.com/work-with-jordan/ Jordan is a recovering sex addict, and he is a powerful coach for people looking for support in their recovery. Jordan's story is a raw and inspiring message of hope for those suffering from addiction. In this episode we cover: What qualifies as an addiction? Habit vs Dependency vs Addiction Sex addiction and how it compares to drug addictions Cannabis/Marijuana addiction The 5 elements of holistic addiction recovery See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Feb 2018

1 hr 17 min

What does it take to create lasting change? What are the elements that help a man succeed at building the life he wants?  In this episode, Nick Solaczek and I distill the key factors that help a man rise to his highest potential.  We discuss: - VISION - Hard Work - knowing your WHY - doing DEEP WORK - finding support from COMMUNITY.  - The seductive trap of booze, women, games, and porn.  - Marijuana and the brain fog that can come with it.  This episode is packed full of personal stories and relatable examples of personal growth.  See omnystudio.com/listener for privacy information.

Feb 2018

1 hr 29 min