Man Up to Cancer

Man Up to Cancer

I'm your host, Trevor Maxwell. I'm a stage IV colon cancer survivor, and I've got a message for other men: You don't have to go through cancer alone.

Every week on the Man Up to Cancer podcast, you can expect raw, unfiltered conversations about men, cancer, and our experiences. My guests will be other patients, survivors, advocates, and friends from #cancerland.

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Today's episode is an update on my personal cancer journey. I'm getting ready for major abdominal surgery #4 in the past 3 and a half years. I'll be going to Massachusetts General Hospital. A surgeon there will open me up and take out several small tumors from my abdomen. I may also lose a section of my stomach, because the tumors have been hanging out for quite some time right up against it. I talk about my emotions around the surgery, and give thanks to many of the people who have played such important roles in getting me to this point. After my update, I'm adding in the pilot episode of the podcast. We've had a lot of new people join the Man Up to Cancer community recently, and I hope they get a chance to check out this pilot. #KFG

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Sep 14

22 min 10 sec

Today on the Man Up to Cancer Podcast... our red-bearded friend from Memphis..https://www.facebook.com/groups/579075395989971/user/56401489/?__cft__[0]=AZX8bUyEx5eZLjYjS8NRItBV_QK1qEsIwsqUfpMMZtlVi0lvM5IB-B4HLWZS904hnaSdtPYepFGvJiLSY_wwFPQ8ozsctRAzhhEzQg4zw6cF1n7zVPA8nkCfutquL3E19Wnthu653cUUNaTOB-gP957v8IvewMERutYuQ5ESB08gqcUx_uydVQVcT8o5lkyAmiY&__tn__=-]K-R ( Steven Barker) drops by the show to talk about his crazy journey with lymphoma.  Steven is part of the growing admin team in Man Up to Cancer's Howling Place Facebook group. He lives with his wife, Katie, and their two kids in a suburb of Memphis, Tenn. He spent the first nine months of 2019 simply trying to find a doctor that would hear his concerns and consider his symptoms may be more severe than “most guys his age.” It was nearly a year before he finally received a proper diagnosis: Diffuse large B cell lymphoma, stage III. From my takeaways: Why a man should NEVER ignore low iron levels  What it’s like to be a dad raising young kids while cancering Uncover the identity of Steven’s celebrity crush (Hint: This one might blindside you) SPONSOR SHOUT-OUT! Today’s episode is brought to you exclusively by the good folks at Blue Note Therapeutics. Blue Note creates digital therapeutics to help cancer patients cope with the emotional distress associated with our disease. Check out their premier product, COVID Cancer Care, at https://covidcancercare.com/ (covidcancercare.com), and we’ll keep you posted on more programs that they’re going to be releasing soon. You can also visit their website, https://bluenotetherapeutics.com/ (bluenotetherapeutics.com), and follow them on https://www.linkedin.com/company/blue-note-therapeutics/ (LinkedIn).

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Sep 7

44 min 52 sec

I was thrilled to spend time chatting with my friend Dave Nitsche of Calgary, Alberta, Canada. Dave is an active member of the Man Up to Cancer community.  Dave has always been able to rely on his body and mind working in sync. He is accustomed to pushing both to the extreme, as an ultra runner and https://www.ironman.com/ (Ironman) athlete.  He started doing endurance events as a teenager, and by the time he turned 50, Dave had completed more than a dozen grueling Ironman triathlons (2.4 mile swim, 112 mile bike, 26.2 mile run), and many more ultra running events. The Winnepeg native had literally trained for thousands of hours over the course of decades. So when Dave was diagnosed with stage 4 lung cancer in the spring of 2019, his response was bewilderment.  “There was no reason, no indication that this should have happened,” Dave said.  His diagnosis came after Dave began having vision problems in his left eye. The problems got so bad that doctors had to remove the eye. When the tissue was tested in the lab, it revealed cancer. Additional scans and tests showed it was lung cancer had spread throughout his body. An oncologist basically told Dave that he was going to die of cancer. Dave is determined to prove the doctors wrong. He has been on two targeted therapies that have kept his disease stable. And he has resumed one of his great passions: hiking in the scenic wilderness of Western Canada, often with his dog Indie.  He is also speaking up as an advocate for lung cancer awareness, and advances in research and treatment. One of the organizations that has helped him along the way is https://wellspring.ca/ (Wellspring). SPONSOR SHOUT-OUT! Today’s episode is brought to you exclusively by the good folks at Blue Note Therapeutics. Blue Note creates digital therapeutics to help cancer patients cope with the emotional distress associated with our disease. Check out their premier product, COVID Cancer Care, at https://covidcancercare.com/ (covidcancercare.com), and we’ll keep you posted on more programs that they’re going to be releasing soon. You can also visit their website, https://bluenotetherapeutics.com/ (bluenotetherapeutics.com), and follow them on https://www.linkedin.com/company/blue-note-therapeutics/ (LinkedIn).

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Aug 31

38 min 27 sec

A second opinion saved Michael Riehle's life. It just might save yours, too. I'm excited to spend time on the podcast today with Michael, who has become a beloved member and one of the administrators for the Man Up to Cancer - Howling Place Facebook group. Michael, 32, is from Buffalo, NY (technically South Wales). He has been fighting stage 4 colorectal cancer since June of 2020. At first he was told that his cancer was inoperable and incurable. Not satisfied with that prediction, Michael and his wife Sara took the bull by the horns. They learned everything they could about Michael's disease, and they connected with a team at Memorial Sloan Kettering in NYC. In less than a year, Michael has had multiple surgeries, along with strategic chemotherapy, to rid his body of cancer. Michael shares a powerful story of self-advocacy, and the power of second opinions for cancer patients. SPONSOR SHOUT-OUT! Today’s episode is brought to you exclusively by the good folks at Blue Note Therapeutics. Blue Note creates digital therapeutics to help cancer patients cope with the emotional distress associated with our disease. Check out their premier product, COVID Cancer Care, at https://covidcancercare.com/ (covidcancercare.com), and we’ll keep you posted on more programs that they’re going to be releasing soon. You can also visit their website, https://bluenotetherapeutics.com/ (bluenotetherapeutics.com), and follow them on https://www.linkedin.com/company/blue-note-therapeutics/ (LinkedIn).

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Aug 24

48 min 27 sec

Much of the world knows Patrick Dempsey for his iconic roles in TV and film, in what has been a truly exceptional career. I know him for something different.  To me, he is a real life hero who has made life better for cancer patients and their families, including me and my family. In 2008, Patrick founded the https://www.dempseycenter.org/ (Dempsey Center) here in our home state of Maine.  The Dempsey Center provides services, classes, and workshops that improve the quality of life for people impacted by cancer.  This includes counseling, support groups, nutrition and fitness classes, massage, reiki, acupuncture, and more. All provided at no cost to clients. In a wide-ranging interview, Kelin and I talk to Patrick about the Dempsey Center's past, present, and future. We also talk about Patrick's career, his upcoming movies, and why he decided to return for a guest run as McDreamy, Dr. Derek Shepherd, on Grey's anatomy.

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Aug 17

48 min 1 sec

Today’s show is all about our scars. Specifically, the physical surgical scars that many of us cancer patients have... And the emotional scars that go along with those scars of the flesh. My friend Charlie Henricks, a fellow stage 4 colon cancer survivor, joins me. I’m grateful to be connected to A LOT of cancer patients and survivors on social media, mostly Facebook, and a while back I posted about my scars, and I asked my friends to finish this sentence. “My scars are ______” I had about 200 responses, which were all amazing, I don’t have time to share all of them, but I want to share a bunch of these responses with you.

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Aug 10

38 min 35 sec

I called today’s show Chemo Zombie, because that’s what it does to me.  One day I’m myself, engaged with the world, enjoying life with Sarah, Sage, and Elsie, then I go for chemo, and I turn into a zombie. I’m disengaged, sick to the very core of my being, drowning in that toxic chemical soup. I’m non-verbal, slumped in the bed or on the couch, and when I do get up I’m stumbling around. It’s like I’m here but I’m not here.  And I want to talk about this because the affects of chemo, what it really looks like, is something we rarely if ever see in popular culture. Also in this episode, I devote a segment to two of my heroes: Jayden Oakes and Jayne Vinson. Jayden was diagnosed with colon cancer two years ago, at the age of 11. He died last month, after fighting his disease with such incredible bravery, and a fierce commitment to LIVING as well as he could, even while enduring treatment that left him sick, weak, and unable to do the things that his peers take for granted. Jayne, his grandmother and primary caregiver, was a relentless advocate for Jayden. She did everything she possibly could to get him the best care in the world, and the best chance at saving his life. You have never seen a grandmother love a grandchild the way Jayne did over these past two years.  SPONSOR SHOUT-OUT! Today’s episode is brought to you exclusively by the good folks at Blue Note Therapeutics. Blue Note creates digital therapeutics to help cancer patients cope with the emotional distress associated with our disease. Check out their premier product, COVID Cancer Care, at https://covidcancercare.com/ (covidcancercare.com), and we’ll keep you posted on more programs that they’re going to be releasing soon. You can also visit their website, https://bluenotetherapeutics.com/ (bluenotetherapeutics.com), and follow them on https://www.linkedin.com/company/blue-note-therapeutics/ (LinkedIn).

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Aug 3

26 min 25 sec

Today’s Man Up to Cancer Podcast is all about The V Foundation.  Founded by legendary basketball coach Jimmy Valvano, the V Foundation is one of the largest fundraising organizations in the world for cancer research, having awarded more than $250 million in research grants since its inception in 1993. In August, the V Foundation is hosting the annual https://www.thevictoryride.org/ (Victory Ride for a Cure). Take part in virtual cycling and non-cycling events throughout the month. You can also join fellow riders in person on Aug. 28 in Raleigh, N.C. Choose from 10-, 30-, 60-, or 100-mile routes.  I had the honor of interviewing Tom Vibert. He is a stage 4 colorectal cancer survivor; an avid cyclist; and a major fundraiser for the Victory Ride. We are joined by Mick McDonald, a communications staffer for the V Foundation, and host of the Voices of Victory Podcast.  @thevictoryride  @vfoundation  #myvictory 

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Jul 27

45 min 22 sec

Cancer, Anger, & Airplanes Last week, I almost got into a fight while waiting to board a plane with my family in Baltimore... Naturally, that regrettable encounter inspired tomorrow's solo episode of the https://www.facebook.com/cancerwolves/?__cft__[0]=AZXfi_dNaNvHAoh5C-GVFopUMjc7SXmChiA34ns00xNUaEcO8cgHcDGwaLLF-BmNim58afHuutR3hTvVjfmLUA3IrrIP1ASBx86bf7h1WORXqAF_qE-4PdZA8nfMBcpHRbSbfJnflInYOe4ACJayaY8U&__tn__=kK-R (Man Up to Cancer) Podcast. Served up with your Tuesday morning run, peloton ride, or laundry folding. For better or worse, this is a solo deep-dive into the emotion of anger, and how it is experienced by people facing cancer. SPONSOR SHOUT-OUT! Today’s episode is brought to you exclusively by the good folks at Blue Note Therapeutics. Blue Note creates digital therapeutics to help cancer patients cope with the emotional distress associated with our disease. Check out their premier product, COVID Cancer Care, at https://covidcancercare.com/ (covidcancercare.com), and we’ll keep you posted on more programs that they’re going to be releasing soon. You can also visit their website, https://bluenotetherapeutics.com/ (bluenotetherapeutics.com), and follow them on https://www.linkedin.com/company/blue-note-therapeutics/ (LinkedIn).

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Apr 27

31 min 51 sec

Man Up to Cancer is fired up to welcome Blue Note Therapeutics as a flagship sponsor!  As someone who has experienced depression and anxiety during cancer, I’ve had the privilege of working as a patient advisor for Blue Note over the past year. They’re developing digital programs to help cancer patients cope with the emotional stress of our disease.  For the podcast, I interviewed Blue Note CEO Geoff Eich, and head of finance/operations Mark Elfers. Take a listen and find out how two ex-fighter pilots from the US Marine Corps ended up leading a movement to help the emotional well-being of cancer patients.  Check out their premier product, COVID Cancer Care, at https://covidcancercare.com/ (covidcancercare.com), and we’ll keep you posted on more programs that they’re going to be releasing soon. You can also visit their website, https://bluenotetherapeutics.com/ (bluenotetherapeutics.com), and follow them on https://www.linkedin.com/company/blue-note-therapeutics/ (LinkedIn).

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Apr 15

49 min 59 sec

A solo show for today's episode... A long overdue update on my personal cancer journey, and reaching the three-year mark from diagnosis. OK, let’s get the bad cancer news out of the way... I have a peach-sized mass in my upper abdomen — nestled up against my stomach — that continues to grow despite my treatments. I call him Problem Child. We plan on getting a biopsy next week, to see if there are any clues on how to get him to settle the hell down. It may be radiation. It may be chemo. It may be both. Surgery is not on the table right now, but may be in the future. On to the good news! The rest of the small tumors in my abdomen have not grown. The one tumor in my liver is presumed dead. And I passed the THREE-YEAR MARK of my cancer diagnosis. To celebrate, I hiked Mt. Pierce in New Hampshire with Sarah and some good friends. It was a beautifully clear, sunny, 50-degree day, and I felt really good! Also, we are traveling to California in a few days to visit my dad and his fiancee, and to take in the incredible natural beauty there.  More good news… Thanks to you, the https://f69e.engage.squarespace-mail.com/r?m=6075d026bba92c3c8bd00f34&u=https%3A%2F%2Fmanuptocancer.captivate.fm%2F&w=5e13f57a37d3a42e0c6aeb7d&l=en-US&s=0MdYHKexSbYpfpjEbw3AhL5vuUc%3D (Man Up to Cancer Podcast) has been downloaded more than 10,000 times since we launched last July! Huge thanks to the pod squad (Kelin, Suzi, Alice) and all my amazing guests for making this show a success. Who knew there would be such interest in a podcast about dudes and cancer?!? Even more good... Man Up to Cancer is thrilled to welcome three new sponsors this spring! I only partner with organizations and companies that I love and trust, and that provide real benefits for the MUTC community. We depend on these partnerships to carry out our mission.  Blue Note Therapeutics https://bluenotetherapeutics.com/ (https://bluenotetherapeutics.com/) Natera https://www.natera.com/oncology/signatera-advanced-cancer-detection/patients/ (https://www.natera.com/oncology/signatera-advanced-cancer-detection/patients/) Zero Gravity Cannabis https://zerogravitycannabis.com/ (https://zerogravitycannabis.com/)

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Apr 13

24 min 23 sec

Dan Duffy is a filmmaker, video producer, author, speaker, blogger, and accidental activist. He is a testicular cancer survivor, coming up on the 20-year mark. Dan is the author of https://www.amazon.com/Half-Book-Taking-Ball-Going/dp/1943588163/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&qid=1454425005&sr=8-1&keywords=Dan+Duffy (The Half Book): He’s Taking his Ball and Going Home. He lives with his wife and children in St. Louis, Missouri.   Bio material from Huff Post: Dan graduated from the Foundation Film program at the Vancouver Film School in 2000. He has been making documentaries, commercials, and short films since for companies big and small around the world. He has won numerous awards in his career, including a Telly Award Winner, a seven-time Telly Award Finalist Winner, and an AIR (Achievement in Radio) award, with two other nominations.  Dan wanted to change the way people looked at a cancer diagnosis, after his own experience left him wondering about several questions that he was unable to have answered during his fight. In 2010, he and his producing partner, Joe Farmer, founded https://www.thehalffund.org/ (The Half Fund), a mission dedicated to “lifting the veil on cancer” through the use of mass-media communications, such as movies and documentaries and books and music.  The Half Fund has achieved 501-(C)(3) status from the Internal Revenue Service, and has received a strong endorsement from the American Cancer Society. The mission of The Half Fund is to “…remove the myopia associated with a cancer diagnosis…to give answers to questions before someone knows to even ask.”  SPONSOR SHOUT-OUT! Today’s episode is brought to you exclusively by the good folks at Blue Note Therapeutics. Blue Note creates digital therapeutics to help cancer patients cope with the emotional distress associated with our disease. Check out their premier product, COVID Cancer Care, at https://covidcancercare.com/ (covidcancercare.com), and we’ll keep you posted on more programs that they’re going to be releasing soon. You can also visit their website, https://bluenotetherapeutics.com/ (bluenotetherapeutics.com), and follow them on https://www.linkedin.com/company/blue-note-therapeutics/ (LinkedIn).

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Apr 6

46 min 15 sec

Today’s guest is J.J. Singleton, a 33-year-old stage IV colorectal cancer patient from North Carolina. We’re honored to have him on the show! J.J. is an inspiration and a cancer slaying beast. He has endured 96 rounds of chemo, 10 major surgeries, hundreds of IVs, scans, blood tests, and the list goes on. On a recent episode of the Tonight Show with Jimmy Fallon, J.J. got a shout-out as the “GOAT of chemotherapy treatments.” He was also paired with golf legend John Daly at the 2021 PGA TOUR CHAMPIONS Cologuard Classic in Tucson.  This guy offers a master class in perseverance. At one point, he went 450 days without eating solid food, and he's endured other grueling experiences that would test the will and spirit of anyone. He's still here, still cheering for the Hokies, still inspiring cancer patients and survivors around the globe. We love you JJ! SPONSOR SHOUT-OUT! Today’s episode is brought to you exclusively by the good folks at Blue Note Therapeutics. Blue Note creates digital therapeutics to help cancer patients cope with the emotional distress associated with our disease. Check out their premier product, COVID Cancer Care, at https://covidcancercare.com/ (covidcancercare.com), and we’ll keep you posted on more programs that they’re going to be releasing soon. You can also visit their website, https://bluenotetherapeutics.com/ (bluenotetherapeutics.com), and follow them on https://www.linkedin.com/company/blue-note-therapeutics/ (LinkedIn).

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Mar 30

44 min 33 sec

Michael and Colin Ferro - the Ferro brothers from the mountains of Colorado The Ferro family founded and operates Epic Experience, a non-profit that offers free adventure camps for cancer survivors. Think whitewater rafting, hiking, XC skiing, campfires, and really an opportunity for people impacted by cancer to make deep connections and in some cases to re-define what is possible for them. Epic Experience also offers other survivorship programs, including regional one-day events, online fitness and mobility classes. All of this stemmed from Michael Ferro’s battle with a brain tumor AND testicular cancer. We talk to Michael and Colin about what it has been like to face the challenge of cancer as brothers, the impact Michael's disease has had on the family, and which brother really is the family favorite.

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Mar 16

41 min 9 sec

Dr. Petar Bajic is a urologist and fellowship-trained specialist in sexual medicine, male genital reconstruction, and men’s health at the highly respected https://my.clevelandclinic.org/ (Cleveland Clinic) in Cleveland Ohio. For the past five years, the Cleveland Clinic has been running the MENtion It campaign. Each year, they survey roughly 1,000 men on specific topics related to men’s health.  Some previous findings Men are 25% less likely than women to take part in preventive care. 61% wait until something becomes unbearable to go to the doctor. 72% of men say they would rather clean toilets than go to the doctor.  (I say, to those men avoiding screenings that could save their lives, start scrubbing.) About Dr. Bajic Petar helps guys with sensitive problems in an area of the body where guys don’t want to have problems, and they certainly don’t want to talk about them. He often sees cancer patients and survivors who are coping with loss of sexual function, the impact of radiation, hormone therapy, and other common consequences of cancer treatment.

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Mar 16

34 min 8 sec

Well folks, I promised that I would never shy away from the tough or taboo subjects in #cancerland. So... here is a heavy one. Today's topic is about the bonds we form in cancer support communities, and how we cope with the deaths of our friends. If you take part in a cancer support group, I hope this gives you some comfort, and maybe even a few strategies, to cope with the inevitable losses that we face along the path. I also hope it nudges you to confront your own beliefs and feelings around death. We are always learning and developing that relationship, and I continue to learn from all of you. This episode is recorded in honor of Dennis Wilbur, and all of our departed brothers who have been beloved members of Man Up to Cancer's Howling Place group on Facebook. Fly high, brothers. We pick up your banners and carry them forward. Here is a snippet: "The genuine love and care that we see everyday in the Howling Place is astounding And it really, really matters. Because at the end of the day, as human beings we all want to know that we are cared for, that we are valued, and that we are loved even in our sickness — and all the way to our death.  It takes courage to see each other all the way down the path.  There is no lack of courage in the Howling Place, and I’m incredibly proud of that. I love you guys. KFG." 

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Mar 11

18 min 37 sec

Have you listened to part 1 yet? Check it out here. Let’s talk about sex, baby! Where do we begin to navigate this minefield of taboo subjects? Is it possible to maintain or regain a fulfilling sex life during cancer treatment and beyond? If any topic calls for an expert, this is the one! Fortunately, we have an expert with us for a special 2-part series.  Dr. Sharon Bober is director of the https://www.dana-farber.org/for-patients-and-families/care-and-treatment/support-services-and-amenities/sexual-health-program/ (Sexual Health Program) at https://www.dana-farber.org/ (Dana-Farber Cancer Institute) in Boston, Massachusetts. The program provides education, consultation, and counseling for patients and their partners who have experienced changes in sexual health during and after cancer treatment.

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Mar 2

26 min 31 sec

Let’s talk about sex, baby! Where do we begin to navigate this minefield of taboo subjects? Is it possible to maintain or regain a fulfilling sex life during cancer treatment and beyond? If any topic calls for an expert, this is the one! Fortunately, we have an expert with us for a special 2-part series.  Dr. Sharon Bober is director of the https://www.dana-farber.org/for-patients-and-families/care-and-treatment/support-services-and-amenities/sexual-health-program/ (Sexual Health Program) at https://www.dana-farber.org/ (Dana-Farber Cancer Institute) in Boston, Massachusetts. The program provides education, consultation, and counseling for patients and their partners who have experienced changes in sexual health during and after cancer treatment.

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Feb 23

32 min 45 sec

Tracy Morgan is a proud dad, US Navy veteran, a stage 4 prostate cancer survivor, and strong advocate for men’s health.  Tracy is the founder of https://mohawkmission.com/ (Mohawk Mission), which calls on men to screen for prostate cancer. He is also a volunteer, advocate, and fundraiser for https://zerocancer.org/ (ZERO: The End of Prostate Cancer). Tracy is also a leader in the Man Up to Cancer community, and I’m proud to call him a friend. 

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Feb 16

39 min 29 sec

We are all pulling for #TeamHolson! Christy Cochran Holson is from Charlotte, NC. She is the mom of two boys, and she is a part-time college sociology instructor. She is married to a fantastic guy, Buddy, who has been fighting stage 4 colorectal cancer for the past two and half years. In this episode, Kelin and I talk to Christy about the roller coaster of her life as a cancer caregiver. Christy is a straight shooter. She talks about how horrible it is to face cancer, but also how the journey has brought her even closer to her husband and their boys. About a year ago, Christy was one of the first caregivers to do a https://www.manuptocancer.com/thepack/christyholson (Q&A with me) for the Man Up to Cancer website. It’s so important for us, as the Man Up to Cancer community, to recognize and support our caregivers, to share their stories so that we can have a better understanding of the impact cancer has on them. 

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Feb 9

44 min 52 sec

Anjee Quiko Davis is a superhero in the cancer community. She's the president of https://fightcolorectalcancer.org/ (Fight Colorectal Cancer), aka Fight CRC, a national organization focused on colorectal cancer research, education, and awareness. Colorectal cancer is the second-leading cause of cancer death in men and women combined and 1 in 20 people will be diagnosed in their lifetime. In this episode, Kelin and I talk to Anjee about the past, present, and future of Fight CRC; the movement toward health equity; the "guy" problem (we don't want to see the doctor); and more. We also put Anjee through the GAUNTLET OF RANDOM QUESTIONS, including this gem: Would you rather be a hobbit or a giant for a week? Hint: She wouldn't mind having hairy feet. If you want to meet the change-makers in Cancerland -- the people making a huge positive impact on the lives of patients, survivors, and their families -- Anjee needs to be on your list.

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Feb 2

29 min 46 sec

Jason Randall is a stage 4 colorectal cancer warrior and family man from Eudora, Kansas. He has become a fierce patient advocate and source of inspiration and knowledge for other patients and their families.  He is a leader in https://colontown.org/ (COLONTOWN), an online community for people with CRC. He is also a leader and administrator in the Man Up to Cancer community. On this episode, Jason shares some amazing stories from his cancer journey, and also shares 5 tips to make chemo suck less.  Jason has been through a lot of chemotherapy over the past few years. He has also endured six surgeries, Y90 radiotherapies, fistulas, a perforated bowel, biopsies, chemical burns, and the loss of more than 100 pounds. In short, he is a cancer badass.  The tagline for Man Up to Cancer is “Open Heart Warrior Spirit.” Jason lives and breathes that approach to cancer and life.

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Jan 26

43 min 14 sec

Matthew Zachary was just 21 years old when he was diagnosed with brain cancer. That was back in 1995, making him a 25-year survivor.  He is the founder of https://offscrip.com/ (OffScrip Media), the first audio broadcast network focused on consumer health and patient advocacy.  You may have heard of a little organization called https://stupidcancer.org/ (Stupid Cancer)...  Well, Matthew is the founder. Under his leadership from 2007 through 2018, Stupid Cancer grew into a powerhouse, as the largest and most influential young adult cancer organization in the world. Matthew is not even close to being done in his mission to call out the bullshit in #cancerland, hold the powerful accountable, and make cancer suck less for the rest of us.

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Jan 19

49 min 35 sec

Anytime you can get a middle-aged cancer survivor from North Carolina to talk about his experience with “forest bathing,” you know you have hit podcast GOLD. Joe Bullock, my brother in arms, the lead administrator for Man Up to Cancer’s Howling Place Facebook group, makes a triumphant return to the podcast. Together, we kick off 2021 in style.  We celebrate the first anniversary of the Howling Place, which now has more than 850 members from around the world (male cancer survivors, patients, and caregivers). When the group hits 1000 members, Joe’s getting a tattoo, and I’m going to livestream the shit out of that.  We talk about Joe’s amazing advocacy work, including the upcoming launch of COLONTOWN JR., which is a supportive space for families with children who have colorectal cancer.  And finally, I put Joe through the “Gauntlet of Random Questions,” including the classic:  70s, 80s, or 90s. Which was the best decade, and why?

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Jan 12

34 min 19 sec

Sarah and I are blessed with two amazing, kind, talented daughters. Sage is 15. She is a beautiful singer. She runs XC, indoor, and outdoor track. She loves music and her friends and Grey's Anatomy. Elsie is 13. She is a ball of enthusiasm. She plays softball and soccer. She loves to swim, and her friends, and Gilmore Girls. On today's episode, I sit down for a conversation with Elsie. She asked to come on the podcast because 1) she loves podcasts, and 2) she hopes her perspective will help other kids who have a parent facing cancer. Sage politely declined to appear on the show. If you know Sage, this totally makes sense, and we respect her decision. (-; If you're facing cancer and you have kids, I think there will be a few tidbits in this episode that will give you a boost, or at least make you feel that you're not alone! KFG!!

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Dec 2020

44 min

This "unplugged" episode features just me and one of my blog posts.

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Dec 2020

10 min 13 sec

Stephen Huff is from Nashville, Tennessee. He is a husband, father, high school teacher, and a former professional baseball player in the Chicago White Sox organization.  In 2017, when Stephen was just 29 years old, he was diagnosed with inoperable, stage four lung cancer. His disease is currently stable, and he remains in active treatment. Not long after his diagnosis, Stephen and his wife Emily started the https://www.thehuffproject.org/#/ (Huff Project), a non-profit with a mission to erase the negative stigma associated with lung cancer, and to raise money for research that will help prevent future cases, and advance treatment options.  Today, I sat down for a chat with Stephen about life with lung cancer, and what motivates him each day as a teacher and leader of a non-profit organization. 

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Dec 2020

57 min 6 sec

This "unplugged" episode features just me and one of my blog posts. On this cancer journey, when bitterness creeps into your soul -- and it will -- what are you going to do? Are you going to feel sorry for yourself? Check out from the things you love because they're too painful? Shake your head and say no, it hasn't been worth it? Or will you choose life? Will you invite joy and celebrate the moments as they come? It's OK to experience bitterness. I'm just suggesting that it's not OK to dwell there. I suggest we follow the lead of Gabriele "Gabe" Grunewald. Gabe was a professional runner, and she LIVED with cancer for 10 years, between her diagnosis as a college student at age 22, and her death in 2019 at the age of 32. "Cancer can stop you from doing a lot of things. I'm well aware of that. But I'm more interested in what cancer can't stop me from doing. Here's to finding out."

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Nov 2020

9 min 15 sec

Every cancer needs a power couple! Carole Motycka and Michael Mancini are both stage IV colorectal cancer thrivers. They are both rock star advocates, inspiring other patients and fighting for legislative changes, more funding for scientific research, and other advances in the field. They are also in a loving relationship, having met at the Call-on Congress event put on by Fight CRC. In this episode, I talk to Carole and Mike about finding love in #cancerland, what it's like to play the roles of patient and caregiver. I also force them into the hot seat for the Gauntlet of Random Questions. Fight CRC Colon Club https://my.clevelandclinic.org/ (Cleveland Clinic), where Carole had her liver transplant

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Nov 2020

42 min 39 sec

On today's episode, Kelin and I chat with Torry Holt. You may know him as a football legend who starred at NC State and went on to become one of the greatest wide receivers of all-time in the NFL with the St. Louis Rams. But others know him better for his impact off the field -- as the guy with a huge heart who would do anything for kids who have a parent facing cancer. As a young man, Torry lost his mother to cancer. Hear how that experience shaped him, prepared him for his NFL career, and laid the foundation for the charitable work of the Holt Brothers Foundation, along with his brother Terrence.

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Nov 2020

27 min 21 sec

One day this summer, Sarah and the girls and I were watching https://www.facebook.com/ChefKevinGillespie/?__tn__=kK*F (Chef Kevin Gillespie) crush it on https://www.facebook.com/TOPCHEF/?__tn__=kK*F (Top Chef). We love that guy! Then we find out he’s a fellow cancer survivor, and I’m like, hey, Kevin, you should come on the podcast! And because he’s an awesome human, he does!!  Kevin is the real deal, super inspirational without the BS. He is an acclaimed chef, restaurant owner, and businessman who became a breakout star on Bravo’s award-winning television series Top Chef. Kevin is the founder and owner of Red Beard Restaurants, including the restaurants Gunshow and Revival in his home state of Georgia.  He has the greatest titles ever for his cookbooks:  Fire in My Belly and Pure Pork Awesomeness. Importantly for this show, Kevin is a survivor of a rare form of renal cancer, for which he had a kidney removed in 2018.

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Oct 2020

52 min

I’ve heard people say that Chadwick Boseman had an obligation to speak up about his cancer, and that he failed.  F#ck that. It’s our disease, and how we face it is our choice. In today’s episode, Kelin Welborn and I talk about Chadwick Boseman, his legacy, and the “responsibilities” of celebrity cancer patients. We then meander into a talk about gender, masculinity, and how boys are raised in the good ol’ USA. * Production note.. The audio quality isn’t great on this one, as it was not produced by our amazing friends at Redbird Media Group. 

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Oct 2020

31 min 21 sec

Man Up to Cancer is teaming up with the American Cancer Society! On October 17th, volunteers Joe Gillette and Steve Bell will join with me and Joe Bullock for a virtual presentation "See Yourself A Coast 2 Coast 2 Coast Journey To Men's Cancer Awareness" As part of that broadcast we will show a special "Light Up The Journey" ceremony taped the week before at my property in Cape Elizabeth Maine, centered around "That Tree" which featured so prominently in my YouTube video. Joe Gillette of Brooklyn and Steve Bell of California are champions of hope. Facebook page for the "See Yourself" collaboration https://www.facebook.com/ACSWolfpack (https://www.facebook.com/ACSWolfpack) GoFundMe page for the collaboration https://gf.me/u/yz525p (https://gf.me/u/yz525p) "In the Tree, I See Myself" video essay https://youtu.be/kMCQgGeQ_JA (https://youtu.be/kMCQgGeQ_JA)

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Oct 2020

27 min 19 sec

David Dubin is the Lynch Syndrome OG. What?! Never heard of Lynch Syndrome? Let us break it down for you in today's episode. Basically it's is a genetic glitch that makes some of us more likely to develop cancer. Scientists estimate that about 1 in 279 people carry a Lynch Syndrome mutation. David and I happen to be among the 1s in the 279s. A three-time cancer survivor, David and his wife Robin are the founders of Alive and Kickn, a foundation with a mission to improve the lives of individuals and families affected by Lynch Syndrome. The foundation focuses on research, education, and screening. "Alive" comes from the fact that David is very much alive and enjoying life, despite cancer's best efforts to take him down. "Kickn" comes from his passion for soccer, although he confesses on today's episode that his game is a tad rusty. Check out the incredible impact Alive and Kickn is making at https://www.aliveandkickn.org/ (https://www.aliveandkickn.org/) Also check out the Living With Lynch page, a collaboration between Alive and Kickn and the Colon Cancer Coalition. They are hosting a Lynch Syndrome patient workshop on Oct. 9, 2020. https://www.livingwithlynch.org/ (https://www.livingwithlynch.org/)

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Oct 2020

45 min

Bring on the Scottish accent!! On today’s episode, Kelin and I talk to Scott Wilson.  Scott is a husband, father, internationally acclaimed photographer, and a stage 4 colorectal cancer survivor. He is a powerhouse advocate for education, screening, research and treatment advances for colorectal cancer, in Colorado and at the national and international levels. A few of our topics… * What it’s like to communicate with our kids about cancer * Why it’s important for male patients and survivors to have their own space to talk * The tattoo that Scott is planning on getting in two years A native of Scotland, he has that unmistakable accent. Because I’m an American descendent of Scottish ancestors, I have had a bro crush on Scott for a while, and I’m pretty sure that if you listen to a few minutes of this podcast, you will too.  To learn more and get involved in the Man Up to Cancer movement, find us on social and visit us at https://my.captivate.fm/www.manuptocancer.com (www.manuptocancer.com). HOWL!! LINKS https://www.wilsonaxpe.com/ (https://www.wilsonaxpe.com/) Instagram @wilsonaxpe https://www.facebook.com/Wilsonaxpe/ (https://www.facebook.com/Wilsonaxpe/) https://www.colonclub.com/our-stories/colon-cancer/scott-wilson (https://www.colonclub.com/our-stories/colon-cancer/scott-wilson) https://www.denverpost.com/2020/02/10/colorado-colon-cancer-screening/ (https://www.denverpost.com/2020/02/10/colorado-colon-cancer-screening/)

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Sep 2020

39 min 2 sec

On today's episode, Kelin and I share plenty of laughs -- and I put my foot in mouth as usual -- with cancer survivor Justin Birckbichler. Justin is a men’s health activist, testicular cancer survivor, and the founder of https://aballsysenseoftumor.com/ (aBallsySenseofTumor.com). In November 2016, he was diagnosed with stage II testicular cancer at the age of 25. Justin is known for his sense of humor. He is a frequent nominee and a past winner of WEGO Health's Hilarious Patient Leader award. Throughout his diagnosis, surgery, chemotherapy, and being cleared in remission in March 2017, he has been passionate about sharing his story to spread awareness about testicular cancer, promote open conversation about men’s health, and talk about the unspoken realities of being a cancer survivor. To learn more and get involved in the Man Up to Cancer movement, find us on social and visit us at https://my.captivate.fm/www.manuptocancer.com (www.manuptocancer.com). HOWL!! www.aballsysenseoftumor.com www.wegohealth.com/awards

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Sep 2020

36 min 8 sec

Earlier this summer, I did a solo episode in which I told you about one of my friends and heroes, Jared McMillan. At the time, Jared was going through some brutal side effects from his cancer treatment, and had also just been diagnosed with COVID-19. In today’s episode, you get to hear from the man himself! I was honored to have a heart-to-heart talk with Jared. We touch on a wide range of topics, including the importance of family, and the unique challenges that men face when we are diagnosed with cancer.  Jared is a husband, dad, recently retired Air Force officer, and a stage 4 colon cancer badass. In the Howling Place (Man Up to Cancer’s private Facebook group for men impacted by cancer), we all look up to Jared for his strength, courage, and honesty.  If this resonates with you (especially if you are a man impacted by cancer looking to connect with others who are in the same boat) I invite you to learn more about our community at https://manuptocancer.captivate.fm/episode/www.manuptocancer.com (www.manuptocancer.com)

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Sep 2020

37 min 38 sec

In today's episode, Kelin and I talk with Rob Burridge, a stage IV rectal cancer patient from Nanaimo, British Columbia, Canada. Rob was a heavy duty mechanic before his diagnosis more than four years ago. Since then he has done 25 radiation treatments, more than 40 chemo sessions, and eight surgeries, and he continues to fight this disease like the badass he is. Then we dive into "Things Not to Say to a Cancer Patient," and a spirited round of "Cancer Patient Trivia." To learn more and get involved in the Man Up to Cancer movement, find us on social and visit us at https://my.captivate.fm/www.manuptocancer.com (www.manuptocancer.com). HOWL!!

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Sep 2020

38 min 56 sec

In the late summer of 2019, Erika Hanson Brown gave me a choice. Use my voice to help others facing cancer, or stay on the sidelines. I almost said no. Saying yes was one of the best decisions I ever made. Today on the podcast, Kelin and I chat with Erika, the visionary colon cancer survivor who founded COLONTOWN in 2011. www.colontown.org COLONTOWN improves the quality of life and outcomes for people with colorectal cancer, through shared knowledge, experience, and support. It's an online community, created and operated entirely by colorectal cancer patients, survivors, and care partners. Colontownies are leaders of the ‘patient-to-patient’ movement, educating members on the science and latest advancements related to our disease. COLONTOWN is structured in private groups on Facebook. The core neighborhood is “Downtown.” From there, members can participate in more than 120 neighborhoods that cater to all aspects of colorectal cancer. For example, “Four Corners” is for stage IV patients, and "Corner Cupboard" offers solutions to common side effects. 

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Sep 2020

32 min 18 sec

Personal cancer update… I have my next MRI coming up in a few weeks. My tumor marker has bumped up a bit, triggering some awesome PTSD.  Feeling some creeping anxiety, fear, anger, etc. You know, the usual darker emotions of a cancer journey.  What to do?  Sit down for a “Trevor cancer update” with my friend Kelin, obviously.  In this short episode, Kelin and I chat about the difficulties of juggling GRATITUDE with the occasional intrusion of WORRY.  #manuptocancer #cancerland #kfg

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Aug 2020

23 min 40 sec

In today's episode, I share a blog post about one of those big uncomfortable words that guys don't talk about: Shame. Then Kelin and I dive deep into a discussion about how shame has reared its ugly head in my cancer journey. Shout out to the organizations we mention: https://www.colonclub.com/ (The Colon Club), COLONTOWN, and the Dempsey Center. Here's an excerpt: "Don't be weak. Toughen up. Take it like a man. So what happens to the American man - one who has been taught there is no hurdle he can't handle on his own - when a challenge comes along that he can't simply fix? What happens when he gets cancer?"

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Aug 2020

24 min 49 sec

In today's episode, meet Kelin Welborn, my co-conspirator on all things 'Man Up to Cancer.' Kelin is a Swiss Army knife of creativity and logistics. She created the howling wolf logo, the website, and more. She is a loyal friend. And she's a damn good co-host for the Man Up to Cancer Podcast. This is the story of how Kelin got involved at day one, and has helped to build and empower the Man Up community. To learn more and get involved in the Man Up to Cancer movement, find us on social and visit us at https://my.captivate.fm/www.manuptocancer.com (www.manuptocancer.com). HOWL!!

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Aug 2020

41 min 3 sec

In today's episode, Kelin and I talk with Jason Greenspan of Rockville, Maryland. Just before his high school prom and graduation, at the age of 18, Jason was diagnosed with testicular cancer. Now 26, Jason has used his experience as fuel to help others. As an event planner, Jason has organized the largest simultaneous self-check for testicular cancer, which made him a Guinness World Record Holder. He is the co-founder of the social media campaign and day: https://www.nationalballcheckday.com/ (National Ball Check Day). To learn more and get involved in the Man Up to Cancer movement, find us on social and visit us at https://my.captivate.fm/www.manuptocancer.com (www.manuptocancer.com). HOWL!!

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Aug 2020

31 min 58 sec

My favorite hashtag is #KFG. But what is it? In this bonus episode, the meaning of KFG gets revealed. I ramble for 14 minutes about my colon surgery, amazing nurse Aaron, and the joys of oxaliplatin chemo. I also send out a message of encouragement to all the cancer patients out there who are in pain, suffering, and basically living minute to minute. To learn more and get involved in the Man Up to Cancer movement, find us on social and visit us at https://my.captivate.fm/www.manuptocancer.com (www.manuptocancer.com). HOWL!!

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Aug 2020

14 min 32 sec

In this episode, I sit down with my wife Sarah to reflect on the past two years since my stage 4 colon cancer diagnosis. This was the hardest episode for me to record, and also the one that was most necessary. We talk about what it was like to receive the diagnosis; how we told our children I had cancer; my mental health crisis in the months that followed; and how our marriage was the anchor that we both needed. We hope our conversation can provide comfort -- and maybe even inspiration -- for other couples going through cancer. To learn more and get involved in the Man Up to Cancer movement, find us on social and visit us at https://my.captivate.fm/www.manuptocancer.com (www.manuptocancer.com). HOWL!!

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Aug 2020

1 hr 8 min

In this episode, Kelin and I talk to Jay Carter, a true Renaissance man and chronic myeloid leukemia survivor from Dallas. Jay, aka https://www.instagram.com/thatcancerdude/ (@thatcancerdude), talks about family, fitness, and purpose in his leukemia journey. Diagnosed at age 26... stem cell transplant... Living to the fullest more than 8 years later. Jay has been involved as a participant, volunteer, and consultant for organizations that provide direct support for cancer patients, including https://www.epicexperience.org/ (Epic Experience) and https://www.facebook.com/ReelRecovery/ (Reel Recovery). To learn more and get involved in the Man Up to Cancer movement, find us on social and visit us at https://my.captivate.fm/www.manuptocancer.com (www.manuptocancer.com). HOWL!!

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Jul 2020

30 min 13 sec

The next episode in the podcast was supposed to be coming out next Tuesday, but there’s something going on this week that I just have to talk about and put out to you guys. There is a friend of mine who is shouldering a lot, and I want to honor him.  In this 15-minute episode, you will get to know one of my heroes, Jared McMillan. Jared is a husband, dad, recently retired Air Force officer, and a stage 4 colon cancer badass. You will get to know him through his own writing, and through the words of others who know him best. On top of the brutal regimen he is on to treat his cancer, and the relentless side effects, Jared was diagnosed this week with COVID-19. By the end of the episode, you will hopefully understand why he closes every social media post with the same two hashtags. #NeverEverQuit #FaithFamilyFight If this resonates with you (especially if you are a man impacted by cancer looking to connect with others who are in the same boat) I invite you to learn more about our community at www.manuptocancer.com

Jul 2020

14 min 38 sec

In this episode, I catch up with my old friend Erik Ingbretson about cancer, relationships, and what it's like to be complex men in a culture that doesn't always embrace complexity. You'll see why it's OK for guy friends to tell each other, "I love you." Three facts about Erik... 1- Benchpressed the couch in our college apartment...With me and my future wife Sarah sitting on it. 2- Nearly drowned during a remote hunting and fishing trip in Canada or Wisconsin or wherever the hell sasquatches hunt. 3- Travelled to Maine from Chicago, completely unannounced, for a surprise visit with me after he learned I had cancer. To learn more and get involved in the Man Up to Cancer movement, find us on social and visit us at www.manuptocancer.com. HOWL!!

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Jul 2020

33 min 25 sec

In our first full episode, Kelin and I talk to Joe Bullock of Durham, N.C. Joe plays a huge role in Man Up to Cancer. He is the lead administrator of the Howling Place (AKA The Wolfpack), which is our private Facebook group for men impacted by cancer, including patients, survivors, and caregivers. Joe is also an ambassador for https://fightcolorectalcancer.org/ (FightCRC), and an active patient voice in several organizations including COLONTOWN. He is a husband, father, and a stage IIIB colon cancer survivor. Keep howlin', Joe!

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Jul 2020

46 min 40 sec

Welcome to the podcast built for men facing cancer, and the people who love us! In this short pilot episode, you'll get to know me and the reasons why guys are terrible at "cancering". So, give me 7 minutes, and I'll give you a behind-the-scenes tour of Man Up to Cancer, and what to expect from the newest podcast in #cancerland. -Trevor 1:32 My cancer dossier 3:06 What happens when you isolate during cancer (hint: it ain't good) 4:50 Grief, pain, anger, and other fun cancer feelings 5:54 What the heck is Man Up to Cancer?

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Jul 2020

7 min 35 sec