Guy Finley: Transforming Attachment + Expectation In Relationships
By David Newell
At last an episode about a much sought after topic - relationships :) To tackle this behemoth I invited on one of the foremost spiritual authors in the world - Guy Finley - to speak about his new book Relationship Magic. At the centre of his book is the idea that relationships are mirrors for our own lives, that all conflict exists to teach us, and that things break down when we don't take radical ownership of our own projections. He argues the #1 reason why relationships fail is that they are built upon a form of love that you are intended to outgrow. Said differently, the initial love that brings two people together isn't intended to be the love that holds it together. Sure, it's quite possible that the initial attraction and desire will remain, even as the relationship progresses. But it makes very little difference because it's an altogether higher form of love that is intended to become the foundation of that relationship. Now think for just a moment what this means. It means you don't have to struggle to restore your relationship to the way it felt before things got tough. There's another way. In this episode we cover: The nature of attachment Early love vs late love Dying and being reborn in love at the same time Handling projection with care and compassion Self forgiveness What it takes to be married for 40 years The secret to successful love Enjoy!