Seeing Other People

Ilana Dunn

Seeing Other People and host Ilana Dunn are here to help you feel less alone in your dating struggles. On Tuesdays, Ilana interviews expert guests to answer your biggest questions about modern dating. On Thursday’s "Unfiltered" episodes, anonymous guests share what they have been through in dating, how they got through it, and what they wish they knew when going through their experience.

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Subscribe here to access this bonus episode and all previous and future bonus episodes. My parents sold my childhood home and we move out in three weeks. I'm feeling emotional and nostalgic, so I'm reflecting on growing up, adulting, moving on, friendships, past relationships and heartbreaks.  I also share an exciting relationship milestone that happened this week! 

Nov 26

22 min 14 sec

Krista St-Germain is a mom, grief expert and life coach for widowed moms and host of the Widowed Moms Podcast. She joins the show today to discuss sex, dating, and love after experiencing the traumatic loss of a partner or any individual in your life. We discuss the grieving process and why it isn’t linear, knowing when to start dating again, navigating the guilt around searching for a new partner, keeping their memory alive while moving on, rediscovering yourself, learning your triggers, and more. I'm so excited to be partnering with Batter That Matters! Shop the Fall Collection and treat someone in your life (or yourself) to a box of the best cookies out there. Head to www.ourbattermatters.com and use code "seeingotherpeople" for 10% off your purchase! Support and rep your favorite podcast by shopping the Seeing Other People x Nus merch collection! We're prioritizing feeling mentally and physically healthy so we can be our best selves in our dating lives and our daily lives. Mindset Wellness CBD's Health Gummies are filled with Vitamin D and ingredients that help you stay healthy and feel balanced. Grab yours today at and use code SeeingOtherPeople for 10% off and free shipping!

Nov 23

48 min 4 sec

Lindsay and Emily Stetzer are sisters living with obsessive-compulsive disorder and anxiety, which led them to create Presently, a mindfulness jewelry company that helps you redirect your thoughts and return to the beauty of the present moment, wherever you are. Lindsay and Emily walk us through the different types of OCD, how their diagnoses impacted them, and how their OCD does and doesn’t affect their daily lives. They open up about how their OCD has impacted their past relationships and their current dating lives, as well as the tools they have learned to not let their mental health hold them back. Follow @thinkpresently and treat yourself or a friend to an anxiety-soothing bracelet from Presently this holiday season at thinkpresently.com. Use code "seeingotherpeople" for 20% off your purchase.  Tis the season for Friendsgiving and Batter That Matters's Fall Collection of cookies is the perfect thing to bring. Head to www.ourbattermatters.com and use code "seeingotherpeople" for 10% off your purchase! Support and rep your favorite podcast by shopping the Seeing Other People x Nus merch collection! We're prioritizing feeling mentally and physically healthy so we can be our best selves in our dating lives and our daily lives. Mindset Wellness CBD's Health Gummies are filled with Vitamin D and ingredients that help you stay healthy and feel balanced. Grab yours today at and use code SeeingOtherPeople for 10% off and free shipping!

Nov 18

1 hr

Kate Anthony, certified divorce coach and host of The Divorce Survival Guide Podcast, joins the show. We discuss how to decide if you should stay or leave your relationship, what factors lead to a divorce being amicable vs messy, and how to actually go about getting a divorce. We chat about prenups, couples therapy, the US litigation system, children of divorce, co-parenting, dating after divorce and more. Nobody goes into a relationship or marriage planning on getting divorced, which is why this episode is a must-listen even if you’re single or in the beginning stages of a relationship. I'm so excited to be partnering with Batter That Matters! Shop the Fall Collection and treat someone in your life (or yourself) to a box of the best cookies out there. Head to www.ourbattermatters.com and use code "seeingotherpeople" for 10% off your purchase! Support and rep your favorite podcast by shopping the Seeing Other People x Nus merch collection! We're prioritizing feeling mentally and physically healthy so we can be our best selves in our dating lives and our daily lives. Mindset Wellness CBD's Health Gummies are filled with Vitamin D and ingredients that help you stay healthy and feel balanced. Grab yours today at and use code SeeingOtherPeople for 10% off and free shipping!

Nov 16

54 min 17 sec

Subscribe here to access this episode and all previous and future bonus episodes for $4.99 per month! Each subscription helps keep Seeing Other People going.  On this bonus episode, I'm joined by Camila Vola, my Associate Producer, to discuss her experience working for Seeing Other People over the last six months. We talk about how she got her job, the highlights and challenges she's faced in her role, what has surprised her about her job, her biggest work-related learnings, and what knowledge she's gained about dating and relationships. We share our favorite episodes and guests, embarrassing dating moments, and more!  PS Camila hosts her own podcast! Check out My Point of View!! 

Nov 12

40 min 12 sec

On Unfiltered, I sit down with a 26 year old social worker and therapist who practices in New York City. We hear about her dating experience in her late teens and early twenties that led to the heartbreak that shaped who she is today. She shares what it’s like to date as a therapist, what she learns from her patients, what it’s like to hear her patients be vulnerable all day long while she struggles being vulnerable and more. Im so excited to be partnering with Batter That Matters! Shop the Fall Collection and treat someone in your life (or yourself) to a box of the best cookies out there. Head to www.ourbattermatters.com and use code "seeingotherpeople" for 10% off your purchase! Support and rep your favorite podcast by shopping the Seeing Other People x Nus merch collection! We're prioritizing feeling mentally and physically healthy so we can be our best selves in our dating lives and our daily lives. Mindset Wellness CBD's Health Gummies are filled with Vitamin D and ingredients that help you stay healthy and feel balanced. Grab yours today at and use code SeeingOtherPeople for 10% off and free shipping!

Nov 11

52 min 15 sec

On today’s episode I’m joined by Jen Glantz, founder of Bridesmaid For Hire, 3x author, and host of You’re Not Getting Younger. Jen and I discuss how to cope with being the only one of your friends who isn’t engaged, going to weddings solo while feeling depressed about your own love life, and what you should expect if you have never been a bridesmaid before. We learn how we can best support our bride and groom friends, if/when we should offer our opinions on their wedding planning, common mistakes people make when it comes to wedding planning, and more. She shares her own love story and gives us an inside look at wedding horror stories, love stories, and everything in between that she has witnessed since she founded Bridesmaid For Hire. I'm so excited to be partnering with Batter That Matters! Shop the Fall Collection and treat someone in your life (or yourself) to a box of the best cookies out there. Head to www.ourbattermatters.com and use code "seeingotherpeople" for 10% off your purchase!  Support and rep your favorite podcast by shopping the Seeing Other People x Nus merch collection!  We're prioritizing feeling mentally and physically healthy so we can be our best selves in our dating lives and our daily lives. Mindset Wellness CBD's Health Gummies are filled with Vitamin D and ingredients that help you stay healthy and feel balanced. Grab yours today at and use code SeeingOtherPeople for 10% off and free shipping! 

Nov 9

48 min 56 sec

Subscribe here to access this bonus episode and all previous and future bonus episodes. My best friend Sara and I reflect on everything that's happened in our love lives since we met the first day of freshman year at Syracuse University. We spill some secrets, embarrass each other a lot, look back our highest highs and our lowest lows, discuss how our romantic relationships impacted our friendship over the years, and more.

Nov 5

37 min 59 sec

On today's episode of Unfiltered, I sit down with a woman who shares what she went through when she caught her boyfriend hooking up with a stripper. She tells us what it was like finding this out, how she reacted to it, and how it impacted her dating life for years to come. We discuss wanting to change people, not having our needs met in situationships, and lying to ourselves about what kind of relationships we’re really ready for. This month we're prioritizing feeling mentally and physically healthy so we can still be our best selves in our dating lives and our daily lives. Mindset Wellness CBD's Health Gummies are filled with Vitamin D and ingredients that help you stay feeling healthy and balanced. Grab yours today at www.mindsetwellness.com and use code SeeingOtherPeople for 10% off and free shipping!

Nov 4

49 min 10 sec

Laura Behnke joins the Seeing Other People family today to explain why you need to throw out your timeline. After 16 years of success as an award-winning television journalist, Laura still couldn’t help but feel like she was “behind” as she was in her 30s and had never been in a relationship. We discuss how to stop worrying about where you “should” be in your life, how to not feel like there’s something wrong with you for being single for a long period of time, what to say when someone asks why you’ve never been in a relationship, how friendships change as people’s lives go down different paths at different times, what to say to your friend who has never been in a relationship or feels left behind, and more. The holidays are right around the corner, the sun is setting earlier, and it's getting cold out, so we're prioritizing feeling mentally and physically healthy so we can still be our best selves in our dating lives and our daily lives. Mindset Wellness CBD's Health Gummies are filled with Vitamin D and ingredients that help you stay healthy and feel balanced. Grab yours today at www.mindsetwellness.com and use code SeeingOtherPeople for 10% off and free shipping! 

Nov 2

1 hr 4 min

Subscribe here to access this bonus episode and all previous and future bonus episodes. In honor of this week's Tuesday ep about overcoming anxiety, I'm breaking down all of the dating anxiety poll results and question box responses from the Seeing Other People IG Story. 

Oct 29

17 min 11 sec

On today’s episode of Unfiltered, I sit down with Romeo, who shares the story about his on again, off again relationship that began in college. We hear about the highs and lows of the relationship, the pressure he faced from his peers as a college athlete to have a get girls mentality, the breakups, the makeups, cheating, anxiety and more. Romeo explains how he overcame his heartbreak and worked through all of these things in order to end up in the healthy relationship that he is now in. Want help overcoming your anxiety and getting what you want out of this year's cuffing season? Mindset Wellness CBD's Focus Gummies are here to help you do both. Grab yours today and use code SeeingOtherPeople at checkout for 10% off and free shipping!

Oct 28

59 min 31 sec

On today's episode, I sit down with Kevin Nahai, a personal coach who focuses on helping people with anxiety, low self esteem, and finding a healthy relationship. We dive into the ins and outs of dating anxiety including: how to know if your anxiety is coming from you or from them, how to stop attracting unhealthy partners, how to not get anxious when someone doesn’t text back, why you should focus on whether or not you like them, why you should make sure your values align, when and how to share your anxieties with a new potential partner, and more. Want help overcoming your anxiety and getting what you want out of this year's cuffing season? Mindset Wellness CBD's Focus Gummies are here to help you do both. Grab yours today and use code SeeingOtherPeople at checkout for 10% off and free shipping! 

Oct 26

55 min 29 sec

Subscribe here to access this bonus episode and all previous and future bonus episodes.  An unfiltered anonymous guest is here to dish out more of her dating stories. We discuss our awkward run-ins, what it means if you're asking the group chat for texting advice, why you can't strategize in dating, if there's really such thing as "too nice" or if it means you just don't like them, and more. 

Oct 22

32 min 56 sec

On this episode of unfiltered I sit down with a woman from Canada who shares her story of booking a flight to New York City to meet somebody who she matched with on bumble a few months earlier. We hear what their conversations were like leading up to the trip, what happened when she finally got there, and how everything was not at all what she thought it was going to be like. Cuffing season is here and it's time to focus on finding who and what you're looking for. My favorite way to focus is with the help of Mindset Wellness CBD's Focus Gummies. Try them today and thank me later. (And use code SeeingOtherPeople at checkout for 10% off and free shipping!) 

Oct 21

59 min 17 sec

On this episode I’m joined by Jordan and Zac Stenmark, twins, international models and entrepreneurs. We discuss their dating and relationship experiences as twins, world travelers, and businessmen. We hear about Dreamers, the company they founded to help people sleep better and stay mentally healthy so we can be our best selves in work, dating, and daily life. They share their personal dating struggles and hilarious date fails, and we discuss how looks, success and fame don’t actually lead to an easier dating life.   We're focusing on making the most of cuffing season with the help of Mindset Wellness CBD"s Focus Gummies! Get yours today at mindsetwellness.com and use code SeeingOtherPeople at checkout for 10% off and free shipping!  

Oct 19

1 hr

Subscribe here to support the show and listen to this bonus episode and all previous & future episodes. In this episode Ilana and her boyfriend Jake break down their first 99 dates before heading to date #100. They discuss hits and misses, their all time favorite dates, why they started keeping track of their dates, and more. 

Oct 16

24 min 25 sec

On today’s episode of Unfiltered, I talk to Jillian about dating as a little person. She shares what it’s like to live and date in a world that’s not designed for you. We discuss dating apps, common misconceptions, what she wishes people knew, and more. Jillian hosts a podcast called Always Looking Up – check it out if you want to hear honest and real stories about being a little person in an average-sized world. We’re focusing on communicating about our feelings and finding love this cuffing season, and we’re turning to Mindset Wellness CBD’s focus gummies to keep us on track. Get yours today www.mindsetwellness.com and use code SeeingOtherPeople at checkout for a discount!

Oct 14

46 min 52 sec

David Sauvage is an empath, an expert on empathy, and a teacher of empathy and emotional intelligence. He joins us today to help us learn how to communicate more honestly, openly, and empathetically. We discuss healthy vs. unhealthy communication, how to learn healthy communication if you did not grow up witnessing it, how to encourage your partner to communicate in a healthier way, the process of shifting the way you communicate, how to be more open and honest in an empathetic way, why men are more reserved with their feelings, and more. Learn more about David and his work at empath.nyc. We’re focusing on communicating about our feelings and finding love this cuffing season, and we’re turning to Mindset Wellness CBD’s focus gummies to keep us on track. Get yours today www.mindsetwellness.com and use code SeeingOtherPeople at checkout for a discount!

Oct 12

57 min 20 sec

Subscribe here to support the show and listen to this bonus episode and all previous & future episodes.  In this bonus episode, I get super raw and real about my previous breakups and what happened when I tried to get back with my exes. In the second half, I discuss how to navigate getting back out there after a breakup and how to know if you're ready to date again. Plus, I share updates about my new apartment, sleeping on an air mattress for the last three years, and moving to the Upper East Side!  PS I reveal my upcoming major Seeing Other People announcement!!! 

Oct 8

32 min

Seeing Other People and host Ilana Dunn are here to help you feel less alone in your dating struggles.   Real people, real stories, real life.

Oct 7

2 min 28 sec

TW: Eating disorder thoughts and behaviors.  On today’s episode I sit down with Sam, a woman who is in recovery from her eating disorder. She shares how her eating disorder impacted her dating life prior to seeking treatment and how she’s been navigating it while in recovery. We’re focusing on finding love this cuffing season, and we’re turning to Mindset Wellness CBD’s focus gummies to keep us on track. Get yours today www.mindsetwellness.com and use code SeeingOtherPeople at checkout for a discount!

Oct 7

45 min 42 sec

Sami Wunder is a leading international relationship and dating expert who specializes in working with ambitious, high-achieving women, helping them attract lasting romantic love. Sami joins us to discuss breaking toxic relationship patterns, how to identify why you’re still single, why rotational dating might be the key to finding love, making time for dating, having both career and relationship success, and more. Exclusively for Seeing Other People listeners, Sami has offered: 1) Training on feminine energy practices for high-achieving women who want to have romantic success with men. 2) Plus - a pdf with our top 10 scripts to get men to meet your needs. Click here to sign up: https://www.samiwunder.com/ilana/ We’re focusing on finding love this cuffing season, and we’re turning to Mindset Wellness CBD’s focus gummies to keep us on track. Get yours today www.mindsetwellness.com and use code SeeingOtherPeople at checkout for a discount!

Oct 5

57 min 35 sec

SUBSCRIBE HERE: https://anchor.fm/seeingotherpeople/subscribe Ilana's boyfriend Jake joins us to answer listener questions about how long to wait in between dates at the beginning, if instant connections real, meeting the parents, moving to a new city and how to start dating, what to add or not to your dating profile and more. Subscribe for $4.99 to gain access to bonus episodes and support Seeing Other People & your favorite podcast host, Ilana.

Oct 1

26 min 51 sec

On today's Unfiltered episode, I sit down with a 28 year old guy from New York City named Sam. Sam walks us through his complicated relationship with Taylor that began right before covid started, resulting in an unexpected Long distance relationship. Sam shares the struggles that he and Taylor faced including lack of communication, internal mental health issues, external pressures, family members adding their opinions in, and breaking up and getting back together multiple times. Support the show and gain access to bonus episodes here. After trying so many different kinds of prescription medications for his anxiety and depression, Sam ended up finding that CBD was the best solution in calming his mind and keeping his head on straight. CBD might be exactly what you need too. Try @mindsetwellnesscbd’s Calm gummies...I promise you won’t regret it. www.mindsetwellness.com and use code “SeeingOtherPeople” at checkout for 10% off and free shipping.

Sep 30

1 hr 16 min

Gigi Robinson, Gen Z thought leader, chronic illness and mental health advocate, and the host of Spotify Greenroom's "Everything You Need Is Within" joins the show today. We discuss how social media makes us feel more single and isolated than we are, what it feels to not have gone on a date since 2019, dating during covid when you are immune compromised, how quarantine impacted friendships, navigating dating when you are chronically ill, and why you shouldn’t making snap judgments about potential dates based on their social media. Support the show and gain access to bonus episodes here.  Follow Gigi on TikTok and Instagram.  This episode talks about all of the things that have us anxious AF in dating, but we're staying CALM this month with the help of Mindset Wellness CBD's Calm gummies. They are a game changer in helping relieve the constant stress and anxiety that comes with modern dating. Get yours today and use code SeeingOtherPeople at checkout for 10% off and free shipping. 

Sep 28

1 hr 8 min

SUBSCRIBE HERE: https://anchor.fm/seeingotherpeople/episodes/Ilana-and-Jake-Talk-Dating-Anxiety--More-e17q6r7 Ilana's boyfriend Jake joins us to answer listener questions about age differences, pre-date anxiety, how to know when you're sharing too much too soon, why your dating app filters are wrong (and how to fix them) and more.  Subscribe for $4.99 to gain access to bonus episodes and support Seeing Other People & your favorite podcast host, Ilana.

Sep 24

35 min 15 sec

Caitlin Kelley, host of What The Fuck’s Up podcast, joins us for a deep dive into all things cheating. We analyze your responses to a series of cheating-focused IG story question boxes and polls, and discuss why people cheat, if they get caught if they come clean, the long term impacts of cheating and being cheated on, and how cheaters feel in the moment.  Caitlin shares her own story of being cheated on, why she initially chose to give him the benefit of the doubt, and what finally pushed her over the edge and caused her to end it for good. Finally, we debate the age old question, “Once a cheater, always a cheater?” We’re staying calm this month so we can be our best selves. Whether you’re dealing with dating burnout, debating getting back out there after a break over the summer, or fresh out of a toxic situationship, there’s nothing that Mindset Wellness CBD’s Calm Gummies can’t help you get through. What are you waiting for? Try them today at www.mindsetwellness.com

Sep 21

1 hr 19 min

On this episode I sit down with the woman who shares a story about being diagnosed with vaginismus. Vaginismus is a condition in which the vaginal muscles contract involuntarily during any form of vaginal penetration. Depending on the woman, the effects of vaginismus can vary from mild discomfort to severe pain. She shares what it was like to receive her diagnosis and how it’s impacted her dating life and daily life ever since. We’re staying calm this month so we can be our best selves. Whether you’re dealing with dating burnout, debating getting back out there after a break over the summer, or fresh out of a toxic situationship, there’s nothing that Mindset Wellness CBD’s Calm Gummies can’t help you get through. What are you waiting for? Try them today at www.mindsetwellness.com

Sep 16

55 min 18 sec

Artist and songwriter GAYLE joins the show today to talk about what it’s like transforming her dating experiences into music and lyrics. We talk about the breakup that led to her new single "abcdefu," what it’s like putting her raw emotions out there for the world to hear, turning heartbreak into music, dating within the industry, writing revenge songs, the fear of never being good enough, and more. Check out the song "abcdefu" here and follow GAYLE on Instagram. We're keeping calm this September by listening to music, taking walks while we listen to Seeing Other People, and taking Mindset Wellness CBD's Calm Gummies. Try them today at www.mindsetwellness.com and use code "seeingotherpeople" at checkout for 10% off and free shipping!  Support the show! 

Sep 14

52 min 36 sec

TW: the following content may be sensitive for those who have experienced any form of sexual assault. On today’s episode, I’m joined by a woman who had a nonconsensual sexual experience when she was a college student. We hear about the events leading up to this, what actually happened in the moment, and how it’s impacted her long term. We discuss guilt, trust, consent, communication, safe dating and more. We’re focusing on staying calm this month so we can be our best selves in our daily lives and our dating lives. Whether you’re dealing with dating burnout, debating getting back out there after a break over the summer, or fresh out of a toxic situationship, there’s nothing that Mindset Wellness CBD’s Calm Gummies can’t help you get through. What are you waiting for? Try them today at www.mindsetwellness.com

Sep 9

50 min 38 sec

Tinah (with an H) Ogalo, host of the In Your Twentys podcast, joins us today for a deep dive into the most controversial and shocking poll results from the @seeingotherpeople Instagram Story that you’ve all been voting on. Get ready to hear about politics, cheating, family involvement, social media stalking, commitment issues, exclusivity and more. We’re focusing on staying calm this month so we can be our best selves in our daily lives and our dating lives. Whether you’re dealing with dating burnout, debating getting back out there after a break over the summer, or fresh out of a toxic situationship, there’s nothing that Mindset Wellness CBD’s Calm Gummies can’t help you get through. What are you waiting for? Try them today at www.mindsetwellness.com Support the show https://anchor.fm/seeingotherpeople/support

Sep 7

55 min 8 sec

TW: the following content may be sensitive for those with an eating disorder. On today’s episode, we hear from a 25 year old male who has struggled with body image issues and an eating disorder. He shares what it’s been like to date and use dating apps when you aren’t comfortable in your own skin. Presented by Mindset Wellness CBD. Not sure which mindset you want to choose? Now you don’t have to. Now with their new Total Mindset Gummy Assortment, you can get all your favorite mindsets in one. Head to www.mindsetwellness.com and use code SeeingOtherPeople off at checkout for 10% off and free shipping! Support the show https://anchor.fm/seeingotherpeople/support

Sep 2

42 min 58 sec

Today we’re joined by Dr. Abby Medcalf, psychologist, best-selling author of "Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won't Do a Thing Kindle" and host of the "Relationships Made Easy" podcast. We’re sitting down to discuss everything that you need to know about moving on, leaving the past in the past and not letting previous dating and relationship experiences impact present and future ones. Abby walks us through getting closure with yourself, learning how to live in the moment and not in the past, having high standards and low expectations, learning to trust yourself, setting boundaries, and more. Stressing about the past? Try Mindset Wellness's Calm CBD Gummies. Grab yours at www.mindsetwellness.com and use code "Seeingotherpeople" for 10% off and free shipping! Support the show,  hear bonus episodes, and sign up for your dating app profile revamp here. (https://www.patreon.com/seeingotherpeople)

Aug 31

1 hr 3 min

On today’s episode, Ilana sits down with Daniela, a 27 year old female living in Toronto, Canada. Daniela shares the story of the breakup she went through due to her partner's parents not supporting their relationship because of factors including her ethnicity, immigration status, age, career, and appearance. We discuss how this impacted her relationship, her self worth, and her values when it comes to dating and searching for a life partner. Presented by Mindset Wellness CBD. Not sure which mindset you want to choose? Now you don’t have to. Now with their new Total Mindset Gummy Assortment, you can get all your favorite mindsets in one. Head to www.mindsetwellness.com and use code SeeingOtherPeople off at checkout for 10% off and free shipping! Support the show https://anchor.fm/seeingotherpeople/support

Aug 26

1 hr

LDR (Long Distance Relationship) survivors Jamie and Max walk us through the highs and lows of the four year long distance span of their relationship. We discuss their decision to pursue a long distance relationship during college, how they involved each other in their lives from afar, what visiting each other was like, how important it was to trust one another and practice straightforward communication, the shift that occurred when Max graduated and was starting his career in NYC during Jamie’s senior year of college, what aspects of their LDR made their now in person relationship stronger, how their LDR helped shape them into the independent and self sufficient people that they are today, and more.  Is your LDR stressing you out?  Mindset Wellness's Calm CBD Gummies are here to help.  Grab yours at www.mindsetwellness.com and use code "Seeingotherpeople" for 10% off and free shipping! Hear bonus episodes, and sign up for your dating app profile revamp here. (https://www.patreon.com/seeingotherpeople) Support the show https://anchor.fm/seeingotherpeople/support

Aug 24

48 min 59 sec

Ilana sits down with a 28 heterosexual woman who currently lives in New York. She opens up about her first dating app experiences in 2019, which included somebody who ghosted her out of nowhere followed by a situation that had a tremendous negative impact on her mental and physical health.  We discuss how she overcame these traumatizing experiences in order to get back out there and end up in a healthy relationship. Presented by Mindset Wellness CBD. Not sure which mindset you want to choose? Now you don’t have to. Now with their new Total Mindset Gummy Assortment, you can get all your favorite mindsets in one. Head to www.mindsetwellness.com and use code SeeingOtherPeople off at checkout for 10% off and free shipping!Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/seeingotherpeople)

Aug 19

55 min 38 sec

Damona Hoffman is the Host of the podcast Dates & Mates, the official Dating Coach for OkCupid, a Love Expert on The Drew Barrymore Show, an Advice Columnist and more. Damona joins us to discuss the way dating has changed overtime, how we give dating apps too much power, why having a phone call before a date can be a game changer, what exclusivity really means and how to know if you’re exclusive with someone, and what happens if you actually express what you want. Presented by Mindset Wellness CBD! Head to www.mindsetwellness.com and check out the Calm and Happy gummies to help with your dating anxiety. Code "Seeingotherpeople" at checkout gets you 10% off and free shipping.Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/seeingotherpeople)

Aug 17

56 min 53 sec

Ilana sits down with a 32 year old who called off her marriage just two months before the wedding. We hear what led to this decision, how she went about ending the engagement, what she’s learned from this experience, and what advice she has for anyone who is going through something similar or questioning whether or not their relationship is built to last.Presented by Mindset Wellness CBD. Not sure which mindset you want to choose? Now you don’t have to. Now with their new Total Mindset Gummy Assortment, you can get all your favorite mindsets in one. Head to www.mindsetwellness.com and use code SeeingOtherPeople off at checkout for 10% off and free shipping!Support the show (https://www.patreon.com/seeingotherpeople)

Aug 12

59 min 51 sec

Serena Kerrigan, the Queen of Confidence and the creator of the show and card game Let’s F*cking Date and the new card game Let’s F*cking F*ck, joins us today to give us the scoop on how we can be more confident in our dating lives. We chat about how to portray yourself on dating apps, why texting isn’t real and you should get to the date before stalking and talking too much, whether or not they always come back, how it’s tough to see an ex move on, prioritizing work and relationships at the same time, getting back out there after heartbreak, and why you need to talk to yourself the way you would talk to your best friend. My favorite way to be more confident before going on a date is by taking Mindset Wellness CBD's calm gummies. Get yours today at www.mindsetwellness.com and use code "SeeingOtherPeople" at checkout for 10% off and free shipping!

Aug 10

55 min 1 sec

A 27-year-old woman takes over the Unfiltered mic to share her experience exploring her sexuality and coming out as bisexual.She explains what led to this exploration,  what her first dating experience with a woman was like, and how she came out to the people in her life.Anonymous opens up about the ups and downs of dating each gender, why dating apps don’t make bisexual dating easy, common misconceptions of bisexuality, and advice she has for anyone else who is considering exploring their sexuality. Presented by Mindset Wellness CBD. Use code "SeeingOtherPeople" to get 10% off and free shipping at MindsetWellness.com. PS…try the calm gummies to cure your dating anxiety :)

Aug 5

54 min 35 sec

Backed by popular demand, Ilana’s boyfriend Jake is joining the show for a tell all about their relationship.  Ilana and Jake open up about how everything unfolded, starting with their Hinge meet-cute where Ilana didn’t respond, and followed by a “just fine” first date where the sparks were MIA.They share how things progressed, why Ilana wasn’t anxious for the first time, and when and how they became official. We also hear their first fight go down as they debate some of these details. Ilana and Jake answer listener questions about pre-date nerves, timing, communication, what it’s like dating a "dating expert," how long it took to feel comfortable with each other, what Jake likes and doesn’t like about Ilana and more. Jake closes out the episode by begging you to please support his girlfriend by following @seeingotherpeople on IG, signing up for the Patreon, leaving 5 star reviews, and sending the podcast to your friends. Ilana and Jake LOVE Seeing Other People’s sponsor Mindset Wellness CBD. They religiously take the Rest gummies because Jake steals the blankets and without the Rest dummies they wouldn’t be able to sleep. Get yours today at mindsetwellnesscbd.com and use code SeeingOtherPeople for 10% off and free shipping! 

Aug 3

1 hr

On this episode of Unfiltered I sit down with Austin (30M) who lives in Australia. When Austin was 15, he met someone who he ended up dating and marrying when he was 21. By the time he was 25, they got divorced, leaving him to enter the dating world for the first time as a single divorcee. He shares why his childhood experiences made him value love and relationships, and how his journey to really finding his person has been very difficult. We discuss what it was like for him to tell people that he was divorced, and we hear about the similarities and differences between dating in the US and dating in Australia.Presented by Mindset Wellness CBD. Use code "SeeingOtherPeople" to get 10% off and free shipping at www.mindsetwellnesscbd.com. PS…try the calm gummies to cure your dating anxiety :)

Jul 29

50 min 28 sec

Love, Communication and Intimacy Coach Shaun Galanos aka @thelovedrive joins us on Seeing Other People to share his expertise on how to be a better communicator, and all things DTR (defining the relationship). We discuss how to practice vulnerability and learn how to openly communicate, why you should explore the edges of your comfort zone, what to disclose and what not to disclose prior to meeting someone, how to navigate you or your date having a fear of commitment, what to do when someone says they’re not looking for something serious, when and how to have the DTR convo, what to do if they’re not on the same page, and more.  We close out the episode by answering listener questions.Presented by Mindset Wellness CBD. Use code "SeeingOtherPeople" to get 10% off and free shipping at www.mindsetwellnesscbd.com. PS…try the calm gummies to cure your dating anxiety :)

Jul 27

1 hr 7 min

On this Unfiltered episode we’re joined by a 26 year old female who was diagnosed with herpes. She shares what it was like receiving her diagnosis, communicating it to the person who transmitted it to her and what it’s been like to date with herpes. We hear how her diagnosis impacted her mental health and self worth and she walks us through the steps she took to get herself back to a good place. We learn about the common misconceptions about herpes, the resources that are available for those who find out they have herpes and how we can better communicate about sexually transmitted infections in order to reduce the stigma. Presented by Mindset Wellness CBD. Use code "SeeingOtherPeople" to get 10% off and free shipping at www.mindsetwellnesscbd.com. PS…try the calm gummies to cure your dating anxiety :)

Jul 22

56 min 45 sec

Ilana’s older brother Andrew (31) is joining us on the podcast today to reassure us that once a fckboy, not always a fckboy. After years of immersing himself in a fuckboy bro-y culture (including being his fraternity’s social chair, promoting parties, and working for a nightlife startup), he turned a corner and began to learn that human connection and vulnerability was more valuable and fulfilling than partying and sex. Andrew walks us through what sparked his transformation, including taking a break from alcohol and dating while spending time in India, his move to the San Francisco Bay Area which allowed him to explore the spectrums of sex, gender, identity, etc., studying attachment styles, spirituality, and researching how childhood and ancestral trauma prevent us from showing up fully in life, and are often present major challenges in relationships of all types.Check out a piece by Andrew on his womanizing past: https://link.medium.com/65gcweVc2hbPresented by Mindset Wellness CBD. Use code "SeeingOtherPeople" to get 10% off and free shipping at www.mindsetwellnesscbd.com. Andrew loves their Rest gummies! 

Jul 20

1 hr 13 min

On this Unfiltered episode, we’re joined by a 26 year old straight male in the New York City area to hear about his recent relationship that led him to experience anxiety the first time in his life. He shares what caused the anxiety – including the red flags that he ignored, what it felt like, and how he seeks out help by communicating to friends and family and starting therapy. Presented by Mindset Wellness CBD. Use code "SeeingOtherPeople" to get 10% off and free shipping at www.mindsetwellnesscbd.com. PS…try the calm gummies to cure your dating anxiety :) 

Jul 15

46 min 25 sec

Kim Murstein and Grandma Gail from the Excuse My Grandma podcast join the show this week to discuss the generational differences of what dating is like now vs when Grandma Gail was searching for love. We talk about how dating has changed over time, when and how “dating” began, social media’s role in dating, the ability to stalk a potential date or an ex, having too many options, the most surprising things about dating in the 50s and dating now, and more. Follow along at @excusemygrandma, @seeingotherpeople and @ilana.dunn.Presented by Mindset Wellness CBD. Use code "SeeingOtherPeople" to get 10% off and free shipping at www.mindsetwellnesscbd.com. PS…try the calm gummies to cure your dating anxiety :) 

Jul 13

1 hr 2 min

On this episode of Unfiltered, I’m joined by Caroline, a 27 year old living in New York City who is navigating dating after losing her older brother. She shares what it’s like to communicate her loss to a date, what people’s reactions have been, and how each individual has their own personal preference on the grieving process and on how and when to have these conversations with a potential partner. Caroline and I discuss how people can have more thoughtful and empathetic conversations surrounding loss and grief in order to destigmatize and reduce the overall awkwardness.Follow along on Instagram @seeingotherpeople and @ilana.dunn. Presented by Mindset Wellness CBD.  Head to to www.mindsetwellnesscbd.com and use code "SeeingOtherPeople" at checkout for 10% off and free shipping on all of my favorite CBD products. 

Jul 8

53 min 32 sec

Ilana sits down with Julie and Danielle, the founders of Fourplay Social, a double dating app where friends team up and match with other pairs. We hear about why the duo decided to create a new dating app, the benefits of double dating are, how you can be a good wing-person for your single friends, and how to make dating fun when you feel burnt out. We also discuss why first dates shouldn’t be longer than an hour, how important the little things in dating are.Follow @fourplaysocial, visit Fourplay Social’s website at https://www.fourplaysocial.com/Presented by Mindset Wellness CBD.  Head to to www.mindsetwellnesscbd.com and use code "SeeingOtherPeople" at checkout for 10% off and free shipping on all of my favorite CBD products.

Jul 6

1 hr 3 min