SDC Presents: Seek, Discover, Create with Lexi Sylver

Lexi Sylver

SDC’s Seek, Discover, Create is devoted to helping you discover your own erotic journey. Whether you’re new to exploring your sexual boundaries, or seeking your next exciting adventure, we’re here to give you access to all the resources you need to illuminate the roads along the path of your individual sexual enlightenment. Each show will feature experts in their respective fields, who will open your mind up to new ideas, so you can discover who you are and connect with SDC.com’s communities to create unique moments and experiences within your own erotic tribe, in a safe environment. No topic will be too taboo as we answer a wide range of important questions about sexuality, relationships and health, with expert guidance from leading health and sexuality professionals. You can unearth the ways in which you choose to express yourself freely, while connecting with like-minded individuals to join you as you explore yourself and your own needs and desires.

All Episodes

In our final SDC podcast episode, our host and producer Lexi Sylver shares her journey from day 1 of hosting the show, some of her favorite experiences and guests, and what her plans are for the future. Thank you for listening!

Sep 2020

27 min 45 sec

Do you want to know what it’s like to be a porn star? Our host Lexi Sylver invites Spencer Michael Barrick, aka Damon Dice, to get personal about his experiences as a performer in the adult industry, and his journey from entrepreneur to porn star. Spencer talks about how he began in the porn industry and how his roles and experiences have evolved over time, leading to his current contract for Bellesa, the largest porn site for women. He tells Lexi how he manages to balance his busy life as a performer while undertaking two businesses, PS Condoms and Can Be Done CBD. Spencer discusses how he mentally and physically prepares for porn scenes, how he manages performance anxiety, and how his on-set porn sex compares to the real-life sex he enjoys in his private life. Spencer also offers tips on the positive influence that certain kinds of porn can have on people’s sexuality and desire to explore.

Sep 2020

59 min 49 sec

What’s it like to be a couple who swings? Our host Lexi Sylver invited Mickey and Mallory from the Casual Swinger Podcast to talk about their personal experiences in the swinging lifestyle. They debunk myths about what it’s like to be in an open relationship, exposing common misconceptions that non-swinger folks have about the swinging lifestyle. Mickey and Mallory delve into some of the mistakes they’ve made in the past within their own relationship, providing advice and tips for others to navigate within the lifestyle. They also share some sexy stories from their visits to Hedonism II, the popular nudist resort in Jamaica.

Sep 2020

1 hr 1 min

What is seduction really all about? How can you discover the best ways to seduce your partner? Host Lexi Sylver invites Marla Renee Stewart, MA and Dr. Jessica O’Reilly to talk about seduction and their new book, The Ultimate Guide to Seduction and Foreplay. They discuss what seduction is really all about, and how seduction skills are key to becoming a great lover. Marla shares a few tips to discovering what kind of seduction styles will work best on your partner(s), and how learning these skills can make you a more confident lover. Dr. Jess talks about how the core erotic feelings behind someone’s desires can help us understand what your partner wants sexually and how they want to be seduced. They also explore how to communicate your fantasies to your partner, and how technology can help you seduce your partners and explore your fantasies.

Sep 2020

48 min 13 sec

What does it really mean to be in an open relationship? How can you get started in the swinger lifestyle? What are swingers and sex clubs actually like? What do you do when issues arise in your ethically non-monogamous relationship? Host Lexi Sylver flies solo this episode to talk to newbies and curious people and couples about swinging and open relationships. She introduces the basics of swinging and what it means for her and for others to be identified as open, who the swinging lifestyle is for, and what it’s not. Lexi highlights the importance of communication in relationships and how to talk to your partner about swinging and when feelings arise in the lifestyle, including how to cope with jealousy. She talks about how to meet other open-minded people, how to attract a unicorn, and what to do if swinging goes wrong. Lexi also answers several of the audience’s Letters to Lexi about open relationships.

Sep 2020

49 min 14 sec

What’s the difference between shame and guilt? Who and what can create those feelings? How can shame manifest in your life in different ways, and how can you handle it? In this episode, host Lexi Sylver and guest Rahim Thawer explore the ways in which we can learn to develop feelings of shame and guilt, and the ways in which those can impact different spheres of our personal lives. They talk about how feeling shy or embarrassed are just some of the smaller ways in which we can feel shame on a day to day basis. They provide advice to live your life authentically and feel confident with your sexuality, and how to learn to cope with feelings of shame to live a more fulfilled life. Rahim also talks about how shame isn’t always a bad thing and explains what we can learn from feeling different kinds of shame in our lives. Lexi and Rahim also answer real-life questions from the audience during Letters to Lexi.

Aug 2020

58 min 32 sec

What does it really mean to be in an open relationship? How can you get started in the swinger lifestyle? What are swingers and sex clubs actually like? What do you do when issues arise in your ethically non-monogamous relationship? Host Lexi Sylver flies solo this episode to talk to newbies and curious people and couples about swinging and open relationships. She introduces the basics of swinging and what it means for her and for others to be identified as open, who the swinging lifestyle is for, and what it’s not. Lexi highlights the importance of communication in relationships and how to talk to your partner about swinging and when feelings arise in the lifestyle, including how to cope with jealousy. She talks about how to meet other open-minded people, how to attract a unicorn, and what to do if swinging goes wrong. Lexi also answers several of the audience’s Letters to Lexi about open relationships.

Aug 2020

49 min 14 sec

Do you want to know what it’s like for a woman behind the scenes of the adult entertainment industry? Specifically, what it’s like for a female director, producer and photographer behind the camera? In this episode, I'm joined by Holly Randall, world-renowned erotic photographer and adult film producer, and host of the #1 adult industry podcast, Holly Randall Unfiltered. Holly has worked for top adult brands like Twistys, Playboy Plus, Digital Playground and Penthouse, among others. Because of her unparalleled experience as a femme fatale in the male-dominated adult industry, Holly is going to help us explore that fine line between erotica and pornography, what it’s like to be a woman in charge on set, and the different views and perspectives about beauty, ethics and the industry that she brings to the table. She also gives some solid words of advice for women who are looking to make their mark in the pornography and erotic photography industries.

Aug 2020

1 hr 1 min

How can reading and writing erotic stories help you seduce your partner? How can erotica be used to increase your sexual exploration? Erotica author Casey Carter joins host Lexi Sylver to share their advice for creating erotic literature and the benefits of getting creative as a way to communicate what you want sexually to your partner. They discuss how they write sexy characters and scenarios to entice, stimulate and inspire others to explore their sexuality, kinks and fetishes without shame. Casey and Lexi talk about their upcoming event, Cocktails and Erotic Tales, what it’s like to do live storytelling sessions for their fans. Finally, they provide tips and advice to creating and sharing erotica with your lovers.

Aug 2020

49 min 24 sec

Are you curious about kink and BDSM? Do you want to know why some kinky folks enjoy BDSM so much? If you want to discover more about the BDSM lifestyle, why it can be therapeutic, and how you can incorporate kinky play in your own life, you’re in the right place! Joining me, your host Lexi Sylver, for this episode is an amazing duo, Charlie and Arienne Williams of SexBecause. We go deep as Charlie and Arienne reveal their personal experiences with BDSM, and apply their clinical knowledge to our discussion about what a healthy dominant/submissive and/or master/slave relationship looks like, negotiating boundaries and establishing consent with your partner, and what after care can look like for different people in different scenarios. We also explore how and why BDSM can be considered therapeutic by some people, and how to kink it up a notch when the novelty of your BDSM play starts to wear off a bit. So tune in to join us as we shatter some crucial myths behind the kink.

Jul 2020

1 hr

To celebrate the new release of her erotic book, Mating Season: Erotic Short Stories, our show’s producer and host Lexi Sylver flies solo to talk about erotica… and teases you with a sexy reading from one of her stories! She also talks about how erotic literature has become more popular in recent years, and how newer erotica is more diverse and representative when it comes to characters and settings. She discusses how gender, sexual orientation and relationship orientation are explored in her book. Lexi explains the reasons why people may enjoy reading erotica and all the benefits of reading and writing erotic stories and sharing them with their lover(s). She examines how erotica is an underrated tool of seduction that can be incorporated into your partnered sex life to explore new fantasies. Lexi discusses the benefits of writing erotica, along with some tips on how you can write your own erotic story. She wraps up by answering questions from the audience in Letters to Lexi.

Jul 2020

41 min 53 sec

What’s the big deal about masturbation? Why is there more shame and stigma for women when it comes to self-pleasure? Host Lexi Sylver invites sex educator and sex toy expert Julieta Chiara to discuss all the benefits of masturbation. They cover how self-pleasure is often rooted in shame, and how to change your mentality about touching yourself. Julieta offers tips for people looking to change up their masturbation routine, explore your body and experience more pleasure. She also explains how varying your repertoire can help improve your sex life. Lexi and Julieta discuss how mutual masturbation can increase the intimacy in your relationship and show your partner what you enjoy. They explore how sex toys can enhance partnered sex and how to communicate with your partner about what feels good and new things you want to try. Julieta and Lexi also talk about anal stimulation, warming up and how to make anal experiences more comfortable and pleasurable.

Jul 2020

57 min 19 sec

What is it really like to be a swinger? Mr. Mocha, the co-producer of the lifestyle podcast Ofacez, joins host Lexi Sylver to share some of his wisdom gained from over a decade of swinging. They debunk myths that newbies have when they first enter the open lifestyle and become swingers, and the importance of trust, honesty, and communication as being central to all types of healthy relationships. They explore intimacy versus sex, differences between cheating in monogamous relationships versus ethical non-monogamy, and the ways in which they enjoy certain freedoms within the lifestyle. Mr. Mocha also delves into some of his personal experiences of himself and Mrs. Mocha, who are an interracial couple, being on the receiving end of racism and discrimination both within and outside of the swinging lifestyle. He offers insight and perspective for those having trouble understanding the Black Lives Matter movement and systemic racism, giving actionable advice to create meaningful change.

Jul 2020

1 hr 5 min

How can strap-ons help increase our pleasure during partnered sex? Host Lexi Sylver invites pleasure expert Luna Matatas to discuss the fundamentals of strap-on sex and the fun things we can do with strap-ons. They cover anal sex, pegging, strap-on play for people with vulvas as well as for folks with prostates, and how to incorporate strap-ons to spice up threesomes and other kinds of group sex. Luna provides her expert tips on how to know what kinds of harnesses and dildos can be used for different kinds of play, along with beginner and professional tips for tops and bottoms to make strap-on sex extra pleasurable for everyone involved. They also discuss how to communicate strap-on fantasies with their partner(s) and how to check in during strap-on sex to ensure everyone’s pleasure. During Letters to Lexi, they also provide their advice for couples new to strap-on play, pegging and threesomes, including how a heterosexual couple can prepare to have a spicy threesome with a unicorn.

Jun 2020

57 min 14 sec

What do you actually know about the porn industry? Do you want to find out how adult entertainment is evolving to empower women? If you want to delve more deeply into how pornography can become more ethical and driven towards female pleasure, join me today with award-winning adult film stars and producers Jet Setting Jasmine and King Noire, co-owners of Royal Fetish Films, here to share the insight and experience they’ve acquired after over 20 years in the industry. Jasmine and King Noire are going to challenge what we think we know about porn, and what they’re doing differently to help steer the conversation about female sexuality in a more positive and empowering direction. We talk about how good porn can help create positive change within society about the importance of celebrating female pleasure, and the beauty of the female body. We cover important issues like combating sexism, racism and stereotypes within the porn industry, and what it means to create ethical porn.

Jun 2020

43 min 35 sec

Why is talking about our sexual health such a taboo topic? How can we overcome feelings of shame and negative stigma surrounding sexually transmitted infections (STIs) and sexually transmitted diseases (STDs)? Our host Lexi Sylver invites Courtney Brame, the founder of Something Positive for Positive People (SPFPP), for an open and personal discussion about sexual health. Courtney shares his personal experience receiving a positive herpes diagnosis and why he was inspired to start his podcast to discuss others’ stories about their positive diagnoses. He explains how having an STI or an STD doesn’t mean the end of your sex life. Courtney suggests the best ways to inform yourself and who to talk to about your physical and mental health, good ways to disclose your positive status to your current partner(s) and potential new partner(s) and what to do when you get diagnosed. Lexi and Courtney answer Letters to Lexi and offer advice on safe sex, navigating disclosure and more.

Jun 2020

50 min 22 sec

What’s it like to be in a hotwifing relationship? Real-life hotwifing couple and podcasters Brenna and Brian of Front Porch Swingers join Lexi Sylver to get personal about their own relationship dynamic and experiences. Brenna divulges what it’s like to be a hotwife in their stag-vixen dynamic, and how she and Brian use sexting, photos, audio and videos to maintain their intimacy and spice up their relationship. They explore how they personally connect with potential and current lovers to keep it sexy and seductive, even during times of quarantine and self-isolation. They discuss how folks who are in open relationships can adapt to the current times while respecting social distancing. Brian and Brenna explain how they keep it safe when it comes to vetting, meeting and playing with new potential sex partners. They provide tips for other couples who are interested in hotwifing and swinging and other types of ethically non-monogamous relationships.

Jun 2020

50 min 49 sec

What’s it like to be in a hotwifing relationship? Real-life hotwifing couple and podcasters Brenna and Brian of Front Porch Swingers join Lexi Sylver to get personal about their own relationship dynamic and experiences. Brenna divulges what it’s like to be a hotwife in their stag-vixen dynamic, and how she and Brian use sexting, photos, audio and videos to maintain their intimacy and spice up their relationship. They explore how they personally connect with potential and current lovers to keep it sexy and seductive, even during times of quarantine and self-isolation. They discuss how folks who are in open relationships can adapt to the current times while respecting social distancing. Brian and Brenna explain how they keep it safe when it comes to vetting, meeting and playing with new potential sex partners. They provide tips for other couples who are interested in hotwifing and swinging and other types of ethically non-monogamous relationships.

Jun 2020

50 min 49 sec

Are you interested in non-monogamous relationships? Are you curious about the best ways to navigate your first steps into the sexy world of consensual non-monogamy (also known as ethical non-monogamy)? Join me today with Dr. Liz Powell, licensed psychologist specializing in non-traditional relationships, and author of the book Building Open Relationships. We’re going to explore different kinds of non-monogamous relationships and what each of those look like; how to develop and maintain healthy and ethical non-monogamy with your partner or partners, and the best communication tips to keep prevent and resolve potential conflict. Dr. Liz Powell is also going to talk about how to be authentic with your partner(s) or your potential new partner(s) as you let them know your interest in non-monogamy, as well as how to best frame those conversations to evoke a more positive reaction from them, and what to do if your partner isn’t as interested in the concept of non-monogamy as you are.

May 2020

58 min 34 sec

What is it really like to be in an open relationship and the swinging lifestyle? How can you start to explore the lifestyle and have pleasurable experiences with your partner while maintaining a healthy relationship? Host Lexi Sylver is joined by lifestyle experts John and Jackie Melfi of Openlove 101, who were recently interviewed by CNN’s Lisa Ling for an episode of “This is Life”. They delve into John and Jackie’s relationship and their first swinging experience, as well as what being in the lifestyle means to them. They debunk myths about the lifestyle when it comes to who takes the lead, and prove that the swinging lifestyle is not all about sex. Jackie and Lexi talk about the sexual empowerment that women feel in the lifestyle. John and Jackie give advice for building healthy open relationships, how newbies to the lifestyle can talk to their partner before going to a swinger’s club for the first time, how to manage expectations, and what to do when swinging goes wrong.

May 2020

54 min 20 sec

To celebrate the new release of her erotic book, Mating Season: Erotic Short Stories, our show’s producer and host Lexi Sylver flies solo to talk about erotica… and teases you with a sexy reading from one of her stories! She also talks about how erotic literature has become more popular in recent years, and how newer erotica is more diverse and representative when it comes to characters and settings. She discusses how gender, sexual orientation and relationship orientation are explored in her book. Lexi explains the reasons why people may enjoy reading erotica and all the benefits of reading and writing erotic stories and sharing them with their lover(s). She examines how erotica is an underrated tool of seduction that can be incorporated into your partnered sex life to explore new fantasies. Lexi discusses the benefits of writing erotica, along with some tips on how you can write your own erotic story. She wraps up by answering questions from the audience in Letters to Lexi.

May 2020

41 min 53 sec

What’s the big deal about masturbation? Why is there more shame and stigma for women when it comes to self-pleasure? Host Lexi Sylver invites sex educator and sex toy expert Julieta Chiara to discuss all the benefits of masturbation. They cover how self-pleasure is often rooted in shame, and how to change your mentality about touching yourself. Julieta offers tips for people looking to change up their masturbation routine, explore your body and experience more pleasure. She also explains how varying your repertoire can help improve your sex life. Lexi and Julieta discuss how mutual masturbation can increase the intimacy in your relationship and show your partner what you enjoy. They explore how sex toys can enhance partnered sex and how to communicate with your partner about what feels good and new things you want to try. Julieta and Lexi also talk about anal stimulation, warming up and how to make anal experiences more comfortable and pleasurable.

May 2020

57 min 19 sec

Why has female-focused erotic literature become so popular in recent years? How do erotica writers get inspiration for their stories? How can erotica help you explore your sexuality and help break down taboos? Join host Lexi Sylver with erotic author and editor Rachel Kramer Bussel to discover more about the sexy world of erotica. In this episode, Rachel reveals what inspires her to write her erotic stories, and how she first came to start writing erotic literature. They discuss why women’s erotica continues to gain popularity and the current trends in the industry. They explore the diverse selection of new stories written with representative characters of different backgrounds, gender identities, relationship styles and sexuality. Finally, they discuss how female empowerment has contributed to the emergence of erotic stories that break down sexual shame and taboos and explore the pursuit of pleasure. Lexi and Rachel also answer some questions from the audience during Letters to Lexi.

Apr 2020

57 min 55 sec

Are you curious about cannabis? Do you want to know how you can use cannabis products to amp up your sex life? If you want to discover how cannabis can be effective at enhancing your sexual experiences, this show is for YOU! Joining Lexi Sylver in this episode is CannaSexual® Ashley Manta, professional sex educator and coach. They explore responsible ways to mix cannabis with sex and attain new heights of ecstasy, whether using cannabis products for smoking, vaping, ingesting, or as a lubricant. Ashley and Lexi also discuss how cannabis can be used to alleviate anxiety and some kinds of sexual pain (such as endometriosis, vaginismus, and vulvodynia), make orgasms more readily accessible and help with difficulties in sexual arousal. They also highlight the importance of establishing consent and communicating with your partner about using cannabis during sex. Ashley also explains the best and safest ways to start your experimentation with using CBD and THC products for sexual use.

Apr 2020

59 min 23 sec

What is seduction really all about? How can you discover the best ways to seduce your partner? Host Lexi Sylver invites Marla Renee Stewart, MA and Dr. Jessica O’Reilly to talk about seduction and their new book, The Ultimate Guide to Seduction and Foreplay. They discuss what seduction is really all about, and how seduction skills are key to becoming a great lover. Marla shares a few tips to discovering what kind of seduction styles will work best on your partner(s), and how learning these skills can make you a more confident lover. Dr. Jess talks about how the core erotic feelings behind someone’s desires can help us understand what your partner wants sexually and how they want to be seduced. They also explore how to communicate your fantasies to your partner, and how technology can help you seduce your partners and explore your fantasies.

Apr 2020

48 min 13 sec

As Coronavirus (COVID-19) sweeps the world, everyone is practicing self-isolation and social distancing. But how can we still feel sexy and experience pleasure in this stressful time? Host Lexi Sylver shares her personal tips for embracing our sexuality, starting with regulating our stress levels, because feeling anxious can diminish our libidos. She provides specific advice to help people who are self-isolating alone, as well as for those who are quarantined with their partner(s). She provides strategies to help us feel less isolated at home, including ways to stay connected with loved ones. Lexi offers tips on maintaining intimacy with long-distance lovers via phone sex, sexting, cybersex and sexual experimentation. She also explores how to get creative and reinvent date nights, whether your partner is living with you or can only be connected with via video chat and other technologies. Listen now to get more inspiration on staying sexy in self-isolation (and anytime).

Apr 2020

35 min 6 sec

How can strap-ons help increase our pleasure during partnered sex? Host Lexi Sylver invites pleasure expert Luna Matatas to discuss the fundamentals of strap-on sex and the fun things we can do with strap-ons. They cover anal sex, pegging, strap-on play for people with vulvas as well as for folks with prostates, and how to incorporate strap-ons to spice up threesomes and other kinds of group sex. Luna provides her expert tips on how to know what kinds of harnesses and dildos can be used for different kinds of play, along with beginner and professional tips for tops and bottoms to make strap-on sex extra pleasurable for everyone involved. They also discuss how to communicate strap-on fantasies with their partner(s) and how to check in during strap-on sex to ensure everyone’s pleasure. During Letters to Lexi, they also provide their advice for couples new to strap-on play, pegging and threesomes, including how a heterosexual couple can prepare to have a spicy threesome with a unicorn.

Mar 2020

57 min 14 sec

As Coronavirus (COVID-19) sweeps the world, everyone is practicing self-isolation and social distancing. But how can we still feel sexy and experience pleasure in this stressful time? Host Lexi Sylver shares her personal tips for embracing our sexuality, starting with regulating our stress levels, because feeling anxious can diminish our libidos. She provides specific advice to help people who are self-isolating alone, as well as for those who are quarantined with their partner(s). She provides strategies to help us feel less isolated at home, including ways to stay connected with loved ones. Lexi offers tips on maintaining intimacy with long-distance lovers via phone sex, sexting, cybersex and sexual experimentation. She also explores how to get creative and reinvent date nights, whether your partner is living with you or can only be connected with via video chat and other technologies. Listen now to get more inspiration on staying sexy in self-isolation (and anytime).

Mar 2020

35 min 6 sec

How do you talk to your monogamous partner about consensual non-monogamy? In what ways do the swinging, polyamorous and LGBTQ+ communities intersect? How can media and fiction writing evolve to include a better representation of people of all genders, sexual orientations and relationship styles? In this interview with Lexi Sylver, Cooper shares how he and his partner began their foray into consensual non-monogamy, and the lessons they learned along their journey. He reveals the challenges he has encountered being a queer-identified swinger, and how swingers can be more inclusive of bisexual men in the lifestyle. Lexi and Cooper explore the double standard of male bisexuality in the lifestyle, and the roles that toxic masculinity, homophobia, and internalized shame play when it comes to the perception of bisexual men. Cooper also shares how he features representative characters in his books, and why it is important for other writers and media to do the same.

Mar 2020

56 min 25 sec

How can sex toys improve your sex life and increase your pleasure during masturbation and partnered play? Why is it still so taboo to talk about female pleasure and women’s health? How are women making an impact in the world of sex tech? In this episode, Lexi Sylver interviews Maureen Pollack, inventor of the Waterslyde and co-owner of Lovability Inc., to explore how masturbating can contribute to greater sexual wellness and discuss how we can eliminate the stigma behind masturbation. They talk about erasing the misconception that sex toys will replace your partner and emphasize the ways in which using sex toys can enhance your relationship. They provide tips on how to talk about and incorporate playing with sex toys with your partner and explore how to empower women to take charge of their sexual health. Lexi and Maureen also answer real-life questions from the audience during Letters to Lexi. How can sex toys improve your sex life and increase your pleasure during masturbation? Why is it taboo to talk about female pleasure and women’s health? Listen to explore how masturbating can add to your sexual wellness, how sex toys can enhance your relationship, and tips to help you incorporate playing with sex toys with your partner.

Mar 2020

44 min 39 sec

How can you last longer in bed and prolong the intimacy with your lover(s)? For this episode, host Lexi Sylver invited Jeff Abraham, CEO of Promescent, a sexual wellness company that helps people enjoy longer-lasting sex and enhance the intimacy in their relationships. They talk about the reality of men and people with penises who experience premature ejaculation, and some of the possible underlying physiological and psychological reasons for PE. Uncovering some social stigmas and taboos about PE, they offer advice for the many ways to extend sex, prioritize their partner’s sexual pleasure, and physically and psychologically overcome premature ejaculation. Lexi and Jeff examine the orgasm gap, aka arousal gap, and the gender differences in terms of how much longer it may take women to achieve orgasm versus men. They explore the added pressures that men experience to perform well and last long in group sex scenarios within the swinger or open lifestyle.

Mar 2020

53 min 47 sec

Do you want to know how you can have the best sex of your life? Join host Lexi Sylver and her special guest, Dr. Jaime M. Grant, the author of Great Sex: Mapping Your Desire, for an uncensored talk about how to achieve the sex life you truly desire. Lexi and Jaime discuss what sex is all about, beyond a blur of body parts and the exchange of fluids and moans, and how any sex you have is meaningful. They explain how our past sexual experiences contributed to the development our current sexual selves, and what those adventures can help us learn about what we truly want in sex, relationships and life. Jaime explores the concept of Desire Mapping, and how people can use their individual Desire Map to uncover the fears and barriers that hold them back from living a truly fulfilling erotic life. Lexi and Jaime also talk about the power that lies in telling our sex stories, and how sharing our erotic tales help us discover more about our authentic sexuality and map our path to our best sex.

Feb 2020

49 min 58 sec

This episode features highlights from some of the most popular episodes this year about open relationships, swinging, hotwifing, polyamory and other forms of consensual non-monogamy. Our host Lexi Sylver talks to Dr. Liz Powell about different types of ethically non-monogamous relationships and how people can get on the same page about how they want to practice non-monogamy. Kitty Chambliss talks about the difference between envy and jealousy, the reasons we may experience jealousy, and why jealousy is not always a bad thing. John and Jackie of Openlove101 discuss their own personal open relationship, their first swinging experience, and female empowerment in the swinging lifestyle. Taylor Leigh and Gabriel Mann of SeXXXperience explore their unique swinging and hotwifing relationship and what the swinging lifestyle means to them.

Feb 2020

59 min 10 sec

What does it really mean to be in an open relationship? How can you get started in the swinger lifestyle? What are swingers and sex clubs actually like? What do you do when issues arise in your ethically non-monogamous relationship? Host Lexi Sylver flies solo this episode to talk to newbies and curious people and couples about swinging and open relationships. She introduces the basics of swinging and what it means for her and for others to be identified as open, who the swinging lifestyle is for, and what it’s not. Lexi highlights the importance of communication in relationships and how to talk to your partner about swinging and when feelings arise in the lifestyle, including how to cope with jealousy. She talks about how to meet other open-minded people, how to attract a unicorn, and what to do if swinging goes wrong. Lexi also answers several of the audience’s Letters to Lexi about open relationships.

Feb 2020

49 min 14 sec

Women face many challenges when it comes to expressing and exploring their sexuality. Host Lexi Sylver and Jessi Camille of The Pussy Party Podcast get personal to uncover some of the reasons why women are reluctant to fully embrace their sexual selves. They unpack the double standards that exist when it comes to society’s perceptions and stigmas about female versus male sexuality. They also discuss their experiences of being slut shamed by others and how that impacted their current journeys to guide other women to be shameless in their pursuit of pleasure and happiness. Lexi and Jessi also talk about what female empowerment means to them, and what women can do to help others discover and unapologetically own their sexual identities. They offer advice for women who are struggling with body image and sexual confidence and encourage women to celebrate their sexuality rather than feeling shame.

Feb 2020

51 min 15 sec

What’s the best way to have a threesome? Are you wondering how to find a third or a couple you can experiment with comfortably and safely? If you want to explore how to go from menage à trois fantasy to reality on your own or with your partner, join me today with Luna Matatas, sex and Pleasure Educator with over 10 years of experience teaching locally, internationally and online. Luna and I are going to delve into the pleasures and challenges of having a threesome, from the perspective of a unicorn, rhino or Lucky Pierre, as well as from a couple’s point of view. We’ll explore how to have the best possible threesome experience, with tips and tricks on finding your threesome, breaking the ice, dealing with awkwardness and jealousy, and communication strategies to keep everything running smoothly. We'll teach you that threesomes can be fun and fulfilling experiences – with the right partners and in the right scenarios.

Jan 2020

59 min 13 sec

Oral sex talk, uncensored! Host Lexi Sylver interviews Melanie Cristol, the founder of Lorals, to talk about her journey in the sex tech industry, the taboos behind cunnilingus, and how to feel confident giving and receiving oral pleasure. They discuss why vulva owners might feel uncomfortable receiving cunnilingus, and what to do to minimize worries and maximize their comfort and pleasure. Lexi and Melanie offer advice for period sex, STI and STD protection during oral sex, analingus, anal rimming, as well as how to communicate with your partner about what you do and don’t enjoy. They explore how women are feeling more empowered to take charge of their sexuality and pleasure. Melanie also details the challenges she overcame during her foray into sex tech and in developing, manufacturing and marketing her invention.

Jan 2020

50 min 17 sec

How does a couple go from monogamy to swinging to polyamory? Host Lexi Sylver gets personal with Talloolah Love and her partner Q as they detail their journey through ethical non-monogamy and how their relationship has evolved through open and honest communication about boundaries and feelings. Talloolah and Q explore the mistakes they made, and how they overcame jealousy, and how they adapted their relationship and refined their boundaries. They also discuss what to do in polyamory when you are experiencing new relationship energy (NRE) with a new partner, to make your other partners feel special, and what to do if your metamours aren’t getting along. Q also discusses how his anxiety and depression affected his sexual desire, and how he and Talloolah have accommodated each other’s intimacy needs in light of his asexuality.

Jan 2020

58 min 51 sec

Do you want to know what people fantasize about? Which sexual fantasies are the most popular and the most taboo? Our host Lexi Sylver interviews Dr. Justin Lehmiller about the studies he has done with people who have revealed their deepest, darkest fantasies. Dr. Lehmiller reports these real life findings, some of which are quite surprising. Lexi Sylver and Dr. Lehmiller explore which sexual fantasies are the most common for people to have, and the differences in gender and sexual orientations in the type and frequency of their fantasies. They also discuss which sexual fantasies are considered taboo, such as cuckolding fantasies and forced sex fantasies, and reveal why people might fantasize about those kinds of scenarios, as well as why those are actually quite normal and common. They also explore how having sexual fantasies can potentially be beneficial to your mental health and to help you explore your sexuality, and what to do if you are having unwanted sexual fantasies.

Jan 2020

54 min 10 sec

This episode highlights some of the most popular episodes this year about spicing up your sex life, including butt stuff, using cannabis to enhance sex, getting kinky with BDSM, and how to have an orgy. Our host Lexi Sylver talks to Sunny Megatron and Ken Melvoin-Berg of American Sex Podcast, Ashley Manta (The Cannasexual), Charlie and Arienne of SexBecause, and Taara and James from Sex Uninterrupted. Sunny and Ken explain the differences between prostate and anal orgasms, what pegging is, and tips to make it comfortable, sexy and fun for everyone involved. Ashley Manta describes how cannabis products can be used to have even more pleasurable sex, and advice on how to get started trying cannabis. Charlie and Arienne get personal and describe their own kinky dominant / submissive dynamic and explore the foundations of a healthy BDSM relationship. Taara and James offer insight into how to have an orgy, from choosing your partners to establishing consent and ensuring mutual pleasure.

Dec 2019

55 min 53 sec

This episode features highlights from some of the most popular episodes this year about open relationships, swinging, hotwifing, polyamory and other forms of consensual non-monogamy. Our host Lexi Sylver talks to Dr. Liz Powell about different types of ethically non-monogamous relationships and how people can get on the same page about how they want to practice non-monogamy. Kitty Chambliss talks about the difference between envy and jealousy, the reasons we may experience jealousy, and why jealousy is not always a bad thing. John and Jackie of Openlove101 discuss their own personal open relationship, their first swinging experience, and female empowerment in the swinging lifestyle. Taylor Leigh and Gabriel Mann of SeXXXperience explore their unique swinging and hotwifing relationship and what the swinging lifestyle means to them.

Dec 2019

59 min 10 sec

Lexi Sylver joins us LIVE from The Everything to Do With Sex Show in Toronto, Ontario, Canada, with interviews from sex educators, exhibitors and attendees. She talks to Fatima Mechtab, Marketing Director and Co-Owner of Oasis Aqualounge in Toronto, about what it’s like at a sex club, events they offer and the demographics of their guests. In her interview with Luna Matatas, pleasure educator, they discuss the topics she covers in her seminars at the show, from how to have a threesome to talking about fantasies with your partner, and debunking myths about dominance. With Patrick, host of the podcast Intellectual Erection, they explore establishing consent and exploring openness within the sex-positive community, and normalizing and destigmatizing sexuality. In her interview with Matt Tabota, owner of Toronto’s The O Zone, they offer tips for people who go to a sex club for the first time. Join Lexi and her guests during this exciting live event.

Dec 2019

59 min 44 sec

Why has female-focused erotic literature become so popular in recent years? How do erotica writers get inspiration for their stories? How can erotica help you explore your sexuality and help break down taboos? Join host Lexi Sylver with erotic author and editor Rachel Kramer Bussel to discover more about the sexy world of erotica. In this episode, Rachel reveals what inspires her to write her erotic stories, and how she first came to start writing erotic literature. They discuss why women’s erotica continues to gain popularity and the current trends in the industry. They explore the diverse selection of new stories written with representative characters of different backgrounds, gender identities, relationship styles and sexuality. Finally, they discuss how female empowerment has contributed to the emergence of erotic stories that break down sexual shame and taboos and explore the pursuit of pleasure. Lexi and Rachel also answer some questions from the audience during Letters to Lexi.

Dec 2019

57 min 55 sec

What is it really like to be in an open relationship and the swinging lifestyle? How can you start to explore the lifestyle and have pleasurable experiences with your partner while maintaining a healthy relationship? Host Lexi Sylver is joined by lifestyle experts John and Jackie Melfi of Openlove 101, who were recently interviewed by CNN’s Lisa Ling for an episode of “This is Life”. They delve into John and Jackie’s relationship and their first swinging experience, as well as what being in the lifestyle means to them. They debunk myths about the lifestyle when it comes to who takes the lead, and prove that the swinging lifestyle is not all about sex. Jackie and Lexi talk about the sexual empowerment that women feel in the lifestyle. John and Jackie give advice for building healthy open relationships, how newbies to the lifestyle can talk to their partner before going to a swinger’s club for the first time, how to manage expectations, and what to do when swinging goes wrong.

Dec 2019

54 min 20 sec

Join Lexi Sylver for the second part of this sexy miniseries! Lexi is LIVE during SDC's Takeover of Cap d'Agde, the world-renowned Naturist Village in the South of France. In this episode, she interviews two very naked and explorative couples about their sexy experiences in Cap d'Agde. They talk about what it's like to be naked all the time in a sex-positive, open-minded and sexually charged environment among other couples seeking to explore and discover new people. They also talk about their unique relationships and how they have navigated the swinging lifestyle together, and offer us their own personal tips on how to have a thrilling and fulfilling time with your partner as you play within the world of consensual non-monogamy. Finally, they offer advice for people who are thinking of visiting Cap d'Agde for the first time, including what to expect, the proper swinger etiquette, communication musts and much more.

Nov 2019

59 min 53 sec

What’s the difference between shame and guilt? Who and what can create those feelings? How can shame manifest in your life in different ways, and how can you handle it? In this episode, host Lexi Sylver and guest Rahim Thawer explore the ways in which we can learn to develop feelings of shame and guilt, and the ways in which those can impact different spheres of our personal lives. They talk about how feeling shy or embarrassed are just some of the smaller ways in which we can feel shame on a day to day basis. They provide advice to live your life authentically and feel confident with your sexuality, and how to learn to cope with feelings of shame to live a more fulfilled life. Rahim also talks about how shame isn’t always a bad thing and explains what we can learn from feeling different kinds of shame in our lives. Lexi and Rahim also answer real-life questions from the audience during Letters to Lexi.

Nov 2019

58 min 32 sec

How can sex toys improve your sex life and increase your pleasure during masturbation and partnered play? Why is it still so taboo to talk about female pleasure and women’s health? How are women making an impact in the world of sex tech? In this episode, Lexi Sylver interviews Maureen Pollack, inventor of the Waterslyde and co-owner of Lovability Inc., to explore how masturbating can contribute to greater sexual wellness and discuss how we can eliminate the stigma behind masturbation. They talk about erasing the misconception that sex toys will replace your partner and emphasize the ways in which using sex toys can enhance your relationship. They provide tips on how to talk about and incorporate playing with sex toys with your partner and explore how to empower women to take charge of their sexual health. Lexi and Maureen also answer real-life questions from the audience during Letters to Lexi. How can sex toys improve your sex life and increase your pleasure during masturbation? Why is it taboo to talk about female pleasure and women’s health? Listen to explore how masturbating can add to your sexual wellness, how sex toys can enhance your relationship, and tips to help you incorporate playing with sex toys with your partner.

Nov 2019

44 min 39 sec

How can you use tantra to experience more pleasure in your sex life and get to know your body better? How can you learn to delay ejaculation, stay hard and maintain an erection during sex, and still experience the pleasure of orgasm without ejaculation? And on the flip side, how can you start to achieve orgasms during sexual play when it's difficult for you to climax? Karen and Brion Craig answer all these questions with host Lexi Sylver, as they talk about the benefits for everyone who practices tantra. They cover how to last longer in bed by prolonging your sex sessions and increasing your and your partner’s pleasure, how to use healthy communication skills to enhance your relationship and your sex life, and how you can achieve multiple orgasms. They also explore the importance of knowing yourself and what makes your body feel good, starting with using tantric practices during masturbation. Lexi also answers listeners' questions in Letters to Lexi, with added advice from her guests.

Nov 2019

53 min 2 sec

What are some common obstacles to dating today, especially in the realm of apps and internet dating? What’s the best way to approach dating to find yourself a great match who is authentic and meets your needs? For those in a relationship, how can you keep the spark and New Relationship Energy (NRE) alive, even over the long term, as you and your partner(s) evolve over time? Lexi Sylver and Dr. Shamyra Howard share some tips for communicating with your potential or current partner in a healthy way, and how to explore new ways of having fun together and increasing intimacy in your relationship. Shamyra explains how to make time for your partner - and why scheduling date nights and sex can really work! They also address the importance of knowing who you are, what you want, and feeling self-confident and sexy in your own skin, whether you’re in a relationship or not. Lexi and Shamyra also answer a bunch of people’s real-life personal questions during the Letters to Lexi segment.

Oct 2019

55 min 50 sec

Join Lexi Sylver for the second part of this sexy miniseries! Lexi is LIVE during SDC's Takeover of Cap d'Agde, the world-renowned Naturist Village in the South of France. In this episode, she interviews two very naked and explorative couples about their sexy experiences in Cap d'Agde. They talk about what it's like to be naked all the time in a sex-positive, open-minded and sexually charged environment among other couples seeking to explore and discover new people. They also talk about their unique relationships and how they have navigated the swinging lifestyle together, and offer us their own personal tips on how to have a thrilling and fulfilling time with your partner as you play within the world of consensual non-monogamy. Finally, they offer advice for people who are thinking of visiting Cap d'Agde for the first time, including what to expect, the proper swinger etiquette, communication musts and much more.

Oct 2019

59 min 53 sec