Psych Up Live

Dr. Suzanne B. Phillips

Psych Up Live turns up your psychological perspective on life issues. With a wide variety of guests, Host Suzanne Phillips passes forward the latest in books, findings, and information relevant to your life and the world you live in. She explores topics as varied as family relationships, binge eating and violence on campus. In a conversational style, Suzanne and her guests translate the latest in psychology to exemplify ways of coping with child rearing, divorce, medical diagnosis, campus violence and social anxiety. She engages her guests with questions, often voicing her own thoughts or sharing related stories. What is particularly exciting about Psych Up Live is the opportunity for you to call in with your own stories, questions and opinions. Psych Up Live captures your attention as it considers life issues that will intrigue and inform you each Thursday at 11 AM Pacific Time, 2PM Eastern Time on the VoiceAmerica Variety Channel.

All Episodes

When I listeded to this podcast again in the context of the stress so many are facing – I thought this is a holiday gift. In this episode, bestselling author and speaker Bruce Van Horn shares the ingredients of his important book, Worry No More! 4 Steps To Stop Worrying And Start Living. With wisdom and humor this “recovered worrier” draws upon the best practices of experts and integrates them with what he has practiced on a daily basis in his own life. He has faced many of the challenges we have all struggled with from illness to lose of loved ones. Crystalizing a way out of “ Worry” in 4 interesting and effective steps, he invites you to join him in living life instead of worrying about it.

Dec 9

56 min 25 sec

In a complex culture with non-stop invitations to do and have more, parents often wonder how to raise grateful kids. In this show, Dr. Rebecca Hershberg, clinical psychologist, child expert and author of The Tantrum Survival Guide, offers parents some answers. She invites parents to consider their own definitions and expressions of gratitude and the messages they bring from their own childhood. She validates the common feelings of parental joy in giving and the fear of spoiling. She reminds us to consider expectations of request and signs of gratitude in children in terms of the child’s age and what can get triggered in parent and child when extended family are present at Holiday Times. She discusses parents feeling guilty about giving and the difference when giving also involves playing or spending time with your child or teen. She invites parents to consider gratitude as a way of being in life that is felt, observed, and shared in routines and rituals with children all year round. Among the wonderful things you give to your children – Listen in for some ideas on the Gift of Gratitude.

Dec 2

53 min 31 sec

In this show, Carol Novello, founder of Mutual Rescue™ and author of the new book, “Mutual Rescue: How Adopting a Homeless Animal Can Save You, Too” shares her story and the countless stories of others who reveal the powerful impact of adopted pets and their owners upon each other. From Parkland HS students, who lost friends in the horrific school shooting, but found the presence and adoption of dogs to be the bridges from terror and loss to love and comfort, to couples improving their relationships, to people helped with physical illness, addiction recovery or finding a purpose in life – adopting a dog is a gift that keeps on giving, even to others beyond the pet and owner. Importantly, Carol underscores stories with research science which verifies and expands what people are reporting, even tracing how it is that wolves and wildcats came to be the dogs that love to sleep in our beds and the cats that own our sofas. Listen in and prepare to feel a heart tug!

Nov 25

53 min 16 sec

In this show noted journalist, Rachel Hills, author of The Sex Myth: The Gap Between our Fantasies and Reality, invites us to look more closely at the invisible norms and unspoken assumptions that shape the way we think about sex today. Drawing upon six years' research, including interviews with women and men across three continents, she gives us an unexpected look at reality and a re-consideration of the meaning of sexual freedom. Don’t miss this show.

Nov 18

55 min 54 sec

In this episode Dr. Deborah Serani, psychologist and author discusses the reality of depression as a mood disorder in later life. Drawing upon her comprehensive book “ Depression in Later Life: An Essential Guide,” she underscores that depression is too often overlooked by those suffering, their families and even at times by their physicians. In the back and forth with host Suzanne Phillips, Dr. Serani provides crucial information and illuminating examples that will be as valuable for health-care professionals, family members as well as seniors who don’t understand why they are suffering. She will answer questions like: What Is Geriatric Depression? Isn’t Depression a normal part of aging? Why is it so often missed or dismissed? What are the steps for proper assessment? What are the treatment options? Are depressed seniors a suicide risk? Adding to this, Dr. Serani considers the power of “conscious aging” as an asset to physical and emotional well-being. This is an important show for all.

Nov 11

55 min 45 sec

Anti-bullying sites report that bullying has become an epidemic. One in 7 students K – 12, bully or are a victim of bullying. 75% of school shootings are linked to bullying and there is a strong link between bullying and suicide. Against this backdrop, Alan Eisenberg, Founder of Bully Recovery, Coach, and author of A Ladder In The Dark: My Journey From Bullying To Self-Acceptance and Crossing the Line, shares his childhood experience of bullying, his years of suffering with Complex PTSD and the path to recovery. What Alan offers is the story behind the statistics that few share and too few adults hear. Alan reveals the daily terror, shame, and self-blame that the bullied child or teen faces alone. He reports the loss of the authentic self, the need to fit in and his own misuse of violence. Bringing us to his adult story, Alan shares how his suffering continues until he seeks professional help and begins the steps and strategies that support bully recovery. His story offers answers.

Nov 4

56 min 42 sec

Few of us have been spared relationships with emotional predators – The neighbor who wanted to share everything only to spread rumors; the boss who praised your work, asked for late hours and then promoted someone else; the fiancé who had a lover at college; the coach you trusted who made inappropriate advances. In this show, psychotherapist, mediator, custody evaluator and retired attorney, Steven Wolhandler, JD,MA,LPC draws upon his years of dealing with emotional predators and protecting their victims to pass on to us important insights and strategies. Referencing his book, Protecting Yourself from Emotional Predators: Neutralize the Users, Abusers and Manipulators Hidden Among Us, he defines the qualities and behaviors of the Emotional Predator and offers 5 important and effective steps for protecting ourselves. His discussion is as valuable a guide to knowing and empowering ourselves as to disempowering predators.

Oct 28

57 min 27 sec

In a manner that is personal, specific, at times funny and underscored with thirty years of writing and talking about sex, Tracey Cox invites us to age-proof our sex lives. Drawing upon her 17th and newest book, Great Sex Starts at 50, Tracey invites listeners, across gender and sexual orientation to consider that an understanding of the reality of body changes from hormone depletion, sensitivity, dryness, erectile difficulties etc. are inevitable and need not be a stop sign to sexual connection and intimacy. She discusses the six truths about sex that will never change regardless of age; four steps that will revolutionize your sex life; the challenges of menopause; what to do or say if you haven’t had sex in a number of years with your partner; the differences in sexual desire between men and women; the stages in a couple’s relationship from lust to love; being over fifty, single and sexual and the Media Misperceptions of Sex that impact all of us. Listen in.

Oct 21

54 min 42 sec

In this episode, Dr. Therese Huston draws upon her new book, Let’s Talk: Make Effective Feedback Your Superpower, and her experience speaking to academic audiences and businesses like Microsoft and Amazon to teach us how to give feedback, even negative feedback, in a way that turns it into a productive conversation. She considers why 80% of managers feel they are saying the right things; but less than 20% of employees feel appreciated. She asks why men are evaluated on work skills while women are often judged on their personality. Dr. Huston identifies and exemplifies the three types of feedback as Appreciation, Coaching and Evaluation and asks us to discern what an employee wants and needs. She discusses how and why to use praise and urges us to side with the employee rather than the problem. She reminds us that if people feel threatened their brains go into lockdown. Inherent in her message of what makes feedback powerful is the principle -“ Listen as if your job depends on it.”

Oct 14

54 min 57 sec

If you are in a relationship, you have to hear this episode. It will be as enjoyable as it will be strikingly helpful to you and your partner. According to psychotherapist and author, Keith Wilson, if you are in a real relationship and you haven’t had a conflict yet – you haven’t been paying attention. As Keith describes, violence is the avoidance of conflict. Being able to work through clashes as a couple, offers great potential. With anecdote, metaphor and examples, Keith draws upon 30 years of practice with couples to discuss the steps for regulating conflict. He will invite you to turn off the alarm in your head that scans partner disconnection, know where and how to ask the right questions – be it about an affair or getting up for the kids. He will clarify how to give and get feedback, avoid the four fouls that contaminate any conflict and turn conflict into really knowing, trusting and loving each other. Listen in.

Oct 7

52 min 11 sec

We hear a great deal in the media about narcissism. If you have ever wondered if the person you work for, the man you are dating or the friend who knows everything is a narcissist, listen in. On this show Dr. Joseph Burgo, psychologist and author of the book, The Narcissist You Know: Defending Yourself Against Extreme Narcissists in an All-About Me Age, will draw upon his clinical experience and fascinating examples to discuss the Narcissist. He will make clear the tell tale signs of narcissism, the secrets the narcissist hides even from self and the parenting styles that may set the stage for narcissism. In the back and forth with host, Suzanne Phillips, Dr. Burgo will also discuss how to cope with a narcissist in a way that preserves your choice to engage or disengage. Be prepared to be informed.

Sep 30

55 min 3 sec

How do you get along with your adult siblings? Are you like friends? Have you stopped talking or connecting with siblings? No matter what the relationship, you are not alone. In this episode, Dr. Geoffrey Greif, professor and author, returns to Psych Up Live with his new co-authored book, Adult Sibling Relationships.In the show, Dr. Greif draws upon his personal interviews with people over 45 and people's responses to The Lifespan Sibling Relationship Scale to share the stories and reasons people give for what connects them with their siblings and what has pulled them apart. Adding his clinical understanding, Dr. Greif considers that sibling relationships are as complicated as they are important. Most are neither all good nor all bad.They carry with them the impact of parents, birth order, personality, gender, money issues, rivalries, great care and much more. As you will hear, sibling relationships are complex: but there are ways to better understand and even improve them.

Sep 23

53 min 2 sec

If you are lucky enough to be the parent, teacher, babysitter or grandparent of a “little one”- you must hear this show. In it, psychologist, Dr. Rebecca Schrag Hershberg draws upon her invaluable new book, The Tantrum Survival Guide to clarify, inform deconstruct and offer strategies for managing a toddler or young child’s tantrums. She answers the What, Why and What to do Next about tantrums; considers the magic of “ Love and Limits,” exemplifies the power of Planning and Predictability and underscores the Problem of Inconsistent Limits. Drawing upon clinical material as well as “scenes from her own little ones,” Dr. Hershberg invites us to consider the ABC’s of tantrums and the possibility that we might be causing or re-enforcing them. In his forward of her book, Dan Siegel MD, renowned professor and mindfulness expert, describes Dr. Rebecca Hershberg as a brilliant translator of science and an astute, humble and hilarious observer of human nature. He’s right! Listen in.

Sep 16

55 min 36 sec

This year we commemorate the 20th Anniversary of the 9/11 Terrorist Attacks, an unspeakable event that took the lives of 2.996 people and caused the death of another four thousand from 9/11 related illness. We are privileged to have as our guest, Mary Fetchet the Founding Director of Voices Center for Resilience, formerly known as Voices of September 11, which she set up when she lost her son Brad on 9/11. In this episode, Mary Fetchet discusses how her unique background as the mother of a victim, and an experienced clinical social worker, influenced her approach to providing long-term support services for those impacted by 9/11 and other tragedies worldwide. She shares her vision and the actualization of the memorial site at ground zero and the memory project. She discusses her recognition of the need for Victims Compensation, her partnership with professionals across the globe, and her unexpected involvement in public policy and legislation. What you hear from Mary Fetchet is her commitment to leave no stone unturned in pursuing services for victims of any natural disaster or man-made atrocity. Accordingly, you will hear about The Voices Center’s use of online conferences and programs to provide a community for those grieving anywhere. You will also learn about the live and virtual program, to be offered this 20th Anniversary Year.You can access program information at VoicesCenter.org.

Sep 9

57 min 20 sec

In this episode Dr. Scott Small, esteemed neurologist and neuroscientist known for his work in Alzheimer’s disease, discusses his important new book, Forgetting: The Benefits of Not Remembering. In a culture inundated with information and worried about aging and forgetting, this is an extraordinary contribution. In a conversational style, Dr. Small offers the neuroscience of forgetting in a way that is as informative as it is startling. Drawing upon fascinating examples and personal history, he illuminates the reasons that we need “to forget” in order to think flexibly, prioritize, make decisions, be creative, address traumatic memories and remember what is needed. Toward this end he will consider: Why don’t I want a photographic memory? What part of the brain turns up or turns down memory and forgetting? What is the role of sleep in forgetting? What role does forgetting play in addressing trauma and PTSD? What is the difference between cognitive aging and Alzheimer’s disease? Listen in to an extraordinary guest.

Sep 2

55 min 5 sec

As anxiety escalates in face of a resurgence of Covid-19 fueled by variants, tension builds between those who recognize the vaccine as a lifesaving answer and those who view it as an invasive healthcare intervention. Beyond the media coverage, family relationships are frayed with members who can’t talk about their positions and are anxious, angry and estranged in the midst of a pandemic. Can there even be a discussion when people are so polarized? In this show, guest expert Dr. Mena Mirhom, Columbia University Psychiatrist, invites us to draw upon psychological science to approach this difficult divide. He offers five ways to approach an antivaxxer’s hesitancy that recognize evidence is not enough, the context must be understood, there are places of agreement, and validating strengths matter as does respectful inquiry into the beliefs of the Antivaxxer. As Dr. Mirhorm will make clear, there is reason to find a way to bridge the divide – “ We are all in this together.”

Aug 26

54 min 49 sec

Despite the incredible access to information and opportunities available to teens in this culture, it is a difficult time for most. In the past year, teens have contended with a pandemic that has disrupted their school, sports and peer activities. Despite social media connections many struggled. When we add the physical and emotional changes of teens to life's continual challenges, it makes sense to help our teens build resilience. That is just what Cheryl Bradshaw offers in her important book, The Resilience Workbook For Teens. She provides teens with an evidenced-based tool that is personal, engaging and thought provoking. Drawing upon her teaching and clinical training, she clearly knows how to speak to teens and invites participation in a fast-paced way with activities that address five goals: Adapting to Change, Overcoming Anxiety, Finding Your Strength, Keeping Perspective, and Staying Focused. She helps them to embrace self and bounce back from adversity.

Aug 19

55 min 13 sec

There is little question that when a person suffers the death of their dog, the loss is excruciating. Why? In this episode, Dr. Frank McAndrew, evolutionary and social psychologist, draws upon his personal experience as well as cultural dictates and scientific research to illuminate our extraordinary relationship with dogs and the impact of their loss. In his discussion, he considers the unique interspecies bond with dogs and draws upon the work of Anthropologist Brian Hare who developed the “Domestication Hypothesis.” Dr. McAndrew considers what MRI’s reveal in terms of a dog’s attunement to facial expression and gestures as well as research on the misnaming slips we make between dogs and family members. Socially and psychologically he underscores what is emotionally lost when a person loses their dog. This is a powerful and personal show that will touch many.

Aug 12

52 min 20 sec

This show is for men and everyone who loves them. In it, psychotherapist, James Hawes draws upon his years of clinical experience with men and his book, The Secret Lives of Men: Ten Keys to Unlock the Mystery, to discuss the social and cultural norms that keep men trapped with feelings like unvoiced hurt, sadness, fear and shame. In his presentation he considers topics like: Feelings as a Foreign Language, Vulnerability Masked as Anger, Sex as Intimacy and Performance as the Source of Self Esteem. As you will hear in his examples and strategies for therapeutic change, James Hawes has a personal and powerful respect for men’s capacity to expand their emotional well-being. Listen in.

Aug 5

56 min 18 sec

This episode offers an insider look at Sex Trafficking as the backdrop for an important discussion of the unrecognized traumatic events that are carried by the vast majority of children and adults who become the victims of Sex Trafficking. As a survivor and a mental health professional, Savannah Sanders draws upon her life and book, Sex Trafficking Prevention: A Trauma Informed Approach for Parents and Professionals to advocate for a trauma-informed approach to prevention and healing. She invites parents and professionals to recognize the signs of suffering and vulnerability often obscured by behavioral problems and symptoms. She identifies why and how certain children from every culture and socio-economic level become targets who are groomed and trapped in “The Life.” She discusses the myths, stereotypes and realities of Sex Trafficking and offers parents and professionals valuable tools for prevention and intervention. This show is alarming and crucial to hear.

Jul 29

54 min 12 sec

Regardless, of gender, age, or political persuasion, we all fall for fake news. Not You? Listen in as MIT trained science writer, Matthew Hutson, discusses how and why we are all increasingly susceptible to believing misinformation. Drawing upon his recent article in Psychology Today, “How Memory Became Weaponized,” Matthew Hutson discusses the flaws of human memory, our evolutionary tendency to believe what we see, and the attack on our memories with algorithms used by marketers, trolls, or anyone with an agenda they want believed. He discusses the many ways that our memories are assaulted by factors like the speed of information dissemination, the purposeful mixing of fake news with real news, or the repetition of false headlines or images which capitalize on our tendency to believe what we see and remember what we believe. Importantly, he shares strategies to “fend off fakery.” Frightening and fascinating. Listen in and Call in.

Jul 22

55 min 27 sec

Many of us personally know transgender men and women or have become aware through the media of the transitions made by transgender men and women. The increased media coverage has invited both compassion and support by some and discrimination and even violence by others. This episode will clarify myths and give you an insider’s experience of the transgender journey. Guest Kristin Collier will share her personal story of being a young mother with a toddler and infant son who learns that the husband she loves can no longer carry the secret of his gender identification as a woman. She will bring you into the emotional steps of her husband’s transition while facing you with the day-to-day details of her own necessary transformation. If your husband is a woman- who are you? Can you love and support the woman he becomes? What do you tell your little boys? How do you meet your needs? Kristin Collier’s story of strength, compassion and unexpected answers is one you won't forget.

Jul 15

53 min 19 sec

As we consider how to open the workplace with possible hybrid options, one reality that has received too little attention is the increase in Workplace Harassment during the pandemic year. In this show, Kalpana Kotagal, partner at Cohen Milstein in the Civil Rights and Employment group, will consider recent findings from two surveys which reveal a significant rise of virtual harassment of many people working from home. Ms. Kotagal will consider whether the pandemic played a role in increasing existing harassment in the workplace or added new dangers and demands on employees working remotely. She will discuss the challenges of virtual work, the targets of virtual harassment (women, people of color, LGBTQ and older employees) and what happens when there is no witness and no bystander. Importantly she will offer her expertise in terms of the need for Employers and Human Resource Professionals to consider the ongoing issues of workplace harassment that compromise the safety, equality, mental and physical health of all employees in the office and the virtual workplace.

Jul 8

49 min 35 sec

Are you a sensation seeker? Have you ever wondered why people climb Everest, jump out of planes or ski dangerous unmarked trails? Is eagerness to experience the impact of any street drug or gambling away life savings driven by thrill seeking? In this show Dr. Ken Carter, Emory Psychologist and researcher of sensation thinking, considers these questions and more. He discusses the general components of sensation-seeking including thrill and adventure seeking, experience seeking, boredom susceptibility, and disinhibition. He looks at gender differences, changes across the lifespan and clarifies the neuroscience behind sensation seeking. Considering the advantages and disadvantages of being a thrill seeker, he will even tell you about an online test to determine how much of a sensation seeker you are. Listen in--You will be intrigued.

Jul 1

55 min 39 sec

In this episode, Dr. Bella DePaulo, social psychologist and author will first draw upon her well recognized book, Singled Out: How Singles Are Stereotyped, Stigmatized, and Ignored, and Still Live Happily Ever After to consider the cultural myths, negative presumptions and even financial discrimination against people who choose to live alone. Considering that more than half of adult Americans are single, Dr. DePaulo’s goal of raising consciousness regarding “Singlism” and awareness of the actual happiness of many singles is an important one. In this episode, Dr. De Paulo will also discuss her fascinating new book, How We Live Now: Redefining Home and Family in the 21st Century, which considers the creative and often non-nuclear ways that people are finding to live. The message of this show is thinking beyond cultural constraints to notice the different ways, spaces and places that people can choose to live happy lives.

Jun 24

55 min 40 sec

In this show, our guest Boaz Feldman will be calling in from Geneva Switzerland with great interest in connecting to our listeners. Much as the title suggests, Boaz Feldman’s passion is the integration of knowledge from many sources for personal growth, humanitarian outreach, clinical training and intervention across borders. He will speak about his experience as a Buddhist Monk and what contemplative practice brings to humanitarian work and clinical work. He will discuss his development of NeuroSystemics which recognizes the integration of body-mind regulation, healthy relational attachment and embodied community processes. He will consider the role of compassion training for couples, reasons and remedies for unrecognized burnout, self-development through selfless service and his integration of many of these dimensions in the Care Training Program he offers. Listen in. It will be a special experience.

Jun 17

51 min 54 sec

In this show Dr. Elisha Goldstein returns to Psych Up Live to describe, discuss and exemplify aspects of his important new program “ Uncover the Power Within”. Dr. Elisha Goldstein will share the personal journey that brings him to his tireless work of empowering people to understand the causes of depression, anxiety and unhappiness. In this episode he uncovers the battle between surviving and really living. He shares the ingredients that help us adapt practices to relax the nervous system, combat distraction, and heal self-image. He offers an understanding of the power of connection between people to enhance the use of mindfulness, the gift of self-compassion and much more. If you find Elisha very easy to hear and understand, it is because his message is both informative and always underscored with kindness and compassion. Listen in.

Jun 10

56 min 9 sec

In this show, Dr. Frank McAndrew, social psychologist and the Cornelia H. Dudley Professor of Psychology at Knox College, takes on the questions many of us have pondered-Why do we pay to be scared by horror movies? Why do stories of Hunted Houses persist and intrigue us? What makes clowns loveable to some and terrifying to others? Are some people more likely to see ghosts than others? As someone who has studied and researched aspects of creepiness and horror, Dr. McAndrew offers a perspective you are not likely to find anywhere else. You will learn about the psychological mechanisms behind “creeped out” the “agent detection mechanism” tripped by haunted houses, the factors that might account for the “ sensed presence” of another and other paranormal experiences. Buckle up and listen in to a fascinating show.

Jun 3

50 min 33 sec

The journey that a transgender teen takes from confusion and fear to acceptance and consolidation of gender identity is often a difficult one for them and their parents. It is one for which understanding and support are invaluable. What information is most helpful for teens? What do parents need to know? What type of parental support is considered by teens to be most valuable? In this show, Dr. Tandy Aye, professor of pediatrics at Stanford Medicine, and a pediatric endocrinologist at the Stanford Children’s Health Pediatric and Adolescent Gender Clinic, joins us to discuss the findings of her important Stanford Study, ”Perceptions of Support Among Transgender and Gender-Expansive Adolescents and their Parents.” The study identifies the type of family support transgender adolescents report as most helpful in their journey. Drawing upon her clinical experience Dr. Aye, sets the stage by clarifying gender identity and the common experiences of a youngster who comes to identify as transgender. She then discusses the rationale for her research, the approach she used and her important findings for both teens and parents. Whether you are a teen, a parent, a grandparent, a professional who works with teens or someone who loves them – listen in.

May 27

55 min 24 sec

If you are someone who struggles with falling asleep or staying asleep – you are not alone. An estimated 164 million Americans (68%) reported struggling with sleep at least once per week. In this show, Dr.Courtney Bancroft, Yale-trained, licensed psychologist specializing in all-natural, evidence-based insomnia treatment, offers some answers. Dr. Bancroft clarifies the nature and patterns of sleep, discusses the reality and myths associated with insomnia, and helps us to examine factors that may keep us from sleeping. She offers strategies for improved sleep hygiene and exemplifies the use of Cognitive Behavior Therapy for Insomnia (CBT-I) with a case example. If you or someone you know suffers with insomnia or sleep difficulties– Listen in.

May 20

53 min 3 sec

In today’s high speed internet world, teens are merely a few clicks away from free access to streaming porn. A Nationally Representative Youth Internet Safety Survey found that the likelihood of a teen or preteen accessing pornography intentionally rose from 8% in 2000 to 13% in 2010. Twenty-five percent of 18-24 year old’s report porn as their most helpful source of information about how to have sex. In this Episode Dr. Emily Rothman, Professor of Community Health Sciences at the Boston University School of Public Health, and author of the upcoming new book, Pornography and Public Health, brings us a well-researched and measured view of the need for “Porn Literacy” for kids and for parents. The issue is not Pornography. The issue is the negative view of sex as violent, misogynistic and without consent that porn portrays. What Dr. Rothman will discuss in terms of “Porn Literacy” for teens is how and why to think critically about pornography as something quite different from sexual relating and sexual intimacy. She will expand her discussion to “Porn Literacy” for parents by answering question that parents pose like, “What do I say if my teen son is regularly viewing porn?” “What do I say to my nine year old daughter when porn appears on her screen?” Whether you are a parent or interested in helping today’s youngsters develop a healthy and loving perspective of sex, this is an important show.

May 13

54 min 36 sec

In this episode, Jonathan Kalin, founder of Party With Consent, discusses his mission of inviting men and women in colleges across the nation to join him in preventing sexual violence. He considers the importance of creating consent and clarifying definitions of masculinity. Michael Paymar, co-founder of A Process of Change for Men Who Batter, author of Violent No More and film producer of With Impunity: Men and Gender Violence, considers the value of men’s voices to counter the cultural messages that enable male domination and violence against women through domestic violence, rape, violent pornography and trafficking. Dr. Erin Casey, Co-director of the Mobilizing Men for Violence Prevention Research Collaborative will discuss the factors that prompt men’s participation in gender-based violence prevention, the risk factors for sexually violent behavior, bystander programs and the need for men to collaborate with women to prevent sexual violence.

May 6

53 min 43 sec

Have you ever been dismissed because you were considered too young, or ignored because you were deemed too old? If so, you have experienced Ageism, stereotyping and discrimination based on age. In this show, author activist, Ashton Applewhite will raise our consciousness about age discrimination with research, humor and personal references. Drawing upon her acclaimed book, This Chair Rocks: A Manifesto Against Ageism, her powerful discussion and examples will make it clear “that chronological age is an increasingly unreliable benchmark of pretty much anything about a person.” You will wonder how you missed the degree of age bias we tolerate and the myths about age we perpetuate in our culture. You will recognize that demeaning stereotypes about age threaten the best of us at any age. Don't miss this!

Apr 29

54 min 31 sec

In this show, Dr. Diane Ehrensaft, expert in gender research and clinical work, offers parents and professionals an insider understanding of Gender Expansive Children -The little boy who insists he is a girl, the teen who identifies as non-binary – both male and female. The author of The Gender Creative Child and Gender Born, Gender Made, Dr. Ehrensaft clarifies the difference between gender and assigned sex at birth and explains how threads of nature, nurture and culture weave for each of us a Gender Web. Using examples, she describes a Gender Affirmative Model in which she maintains that children will reveal their authentic gender self if we listen to what they are telling us in their behavior and words.She clarifies the use of blockers to postpone puberty vs Gender Affirmative Hormones for those legally old enough to make a decision. She discusses that it is often not gender confusion as much as the gender rejection that leaves children unsupported, unhappy and less confident. This is a very important and informative episode.

Apr 22

54 min 54 sec

Half of all suicide deaths are caused by firearms, and suicides account for nearly two thirds of all deaths by firearms. We are horrified by the epidemic of gun violence in this country. Suicide comprises a substantial portion of the gun violence. There are times when gun violence to others is followed by suicide. In this show Dr. Michael Anestis, the Executive Director of the New Jersey Gun Violence Research Center and an Associate Professor of Urban-Global Public Health at Rutgers University returns to Psych Up Live to discuss the unprecedented surge in firearm purchasing during Covid-19. He shares his research on the degree of suicidal thinking in those making purchases and considers whether there is an overlap with additional reasons for gun purchases like threat perceptions, need for protection, anxiety and uncertainties related to the pandemic, economic hardship, racial tensions, and political divides. He considers with concern the increase in gun purchases and the presence of a gun in relation to theories of suicide. Central to this, is his research and belief in Lethal Means Counseling and the Use of Gun Safety Storage Practices as necessary to curb firearm deaths. Whether you are against guns or own guns –you will value this life saving show.

Apr 15

50 min 37 sec

During this pandemic, most people have been grateful for the courage of medical workers. We have heard about the physical demands and emotional burnout they have suffered; but far less about moral injury. In this episode, Dr. Keith Corl, an emergency and critical care physician offers a personal and professional understanding of moral injury of physicians, both before and during COVID-19. Dr. Corl defines moral injury and compares it with burnout and PTSD. Drawing upon examples, he considers the complexity of medical care overseen by a business model and discusses how it compromises the physician-patient relationship. As an associate of Moral Injury of Healthcare, a non-profit organization promoting public awareness and clinician support, he describes the importance of insuring sustainability in committed physicians in view of their present risks of caring. He shares personal ways that he promotes patient connection and care, both for himself and his medical students and staff.

Apr 8

54 min 7 sec

In celebration of Trans Day of Visibility and with recognition of many like Dr. Rachel Levine, the New Assistant Secretary for Health and the first transgender woman to be Senate confirmed, I encore this powerful story. In this podcast, Jane Baker, author of the book, Trading Places: When Our Son Became a Daughter, shares the insider experience of parenting her son while he makes the decision to disclose his true self and take steps to become a transgender woman. As the mother of this transgender woman, Jane Baker reveals her own doubts, anguish,and fears. She shares her mission to learn everything to prove her daughter wrong, the reactions of others and the place of acceptance she and her daughter find in this journey. Joining her is Dr. Antonia Caretto, licensed psychologist and specialist in many areas including Gender Variance and Dysphoria. As a member of the World Professional Association For Transgender Health, Dr. Caretto has worked with parents and teens dealing with transgender issues and will address the physical and psychological aspects of transgender identification and transition for all family members. This is a powerful and personal podcast.

Apr 1

55 min 30 sec

In a manner that is personal, specific, at times funny and underscored with thirty years of writing and talking about sex, Tracey Cox invites us to age-proof our sex lives. Drawing upon her 17th and newest book, Great Sex Starts at 50, Tracey invites listeners, across gender and sexual orientation to consider that an understanding of the reality of body changes from hormone depletion, sensitivity, dryness, erectile difficulties etc. are inevitable and need not be a stop sign to sexual connection and intimacy. She discusses the six truths about sex that will never change regardless of age; four steps that will revolutionize your sex life; the challenges of menopause; what to do or say if you haven’t had sex in a number of years with your partner; the differences in sexual desire between men and women; the stages in a couple’s relationship from lust to love; being over fifty, single and sexual and the Media Misperceptions of Sex that impact all of us. Listen in.

Mar 25

54 min 42 sec

In this episode, Abby Rodman psychotherapist and author draws upon her own experience with divorce, her clinical experience and the responses of hundreds of women to a survey on divorce, to share what we rarely hear when we learn someone is getting a divorce or has been divorced. Abby Rodman shares the insider story. She shares the fears, blame, hardship, parental worry and ultimate growth that is possible whether a divorce comes after two years or twenty, and whether it comes by choice, betrayal or mutual despair. As described in her book, Without This Ring, Abby Rodman does not advocate for divorce: but when there is no choice, she advocates for women to know they are not alone, to believe in themselves and to identify the feelings and dynamics that can be addressed with help on many levels. She will not be speaking about finding someone new. She will be speaking about the power of first finding you. Both women and men will benefit from this show.

Mar 18

53 min 57 sec

We continue to hear of the benefits of mindfulness but many still wonder-What exactly is it? How can I best use it? In this episode, Dr Elisha Goldstein, author of many books on mindfulness including Uncovering Happiness,The Now Effect and Mindfulness Based Stress Reduction, will offer a mini-course on Mindfulness that teaches steps, rationale and technique. He will guide us to use breathing,catch the negative thinking, resist anxious problem solving and enhance resilience. You will understand why something that seems simple can be so powerful.

Mar 11

53 min 9 sec

In this episode, Dr. Therese Huston draws upon her new book, Let’s Talk: Make Effective Feedback Your Superpower, and her experience speaking to academic audiences and businesses like Microsoft and Amazon to teach us how to give feedback, even negative feedback, in a way that turns it into a productive conversation. She considers why 80% of managers feel they are saying the right things; but less than 20% of employees feel appreciated. She asks why men are evaluated on work skills while women are often judged on their personality. Dr. Huston identifies and exemplifies the three types of feedback as Appreciation, Coaching and Evaluation and asks us to discern what an employee wants and needs. She discusses how and why to use praise and urges us to side with the employee rather than the problem. She reminds us that if people feel threatened their brains go into lockdown. Inherent in her message of what makes feedback powerful is the principle -“ Listen as if your job depends on it.”

Mar 4

54 min 57 sec

The Racial Inequities of the Coronavirus are clear. Three times as many Black and Latino Americans have become infected with the Corona Virus compared to their White Neighbors. Many Black Americans have fears and reluctance to be vaccinated. In this show, Dr. Suzanne Phillips is joined by Dr. Zanthia Wiley, Infectious Diseases Specialist and Director of Antimicrobial Stewardship at Emory University Hospital Midtown, and Dr. Wiley’s Aunt, Denese Rankin. Together they share a Covid Story of hospitalizations, close calls and Dr. Wiley’s return to Alabama to inform and reassure her family and their community of the safety and urgent need for getting the Covid Vaccine. Dr. Zanthia Wiley will draw upon her expertise to address the understandable fears in Black Communities and will answer questions that everyone has raised when considering the Covid Vaccine. Her message to be vaccinated is clarifying, urgent and life-saving.

Feb 25

54 min 15 sec

In the midst of the COVID-19 Pandemic, the world is grieving. Families are suffering the traumatic loss of loved ones. Medical professionals grieve for patients they felt responsible to heal. First Responders, caregivers, teachers, adults and children carry the grief of a world of people lost suddenly to an unknown virus. In this episode, Dr. Joanne Cacciatore’s personal and professional understanding of how to “bear the unbearable,” of how to open a space to process, integrate and deeply honor our grief, is a gift. Drawing upon her unique and powerful book, Bearing the Unbearable: Love, Loss and the Heartbreaking Path of Grief, her own experience of loss and decades of supporting individuals, families and communities, she invites a new meaning and experience of grief. She invites you to recognize grief as a natural process that unfolds in your own way and in your own time, restoring and illuminating your love and humanity. We need this show.

Feb 18

55 min 38 sec

Three marriage experts, Robyn D’Angelo, Heather Sequin and John Harrison join host Suzanne Phillips to share valuable couple strategies. Psychologist Robyn D’Angelo talks about her “ Mastering the Messiness of Couplehood Together Series” and considers how someone would handle an “ anxious partner.” Marriage Therapist Heather Seguin shares her expertise in how to respond to a sex-addicted partner. She defines sex addiction and the type of help needed to heal and repair a marriage. John Harrison, clinical counselor, considers the couple transition from romantic partners to co-parents without losing their bond.

Feb 11

53 min 13 sec

In this episode, Dr. Michael Anestis, clinical psychologist, and award winning researcher discusses his powerful book, Guns and Suicide: An American Epidemic. Dr. Anestis is not advocating for or against gun ownership. What he is advocating for is prevention of firearm suicides. Funded by the Department of Defense through a program known as the Military Suicide Research Consortium, Michael Anestis collected and will share findings like the fact that each year the majority of gun deaths in the US are suicide deaths – more than homicide, mass shootings or terrorism. He will address the lethality of a gun when there is suicidal thinking and consider myths and theories of suicide including the Interpersonal Theory of Suicide (ITS) and the Three Step Theory. Central to his goal, Dr. Anestis will define the use of “means safety” for suicide prevention and the importance of taking a public health approach to firearm suicide prevention.

Feb 4

53 min 2 sec

Among other things, the pandemic has taken jobs, economic stability, business ventures and the hope of new employment for many. In this episode we address this dilemma. Our Guest, Dr. Joel Evans, a Distinguished Professor of Business Emeritus at Hofstra University, and an expert on career planning and development provides a path to career planning during a pandemic. He offers specific strategies, skills, perspective and preparation for finding employment whether you are a new graduate, a seasoned worker without a job or a person in need of a career switch. Dr. Evans discusses the virtual interview, online resources for networking and skill building, free online job webinars, tools for going forward after losing a job and requirements for jobs in certain fields. Regardless of your experience, job category or education, you will take away valuable information. Listen in and call in.

Jan 28

53 min 46 sec

An eighteen year old is charged with the lethal stabbing of a 17 year old boy, who he believed was dating an x-girlfriend. The typical age range for a gang member is 12–24 years old. Starting with Columbine High School in 1999, the US has seen more than 230 elementary and HS school shootings. In this show, Joseph Kolb, Executive Director for the Southwest Gang Information Center and Instructor in the Criminal Justice Program at Western New Mexico University addresses the causative factors, warning signs and potential solutions for teen violence. Drawing upon his book, Teen Violence in America: How Do We Save Our Children? he invites us to understand the external realities and underlining factors of school shootings, bullying, violent media, and social media exposure. As a parent, educator, and former law officer, he offers strategies for building teen resilience, fostering empowerment, enhancing social awareness, reducing fear, boredom and overcoming obstacles.

Jan 21

54 min 55 sec

Whether you are newly married, a middle aged couple, the identified In-Laws or the bewildered Out-Laws of an expanded family, you need to hear this show. In it, psychologist and author Dr. Geoffrey Greif draws upon his new and acclaimed book written with Dr. Michael Woolley, “ In-law Relationships: Mothers, Daughters, Fathers, and Sons.” Dr. Greif shares research using interviews and surveys with a total of 1,500 people to illuminate why some in-laws connect and others clash and even crash. He considers the impact of interfaith, interracial, gay and lesbian couples on in-law relationships. He examines the validity of the negative cultural stereotype of mothers-in-law and reports what mothers-in-law and daughters-in-law say. He considers what happens that is different in the relationships between male in-laws and overall offers important strategies for improving any in-law relationship.

Jan 14

53 min 55 sec

When we consider the definition of shame we often compare it to Guilt. Commonly, it is thought that we feel guilt for something we have done that is unacceptable; but with shame, we feel that we are unacceptable. In this episode Dr. Joe Burgo expands the formal definition of Toxic Shame discussed by John Bradshaw as the result of unspeakable child abuse or the oppressive force of social shame addressed by Brene’ Brown. Drawing upon his new book, Shame: Free Yourself, Find Joy and Build True Self-Esteem, Dr. Burgo invites us to consider shame as an entire family of emotions like the pain of unrequited love, the embarrassment of exclusion, the exposure of getting sick at the party or the shame of a disappointed expectation like the college entry rejection or the canceled engagement. Essentially, Dr. Burgo invites us not to be ashamed of shame as it is an aspect of many human feelings. Rather than deny it, Dr. Burgo demonstrates how to use it to build Shame Resilience and Self-Esteem.

Jan 7

53 min 48 sec

In this show Jennie Kramer, LCSW-R draws upon her experience in treating all forms of eating disorders and her co-authored book, Overcoming Binge Eating for Dummies to offer expert and useable information on Binge Eating Disorder (BED). With sensitivity and realistic perspective, she answers questions like-What is Binge Eating? Does it differ from compulsive eating or overeating? Who binges and why? She underscores the health risks associated with Binge Eating Disorder and describes first steps to change for those struggling. She accounts for the physical, psychological and social factors involved in change and highlights questions like the difference between emotional and physical hunger. She considers pros and cons of treatment options while at the same time offering 10 things to do now instead of bingeing. If you or someone you love needs clear and expert information on Binge Eating, this is the show to hear.

Dec 2020

56 min 7 sec