Solace and the City

Zoe Scurletis

A guide to finding comfort in the chaos and feeling less alone.

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This week I had the opportunity to record with a local Austin musician, Mitchell Davis!  I actually first met Mitchell when I was walking on the pedestrian bridge in downtown Austin.  My friend Cole was about to propose to his girlfriend, so I asked Mitchell if he would be willing to play a song for them when he got down on one knee, and he agreed without hesitation!  After such an incredible encounter, I obviously had to invite him to come on the podcast!  In this episode, Mitchell and I talk about what motivated him to become a musician and how he has acclimated to the Austin scene.  Make sure to listen to the end of the episode to hear Mitchell's incredible voice!  To learn more about Mitchell, you can check him out on Instagram at @mitchelldavismusic. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/zoescurletis/support

Nov 22

47 min 47 sec

This week I am so excited to be sharing my conversation with Candy Washington -- a writer, podcast host, actor, influencer, and the founder of 1214 Media Productions.  In this episode, we about codependency and the ways in which it manifests in all different types of relationships.  Candy provides thoughtful insights on how to recover from codependency based on her own experience as well as from the research she conducted on the topic for her latest novel, Triggered.  Candy is also the executive producer, writer, and lead actress of Narcissist, a psychological thriller that’s available on Amazon Prime Video and SofyTV.  She shares the inspiration behind this short film and shares why all of us should hold ourselves accountable for the content we share and curate when utilizing social media.  To learn more about Candy, you can visit candywashington.com and follow her @candywashington on Instagram! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/zoescurletis/support

Nov 15

1 hr 2 min

This week I feel incredibly privileged to share my conversation with bestselling author and financial editor of NBC's Today Show, Jon Birger!  Anyone who knows me personally can tell you that I am an avid listener of dating podcasts such as We Met At Acme.  However, I have always found the guidance to "ignore the guy in order to get the guy" to be quite perplexing and, from my own experience, fruitless.  So when I heard about Jon's recent book Make Your Move, I was so excited to hear a new perspective on dating in the 21st Century.  After devouring his novel in less than two days, I found solace in the fact that heterosexual single women like myself were not doomed to live a life alone nor subject to waiting around for a partner.  I thus reached out to see if Jon would speak on Solace and the City to inspire other single listeners on how they can take the reigns when navigating the dating world.  I am SO excited to share our conversation and encourage you all to check out Jon's book(s) by visiting jonbirger.com!! Here's a little bit more about Jon's new book, Make Your Move, for anyone interested in buying a copy: "Apps have transformed dating from a mysterious adventure into a daily chore. Young, single, college-educated women are sick and tired of competing for a shrinking supply of guys. And marriage-material men, long expected to take the lead when it comes to asking women out, are suddenly balking at making the first move, fearing they’ll come across as creepy or inappropriate. Society is changing, which means it’s time for dating to evolve. Millennial and Gen Z women are more than capable of seeking out what—and who—they want. They’re standouts in the classroom and champions on the playing fields. They’re leaders in the workplace and trailblazers in city halls, state houses, and Congress. So why would we tell a generation of badass women that they’re not allowed to be bold when it comes to finding love? Why should they have to sit back and wait (and wait and wait) for men to find them?" --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/zoescurletis/support

Nov 8

55 min 17 sec

This week I had the privilege of speaking to Sarah Edmondson, defector of the NXIVM cult and author of "Scarred: The True Story of How I Escaped the Cult that Bound My Life."  In 2005, when NXIVM, a personal and professional development company, promised to provide the tools and insight Sarah needed to reach her potential, she was intrigued. Over her twelve-year tenure, she went from student to coach and eventually operated her own NXIVM center in Vancouver. Questions kept coming up about the organization’s rules and practices, which came to a head in 2017 when she accepted an invitation from her best friend to join DOS, a “secret sisterhood” within NXIVM. Sarah’s full story as a whistleblower is featured in the CBC podcast “Uncover: Escaping NXIVM” (downloaded over 25 million times) and “The Vow”, the critically acclaimed HBO documentary series on NXIVM.  In 2019, Sarah published Scarred: The True Story of How I Escaped NXIVM, the Cult that Bound My Life, with Kristine Gasbarre. In this tell-all memoir, she shares her story from the moment she takes her first seminar to her harrowing fight to get out of NXIVM, collaborate with the FBI, help others, and heal. Sarah is keeping the conversation via her own podcast, "A Little Bit Culty,"  by exploring the fads, beliefs, and trends that blur the line between devotion and dysfunction. Co-hosted by her husband and fellow NXIVM whistleblower Nippy, the podcast is part conversational coffee date and part deep dive on everything from Waco to lululemon. And while there was nothing small about Sarah’s cult experience, “A Little Bit Culty” is grounded in her mission to help people understand, heal from, and avoid abusive situations, one little red flag at a time. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/zoescurletis/support

Nov 1

48 min 40 sec

I have TikTok royalty on this week's episode!  This week I got to sit down with the one and only @hellotefi, a hilarious, kind, and down-to-early comedian.  Her knowledge and honest take on advice and pop culture has gained her well-deserved recognition on YouTube, TikTok, and Instagram. Tefi had to overcome a number of mental health struggles before launching her career at In Style Magazine and creating viral videos about pop culture.  In this episode, we talk about her battle with an eating disorder, toxic work environments, navigating vulnerability in a new relationship, and the highs and lows of the COVID-19 pandemic.  I could not stop laughing while speaking to Tefi and I highly encourage EVERYONE to go follow her on TikTok and Instagram right now.  Warning: You will find yourself watching her videos for way too long! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/zoescurletis/support

Oct 25

57 min 11 sec

This week I had the incredible privilege to speak with best-selling author and a speaker on survival, loss, and recovery, Matthew Bocchi.  After his father died on 9/11 in the World Trade Center, Matt began an obsessive quest to find out exactly how he died. In the first memoir told by a child of 9/11, Matt intimately delves into the psychological and emotional torment that ensued after his father’s death. With heartbreaking vulnerability, he details how his incessant quest resulted in a devastating act of violence that stripped his innocence as a young man. As Matt spirals down a bottomless pit of drug abuse, he willfully risks his life in search of the next high—all in an attempt to forget his past. Now at twenty-eight years old and sober, he recounts his unique story—one full of heartbreak and despair, grief and uncertainty, but most importantly, happiness and hope. The lesson he teaches us is clear but intricate: No matter how far you fall, you can always rise again. No matter how far you stray, you can always find your way home. And no matter how wide you sway, you can always pick up the pieces and stand tall. You can find Sway on Amazon or at Barnes and Noble, and I highly encourage you all to check it out! CW: Addiction, sexual abuse, suicide ideation.   --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/zoescurletis/support

Oct 18

56 min 10 sec

This week I virtually sat down with sustainability content creator and long-time friend, Delilah Harvey!  Delilah's passion for sustainable living goes back to our shared high school days, and she recently has become popular on TikTok for her videos highlighting alternatives to fast-fashion.  In this episode, Delilah provides tips and tricks to living a more eco-friendly life.  She also talks about the incredible summer she had, including a TikTok video she posted that quite literally broke the internet!  To keep up with Delilah, you can follow her on Instagram @delilah.harvey and on TikTok @delilah_isabel!  --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/zoescurletis/support

Oct 11

1 hr

Happy Monday everyone, and welcome to Season Three of Solace and the City!!! I am so honored to kick off this new season with two legendary guests, the creators of the iconic Instagram account and media brand Friday Beers! In this episode, Max and Jack Barrett walk be through the journey behind Friday Beers, the experience of going viral, and the rewarding opportunities that have come from creating a community of likeminded millennials. Max and Jack are both therapy advocates, so they explain the many ways in which Friday Beers has provided solace to its audience. There are so many exciting things in store for this dynamic duo, so be sure to follow them on Instagram @fridaybeers and listen to their podcast Welcome To Friday! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/zoescurletis/support

Oct 4

44 min 28 sec

Hi everyone!   I decided to post a solo episode this week and, to be honest, I'm a little nervous about it going live.  With a family trip to Greece on the horizon, I’ve had a lot on my mind and been quite nervous about returning to a place with so many memories.  To some of you this may seem strange, and I recognize the privilege in having anxiety about traveling to one of the most beautiful countries on this planet.  However, as I've touched on in a few of my previous episodes, my most recent trip to Greece marked the depths of my mental health crisis.  In an effort to help process some of the grief I still hold onto, I decided to share some of the reasons I am nervous about returning to a country that once brought me so much joy.  So here's my story.   CW: I disclose many intricate details of my eating disorder in this episode, so feel free to pause or stop the podcast if this content is triggering to you.  If you are currently struggling with an eating disorder or any other anxiety-based illness, please don't hesitate to get help from one of the following resources:  NAMI: 1-800-950-NAMI NEDA: 1-800-931-2237 Crisis Text Line: Text HOME to 741741 If you relate to my struggle at all, please don't be afraid to message me.  I don't have any clinical expertise on this topic, but I can certainly relate to what you're going through.  Much love 🤍 --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/zoescurletis/support

Jul 12

32 min 10 sec

This week I am so excited to share an incredibly powerful conversation with one of my first friends in Austin, Siobhan Lidon!  One of the major reasons I wanted to record an episode with Siobhan was to learn about how she was able to build up such an incredible air of confidence that makes her one of the most fun and authentic people to be around.  Throughout our conversation, Siobhan explains how she was able to fall in love with herself after battling a mental health crisis and a breakup with a serious boyfriend.  With the help of her friends, her poetry, and her wonderful dog Roux, Siobhan is able to tackle whatever hurdles come her way head on and tap back into the confidence that is one of the MANY things that makes her such a beautiful person.   --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/zoescurletis/support

Jul 5

46 min 20 sec

This week I am so excited to share my conversation with Madison Eshelman, an amazing friend and founder of Grief and Groundwork!  Grief and Groundwork is a grief, depression, and anxiety coaching and support program. Madison supports individuals experiencing anxiety, depression, and grief to achieve self-understanding, empowerment, and healing using what she calls Intuitive Feeling Practice.  Madison coaches from the belief that under depression and anxiety is our unprocessed grief.  Her coaching programs offer guidance on how we can properly grieve and find some sense of relief. With the right tools, Madison believes that we can make our anxiety, depression and grief more manageable.  In this episode, Madison and I discuss the story behind Grief and Groundwork and the tools that Madison uses to help others process trauma that they have experiences in their lives.  To learn more about Madison and her work, visit madisonshea.com or follow @griefandgroundwork on Instagram! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/zoescurletis/support

Jun 28

46 min 57 sec

This week I am so excited to share my conversation with Grant Mosher -- fellow Austin transplant and mental health advocate!  In April of 2019, Grant founded Guy Talk: a Nationwide Men's Community bringing guys together to Do Cool Stuff and Have Meaningful Conversations.  In this episode of Solace and the City, Grant and I discuss the mental health journey that led him to creating a community of men who speak open and honestly about their feelings.  We also discuss the ways in which we can support those in our lives who are struggling and how to ask for help when going through tough times.  To learn more about Guy Talk, you can visit their website at https://www.guytalk.co/ and check them out on Instagram by following @guytalk.co. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/zoescurletis/support

Jun 21

46 min 2 sec

The episode is finally here!  This week I sat down with my incredible friend and AMAZING singer, Sarah Magloff!  We discussed both of our bouts with depression that trickled in while living in New York City, which ultimately led us to the wonderful place that is Austin, Texas.  Now in a new city, Sarah talks the journey to being proud of being neurodivergent.  You can follow Sarah on Instagram @sarahmagloff and check out her UNREAL vocal talents on her TikTok @sarahtoninnnnnz!! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/zoescurletis/support

Jun 15

44 min 48 sec

Happy Monday everyone! I have a beautiful little preview of today’s conversation with my amazing friend Sarah Magloff! Take a listen to her angelic voice performing a song she and the incredibly talented Siobhan Lidon wrote together! Are they the next Elton John and Bernie Taupin? Let me know what you think! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/zoescurletis/support

Jun 14

4 min 11 sec

Happy Memorial Day Everyone!  Today I am so excited to be sharing my conversation with Schuyler DeBree, professional soccer player and co-host of The Mental Matchup podcast!  Schuyler is from the town right next to mine, Fair Haven, NJ, and was a star athlete from the earliest age.  She played on the Women's Soccer Team at Duke University and graduated as ACC Defensive Player of the Year, an All-American and an Academic All-American.  She was drafted 11th overall to the Washington Spirit, and spent a month there before deciding to take an opportunity to play in the Czech Republic with AC Sparta. After returning to the United States, Schuyler's mental health took a turn for the worst.  In this episode, Schuyler talks about her battle with severe depression and suicide ideation and how she ultimately turned her life around and became involved in mental health advocacy.  Now she takes care of her mental health by surfing, skateboarding, playing pick-up soccer, meditating, doing yoga, and creating art. In Schuyler's words, "To anyone who is struggling to stay – my heart hurts for you, but I love you, and I promise it will get better. Hold tight and please let me know if I can help. I hope that my story is evidence that the darkest nights do eventually lead to a glorious sunrise."  You can follow Schuyler's journey on Instagram @schuylerdebree and check out her website https://www.schuylerdebree.com/  --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/zoescurletis/support

May 31

52 min 42 sec

This week I have the pleasure or sharing my conversation with Kat Zempolich, co-founder of Morgan's Message, a non-profit organization striving to eliminate the stigma surrounding mental health within the student-athlete community and equalize the treatment of physical and mental health in athletics.  Much like Solace and the City, Morgan's Message aims to expand the dialogue on mental health by normalizing conversations, empowering those who suffer in silence, and supporting those who feel alone.  In this episode, Kat talks about her personal journey battling depression as well as the incredibly moving story behind Morgan's Message. You can learn more about Kat and Morgan's Message by tuning into a podcast she hosts with Schuyler Debree, The Matchup.  These two incredible women created the platform to share stories illustrating that no one is truly ever alone in their struggles is empowering. Kat hopes that The Mental Matchup will serve as a safe space for any human to share their stories, so we can continue to de-stigmatize, normalize and illuminate the truths surrounding mental health and wellness. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/zoescurletis/support

May 24

53 min 52 sec

For the second week of Mental Health Awareness Month, I am SO excited to be sharing an incredibly memorable and personal conversation with Dr. Roy Richard Grinker.  Dr. Grinker is an American author and Professor of Anthropology, International Affairs, and Human Sciences at the George Washington University. His first book on autism, Unstrange Minds, was in part an "attempt to make sense of an intensely personal issue: his own daughter's autism.  Although we discuss so much in the 45 minutes of this episode, we spend the majority unpacking his most recent work, Nobody's Normal.  In Nobody’s Normal, Dr. Grinker chronicles the progress and setbacks in the struggle against mental-illness stigma―from the eighteenth century, through America’s major wars, and into today’s high-tech economy. Nobody’s Normal argues that stigma is a social process that can be explained through cultural history, a process that began the moment we defined mental illness, that we learn from within our communities, and that we ultimately have the power to change. Though the legacies of shame and secrecy are still with us today, Dr. Grinker believes that we are at the cusp of ending the marginalization of the mentally ill.  At the end of the episode, I share a poem written by my autistic younger cousin when he was in eighth grade.  His vulnerability and eloquence highlight his beautiful mind and soul, and I could not be more proud to call him my family.  This episode is dedicated to my cousin and my family, and I truly hope that everyone can take a listen.  P.S. You can check out Dr. Grinker's TED Talk by clicking this link: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QYVpTYKevxQ --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/zoescurletis/support

May 10

54 min 26 sec

For the first episode of Mental Health Awareness Month, I've decided to share an episode that is not only SO interesting but also sheds lights on a little known fact about myself -- I was once recruited into the NXIVM sex cult. For those who don't know, NXIVM was an American cult that engaged in sex trafficking, forced labor, and racketeering while claiming to be a "Self-Help Group." This week, I sat down with Ifellow podcast host, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist, and cult specialist, Rachel Bernstein.  Together we explore the mentality and psychology of cult membership, and Rachel explains how and why people are drawn into cults, what keeps them there, and the aftermath that can occur if they leave. Rachel was recently featured in the STARZ Documentary Seduced: Inside The NXIVM Cult, and touches on her experience with that, too! To hear more about this subject or get in touch with Rachel, visit http://www.rachelbernsteintherapy.com, send her an email at bernsteinlmft@gmail.com and follow her podcast at @indoctrinationpodcast! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/zoescurletis/support

May 3

51 min 7 sec

For the final episode of April’s series, I am honored to be sharing my conversation with Alison Fields. Alison is an activist, writer, crisis counselor, and content creator. In our conversation, she explains how being a survivor of rape, sexual assault, and domestic violence launched her into a life of advocacy. In March of 2020, Alison was also one of the first people in New York City to report a hate crime against the AAPI community. We discuss the prejudice Alison experienced growing up due to her visible and invisible identities. I am SO sorry that this episode is delayed, but I promise you it is worth the wait. Alison is incredible, and you can keep up with her work by following her on Instagram @itsalison.af and read her blog for America Hates Us here! https://www.patreon.com/posts/49670220 --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/zoescurletis/support

Apr 28

55 min 18 sec

Better late than never!  I am honored to be sharing Part 3 of Survivor Stories, a special segment of Solace and the City that is working to raise awareness about domestic violence and sexual assault through partnering with the Exhale to Inhale community.  This week I virtually sat down with Maritza Puello, a wellbeing coach and certified yoga and meditation instructor.  We discuss what consent means in yoga (and general fitness) classes and how the COVID-19 pandemic has flipped the term "personal space" upside down. Martiza provides advice on how to slowly return to the "new normal" and explains why we shouldn't feel pressured to rush to make up for lost time.  Because, in her words, there is no such thing as lost time!  To learn more about Maritza, you can check out her coaching practice at @cocodark. If you or someone you love has experienced any sort of sexual violence, visit www.rainn.org for resources or call 1-800-656-4673 to talk to someone who can help.  And of course, please follow @exhale2inhale on Instagram and check out their website at https://www.exhaletoinhale.org/ to see all of the incredible work that they are doing! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/zoescurletis/support

Apr 19

47 min

This week I had the honor to sit down and have a conversation with Julie Fernandez, a Movement & Trauma Recovery Specialist. Julie's practice centers on recognizing the strength within ourselves and shedding the judgements, guilt and shame that arise from unresolved traumas. Some of the conditions she works with include Complex, Developmental (Early Childhood) and Shock Traumas, Anxiety, Depression, Dissociative Disorders, as well as Eating Disorders. After experiencing the cycle of trauma, from early experiences of sexual abuse, to later unhealthy and abusive relationships, Julie decided that she had to do something to show other survivors that they were not alone in their pain.  In this episode, Julie and I talk about the sexual trauma in her past that led her to this work and how yoga helped her reconnect with her body and mind. To learn more about Julie and her practice, you can visit https://www.mettahealingarts.com/ or follow @jules_metta on Instagram! CW: In this episode, Julie and I discuss topics that can be sensitive and triggering for some, including sexual assault, eating disorders, and self-harm.  If you or someone you love has experienced any sort of sexual violence, visit www.rainn.org for resources or call 1-800-656-4673 to talk to someone who can help. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/zoescurletis/support

Apr 12

49 min 49 sec

April is National Sexual Assault Awareness Month, so for the next four Mondays I will be sharing stories with survivors of abuse.  This week, I had the incredible opportunity to record with Chelsea Quint, Trauma-Informed Business Coach and Co-Chair of Exhale to Inhale.  In our conversation, she walks me through her life which was littered with various forms of sexual assault and explains how she ultimately was able to begin crawling out of a dark place.  Because of the incredibly positive impact that yoga had on her life, Chelsea became a certified yoga instructor and now works closely with ETI to help others see the transformative power of yoga for the mind and body.  To learn more about Chelsea and her practice, you can visit http://chelseaquint.com/ or follow her on Instagram at @chelsea.quint. CW: In this episode, Chelsea and I discuss topics that can be sensitive and triggering for some, including sexual assault and suicide.  If you or someone you love has experienced any sort of sexual violence, visit www.rainn.org for resources or call 1-800-656-4673 to talk to someone who can help. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/zoescurletis/support

Apr 5

1 hr 12 min

The title says it all.  My conversation with Jarrett for this week's episode was absolutely incredible, and we touched on almost every topic imaginable in the worlds of sociology and mental health.  Jarrett is a PhD. Candidate at York University in Toronto studying sociology.  His research specifically focuses on the ways in which psychedelics can alleviate mental distress.  (Yes, we are having another episode about research on psilocybin mushrooms!)  However, before launching into this specific area of research, Jarrett focused more on the social determinants of health and wellness.  After graduating from his Master's Program in San Diego, he even spent time working in a Trauma Reduction ward at a Juvenile Detention facility.  I am so honored to have had the chance to speak with Jarrett about his incredible life, and I have no doubt that everyone who tunes in will feel 10x smarter after listening! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/zoescurletis/support

Mar 29

1 hr 12 min

I am SO excited to share my conversation with Zach Westerbeck, a professional mental health speaker, College Success Coach, and author of the book “You’re Not Alone”.  Much like myself, Zach has a mission to help educate college students and organizations around the world to understand the complexities of depression and anxiety in today’s modern society.  Through his personal experiences and extensive research, he is able to relate and clearly articulate why now more than ever it is critical to understand how to manage your mental health.  In this episode, Zach and I discuss how much the “early twenties” suck and our frustration with how the media falsely displays anxiety disorders. To learn more about Zach and his various ventures, visit https://zachwesterbeck.com/ and follow him on Instagram @zach_westerbeck! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/zoescurletis/support

Mar 22

48 min 7 sec

This week I am incredibly honored to share my conversation with Joann Irizarry, co-founder of @asafeplaceinsideyourhead. A Safe Place Inside Your Head was founded by Joann and her son Tannerin 2018, who wanted to share messages with others who struggle with mental health issues on a daily basis. This idea was started in remembrance of a family member who's life was lost by suicide during a time where mental health was often misunderstood. Their mission is to help, grow and inspire others that it's OK to not be OK and by sharing an inside community of like minded people who want to be the best versions of themselves. The organization rises by lifting others up by sharing small content curators work and resources to help others. In this episode, Joann shares the story behind her non-profit and gives advice on how to help friends, family members, and loved ones who are struggling. It was an honor and a privilege to speak with Joann, and I encourage everyone to take a moment and donate to her incredible organization. CW: In this episode, we talk a lot about suicide.  If you are going through a crisis and need to talk to someone, please call 1-800-273-8255 or text “HOME” to 741741 --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/zoescurletis/support

Mar 15

51 min 20 sec

I have SUCH a fun episode for you guys today!  I virtually sat down with Emmalee Bierly and Jennifer Chaiken, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapists, Founders of The Therapy Group, and Co-Hosts of the amazing podcast Shrink Chicks!  Emmalee and Jen are on a mission to make therapy and therapeutic topics more relatable which they do both in their practice and through their podcast!  In this episode, we talk about how and why they decided to start their practice, the evolution of modern psychotherapy, and much more!  In the second half of the episode, Emmalee and Jen answer YOUR questions!  These include: How can I tell if therapy is working? How do you decide what type of therapy is best for you? What are some effective tools for moving on without closure? and How can I ask my partner to be kinkier in bed?  Stay tuned for the end to get the punchline of the title's joke and follow @shrinkchicks on Instagram! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/zoescurletis/support

Mar 8

57 min 18 sec

If you liked The Social Dilemma on Netflix then you are going to LOVE this episode with Temo, a Psychologist and Post-Academic Psychoanalytic Candidate focused on Psychological Anthropology. Our conversation revolves around the modern state of culture using technology and the malignant effect of social media on our mental health. Despite his clientele varying in age, Temo found that so many of them showed signs of addiction to their devices. This prompted his interest in the concept of a Technocracy — when the technology is the central tool for of the government and society. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/zoescurletis/support

Mar 1

51 min 12 sec

This week I sat down with Dr. Paul Seli to discuss the potential for psychedelics to help treat mental health problems, a really popular research topic at major universities. Paul is a professor of a cognitive psychology professor at Duke University and is on on The Board of Directors for Psychedelic Studies at the University of Toronto. Paul discusses his own experiences with psychedelics, specifically psilocybin mushrooms, and breaks down what the research says about their potential for mental health treatment, as well as implications for creativity and humility.  Finally, Paul teaches me how to induce a lucid dream and explains how some of the most famous inventions in history were created through REM sleep!  To be clear, while Solace and the City is extremely about this research, we believe psychedelics are best used in a treatment setting and should be approached with extreme caution.  Solace and the City does not advocate recreational use of psilocybin mushrooms or any other hallucinogenic substances. To learn more about Paul (and to see his incredible artwork!) check out paul.seli.art on Instagram! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/zoescurletis/support

Feb 22

55 min 40 sec

This week I am so excited to share my conversation with Nancy Ruth Dean!  Nancy has been in the relationship industry for 6 years, and got her start working as a professional matchmaker. It was there that she learned the personal stories of people trying to find love. What she learned was that most of the people she met hadn’t fully gotten over their ex.  Meanwhile, she was going through her own breakup and trying to figure out what the secret sauce was to getting over it. Through the same guidance she gives her clients today, she ended up meeting her fiancé in that process and was called to start a coaching practice that would help her clients fully embrace this new chapter and embrace the opportunity of a lifetime to get to know themselves in the deepest way possible.   In this episode, Nancy and I discuss the ups and downs of navigating a breakup, specifically in the midst of a global pandemic that has caused so many to fear being alone.  We flip the narrative and walk through all of the many reasons why this is the perfect time to work on your relationship with yourself!  To learn more about Nancy, you can go to hellobreakup.com!   --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/zoescurletis/support

Feb 15

51 min 42 sec

If there is one episode of Solace and the City that you should listen to, it's this one.  I am both nervous and excited to be sharing my conversation with Hilary Weinstein, an incredible friend and psychotherapist who has helped me persevere through a very rough patch in my life.  As a psychotherapist, Hilary works to meet the needs of those suffering from all sorts of mental health difficulties. Because of her own history battling anxiety, depression, and a terrible eating disorder, Hilary is able to offer a unique sense of relatability. In this episode, Hilary and I unpack our histories battling mental illnesses and debate whether the pursuit of a profession in psychotherapy is a “selfish” endeavor. To learn more about Hilary and her practice, follow @hlwtherapy on Instagram and go to www.hlwtherapy.com! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/zoescurletis/support

Feb 8

52 min 42 sec

This week I am SO excited to be sharing such an uplifting conversation with Angela Amezcua.  You may know Angela from ABC’s The Bachelor and Bachelor in Paradise, but she is a model and YouTuber as well!  During this episode we discuss ways to advocate for female empowerment, keep a positive mindset, and maintain self confidence! Angela also shares the ways in which she has been able to give back to others during the pandemic, despite the chaos going on around us.  Angela is such a beam of light, and I have no doubt that everyone who tunes in will feel more positive and more confident as a result.  To keep up with Angela, you can find her on Instagram at @angkay7.  Be sure to check out her YouTube channel at YouTube.com/AngelaAmezcua as well! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/zoescurletis/support

Feb 1

55 min 10 sec

This week I am so excited to share my conversation with matchmaker, dating coach, and founder of We Met Through Thalia, Thalia Ouimet!  Thalia  is the founder of We Met Through Thalia, a matchmaking agency based out of New York City. With nearly 10 years of experience as a matchmaker and dating coach she has helped individuals recover from heartbreak, become an effective dater, find love, and navigate the inevitable challenges that come with relationships.  Thalia broke into the industry by working for the largest matchmaking agency in the Southeast and decided to expand her expertise by bringing her talents to NYC to start her own agency. With success in New York City, London, Atlanta, Los Angeles and Miami, she has helped thousands find love and happiness. In this episode, Thalia and I discuss when and how to disclose your mental health history with a potential partner.  Thalia explains how she would advise her clients to share this information and the ways in which to set up this type if important conversation.  We also share our thoughts on the phrase "Opposites Attract" and the destructive glorification of "oversharing" in The Bachelor Franchise.  To learn more about Thalia and her services, you can visit www.wemetthroughthalia.com or follow her on Instagram at @ThaliaOuimet. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/zoescurletis/support

Jan 25

53 min 18 sec

This week I virtually sat down with DJ, Fashion Industry Insider, and Founder of the clothing brand @ilikeyou, Isaac Hindin-Miller!  I now am so excited to be sharing this incredible conversation, blessed not only with a New Zealand accent but also with vulnerability, authenticity and wisdom.  Isaac moved to the United States in 2011 and quickly became involved in the New York City party scene.  After a few years of what may have seemed like the coolest life from an outside perspective, Isaac came to realize that he needed to readdress his relationship with alcohol and drugs in order to take charge of his life.  Today, Isaac is completely sober and, in this podcast episode, he works to dispel the stereotypes and clichés that the media continues to use when portraying alcoholism and drug addiction.   The COVID-19 pandemic has caused a lot of people to reevaluate their relationships - relationships with significant others, relationships with friends, relationships with food, and relationships with alcohol.  In the loneliest days of quarantine, even I found myself reaching for a glass of red wine as if it were the only way to pass time in this new dystopian reality.  In this episode, Isaac challenges us to take a step back and consider whether or not we are using alcohol as a solution to a larger problem.  I have no doubt that you all will not only enjoy our conversation but also take away some important points for your own reflection.   To keep up with Isaac, you can follow him on Instagram at @IsaacLikes_ and see his cool merch at @ilikeyou!  (P.S. Keep an eye out for an exciting collaboration coming soon!) --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/zoescurletis/support

Jan 18

39 min 48 sec

I am SO excited to be sharing this episode with Bachelor Legend and Podcast Extraordinaire, Olivia Caridi!  Olivia first came into the public eye when she was a contestant on Season 20 of The Bachelor, during which she immediately caught the eye of Ben Higgins.  However, her connection with Ben fizzled out when the producers saw her confidence as a trait that could be molded into a character flaw.  After being portrayed as the season's villain, Olivia's mental health plummeted and she suffered with depression for several years.  However, being the strong, confident person that she is, Olivia was able to garner the resilience to start her own podcast in which she gives reality stars the platform to share their own stories, without any meddling from producers.  Olivia is such an inspiration for aspiring podcasters like me and young women everywhere, I have absolutely no doubt that everyone will LOVE this episode.  Plus, if you stay tuned until the end, you will here Olivia and I discuss our predictions for Matt James' season!  You can follow Olivia on Instagram @oliviacaridi and listen to her podcast Mouthing Off with Olivia wherever you stream your podcasts! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/zoescurletis/support

Jan 11

1 hr 1 min

Happy New Year!  I couldn't think of a better guest to begin 2021 with than Ibrahim Sharkas, graduate student in the realms of positive psychology.  In this episode, Ibrahim shares his knowledge on the connection between philosophy, religion, and psychology and how we can use all three to become the best versions of ourselves.  He is truly a beam of light, and I have no doubt that everyone who listens to this episode will find solace in his words! To learn more about Ibrahim, you can follow him on Instagram @ibrahimsharkas or visit his website www.ibrahimsharkas.com ! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/zoescurletis/support

Jan 4

57 min 26 sec

This week I have a very special episode featuring the one and only Carol Rosen, also known as my Grandma!  Last Christmas I sat her down to learn about the stigmas around mental health back when she was growing up that vastly affected the ways in which her generation assessed and treated psychological disorders.  This year, I wanted to learn more about my Grandma's personal story.  Although we couldn't be together for Christmas, she told me the romantic story of how her parents met and love letters that her father sent my great-grandmother during their brief but beautiful marriage.  My Grandma was and still is an absolute babe, so I had to learn her secrets of how she navigated the dating world, which ultimately led her to finding my Grandpa!  Finally, she shares some advice on love and life which you won't want to miss.  If you want any of my Grandma's wisdom, you can send her an email at caroljrosen@gmail.com.  Enjoy! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/zoescurletis/support

Dec 2020

43 min 50 sec

This week I had an absolutely incredible conversation with Jacqueline Trumbull, and former contestant on The Bachelor!  Jacqueline is currently pursuing a Doctorate in Psychology at Duke University and was able to share her insight into some very important mental health topics.  Because her research focuses on Borderline Personality Disorder and Narcissistic Personality Disorder, Jacqueline is able to break down the nuances of these conditions and how exactly they manifest.  She also explains the signs to look out for in someone who you think may have NPD.  Jacqueline also has a mental health podcast called A Little Help For Our Friends, where she offers advice on how to speak to and care for loved ones with mental illness.  As this is a topic that is quite close to my heart, we discuss the ways in which to support our friends while also maintaining our own boundaries.  Finally, Jacqueline shares her experience on Ari's season of The Bachelor, specifically in regards to the psychological manipulation that can occur on reality TV. Please note, this podcast episode and any and all content or services available on or through this episode are provided for general, noncommercial informational purposes only, and do not constitute the practice of medical or any other professional judgment, advice, diagnosis or treatment, and should not be considered or used as a substitute for the independent professional judgment, advice, diagnosis or treatment of a duly licensed and qualified healthcare provider. In case of a medical emergency, you should immediately call 911. The information provided here is not a reflection of Duke University.  --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/zoescurletis/support

Dec 2020

1 hr 5 min

This week I'm sharing my virtual conversation with Krystal Thompson, Los Angeles-based Human Design Reader and Board-Certified Hypnotherapist and NLP Practitioner.  Her readings and services are a unique blend of conscious mindset work, subconscious reprogramming, energy healing, and inspired action coaching. By uncovering what’s kept them stuck and creating new neural networks for change, Krystal helps her clients and community tap into the clarity, confidence, and empowerment to build the life they want - not the one they think they have to settle for. In this episode, Krystal explains the benefits of hypnosis, specifically for healing past traumas and relieving anxiety.  She debunks any myths and negative connotations of the practice while teaching me about a new type of therapy -- NLP, or Neuro-Linguistic Programming.  Everyone should tune in to learn more about Krystal and all of the incredible work she does!  You can lean more about her work at www.hotelwilderness.com!  --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/zoescurletis/support

Dec 2020

39 min 20 sec

The title says it all -- this week I'm sharing my conversation with Danny Padilla from The Bachelor Presents Listen To Your Heart!  A native of Los Angeles, Danny gained internet fame thanks to original songs and musical impersonations and then as on the Bachelor's new spinoff series this past year.  In this episode we talk about Danny's journey to becoming a YouTube celebrity as well as his experience competing to find both love and stardom.  Danny even shares some of his hilarious impressions which Jimmy Fallon may or may not have copied for The Tonight Show.  I loved recording with Danny, and I'm sure everyone listening will want to him him their rose after tuning in!  You can follow him @dannyjpadilla on Instagram and watch all of his videos on YouTube! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/zoescurletis/support

Dec 2020

1 hr 5 min

This week I have a pretty unconventional episode for you all.  In the spirit of Thanksgiving, I first wanted to talk about a few of the things that I am so grateful for, specifically the amazing friendships I have that keep my spirits bright.  I then move into sharing a story that has been my lyrical bible for the past five years.  Brian Finkelstein (@bsfinkestein) is a writer who has been nominated for two Emmys. He is also a regular performer at the Upright Citizens Brigade Theatre and is a host/storyteller for The Moth.  In this episode, I am sharing his story "Perfect Moments",  which you can also read in the Moth’s first book: 50 trues Stories.  His words truly saved my life, and I promise they will have a long-lasting effect on everyone listening as well. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/zoescurletis/support

Nov 2020

27 min 6 sec

This week I brought back on my incredible friend Liz Gunner to discuss how to approach conversations about depression, whether it be a conversation we are having with ourselves or a friend.  We first speak to our own experiences navigating mental health difficulties and, we share how and when we finally came to recognize the benefits that anti-anxiety medication had to offer.  After addressing and falsifying the stigmas surrounding psychiatric meds, we move into a discussion on how to support friends, family members, and loved ones who are struggling.  Having been on both sides, Liz and I share what has worked for us and what hasn't.  Stay tuned for the end because we have a special appearance from Enna Selmanovic! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/zoescurletis/support

Nov 2020

51 min 55 sec

This week I sat down with the absolutely INCREDIBLE Olivia Lubarsky, a former D1 gymnast at Towson University and mental health advocate!  During her four years at Towson University, Olivia did everything she could to bring awareness to the mental and emotional issues that face athletes.  As a gymnast, she was constantly striving to achieve a form of perfection that was impossible to obtain by the very nature of the sport.  After addressing her depression and performance anxiety, Olivia founded the “Own Your Roar” initiative, an awareness campaign that brings light to mental health issues that affect student-athletes.  I am so honored to be sharing the amazing conversation I had with Olivia, and cannot express how much admiration and appreciation I have for this girl.  She's an absolute rockstar who you should follow on Instagram at @olivialubarsky!  --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/zoescurletis/support

Nov 2020

1 hr 2 min

Some of you may remember an episode from last February in which I recorded with Brandon Berman, one of the co-hosts of the popular live dating show UpDating.  Well if you liked that conversation you're in luck, because this week I was lucky enough to sit down with the other genius behind the New York phenomenon!  In this week's episode, Harrison and I talk about the relationship between mental health and dating, both pre- and post-pandemic.  I talk about my hatred for first dates and Harrison shares how working in the dating show still in many ways hasn't prepared him for doing so IRL.  To learn more about UpDating and the exciting things coming soon for the show, visit https://www.updatingshow.com/.  You can also slide into Harrison's DMs @htforman. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/zoescurletis/support

Nov 2020

1 hr 11 min

This week I brought on Mia Davis to talk about sex! Mia is the founder of Tabú Wellness, an expert-driven community for shame-free conversations about all things related to sex, relationships, and mental health.  In fact, research actually shows that the more open you are to talking about sex, the more sexually satisfied you will be!  Mia answers some of your questions from our Instagram polls to shed light on topics such as the ways depression, medication, and sexual trauma affect your libido.  To learn more about Mia and Tabú, visit talktabu.com and follow @talk.tabu on Instagram! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/zoescurletis/support

Nov 2020

59 min 43 sec

This week I sit down with Matt Pavich, a comedian and low-key YouTube phenomenon, to talk about his experience with Bipolar Disorder.  Like Caroline who spoke on a previous episode, Matt was not fully diagnosed with anything until his late teens.  Since then, Matt has continued to ride the waves of mania and depression but has an incredible support system to help him manage both states.  I am so grateful for Matt's willingness to speak so openly on the podcast, and I have no doubt that you all will learn from our conversation!  If you want to check out Matt's world famous YouTube video, click here! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=2JSDTucF_K4  --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/zoescurletis/support

Oct 2020

52 min 3 sec

This week I spoke with Victoria Garrick, who may just be one of the most iconic young mental health advocates in the country right now.  After giving a TED Talk on the prevalence of mental health issues in College Athletics, Victoria continued using her platform to be a voice for those who are struggling.  In this episode we talk about Victoria's own struggles with mental health which led her to speaking in front of thousands of people.  Victoria also shares her battle with Binge Eating Disorder and the shame that came with sharing this side of her life.  However, now Victoria relentlessly promotes intuitive eating and body positivity on all of her social media channels.  I feel SO humbled to have had the opportunity to speak with Victoria, and I can't wait for you all to listen! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/zoescurletis/support

Oct 2020

49 min 56 sec

Welcome to the new spinoff series from Solace and the City and The Real Dietitians of New York City called Hot Girls Hot Takes!  Each week, Liz Gunner and I will focus on a topic related to mental health and/or body image.  After sharing our own thoughts on the episode theme, we will then call in some male experts (a.k.a. our guy friends and Hinge matches) to get an opinion from the opposite sex.  During this week's episode, Liz and I explore the male tendencies to gravitate towards toxic relationships in which their female partner is possessive or controlling.  You will hear thoughts from our friends (and Hinge matches) as well as some lightly-heated debates.  In addition to talking about the psychology behind these types of relationships, Liz and I also discuss the importance of confidence and self-love, both of which are qualities that our male guests find to be extremely sexy! **PSA: I recognize that the implications of these questions can come off as heteronormative of imply that men’s preferences in a woman are “black & white."  I also realize that cis-men are not the ones who are in need of any additional platforms to express their opinions. Going forward, I plan on getting the opinions of those who are gender non-binary as well as friends who have a sexual orientations that differ from my own.  Unfortunately, as a cis-woman, the only Hinge matches who i can call on-demand are heterosexual cis-men!!! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/zoescurletis/support

Oct 2020

54 min 12 sec

I recorded this episode with Vanessa Grimaldi -- a.k.a the WINNER of Season 16 of The Bachelor, a.k.a the most beautiful person to ever walk up the steps of the Bachelor mansion, a.k.a. my girl crush -- and I couldn't be MORE excited to share our conversation with you all!  Vanessa explains how she got onto the Bachelor to begin with, despite having never owned a television set and not seeing a single episode prior to her own reality TV show experience.  We then talk about her experience on the show, during which she stole the heart of Nick Viall and ultimately got the big proposal at the end!  Despite her relationship not working out, Vanessa explains how grateful she is for the franchise, because it opened her eyes to, what else, but THERAPY and ultimately led her to some amazing friendships as well!  Vanessa is just as beautiful inside as she is for the common eye, and she recently left her job to pursue her dream of starting non-profit for children with disabilities called No Better You. You can follow Vanessa on Instagram @vanessagrimaldi30 and donate to her NGO @nobetteryou! --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/zoescurletis/support

Oct 2020

51 min 3 sec

For those who aren't aware, October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month.  I thus thought that for the first episode of October, it was appropriate to share my conversation with the amazing, beautiful, and courageous Megan Siniscalchi.  Megan is the Chair of the Young Professional Board of Exhale to Inhale, a nonprofit that empowers survivors of domestic violence and sexual assault through trauma informed yoga.  In this episode, she courageously shares her personal experience with domestic violence and shares ways to support survivors.  Visit www.exhaletoinhale.org and @exhale2inhale on Instagram to get details on ETI’s upcoming virtual Gala, A Celebration of Courage, on October 20th and the Week of Courage (10/15-10/19) with many free events for the community in honor of Domestic Violence Awareness Month.  You can also reach out personally to Megan via her Instagram account @megsiniscalchi.   --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/zoescurletis/support

Oct 2020

1 hr 6 min

On this week's BONUS episode, I sat down with Governor Phil Murphy to discuss how he sees the government's responsibility to address the mental health challenges that face both my home state of New Jersey and the country as a whole.  Governor Murphy touches on why he decided to sign a budget earlier this week that would restore a New Jersey school mental health program, and towards the end of the episode, he touches on how the pandemic has affected him both as a prominent political leader and as a person.  I feel incredibly lucky to have had the opportunity to speak with Governor Murphy and share our conversation with you all.  His leadership during these unprecedented times has made me proud to be from New Jersey, and his willingness to allocate 15 minutes for my podcast speaks volumes about how much he cares about mental health. --- Support this podcast: https://anchor.fm/zoescurletis/support

Oct 2020

16 min 16 sec