Motherhood in Black & White

Kaanji and Tara

Hosted by Gen X moms, Kaanji Irby and Tara Campbell.

These two women- one Black and one White- come from different worlds, but have become close friends through their shared experiences as suburban ‘boy moms,’ working women in male-dominated workplaces, and their love of 90s hip-hop.

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This week, Kaanji and Tara talk about grades and how they each approach motivating their sons to feel successful in school.  They navigate a complex conversation about how they define success, how their kids are both having a different relationship with school than they each did, and where our school systems are flawed.  Can you guess which of our hosts graduated salutatorian of her high school?Connect with us:Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @TaraallyceBecome a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcastIG:@blackandwhitemomcastKaanji: @Kaanji_irbyTara: @Tatstar

Dec 5

29 min 20 sec

 In this episode that originally aired in November 2020, Kaanji and Tara chat with journalist, author, nonprofit founder, and mother, Gretchen Carlson. You may know Gretchen as a former Miss America and the courageous woman who has been a leading voice in speaking out about workplace harassment. But you may not know what her kids thought about her stance or what she has been up to recently. Listen to this week’s powerful episode to find out more and be inspired by Gretchen’s journey, her resilience, and her courage.Want to get involved in Gretchen’s work?Donate to Lift Our Voices: https://www.liftourvoices.org/ If you or someone you know is experiencing workplace harassment and wants free legal counsel visit: betterbrave.org or https://nwlc.org/legal-assistance/ Connect with us:Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @TaraallyceBecome a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcastIG:@blackandwhitemomcastKaanji: @Kaanji_irbyTara: @Tatstar

Nov 28

27 min 5 sec

This week, Kaanji and Tara untangle issues of beauty standards and Black hair discrimination in America.  Listen as Kaanji talks about her and her son's Black hair care journey. Tune is as our hosts talk about cultural appropriation and how it differs from cultural appreciation. Connect with us:Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @TaraallyceBecome a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcastIG:@blackandwhitemomcastKaanji: @Kaanji_irbyTara: @Tatstar Tags: parenting, antiracism, diversity, inclusion, motherhood, boymoms, workingmoms, Black hair, Crown Act

Nov 21

32 min 12 sec

Can working moms have it all? This episode, Kaanji and Tara are joined by Whitnee Hawthorne of The Savvy Working Mom to talk about the challenges working moms face and how to find balance in it all.  Whitnee shares her experiences and advice for working moms as they navigate their changing priorities and work to define a life that brings joy.  Join us for the conversation. You can find Whitnee's work at: thesavvyworkingmom.comIG: @thesavvyworkingmomConnect with us:Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @TaraallyceBecome a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcastIG:@blackandwhitemomcastKaanji: @Kaanji_irbyTara: @Tatstar

Nov 14

31 min 56 sec

Many mothers instinctively feel a need to put their children first - before other relationships and themselves.  This episode, Kaanji and Tara share the challenges that they have had with prioritizing their marriages during motherhood, and some ways that they have learned to make time and space for their partners. Join us for the conversation. Connect with us:Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @TaraallyceBecome a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcastIG:@blackandwhitemomcastKaanji: @Kaanji_irbyTara: @Tatstar

Nov 7

28 min 43 sec

We are wrapping up another month and our hosts discuss how fast the holiday season is approaching.  As they discuss Thanksgiving and gathering with friends and family, they each share which celebrity moms they would invite to their holiday dinner table - and why.  Kaanji begins the episode with a mea culpa, and both hosts agree on one celebrity they would invite to their table anytime.  Connect with us:Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @TaraallyceBecome a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcastIG:@blackandwhitemomcastKaanji: @Kaanji_irbyTara: @Tatstar

Oct 31

25 min 19 sec

Netflix's most-watched series has many parents asking: should I let my kids watch? This week, Kaanji and Tara discuss this pop culture phenomenon, why it's so popular with kids, and how parents can assess and discuss age-appropriate viewing for our kids.Send us a voice mail via our producer ( joeysalvia@yahoo.com) to ask us a question, suggest a future topic, and comment about this or any other recent topic. You might just hear yourself on our next episode!Connect with us: Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @TaraallyceBecome a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcastIG:@blackandwhitemomcastKaanji: @Kaanji_irbyTara: @Tatstar 

Oct 24

29 min 1 sec

This week, our hosts talk about a less controversial F word - forgiveness.  They each share how important learning to forgive has been in each of their lives and how they are working to foster the practice with their kids.  It's also a special celebratory episode as Kaanji and Tara share some big podcast milestones and welcome their new listeners!  

Oct 17

29 min 48 sec

October is Breast Cancer Awareness month, an annual campaign to raise awareness about the impact of breast cancer.  One in 8 women will be diagnosed with breast cancer in her lifetime. This week we reshare an episode from October 2020, a powerful conversation with mom, runner, and coach, Shaluinn Fullove.  Her story of being a previvor reminds us how important it is for us to put our health first.  We are still in awe of her strength and resilience, and couldn't think of a better story to reshare in honor of this month. About Coach Shal.  Shaluinn Fullove is a mom first.  She is a coach, professional runner, Director of People of autonomous technology at Lyft, and a cancer survivor.  She currently runs for Oiselle, a women's team based in Seattle. Follow us on IG @blackandwhitemomcast Find out more about Oiselle here: https://www.oiselle.com/Follow us on IG @blackandwhitemomcast

Oct 10

41 min 4 sec

This week, our hosts each review their top 5 pop culture picks of the season.  Their lists almost completely diverge and cover a wide spectrum of options - TV, movies, books and even social media picks.  Tara has a pick that Kaanji is completely confused by, but there is one pop culture phenomenon they both completely agree on. Connect with us:Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @TaraallyceBecome a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcastIG:@blackandwhitemomcastKaanji: @Kaanji_irbyTara: @Tatstar

Oct 3

25 min 46 sec

This week, we are joined by Brenna Vivier, a mother of 3 who shares her story of navigating "invisible" illness and how she has found peace in the chaos through a regular mindfulness and meditation practice.  Brenna talks to us about being an empty nester, her new book, Water Stops, and we all reminisce about spending our early mornings in a dark room cycling together.   Be sure to add Water Stops to your upcoming reading list. Connect with us:Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @TaraallyceBecome a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcastIG:@blackandwhitemomcastKaanji: @Kaanji_irbyTara: @Tatstar 

Sep 26

30 min 40 sec

This week, we are joined by Jessica Jackley, Founder of Alltruists, a company that provides a monthly subscription box that provides resources for families to engage in issues and volunteer in small, but impactful ways.  Jessica tells us how this idea was formed from both her aspiration to share her love of giving with her kids and all of those pandemic deliveries.    Learn more about Alltruists: https://alltruists.com/    IG: @alltruists Connect with us:Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @TaraallyceBecome a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcastIG:@blackandwhitemomcastKaanji: @Kaanji_irbyTara: @Tatstar

Sep 19

31 min 22 sec

How much time is too much screen time? How old should kids be when they get cell phones? This week, we dive into a discussion on how we can manage our kids' non-educational screen time and the ways that we have been challenged to monitor their usage of devices and computers. Listen for some tips on realistic screen time solutions, and listen as our hosts debate whether Tara's son is old enough to get a cell phone.Connect with us:Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @TaraallyceBecome a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcastIG:@blackandwhitemomcastKaanji: @Kaanji_irbyTara: @Tatstar

Sep 12

36 min 1 sec

This week, we are joined by Nadine Fonseca, Founder and CEO of Mighty Kind, a publication company dedicated to providing anti-bias resources for parents and kids.  Nadine talks about how Mighty Kind focuses on kindness and compassion as the foundation for anti-bias learning, and why discussing these issues with our kids is more important than ever.  Learn more about Nadine and the work of Mighty Kind: www.mightykindkids.com IG: @mighytkindkids Take the Implicit AssociationTest sponsored by Project Implicit  test here: https://implicit.harvard.edu/implicit/takeatest.htmlConnect with us:Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @TaraallyceBecome a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcastIG:@blackandwhitemomcastKaanji: @Kaanji_irbyTara: @Tatstar

Sep 5

31 min 9 sec

This week, Kaanji andTara discuss their changing relationships with their pre-teen sons and share how they are working to keep those bonds strong as their kids grow into adulthood. As usual, our hosts look to pop culture to help, as the conversation views parent/child relationships through the lens of some well-known movies.  Listen as Kaanji shares the person she idolizes the most, which surprises Tara and may surprise you as well.Connect with us:Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @TaraallyceBecome a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcastIG:@blackandwhitemomcastKaanji: @Kaanji_irbyTara: @Tatstar

Aug 29

30 min 19 sec

This week, listen to a throwback episode from October 2020, when our guests sat down and chatted with child counselor Jenny Gomez about how to talk to our kids about anxiety-inducing events like puberty and political unrest. The conversation is as relevant in 2021 as it was when it first aired.  Stay tuned for tips on how to navigate challenging conversations with our kiddos.Connect with us:Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @TaraallyceBecome a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcastIG:@blackandwhitemomcastKaanji: @Kaanji_irbyTara: @Tatstar

Aug 22

37 min 27 sec

Our hosts are back from a hiatus to kick off Season Two. The discussion centers on self care, how they replenish their spirits in this season, and how they cultivate their children's well being.  Kaanji and Tara share their tips for changing your environment, disengaging from screens, and avoiding the overscheduling trap. Listen to the end for Kaanji's alliterative commitment to this season's self-care strategy.Connect with us:Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @TaraallyceBecome a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcastIG:@blackandwhitemomcastKaanji: @Kaanji_irbyTara: @Tatstar

Aug 15

29 min 28 sec

It's our podcasting 1 year anniversary and we are celebrating with this hilarious and introspective episode featuring clips and highlights from this year's favorite moments and guests.  If you have been listening since day one or this is your first day listening, you will be entertained by this week's episode.Connect with us:Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @TaraallyceBecome a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcastIG:@blackandwhitemomcastKaanji: @Kaanji_irbyTara: @Tatstar

Jul 25

46 min 51 sec

This week, we discuss the transformation that comes along with parenting, and Kaanji and Tara share how their lives and personalities have changed since they have become parents. Listen to learn more about our hosts' teenage personalities and the most positive ways that motherhood has shaped their identities. Connect with us:Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @TaraallyceBecome a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcastIG:@blackandwhitemomcastKaanji: @Kaanji_irbyTara: @Tatstar

Jul 18

32 min 7 sec

This week, Kaanji and Tara talk about double standards, unfairness, and injustices. From small daily moments like missing out on a piece of pizza to larger social debates such as Sha’Carri Richardson’s suspension to the Olympics, unfairness is a constant in life, yet difficult for kids to understand. Stay tuned to hear the tough life lessons that Kaanji and Tara share with their kids. Connect with us:Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @TaraallyceBecome a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcastIG:@blackandwhitemomcastKaanji: @Kaanji_irbyTara: @Tatstar

Jul 11

34 min 25 sec

In the spirit of Independence Day, Kaanji and Tara talk about the importance of independence in a context separate from this national holiday—raising children. They share their personal challenges and successes when it comes to raising independent children, and talk to their intern Pip about a path of independence leading up to her college years.Connect with us:Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @TaraallyceBecome a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcastIG:@blackandwhitemomcastKaanji: @Kaanji_irbyTara: @Tatstar

Jul 4

26 min 3 sec

We love intentionally, we learn intentionally, we live intentionally, but sometimes, we forget about parenting intentionally. This week, Kaanji and Tara create a roadmap for anyone who wants to parent with intentionality.  They discuss their experiences and share simple, mindful ways to approach this parenting style. Listen to the end to find out what summer Olympic sport Tara is most looking forward to. Connect with us:Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @TaraallyceBecome a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcastIG:@blackandwhitemomcastKaanji: @Kaanji_irbyTara: @Tatstar

Jun 27

30 min 15 sec

How do you give and receive love to your kids and your loved ones? This week, we talk about all things love - Loving Day and love languages. We begin with an important discussion on Juneteenth and then share how we honor our kids' and partners' love languages and explain why we should all follow the Platinum Rule.5 Love Languages Test: https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/Connect with us:Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @TaraallyceBecome a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcastIG:@blackandwhitemomcastKaanji: @Kaanji_irbyTara: @Tatstar

Jun 20

24 min 6 sec

This week, Kaanji and Tara sit down with Jessica Nazario, who discusses the steps she has taken to transition back into the workforce after taking a sabbatical to stay home with her children.  Jessica shares her insights and offers suggestions for any mom who may be looking to re-enter the workforce. Listen to the end to find out the Bday gift Kaanji received from Tara this year that she calls the best present she has ever received.Connect with us:Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @TaraallyceBecome a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcastIG:@blackandwhitemomcastKaanji: @Kaanji_irbyTara: @Tatstar

Jun 13

33 min 5 sec

What's the cure for the summertime blues that affected many of us last summer? This week, we talk about plans for summer 2021 - the camps, the vacations, and the workload!  We share some of our memories of past summers and discuss how we plan and prepare for summer break.  Listen to the end to find out our hosts' dream vacations and why they may do a family swap next summer!Connect with us:Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @TaraallyceBecome a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcastIG:@blackandwhitemomcastKaanji: @Kaanji_irbyTara: @Tatstar

Jun 6

29 min 59 sec

Our Gemini twin co-hosts, Kaanji and Tara, invited you to join their Birthday Extravaganza this week.  Join this fun-filled episode as they talk about how they celebrate their birthdays, birthday celebrations from their past and for their kids, and the one gift that Kaanji has outlawed in her house and why.  Listen to find out what Kaanji gifted Tara this year that Tara's husband may ban from their house. Stay tuned to the end to hear their birthday wishes for this year. Connect with us:Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @TaraallyceBecome a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcastIG:@blackandwhitemomcastKaanji: @Kaanji_irbyTara: @Tatstar

May 30

31 min 38 sec

This week, Kaanji and Tara discuss The Sandwich Generation, a term used to describe women who are both raising young children and taking on the additional responsibilities of caring for their aging parents.  They each discuss the additional responsibilities they are taking on with their mothers, and how that affects their own mental health.  Kaanji reviews actionable steps we can take to prepare ourselves for the future, and they both realize how having only children makes them want to be more vigilant to lessen the burden on their sons.  We also find out our hosts have wildly different opinions on actual sandwiches! 

May 23

28 min 6 sec

As May in Mental Health Awareness Month, Tara and Kaanji discuss the importance of having open conversations about mental health and getting the help you need.  They talk about their own mental health struggles and what has helped them, the different messages they received growing up about therapy, and they share ideas for their listeners on how to both ask for help and help others in their own mental health journey.   We also find out why Kaanji might be done with Grey’s Anatomy, and, as usual, she finds a way to work in Tupac lyrics.Connect with us:Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @TaraallyceBecome a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcastIG:@blackandwhitemomcastKaanji: @Kaanji_irbyTara: @Tatstar

May 16

27 min 37 sec

Tara and Kaanji discuss whether Mother's Day should be an official holiday or whether it's time to cancel this century-old celebration. They talk about the contradicting origin tale and reflect on their own experiences, expectations and attitudes around Mother's Day and how - or if - they "celebrate" it in their households. Connect with us:Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @TaraallyceBecome a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcastIG:@blackandwhitemomcastKaanji: @Kaanji_irbyTara: @TatstarTags: parenting, antiracism, diversity, inclusion, motherhood, relationships, boymoms, worklifebalance, Mother's Day, Tupac, cancel culture,  Anna Jarvis

May 9

22 min 41 sec

Kaanji and Tara discuss why work life balance doesn't exist and how they handle being working mothers.  They share the stress of being pulled in many different directions and how they keep their priorities in check.  The conversation takes a vulnerable turn as they uncover a glaring discrepancy between their experiences over the last year, but they find common ground in the obvious:  Tupac lyrics. Connect with us:Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @TaraallyceBecome a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcastIG:@blackandwhitemomcastKaanji: @Kaanji_irbyTara: @Tatstar

May 2

28 min 25 sec

On this poignant episode, Kaanji and Tara share their initial reactions and thoughts on George Floyd's murder and the guilty verdict handed down against his killer.  Their conversation centers on how their lives have been forever changed by George Floyd's murder in May 2020, and how they have talked to their adolescent sons about the murder, racial reckoning and reconciliation.Connect with us:Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @TaraallyceBecome a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcastIG:@blackandwhitemomcastKaanji: @Kaanji_irbyTara: @Tatstar

Apr 21

30 min 41 sec

How can we raise our kids to be as strong as possible while shielding them from the harsh realities of a (sometimes) cruel and unequal society? In this episode, Kaanji and Tara discuss how their childhood traumas and experiences impacted their parenting choices and have taught them to be resilient adults.  They share how they have learned to teach their sons to handle discouragement, disappointment, and difficulties while being strong emotional support systems, and offer some straightforward tips on how to foster resilience in our kids. To learn more about the Adverse Childhood Experiences (ACE) Study and to take the ACE Quiz, visit https://www.npr.org/sections/health-shots/2015/03/02/387007941/take-the-ace-quiz-and-learn-what-it-does-and-doesnt-meanConnect with us:Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @TaraallyceBecome a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcastIG:@blackandwhitemomcastKaanji: @Kaanji_irbyTara: @Tatstar

Apr 18

26 min 30 sec

What's it like to raise a Muslim child in American society? This week, we are joined by Dr. Shazia Anwar, a physician, certified life coach and community builder.  Listen in as Kaanji and Tara have an enlightening and honest conversation with Shazia about the challenges, opportunities and pressures of raising Muslim children in America, misconceptions about Islam, and how we can all teach our kids about the upcoming holiday of Ramadan in a respectful manner. To contact Shazia, please visit her Facebook page (Shazia R. Anwar Principled Approach) or email her at Anwar.Lifecoach@gmail.com.Connect with us:Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @TaraallyceBecome a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcastIG:@blackandwhitemomcastKaanji: @Kaanji_irbyTara: @Tatstar

Apr 11

33 min 32 sec

This week, we are joined by Kelly Walker, host of the sports-focused podcast, Hustle & Pro.  We chat about why involving our kids in youth sports benefits their overall development, how to navigate challenges of a demanding extracurricular schedule, and finding the right activity for your kids.  Listen as Kelly bravely shares her personal antiracism journey and how she uses her platform to advance equity. Connect with Kelly Walker on IG @ kelly_walkertexasConnect with us:Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @TaraallyceBecome a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcastIG:@blackandwhitemomcastKaanji: @Kaanji_irbyTara: @Tatstar

Apr 4

37 min 22 sec

 Kaanji and Tara welcome Connection Coach Emily Siegel to the podcast this week to talk about the importance of friendships and connection.  They discuss their difficulties with creating new friendships and why connected relationships are so important to all of us.  They discuss how to build a friend circle when you’re new in town and how vulnerability is the key to creating authentic connections.Connect with Emily Siegel @theconnectedmomlifeConnect with us:Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @TaraallyceBecome a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcastIG:@blackandwhitemomcastKaanji: @Kaanji_irbyTara: @Tatstar

Mar 28

31 min 49 sec

Kaanji and Tara have a vulnerable conversation this week about their complicated relationships with food and their bodies.  Listen as they each share their stories of when they first internalized the idea that they weren't enough as they were and how having adolescent kids is shining a light on a lifelong struggle.  They discuss radical self love, parenting adolescent boys through their own body image challenges, and an unabashed love for all things Lizzo. Book Reference: The Body is Not an Apology by Sonya Renee TaylorConnect with us:Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @TaraallyceBecome a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcastIG:@blackandwhitemomcastKaanji: @Kaanji_irbyTara: @Tatstar

Mar 21

29 min 44 sec

 Kaanji and Tara talk to the co-hosts of Didn't I Just Feed You about the struggle with feeding our families and establishing healthy food relationships.  What was meant to be a conversation about picky eaters and meal planning turns into an amazing and insightful conversation about our complex relationship to food.  Listen as Stacie and Meghan talk about how our economic status, schedules, and the origins of food play a role in how we relate to the primal instinct of feeding our kids. Tara also reveals her love language, and it's a new one. Follow the Didn't I Feed You podcast on on all listening platforms and sign up for their regular newsletter at: https://didntijustfeedyou.com/ You can also follow them on IG:@didntIjustfeedyou @staciebillis@meghan_splawnOrder Stacie's Book, Winner! Winner! Chicken Dinner 50 Winnings Ways to Cook it Up! on Amazon.com.  Connect with us:Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @TaraallyceBecome a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcastIG:@blackandwhitemomcastKaanji: @Kaanji_irbyTara: @Tatstar

Mar 14

38 min 20 sec

 Kaanji and Tara sit down with Alison Lumbatis, style guru and founder of Get Your Pretty On, the go-to resource for inclusive fashion inspiration and lifestyle advice.  Listen as Alison explains her journey from engineer to blogger to entrepreneurship, helping over 30,000 discover their authentic style as GYPO community members.  Check out Get Your Pretty On Freebies at: www.getyourprettyon.comPre-order Alison's Book, The Ultimate Book of Outfit Formulas: A Stylish Solution to What Should I Wear on Amazon.com.  Her book will be released on September 7, 2021.Connect with us:Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @TaraallyceBecome a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcastIG:@blackandwhitemomcastKaanji: @Kaanji_irbyTara: @Tatstar

Mar 7

39 min 22 sec

This episode, Kaanji and Tara discuss the rise in violence in Asian-American communities and talk about how we can educate and inform our kids about hate crimes, racism and discrimination.  Our hosts talk about how we can work together to ensure safety for all of our kids and offer some strategies for we can work in solidarity to end violence against all marginalized people and build cross-racial and cross-cultural solidarity.Connect with us:Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @TaraallyceBecome a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcastIG:@blackandwhitemomcastKaanji: @Kaanji_irbyTara: @Tatstar

Feb 28

26 min 19 sec

 This episode, Kaanji and Tara share their experiences surviving the Texas winter storm that resulted in record low temps, historic snowfalls, statewide power outages, school closings, and more uncertain times! Our hosts chat about how the experience brought their parenting skills to a new level of anxiety and the lessons that they took away from this week.  They talk about the importance of community and connection, and how they and their families survived 4 days of power outages and state-mandated 'rotating blackouts' during Snovid '21.Connect with us:Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @TaraallyceBecome a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcastIG:@blackandwhitemomcastKaanji: @Kaanji_irbyTara: @TatstarFor those looking to help, check out these organizations you can donate to or even volunteer with in Texas. IG:@dfwmutualaidwww.mutualaidhou.comIG: @austinmutualaidIG: @feedingtexaswww.redcross.org/local/texas/north-texas/ways-to-donate.htmlhttps://breadoflifeinc.org/

Feb 21

29 min 7 sec

Mom, Can I Say The N** Word?  In this deeply raw and honest episode, Kaanji and Tara discuss the N word and how they have addressed the use of this word in their homes and with their families.  The discussion turns deeply personal as Kaanji discusses one of her experiences with racism. Stay tuned to the end, as our hosts lighten the mood a bit by showcasing their acting chops.  This is a can't miss episode for everyone.Connect with us:Clubhouse: @Kaanji and @TaraallyceBecome a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcastIG: @blackandwhitemomcastKaanji: @Kaanji_irbyTara: @tatstar

Feb 14

28 min 51 sec

 Do you find yourself repeating negative parenting patterns with your kids and want to break the cycle? This week, Kaanji and Tara sit down with positive parenting expert, Alexis, as she shares the pillars of this parenting style, how to incorporate positive parenting in your life, and how it changed her motherhood journey. Listen to the end for some hilarious outtakes and find out the one thing Kaanji and Alexis, unfortunately, have in common. Please subscribe, rate, and review @ Apple Podcasts. Follow us on Spotify, Amazon, Google, or wherever you get your podcasts. Follow Alexis for more positive parenting tips on IG  @motherhoodmenageries.Alexis' recommended parenting books:The Whole Brain Child by Dr. Daniel Siegel and Dr. Tina Payne BrysonThe Awakened Family by Dr. Shefali TsabaryThe Gifts of Imperfect Parenting by Brene BrownConnect with us:Become a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcastClubhouse @Kaanji and @TaraallyceIG: https://www.instagram.com/blackandwhitemomcastKaanji: https://www.instagram.com/kaanji_irby/Tara: Tara Toland Campbell (@tatstar)

Feb 7

33 min 50 sec

 Kaanji and Tara share how they celebrate and teach Black History to their kids and use February as Black History Month as a starting point for these conversations. Listen to the end of this powerful episode for our special tribute to Black legends, Henry "Hank" Aaron and Cicely Tyson. Please subscribe, rate, and review @ Apple Podcasts. Follow us on Spotify, Amazon, Google, or wherever you get your podcasts. Connect with us:Become a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcastIG: https://www.instagram.com/blackandwhitemomcastKaanji: https://www.instagram.com/kaanji_irby/Tara: Tara Toland Campbell (@tatstar)

Jan 31

29 min 40 sec

Podcast Family, listen up! Are you ready  to listen to bonus episodes and support keeping this podcast ad-free? Well, you can now join our exclusive private, patreon community and support this show! Check out this quick update and a sneak peek at some of the behind-the-scenes content that our patrons will have access to. Check out this quick clip as our hosts showcase their (lack of) rapping skills with a shout-out to one of Tara's favorite 90s rap songs. Mark your calendars for February 1 to sign up and join the community with other moms who are #doingthebestwecan,When you join our private, patron community and for exclusive access to unfiltered, and extra content, access to a private community, and bonus episodes each month.  Connect with us:Become a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcastIG: https://www.instagram.com/blackandwhitemomcastKaanji: https://www.instagram.com/kaanji_irby/Tara: Tara Toland Campbell (@tatstar) • Instagram photos and videosPlease subscribe, rate, and review @ Apple Podcasts. Follow us on Spotify, Amazon, Google, or wherever you get your podcasts.

Jan 29

6 min 15 sec

 This week, Kaanji and Tara get real about why so few women have friendships across racial lines. We share some life experiences and shine a light on why it is important  for moms to expand  our friendships across color lines.  Listen in as we open up and try to understand how race and fear affect our friendships and how to be intentional in promoting cross-racial friendships in our mom groups and circle of friends.Please subscribe, rate, and review @ Apple Podcasts. Follow us on Spotify, Amazon, Google, or wherever you get your podcasts.Connect with us:Podcast Fam: https://www.instagram.com/blackandwhitemomcastKaanji: https://www.instagram.com/kaanji_irby/Tara: Tara Toland Campbell (@tatstar) • Instagram photos and videosBecome a Podcast Patron: www.patreon.com/blackandwhitemomcast

Jan 24

42 min 20 sec

 Listen in as we talk about the language of love - sign language - with special guest Elise Tate, CEO & author of Sign Me Up for a Happy Home. This week, Kaanji and Tara chat with Elise, as she opens up about her life as an NFL wife, mothering 2 toddlers, and her diverse and inclusive parenting resource about teaching sign language to kids. Welcome to the conversation.Learn more about Elise's book: https://www.shopsignmeup.comPlease subscribe, rate, and review @ Apple Podcasts. Follow us on Spotify, Amazon, Google, or wherever you get your podcasts.Connect with us:Podcast Fam: https://www.instagram.com/blackandwhitemomcastKaanji: https://www.instagram.com/kaanji_irby/Tara: Tara Toland Campbell (@tatstar) • Instagram photos and videos

Jan 17

46 min 1 sec

This week's episode is all about dollars and sense.  Join us as we discuss how to talk with kids about money, budgets and financial responsibility, and how to break a cycle of financial chaos in your family.  The Motherhood and Black and White Podcast is a weekly conversation with Kaanji and Tara about motherhood- the challenges and celebrations.  This momcast is a place where motherhood and cultural learning intersect.  This week's episode is an Introduction to the momcast and the hosts- as we begin to dive into how we learn to love ourselves, flaws and all.  Welcome to the conversation. Kaanji and Tara are both anti-racism advocates and members of the leadership team for Embrace Action, an anti-racism advocacy and educational nonprofit organization.  You can learn more about Embrace Action by visiting www.embraceaction.org  Tara is a bank executive living in North Dallas with her husband and son.   A recovering overachiever that tends to stretch herself a bit thin trying to be all things to all people, she’s learning more and more about how to strive for ordinary.  She loves Beyonce, dancing in the kitchen, inappropriate conversations with her girlfriends, laughing with her family, and hyping other people up.  She’s currently halfway through an MBA program and aspires to serve in a capacity that empowers women in her community.  She is always a work in progress. Kaanji is a coach, anti-racism advocate and practicing attorney.  She’s passionate about engaging people in honest and authentic conversations about the Black experience in America.  California-born and raised and a recovering New Yorker, proud Georgetown alum Kaanji resides in the Dallas suburb of Frisco, TX with her husband and 11-year old son.  A self-professed wine connoisseur and lover of all things Prince, she holds space in the company of amazing friends and a supportive family.  Please subscribe, rate, and share!  It all begins  August 2, 2020.Join the conversation on Instagram now! https://www.instagram.com/blackandwhitemomcast/#blackandwhitemomcast

Jan 10

36 min 7 sec

A new year is the perfect time for reflection and goal-setting.  This week, tune in for a mini-episode as we recap of our favorite moments from 2020 and share some of our goals for 2021. Listen to find out how Tara's New Year's Eve celebration inspired her 2021 Word of the Year.

Jan 3

19 min 54 sec

Join us for our first annual Joyous Kwanzaa Celebration.  First, Kaanji and Tara discuss the history, practice and principles of Kwanzaa.  And later, we are joined by Kaanji's mom for a special, virtual Kwanzaa candle lighting ceremony. Listen and learn how to explain Kwanzaa to your family and friends, and recognize and honor celebrants as we amplify this African-American celebration of culture and heritage with our final episode of 2020.  Habari Gani!Follow Podcast so we can keep you up to date on things to come @blackandwhitemomcast.  Follow Tara @Tatstar and Kaanji@kaanji_irbyKaanji and Tara are both anti-racism advocates and members of the leadership team for Embrace Action, an anti-racism advocacy and educational nonprofit organization.  You can learn more about Embrace Action by visiting www.embraceaction.org  Tara is a bank executive living in North Dallas with her husband and son.   A recovering overachiever that tends to stretch herself a bit thin trying to be all things to all people, she’s learning more and more about how to strive for ordinary.  She loves Beyonce, dancing in the kitchen, inappropriate conversations with her girlfriends, laughing with her family, and hyping other people up.  She’s currently halfway through an MBA program and aspires to serve in a capacity that empowers women in her community.  She is always a work in progress. Kaanji is a coach, anti-racism advocate and practicing attorney.  She’s passionate about engaging people in honest and authentic conversations about the Black experience in America.  California-born and raised and a recovering New Yorker, proud Georgetown alum Kaanji resides in the Dallas suburb of Frisco, TX with her husband and 11-year old son.  A self-professed wine connoisseur and lover of all things Prince, she holds space in the company of amazing friends and a supportive family.  Please subscribe, rate, and share!  More coming in #2021Join the conversation on Instagram now! https://www.instagram.com/blackandwhitemomcast/#blackandwhitemomcast

Dec 2020

45 min 50 sec

 Looking to get in the holiday spirit? Grab your winter drink of choice and tune into Kaanji and Tara’s joyous jingle-jangling chat about their favorite parts of Christmas! Find out their favorite holiday music, movies, memories, and moments, and get some ideas for inclusive gifts that challenge gender and cultural norms. Let us know your favorite holiday traditions and make sure to tune in for next week’s episode where Kaanji will share with us about Kwanzaa … featuring a special celebratory moment with her mom!Don’t forget to make Tara’s Christmas wish come true by subscribing, rating and reviewing on Apple Podcasts!Follow us on social media!IG @blackandwhitemomcast

Dec 2020

38 min 31 sec