Parent Academy Podcast

Javier Orti

Our mission: "Supporting a new generation of parents and children to achieve their true goals and happiness."

I want to equip parents to support their children through the ABC of parenting: A: Anxieties. Exam anxiety, nightmares, social worries, teenage fears. Why do they happen? How do I help them manage them? B: Behaviour. What do I do when my child is shouting and slamming doors. Or when my kid decides to not do what I say. In fact, it seems they enjoy doing the opposite. C: Confidence: how can we help the young people to grow more confident, more resilient and happier with themselves?

All Episodes

A big part of my work is helping children express their ideas. By putting words into those feelings they can see them better and make choices. Sometimes, it is the children the ones that put the words and structure into my ideas. In this case, it was a six years old girl who told me exactly what she is feeling when she is shouting at her dad. This is not a technique or strategy, but I find that sharing this idea with children (and parents) put a great perspective into the situation and help young people and adults see the anger with different eyes. I hope it also helps you and your children.

Oct 2020

10 min 22 sec

Most of us find ourselves sharing examples or people that inspire us. Sports personalities, engineers, brave pilots, etc. However, we tend to forget those personalities that are closer to our children and that have the strongest possibility to influence them. In this episode I share with you the Did-you-know scale. An idea that, to me, makes so much sense and allows me to help my daughters and young clients learn about resilience.

Oct 2020

13 min 15 sec

More and more we see young people being obsessed with their weight and body image. They want the perfect shape and the six-pack. Obviously social media is a hugely important part of this but it is not the beginning and end of everything. What can do we? how do we talk with them about weight, body image and, most importantly, self-esteem.

Oct 2020

11 min 47 sec

This was a difficult episode to record for me. It is my personal experience of what happened during the summer, when I went through a very difficult situation. It wasn't life or death, but emotionally it was very painful. I wish it hadn't happened, but as it happened I learnt to make something about it. Use the experience to learn (for myself) about resilience, but also to help my daughters learn about it as well. Resilience is not about the mistakes we make, it's about what choices we make afterwards. I hope you get something useful of this experience. I certainly did.

Oct 2020

14 min 42 sec

Sometimes, we have tried everything and the negative behaviour keeps occurring. We try to keep calm and eventually, arguments happen. To make things worse, it seems the children keep pushing us further and further. What do we do? how do we disrupt this pattern? In this episode I share with you an idea that I call "the nuclear option". I don't advice anybody to create it, but if things have gone wrong, here is something you can do instead of kiss, make up and wait for the next argument to happen. This idea is about disrupting that pattern. It's not easy and it's not specially nice to do (or at least, I find it difficult and uncomfortable) but it works.

Oct 2020

14 min 38 sec

What do you do when your child is throwing the biggest tantrum on earth? What can you do in the heat of the moment, when they are just not attending to reason? This is the one million dollar question. The answer is obvious but very few people seem to want to accept it: not much. There is not a lot you can do in that moment and most likely, whatever you do it will make things worse. So, how do we go about it? In this video I want to share with you the very simple, yet effective strategy of Before - During - After to deal with those situations.

Aug 2020

14 min 32 sec

What do you do when you children just refuse to do what you ask them? or any small thing is cause for a full blown fight? when you have two minutes to do something and they decide to go on the opposite direction? As parents, we tend to think they are pushing us, but they are not. We also say, they are just seeking attention, and that is true. The important part is to understand, why are they seeking attention? and specially, that kind of attention. In this video I explain how and why children go from good attention to bad attention and what you can do about it.

Jul 2020

14 min 22 sec

Seeing our kids suffer is one of the most painful experiences for a parent. When it is a physical thing, we take them to the doctors, when it is fear about something we can't understand, we find ourselves out of our depth. In this video, I want to share with you a simple, fun and effective technique to help our young kids let go of those fears.

Jul 2020

16 min 48 sec

How do I get my child to focus on his studies? she/He doesn't seem to put his effort towards anything! This is one of the most frustrating things for parents. Young people giving up or pretending they don't care... but they do, they just don't know how to go about it. In this video I want to share with you the five ingredients of the magic formula for study motivation.

Jul 2020

16 min 48 sec

“That’s too far in the future” “it’s too early for them to understand” “they don’t need to know about this yet”. All these excuses and a lot more mean that we are postponing critical conversations with our children. In most of the cases, the real reason is that we feel ill-prepared to have a conversation we don’t know how to direct. The grim reality is that children a exposed to drugs (40% of kids have been offered drugs) and while schools are doing a good job educating them, parents also can help. In this episode I share a personal experience with my own daughter, when the topic came around (she was 6 at the time) and how I managed the situation. I provide full detail of the four strategies i used, so you can adapt them or use the for other conversations. #Life coaching for children #Life coaching for kids #Online parenting classes #talking parents #positive parenting #raising children #parenting advice #parenting tips #parenting skills

Jul 2020

13 min 58 sec

Children need external validation from parents and other relevant adults (i.e. teachers). This feedback help form their views of the themselves. However, many times they seem to be determined to ignore anything good we say, while remembering everything negative. It is hugely frustrating for parents as their kind words seem to fall into deaf ears. In this episode I share with you the 10 seconds feedback on how to use praise effectively and efficiently.  #Life coaching for children #Life coaching for kids #Online parenting classes #children confidence #words of encouragement to children #praise #parents talking

Jul 2020

12 min 30 sec

We all want our children to be confident and happy. To take a lead role in the school play, be popular and put their hand up in class with confidence. There are loads of important moments when they have to display their confidence and express their voice, but how do we help them do so. Well, there are millions of everyday situations in which you can help them. In this episode I share the TAG technique which is a simple way to help them speak up. It is simple and can have great results in the family or classroom.

Jun 2020

14 min 18 sec

Unfortunately, it is possible that your child will be exposed to inappropriate content. Some young kids will quickly turn away but others might be curious about what's happening. At the same time, parents are rarely prepared to have this conversation as it feels very difficult. In this episode I will take you exactly through the conversation I had with a mum of a young boy in this situation. How we created a plan of action for her to follow and what it involves. It helped her massively and I hope it can help you if you face a similar situation.

Jun 2020

24 min 20 sec

Have you noticed your children giving up easily? stopping activities he or she used to like? moaning about how seemingly simple exercises become a battle field for them to attempt? Children tend to enjoy being in their comfort zone of safety, specially if they feel they will be judged by their relevant adults (teacher or parents mainly) or peer group. They quickly develop a fear of failing which makes not trying a real solution. If I don't try, I don't fail. While, at the same time, I will get enough positive praise by doing things I know I can achieve. In this episode I want to share with you the wider part of the situation, what we do, what our children do and feel. I also want to share with you how I help my young clients step out of their comfort zone and little by little attempt new things gaining confidence in the process.

Jun 2020

16 min 44 sec

Spontaneous outburst of behaviour are, unfortunately, very common. In those difficult situations, parent tend to feel ill-prepared to deal with their children and normally there is a big conflict at the end of it. Then we just keep quiet and wait for the next outburst. As they repeat itself, the severity of those moments increase, becoming easily shouting competitions. However, there is a better way and it starts with having a heart to heart conversation with your child. In this episode, I explain the situation from both points of view (parents and son/daughter) as well as provide an alternative approach for you to consider. If you are looking for a magic wand to change everything with one amazing spell, sorry to disappoint you. If you are looking for understanding and a process to help you help your kid learn about their emotions and how to manage them for the long run, you'll enjoy it.

Jun 2020

15 min 11 sec

Supporting our children confidence can be done in many simple ways every day. How we help the face a difficult task or how much we exposed them to things outside of their comfort zone can all help or break the process. In this episode I share with you a simple observation that can help you assess your child's preferred approach to building confidence, as well as how I use it in my session with young people.

May 2020

10 min 50 sec

Certain events like exams, sports competition, or even smaller situations like making new social connections, can seem impossible to overcome by young people. When this happens it is tremendously frustrating for parents and frightening for children. In this episode I share with you the possible emotions going through your child's mind, but also a simple yet powerful technique to help them. I have used Journey in hundreds of occasions for myself, my daughters and loads of my young clients. It works!

May 2020

14 min 35 sec

Life Coaching for children is as more about trust than techniques and strategies. I believe trust is the most important thing we can have between each other. Having the trust of parents and children I support is paramount for me to being able to help them. In this short episode I want to share with you who I am and a quick view on what do I do. I hope you enjoy it and get to know me a bit better.

May 2020

7 min 8 sec

In this episode we provide a few ideas for you to assess if your children might be experiencing (or can experience) separation anxiety. We also provide four simple strategies for you to help them deal with it. While we are referring to this topic during the Coronavirus crisis, the signs and the strategies can be used in any situation in which separation anxiety might happen: returning to school, school trips, move to secondary school, etc.

May 2020

45 min 6 sec

As our children grow, they need different things from us. So far, so clear. The trick is how to know what they need from us and what role we need to take when delivering what they need. Sometimes they might need us to tell them, other times, they might need a listening ear, another, they might benefit from a more mentoring approach. In this episode I share with you a simple, yet powerful insight into how our role as parents change a lot more than we thought.

Apr 2020

1 hr 2 min

This episode is the recording from the webminar Amy Moser and I run on the third week of isolation in London. Our aim is to share five critical strategies for parents to adapt how they go about doing things. 1) Where is your energy? in the past? or in the future? or now? 2) How to set successful routines 3) Conflict resolution for siblings 4) Don'ts and Do's when children are sad or emotional 5) Focussing your attention: what can you manage, what can you influence.

Apr 2020

56 min 48 sec

After two weeks with a complete new family routine, what is happening? how is it working? what's making it work? In this episode I share with you the insight from my conversation with young people: How are young people feeling? what they are telling me? What is helping them? What great ideas I have seen in place? Going forward, what could happen once this is over, what learnings can we take with us. While the experiences will differ from one house to another, I hope these ideas give you energy and food for thought so you can make the most of your time with your family.

Mar 2020

38 min 18 sec

March 2020, a large proportion of countries have imposed lockdown during the coronavirus crisis. Families are preparing themselves for several weeks of isolation. The routines we worked hard to establish are gone.  It is understandable for parents to be worried about the next few weeks. But there is an alternative, there are choices. In this episode, I share three strategies to make the most of these weeks. My aim is that, in the future, when you look back to these days, you can tell yourself "I made the most of a difficult situaiton and my children learnt from it." I have also published an extended article on the same topic. You can read it here: https://helpingkids.co.uk/helping-kids-understand-the-coronavirus/

Mar 2020

45 min 26 sec