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Dear Viv: No-nonsense advice

By The Pool

Each Tuesday, The Pool’s resident agony aunt Viv Groskop tackles personal problems, emotional issues and all the nightmares of life both large and small.Viv Groskop gained her agony aunt qualifications at the School of Life, having made a load of mistakes, said a lot of idiotic things, smoked way too many cigarettes (40 a day at one time) and drunk too many glasses of wine, including wine she didn’t even like. She’s had lots of miniature everyday breakdowns where she’s used good friends, self-help books and lots of therapy to get through this occasional pain in the ass we call life. Now she's here to dispense the tough-love that your friends are too polite to give you.If you have a question for Viv, email dearviv@thepoolltd.com. All submissions will be kept anonymous.

  1. 1.
    Dear Viv: How can I accept being single forever?01/15/2019
    9:10
  2. 2.
    Dear Viv: I judge myself for wanting a c-section01/08/2019
    9:12
  3. 3.
    Dear Viv: How can I feel confident in my new single life?01/01/2019
    8:29
  4. 4.
    *BUMPER EPISODE* Dear Viv: How can I cope with my nightmare family?12/29/2018
    19:28
  5. 5.
    Dear Viv: My friend let me down after I had a miscarriage12/18/2018
    10:46
  6. 6.
    Dear Viv: How can I support my depressed sister?12/11/2018
    9:44
  7. 7.
    Dear Viv: I find my husband irritating12/04/2018
    9:35
  8. 8.
    Dear Viv: How can I get better at public speaking? with Zoe Beaty11/27/2018
    31:16
  1. 9.
    **BUMPER EPISODE** Dear Viv: How will I cope with Christmas this year?11/24/2018
    19:39
  2. 10.
    Dear Viv: I hate my new job11/20/2018
    10:55
  3. 11.
    Dear Viv: I've never had a group of friends11/13/2018
    8:51
  4. 12.
    Dear Viv: Can I let my boyfriend pay for our holiday?11/06/2018
    6:50
  5. 13.
    Dear Viv: My husband's business is ruining our marriage10/30/2018
    7:38
  6. 14.
    **Bumper Episode** Dear Viv: What's the best way to deal with a break-up?10/27/2018
    19:12
  7. 15.
    Dear Viv: How can I be a successful freelancer?10/23/2018
    9:10
  8. 16.
    Dear Viv: I feel crap about myself all the time10/16/2018
    10:55
  9. 17.
    Dear Viv: What can I do about my sexist brother?10/09/2018
    8:22
  10. 18.
    Dear Viv: I never have any physical urges but my boyfriend wants "porn-like" sex10/02/2018
    8:23
  11. 19.
    Dear Viv: Our colleague uses her kids as an excuse to slack off09/25/2018
    9:01
  12. 20.
    Dear Viv: Can I keep my husband and the man I had an affair with?09/18/2018
    10:34
  13. 21.
    Dear Viv: How can I stop feeling lonely?09/11/2018
    9:40
  14. 22.
    Dear Viv: I’m in a relationship but had a raunchy dream about a colleague09/04/2018
    9:29
  15. 23.
    Dear Viv: My boyfriend won't show me affection in public08/28/2018
    8:09
  16. 24.
    Dear Viv: My pregnant best friend has become too demanding08/21/2018
    9:44
  17. 25.
    Dear Viv: Should my unreliable ex have contact with our kids?08/14/2018
    10:50
  18. 26.
    Dear Viv: My girlfriend has no interest in sex08/07/2018
    9:26
  19. 27.
    Dear Viv: I've lost my friends to parenthood07/31/2018
    8:31
  20. 28.
    Dear Viv: Am I a toxic friend?07/24/2018
    7:30
  21. 29.
    Dear Viv: My godson's parents are taking me for granted07/17/2018
    10:55
  22. 30.
    Dear Viv: My friend's pregnancy is making me question my termination07/10/2018
    8:05
  23. 31.
    Dear Viv: How can I find my place in a grieving family? With Cariad Lloyd07/03/2018
    26:56
  24. 32.
    Dear Viv: How can I avoid the "butler in the buff" at a hen do?06/26/2018
    9:15
  25. 33.
    Dear Viv: My partner's mum wants me to be an overbearing landlord06/19/2018
    9:36
  26. 34.
    Dear Viv: My brother is breaking our mum's heart06/12/2018
    10:46
  27. 35.
    Dear Viv: My daughter is obsessed with her own appearance06/05/2018
    9:11
  28. 36.
    Dear Viv: do I leave my partner because he doesn't want a family?05/29/2018
    10:33
  29. 37.
    Dear Viv: I'm exhausted with the world05/22/2018
    10:55
  30. 38.
    Dear Viv: I've fallen out with a friend, but want to keep our mutual friends05/15/2018
    10:20
  31. 39.
    Dear Viv: My ex's friends don't want to hang out with me any more05/08/2018
    9:44
  32. 40.
    Dear Viv: My boyfriend can't break away from his ex05/01/2018
    9:08
  33. 41.
    Dear Viv: How should I behave around a friend who is ill?04/17/2018
    13:39
  34. 42.
    Dear Viv: Three Years On04/06/2018
    29:24
  35. 43.
    Dear Viv: I'm gay, should I continue to tolerate my family's homophobia?03/20/2018
    12:31
  36. 44.
    Dear Viv: How can I tell my family I want to be alone on Mother's Day?03/08/2018
    12:23
  37. 45.
    Dear Viv: Should I contact the woman my dad's been flirting with?02/20/2018
    9:08
  38. 46.
    Dear Viv: How should I introduce my conservative parents to my "alternative" boyfriend?02/06/2018
    12:13
  39. 47.
    Dear Viv: Can we ban kids from our wedding?01/23/2018
    18:04
  40. 48.
    Dear Viv: Should I forgive my destructive Dad?01/16/2018
    10:23
  41. 49.
    Dear Viv: Should I invite my difficult brother to a family dinner?12/27/2017
    19:54
  42. 50.
    Dear Viv: How can I cope with my first Christmas alone?12/12/2017
    20:08
  43. 51.
    Dear Viv: Should I get back in touch with my teen crush?11/28/2017
    8:22
  44. 52.
    Dear Viv: When should I tell my daughter about sex?11/14/2017
    13:34
  45. 53.
    Dear Viv: My father-in-law thinks I’m a gold-digger10/31/2017
    10:20
  46. 54.
    Dear Viv: How can I help my overweight teenager?10/17/2017
    12:24
  47. 55.
    Dear Viv: How can I reclaim my social life, post-divorce?10/03/2017
    14:23
  48. 56.
    Dear Viv: My son's addicted to being online09/19/2017
    16:01
  49. 57.
    Dear Viv: I love my stepkids, but they tire me out08/22/2017
    13:57
  50. 58.
    Dear Viv: My husband's anxiety is taking over my life08/08/2017
    14:43
  51. 59.
    Dear Viv: My flatmate never leaves her room07/25/2017
    16:16
  52. 60.
    Dear Viv: I feel like I've turned into another person07/11/2017
    13:45
  53. 61.
    Dear Viv: My in-laws refuse to 'share' our son06/27/2017
    12:57
  54. 62.
    Dear Viv: I'm in a bad way after leaving an abusive relationship06/13/2017
    10:09
  55. 63.
    Dear Viv: I'm afraid of people judging my age-gap relationship05/30/2017
    19:37
  56. 64.
    Dear Viv: My mum isn't invited to her father's funeral05/16/2017
    13:12
  57. 65.
    Dear Viv: My 7-year-old wants me to straighten her hair05/16/2017
    10:10
  58. 66.
    Dear Viv: I found a used condom in my son's bedroom04/10/2017
    12:43
  59. 67.
    Dear Viv: How can I feel excited about the future?04/04/2017
    10:33
  60. 68.
    Dear Viv: I need to break up with my boyfriend, but he's in a bad place03/21/2017
    12:40
  61. 69.
    Dear Viv: I introduced two friends and now they're leaving me out03/07/2017
    13:14
  62. 70.
    Dear Viv: My new job isn't making me happy02/21/2017
    7:50
  63. 71.
    Dear Viv: I don't want children, but my fiancé does02/07/2017
    10:05
  64. 72.
    Dear Viv: I have mixed feelings about a surprise third baby01/25/2017
    11:00
  65. 73.
    Dear Viv: I'm married and I have a huge crush on another man01/10/2017
    10:24
  66. 74.
    Dear Viv: How can I choose between my husband and my parents at Christmas?12/20/2016
    12:36
  67. 75.
    Dear Viv: I want to reunite with my husband, but his family divide us12/12/2016
    11:00
  68. 76.
    Dear Viv: How do I make friends at my new job?11/22/2016
    13:15
  69. 77.
    Dear Viv: I’m frustrated with my depressed husband11/08/2016
    10:23
  70. 78.
    Dear Viv: I can no longer be around my toxic friend10/27/2016
    14:51
  71. 79.
    Dear Viv: My boyfriend's family are on a witch-hunt against me10/11/2016
    15:11
  72. 80.
    Dear Viv: I want to break up with my friend09/27/2016
    10:34
  73. 81.
    Dear Viv: Should I keep my unexpected pregnancy?09/13/2016
    11:18
  74. 82.
    Dear Viv: He's finally faced his drink problem - but it's too late08/30/2016
    15:17
  75. 83.
    Dear Viv: My pregnant friend doesn’t know how lucky she is08/16/2016
    15:30
  76. 84.
    Dear Viv: My husband's absolutely useless with money08/02/2016
    16:22
  77. 85.
    Dear Viv: Is it OK to charge my daughter rent?07/19/2016
    12:15
  78. 86.
    Dear Viv: I'm stuck between my mum and my sister07/05/2016
    14:50
  79. 87.
    Dear Viv: Do I *have* to go to my ex's wedding?06/21/2016
    13:00
  80. 88.
    Dear Viv: My parents are cyber-stalking me06/07/2016
    14:05
  81. 89.
    Dear Viv: I feel overwhelmed by life05/24/2016
    14:43
  82. 90.
    Dear Viv: Should we split up over whether or not to have kids?05/10/2016
    15:32
  83. 91.
    Dear Viv: My ex is getting married04/26/2016
    13:41
  84. 92.
    Dear Viv: How do I stop my mum complaining that she doesn't have grandchildren?04/12/2016
    16:49
  85. 93.
    Dear Viv: Maternity leave is *really* boring03/29/2016
    12:16
  86. 94.
    Dear Viv: How soon is too soon to move on?03/15/2016
    12:17
  87. 95.
    Dear Viv: My mother won’t stop comparing me with my sister03/01/2016
    13:05
  88. 96.
    Dear Viv: I’m worried about getting back out there after such a long time02/23/2016
    14:40
  89. 97.
    Dear Viv: I'm split between divorced parents02/09/2016
    12:58
  90. 98.
    Dear Viv: My mother-in-law interferes too much01/26/2016
    10:51
  91. 99.
    Dear Viv: I think my husband and I should break up01/12/2016
    10:00
  92. 100.
    Dear Viv: Why do I turn into a kid around my parents?12/29/2015
    11:29
  93. 101.
    Dear Viv: Do I have to spend Christmas with my in-laws?12/15/2015
    11:22
  94. 102.
    Dear Viv: I cheated with a schoolgate dad12/07/2015
    13:34
  95. 103.
    Dear Viv: I'm the breadwinner. How will we ever afford children?11/25/2015
    12:13
  96. 104.
    Dear Viv: I need a glass of wine every night. Do I have a problem?11/03/2015
    13:24
  97. 105.
    Dear Viv: How do I stay friends with my moody teenage daughter?10/20/2015
    11:29
  98. 106.
    Dear Viv: how do I cope with in-laws who look down on me?10/08/2015
    14:54
  99. 107.
    Dear Viv: Can a baby ever save a relationship?09/23/2015
    10:12
  100. 108.
    Dear Viv: Help! I'm turning into my mother!09/08/2015
    11:17
  101. 109.
    Dear Viv: In My Head Special08/25/2015
    8:57
  102. 110.
    Dear Viv: How do I escape the tyranny of the timeline? 08/18/2015
    11:20
  103. 111.
    Dear Viv: My sister says I'm fat-shaming her. Am I? 08/04/2015
    8:03
  104. 112.
    Dear Viv: My boyfriend dumped me over my sick mum07/21/2015
    9:25
  105. 113.
    Dear Viv: will you look after my kids for the summer holidays? 07/07/2015
    14:44
  106. 114.
    Dear Viv: How do I face down my ex and his new partner?06/30/2015
    14:11
  107. 115.
    Dear Viv: Are body jibes just a part of internet dating? 06/23/2015
    16:34
  108. 116.
    Dear Viv: My retired parents are getting a divorce06/16/2015
    14:37
  109. 117.
    Dear Viv: My sister's boyfriend is taking her over06/09/2015
    17:00
  110. 118.
    Dear Viv: Work/life balance, what the hell is that? 06/02/2015
    13:12
  111. 119.
    Dear Viv: How much has sex changed since the late 90s?05/31/2015
    12:05
  112. 120.
    Dear Viv: Is IVF worth it?05/15/2015
    13:06
  113. 121.
    Dear Viv: I've miscarried once and I'm terrified it will happen again05/12/2015
    11:03
  114. 122.
    Dear Viv: Do trial separations actually work? 05/05/2015
    12:13
  115. 123.
    Dear Viv: Should I let my parents find an arranged marriage for me?04/28/2015
    14:27
  116. 124.
    Dear Viv: Should I tell my new girlfriend that I’ve slept with guys before?04/21/2015
    13:01
  117. 125.
    Dear Viv: How do I support my friend without falling back into bad drinking habits?04/14/2015
    13:36
  118. 126.
    Dear Viv: How do I figure out what to do with my life?04/07/2015
    16:33
  119. 127.
    Dear Viv: I think my new boss has a thing for me.03/31/2015
    14:49
  120. 128.
    Dear Viv: Should I feel guilty for wanting a life outside of my children?03/31/2015
    13:50
  121. 129.
    Dear Viv: How do I get my mother to stop calling me fat? 03/16/2015
    18:35

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