The Stuck Stops Here ©

By Tami R Atman, LW Nolie

Toxic family patterns travel though generations until someone decides to take the brave and painful step to end it. My name is Tami and my cohost is LW. We are ordinary people sharing what we have learned in hopes to inspire other ordinary people to wake up, heal, laugh and find their own path to healing. We are not life coaches. We are not licensed therapists. We keep it raw and real and want to the be the voice of the unheard and take the subject of emotional abuse more seriously than we take ourselves...and we use bad words. I hit rock bottom in 2014. It was a painful process to understand and accept that my parents (and my grandparents) were not good people that act bad sometimes, but sadly bad people that act good sometimes. For the last 100 + years, my family lived lives filled with rage, blame, greed, rejection, abandonment, shame, guilt and lies while pretending everything was fine. On my healing journey, I faced the emotionally toxic ties between myself and my ancestors that caused both sides of my family to in denial and to live false unhappy lives. Until a few short years ago, I could not answer the question "Who am I? Breaking free from poisonous (and invisible) familial chains was difficult and resulted in an identity crisis and total collapse - more than once. To mourn the childhood I deserved and didn't get as well as mourning the loss of people who are still alive was and continues to be life defining. My healing journey resulted in dozens of AHA! moments and I ended up discovering that my existence was dictated and controlled, both consciously and unconsciously, by a long history of emotional abuse and neglect. I learned about self-compassion and about the role I played in my own misery. My journey, has led to a podcast and book both called The Stuck Stops Here, as well as writing lyrics for 2 music albums. My life purpose is to engage, entertain, inform and inspire anyone seeking validation, healing and compassion. Content and lyrics created by author, Tami Atman. Podcast and music produced by LW Nolie.

  1. 1.
    Seeing the light with Gina Defa🕯️
    34:27
  2. 2.
    Psychological resilience with Dr. Lise Deguire ❤️‍🩹
    38:14
  3. 3.
    Healing the physical effects from parental emotional abuse with Special Guest - Vera Wilhelmsen🤒
    43:36
  4. 4.
    STEPpin' It Up - A Surprising Reconciliation 🔑🔓
    1:06:58
  5. 5.
    Creating space for The Conversation with Colleen Perry 🔊👂
    32:14
  6. 6.
    Counter-dependency (Radical Self Reliance)🤐🤫
    14:21
  7. 7.
    A Poem and an Unsent Letter🖊️✍️
    14:26
  8. 8.
    Subtle Abuse With Not So Subtle Results 🔨🧰
    33:45
  1. 9.
    Guilt and Shame are NOT the Same 😲
    34:56
  2. 10.
    Pain of Thrones, Comparisons, Pedestals and Death of Joy. < >
    32:30
  3. 11.
    Passion For Or Addiction To ???? 🤷‍♀️🧠
    31:42
  4. 12.
    Little Bent Not Broken 💔 Featured Guest: Marisa
    39:51
  5. 13.
    Musical Affirmation and Lyrical Validation 🎹🎭
    49:51
  6. 14.
    Hail to the Gail - Founder of The Buttrfly Effect 🦋
    28:38
  7. 15.
    1 single revelation every BIG STEP she takes 🎩👢
    43:04
  8. 16.
    Dis-ease + Unmet Needs = Theraplease 🙏
    47:51
  9. 17.
    Come On Baby, Gaslight My Fire 🔥
    34:26
  10. 18.
    Grey Rock n' Roll 🎸
    30:49
  11. 19.
    Come Heal With Highwater 💧(Featured Guest: Annie Highwater)
    45:46
  12. 20.
    Healing Breadcrumbs To Nibble On 🍞🦜 (Featured Guest: Carol Campos)
    40:50
  13. 21.
    REAL - actually existing in fact; not imagined - True Self & False Self
    12:46
  14. 22.
    Comfortably Miserable
    14:23
  15. 23.
    human DOings & human BEings
    12:59
  16. 24.
    Heal in Place. Fill your Still. (topic: anger)
    10:20
  17. 25.
    The ART of Healing Creatively 🎨🖌(Featured Guest: Jennifer Pazienza)
    38:08
  18. 26.
    Heal in Place. Fill your Still. (topic: Triggers)
    11:06
  19. 27.
    Nothing good comes from SHOULD 👍👎👈
    35:01
  20. 28.
    Heal in Place. Fill your Still. (topic: setting boundaries)
    13:44
  21. 29.
    Heal in Place. Fill your Still. (topic: emotional neglect)
    10:01
  22. 30.
    Heal in Place. Fill your Still. (topic: Family Systems)
    14:38
  23. 31.
    Heal in Place. Fill your Still. (topic: Respond vs React)
    13:15
  24. 32.
    Heal in Place. Fill your Still. (topic: perfectionism)
    10:28
  25. 33.
    Heal in Place. Fill your Still. (topic: toxic shame)
    13:50
  26. 34.
    Heal in Place. Fill your Still. (topic-Dissociation | Emotional detachment)
    11:41
  27. 35.
    Heal in Place. Fill your Still. (topic-spirituality)
    12:30
  28. 36.
    Heal in Place. Fill your Still. (topic-emotionally immature parents)
    9:59
  29. 37.
    Heal in Place. Fill your Still. (topic-codependency)
    10:58
  30. 38.
    Heal in Place. Fill your Still. (topic-abandonment)
    12:08
  31. 39.
    Minding Your Fulfillness-business is Prophetable
    26:44
  32. 40.
    overly responsiBULLoney 🐃+💩
    48:10
  33. 41.
    LegGO of my EGgO 👉 🧇 👈
    41:40
  34. 42.
    Untwisted Sistahs From The Same Mistah 👨‍👧‍👧(Featured Guest: Yochi Yakir Avin)
    1:00:58
  35. 43.
    Henrietta Hippocampus 🦛
    40:05
  36. 44.
    If I Go There Will Be Trouble, And If I Stay It Will Be Double 🎵(The Clash 1982)
    41:04
  37. 45.
    Sorry My Birth Ruined Your Golf Game 🏌️‍♂️⛳️
    46:26
  38. 46.
    ME! What’s yours is MINE! All about ME! Did I mention ME? 👆
    56:58
  39. 47.
    Goo goo ga ga Goes the mama and dada 🍼
    48:05
  40. 48.
    AH-MIG-DAH-LA 🧠
    42:28
  41. 49.
    EnCRUSHment 🤗😘🤗😘🤗😘🤗😘🤗😘🤗
    48:32
  42. 50.
    Merry Hell-iday. Please Pass The Fault 🎅🏻(Featured Guest: Rita Roberts)
    52:00

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